#and that hell was generally a LGBTQ+ positive place

[out-of-heaven-and-hell]

Also questioning Vivs world building a bit if homophobia exists then why is there no examples of transphobia?

[kinffirmations]

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[leighlew3]

Hi Leigh!

I hope you don't mind me asking this, but because of your knowledge of the industry, I'm genuinely curious about your thoughts on the whole Warrior Nun situation. With everything going on - fandom noise, all the articles, Netflix CEO commenting, etc - what do you, realistically, think is going to happen? Not only with the show itself but also within the industry. Like, do you think it will have an impact in any way? I've personally never witnessed a streaming service getting so much negative criticism before, but it reminds me of the time around Lexa's death on The 100 and all that followed. It feels like "bury your gays" turned into "cancel your gays" and if nothing else, I just hope all these WLW shows getting cancelled leads to some changes - but again, is that something you see happening?

Buckle up, this is gonna be a novel...

In all honesty if this was a couple years ago, or even just one year ago I would say it might make people less likely to drop LGBTQ shows, absolutely.

But with everything that’s happened over the last year… sadly, I think Hollywood will do what Hollywood so often does and take all the wrong lessons from this and become even more paranoid about greenlighting LGBTQ (and in particular wlw) shows in the first place, for fear if it doesn’t work out they’ll have a widespread backlash from the LGBTQ community and risk being labeled as homophobic. aka “We don’t have to worry about pissing people off with cancellations if we don’t make the shows in the first place.” aka “Not worth the trouble.” could be the perspective of people in charge in the coming days.

Lexa’s death on The 100 taught the lesson that it’s (generally) NOT okay to bury your gays. And then Supercorp on Supergirl sent the message that queerbait is outdated as hell, and just plain embarrassing and unacceptable now (aka either deliver and go there, or stop teasing it and state outright you never will). 

So, I’d love to say Warrior Nun will teach people not to cancel wlw shows that have strong fanbase, but based on recent statements it’s clear that in this case they’re running with the (hard to buy) defense that it wasn’t successful and the fanbase was “small” (?!), or at least not successful and big enough for the budget it required to keep going. So between that + the many, many wlw shows that have been lost over the last year to cancellations... it’s pretty bleak right now, tbh. Recent events overall, even beyond WN, is just likely sending the message to TPTB that it’s risky doing shows featuring (lead especially) LGBTQ rep, in particular shows with wlw rep. It’s sending the message that wlw shows simply don’t perform to the level needed. 

And rather than look at the REAL reason WHY something failed to reach a broader audience or meet someone’s invisible and undefined standards for renewal, TPTB in many cases could sadly chalk it up to “queer women don’t sell” even though there could be so many other reasons a show didn’t reach the level of audience they deem acceptable for a renewal, including but not limited to: bad or limited marketing by the network or streamer themselves and/or lack of time to garner a proper audience (a struggle many streamers have with their shows in general, even outside of LGBTQ rep), or maybe it’s on TPTB behind a show itself aka it simply had subpar writing and poor production value, or bad acting/casting, or lack of chemistry for the lead duo, or just plain terrible creative decisions (see The Wilds Season 2 making a show about girls into a show about boys) etc etc. 

I mean, Dickinson was effing brilliant, fantastic casting and chemistry, incredibly clever and heartfelt writing, solid production value, overwhelmingly positive reviews -- but it never got the marketing it should have had. And thus it quietly came and went, left its mark on its core fans, but was at least able to end in the way they wanted if nothing else, after 3 short seasons. 

Look, one of the most successful streaming series of all time that literally helped launch the format -- was the sapphic as hell Orange is the New Black. But OITNB was the perfect recipe. It was well written, fantastically cast, had organic buzz galore, award noms -- but it also had big marketing. It was the ideal alignment of ALL vital elements coming together to work. 

And I think that show really paved the way for a lot more queer wlw content to emerge, and fill the streamers especially. Alas, sadly, the bubble burst. And it burst for many reasons, including political theater in real life and an attack on LGBTQ rights of late. But for two big reasons, from a strictly industry side: lack of proper marketing for some shows, and lack of quality from others. 

I mean, let’s face it, some of the wlw series that have been axed the last year or two were not always high quality shows overall (I mean come on, some were on The CW for a reason). And it may seem like “But, cishet shows can be silly or cringey or lame and last for years!” Yes, absolutely. And that’s incredibly unfair that LGBTQ audiences can’t have shows that are just straight up camp or have mediocre writing or acting but are still loved by fans and last for a while. But that’s the hierarchy. It’s heteronormative bs and it’s not right, but it’s just how things are until we can successfully change them. The community has to work twice as hard to be taken seriously. And for LGBTQ BIPOC in particular, sadly one can stack those obstacles even more. 

So, I think for the next few years, shows with wlw representation in the TV space (and otherwise) -- well, they’re going to have to check a LOT of boxes in terms of overall quality, casting, concept, execution, talent on screen and bts, etc and then be grabbed up by a partner that truly believes in it enough to properly promote it -- in order for it to stand a real chance at sticking around. 

Warrior Nun had most of the elements above, alas much like Dickinson -- it just did not have the marketing support it needed. Meanwhile others shows had the marketing -- but honestly just weren’t that great in terms of quality, so fans simply didn’t latch on as much, and who could blame them. 

And thus, here we are. So do I think the widespread backlash around Warrior Nun’s cancellation, and fans’ amazing efforts to fight back will have any lasting effect on how Hollywood makes cancellation decisions? In the past I would have said 100%. But for now, I sadly kinda doubt it, because its cancellation was just the latest (but arguably biggest) in a long list of cancellations. 

If anything, right now Hollywood execs may actually feel emboldened to just go with the flow, take the social media fury from fans, and do what they’re gonna do -- with no regard for impact on the LGBTQ community. They also can hide behind the excuse of “Lots of shows and projects are being cancelled left and right, LGBTQ shows are no exception nor being specifically targeted, LGBTQ fans just don’t see the bigger picture. For every LGBTQ show canned, there’s 10 shows about straight people that are dead too.” And I say this -- because I had this said to me recently by someone with power in the industry. Alas what these people don’t understand is it’s NOT the same. Because LGBTQ content is so limited already that the community can’t afford to lose any more. And those 10 cishet shows that got the axe? They’ll just be replaced with 10 more next year. Meanwhile LGBTQ shows? Are less likely now to be greenlit after all this. 

And that’s disheartening. And it’s not okay. 

TLDR: I dunno how all of this will play out for sure. I HOPE the Warrior Nun situation changes something for the better, I just... right now, at this exact moment in time, I don’t feel super confident that it will. I think we just need to get through this painful period in LGBTQ media history and hopefully come out the other side better off somehow, likely after a show with wlw rep hopefully comes along soon that has both the quality AND marketing to truly succeed.

[thebendsbyradiohead]

For the ask thing, something(s) I've always wondered

which country is better for living in general that you've lived in

which country do you prefer to live in

das all i got for now

oh wow that's a great question!

short answer for both: netherlands

long answer: it's complicated and it's getting more so as time goes on and i am faced with more "adult" responsibilities. there are parts of all countries i've lived in that i liked and parts that i hated (except for the US, i genuinely hated that place it was hell on earth)

i think out of all of them (netherlands, macedonia and the US), i would say the netherlands is the best for living in general altho honestly, the quality of life is starting to waver with this inflation and cost of living crisis lol and there is pros and cons to everything. i like the fact that they offer social benefits like healthcare allowance if you don't earn enough to cover your monthly premium, but it pisses me off to no end that they have privatized healthcare & are hellbent on making it even worse. i love that it has gorgeous parks and infrastructure that allows you to get comfortably to places without a car but i hate the fact that i pay almost 40% income tax for that while giant corporations like booking and IKEA pay jack shit. i love that (rotterdam at least) is so international and diverse but i don't like the fact that most of the dutch usually keep to themselves and rarely extend the grace of a deeper relationship or community towards the immigrants. i love love love the attention to and investing in the culture like museums festivals etc but i hate the fact that it's almost nigh impossible to find a place to live or buy a house without paying off a loan for the rest of your life. i love the freedom and rights afforded to the lgbtq community and the progressive approach to drug criminalization, but i hate how for all their sticking to the rules and laws with bullshit bureaucracy they can just say "yeah, nothing we can do" when they find lead pipes in my house which are supposed to be illegal. there is a combination of stubborn rule obedience and extreme individual responsibility associated with their culture but also neoliberalism govt policies which is starting to really frustrate me because i guess i expected more (or idealized the west too much lmao).

that being said, you couldn't pay me to go back to macedonia. i spent a year there during the first covid lockdown and i for sure would not go back to live permanently there again. my bulgarian friend who also lived in the nl for a long while went back and i honestly can't imagine how lol. i like the sense of community but not at the expense of being stripped off any socially undesirable parts of you (or maybe i was just surrounded by shitty people who knows). i like the laissez-faire attitude in our culture but not in the governments. i love the food and the weather, but it's not worth the horrible unemployment & toxic air in winter. i hate the religiousness, the conservativism, the judgement, the resistance to any kind of progress, the in-group mentality, all of it. for all my struggles in the NL, i wouldn't trade them for a life in macedonia and i honestly think if i stayed i wouldn't be here typing this. not that i'm not depressed here and life is happy go lucky 100% but now that i've experienced better & know another side of life i can't go back to before but explaining this is difficult if you haven't been thru it bc people just assume you're an uppity diaspora person. i love my country i just wished it loved me back

i honestly can't think of a single positive thing about living in the US but that's also marred by the fact i was a broke exchange student in san francisco with 4 crazy roommates (well 5 but the fifth one was a scottish marxist exchange student who i loved so i don't count her) in a flea-infested hovel. i adored NYC but i was there for a week so i can't say i experienced living there.

notable mention: i loved staying in oxford when i was 16 because it was so walkable and public transport was so accessible i would literally just wander around on my own reading but it was a one month staying with a host family type of situation and also 10 years ago, before they started fully collapsing so that's probably just nostalgia speaking

[madi2112]

The worst scenario.

