#anti intersexism

[nonbinarynow]

We need non-binary activism NOW! for everyone outside of the sex and gender binaries. We need research, organising, radical action, on the ground protests. We have no civil rights, we are socially and legally invisible and that injustice must end NOW!

[dhddmods]

If you are pro-choice you also need to make sure you aren't pro-eugencism.

This means you have to support the idea that, while everyone can choose whether or not they want to have children, if they decide to have a child, they need to be willing to have a disabled child or an intersex child.

Selective abortion is a huge problem amongst the disabled and intersex communities, and it promotes the erasure of their existence.

If a person chooses they want to go through with a pregnancy, they need to be willing to have ANY baby.

If you can't handle having a disabled or intersex baby, you aren't prepared to have a child at all.

A child could develop a disability at any time, or be revealed to be disabled at any time.

A child could develop intersex hormonal variations during puberty, or have undetected intersex genital traits, intersex reproductive traits, or intersex chromosomal variations.

If you can't handle the idea that your child may not be able-bodied, able-minded, or perisex, then you can't handle parenthood.

[helpmeimblorboing]

All this gender stuff is really very simple : if someone tells you they want to be known by [a specific set of pronouns] or as [a specific identity] then listen to them

If you’re confused, ask. Trust me, they’ll be willing to explain

But for the love of all that is extant, be KIND

[tarukorhohen]

He's actually an anti-intersexist icon who didn't even question a man having a vagina. Slay.

We're genuinely so brave for the way we somehow manage to navigate cis society never knowing wtf is going on in their heads at any given time

[ridibulous]

MFs will go We hate the gender binary! And then proceed to make another gender binary that hurts people to circumvent their old binary that hurt people which was made to circumvent that older binary that hurt people and so on so forth ad nauseum

[smilepilled]

if your (trans-)feminism inherently excludes any minority group on the basis that one of their immutable traits makes them inherently evil, you are not a transfeminist. you are LARPing as one, but you aren't doing jack shit that has to do with feminism.

this includes trans people, nonbinary individuals, trans guys and transmascs, trans gals and transfems, intersex people (with or without any trans identity), gnc individuals, black trans people, brown trans people, asian trans people, indigenous trans people— and any combination of these.

if you exclude any group of people from your transfeminism or activism, you are not an activist. you are trying to seem like a good person while clinging desperately to your own hateful, putrid ideals. get better and over yourself

[ugly-anarchist]

People on this site cannot or intentionally refuse to distinguish between systemic oppression and lateral mistreatment and it's a massive problem.

Me talking about how other queer people target me for having masculine traits isn't me saying that cisallohet perisex men are oppressed for being men and feminism sucks and lesbians are evil.

Me pointing out how late diagnosed autistic people treat me like an other for getting a diagnosis early isn't me saying late diagnosed people are privileged and have power over me.

Me saying that aroaces have mistreated me and pushed me out of aspec spaces as an alloaro isn't me saying that aroaces are my oppressors and they don't belong in aro spaces.

"Can the people who are in the same community as me but have different experiences please stop treating me like shit" isn't me saying that I'm the most oppressed person on the planet and no one but me suffers. I'm just asking you to stop treating me like shit. That shouldn't be a controversial statement.

Not everything is about privilege and oppression, sometimes people are just dicks and maybe it's you.

[chimera-summer]

my deadname/legal name is something heavily associated with that "stereotypical transmasc name" shit like essentially every list has it on there and I feel like that has intersected with my intersexuality in a very uncomfortable way. due to the fact that I look vaguely trans no matter what I do and I have one of those joked about names in the mainstream online queer community that I can't detach from right now because Legal Name, I have been approached so many times by people loudly asking me if I'm a trans man or fully assuming, including people in professional places like a new job I'm working at. Often actively mentioning my name as a reason. which is so unsafe. it's additionally personally distressing because all of the assumptions people are making are based on things I did not at any point decide on, but because they believe me to be a trans man, it's easy for them to therefore think that my deadname is actually the name I chose and my appearance is something I actively contributed towards, so I am outwardly socially and physically transitioning in their eyes, and therefore there's no harm in pointing out The Obvious. "stereotypical transmasc name" jokes are so deeply unfunny

[universallydestinytaco]

(source for the trans-flavored Union Jack flag 1)

(source for the redesigned Hawaiian flag 2)

(credit to FontSpace and Font Meme for the fonts)

Happy (early) Pride Month + AAPIH Month! Instead of wasting your money on Harry Potter merch or Disney's performative Rainbow Capitalism collection, go support these various LGBTQIAA+ charities and organizations the UK, Hawaii AND around the world!

