nonbinarynow

[nonbinarynow]

Once I was talking about gender with some friends and said that I love being non-binary, one of them responded with 'you go, thing'

this is exorsexism.

[nonbinarynow]

people always demand to know if i'm transmasc or transfem, i'm not, i'm just transxenine agender.

this is exorsexism.

[nonbinarynow]

people assuming every genderfluid fluctuates between male and female

someone got angry at me because they never "saw me a girl" and yet i claimed to be genderfluid

this is exorsexism.

[nonbinarynow]

Reading the new checks that might come in due to the Online Safety Act in the UK and this is actually bullshit

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And how will I prove my age?

There’s a number of methods a site or app might use to ask you to confirm your age. They might do this check themselves or use another company to do the check. These methods include:

Facial age estimation – you show your face via photo or video, and technology analyses it to estimate your age. 

Open banking – you give permission for the age-check service to securely access information from your bank about whether you are over 18. The age-check service then confirms this with the site or app.

Digital identity services – these include digital identity wallets, which can securely store and share information which proves your age in a digital format.

Credit card age checks – you provide your credit card details and a payment processor checks if the card is valid. As you must be over 18 to obtain a credit card this shows you are over 18.

Email-based age estimation – you provide your email address, and technology analyses other online services where it has been used – such as banking or utility providers - to estimate your age.  

Mobile network operator age checks – you give your permission for an age-check service to confirm whether or not your mobile phone number has age filters applied to it. If there are no restrictions, this confirms you are over 18. 

Photo-ID matching – this is similar to a check when you show a document. For example, you upload an image of a document that shows your face and age, and an image of yourself at the same time – these are compared to confirm if the document is yours.

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Not only is this such a fucking breach of privacy, but this is going to hurt adults in vulnerable and abusive situations. Some adults don’t have bank accounts or credit cards or even a fucking phone. I’m one of them. I could not give half of this information even if I wanted to. What the fuck is this. Fuck the UK government. This isn’t going to protect kids, this is just going to hurt adults, and I know full well when they say “sites that allow pornography” they’re going to be going after sites that have huge amounts of queer content, like tumblr and Ao3. Queer kids are gonna lose their fucking communities because of this shit. Abuse victims are going to lose online support systems because of this.

I’m genuinely fucked off about this, and worried about whether I’m going to lose every single one of my online friends. Anyone in the UK, please email your MP and sign this petition. It needs to reach 100k signatures to pass through Parliament.

I’m only hoping the backlash will be big enough for them to stop implementing these measures.

[nonbinarynow]

[ID: A swirly background with the nonbinary flag colours - white, yellow, purple and black - as the background to all slides. Text reads; it's Nonbinary Awarensss Week... ...but what is nonbinary? Background by GaboBuasczyck (pinterest).

What is Nonbinary? In its simplest definition, nonbinary just means outside of the male-female gender binary. Some consider it under the umbrella of trans or genderqueer, others say genderqueer is under the nonbinary umbrella! Either way, not *all* nonbinary people will be transgender or genderqueer - it's its own identity!

Queer Gender Experiences. Everybody's experience with being nonbinary differs. Some people are just nonbinary, some may be nonbinary men or women. Nonbinary people can be transgender, transfeminine, transmasculine, transneutral and/or cisgender. Some people identify with multiple labels - like genderqueer, agender, genderfluid and/or demigender.

Nonbinarism & Pronouns. There's a common misconceptions that all nonbinary people use exclusively they/them pronouns. In reality, nonbinary people use an array of different pronouns. Some do use they/them, some use it/its, some use neopronouns such as xe/xem and fae/faer, some use nounself pronouns like bunself or starself and some use she/her and/or he/him. Many use multiple sets! Pronouns are deeply personal, and they give no indication of gender.

Nonbinarism & Sexuality. There are many jokes regarding nonbinary sexuality. Nonbinary sexuality comes in all shapes and sizes! Depending on their relationship with gender, sex and love, nonbinary people might identify as strictly lesbian, gay/vincian or straight, but some may feel more comfortable under labels like sapphic, achillean, toric, trixic, diamoric or enbian. Many nonbinary people also sit under the mspec and aspec umbrellas.

