#nonbinary liberation

[osokasstuff]

say it out loud

i think one of the reasons for misuse terms like afab/amab is the fear/shyness around naming genitals, reproductive organs and processes, and related stuff. like sometimes people misuse afab/amab because they genuinely don't know or don't remember about intersex people, gender-affirming procedures, etc. but sometimes people seem to just don't know how to name genitals or reproductive processes without, you know, actually naming them.

and the solution to this problem is plain and simple: call it by name!

penis is not a dirty word. vagina is not a dirty word. pollution, menstruation, breast, testicle, ovaries, sperm, fallopian tubes, uterus, prostate, scrotum, every word for body part, organ, or biological process isn't dirty. it's appropriate for children. moreso, it's necessary for children to know actual names for their genitals and reproductive organs. it helps to prevent abuse. it helps to tell about problems and discomfort. it's important for children to know and understand their bodies!

it's appropriate for sfw spaces. genitals, reproductive organs, and sex characteristics aren't inherently sexual. we need to normalize non-sexual discussions of these things, actually. it will help people to learn about them, about bodies' functions, about diversity, about everything! it will also help people to be normal about each other's body parts. if something is allowed to exist only in sexual context (like genitals or breast), it will more likely be oversexualized. if something is not allowed to exist publicly at all (like menstruations, pollutions, intersex bodies, etc.), it will more likely be considered gross.

for the record, the paragraph above doesn't mean justifying sexual harassment or rude behavior around bodily processes and body traits. social context affects perception, but everyone makes their own decision to behave (or not behave) disrespectful.

i know it may feel weird and embarrassing. but it's important for everyone, especially for intersex and trans people. and it gets easier with practice.

don't be afraid of naming body parts and processes.

[chainsaw-man-uwu]

yeah...i think i'm happiest as a crossdressing dogboy (he/they). maybe i'm pansexual/panromantic too but i'll figure that one out

i don't think i would want to be trans tbh, it sounds like it would be scary and painful, even without external pressure, i'm just dogboy who likes thigh highs

but i still will fight alongside and be there for transfolk i care about

[queerism1969]

This is what happens when we don’t teach people which books it was that the Nazis burned.

[isabellascarlett1]

Your Intersex Awareness Day reminders that:

- Micropenis jokes are intersexist and not funny

- Intersex genital mutilation (IGM) is still allowed in nearly every country

- AFAB TransFem, AMAB TransMasc, Cis Trans, and Cis Non-binary are important terms for many Intersex folks

Include Intersex folks in your activism.

[genderqueerdykes]

being cisgender is just not an option for a lot of intersex people.

i was never given the option to be cisgender anything. every part of me that deviated from what a girl or boy "should" look like spelled trouble. because i dressed and acted very masculine, before puberty, people called me a bulldyke, a butch lesbian, a "girl pretending to be a boy" and "not a real boy". i was never "feminine enough" to be a woman.

after puberty hit, i started growing a beard, and my shoulders and chest got broader and more square. my body became more "masculine", so suddenly, i was labeled as a "boy pretending to be a girl" and "not a real girl". after I started testosterone, i haven't stopped being called a faggot, a fairy, a sissy or a pansy because i'm not "masculine enough" to be a man despite being a bear.

there's no winning in the eyes of a society that's so focused on binary this-or-that choices. i had no hand in the matter, this all happened way before I started testosterone HRT. in fact, even when i was placed on estrogen HRT to try to "correct" my intersex traits and symptoms, i still wasn't gendered or seen as a cis woman. i was still the same tranny bulldyke. no matter what i do, my intersex and transsexual traits will always be weaponized against me; whatever sounds the "worst" at the time, or whatever invalidates what i want.

in order to liberate trans people from this struggle, we must also liberate intersex people, for our struggles are virtually one in the same. our fight for body and identity autonomy is shared. it will always be impossible for me and other intersex people to be viewed as cis anything while white American society remains focused on pointing out the "differences" between men and women, instead of embracing the similarities we all can and do have.

intersex and trans people owe it to one another to disassemble these dangerous attitudes and shut them down when and where possible. it's not only trans people who face this struggle- intersex people deal with never being able to pass or be clocked as their actual gender from birth a lot of the time. people MUST understand that women and men come in all types of bodies, shapes and sexes, whether or not they chose to look like that. and whether or not they chose doesn't matter, they deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, which means being gendered correctly despite how they look or sound.

