#and trans men sorry you guys are too masculine

[fioredivenere]

Lesbian things I did

before realizing I am, in fact, a lesbian.

Being jealous and overly protective to my girl best friends

Having only one girl best friend at a time, because I only ever think of my girl best friend.

My first kiss was to a girl and for the next four years no matter who was in a relationship (with some other guy), we kept kissing each other in secret.

The first time I had unrestricted online access I only ever search for wlw content.

I only ever had crushes either on the super popular guy (bc that's the correct way to have crushes, am I right) or the super shy and introvert guy. Both ways I only ever went for the impossible guy and then oopsies, I Guess I Have to be Single forever.

The guys I ended up dating where always stereotypically feminine guys, either because they were so much shorter than me, or had long hair, or had very soft personalities.

For almost every guy I dated I secretly thought what would I do if they came out as transfemme. I even used a filter to see how they would look like as girls. I am not making this up. Guess what? I always thought I'd stay if they wanted to transition and all.

As a kid I was so obsessed with a weather reporter girl, who's extremely attractive btw, and I still have a crush on her.

As a kid the first time a boy told me he liked me I ran away in fear and disgust, without saying anything, and hid from him for the rest of the time.

In middle school this boy was super into me and tried to kiss me in multiple occasions. Every time I would slap the shit out of him. [note: this boy I was kind of in a "relationship" from the age 5 to the age 11. I never actually liked him and I only referred to him as my super best friend. He used to shower me in romantic gifts (as much as a kid can do) and try (unsuccesfully) to hold my hand, hug me and kiss me on the cheek. We ended this thing because I told him I only liked him for his toys (that I couldn't have at home because they were "boy toys") and I actually liked the popular older kid. I shattered this poor boy's heart, and in return he traumatized me by locking me in a classroom with his older friends holding me up against a wall just to kiss me on the lips a couple years later at 13) Now back to the regularly scheduled program:

I barely ever notice if a guy is attractive, but I think almost every woman is stunning.

I'm super into any kind of femininity, anything associated with it really.

I remember perfectly, down to the smallest detail, what every single best girl friend was. But I keep forgetting the faces of the guys I dated... This specifically might be caused by other reasons, but I listed it anyways because it sounds gay af.

When I tried to come out online as lesbian a year and a half ago I was the happiest I ever been. I then was shoved back into the closed and I buried everything for a year, but you can read more of this on my other post "My queer journey".

When I'm with a girl I like I'm literally so happy I get euphoria and start laughing like an idiot.

My biggest aspiration in life is to own a beautiful country home with a partner. This partner must be not-a-man.

Well, I also made this list.

[feline-evil]

Dick or no dick confirmation Pickles was always going to be trans to me anyways; if he's swingin' somethin that's phallo babes, if he's not then his t-dick fat. What's not to get.

[velvetvexations]

Here's a thing that personally really gets me about the whole "transmascs pass so easy and have no issues post transition, virtually cis male privileges" thing is that ... You see, I am stealth and do pass as cis fairly well. But even as a "cis" man, I am a failed man. I am too short, I am too thin, my beard isn't thick enough, my voice a little too high, my face too young. Except that towards me, because I "am cis", it's socially acceptable to make fun of that. It's not insensitive, as it would be towards a trans guy, instead people are "allowed" to poke fun at my failed masculinity because "cis men need to take a bit of poking haha. What, is your masculinity that frail? Typical man lol." Even without any intended malice, people seldomly consider that what they're saying might actually hit a sore spot -- Not like I don't know that I am the way I am, and have heard these things a hundred times. And that's not even getting into "Well, not like you would know, as a man," when people are talking about issues I, too, experienced my whole life or still do experience today, and I just have to nod.

I prefer being stealth. Because I dislike the way people treat you differently when they find out you aren't. But being seen as a "failed cis man" sure as hell feels bad, too. (And I bet it doesn't really feel good for actual cis men who "aren't masculine enough", either. I don't think it's a coincidence that I get this kind of thing much more often from women than from men.)

You shouldn't be having your problems minimized by people who don't actually know what you experience. I'm sorry anon. <3

[drdemonprince]

sorry if this is too long but i really appreciate your perspective and would love some advice

i have a mixed gender friend group irl, however i am the only transmasc in the group (the rest of the group is queer transfems, queer cis women, and our token cishet guy) and ive run into a little issue in that im quite close to one of the cis girls of the group, and we occasionally have deep chats about our queer identities (we're both aro, im ace, shes bi) . these chats are great and i really appreciate her as a friend but one thing shes always bringing up, even in unrealted conversations is how much she hates men .

im not a transandrobro so this isn't gonna be one of those "im one of the good ones" or "i feel guilty for being transmasc" asks dw. the issue came up when i was discussing how i was going to start T pretty soon (i pass decently well without it already but as more of a butch/androgynous type look) and as we were talking about the changes she was acting... genuinley scared and disgusted??

especially when i talked about how i will likely grow more body hair, and how T affects scent and stuff. she was almost horrified. "yeah but you dont want that right? youll shave it?" . i already dont shave my body hair (she does) and i cant help but feel scared that one of my closest friends is going to find me revolting once i start transitioning medically.

i didnt even mention bottom growth after that because i was so scared of what her reaction to that would be.

idk if you have any experience or advice for this? or any reading on the subject? ive found that its only the cis women in my friend group who are acting this way as well. i feel like maybe its because theyve secretly been viewing me as "just" a masculine woman this whole time. i id as nonbinary with the group, but secretly i really do think im a trans man, but based on the disgust with those things im reluctant to come out again.

Honestly this is a really common way that cis women microaggress against trans mascs! Those two identities have competing privilege/oppression intersections and a lot of really wild shit can play out as a result, as well as due to the projection that can happen because both groups have shared a social identity at some point (whether we liked it or not). It may not be fixable, but I think you need to set the tone that this kind of negative commentary on your transition and body is NOT acceptable, and to do so EARLY, so that you are establishing ground rules for how you will be treated.