Aikāne 'Ohana

Black Trans Alliance

Gendered Intelligence

Hawai'i Health & Harm Reduction Center

TransActual

Gregory House (no, not that one you might be thinking of, you dork!)

Papa Ola Lōkahi

MindOut

Gallop

Hawaii LGBT Legacy Foundation

Not A Phase

Human Dignity Trust

Stonewall UK

TGEU

Kaleidoscope UK

The LGBT Foundation

ATK

Mermaids

Switchboard

Asia Pacific Transgender Network

Outright International

AHWAA

AIDS Committee of Toronto

ALQUAWS

Pride Foundation Australia

Trans Mutual Aid Manchester

IGLA

UNYA

Protect Scouse Dolls

The Linq Foundation

Rainbow Fund

Trans Aid Cymru

This Fundraiser for South Sudan refugees! (Honorable Mention, not quite an organization but still a super-worthy cause, also follow @soniakats and spread this users' posts like wildfire!)

LAST MINUTE EDITIONS FROM THE UK BECAUSE I HAD TO FIX A LINK! (Special thank to @revcleo)

Gender Identity Research & Education Society

CLINIQ

Queercare

Transgender NI

I highly encourage y'all to add more LGBTQ+ charities outside of mainland USA, you may add USA charities but please stick to one

Special thanks to these awesome users: @the-ubiquitous-umbrella and @ghostboyravenight for inspiring my improvements to the predecessor to this post.

Also a firm reminder:

ABSOLUTELY NONE OF YOU WILL HARASS EITHER MAIA KEALOHA FROM THE LILO AND STITCH REMAKE OR THE KIDS CAST IN THE HBO HARRY POTTER SERIES, FOR ALL WE KNOW THEY MAY HAVE HAD NO SAY ON THE MATTER. LEAVE THOSE KIDS ALONE OR STITCH WILL HUNT YOU DOWN AND MAUL YOU.

[osokasstuff]

["you" is used as general you and isn't directed at anyone personally]

radical take: you can't know someone's agab if you haven't seen the moment of assigning it.

(intersex) people get reassigned with different gender later in life. sometimes after days, sometimes after weeks & months & years passed from birth.

trans labels are not indicative of agab.

body parts are not indicative of agab.

how someone is raised is not indicative of agab.

you can't always know whether someone is trans or intersex by their look.

if someone is visibly trans/intersex, it doesn't mean you can tell their gender by their look and moreso tell their agab (by assuming it being "the opposite" (binary shit) of their gender).

if someone tells you they're trans/nonbinary/intersex/otherwise genderqueer, you still can't tell their agab because you don't know their experience and medical history.

and oh, you shouldn't try to guess someone's agab at the first place.

(i can't believe "you can't tell someone's agab" and "you shouldn't ask someone's agab" and "what is in the stranger's pants is none of your business" are hot takes in the end of 2024 on tumblr).

[walks-the-ages]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but regurgitating Radical Feminism talking point of

"Men are all Inherently Evil, Physically Superior, and Predatory to Women"

does not, in fact, do anything for Actual Feminism where the main talking point is

"We are all Human Beings and we're not Intrinsically Different based on the gender some random doctors decided on at birth"

and you're not doing anything for Queer Solidarity either when you go around proclaiming that all men, including trans men, are these evil oppressive monsters who have advantages in life based purely on their gender (even if they are trans men who are not out of the closet yet, apparently) , and I'm not sure why on earth the new crop of Trans-Inclusive Rad Fems think that being 'proud misandrists' is going to save them from being targeted by cis transphobes??? You can't win protection from transphobes by throwing your fellow trans community under the bus, and when you go around saying that all men are disgusting oppressive predators who have never done anything for the queer community ever and have never experienced any true oppression ever its like. ....