Two weeks into my new position and all was going well...

Until

I got blindsided.

Now I'm questioning what I want to do. Do I stay where I am and deal with the garbage? Do I cancel my transfer and go back to Tony's ? Do I look to go somewhere else and run the risk of a repeat?

Your probably asking " What the hell is she talking about?"

Let me explain.

After transferring to another department at work I've been trying to learn and understand all the various parts of my new position.

None of it is rocket science but there are a lot of details and procedures I need to get familiar with.

Today I was at The Yacht and Beach Club Convention Center trying to remember all the processes that go along with opening.

I was never really given a detailed breakdown of the steps included only a quick gloss over.

So today I did remember that there is a dedicated phone for the Convention Guide that I needed to have with me.

Right now I'm so new that I can't image someone calling me for information about anything really.

So the trainer handed me the phone and reminded me I needed it.

Ok. Fair enough.

Unfortunately who ever used the phone earlier in the morning forgot to erase a text conversation they had.

About me.

Using a very derogatory slur.

It came from a manager to the very trainer I worked with the week before.

Unfortunately the subject was dealing with the single issue I'm most sensitive about and one I was hoping wouldn't be a problem.

Yes, transitioning.

Of course.

I took a screen shot of the slur and went to the top Manager in the department. A formal investigation is now underway.

So now I'm left in a bad place.

I'm uncomfortable being at this location and hate that this has become an issue. It also makes me angry because I've done nothing but be nice, energetic, friendly and tried to gain as much knowledge as I can.

All to have it undermined by one person's intentional slur.

Now the can of worms is open and the corrosive questions are unleashed.

Does this manager use slurs to other members of the LGBTQ community or just about transpeople?

Do they use slurs about other groups in general? If I had been in a wherl chair would they have used "cripple" to describe me?

Does thier dislike of me because of my transition effect decision about my assignments or positions?

Has this person done this to others?

How much do they say verbally as opposed to in a text on a company phone?

A manager should know better. All managers take classes concerning Inclusiveness. I know because I teach those very things in the classes I do. In fact the newest of the Disney 5 Keys is Inclusion!

I really hate that now I feel it's partly my fault, when I know that's not true. All I've done is exsist. Which some people have a problem comprehending.

Now I hate what has happened at work and feel sick to my stomach.

Here is the text in question:

Is this the tip of the iceberg or am I making too much out of a simple little offensive slur?

Let me know if I'm over reacting or am right to be alarmed.

Either way I know how it makes me feel.

Ick!!!

~Madison

[cascaria]

Sucks being a Christian because the core fundamental ideas of it, the reason I still identify with the faith (beyond any intangible, spiritual reasons) despite everything, are unconditional Love and Acceptance. And yet for millenia it has been and still widely is twisted and molested and perverted into a basis and justification for hatred and oppression. The amount of people I've seen driven away from a God I recognize as Love because the loudest voices that claim to serve Him use Him as authority on which to blasphemously base their own hatred and evil is genuinely sickening. They are not fighting the good fight, they are not standing up against "persecution". They are actively damaging and even ending the lives of those who need Love the most just because they can't stomach the idea of someone being different. Of someone existing outside their shallow and propagandized view of the world. There are Christians getting their heads chopped off over seas but Trans people just trying to exist peacefully is persecution??

There is a special place in Hell for anyone that uses God or the Bible as a justification or basis for the oppression and otherizarion of LGBTQ+ individuals. Just as there is a special place in Hell for anyone that uses God or the Bible as justification or basis for the oppression and subjugation of women, or of other ethnicities, or of those with disabilities, or any other aspect that may make them different from the cishet white men spewing blasphemy from the pulpet, indoctrinating generations of impressionable people into believing an innocent stranger is a threat to their very existence. I usually try and skew positive with my online presence and stay away from hefty topics, I just want to spread a little Love and/or happiness at the end of the day, but this has been weighing on my mind lately and I felt the need to say something, even if I'm just yelling into the void. If nothing else to put on record what I mean when I say I'm a Christian, or rather what I don't mean.

I know some people mean well, I know some people just don't know any better. I know because I was there. I was raised in that exact way, I believed all the rhetoric fed to me. It wasn't until I disconnected from the constant stream of poison and actually made friends from different walks of life that I realized how wrong it all was. Still, ignorance is no excuse, and evil is still evil. People raised as slave owners back in the day weren't innocent just because they didn't know that slavery was wrong. They still held the whip.

God is Love. He is not your fucking gun to murder all the innocent people you don't like with. If you can't respect that, keep His name out of your fucking mouth.

Peace and Love on planet Earth.

[gayraccoonthing]

Okay, I just got back from my two day trip and LET ME TELL YOU, I'm not lying when I say that shit was fucking AMAZING!

(Small note, this is mostly about the LGBTQ rep there. There was a lot of awesome POC rep, too, but I don't feel qualified to talk about that.)

So, first, we went to the Minnesota zoo (pretty awesome ngl) and saw lots of cool animals and scenery (shit was expensive tho lmao).

Then I got to go to Barnes and nobles (fucking score) got some Adam silvera books and left for the science museum.

And when I tell you this museum was one of the best places I've ever been in, I MEAN IT.

Because HOLY SHIT, it was so welcoming and inclusive, and that's not even going into detail right now. (Images and positive rant under cut)

OKAY! I'll do my best to describe the pictures a bit. Let me go on this positive rant about the museum and it's LGBTQ inclusivity because OH MY GOD.

So, we explored the first floor exhibitions a bit before going off to the omni theater (think movie theater but with a big ass screen that's curved to give the illusion you're in the place it shows on screen, hella headache inducing but fun. Don't recommend it for those with light, sound, or just general sensitivity issues. If I wasn't sensory seeking, it'd be hell.) And the ads go on the screen (ads for the museum, not other companies) and this comes up!

It's hard to read, but I figured a visual may help.

The header at the top says, "Pride in STEM" the paragraph below states as following, "We celebrate the scientists creating a world that's inclusive instead of exclusive, diverse instead of uniform, and powered by the communities they hold. Together, we can make a better place for science itself. Learn more at 500queerscientists.com" and FUCK, if I didn't already love the museum enough.

We go through all the exhibits and floors, all extremely awesome and educational, very hands-on (lots of hand sanitizer too) the dinosaur section was awesome, I loved sportsology (I don't even like sports), the human body section was fascinating, seeing the natural life in Minnesota was so cool, the musical stairs were so fucking fun, the tugboat was amazing, and there's so much more I loved.

And then the giftshop. God damn I loved that gift shop. (What's that one meme? The tumblr post. The one with the three dragons, idk.) And I start to look through, and there's an LGBTQ section!!! It's small, but it's so much more than any other gift shop I've seen.

(Picture from far away, couldn't get too close because my mom) (also, no more images in this post from here on, just so you know)

I ended up getting some awesome enamel pins and a small magnet and cheap button pin. And in the pin display, there was a whole lgbtq section for pins!! I got this trans dopamine test tube pin (pray to God my mom didn't see, I had to get brave and ask the person myself, lmao) unfortunately I didn't get a picture of the pin display, but it was so fucking awesome to see.

The staff were all so nice, SO FUCKING NICE YOU HAVE NO IDEA.

but this one lady at the register for the gift shop, I swear, she's amazing. I walked up with my pins to pay, and she looks at me, and I see her protect trans kids pin and her she/her pronoun pin, and I don't think I've ever felt more safe and secure in my life. And she looks at my pins (either my aroace pin on my bag or my new trans pin, no idea) and says to me, "you're just like me, I don't see a lot of people like us here." In such a sweet voice, I swear to God I MELTED right then and there (not actually, but in my head I'm screaming with pure happiness) and she smiles at me the whole time, and I'm just so fucking happy!

And on my way out, this person almost walks into me, and they say, "Sorry there, son." And, OH. MY. GOD. SON!!!! They looked at me, this 5'4, not passing at all, long hair, fem faced, me, and called me son!!! It could have so easily been some mistake (probably was), but, God, it feels so damn nice to be called son by a stranger! The gender euphoria is real rn.

I genuinely love that museum so much. It fills me with life.

So, if you're ever in St. Paul MN and looking for a good museum I highly encourage you to go there. It's amazing and I love it.

[a34trgv2]

It's Complicated: My Spiritual Beliefs vs The World

I'm a Christian. Or, at least, I'm a flawed Christian. I thought I had grown spiritually since being baptized in Jesus' name and receiving the gift of the Holy Ghost back in 2014. The reality is my beliefs have become more complicated as I try to balance my spiritually beliefs with my own personal beliefs. This is gonna be a long post so I'd strap in if I were you.

Let's start with what I believe wholeheartedly. I believe there is one God and His name is Jesus. I also believe the 10 Commandments are valid and reasonable decrees, that the Devil is a bully and a liar, and that Heaven and Hell are real places. While these beliefs shouldn't be controversial, things get a little more complicated when it comes to the other things Christians believe.

Christianity generally believes you must always forgive people even when it's hard. While it's true Jesus forgives everyone, the mentality that you MUST forgive people doesn't sit right with me. As far back as I can remember, forgiveness has always been a choice, not a requirement. By saying you have to forgive someone, you not giving people the right to choose, which God did in the very beginning. I don't think you should force or be critical of someone who chooses not to forgive. That's their choice; you don't have to agree with it, but you should empathize with them.