Example conversation:

You: So I started getting some hair on my neck around my Adam's apple.

Her: Ewwwww, but you're going to shave it right?

You: (pause and look at her seriously). Gender transition is something I'm very excited about and that's very good for me, you know. I am happy about everything that's happening and I hope that as my friend you would be happy for me too.

Let's say that she continues to be somewhat shitty about your transition multiple times. Here is how you might escalate without totally blowing your lid.

Her: Wow, your [voice is so deep/your acne is getting so bad/your hair pattern is changing/whatever thing she is being shitty about].

You: (stop whatever task you're doing if any to give this full attention. lock eyes with her, maybe even sigh). I have told you multiple times not to comment on my appearance. It makes me very uncomfortable. I don't enjoy spending time with people who comment on how I look.

I think your focus should be not on correcting her feelings, which she needs to go like stare at a pond and reflect about on her own, but instead reign in her shitty commentary completely -- and if she won't do that for you, then you will need start ending conversations/walking away/not inviting her to things/whatever other boundary setting strategy you like. I would prioritize nipping the personal comments in the bud over the "men are so disgusting and evil" kind of commentary, because I think that matters more and seems to bother you more -- but if it were me? I would also be pissed that she wasn't including me in the category of "men" when she was talking about them, and would say things like "I'm a man too, you know." Or "Yeah, WE can be kind of annoying/boorish/smelly sometimes." This isn't some transandrobro NOT ALL MEN thing, it's an anti-transphobia don't misgender me thing. And perhaps by taking accountability for all that manhood is -- the good and the bad, the euphoric and the just neutral, you will influence her in a positive way to think about these things more neutrally. If not, well, that's her fuckin loss.

[alter-ego-xxx]

Do you have any trans regulus hc?

(coming from a trans masc)

Oh yes, I do. (also sorry that it took me so long to answer)

Sooo, I think trans Reg...

Thought he's nb for like one year

uses tape for binding

Didn't shave his leg hair when it first thickened but then shaved it off when he got more secure in his masculinity

Cuts his hair himself because he's fucking scared of barbers

Wants to get this tubes tied as soon as possible (same tho)

loves to wear James' old hoodies on dysphoria days

Actually thinks his deadname is nice but just not HIM

Sadly doesn't have a lot of facial hair

ALMOST fits in the smallest men's shoe size but they're usually too big

okay, you know me, I gotta add some nsfw thoughts...

LOVES to dom because it gives him that sense of "masculinity" (yes I know it's stereotypical but the trans guys will understand me)

Tried SO HARD to be quiet in bed before he got comfortable because he was convinced that he sounded like a girl

loves to trigger his partners breeding kink (Remus??) by reminding them that it's actually kinda possible

really enjoys oral but only if it's slow and steady

^ still sometimes struggles to finish but he came to terms with it that it's just how his body works and that it's mostly about feeling good and having fun

begs for cock.

[mikaela-the-slut-expert]

yayyyy 💕 then can i ask for a scenario in which the reader, who’s a trans guy, volunteering to be the bride in the ghost groom scenario and threatening to stab anyone who says anything about him looking like a girl with platonic feng xin + mu qing and romantic hualian? (or just xie lian, since technically hua cheng is only there for like, .5 seconds lol)

(💥 anon)

Masculine Bride?

HuaLian x ftm(?)reader

IM SO SORRY 😔 I'VE HAD THE WORST FEW MONTHS OF MY LIFE BUT I LIVE I WILL BE COMPLETING REQUESTS AGAIN THANKS FOR NOT GIVING UP ON ME AGAIN GUYS ☺️🖤

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☀️Feng Xin didn't want to be in this ridiculous mission at all. He has to deal with Mu Qing in disguise and he has to see Xie Lian who was once his best friend. So it feels a little awkward to him but he gets to see you too! So he's quite happy to see you and Xie Lian again

☀️When he finds out that the plan is to disguise as a bride he immediately says Nuh uh. No way he's doing that, Mu Qing would never live it down.

☀️But when you offer to disguise as the bride, since you do looke somewhat androgynous he's like great!

☀️He doesn't have to do it and he can protect you if you all get in harms way

☀️Honestly he's surprised you volunteered so quickly. Feng Xin knows you'd rather stay in your male form and he knows you don't like appearing feminine much these days. Gods do it all the time so Feng Xin doesn't mind. Have you seen Shi Qingxuan?

☀️So everything was going great, they got you dressed and the one village girl did your makeup so you didn't look like a clown. But then they ran into those annoying men again.

☀️ They were congratulating Xie Lian, Mu Qing, and Feng Xin for finding a pretty bride and even wanted to join up, but they all knew the men just wanted to eat off their success.

☀️So when you laughed and explained you did make a good bride even though you're a man, No one really laughed. The men had genuinely thought you were a woman sooo they try to call your bluff.

☀️You did in fact change forms to look more like a bride but it doesn't feel good to have every single feminine feature to be pointed out. You're used to it so you weren't going to say anything but the group of men freeze and their skin pales when you hear a crack behind you

☀️Feng Xin may or may not have broken a pillar. May or may not have damaged his own temple. . .

☀️it succeeds in shutting the men up because what man is able to just break a God's pillar?!

☀️Feng Xin has to admit he's pretty irritable, but hearing the group of men bully you just pisses him off. He knows he's supposed to be in disguise and not gain your attention but he can't stand by and watch you be passive about it.

☀️ When the men practically evacuate the area you only laugh softly and link arms with him saying, "I found my guard!" You already know it's Feng Xin🙄

🌕Mu Qing was also your best friend and you never really gave him the chance to distance himself from you like he distanced himself from Xie Lian.

🌕Mu Qing has been with you a long time and he knows you're more comfortable identifying as a man. He has no issue with it. It took some time getting used to but he doesn't care as long as you're happy.