.... what the fuck is wrong with you?

Did you forget the AIDs crisis exists?

Did you forget the gay and bi men exist?

Did you forget that Black men exist??

The world's oppression does not begin and end with trans women, and if you're happy to throw the rest of the trans community under the bus so you can feel superior, I don't know who the heck you expect to have your back when you need help, because everyone else has already been run the fuck over, because you fucking threw them in the road because you somehow still think Respectability Politics is gonna save you instead of leaving your Exclusionist Bubble the community that ends up alone and isolated.

Trust me. Life is a lot more bearable and hopeful when you don't go around insisting an entire 50% of humanity is evil based on their gender. Try talking to your fellow trans men, trans mascs, nonbinary people and intersex people before you make another post about how """theyfabs have it so easy and trans men are inherently privalaged and evil because they're men and they shouldn't talk about reproductive health or the need for safe abortions because that's just speaking over women""" 🤦🤦🤦

[satsuj1n]

take all of intersex people's struggles and pain, double it, and give it to the trump administration. happy pride month.

[ftmbeau]

finding out the shinigami eyes extension is anti transmasc & intersexist was certainly something to wake up to this morning

[is-it-malgendering]

Also! I recently checked the Wikipedia page on transmisogyny and found that TME/TMA terminology had found its way onto the page, declaring that the terminology was accepted by all transfeminists - which is a blatant untruth. I've corrected it to say "some" transfeminists but it might be difficult to remove the paragraph on it entirely since Wikipedia usually requires a large justification for it (and the validation of the terminology by a minority of transfeminists unfortunately trumps the vocal opposition to the terminology by (by comparison) laypeople).

If anyone has any (non-tumblr) sources in which people vocally oppose TME/TMA terminology please let me know so that paragraph can be more balanced to reflect that the terms are not universally accepted, as claimed.

[ailiye]

"radfems dni?? ugh! another misogynist!"

— a radfem probably

nope. loud incorrect buzzer. i'm just a trans man tired of being demonized for being male, and for being trans. men are not inherently evil. not trans men, not cis men, not any man in-between. evil is a learned trait. clearly it's been drilled into your head.

trans people are not just another scapegoat for you to blame. we're not just another minority to erase from existence. we're living, breathing creatures with hearts and souls and brains and thoughts. if you can't accept that, you need to rethink everything going on in that thick skull of yours. wait... damn... it's hollow? eh. expected.

also, it's pride month and men's mental health month. the two can coexist. stop acting like they can't. shoutout to all the queer men reading this. trans men, cis men, gay trans men, gay cis men, straight trans men, bi cis and trans men, pan cis and trans men, ace and aro or aroace cis and trans men, intersex men, every queer man, not just the ones listed, just all of the queer men. you're doing your best. someone loves you. you exist to be heard and to make the world a better place.

[ftmtftm]

I understand that it feels like there is legitimacy in "protecting" the labels one might use for themself through rigid lines and narrow definitions — but is it actually harming you? Or are you anticipating harm because you fear something that seems unfamiliar to you?

Because that's actually what got me to realize transmedicalism is bullshit. The realization that I, and everyone around me, was actually operating in fear of people we had no right or reason to fear.

In the early-mid 2010's the big discourse on Tumblr was "can nonbinary people say they are trans". Most of us scoff and say "of course" now, myself included, but there was a pervasive "concern" that nonbinary people calling themselves trans would somehow "dilute" the trans experience and "make it confusing" to distinguish between "real" (binary) trans people and nonbinary people. Part of the argument was that nonbinary people couldn't be trans because they didn't "fit the definition of being trans" that aligned with binary trans experiences.

The rhetoric surrounding intersex trans people and the language they use to identify themselves eerily echos a lot of the emotional sentiment behind that old transmed rhetoric to me. "There are people trying to claim ""my language"" and because ""my language"" is tied so closely to my personal identity, that feels like an attack on my identity and my community."

That is, however, also the same fear based logic as most forms of bigotry. It'd do you well to examine it.

So if someone identifies with a label and they haven't had the most by the book dictionary definition experience associated with that label, literally who cares? Why do you care? Actually examine that why. You might very well find the problem actually exists within yourself — and that's okay. There's always time to grow.