Another hot topic when it comes to Christianity in regards to homosexuality. It's well documented that Christianity considers homosexual practices a sin and is the catalyst for the destruction of nations such as Sodom and Gomorrah and the Roman Empire. I once thought similarly that it was undoubtedly sinful when I was uneducated and naive. Now that I'm older and have done actual research, I don't think it's as black and white as I once thought. The term "homosexual" was only coined recently in the 1800s and wasn't in the original Hebrew text of the Bible. Christians point to Leviticus 18:22 as proof positive that homosexuality is a sin, though what's often left out is the context. Leviticus comprises of what God was telling His people what to do and what not to do through Moses when constructing their own nation. It's also worth noting that God never elaborated on what He meant by "Thou shall not lie with mankind as with womankind." Who is "thou?" Thou Moses? Thou the people of Israel? Were all the people of Isreal male? No, there were women too, so was the verse just applied to the men? If so, why not specify that? And why not specify that the problem isn't being so much a man being affectionate with another man, but being lustful as he would a woman is an abomination? Literally everybody agrees that perverts are the real bane of humanity's existence, so why not say that instead of being vague? This is why I can't in good conscience be anti-LGBTQ; there's no objective answer to whether being gay is actually good or not.

One aspect about my beliefs that I have a hard time grappling with is prayer. Try as I might, I just can't kneel down and talk to an invisible God that doesn't talk back in a voice that's above a whisper. I've seen other Christians get really into prayer, to the point where they're crying and speaking in tongues. Me, though, I just can't get myself that emotional when I'm praying. I don't know if it's because I'm not as emotional of a person or prayer just isn't the best method for me to communicate with God. Either way, I just can't pray honestly without making it look awkward, like I'm talking to nothing... no one.

I'm not really a fan of the idea of forcing Christianity down people's throats. Like, it seems a really counter productive to force people to renounce their way of living in favor of living for Christ. Again, everyone has to have the right to choose. God specifically created man with the right to choose. I do agree that Christians should continue to preach the gospel and offer people an opportunity to join the church. That said, I personally draw the line at telling people they have to join the church or else they'll go to Hell. To someone who's not a Christian, being told they'd go Hell if they don't follow God's commandments to a tee and be just like Jesus makes it sound more like a cult than a religion. I don't want to give off the wrong impression so I think it's best to treat others with dignity and respect and offer them a business card to my church than to go on a long winded sermon about how this world is entering a dark age.

I don't know when Jesus Christ is coming back, but I don't think it's gonna be in my lifetime. I've listened to many sermons that say look out for the signs and that the day is coming. There's been a lot of wars, earthquakes, famine, all that stuff. You'd think Jesus would've come back by now with the amount of catastrophes that happened these past 20 years alone. But even after going to war with Iraq and Afghanistan, a massive earthquake decimating Haiti, famine ravaging Eastern Africa, and even someone as diabolical and cruel as Osama Bin Laden breathing the same air as the people he's killed for 54 years, Jesus hasn't come back yet. This leads me to think that should he return to this world, it'll be long after I'm already dead. That's okay, though, because I'll still make it to Heaven.

I don't know what to do. If I fully commit myself to God and live like my fellow Christian breathern, I make myself ignorant or apathetic to real world issues that aren't as black and white as I once thought. But if I'm not 100% committed to my faith, I'm seen as less of a Christian by my peers. I wish God could respond to this post and tell me honestly what He thinks about all this. Anyway, thanks for listening to me ramble. Have a blessed day

[fahrni]

The Musk Files - Nazis, Gore, and a new CEO

Turkish Minute

Twitter succumbs to Erdoğan’s pressure, silences key voices in Turkey on election eve

Space Karen really wants to live in a racist, white, Christofascist America.

The Verge

Twitter 1.0 was particularly notable for standing up to government censorship around the world. Twitter 2.0 under Elon Musk is actively complying with authoritarian government censorship demands ahead of elections.

See statement on the first link. I like this version because Nilay Patel called the post Welcome to Hell. Accurate.

NBC News

Graphic videos of animal abuse have circulated widely on Twitter in recent weeks, generating outrage and renewed concern over the platform’s moderation practices.

Psychopaths like to torture and kill animals. Twitter is the perfect place for them! It already has a narcissist sociopath as an owner. Why not add some psychopaths?

Ars Technica

Graphic images from a Texas mass shooting on Saturday that killed nine (including the gunman) and wounded seven are still circulating on Twitter after spreading virally all weekend.

So, yeah, more of the same disturbing behavior as the link above. What’s wrong with these people?

The Beaverton

KINGSTON, ON – Queen’s University has reached out to Elon Musk offering eight dollars a month to stop telling people he attended the higher learning institution.

This is an older link and I’m not sure if I’ve already posted it but I don’t care because it’s funny and perhaps a new way Space Karen could grift more cash out of folks to pay for his $44 billion mistake?

Robert Stribley

Instead, he’s making changes to satisfy the whims of his real core audience now, a ramshackle collective of alt-right extremists, Proud Boy/white supremacist types and Q-Anon whackos.

More on the abuse of the LGBTQ+ community at the hands of Twitter’s new policies. This article about the plight of the Transgender community in particular.

Variety

Elon Musk Confirms Linda Yaccarino as Twitter’s New CEO, Focused on Business Operations

Oh, look, he’s finally picked a new CEO. Perhaps Ms. Yaccarino will be able to figure out how to make money for the company now they’ve lost many of their best advertisers.

Good luck.🍀

Also, over or under on her making it six months in the position?🎲

[capofthink]

Cap Of Think Status Update: Recent Tooth Surgery

Maybe I Will Do A Surgery To Remove A Decayed Tooth In The Deep Top of My Mouth In A Few Days, In That Period, If I Don't Appear Online, Doing What I Usually Do Aside From Productivity (Playing Videogames or Watching Tokusatsu) That is, Commenting On Other Places, Also Insulting Motherfucking Bastards On A Daily Basis Everywhere On Literally Any Website this Scum is into, And Making their Lifes Harder On Purpose, ALL For the Sake of Slowing Down and Stopping Manking's Self Destruction Process those Worms Are Causing, As Well As to Make that Scum Pay For Throwing Someone Talented and Highly Intellectualized Like me into Oblivion When I Should be on a High Ranked Position on Places Like Soleruin And Such, As that Scum STILL Trashtalked me EVERYWHERE To Put on ME, The Blame for the Crimes and sins the Motherfuckers Themselves Have Commited....

It's Because I Am Taking A Brief Rest From it Before Returning To My Usual Routine--Since I Will Take A General Anhestesia for it to Happen, If That Soleruin Scum, That Stupid Bitch Of Auturd, That Failure Imposing As A Man Of Topaz, That Worm Swimming on it's Own Vomit of Sodareishi, That Four Eyed Vietcong Platypus Of Assassin Knight, That Cuban Wimp Of SWTerra, That Faggot Son Of A Bitch Of Brunton, That Scoundrel Bastard Of Zackary Burguess, That Afeminated Deception Imposing As A Man Of William Baker/Novabear/Yershibear Whateaver the Fuck You Call that Faggot Or Any Of  Those LGBTQ+ Abominations Unworthy of Being Part of the Human Race Can See This, I Hope You're Satisfied Of Yourself Because I AM SURE This was a CURSE Some of you Motherfuckers Have Thrown into me To Be Sure I WOULDN'T Interfere and Stop Your Crap, For my Tooth is hurting Like HELL!

SO MUCH I Can't Even Play Or Produce Anything When it's Starts Hurting, I NEVER Had Tooth Problems and My Mouth Health Was A EXAMPLE For Others to Follow Around Me, But OH ENJOY The Brief Rest While You CAN You Satanic Plague Of Humanity, And I Say You're BETTER RUN AND HIDE While You Can, Because When I Come Back after the Recovery, I Will BE SURE YOU ABOMINATIONS WILL REGRET BEING BORN ON THIS WORLD JUST TO POLLUTE IT AND THROWING THIS CURSE UPON ME!!!!!!!

[eulangelo]

callout for @genderfluidlucifer

google docs

tw for transmisogyny + TERFs + emotional manipulation

Transmisogyny

Lucifer is a huge transmisogynist who will complain 24/7 about how TERFs hurt the ace community, but the moment @randomclustermissile , a trans girl (who is not an exclusionist at all) tries to point out transmisogyny in inclusionist circles (in the most vague and general way possible, without pointing fingers nor calling anyone names) Lucifer will immediatly jump to block her and so they did with me (another inclusionist) and i have to suppose to everyone else who agreed with that post, even arriving to vagueing about us in private group chats to suggest that we were “sympathizing with exclusionists”. all because we dared point out transmisogyny in inclusionist circles. lucifer is TME but apparently they think they’re the authority on TERFs and their talking points but actual trans women are not, according to them, since this is the stuff that they would go and spew to other people. (screenshots from @enbyoctoling​)

here’s more examples of Lucifer (again, a transmasc person) going deep in detail about how according to them, TERFs/SWERFs hate aro/ace people and are an active threat to us

1. link

[Image ID: Three screenshots of a post by Genderfluidlucifer. The first screenshot is of a paragraph that reads, "Hey. So I can actually answer this. Anon your commentary about how you thought terfs would approve of sex repulsed aces is sort of it. Except...not. Basically terfs hate ace people for not wanting sex in the approved by terfs way. Terfs are actually extremely interested in [forcing] amatonormativity onto everyone. Because for as sex negative as terfs are...they don't want to actually acknowledge or change the fact that amatonormativity is at the root cause of rape culture and misogyny."