[queerpunktomatoes]

[liberaljane]

The commercial visibility of Pride over the past few years has often excluded the voices of those most marginalized.

Digital illustration of a large group of queer people. There are people of all different ages, sizes, and genders gathered around a sign that reads, ‘no pride for some without pride for all.’

[rainbowpopeworld]

(Quote from David Tennant is from this video and the photo is from Staged)

[whereserpentswalk]

Transandrophobia goes beyond just being dismissive of trans men, it's this culture within the queer community where transmasc and afab enby experiences and culture are regularly hated and dismissed by the rest of the community. As well as the way any hint of female sex on someone who isn't a woman is hated. Not to mention the insane amount of transphobia + homophobia trans mlm face within the queer community.

Like just look at how every fandom (lemon demon, fnaf, TallyHall, Undertale, backrooms, etc.) gets hated and mocked by the internet the momment the fandom becomes majority afab trans people. I've seen this happen in real time, where fandoms go from being seen as cool and interesting, to being dismissed as weird and cringe, the momment thos shift happens.

Or the way transmasc and afab enby bodies are treated. The way transmascs are bullied for not having body types considered masculine. The searing hatred most people here seem to have for any afab trans person who isn't on T. The way passing is celebrated as a moral good. The way twink has been a polite way for some people to call trans men girls.

Transmascs and afab enbies deserve love and kindness. And they also deserve human respect. Please if your an afab trans person reading this: I love you, I respect you, you deserve to be respected, and treated as an adult able to make your own decisions, you deserve to have your body treated with respect regardless of appearance and for people to be normal about it.

[ratboy]

I love u tboys I love u trans men I love u transmasc nb ppl I love u transmascs who can't or don't want to take HRT I love u ass hair I love u hairy arms and legs I love u wispy mustaches and beards I love u fat transmasc bodies I love u "tboy voices" I love u receding hairlines I love u transmascs who pass for cis I love u transmascs who won't ever pass I love u top surgery scars I love u transmasc chests I love u no-op, pre-op, and post-op transmascs I love u transmascs!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mogaimagic]

Reposting this on tumblr so that no nonblack queer’s coin soulgender

[osokasstuff]

i'm too pissed off to sleep so i'm going to bitch about some takes and overall transphobic shit i had to see lately. this post isn't directed at anyone here, "you" used in general sense and only directed at people who said quoted shit.

tw transphobia, intersexism, exorsexism, terfism (all of it in quotes), mentions of igm, racism, and genocide, tons of caps, me being very aggressive and bitchy

> "trans people uphold gender stereotypes"

wow today i get to know the demographic that is literally seen as failing to perform both gender roles at the same time actually upholds gender stereotypes. and the same person said, "if you wear the skirt, your dick won't disappear." how gender non-stereotypical. /sarcasm

genuinely fuck you. have you ever considered the fact that maybe, MAYBE man = dick and woman = vulva is a gender stereotype too? or are you too coward for this? /rhetorical

i'm so sick of this argument, really. it sucks itself. i'm tired of its inevitable bullshitness. i have neither energy nor desire to destroy it properly. i'm so tired.

> "men in dresses in women's bathrooms"

FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU. maybe we live in different worlds with these people because in my world there's no gender policy that stops everyone with man gender identity from entering women's bathroom. like. cis man without dress can actually enter, you know? nothing prevents them, you know? sorry for destroying your nice illusion of security, but if someone wants to enter any bathroom with malicious intentions, nothing actually stops them. so you're doomed to pee in fear until the end of your lives. just like we do.

