#aro spec culture

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is feeling dread when a favorite character in a book or show starts to have a romance arc

[straighttohellbuddy]

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about how the idea of aromanticism isn't nearly as widespread as it is on Tumblr/various other corners of the internet

thinking about how most people would probably assume the use of Aromantic as a descriptor would imply a lack of any kind of love or romance or close interpersonal relationships in their music which is INHERENTLY NOT TRUE

thinking about Lovejoy choosing Aromantic specifically, confident enough in understanding the actual concept/culture of aromanticism to describe their entire band

thinking about the potential for there to be someone(s) in Lovejoy who is either on the Aromantic spectrum or has considered it as a possibility and has researched it to understand it (and maybe themselves) better

thinking about hard about Lovejoys songs and realising that despite a few having vaguely romantic or implied romantic connotations, you could absolutely do an aro-spec reading of their whole discography

thinking about Lovejoy becoming part of Aro Culture in my heart

thinking about being aro-spec myself, and how id consider the term 'lovejoy' to still very much be my vibe despite that.

thinking about self described Aromantic British Noises, Lovejoy.

thinking about Lovejoy.

💚💚🤍🩶🖤

[lemonycranberries]

HEY IT'S THE 14TH. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. IT MEANS IT'S TIME TO GET ARO-ER. TIME FOR ALL ARO TAGS TO GO TRENDING.

AGAIN.

[tikycuki]

the way I explain that aros/aces aren't straight.

You can only be straight/hetero if you experience attraction (sexual/romantic) to the opposite gender. If you experience attraction to anyone else that does not fit that description, you are lgbt. this means aros/aces and all on those spectrums are not straight. because they don't feel attraction to the opposite gender.

of course, this doesn't mean you can't be hetero/ace or aro/hetero. you can still be one aspec identity and be hetero, it doesn't make you any less lgbtq!

(sorry if I explained weirdly)

[franknfurterstriangulardinosaur]

I love being aromantic. It’s so nice to not live with the expectations of a romantic relationship. It’s nice to be my own person and be able to experience them freely. It’s nice for no one to have to be superior to anyone in my mind- to not have a hierarchy. It’s nice to have friendship. It’s nice to go out with your friends and do all those things that are supposed to be romantic but as a platonic intent. I love being aromantic. I love being the colour green. I love the flag. I love tearing down amatonormativity and social values. I love the culture. I love the tiny aromantic hints I’ve had my entire life. I love aromantic music. I love taking the romance out of love songs. I love not just viewing life as a time to fulfill romance. I love having all these hidden aromantic symbols. I love queer platonic relationships. I love other aromantic people. I love talking about being aromantic. I love being aromantic- I love being myself.

[bizarreaizen]

"love is in the air!"

i think you're mistaking it for air pollution >.< /nsrs

[loveless-arobee]

I… have some thoughts and you have to bear with me on that one because I’m not sure how to word this.

I am currently plotting a novella mostly about sexual intimacy. And it made me think of how sexuality/sexual intimacy/even sexual love is viewed in most of society, but also specifically aspec spaces, and I wanted to talk about that.

Because you have romantic intimacy or love that is viewed as the most pure and wholesome, and sex is only an add-on to it; sex cannot exist as a good and moral thing without being paired with romance in the eyes of society.

In aspec spaces there’s a huge focus on platonic intimacy (or love), or queerplatonic/alterous/… intimacy; and some people begrudgingly agree that you could have sex in those relationships, but there’s almost always the assumption that having sex with your friends will wreck the friendship in one way or another. If no one falls in love, to redeem the sex you had with romance, you will stop being friends soon enough because that just can’t work. Or, in slightly more progressive views, that sex can too be redeemed by platonic/queerplatonic/… love same as it can be with romantic love. That’s not any better though. That just purity culture and sex negativity in a fancy new mask.

Sexual love and purely sexual intimacy cannot exist as a good thing. You are using people for their bodies, are an disgusting pervert and an abuser for having/wanting a purely sexual relationship.

Or a sexual relationship can exist, but it can never be as deep as real friendship and least of all a romantic relationship. A sexual relationship must mean you only care for sex and not the person you’re having sex with. Sexual relationships are inherently shallow and if you do care for the person you’re having a sexual relationship with, that care must come from platonic or romantic or any other type of affection. And if you say it doesn’t, you’re either lying about the nature of your affection or your emotions towards your sexual partner.

And idk. It’s… weird. Why can’t a purely sexual relationship be as deep, or even deeper, on an emotional level, than friendship or romance? Why are even people who say they’re against relationship hierarchies so against agreeing that this includes purely sexual intimacy? (I know it’s purity culture. But c'mon; we as aspecs should be better than this… right?)

Sex is always seen as a negative thing unless it’s paired with love—and even then it’s something neutral at best. And if the sex is the love for a person, that is either a lie or that person is a disgusting abuser. Because you can’t possibly love (or show intimacy/affection/care…) through sex and nothing else.

Sexual relationships can be just as emotional and invested as friendships and romance can be. They don’t have to, of course—this isn’t another try to redeem sex. Honestly, completely shallow sexual relationships between people who just meet up every once in a while to fuck and do literally nothing else with each other are also completely alright.

But people so often deny that there could be any emotional depth to purely sexual attraction that doesn’t actually come from another emotion—and that’s just wrong.

All this to say, let people define their own emotions and connections. Sexual intimacy is good, actually, and it doesn’t have to be "redeemed" by any other kind of intimacy beside itself.

I hope I’m making enough sense to understand.

[merely-a-caricature]

Someone: “Ooooh! Who are you texting?”

Me: “My best friend?”

[sweetdreamuwu]

Friend: How long should be talking stage be before getting together with someone?

Me, a demiromantic: Idk sis, but the longer, the better

[writersarea]

i'm the definition of the old meme "while you were busy falling in love, i was studying the blade" because i have a sword class on valentines day

[acelor-acetaylorswift]

You know what those pesky aromantics say...

Ice cream is better than love.

(+white ring on middle finger but wrong hand.)

[aro-culture-is]

Aro spec culture is not being sure if you're romance repulsed or just tired of amatonormativity and how romance is expected to be the ultimate goal

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[aro-lesbian-culture-is]

Aro ace umbrella lesbian culture is constantly confusing the people around you about your identity

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[borderline-culture-is]

BPD traits + aromantic/aro-spec culture is Love For Love By Love Of Love

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[plague-and-creatures]

What are my types, you ask?

Fictional and cake

[bizarreaizen]

aesthetic attraction is so weird sometimes like no i don't want to date you or even talk to you i just want to admire your beauty from far away and hope you don't take it as me hitting on you TwT /gen