The second screenshot is a zoomed in section of the post that reads, "So yeah no I have NO idea where exclus allies are getting this idea from that terfs would even remotely care about the sexual rights of ace people. Terfs generally hate any sexualities in the LGBTQ+ acronym that aren't LGB because they can't force a gender binary onto those sexualities. At least, not as easily. That's why it's actually a massive sign of someone who doesn't call themselves a terf being a crypto terf if they use the term LGB in a positive manner. Along with the term SGA, as it is deliberately exclusive of nonbinary and not inherently SGA centric queer-aligned sexualities. /END ID]

link to the full post, these are just excerpts but the whole thing is just a very long rant about how TERFs hate ace people and so on (i think it’s worth noticing that although the actual post is kinda long, trans women are never once brought op in a conversation about TERFs issues and the only time transmisogyny is mentioned is not relevant to the conversation)

2. link

[Image ID: A screenshot of a reblog by genderfluidlucifer. The original poster is nothorses. It reads, "Because apparently I have to say it: Testosterone is not a 'violent' hormone. It doesn't make you 'more aggressive' or a worse person, it doesn't make you 'dangerous,' or 'toxic.' Transmascs do not need to be 'warned of the dangers of T.' We do not need to spend our transitions terrified that we're going to become a danger to those around us - that HRT is going to turn us into a monster.

Everyone experiences mood swings during hormonal shifts (pregnancy, menstruation, menopause, estrogen HRT, etc.) and while you might have grumpy moments or feel anger/frustration that you need to learn to handle differently, that doesn't make you a bad person.

Testosterone can change the way you access/process emotions somewhat, but if you're already thoughtful about how you handle your feelings and treat others, you're going to be fine. It's normal to lash out on occasion, by accident, then apologize and work to do better. It doesn't make you a bad person. Everyone on HRT is prone to this, and everyone experiencing hormonal changes is prone to this.

Getting HRT should be positive and affirming; you should not have to spend your entire transition terrified of becoming a monster."

The post then has a reblog by captainlordauditor that reads, "The big danger of T is that needle ouchy." /END ID]

here’s them reblogging from known transmisogynist user @nothorses (once again, the irony that a post about how testosterone is seen as the "aggressive hormone" does not mention transfem at all which are literally the main victims of this rethoric in the first place)

3. link (1), link (2)

[Image ID: Two screenshots of posts by genderfluidlucifer. The first screenshot reads, "Queer exclus: We're not repackaging terf rhetoric! Saying that is transmisogynistic! Also queer exclus: Remove the plus from LGBT!" and has tags that say, "I will pay these people to grow some god damn self awareness. Imagine being this dense. Queer discourse." The post has 15 notes.

The second screenshot reads, "Honestly it is so stupid and frustrating to see ace exclus continue to deny that the ace discourse was started by terfs. Proof was given countless times. And a big name terf like galesofnovember even admitted to starting it. Those of you who demand proof but ignore all of this never wanted proof to begin with." and is tagged with, "ace discourse. The post has 38 notes. /END ID]

heres another two post of theirs conflating TERFs with ace exclusionism

4. link

[Image ID: A screenshot of a reblogged post by furbearingbrick. The original poster is boxlizard, Lucifer's old account. The original post reads, "By the way for people still in denial about it, here's galesofnovember, a terf, admitting that she intended to start the ace exclus movement. She's taking credit for it. Normally if the victims of this behavior weren't ace/aro or other queer identities y'all be ready to rightfully lynch her. But since it's us, y'all just still wanna stamp your feet and go, 'Nuh uh!' instead of acknowledging facts." The part that says, "admitting that she intended to start the ace exclus movement" is a link to a galesofnovember post.

There is then a reblogged addition from furbearing brick that reads, "archived versions of the receipts" and has two links to the webarchive. The tags read, "Bringing this back since it's apparently still relevant. Terfism mention. Aphobia mention. Queerphobia mention. Blocklist." and has 1,455 notes. /END ID]

this is their post that ive already talked about but basically they found a 52 notes post made by a TERF in 2012 and this one person said "i dont know why i dont get to be the princess of the anti-ace-brigade" and apparently they are convinced that this means TERFs started the ace exclusionism movement and that this is one of their goals. which is insane when TERFs in real life only care about making life miserable for transfem people first and foremost.

5.link

[Image ID: A screenshot of a reblog by genderfluidlucifer. The original poster is yu-gay-fudo. It reads, “Just in case you happen to be unaware, some of the “radfem lite” they post to warm you up to their rhetoric, just off the top of my head:

- Ace/aro exclusionism

- Bi exclusionism or claims that bi people are “less queer” bc of “straight passive privilege”

- Saying you have to be dysphoric to identify as transInvalidating nonbinary people

- Calling queer a slur regardless of context, saying people can’t identify as queer, and saying that it can’t be reclaimed

- “Mogai hell”, “kweer”, or otherwise mocking less common labels and claiming they are “just cishets who want to feel special”

- Excluding sex workers from feminist discussions or claiming that sex work is inherently evil

- Basically anyone who thinks they can determine what other people identify as”. The tags read, "queerphobia tw. twerfs tw. no id." and has 70,727 notes. It was reblogged on March 22nd, 2021 /END ID]

another example of conflating radfems to things that, while wrong, have little to nothing to do with them because being a radfem, again, is something very specific that has all to do with transfem oppression.

Emotional manipulation

Lucifer has done nothing but block, break boundaries, spread lies and vague about people, some of which were even mutuals with them knowing they would see the posts. when confronted about it Lucifer's only answer was "just say you hate me and block me" but they actually ended up blocking everyone first, making it impossible for anyone to set some boundaries with them or even just to calmly confront them about anything.

[proof: Io(popncourse) and Lucifer had a disagreement in a shared discord server, which prompted Lucifer to vague Io in a vent post. Io confronted them, as being vagued is one of buns triggers, to which Lucifer initially agreed to delete the vent post, but then proceeded to victimize themself and immediatly blocked Io. later on, Jude(malewifedeckard) was confronted by Lucifer, then after Jude told them “I’m worried that you’ll vague me just like you did with Io” they proceeded to block Jude and vagued about him too. when Io made a post (which was not a callout, it was just bun setting buns boundaries) explaining what Lucifer did, Lucifer immediatly jumped to victimize themself, acting like they were being called out and straight-up lying, even going so far as to say that no one tried to hear them out, which is a blatant lie if you consider the aforementioned Io and Jude’s attempts at doing so, with Lucifer immediatly blocking and cutting ties with the both of them. ] 

(screenshots taken by @popncourse and @malewifedeckard)

as seen in the proof above Lucifer’s behaviour is not ok because they don’t accept any kind of confrontation and immediatly jump to blocking, and after blocking, they'd immediatly go and vague about the people who confronted them pacificly, spreading more lies and painting themself as the victim and even arriving to say “no one hears me out at all” which is simply not something you can say when you block people who are trying to hear you out in the first place.

this is by no means an invitation to go and harass them, send them hate or anything like that. i absolutely don’t want anything even remotely hateful or negative to be sent their way after this post. 

this post was only made because:

1. as an ace person who fully supports the inclusion of aspec identities in the lgbt+ community i don’t want to support an enviroment that costantly downplays transmisogynistic oppression in order to be taken seriously. there are hundreds of ways to make aspec activism without acting like we(as in TME aspecs)are the victims of a system that seeks for the annihilation of transfemenine people in real life everyday. i especially don’t want to support TME individuals who act transfem-friendly but then block any transfem who tries to speak on transmisogyny without a second thought.

2. Lucifer’s behaviour has hurt two friends of mine and i don’t want to associate with someone who actively breaks people’s boundaries without taking accountability when messing up.

3. i cannot associate with someone who spreads lies about me accusing me of sympathizing with exclusionists all while having me blocked so that i can’t see it nor defend me. they complain about people not hearing them out but they’re the very first person who does not try to hear people out, and instead jumps to spread baseless rumors. this is not someone i can nor want to associate with. 

(image descriptions provided by @malewifedeckard)

[marrow-bone]

The situation is actually slightly different.

Please feel free to skip this long disorganized text wall; it's kinda pedantic and mostly just a response of general frustration with recent events; italics are for stressing words to flow correctly, and not because I'm upset at anyone here.

Disney never donated to the bill. What they didn't do was withdraw general support of Florida republicans until employee and public outcry, which made them pause funding from political donations and oppose the bill, which made the republicans immediately start openly and illegally trying to punish Disney for their dissent and lack of financial support with legislation. People on this site were then unironically posting and praising the republicans for this, regardless of the fact that their actions did more to hurt the local population than Disney. People heard buzz words from the conservatives and immediately jumped to their side and are now doing their work because -- understandably -- we've been made to assume Disney is always going to make the wrong decision. However, this produces more reason why corporations shouldn't be progressive. 'Look! They actually hate Disney more for being progressive! When Disney does stuff like donate 100% of proceeds from Pride merch to LGBTQ+ charities or add in queer representation they do things like criticize and boycott them for it! Let's keep our heads down and avoid the subject!'

Yeah, it's shitty that corporations aren't better, but holding them to a nebulous standard of moral purity all-or-nothing and throwing out false information because conservatives want you to only furthers their agenda, not ours (y'know, the gay one) and small steps are leaps and bounds better than going backwards. It's frustrating. It sucks. But it's still better.

Disney ain't your friend. It never will be. But spreading misinformation is never going to be helpful. By all means please be critical and remember the awful things they did! Don't forget the fighting employees have done for their representation and rights! Always remember! But for God's sake don't spread conservative propaganda and lies! And if you can, try to more upset when they do something bad than when they do something good.