🌕so hearing the group of men start pointing you out so blatantly ticks him off. He knows he can't harm mortals but he sure wishes he could.

🌕It's not against the rules to threaten them though, so when he threatened to cut off their hand because it's rude to point isn't against the rules either.

🌕You were surprised honestly, Mu Qing doesn't care about a lot of things and doesn't usually get violent unless it's with Feng Xin.

🌕but you laugh when the group of men run off and you lean on Mu Qing. Saying you're so happy to have your own personal protector

🪷Xie Lian doesn't really fight. It's not that he can't he just doesn't see a point to do so.

🪷but that doesn't mean he'll let people bully you either

🪷 You've stuck with him for awhile so you're used to just taking mean words in stride. Xie Lian has never let them get away with it though.

🪷So it comes as a Surprise to you all when Xie Lian uses rou'ye to tie the group of men up together and he "advised them to go away before something unfortunate happens"

🪷You smiles and kiss his cheek, linking arms with him with a smile.

🪷"You're cute when you're protective"

[stormyelliotwritez]

hello! i’ve written a request for you before and it was under anonymous but i’ve decided that i have no shame in my game soooo, i was wondering if you could do a fic or headcanon where reader is autistic and has touch aversion. And this obviously hard on logan and wade but, they find out part of the reason reader has touch aversion is because they’re uncomfortable with their masculinity (they’re ftm trans). Alsothey grew up with a difficult and toxic childhood so saying i love you and showing love through physical affection is hard. (they show they’re love by acts of service or cooking/gifts) but in they end they’re happy and reader is more comfortable with touch and stuff. Please and thank you! <3

(sorry this was so long i was just YAPPING)

yay!!! Hi!!!! hehehehehehehehe yeah i can and also coz this is so me and i love it, you can have headcanons and also a mini ficlet!!!

DATING THEM AS AUTISTIC!FTM!READER WITH TOUCH AVERSION

they’re both very touchy guys so when you freak out and get annoyed at them for touching you, they both get a bit disappointed but they respect it

wades the one who finds out it’s partially because you’re trans because he accidentally bumps you in the chest and you just seem really uncomfortable and a lightbulb goes off in his head

logan does some research on how autistic people can feel weirded about by touch and he also talks to trans people about dysphoria because he wants to understand you

you start cooking and giving them gifts and logan goes oh because he’s seen this before in kids who came from bad homes who try to show their love in other ways

they wanna make you feel heard so they listen to you no matter what and they accept whatever you give them

after a while, you start to let them touch you a little bit and they’re both so happy.

wade literally squeals with joy when you don’t get annoyed at him when he gives you a hug

they wanna help you feel more comfortable in your masculinity so they make comments about how men are really hot and nice and how you’re great and that other men they’ve known weren’t as nice or cool as you

they also buy you clothes and other stuff so you feel more comfortable in your own body

when you let logan give you a kiss on the neck, he almost stabs his leg out of happiness

ficlet time!!!!!

Logan and Wade had been sitting on the couch. They were watching TV and waiting for you. Wade had left the recliner free so you could sit there if you really wanted. When you eventually walked in, you sat down in between them on the couch. Both their jaws dropped and they looked at each other behind you and both grinned.

“Are we watching something or not?” You asked as you leaned back on the couch and leaned your head on Logan’s shoulder.

Logan got a surprised look on his face like when you have a cat and it hates people but then it lays down on your lap. He covered his mouth with one hand so he wouldn’t make a noise and scare you off.

Wade was also shocked and he was even more shocked when you grabbed his hand and tried to pull him closer. He leaned his head on your shoulder as best as he could and wrapped his arms around you.

“I love you guys,” you said quietly.

They both smiled widely. They hadn’t ever expected this and it was fine that you didn’t like touch or saying that you loved them but they were both on Cloud Nine now.

“I love you too,” they both said at once.

The three of you then settled into a content silence as Logan turned the movie on. They were both so happy that you finally felt completely happy and safe.

[genderkoolaid]

hey i wanted to get this off my chest and i feel like u r someone who will get it! im an out trans guy and i work with mostly cis queer women, and the other day a trans man (wearing a trans shirt- we chatted :3) shopped in the store and afterwards one of my coworkers (who is my close friend and dating a transmasc person and i trusted her) LITERALLY said she could tell he was a trans guy “because he was too nice and trans guys who are nice are so obviously not actually men” and went on and on. she tried to walk it back a few minutes later with “i mean they’re the real men and cis guys aren’t” i didn’t say anything (i’m a coward) but like fuck. cis women are so comfortable calling us fake men and acting like that’s not a horrific thing to say. like it’s a compliment even. sorry for the rant i just feel so gross and stupid and evil for being a trans guy around women !!!!

need people to understand that "i can clock trans men because they're so nice and docile and polite" is one of those complementary-stereotypes-are-still-harmful things.

for one its kinda giving "women are kinder because they are biologically predisposed to caretaking and motherhood, so they are naturally kind and generous because thats how their brains work :)" misogyny. Obviously a lot of trans men do act differently than cis men because we had to personally confront toxic masculinity and what it means to be a man & likely personally experience (or have in the past) things like misogyny and menstruation. Similarly, a lot of women historically have been motivated to help others because they wanted justice and cared about others lives. But there are also trans men who are huge assholes and women who are deeply selfish and cruel, and a lot of how people are is based on their choices in reaction to the situation they find themselves in by birth, not the situation itself.

Its like. saying "Ashkenazi Jews are biologically smarter than others" sounds like a compliment, and someone might even say it trying to be genuinely nice. But its rooted deeply in antisemitism & notions that Jews are supervillains who could overpower White Christians. There's a difference between "Jewish culture values education and study" and "Jews have higher IQs, because they are essentially a different species, and I totally don't mean this in a Nazi way and if you think that, maybe you're the real antisemite!" Same thing here. If your "compliment" is othering to the people you are complimenting, then you should rethink it.

