#and self-soothing

[animalceramics]

Fic update: Holy Trinity

Now complete!!

Excerpt:

Armand often seems to enjoy something in his mouth when he’s in this very relaxed, very comfortable mood. Or rather when they’re in one together. Intimate and close.

He does it sometimes if they’re watching TV and Armand has his head pillowed on Daniel’s lap. Daniel will never forget the first time, when Armand casually dipped for his dick, right in the middle of ‘Elementary’ – just popped it right in his mouth – no licking, no sucking really, just sort of letting it rest on his tongue, perfectly content to watch Sherlock solve the case with a huge dick in his mouth. Daniel’s feeling, apart from the obvious, was that it had to hurt his jaw. But maybe that’s part of it. You never know with Armand. Sometimes the self-comfort is as likely to include a shard of masochism as it is a scoop of softness.

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[flawlessflesh]

cold comfort

[chrliekclly]

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it’s been 6 years exactly nd i apologize for everything about this

[tw: implied csa]

[brujahinaskirt]

i have to hand it to warhorse. responding to the men screaming "IF YOU WERE JUST GOING TO TURN HENRY QUEER WHY WAS HE STRAIGHT IN KCD 1???" with

"budget constraints"

is the funniest fucking thing a dev has ever said

[littlelesbolucas]

Am up late n need to soothe so hewe mood boawd

🩷🩷🩷

[captainkirkk]

I'm a big fan of hurt/comfort tropes where the hurt is ongoing and escalating. Characters trying to cope with their situation and insisting that it's fine, they're fine, even as things get worse and worse and worse - especially if no one around them knows what they're going through.

Characters hiding their illness, even as they grow sicker and sicker. Characters trying to cope as their homelife becomes increasingly abusive or neglectful. Characters ignoring their injuries, only for them to become infected. Characters being stalked/ tormented by a villain and pretending that everything is fine, even as the villain continues escalating. Characters left homeless as winter approaches and their money dwindles.

I could go on. There's something very satisfying about seeing a character frantically trying to pretend like everything is okay until eventually they can't hide it anymore and get caught (and helped) by the people around them.

[ssshiversss]

Sleep easy, detectives.

[ouchmyghostskin]

[lbhslefttiddie]

honestly i don't think sqq (jiu) would have minded the accusations of preferential treatment from yqy if they'd felt true. like as children he guarded the title of being yue qi's Favorite with teeth and claws. why shouldn't he be given preferential treatment? everyone ought to know just who qi-ge likes and trusts over everyone else. and for good fucking reason--who else here is watching out for qi-ge? as peak lords he's literally 2nd in command and chief tactician, if yqy values his word over yours, then its both what makes most sense and also what he deserves.

the thing is that to sqq, being accused of being favoured by yqy over others now just feels like a sick joke, because obviously (to him) that's not the fucking case. if he actually gave him preferential treatment you'd think he'd listen to what he has to fucking say, instead of believing what anyone else tells him about sqq. you'd think, if he was yqy's favorite, he wouldn't have left him to rot.

so i think, in a setting where they reconcile after becoming peak lords, that sqq would very much slap yqy's love for him in everyones faces as a kind of power move. a kind of, "oh, you thought that was favouritism? you havent seen yet what it looks like when qi-ge lets himself favour someone."

[austinbutlerslovers]

When he wants to touch

[ping-ski]

HII

I just ran into your account a few days ago and I finally got the courage to tell you that your art is AMAZING and very yummy

And I just wanna ask if I'm allowed to play with sugar eclipses rays? /nfta

Sorry I'm a very shy to famous people lol

hi hi!! thank you for your kind words and stopping by!! (i def dont think im famous haha. i dont mean to come off as intimidating if i do! i really do appreciate your ask /gen <3) eclipse isn't usually one to let people touch his rays (aside from his kid and significant other) but he can make an exception for your courage!

he's also surprised that he likes it..? and apparently that he can purr.

[readtheuniverse]

[lizardkingeliot]

"Who makes me laugh the most? Uh, Jacob."

[borderlinereminders]

Self-Soothing

Self-Soothing skills are mostly physical techniques that use different senses. This is one of the distress tolerance skills. Different things work for different people, but the goal is to use one (or more) of the five senses to give yourself a comfortable experience when you are feeling in distress.

(These are also really great ideas for grounding!)

Here are some examples to try, but don't hesitate to add your own!

Vision:

Go visit a place you love (a museum, aquarium, maybe the beach, or a trail/view point you love.)

Watch a slideshow of your favourite pictures

Look at an aesthetic collage/board you made

Light a candle and watch the flame flicker and the wax gradually melt.

Find a video you like like a wood stove burning, or maybe rain or snow falling.

Touch:

Use a stim toy that you enjoy that has an interesting texture (slime, soft things, etc).

Pet or cuddle your pet!

Hold a favourite blanket, or maybe a stuffed animal.

Take a warm bubble bath

Lay in the grass

Hearing:

Put on your favourite music

Use an auditory stim toy you enjoy (pop tubes, snapperz, etc.)

Listen to nature sounds

Listen to your pet snoring

Go to a park and listen to the sounds of children laughing and playing

Taste:

Have a nice cup of tea, hot chocolate, coffee, etc

Suck on a hard candy

Chew on gum

Eat one of your favourite snacks

Cook a favourite meal

Go grab a favourite drink from somewhere

Smell:

Light a scented candle and focus on the smell

Use incense

Use your favourite body spray/perfume

Go for a walk somewhere where you can smell something you enjoy like the ocean, or fresh baking at the bakery

Bake or cook something to smell it in the oven

Set up a new air freshener

We sometimes feel like we don't deserve these comforts, or it's hard for us to self-soothe on our own without someone to help us. You absolutely deserve these comforts, and while it's valid to get help from others, being able to work on self-soothing for ourselves can be really beneficial to us and our relationships. I made a deal with myself that I will try self-soothing first and then reach out for help if needed after I make a solid effort on my own. The comfort that I still have the option to reach out makes me more willing to try to self-soothe on my own.

If possible, make yourself a goal to try a new self-soothing technique a week to try when you aren't in distress to see how it feels! Trying these distress skills when we aren't in distress can be really helpful to us being able to use them in distress. When you are trying them, make sure to try and focus solely on the technique. If you are using a taste technique, focus only on the taste and enjoyment of whatever it is. (Using mindfulness techniques to achieve this can be helpful!)

[thepeacefulgarden]

[kwistowee]

for everyone who needs this reminder SOMEONE LIKE YOU (2001)