I don't want LGBTQ+ Disney employees to lose their freedoms or for audiences to lose chances to see real representation because of false claims and misaimed anger.

Tl:dr Disney never supported the Don't Say Gay bill and now explicitly opposes it. They did support the campaigns of bill backers before the bill got heavy attention, but have withdrawn that support and been illegally punished for doing so. That still wasn't good and you should still be super critical of future transgressions and lack of support from the Disney company, but don't spread false information or do the work of conservatives for them. Celebrate the one or two good things happening, condemn the bad, but don't make yourself angry or sad over something that isn't actually happening.

And send some love to the Disney employees that fight for rights and representation. We owe them a lot for winning what they have, and may they find immense victory going forward.

although this is a big step forward, please do not forget that Disney donated a large sum of money to the 'Dont Say Gay' Bill and how Disney treats all of its creators who are trying to add lgbt characters into their shows

[girls-are-weird]

more on the topic of latino trans representation 'ported over from the YR discord server. someone asked how positive latino trans rep could be introduced, rather than always making it about the negative side of the latino trans experience. i don't have a one-size-fits-all answer because it really depends on the context/theme of your story, but it did remind me of something that i think might give people some inspiration. crossposting here again in case anyone who's not a member of the server is interested.

maybe i can share a story that could serve as inspiration for the more positive way of representing latino heritage in trans expression. as you might know, my country is... not particularly progressive by any stretch of the imagination. regressive more like, if you ask me. gay marriage is not legal and i honestly don't have much hope that it will be anytime soon, trans people are still rejected and made fun of, and i'm pretty sure most people have no idea what "non-binary" even means. but LGBTQ+ people and their allies are fighting, pushing for change, and not giving up. the progress is slower than a glacier, but every once in a while there's something that gives us hope.

a few years ago (before i came to australia) there was a hubbub in the media because a trans activist wanted, for the first time in history, to change her official name on her national ID card. just her name, not even anything else. pretty sure her card still lists her gender as "male" because my country is ridiculous. but even just to change her name from her deadname to her actual name she chose herself, they made her jump through so many hoops. and the media kept following the story and sensationalizing it to hell and back, like she was trying to do something scandalous.

(and yes, i know this doesn't sound particularly positive, but stick with me here-- i promise i have a good point i'm trying to get to, i just need to give y'all a bit of background before i can arrive there.)

anyway, she did get to change her name on her ID card eventually, it just took a long while. but her ordeal has been stuck in my mind for years, and there is one particular interview i remember very clearly. see, our national dress is called a "pollera"-- it's a very intricate, delicate, handmade-by-old-ladies-in-the-countryside-who-zealously-guard-their-technique-passed-down-through-generations-since-colonial-times, luxurious and expensive af basically costume that is widely recognized as one of the most beautiful national costumes in the world.

pic here, in case anyone neds a visual:

(this is what we call the "pollera de gala," which are the fancier ones. there are simpler versions of the pollera which are not handmade and are supposed to be the "day-to-day" polleras, but the polleras de gala are the creme de la creme and certainly the most likely to be shown outside of panama.)

the pollera is not only a point of national pride, but also a symbol of status because it's so expensive and rare, as well as the ultimate symbol of femininity for any panamanian woman. sometimes people do, like, "traditional" panamanian weddings and the bride will be wearing a pollera instead of a wedding dress.

ANYWAY, back to my main point, in this one interview, this woman was asked what would have to happen for her to feel that she was truly accepted and seen as a woman in a place as regressive as panama. and she said her dream was to wear a pollera de gala, with all the frills and the jewelry and everything, and being recognized as beautiful and as proud of being panamanian as any cis woman would be. i don't know if she ever did it-- once she managed to change her name on her ID card, the media pretty much forgot about the story-- but that one answer has stuck with me all these years. because i've worn a pollera (mine was my mother's), and i know how i, as a cis woman, felt wearing it. and i hope with all my heart that she got to feel that way, too. everyone should.

i don't know if there's an equivalent circumstance that could apply to a venezuelan trans person; i would have to do some research to know. and it may not be a dress-- it may be food, or music, or a book, or a photo of a specific location they want to visit-- that just, for that character, represents the intersection between their trans identity and their ethnic identity. but i know those little things mean so much to people, especially those for which the rest of the culture might be antagonistic to them being trans. it's those small positive expressions i would love to be included in latino trans representation, because lord knows there's not enough of that out there.

[entity9silvergen]

I recently asked reddit for some LGBT history from countries other than the US. Here’s what I got:

Germany

The Weimar Republic was surprisingly accepting of "alternative lifestyles."

During the Weimar Republic, Germany had a pretty active LGBTQ scene, with some major films and songs being produced, despite it still being illegal at the time. However, there was also a push to decriminalize homosexual behavior which sadly wasn't passed as the Nazis came to power.

This was based of two factors: after WW1 the authoritarian culture of Prussia sorta received a long overdue pushback. People were kinda sick of it, especially since these losers led them into a seemingly pointless war to begin with. Second: A LOT of men died in WW1 - and the army did not exactly prefer LGBT people. So with a lot of regular folks dead, the percentages of the total populace was sorta shifted. This also pushed the women's rights movements at the time for a similar reason.

Magnus Hirschfeld was helping trans people transition, crossdressers get crossdressing 'licenses', and generally advocating for and helping the LGBT community in the early 1900s in Germany. Nazis ended up raiding and burning down his research institute.

Hirschfeld was a gay polyamorous man. He was one of the first advocates for trans and gay rights but his work was destroyed by the Nazis.

The institute he headed even did the first modern gender affirming surgeries. The institute was destroyed and many people who were there (including the first known person to undergo complete MtF surgery) were killed by the nazis and the place was little more than bombed out ruins at the end of the war.

More information on the institute

Pre Nazi interwar Germany (Weimar Republic)  was pretty open when it came to not only sexuality, but also gender identity. The Nazis put a stop to that & tried to destroy any & all research into either, but, for a brief moment, it was there.

Russia

Pretty sure all Russian LGBT history was erased before we even had a written language, but Russia almost got gay marriage legalized in the first soviet constitution (didn’t happen bc Stalin)

The early soviet period (pre-Stalin) is sometimes called “the first sexual revolution” as opposed to America’s “sexual Revolution” of the 60’s. Broad women’s suffrage, female employment and education, parental leave, advancement of GSM rights & decriminalization of abortion. This unfortunately did not stand the test of time & reactionary sentiment.

Additional Source

UK/ Britain/ England 

The lead singer of Judas Priest is gay. The commenter’s father thought it was kinda funny because it didn’t match with his biker aesthetic, but the commenter doesn’t think he considered how much leather he wears on a daily basis

Hell bent for Leather was a track off Killing Machine. It was written by lead guitarist Glenn Tipton (who is straight), but it's fun to find alternative meanings in Priest songs. A second commenter likes to pretend a lot of the lyrics Halford sings are gayer than they actually are.

A couple people mentioned how uncomfortable it was seeing Ru Paul interact with British drag queens because he barely knows anything about British culture.

Ru Paul got angry that a British drag queen hasn’t seen the Golden Girls because “it’s gay culture” and then not five minutes later someone had to explain to him who Alan Turing was.

Alan Turing, who was an incredibly noteworthy figure (He made the Enigma codebreaker machine, which broke the code that was used by Nazis during the war and basically sped up the war by a significant margin. He also set the foundations for artificial intelligence, one achievement he was named for: the Turing Test), was homosexual and prosecuted multiple times because of it

Shakespeare was probably bisexual (some of his sonnets had homoerotic subtext/were sent to a younger man). Plus, Hamlet is gay as fuck. 

Sonnet 46 was very gay. Here’s a link!

King James 1st was corrupt and used his position to promote his gay lover to higher positions than he should've gotten. 

The 13 year old king James 6th of Scotland and 1st of England fell in love with a 37 year old catholic Franco Scottish man. The king gave the older man so much free shit that other lords started getting salty and his lover ended up converting to Presbyterianism out of loyalty to his young lover. He also fell in love with a man who ''was noted for his handsome appearance as well as his limited intelligence.'' 

Clearly James was into himbos, and women too.

He had a secret tunnel connecting his bedroom to George Villiers’s bedroom.

His relationship with Villiers was basically common knowledge and a source of much amusement and mockery. He also once said that his relationship with Villiers was equivalent to the relationship that Christ had with John the Baptist

Much more recently, there's obviously JKR and the banning of puberty blockers and Margaret Thatcher opposing LGBTQ+ rights by passing a law meaning you couldn't 'promote homosexuality'. 

Prince Philip was a racist twat (and probably a huge homophobe knowing him).

Gay marriage only became legal in 2014.

The Wolfenden Report was published in 1957, and it recommended the decriminalization of homosexual acts between consenting adults. It was a huge topic of public debate, and ultimately led to the Sexual Offences act of 1967, which legalized sexual acts between consenting men aged 21 or over in England and Wales (sexual acts between women were never explicitly criminalized). Scotland decriminalized sex between men in 1980, and Northern Ireland in 1982. 

For a totally batshit real-life bit of gay history, check out the show A Very English Scandal. It's about a politician, Jeremy Thorpe, who put a hit out on his former lover who was threatening to go public with the fact they had had a relationship. 

Austria

Gay marriage was legalized in Austria about 3 years ago. The worst thing is that it'd have staid illegal if the Supreme Court wouldn't have jumped in and declare it to be unconstitutional.