[saveahorserideaneddie]

Controversial opinion time: I hate to agree with the misogynistic bts but the way most of the buddie fandom regards the guys right now is suuuuuuuuuper heteronormative and also gives off bad transphobic vibes. Buck has to have a “throbbing pussy” because he’s hot for a man? Buck magically has a “lightning womb” because he wants to give birth to Eddie’s babies? Buck is now predominantly seen as “the bottom” and “the wife” because…??? Idk about you but as a trans person who loves trans headcanons and playing with the idea of our faves being trans, this is not it. Gives me major ick. (I am a die hard buddie shipper. But I’m also gay and trans and very disturbed. No heteronormativity for my fave queer firefighter ship 👎)

so i myself am not trans, so i feel like this isn’t a conversation i should put my two cents in so instead i’m just going to say that i’m sorry this has affected you like this…. i’ve been in a similar (though not as hurtful) spot where i see certain popular fandom-wide headcanons that rub me the wrong way for whatever reason, and sometimes feeling like you’re the only one who disagrees with that headcanon can be pretty isolating- especially when it’s one thst holds a lot of personal weight.

what i can comment on is the heteronormativity part and i will say- i agree… a lot of posts/fics i see that make one of them out to be hyperfeminine and the other hypermasculine has been something that kind of icks me out too, like… they’re both very masculine men who have feminine traits because their masculinity isn’t toxic; they’re both very comfortable in that masculinity and to be honest, i really love the idea of eddie still being the kinda macho man in terms of his style even though a lot of his mannerisms and personality isn’t that hypermasculine energy that people tend to affix to him- like yeah maybe at the start of s2 when all we knew about him was that he was a single dad who was an army vet but even then, watching s2 live as it came out i thought he was a masc gay man until shannon showed up so…. i completely agree the fandom’s need to turn one of them into the “man” and the other into the “woman” stereotype is annoying lol

and to me that doesn’t mean that they can’t express themselves more feminine or masculine in fics than their canonical personalities, but only when it’s done tastefully and within reason; you can always tell when someone’s actually trying to write a compelling story about exploring gender norms as queer men vs when someone’s just forcing them into a heteronormative box

(and also on the topic of pregnant buck- i do think it’s icky that people started making pregnant buck jokes just bc of the show putting oliver in a shirt that showed his tummy and everyone began hyperfixating on it and calling it a baby bump… like if i were oliver and people did that it’d make me so self conscious about my tummy)

[eva-does-their-best]

can you shut the fuck up youre making all trans guys look bad so fucking annoying. insane that u cant handle any fucking criticism whatsoever lol holy shit. whole ass fucking paragraph. gotta put that evil mean trans woman in her place right. god forbid someone gets frustrated at being consistently shit on by people in her community. im gonna be so real rn and say that as trans guys / tme people we have it so much easier its actually insane (coming from someone whos been thru corrective rape when i was 12 after i came out as a trans guy btw! theres my fucking pound of flesh. jesus.) not even rly trying to convince u but u just piss me the fuck off annoying as fuck

First off: So sorry about what happened to you, my most sincere condolences. It's the only thing I can really give, hope your life gives you enough peace and happyness to allow you to live with such an event.

Second:

You're making all trans guys look bad

I'm not a trans guy, I'm a transmasc, very different, a difference you should if not care about at least keep in mind if you want to respect less binary forms of masculinity. I don't speak as nor speak for trans guys, because I am not one, maybe if you actually read what I write you would know.

Insane that you can't handle any fucking criticism

Criticism where? Let me be absolutely blunt and sincere: All I see in the posts I replied to is tired, scared and hurt people who cope with said feelings by turning their vents into everyone else's problems.

I vent a fucking lot, everyone can see that, but when I vent I am sincere and point the source of my pain, how I feel, why I feel that way, and which people I believe reinforce it. What I don't do is go out of my way to involve people who have nothing to do with it or with how I feel.

Trust me I know how they feel, and the way they are dealing with it is incredibly self-destructive and I want nothing more than for them to get out of that shitty mental state that hurts them so they can feel better and have a slightly better life and emotional responses to the world.

Whole ass fucking paragraph

Yeah, that is how one transmits ideas. Shocking.

Gotta put that evil mean trans woman in her place right

I've replied to a couple posts so I don't know which one you're talking about, but I've no clue about the gender of the people who I replied to, I simply replied to shitty ideas, don't care who's behind them.

Pretty lame that you try to make this a gender war, don't you think?

God forbid someone gets frustrated at being consistently shit on by people in her community

"her" ok so this is you personally defending someone you know, I can tell.

Statement goes both ways don't you think? You think this is just for fun?? Yeah let's start a conflict that is affecting the lives of real people for fun!

We are fucking tired of the mockery, the disrespect, and the extreme policing of transmasc and trans men's language and experiences by people who have no say in them.

Do you care about that too or are you a hypocrite? Because when I reply to people's shit-ass posts I do in fact care about them otherwise I'd ignore em and let em keep hurting themselves.

"Oh but these ones attacked this person" I. Don't. Give. A. Fuck. There are shitheads everywhere, in every opinion and side of any conflict. There are gonna be shitheads who use this as an excuse to attack people of a certain particular gender they already had something against, it is irrelevant to the ideas exposed. Let's not act like there isn't a whole plethora of posts about killing transmasc please, you SHOULD care avout that too.

As transmascs/tme people we have it so much easier

You're free to have an opinion about your own experiences and I have no horse in that race. HOWEVER:

•You're not the only transmasc in the world and your opinion is very clearly not a universal truth, so don't you dare spit on everyone else's experiences by deciding what's true and what's not without counting with them.

• In your dumbass dychotomy of "tma/tme" transmasc are not the only ones put on the "tme" label and the same way I cannot talk about YOUR experiences you have no fucking right to talk about everyone else's experiences specially the ones from other identities and lives that you did not get to be or experience.

•Without dipping my toes in your opinion or your experiences I profoundly disagree with you.