Nonbinarism & Intersexuality. There's a common myth that intersex people are just "cis nonbinary" or that they're proof of nonbinary peoples existance. In reality, intersex isn't even a gender (though some intersex people may use it as their gender label too) and nonbinary people are the proof of nonbinary existance. Some intersex people do still feel most comfortable as cis nonbinary, but this is a personal identity and NOT the definition of intersex.

Nonbinarism & Race. While I can't talk on personal experience, I did want to bring light on the face that race also impacts gender identity. The societal boxes or ideals of manhood and womanhood are usually centred around *white* womanhood and manhood. Some people of colour & indigenous people find the label of nonbinary useful to explain the disconnect with their birth gender due to these ideals.

Nonbinarism & Disability. Similar to the last side, the boxes of womanhood and manhood are often also focused on able-bodied people. This can leave disabled people feeling they don't really fit in the man or woman boxes. So, some disabled people use nonbinary, or nonbinary woman/man to explain this disconnect or to step outside the boxes they've been excluded from.

Don't forget about... hyperfeminine nonbinary people, religious nonbinary people, nonbinary people of colour, cis nonbinary people, lesbian, gay and straight nonbinary people, plural nonbinary people, hypermasculine nonbinary people, disabled nonbinary people, fat nonbinary people, non-dysphoric nonbinary people, indigenous nonbinary people, intersex nonbinary people, nonbinary people living through genocide.

Happy Nonbinary Awareness Week. 8th July - 14th July. End ID]

[nonbinarynow]

Happy nonbinary day and nonbinary awareness week to all fellow androgynes!!!

woah, I wasn't aware this was a thing until you sent in this ask! thanks for drawing my attention to this 🩷💜🩵 for those also not previously in the know:

International Non-Binary People's Day is observed each year on 14 July and is aimed at raising awareness and organising around the issues faced by non-binary people around the world. The day was first celebrated in 2012, started by Katje van Loon. The date was chosen for being precisely midway between International Men's Day and International Women's Day. Non-Binary Awareness Week is the week starting on the Monday preceding International Non-Binary People's Day on 14 July. This is an LGBTQ+ awareness period dedicated to non-binary people.

[nonbinarynow]

It's nonbinary awareness week!!!

I Am Aware Of You

[nonbinarynow]

Happy nonbinary people’s day! (and first day of nonbinary awareness week!)

[nonbinarynow]

woahh happy nonbinary day!!! take this opportunity to learn more about nonbinary people’s experiences and amplify nonbinary voices and organizations by reblogging posts centered around nonbinary people & issues, or even better, by looking online for organizations that support and promote nonbinary people & their voices!

[nonbinarynow]

It's Nonbinary Awareness Week!

I'll be posting at least one free book each day with a nonbinary character (except on July 16, which is Drag Day and will focus on books with characters in drag.)

Some previously-featured books with nonbinary characters that are still free include:

Unbury the Bones by Coyote J.M. Edwards - cozy fantasy with a nonbinary vampire protagonist

A Strip of Velvet by Rien Gray - nonbinary forest deity/female huntress

Of Melodies and Maledictions by Maddox Grey - romantasy, female witch/nonbinary thief werewolf

Last Gasp by Emily Riesbeck - science fiction with a nonbinary alien and a human man

Coffee and Faeire Cakes by Laura Simons - fantasy romance with a nonbinary faerie protagonist

How I Found Myself by Luna Tibling - contemporary fiction with a nonbinary human protagonist

[nonbinarynow]

It's Non-binary Awareness Week!

Be aware. We could be anywhere. Even....BEHIND YOU!!!

[nonbinarynow]

if you exhibit terf or transmisogynistic rhetoric, or platform those who do, i do not like you either. as far as im concerned genderqueerdykes needs to either leave the internet and undo all of the radfem conditioning its done to itself or it needs to die in a pit. saying "oh im sorry" is no excuse for openly racefaking and pretending to be black for hundreds of dollars or going on a 1k+ word rant about trans women being male socialized.

that is years worth of internalized transphobia and it actively appropriated racism for its own gain. that will not be undone with a "sorry." that is "leave the internet and come back in 6 months" level bad. i dont know why the transandrophobia community isnt making more of a fuss about this considering it allegedly raped someone as well. im a transandro "bro" but i am just as furious about the treatment of trans women on this site, and if you continue to platform a racefaker and a potential rapist i do not like nor trust you on my page.

the paradox of tolerance states that if we continue to tolerate the intolerant they will ransack our community into a bigoted mess. get transmisogynistic transandrophobia theorists out of this space and never put that fucker on my dash again. quit sending it asks, quit sending it donations, quit listening to its whining. im sick of this community trying to ignore this or going "oh now people are going to hate transandrobros even more!!!" seriously??? you care about your image right now?????? it raped someone (allegedly). what the fuck is wrong with you. there are bigger issues, here!!! and if it didnt commit rape it is still currently a horrible person. its donation posts are still up, and it has still not addressed the rape allegations. quit shoving this under the rug.