Austria did have something called "partnership" which was where gay couples could officially register with the state as couples but not receive any of the benefits of married het people

They still have super backwards Transphobic laws requiring for example "real life experience" to get even diagnosed. Basically you're forced to be and live as feminine/masc as possible and a doctor them judges if you're femme or masc enough. It's torture

Australia had widespread, over 60% approval of gay marriage for well over a decade before the government legalized it. The governments were actually going against the people for a very long time by denying it.

Taiwan/ Hong Kong/ Mainland China

When Taiwan recently legalized gay marriage, their official statement was something along the lines that they were casting off Western-imposed values and returning to their own traditional values and the entire western lgbt community ridiculed them in a "if that's what you need to tell yourself" sort of way but it's actually the truth. 

Prior to western colonization, the Imperial Chinese attitude toward sexuality was not dissimilar to Greco-Roman attitudes in that a man must marry a woman to beget legitimate heirs but whatever else he does on the side is his own business. It wasn't until Victorian colonizers came along and imposed homophobic attitudes on China that China started treating gays like abominations. In Taiwan, Hong Kong, and Mainland China, as indeed most of the world, homophobia is a western value imposed by colonizers.

Bonus history: there is an actual saying in Arabic that was in widespread use across the Middle East and North Africa for thousands of years from classical antiquity until European colonization. The saying goes "Women are for babies, [young men] are for fun."

The commenter specifies that this means “college-aged twinks,” not children

Another commenter speculates about when homophobia arose in China and how. They also add that in Rome, bottoms were stigmatized. 

There’s a story of Emperor Ai of the Han dynasty & him cutting off his sleeve for his boyfriend

There is also a god worshipped in Taiwan, the Rabbit God Tu'er Shen, whose domain is managing love and sex between same-sex attracted people. He is meant to be the incarnation of a soldier from the 17th century, who fell in love with an imperial inspector and spied on him bathing, and was tortured and killed by that official because he was offended by the spying. A villager from the soldier's hometown dreamed that Tu'er Shen appeared to him and said that because his crime had been love, he had been appointed to manage the affairs of gay people. The villagers erected a secret temple to the soldier, and people have been praying to him ever since.

South Africa

South Africa became the first nation in the world to explicitly prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation in its constitution. It was also first country in Africa to legalize same sex marriage in 2006. What really set them back for so long was apartheid.

There is some speculation that that Shaka Zulu was gay since he never took any wives

South Africa's post Apartheid constitution was the first in the world to outlaw discrimination based on sexual orientation in 1996.

South Africa was also the 5th country in the world and only country in Africa to legalize same sex marriage in 2005.

Even before that the Constitutional Court ruled that sexual orientation was not relevant when deciding child custody in 2002.

Transgender folks have been allowed to change their sex in the population registry since 2003.

Conversion therapy is not illegal yet and public opinion still needs some work.

Spain

In Spain gay marriage was legalized in 2005, now they are considered one of de gay-friendliest countries in the world. The commenter is a lesbian and has never been closeted or directly experienced discrimination for being a lesbian.

In July 2005, Spain became the third country in the world to explicitly legalize gay marriage, after a thirty-year struggle following the fall of Franco's dictatorship, during which most activism was carried clandestinely (as it was illegal).

From 2007 onwards, Spanish [binary] trans people can legally correct the name and sex fields of their IDs and currently, there's a push for a law that would allow for legal recognition of non-binary Spaniards.

Despite the dictatorship in the 60s, there were cinemas that specialized in gay meet ups. Trans women also had ways to get passports so they could go to the US for surgery.

Ireland

In Northern Ireland, same sex marriage only became legal in 2020 and the leader of the most popular party is homophobic transphobic racist and sexist af. In fact, the majority of the party are but some of the quotes from the biggest party leader are depressing.

Same-sex marriage was only legalized in Ireland in 2015. Homosexuality was decriminalized in 1993. 

When Ireland legalized same sex marriage by popular vote in 2015, it was still something you got horribly bullied for in schools if you were out. Queer people got an apology from the Taoiseach in 2018, for the suffering and discrimination we faced from the State prior to the legalization of homosexuality.

In the case of trans rights, in 2015 the Gender Recognition Act was signed into law. It allows legal gender changes without the requirement of medical intervention or assessment by the state as long as you are over the age of 18. 

Ireland has fines and jail time for anyone found guilty of attempting conversation therapy. 

Ireland has seen a lot of progress in LGBT rights in the last 6 years but even up to the 2000s, citizens left their family members and friends to rot for being LGBT+. It still happens all over the country, especially in circles that are still fanatically Catholic. As the Catholic Church has lost the iron grip on the country, people have become more accepting of the LGBT+.

India

The Kamasutra(ancient text on sexuality etc.) has an entire chapter dedicated to homosexuality

The Arthashastra, a 2nd century BCE Indian treatise on statecraft, mentions a wide variety of sexual practices which, whether performed with a man or a woman, were sought to be punished with the lowest grade of fine. While homosexual intercourse was not sanctioned, it was treated as a very minor offence, and several kinds of heterosexual intercourse were punished more severely.

Sex between non-virgin women incurred a small fine, while homosexual intercourse between men could be made up for merely with a bath with one's clothes on, and a penance of "eating the five products of the cow and keeping a one-night fast"

Milk, curd (cheese), ghi (clarified butter), urine, and dung are the five products of a cow

The commenter adds that this is not a terrible punishment.

The Mughal Empire mandated a common set of punishments for homosexuality, which could include 50 lashes for a slave, 100 for a free infidel, or death by stoning for a Muslim

On 6 September 2018 the Supreme Court of India invalidated part of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code making homosexuality legal in India

Prior to the British colonization of India homosexuality was not all that looked down upon when compared to what happened when the British took over and instituted anti gay laws.

The Hijra (literally means third gender) were seen as normal and have been accepted since long before Christ, as evidenced by the Karma Sutra. The British took videos of them to take back to demonstrate how the Desi were “barbaric”.

Bonsia

In Bosnia, there was a one pride parade that ended with religious extremists ruining it and the police not doing anything. It was supposed to be 5 maybe 3 days long but ended in like 1 or 2.

The Danish astronomer Tycho Brahe mapped out the entire night sky with only his eyes. It laid the foundations of many later scientists, such as Isaac Newton. He was a very rich nobleman, so much so that he owned 1% of Denmark's money. He had a pet dwarf that apparently could see the future, which sounds pretty gay. He was also part of the Elefant Ordning, which consisted of rich and strong Danish men.

Philippines 

Despite many attempts to legalize same-sex marriage, the Philippines still didn't budge. Being gay in itself is legal, but same-sex marriage still isn't.

Philippines ,the most Catholic Country in Southeast Asia, has held the largest Pride Parade in Southeast Asia.

Serbia

Serbia didn't have history from about 16th century to 1800's when the 1st revolt happened and failed till 1813's... Then yet another in 1830's for semi independence from Turks, and full in 1836

During the last lingering Ottoman rule over autonomous Serbia, Serbia was one of the very first few countries to have legal mostly everything... it then got removed with like 3 constitution changes and then it didn't move forward for a looong time

Switzerland

Would you have thought that small, conservative Switzerland was a center of the international gay community during the mid-20th century? The magazine "Der Kreis"- the circle - was the only queer magazine in the world that kept publishing during WWII. It was edited in Zurich and distributed internationally, which often meant illegal smuggling, even into nazi Germany. The magazine's annual ball was attended by hundreds of gay men from all over Europe each year. The whole thing was kept strictly secret from the public, though it was known and tolerated by the police.

The Kreis club disbanded in 1967, as repressions grew heavier after a number of murders in the scene had caught the public's attention. By then, other European and American groups took its place, publishing their own magazines.

They made a movie about it.

More info about Der Kreis

As of today, Switzerland doesn't allow gay marriage. A country-wide referendum will be held this fall on gay marriage.

The commenter speculates that gay marriage will be legalized.

A few people expressed surprise that Switerland is socially conservative and several people explained that women’s right to vote was only place in the 70s.

There’s a movie about it

Turkey

A Muslim Persian (born in modern day Turkey) philosopher/mysticist named Mewlana who is known for his sayings on acceptance and love for one another was gay! He had exchanged letters with his instructor Shams and wrote homoerotic poems to him! In Turkey this is ignored by many due to the country's stance on homosexuality

More information

Norway

The commenter’s hometown and the neighboring town arranged their first pride parade/event in 2017, which is a big deal for a small place and one of the local priests went livid and went straight to the newspaper and social media to condemn it. A local rapper wrote a short and to the point article in the newspaper calling him out for all kinds of things which was a great read. Then to top it off, the priest arranged for a "Jesus Parade" in protest to be held the day before the pride parade. Only like five people walked in it, not including the priest of course because he happened to be on vacation in Spain that week. The pride parade itself was a success though! It's become an annual event. Covid has put some breaks on it though, but they're making a documentary this year about the pride celebrations.

Hungary

Hungary has no same sex marriage or transition rights

Police are unkind to protestors

During “commie times,” being queer was illegal so queer people went to the gulag

Belgium

Same sex marriage was legalized in Belgium in 2003 (right after the NL who were the first in the world). The commenter says that same-sex marriage has always felt possible and she is confused about other countries’ actions.

Poland

Polish president on public assembly: 'LGBT is not people, this is ideology'.

Denmark

WHO took their sweet time declassifying being transgender as a mental illness, so Denmark got sick of waiting and became the first country to stop classifying it as an illness.

Australia

In Australia same-sex marriage wasn't legal until 2017.

Portugal

Portugal is know for having one of the most (if not THE most) peaceful revolutions in history back in the 60's, with only 4 deaths total.

Canada

Operation Soap.