• Lastly, WHO THE FUCK CARES WHO HAS IT WORSE?! WE'RE ALL FUCKING HURT AND BROKEN WE'RE LITERALLY KILLED IN THIS WORLD FOR JUST EXISTING, YOU WANT A COMPETITION??? GO FIGHT FOR TRANS PEOPLE'S RIGHTS TO COMPETE IN SPORTS INSTEAD OF CREATING OPRESSION OLYMPICS. GET YOUR COMFY ASS OUT OF YOUR INTERNET ARMCHAIR AND GO SEE WHAT'S GOING ON IN THE WORLD FFS.

There's my fucking pound of flesh. jesus.

Again so sorry you had to go through that, but you realize the whole point of this is to be able to have words for those specific forms of opression and awful events right?? To have experiences like that respected and treated with the seriousness they deserve right??? That is what we want.

You experienced transandrophobia, and the people you're defending right now don't want you to have a word for it, or allow only words picked by them as if they had any right to speak for you. Respect yourself more, man.

Not even rly trying to convince u but u just piss me the fuck off annoying as fuck

Hey at least you're honest, good. I don't give a fuck though, if you wanna keep hating me I have good news for you: I don't plan to ever shut the fuck up, enjoy.

The one person you hate is not me anyway, that is plain obvious... but that's a you thing to try and work on.

Sayonara dude👋🏻

[lufyuu]

(I accidentally deleted the ask last time so bare w me, I'm so sorry anon😓 , it was about how my ocs would react to a trans reader)

Well I'll start with that none of my ocs will treat you differently regardless of the fact you're cis or not! Maybe they have different thoughts of you though

➤Eun Hyunwoo

He probably didn't know you were trans before working with you. He just thought you're a very pretty man<3 I mean, there are feminine looking men in the industry too so it doesn't matter if you're feminine/masculine presenting! He'd be extra careful during sex though, he's not ready to be a father and with your job...it's impossible for you to be pregnant whilst working at the same time. He's also always going to be there for you when the gender dysphoria hits, he doesn't understand it as he himself has never felt it but he'll do anything in his power to make you feel better. He often affirms your gender by calling you all sorts of things. "My pretty boy" is what he loves to say the most. He also loves to refer to you as his boyfriend a lot. And I mean a lot. He's partially flexing the fact that he's dating you too.

➤River Sterling

Mans didn't pay much attention to you before your first meeting, but he had heard about the rumors of you being afab. He brushed it off since it's really none of his business. When anyone talks shit about you just for being trans, he's ready to give them the "shonen background character treatment" if you know what I mean lmao. He's always going to use protection during sex! You're both in your early 20s! No way he's going to be a dad! Loves the idea of it though. He probably once tried to turn you into a cis man, not because he wants you to be one, but it was when you were having major gender dysphoria. He thought he'd be a good boyfriend and give you a dick and balls. Unfortunately, even the powers of a protagonist have their limits. His efforts were still appreciated, though! Loves stroking your hair while calling you "the loveliest boy he's ever met". He's an ass at times but can be sweet when needed!

➤Liu Zihao

Couldn't care less that you're trans. He has a duty to uphold, and that is to punish you for your wrongdoings. Though he does think it's convenient since getting you pregnant would be easier now. Who could blame him for wanting to breed you full of his cum? He's been waiting for you for so long it's only right for him to take what he wants now. He isn't the type of guy to babytrap you though. Gender dysphoria? Now that, you have to explain to him. Despite being in a powerful man both in the political stand and in general, he's only learned about the laws. He doesn't really understand humans. When he does get it though, expect him to be very supportive. Maybe overly supportive. Probably empathizes the word "boy" a lot when referring to you. Not that there's a lot of people he can talk about you to. He just doesn't care what you have under your pants.

➤Han Minho

I'm not sure how this one would work as the way reader met Minho was through military training where everyone was amab but let's say they do meet. Again, doesn't care much. Though he's ready to be a father, it all depends on you whether you want to start a family with him or not. He'd rather your parents know about the situation first before anything that far happens. He doesnt strike as a guy who knows that much about gender dysphoria. Probably awkwardly caressing your back as he tries to again, awkwardly comfort you. "You're a boy..I don't know what's the problem..?", he's trying his best.

[kisakis-boyfriend]

...Top Five Charcters You'd Hit With The Transmasc Beam

And To The One Anon I'm Sorry That I'm Not Sorry

*cracks knuckles* You've opened this can of worms, now lie in it– (you're also getting 10 because the world needs more trans men/mascs. Also not listing Kafka because I already mentioned him–)

1. Arlecchino - genshin. This is one of my newer HCs, but he's equally as important as the rest. Nothing in particular spawned this HC, he just screams transmasc to me. I think he would use he/they pronouns, lean more towards masculinity, but still embrace some feminine aspects (such as androgynous/fem clothing)

2. Scaramouche - genshin. Where do I even begin with this one? A puppet created to be the Raiden Shogun (a woman), thrown away because he was "too emotional" (something typically said about women) who erased his very existence from the world (therefore erasing the person/puppet that people used to know) and reinvented himself under a new identity– yeah. I'm just going to leave it there.

3. Dabi - BNHA. This is one of my older HCs, and I will not budge on this one. Dabi is 1000% a trans guy.

4. Shigaraki - BNHA. He and Dabi have always been trans men in my mind. I was really attached to them back when I first got into BNHA, and these headcanons have stuck with me through the years.

5. Deku - BNHA. Again, I don't know why I have this HC, but trans guy Midoriya was super important to me back in the day.

6. Sho Minamimoto - TWEWY. MY BELOVED MATH NERD <3 I'm going to direct you to this post to explain my reasoning (not mine, someone else just worded it better.) His theme song is literally named "transformation". He radiates autistic tguy swag. I'm linking his song and the neo version because I think everyone should listen to it.

7. Dazai & Chuuya - BSD. It's a two for one special because you can't separate these two. They're very t4t and definitely lean on each other throughout their transitions.