[nonbinarynow]

Reminder that you don't have to call yourself AMAB or AFAB. You don't have to say "I'm AFAB nonbinary." Saying "I'm nonbinary" is enough. You don't need to identify with what you were assigned as by some doctor however many years ago. Mentioning your ASAB is scarcely relevant to most conversations, even those about medical transitioning.

Nonbinary is enough, you don't have to supplement it with a binary system of any kind. It doesn't matter how many people want to know your "transition direction." It doesn't matter how many people want to know what your genitals are (which wouldn't be alluded to by your assigned sex anyway). It doesn't matter how many people want to binarise you. It doesn't matter how many binary people you confuse. No one needs to binarise you. Nonbinary. Is. Enough.

[nonbinarynow]

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Live!! If you are non-binary you must live!! You must show others, show yourself that it's okay, that's it's possible, that its worthwhile, that it is the best thing to live!! You are non-binary and you are alive, isn't that amazing? Live, Live, LIVE!!

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[nonbinarynow]

You can pry my AGAB info from my cold dead hands.

(from u/Carousel-of-Masks on Reddit)

"Obviously, I’m exaggerating for the point, but holy hell does it piss me off when someone demands to know my AGAB. “It’s important info!”

FOR WHAT? For u to have an expectation of my genitals and internal sex chromosomes? News flash, any trans person will tell u that AGAB does not = typical presentation of that gender.

On top of this, it’s my CHOICE to reveal my AGAB. I like keeping it a mystery because people are all too quick to assign certain expectations of me based on AGAB.

AMAB? Oh trans woman in denial! Man in dress stereotype!

AFAB? Oh trans man in denial! Completely feminine woman-lite stereotype!

Like. No. I’m just me. An extremely dysphoric non-binary person that actually would love to be binary but has to grapple with an internal gender that does not feel like the 2 binary options. I say I am non-binary to escape those expectations in the first place. AGAB just reduces it all back down to the binary.

Now, other non-binary people can do whatever u want. Not like I can control anyone else’s actions. But a part of me does hate how prevalent it is to write “Non-binary (AFAB/AMAB)” every time someone mentions they are non-binary. I’m not talking about specific tips for transitioning, hrt, etc. But everyday conversation, social media posts about nothing to do with gender, etc."

Something about this rant deeply resonated with me, so I decided to crosspost it onto here. You cannot reinvent the binary to include nonbinary people. It will never work.

[nonbinarynow]

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Nonbinary love is beautiful and possible, diamory, ceterosexuality and enbianism is wonderful! Nonbinary self love is powerful, wonderful and should be practiced by every enban. Being non-binary is amazing, and loving enbiness is something to be celebrated!

You can be loved and be non-binary. You can be loved by others, both binary and nonbinary. You deserve to love yourself as an enban.

You can love nonbinary people! Nonbinary t4t is amazing!! Binary x NB love is wonderful!! Enbian love is an amazing thing, and far more needed in this world. It's okay to define your attraction to enben! Attraction to enben specifically is not fetishisation, that claim is absurd. Is it fetishisation to be attracted to men and/or women?

Celebrate your nonbinary and genderqueer self, partners, friends and family! Love them for who they are, and celebrate the love you share with them!

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[nonbinarynow]

By the way, it's okay and in many cases preferable to make completely new language to describe your nonbinary experience. If you feel excluded from a traditionally binary term because of your enbiness, it's okay to make or assume a new, undeniably nonbinary inclusive term, made by and for enben. It's okay to use that term even if you are degraded, called cringe, and get so much shit served to you for being yourself; we're enben, this isn't anything new. It's okay to only use it in private because of this. It's okay to feel dissatisfied and make a space to feel seen and heard.

Nonbinary people deserve nonbinary specific language, and we deserve to have it recognised. Smash the idea that you need to be binary by all means, it's okay to make your own language for enben! Learn some nonbinary specific terms today!!