Mexico

To learn more, watch Dance of the 41 on Netflix.

Netherlands

NL was one of the first countries to legalize gay marriage in 2001

Sweden

In Sweden they used to classify Homosexuality as a disease during the 20th century so in protest people would call in too gay to work.

New Zealand

When same sex marriage was legalized, the parliament broke into song.

The song

Other

Homosexuality is illegal in 73 countries, some by death or life in prison.

Only one country in Asia has legalized same-sex marriage: Taiwan

FNAF is older than same-sex marriage in the US

Condor Operation

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[emiarainewrites]

A Quick Ace Discussion/Ramble

Around age 19, I discovered other kids around my year were doing the sexah stuff at like age 15.

This blew my goddamn mind

When I was 15, I was staying at home mainly collecting music and making videos and trying to write stories and obsessing over people that don’t exist.

Honestly not much has changed since then.

But it should have been an indicator that I was Ace, cause I sure as hell didn’t understand why they were interested in that stuff back then. I was like “15? Is that normal? I wasn’t aware people cared about the sexah stuff at that age. I was back there trying to write a Hades & Persephone type story that I STILL HAVEN’T FINISHED and you guys were up to any kind of stuff??” Not shaming, just surprised.

I didn’t find out I was Ace until a couple years after I’d already left school. Never had a boyfriend, no significant crushes and always plagued with the thoughts that I was basically a late bloomer. I remember trying to force myself to see guys (actors) that I liked more attractive than I actually found them. I thought something was wrong with me back then.

And then I made the shocking discovery.

It was kinda scary at first. I didn’t know what to make of it. I almost didn’t want it, because I’d never heard of it before.

Knowledge about all the different types of sexualities (not just Asexuality) should be spread far and wide. LGBTQ+ is vitally important. Not just for the people who belong with it, but also those who plain ol’ don’t understand it.

Even if you aren’t a part of this community, you should still be informed about it on some level.

I’m still largely uneducated about it, but every time I look into it I learn something new.

Not to mention, when I found out I was Ace, I was fiercely looking up everything that I could about it. And I’m just lucky that I have an awesome Mum who supports me and doesn’t treat my sexuality as something that isn’t valid. Because it is valid. I am valid. You are valid. We are all bloody valid. No one can say otherwise. My dad on the other hand seems unaware of my sexuality. He’s seen the posters I have up at my place, I know he has. But he never brings it up or shows interest. He doesn’t want to know. He doesn’t want to understand it because it’s not what he’s used to.

But on the whole, I’ve been incredibly lucky with my Mum. And it breaks my heart that other people aren’t as fortunate to have that support.

Actually, kinda funny story, I remember when I was a teen my Mum asked me about whether or not I found Hugh Jackman to be attractive. I thought that to be a weird question in general to ask - I’d grown up with X-Men & Van Helsing after all, so there was a kind of nostalgic connection that made the very idea of finding him overtly attractive really bizarre. Nevertheless, I answered “sure, I guess.” My Mum looked at me and amusedly went “are you sure you’re not gay?”

NOPE I’m all points in between!

But seriously, even though I haven’t interacted with the Ace/LGBTQ+ community a whole lot, the little I have has been very positive and welcoming. And I haven’t come across any people who shame my sexuality or insist it’s a myth or something.

Darlin’, if my sexuality a myth then it’s gonna be a dragon! (I am a dragon, by the way, just wanna throw that out there).

And if you’ve made it to the end of this ramble, then thank you were reading. And remember, no one can dictate to you who or what you are besides yourself.

Therefore, I am Ace. I am Valid. And I am many other things that no one can take away from me.

[dabi-drift]

Yaoyorozu, Hawks, Bakugou, Amajiki, Dabi, Mirko & Geten with a Genderfluid S/O:

If you want any characters adding here or to anything else I write, just drop me a comment or an ask!

Momo Yaoyorozu:

☿ It was hard enough for you to acknowledge your own gender- fully understanding it was a different topic - so coming out to Momo was going to be tough.

☿ Really tough.

☿ She was a lovely girl and a wonderful girlfriend.

☿ But could you really expect her to be supportive of something so complex?

☿ Your gender fluctuated a lot - sometimes you'd feel distinctly outside the binary, and sometimes you'd feel more masculine, or more feminine.

☿ You hadn't noticed this until recently; you rarely gave gender a second thought.

☿ Looking at yourself in the mirror and questioning everything that felt a little off, you'd figured that maybe you just wanted to feel special, a little different.

☿ So you researched. A lot.

☿ You had a system that no-one understood because you were still deep in the closet: a different coloured strand/extension in your hair (on one side only) that stood out but was never questioned.

☿ Red = Feminine, Purple = Non-Binary, Blue = Masculine, Green = Third Gender/Multigender.

☿ Coming out was a decision you spent countless nights debating.

☿ No-one 'deserved' to know, it was really nobody's business…but being gendered correctly 100% of the time did sound nice.

☿ Deep breaths, and positive thoughts.

☿ "I identify as…no, I am genderfluid. You, eh…you should probably know that."

☿ This sweet, precious thing was confused at first.

☿ But you explained it:

☿ "Sometimes I'll feel more masculine, more like a boy, sometimes feminine, neither or both/all genders? I'm still wrapping my head around it too, but eh…it can change a lot. Sometimes a few times a day. Um…sometimes one gender will stick for a while. That's why figuring it out can be…confusing. But it's also enlightening, uh…kinda nice, warm, y'know?"

☿ Instantly says she understands and supports you.

☿ Expect a flurry of hugs and kisses.

☿ Acts like a very proud girlfriend.

☿ Pays extra attention to your hair - never wants to get anything wrong.

☿ If she does, she'll apologise immediately and reprimand herself.

☿ Go easy on her, she'll be an utter mess.

☿ Overall, her love for you is unconditional, and she makes sure that you know she's sorry.

"You shouldn't ever have to be scared to explain who you are."

Keigo Takami/Hawks:

☿ Keigo knew something was amiss.

☿ You'd been dating for two years, and although he never pried, he couldn’t help noticing the way you'd suddenly become uncomfortable when someone addressed you, or when you stayed in one set of clothes for too long.

☿ It wasn’t always the same, and he just figured it was anxiety and general insecurities coming to the surface.

☿ So he held you closer, wrapped you in his wings and fussed over you for hours (or however long his job would allow).

☿ He didn’t have a lot of time to consult the internet.

☿ He also didn’t want to pressure you into revealing anything.

☿ But now, the topic was unavoidable.

☿ You'd broken down, crying and mumbling to yourself when you thought he couldn’t hear you.

☿ He finds you kneeling in front of the full-length mirror in the bedroom.

☿ Rushes to your side in an instant.

☿ "What did the mirror do to you, dove?"

☿ Very, very worried, feathers shaking around you.

☿ Defensive birb, ready to protect you from that loathsome mirror.

☿ "I-I look so…so girly today! It's awful! My chest, and…and…I don’t have a binder, and I…"

☿ Doesn't understand, but is determined not to worsen your mood.

☿ "Hey, look at me. What are binders, and where would we get one?"

☿ He places both hands on your cheeks, and you lean into him.

☿ "They're…they flatten your chest, um…sports bras and binders…I-I've never bought one, so I don’t know…"

☿ He nods. "Do you wanna come with me to look for one?"

☿ You're perplexed - shouldn’t he be weirded out by this?

☿ He laughs, and somehow, it warms your heart. "I just want you to be happy. I'd do anything to make that happen, angel. You might need to explain all this to me, though. I'm a newbie, after all."

☿ He takes physical notes - nothing will catch this man out.

☿ If someone misgenders you, he'll correct them immediately.

☿ If someone acts ignorant or spiteful, he'll 'politely' tell them how to adjust their attitude, and how to address people outside the gender binary.

☿ I.e, respect them even if you don't have a complete grasp on their identity, and never, ever misgender or marginalise them.

"You are yourself, not how others perceive you."

Katsuki Bakugou:

☿ You decided to use pronoun badges. There were some awesome-looking designs out there, and you'd been feeling a little more confident lately. It couldn’t hurt to clue your classmates in, right? Plus, you supposed Katsuki ought to know…he was your boyfriend, after all. He'd definitely be pissed if he discovered this a few years down the line, rage about you not placing enough trust in him, and it'd be a huge mess…

☿ You'd never interrogated him on LGBTQ+ issues, so you weren't sure how he'd take your news; he wasn’t always the most accepting (Midoriya & the quirkless community being obvious testaments to that).

☿ Needless to say, instead of being confused, he was frustrated. Why was he with someone who didn’t even know their correct pronouns? He pointed it out, very matter-of-fact.

☿ When your dazzling smile suddenly dropped, he became concerned. Was he the idiot after all? Why did he upset you? What in the Nine Circles of Hell possessed him to do that?? He didn’t even say anything bad! All he mentioned was…

☿ Oh. Shit.

☿ This boy isn't accustomed to apologising, so don’t expect it to flow naturally. He’ll try, because he loves you, but he won't keep eye contact for very long and he'll recant every few seconds.

☿ This perceived insincerity only masks his guilt, though. He’ll beat himself up for years, unless you stop him. This boy has no chill. He's always the first to go off on people when they disrespect or degrade you, so he's gotta make amends in some way, right?

☿️ Honestly, if there are any pronoun badges with really cool or pretty designs, he'll buy them for you. He'll also get for himself, to prove his acceptance and solidarity. He won't ever allow you to feel alone again. He's more than okay with your identity - it changes absolutely nothing about you. If anything, it gives you a sense of completion. He's here for that, 100%.

☿️ You better believe he'll fight for your rights.