8. Prompto - FFXV. It's been so long since I played this game. I think this headcanon may have been inspired by someone's fan art. Either way, Prompto will forever be a trans man in my mind now.

9. Mikey - Tokyo Rev. He immediately gave me transmasc vibes. From day one I knew that this dude was NOT cis in any universe. I think he would lean more towards nonbinary/genderfluid/other non-cis identities, as opposed to being a binary trans man.

10. Naoto Shirogane - Persona 4. I don't even consider this one a headcanon, y'all. There is a ton of evidence that points towards him being canonically a trans man, but I believe that the devs backed out at the last minute. Honestly, I could talk about the overwhelming amount of queer content in this game that is watered down or got cut from the final product, but don't even get me started– 🤬

11 (bonus). Barbara - genshin. I don't know if this HC fully counts as transmasc, but I'll list it anyway. I think this one counts more as transneutral or nonbinary, but (thanks to someone else) I do use he/they/she pronouns for Barbara and consider them not cis at all.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for changing my (30 FtM) name?

I was born with a very angrogynous/masculine name. For the sake of this post we'll say it's Alex Andrew Lastname. I was bullied for it growing up and can often see on people's faces that they were expecting someone different when they see my name first. I never liked my name growing up because I didn't think I fit the vibe. I'm just not an "Alex". But honestly, if I ever fully pass, that could change.

I recognize I've hit the trans guy jackpot. I've seen quite a few trans men change their names to my birth name, first and middle. Logically, I'd never have to change it for safety or validation reasons.

I've been using a different name for years now. My partner of 10 years doesn't know me by another name and cringes when we have to use Alex for legal paperwork. This name has been public knowledge to everyone including my family for about 8 years. We'll say this new name is "Elijah" (it is not)

The problem arises when I bring up my final legal name choice to my mom.

"Why that? I would have never named you that. I don't think it suits you." I double down and explain I like the name and don't mind the religious connotation (we went to church but she's always appropriated eastern religions, I am not religious) Additionally, SHE should have been using it all this time, even when I'm not there. She complains. "Can't I still call you Alex? I mean, I gave birth to you, I should still be able to call you Alex. I gave you that name because it was androgynous and cool, why do you want to change it?" I tell her again, no. If she's the only person deadnaming me, other people will feel they have the right to. "Can I call you Al?" No, sorry. "Can I call you Andrew? I named you after your uncle, he didn't do anything wrong."

Because she's pushing back so much, I tell her the truth. Growing up, she was abusive and negligent. When she did use my name, she said it like she hated me. When I was in trouble, when she was disagreeing with me, when she bullied me. She didn't really say my name in rare situations where she was proud because she was jealous and focused on making sure everyone knew I was cool and "unique" because I was "her kid". Because of it, I cringe when I hear my birth name. It's a strong name, a good name, even, but it makes me feel small and tired. I told her I was proud of her going to therapy, that we could start over, but that I'm asking to be respected as a person.

Shortly after I was born, she asked my grandma to draw up a tattoo of my deadname. It's a large, dark piece on her entire lower back. I told her I don't expect her to cover it, that she can keep it and mourn the name however she feels, but I'd like to get a matching, small tattoo with her to celebrate my new name if she's interested. She didn't really respond. She finally said she still doesn't like the name Elijah, but asked if she could call me Eli (yeah, obviously)

Despite all of this reaching some sort of compromise, I've heard I've made a bad decision from both sides. Some think I was too gentle and understanding and should have essentially said "fuck you this is my name take it or leave it". Others think I should have kept my deadname because there was nothing wrong with it, I'm being too emotional about it, or that I'm choosing to inconvenience others by changing things age 30. There's also the idea that no one really likes their name so it's not a great reason to change it.

AITA for having no real reason to change my name and doing so anyway?

What are these acronyms?

[steelestallion]

I’m sorry to ask you this if you’re just on here to mind your own business and be horny, but I have no idea where else to ask- I’m a cis woman who finds forcemasc really appealing, but I have mixed feelings about interacting with it because it seems to be a really T4T genre and I don’t want to disrespect anyone. Do you think it’s okay for cis women to be into it, or should I keep searching for a different similar label?

I find that masculinization kinks are really niche, so I’ve had trouble finding a label if you’re not a lesbian or are only interested in being hyper-masculine in the bedroom.

Howdy there,

I say anyone can to be into forcemasc. If cis men can be into sissification/forcefem stuff while not being trans, I think it’s only fair the opposite exist.

I think its mainly T4T stuff because trans dudes seem to be the epicenter of content and we like what we like. I would love for forcemasc to be as mainstream and popular as forcedfem, and think it would do really good to raise trans dudes and ftm content to the equal popularity of mtf and sissy content. This is just my opinion, but I think that any trans dude that says this kink only is only for a certain demographic is thinking backwards, so I say don’t worry.

What you mean by label I’m not sure, you can say you have a hypermasculinity kink. You can say you’re into forcemasc, it’s up to you to decide how far you take it. It doesn’t have to be a 24/7 fetish like a lot of content explores. It can be in the bedroom only and I think that’s a very interesting concept to explore in terms of loving masculinity and freeing it from the toxic societal cage it has.

You’re a cis woman and want to be the man in bed? Be the fucking man! You’re straight too? Make that guy your f****t! Make him call you daddy and say he loves your cock and enjoy how good it makes you feel. Or whatever Dominatrixes do that all the time just differently. And they’re still ladies outside of sex.

°˖⋆.°𓃗 .°˖⋆ °˖⋆.°˖⋆ *gallops away*

[do-you-ship-it-polls]

I am the first anon who posted about misandry. Thank you for your answer, I understand better why you posted this banner.

I just want to make a distinction between what I'd call feminist misandry and TERF misandry.

My friends are the farthest you can imagine from TERF (a lot of them are even trans). They are misandric because a lot have suffered from cis-men. For them, misandry is a protective instinct: if you meet a group of cis-men, be careful.