> *unquotable whining about how everyone protects the rights of people who label themselves as gender-neutral pots*

HAVE YOU EVER SPOKEN WITH A TRANS PERSON IN YOUR LIFE??? and if yes, where the fuck you live because i want to move there! NEUTRAL GENDER MARK, NOT XENOGENDERS, NOT EVEN DIFFERENT OPTIONS, SIMPLE NEUTRAL GENDER FUCKING MARK IS LEGAL IN APPROXIMATELY DOSEN OF COUNTRIES!!! where have you found these mythical places where you're FORCED to respect xenogender people because i want to go there and stay there forever! even in trans communities, xenogender people are often mocked and ostracized! do you think xenogender liberation is the only our problem? YOU LIVE IN THE FUCKING COUNTRY WHERE TRANSITION IS PROHIBITED! and so in lots of other countries! and even in countries where it's allowed, there are always tons of assholes who want to ban or restrict it again! YOU CAN'T STAND THE IDEA THAT THE PRECIOUS GENDER (TM) CAN BE ANYTHING BESIDES MAN AND WOMAN AND WE'RE THE ONES WHO UPHOLD GENDER STEREOTYPES? and moreso, you think the binary gender system is a NATURAL ORDER OF THINGS? genuinely go fuck yourself.

> "but there are only two sexes!"

YOU THINK LIKE THAT ONLY BECAUSE OTHER PEOPLE WHO THINK LIKE THAT SUBJECT INFANTS TO GENITAL MUTILATIONS, AND LATER PUT INTERSEX PEOPLE ON "CORRECTIVE" TREATMENT WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. you don't even KNOW about HORRIBLE LEVELS OF VIOLENCE that are used to uphold your nice sweet idea about only two fucking sexes. go fuck urself, SEX IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT, moreso, IT'S A VIOLENCE-BASED CONSTRUCT, and if you're not aware about it, you're not allowed to bitch about gender being a social construct. binary sex and gender systems are based on unbelievable levels of violence, on literal genocide and erasure of intersex people, poc, and trans people. THAT are actual social constructs, and they are made FOR YOUR COMFORT by YOUR FRIENDS who are happy to murder, torture, and erase MILLIONS OF PEOPLE for your ability to never reconsider your understandings of sex and gender.

> "i don't like trans people but don't misgender them"

oh THANK YOU YOUR PRECIOUS GRACIOUS MAJESTY for your GENEROUS DECISION to not misgender us, MISERABLE FREAKS who definitely don't deserve SUCH A NICE TREATMENT. should i start to kiss your ass immediately or wait until you finish your condescending reasoning about why you're so PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING towards us? /sarcasm

i swear, one day, i'll start to treat them like they treat trans people. /not serious

you know, i don't get all this stuff about being perisex cis, i mean, they just kinda... take what they're given from birth and use it? without any reflection and, you know, actually thinking about it? don't you think it upholds gender stereotypes, like, if you were assigned [insert], you live your life as [insert], isn't it kinda... stereotypical? maybe they should at least try to live in a different gender? to know for sure? i mean, i can't even imagine how it is to be perisex cis, so it's probably really weird, and maybe they'll change their mind when they get older? of course, if they're nice and don't ask too much, i will use their pronouns... maybe, but do you agree it's weird, not to say gross, on their side?

i'm so fucking done with this shit. i know most of the people who say shit are not genuinely malicious and are deeply uneducated or misinformed, but it's so heartbreaking, triggering, and exhausting to see this shit everywhere. i'm done with having to tolerate such a bullshit or leave spaces/lose connections and live in constant fear of revealing another transphobe-exorsexist-intersexist in my surroundings. sometimes i wanna people to consider the fact that trans, nonbinary, and intersex people are around them, can hear their bullshit, and have feelings about it. at the very fucking least. i'm done being discussed like i'm a fucking exotic thing and not someone actually existing in public and online spaces.

sometimes i wish some people a very nice shut the fuck up.

[drmichealmorbius]

Hi y'all! I am a queer 2nd-year college student doing a project on improving trans rights. Part of this is collecting data from real trans/GNC people about their lived experiences. If you are a trans person, please complete this survey, and reblog or spread it around to other trans peers, I would really appreciate it!!!

Even if you aren't trans/gnc please please please reblog for a bigger sample size!!!!!!!!

TW: mentions of verbal/physical abuse

[queerism1969]

[flower-tea-fairies]

[genderqueerdykes]

you're not getting revenge on or rebelling against the patriarchy by holding trans men down, belittling us, treating us like we're demons, and not letting us speak. you're being transphobic and harming queer people. youre targeting the wrong kind of men. trans men are not the men who are oppressing you. trans men are also affected negatively by the cisgender patriarchy we live under. remember this.