☿️ If there's any hate/intolerance directed at you, he'll explode. Quite literally.

☿️ You'll be tasked with ensuring no-one dies. Unless you want them to, of course.

☿️ They'll deserve it.

☿️ Katsuki is very perceptive, so when he gets to grips with it, he'll most likely notice every indication (however subtle) of a gender change. He'll carry spare pronoun badges around, just in case you lose yours.

☿️ Secretly, he's swimming in pride.

☿️ He's kinda like 'Yeah, that's my awesome partner! Look how cool they are, flaunting their pronouns like that, all confident and happy!'

☿️ This boy adores the ever-loving shit out of you. He hates reflecting on the day you came out, because he handled it so poorly at first. Thankfully now though, you're more secure.

"Gender doesn't matter. I'm gonna be a hero, not a hater."

Tamaki Amajiki:

☿️ (Y/n) wasn’t a dead name, but sometimes the very mention of it made your skin crawl.

☿️ It was a gift from your parents, so you wanted to keep it.

☿️ But it was a very gendered name - you couldn’t escape that.

☿️ So you decided on a few more - ones both your mind and heart adored.

☿️ The names corresponded to different gender identities, and although you weren't out just yet (though you planned to be shortly), they gave you the fluffiest feeling.

☿️ Because you hadn't come out, you didn’t bother making it easy for people - no different coloured bracelets, rings or anything to highlight your gender at the time.

☿️ In your heart, you knew who you were.

☿️ Still…everything seemed tied to the binary - official documents, school, the chatter of other students…you'd seen and heard it all.

☿️ These people didn’t accept non-conformists.

☿️ So why should Tamaki?

☿️ Sure, he was kind-hearted, heroic…amazing, but what would he do? What would he say, when you finally came out? You couldn’t remain in the closet forever.

☿️ No way that was happening! You were human too, your feelings mattered! Surely you were allowed to voice your truth…

☿️ Tamaki loved you.

☿️ He'd be accepting…right? Memorising some more names and pronouns shouldn’t be so tricky.

☿️ To minimise discomfort for both of you, you chose to explain things in his room.

☿️ He got really nervous at first - he thought you wanted to break up.

☿️ Boy was sweating profusely, coming up with all sorts of counter-arguments in his head. He really, really loved you.

☿️ "(Y-Y/n)-"

☿️ "Um, could you maybe call me (O/n) today? It's an…off-spectrum day."

☿️ Cue more confusion than Momo.

☿️ He'll ask about it in a really gentle voice - being anxious himself, he can easily pick up on other people's signs.

☿️ "Basically…my gender's fluid, so…you know how 'sex' is biological and 'gender' is a sense of identity? Well, sometimes I align with my birth sex, sometimes I don't. Today is…one of those days."

☿️ He'll hold your hand while he listens, squeezing it periodically to reassure you.

☿️ Now it's your turn to question the strength of your relationship.

☿️ This boy's love is deep, though; he cares way too much to let anything come between you.

☿️ Plus, nothing about you has actually changed.

☿️ You've just come into yourself, gained more comfort in who you are.

☿️ Tells you how proud he is.

☿️ Asks you to let him know when you sense your gender change, so he never calls you by the wrong name or pronouns.

☿️ It's They/Them today, but who knows about tomorrow? Or even an hour from now?

☿️ Finds gender-neutral compliments and nicknames, and does a ton of research.

☿️ Has an entire script in his head - if you want to come out but can't speak for yourself, Tamaki will push aside his anxiety and recite the words he's practiced a million times.

"You've finally found yourself - only change if it feels right."

Touya Todoroki/Dabi:

☿️ Your identity was really important and dear to your heart.

☿️ But that didn’t stop those you cared for tearing you apart whenever you tried to speak up.

☿️ Your family, your friends…you loved them, but they just couldn’t accept you.

☿️ So you killed them.

☿️ You went on the run, evading police and heroes alike for years.

☿️ And then, you found the League of Villains - a strange dynamic, kind of like family but much more welcoming.

☿️ Yet, your identity stayed hidden. You didn’t have the strength to harm all these people, if they rejected you.

☿️ Besides, there was more solidarity here than there ever had been with your blood relatives.

☿️ Dabi was your companion, though whether that meant closest friend or love interest, you didn’t know.

☿️ He was observant, transforming his thoughts into words regardless of how that affected people.

☿️ He pointed things out immediately.

☿️ "New bracelet?"

☿️ You paused, half-shocked, half-afraid.

☿️ You knew that he'd see through any lie you posed.

☿️ The truth would be the only thing to save you from his flames.

☿️ "That means something, doesn't it, (Y/n)?"

☿️ Step 1: put the drink down so you don't shatter it in anger.

☿️ "Yeah, um…this colour means 'masculine'. I'm a guy…now."

☿️ His face betrayed nothing.

☿️ "Like a reverse Magne?"

☿️ You wondered if that was a genuine question or an attempt at humour.

☿️ Todorokis don't understand jokes.

☿️ "No…she's a transgender woman, I'm genderfluid. I'm not confined to a single gender. It, uh…it changes."

☿️ His nod didn’t instil you with confidence.

☿️ "You out to the others yet?"

☿️ "Didn't think they'd accept me."

☿️ He made a 'Really? You're the least weird of the bunch' face.

☿️ "Ah, I'll just burn 'em if they don't."

☿️ You were too stunned to employ a comeback.

☿️ He contemplated for a while.

☿️ "So, you got any other names?"

☿️ Helps you plan how to come out to the rest of the League.

☿️ Will legitimately burn the haters.

"Found families are more accepting than the real thing."

Rumi Usagiyama/Mirko:

☿️ You bought three mugs - 'It's a Girl', 'It's a Boy' and 'It's a Mess'.

☿️ The excitement had been bubbling away inside you for weeks.

☿️ Rumi still didn’t know that you were genderfluid, but she was about to learn.

☿️ There wasn’t a doubt in your mind that she'd accept you.

☿️ You hadn't told her yet because it was a big thing - lots to take in, and you needed to be completely sure of it, and of your relationship.

☿️ You weren't gonna tell just anyone.

☿️ Dating Rumi was awesome, and this was just the next stage.

☿️ It didn’t go according to plan.

☿️ Not at first.

☿️ "You're pregnant?!" Was her very concerned response.

☿️ She kept muttering about how she needed some space to think things over.

☿️ Until you dragged her back, exasperated but determined to explain yourself.

☿️ "It's in reference to myself. I wanted to let you know, in a funny way, that I'm genderfluid. There's a Girl and a Boy one, and the other is for Non-Binary."

☿️ She made a noise like she understood, but you saw the confusion.

☿️ "Today's an Enby day, but you might have a girlfriend tomorrow. Or a boyfriend. Who knows?"

☿️ In an instant, the biggest smile took control of her face, and she brought you into a crushing hug.

☿️ "So I could have a girlfriend, a boyfriend and a murder partner??"

☿️ "Eh…if you can do the jail-time, count me in."

☿️ This one won't necessarily search for information herself, but she will consult you whenever she's having a difficult time processing something.

☿️ You're like,, the expert in all things LGBTQ+, and she loves listening to you talk so passionately.

☿️ She's really glad you told her - that you trusted her with something so important.

☿️ She feels loved, and makes sure you do too.

☿️ Asks if you ever thought she'd reject you.

☿️ "Nah. We'll go strong forever, Rumi."

☿️ She's overjoyed, honestly.

"You're so brave for coming out, and if someone doesn’t like it, I'll kick their butt."

Geten/Iceman:

☿️ Geten didn’t have the faintest clue about gender identities. He accepted male and female, but without a proper education or motivation to learn anything beside his quirk, you didn’t expect him to understand. You would've held it in, if you were strong enough to deal with the constant misgendering.

☿️ If you use Neopronouns, you're especially worried. They aren't as widely welcomed as the general She/He/They. And Geten being the angry, feral gremlin he is, his temper was a major concern.

☿️ You couldn’t change for him, so if he decided to lash out or disapprove, you'd be crushed. You'd obviously have to walk out of the relationship, if he didn’t do so himself. As deeply as your love ran, you simply couldn’t put yourself through such anguish. You weren't of the soundest mind, so to be rejected by Geten…

☿️ He isn't gonna understand unless you sit him down, crack open the slideshow presentation and maybe start crying? He'll feel guilty, but he doesn't ever wanna see you in distress. He said as much, in the beginning of your relationship.

☿️ So cry. Cry your little heart out, and he'll do everything within his power to comfort you. He's not the most receptive to other people's emotions, but with you, it's different. He's always by your side, always watching over you. His hugs are a little stiff, but wrap your arms around him tightly, and he'll protect you with his life.

☿️ "So…genderfluid?"

☿️ His tone is gentle, like he's afraid to cause any more tears.

☿️ "Yeah, um…you identify with your birth sex, right? Well, I don't…not all the time. And if you could…could use those pronouns? That would mean…a lot. To me. It'd mean everything, actually…"

☿️ He's quiet for a while, still trying to make space in his brain for all this new information. It isn't something he needs to 'come around to', though. He'll be completely painful and respectful. He's bound to slip up a few times, but he'll always correct himself.

☿️ Hates seeing you cringe whenever he makes a mistake. Always vows never to let it happen again.

☿️ You're okay though - you know it's gonna take time.

☿️ Angry boi never uses your gender identity as an insult, and openly condemns (threatens) anyone who does. He'll want to prove himself - prove he's gonna love you regardless of gender, regardless of everything!

☿️ Honestly doesn't know why you were so nervous to explain this. When he said his love was unconditional, he wasn’t lying.

“There’s no way I couldn’t accept who you are.”