They hate cis-men as an oppressive group. They don't take a essentialistic view of masculinity, but a sociological one. Men are a group of power, that can abuse it, and they will protect each other. And of course, they don't include trans women in it. (A lot of the feel waaaaay safer with trans women than cis men).

That has nothing to do with TERFs, who use misandry to say "trans women are oppressors" or "trans women are essentially men"

Anyway, I understand the desire to piss off terfs and radfems. But I'd be sad if the word "misandry" was appropriated by them.

Sorry to bring that discourse, and thank you for the clarification!

genuinely don't understand why people are so deadset on identifying themselves as bigots who think 50% of humanity is out to get them. like, being against the patriarchy means you're a feminist or anti-sexist or ideally just a normal person but idk how many people agree. irrational hatred of men is not the same as wanting to knock the patriarchy down, all it does is just: be irrational hatred against men. when there's discussions like this, it also verges on "trans men aren't real men" territory because for some people, they are the exception. until they go on T and dress in a masculine way, then they're too cis man-like to participate in queer spaces (dunno how common it is, but it does happen!)

english isn't my first language, nor have I grown up in an american culture, so I wonder if it's my use of the word misandry that sets people off? like, is that a loaded word? because the definition of misandry is simply "hatred against men". it doesn't mean you feel uncomfortable with men or are scared of them, it means you hate men. I never thought that I would get so much shit for saying that it's weird to have such a deep, blind hatred for half of humanity. I don't think the word can be appropriated my radfems/terfs because there's nothing to be taken out of context, it means the same thing for anyone who uses the word.

why not just call yourself a feminist, an anti-sexist person, an anti-patriarchy person, etc etc. why do you label yourself as a person who hates all men for being born men and no matter what they do, they can never become a good person because they were born as men? I'm genuinely so baffled. not that anyone is planning on changing their mind about this, atleast not me.

thanks to the comments and asks that confirm to me that I'm not crazy for thinking this lol. also, I'm just some guy behind the screen. you can unfollow, block me, ask me to remove your submissions from the queue, whatever.

Just a fun side note, you know who started this discourse in the first place? All of this about transandrophobia and misandry?

little chihiro over on my queer blog... (I really liked the headcanon so if the person who submitted them sees this, i'm not saying it's your fault at all) just funny that it's this little cute character.

I should probably stop answering asks about his now.

[lukazade]

Foreword: it's all just my opinion! Don't freak out! Don't worry! Listen if you want, don't listen if you don't! Discuss if you want, don't if you don't! Awesome! Also man it's wordy I'm sorry!

Ok I know we've talked about zooble trans allegory and yes, agree, however. I think it's also like, something about acceptance and adjustment as a whole concept. A feeling of self actualisation,, or something. I'm gonna talk about masking now!

Some characters have adjusted implicitly to the circus (Ragatha, Jax), some have brute-force adjusted (Kinger, Pomni), and some have adjusted by refitting to their environment as it changes (Zooble, Gangle).

What I mean to say is this hints at their past lives a little more (to me);

Ragatha and Jax

Ragatha and Jax are what I would call perfect maskers. The type who do it so well they fool themselves - the type who have the sort of trauma that just can't be given to an adult. It's entwined into your birthright. Ragatha has always come across as having "eldest daughter syndrome" (if you're not sure what I mean by this, look it up!) and Jax chooses destruction and cruelty in his every play (I know men who do not know how to be Nice to others and can only bully and demean the people they even genuinely like, because of toxic masculinity being ingrained in the very fabric of being A Boy in this world- yadda yadda yawn) (note: this still makes them suck and please don't forgive people who say "this is just how I am" when they hurt you just because of whatever they've been through. You are now going through it for them.) but they don't come across as genuine. Neither of them feel genuine.

Jax wants everyone to enjoy his "banter" and thinks that them reacting is similar to them enjoying. They're partaking, after all. He doesn't like when people aren't playing along with him, but they don't play with him because his playstyle is cruelty. He's compelled to be mean. And he needs you to respond in his language - his language that is obscene and hurtful. And it gets worse as you engage with it, because he's playing with you. And not necessarily to hurt you. Just.. to hurt you. You feel me? It's a game. It's not real. Why would it upset you? Lighten up.

Ragatha wants the same, in a way. She wants to play house (needs to) because eldest daughters can never stop playing house. They've been doing it since the second the younger sibling was born. Perhaps even parented a parent, with no siblings at all to speak of. They start the job so young that they do not live in reality. They're playing house. They're the mother. And Pomni is literally child shaped, so of course she wants to nurture and care for her. And of course she wants to care for everyone, because that's what she knows how to do; she can't accept thanks for it because of course she'll take care of you. She'll take care of everything. It's nothing to be thanked for. And Pomni is her child but also,,, she's not actually. That's not her child or even A child. She'll parent her as a way to show her love, right down to, "she's too busy flirting with gummigoo to be with us, wish someone would flirt with me" (aka: "she doesn't love mommy anymore, she's abandoning mommy and growing up"). We aren't going to travel this path further in this post but if you're a freak who wants to explore it feel free! Heck. Maybe you already have explored it! Life's crazy.

Anyway. They hate each other, (Ragatha and Jax) but they get along because they're both able to, weirdly, find common ground. Ragatha gets to bite at him in an angry housewife way. He gets to bite at her because she bites back. They let off steam by arguing, where he tends to play defence to her offence, when you might assume a nasty rude cruel guy would raise his voice and deny her the right to do so. I won't go further here either because I lack evidence the deeper I go rotating these two in my mind. My evil otp. Sorry Ragatha I think you're a lesbian having weird things with Pom but you're part of my evil otp with nasty Jax because you're parallels of what the world does to its eldest sons and daughters sorreeeeey.

Pomni and Kinger

These two are. They're rotating in my mind. Yeah. Yeah they are, right there. The child he never got to have, the father figure she evidently yearns for.

These two are the type who don't adjust well. They don't mask well. They can't hold it in and lie about things, and when they do they fall apart.

Pomni is in the early stages of a new environment - she can't blend into it all even though she looks the most like a circus act. She tries, but the way it drives her up the wall, the way every good moment is also a moment waiting to strike, she can't. Until the moments she can. When it's quiet, when people are acting normal, when she's alone somewhere and can functionally talk about it. And then she's. Fine. She blends, she matches. She's just in hell, just in the circus. It's okay though.

But there's only so much talking things out can do, especially when you're stuck somewhere that actively traumatises you. Going back to therapy won't stop the bad things from happening, and so she'll loop again and again until... well, who knows! I hope we find out!

Kinger my beloved that killed his wife (?) either beforehand (while alive) OR believes so because he watched her abstract in front of him, and confused it with killing her. Who knows. His real life and his life in the circus are one and the same, he can't pick them apart. Because he never did adjust. It all slams into him every time, he needs that quiet, dark, emotional place that Pomni is still reaching for. But he has accepted that he doesn't fit and can't reach. He's literally a piece from a set. A set with no other pieces. Nobody else is from a set; Pomni maybe counts as part of a Circus Objects set. But she is in a circus. She might be able to adjust with time; Kinger does not fit. Cannot adjust. An outsider who (if we're to believe that was his life, in the haunted house ep) was paranoid and lived away from society (with the one matching set piece that he got to have, his queen). And in killing her, lost his ability to be in a set. To have kids. Uh. Pawns if you will. He has no place, and though he cannot truly adjust, though he remembers himself fairly easily in private (something the best maskers don't necessarily get to have; whew boy let me tell you sometimes the mask feels more real than the skin!!), he has accepted it. He has adjusted. Episode 3 there's so much more in you that I'm not seeing.. there's more I should be able to see.. idk what though. But he knew it was his own life. 100%. Also I believe in ep 4 gummigoo remembered his past life as an NPC v.1 idk where else to say that tho. I'm putting it here I believe.

And now we nearly reach the end! Are you still with me folks? And do you like my informal writing style? Thanks! University hated it! I'm shocked that I have a degree!

Zooble and Gangle

These two literally in canon adapt and change themselves to fit in. They're not perfect maskers, but they're also not the type who can't mask. The perfect maskers need their situation to gradually change, the ones who can't mask need things not to change. But change is in the nature of these two. Adapting is what they do. Gangle literally changes her mask right in front of others (think.. code-switching? I guess!) Zooble offers her a mask she thinks might help. Changes up her limb pieces. They are adaptable. But they diverge.

Zooble steps out of anything she doesn't want to do, anything she can't handle, but this is because she is constantly trying to find the right "body parts." She is so interested in the introspective, in the self, that the affectation of the outside just slides right off her. Jax wishes! She is able to ignore everything because the most important thing to her is her sense of self. Never mind how it fits in with others. Her apathy is only for things that cannot help her - she holds empathy and gentleness deep within herself, and gives it to those who care or relate to her struggle. She isn't close to the Perfect Maskers because they fundamentally cannot understand her (Ragatha wants to just go with it and let each adventure play out and end. Over and over. Something to do. // Zooble doesn't want to be distracted from the self actualisation of finding her "correct" body parts. Adventure outside is nothing for her (literally episode 4 couldn't touch her lmao she just did her job good for her)).

And Gangle. Oh sweet Gangle. Ever the bottom of the dog pile, ever the hurt and wounded one, needs to be loved, wants to be loved, but can't ask. So instead she matches her mask to what the people need (or to a tantrum that perhaps This Time someone will care about, maybe, please). Gangle gets to be in charge in ep 4 and immediately becomes Boss From Hell. This is a person who wants to have attention paid to her, but also who feels undeserving or too unimportant. So when given control, of course she doesn't know how to do it in a way that works. It just isn't in her wheelhouse! And whew, everyone has caused heaps of trouble during the circus, but the one time she causes chaos, she blames herself and settles away outside of the group. But she is trying to pursue a sense of self by trying different masks, trying different ways to fit in. She can mask, and will mask, but her sense of self claws out. Her emotional, sensitive self. Tears of a crybaby are easy to write off. Contentment/happiness are even easier to write off. But uncomfortable emotions beg to be seen and heard. Manic mask(?) was extreme in a way that is uncomfortable for the others, and for herself, as it caused a weird little freaky outburst (like anger, jealousy, etc - they result in choice words and actions fairly often). I said good for her even while I was scared of her ngl good for her for real. She can mask fine, she just doesn't truly want to. She does, to make things work. But it's clear from the beginning that masking is just a gimmick to play along and feel part of something, it's clear she's just aching to feel something real and honest. And, just as Ragatha/Jax and Zooble can't get along, Gangle also can't get along with them; she isn't good at playing house. They both aren't into playing house, they want to express something real, either through correct body parts, or through hobbies (like art).

These groups fundamentally form and overlap where they intersect. There are dynamics that are clear, and dynamics that are untapped. Those who can play house, those who won't play house, and those who don't even know what street the dang house is on.

In conclusion

Shit I'm bad at conclusions..

TL;DR

That sounds less daunting. The characters all represent something to me that I think is cool :) and also may not matter at all in the grander scheme! I am always trying to think of the "what do they want" concept when they interact with adventures/caine/each other. Jax is the most interesting to me because he's the best masker on the team. "But he's just like that" you cry. No~ there's something that does that, even if it's nothing you notice. Breathing in tobacco smoke can still give you lung diseases - even if you didn't smoke! Kinger is my fav though uwu I'm an Ice King enthusiast ofc I'm gonna pick up another traumatised and confused old man he's in my basket rn as we speak.

Anyway hope you enjoyed my writing style, this is just how I like to talk. And I felt it was on theme with the vibes of the show hahahaha hope you had fun - also it's 1am, forgive me if I went off topic like 60 times 🥰 I swear I had something to say!