#and one labelled “trans men” that was even longer

[nickbutnodick]

the fact i spent a solid 20 minutes being unfathomably happy because trans men were mentioned in passing but also in an affirming way two(2) times in a three minute skit is probably a sign of some deeper societal issue.

[mejomonster]

As I get older and older I more tangibly realize why queer individuals in older generations than mine might prefer words I wouldn't use for myself, and likewise why younger generations preferences would be different too. Like it was always clear you know, a person knows their identity best and what labels they prefer best and even if you don't get it you should respect it. But I guess the older I get the more I realize I really don't know and never can know the background another person has for their perceptions and meaning for labels and why something in particular helps them to use or not

[velvetvexations]

@trans-androgyne made this lovely post that spurred me to have thoughts about how their second point also applied to transfems but I didn't wanna derail theirs so I decided to make my own post.

Transitioning being a pro-feminist move applies to trans women as well. Gender abolitionists want to get rid of gender but in practice mostly seem to want to just go back to not considering it separate from sex and otherwise keeping such clear lines between one or the other* that gender would be the only possible result. Like, the feminist future is one where anyone can undress in front of anyone, not where we recognize that women are weak prey animals that need to be kept separate from their natural predators.

So like, it's said that trans women further the patriarchy because they associate things like the color pink with womanhood. This is an understandable perspective that appears logical on the face of it, but dig deeper. When you say pink is a woman's color, and liking the color pink - to vastly simplify the many things that goes into recognizing a desire to transition - means you must be a girl, the implication is that there is an inherent link between womanhood and the color pink. But you're missing the forest for the trees, because the actual idea at play here is that whether or not you're associated with the color pink is no longer decided for you at birth!

Naturally the counterargument is that plenty of women throughout the world and history is that plenty of women have gotten by without liking the color pink, yet not categorizing themselves as a man. GNC cis women have a long, storied history, and in this modern age are especially prominent. They are not men, or non-binary, simply because they dislike pink.

However, cis women that are gender conforming exist literally everywhere you look. Performing femininity is not at all a trans thing, and radical feminism has had a ton of conflict with cis women who shave their legs, enjoy makeup, and things like that.

But cis women, you might say, have expectations of femininity thrust upon them. Isn't it uniquely bad of trans women to choose to define their womanhood that way?

That might be the case except that a lot of trans women are also GNC as well. Literally if you saw me you'd be like "that's a gender conforming man."** It's not only about separating gender from sex, but rendering it a totally meaningless form of personal expression. That doesn't mean erasing, trivializing, or appropriating anything about cis women, but I think it feels that way to many because they have a hard time getting away from terms like "woman" meaning what it traditionally has in the past. TIRFs*** take a stab at the linguistic evolution, at least, but otherwise still see everything the same way, and will often use words like "male" and "female" to directly refer to sex specifically despite the synonymous associations they have that make trans people still reject that kinna labeling**** even before you get into the actual ideological stuff that most trans people of either assigned sex reject.

But I think you need to have both. I think a gender conforming woman who has a penis goes to show that that gender role is not defined by having a vagina, nor is having a vagina defined by that gender role. Then, on top of that, you have GNC trans and cis women alike doing whatever the fuck, breaking down the idea that a woman is one thing in particular not only regarding sex but also in how they exist in society.

*ignoring for now that even sex isn't a binary; I would love if an intersex person could please add on addressing that if they felt they had anything to add

**until I get my breasts, anyway, after which I'll look like an otherwise gender conforming man with breasts

***distinct from TRFs, TIRFs are the ones who reskin TERF frameworks with trans validating language

****I consider myself male and specifically because of my body, but this is personal to me because my identity is based heavily in a lot of archetypical stuff that doesn't play a factor in the identity of others; one way to view it is that I like to use a certain shade of purple because it was used in a lot of paintings that inspired me, but other people use other shades of purple because they were inspired by different things that come at their self-portrait from a different angle

[crow-ur-beloved]

various jrwi headcanons because the worms in my brain (potential autism) wont shut up. no real plot spoilers except for one, but its marked :]

the suckening:

shilo is like vampire immunocompromised, which added to the pile of reasons his mom used to keep him inside the castle because she didnt want him to immediately get 37 different diseases and Die. (if vampires can have allergies then id like to think they can also get sick. i dont actually know if thats possible in the vtm system but i dont care they can in my heart)

genderfuck/genderpunk afab emizel. i feel like thats the only label he'd use, if he had to have one. i dont think hed label his sexuality because he wants to be an enigma. but he Definitely likes men.

bizley said in the qna something that can Only let me think of shilo as aromantic. maybe aro And ace... i dont remember what he said exactly aughhgh i wish i did...

shilo fidgets with his hands like all the time. his mother and uncle tried to get him to stop and sit still because it wasnt very princely and whatnot but my boy needs a fidget toy. i think hed go craaaazy with an infinity cube

i feel like me saying arthur bennett is a bisexual doesnt even count as a headcanon like i think thats just a given. i feel like itd be more surprising if i said i thought he was straight. all beautiful beautiful vampire men have to be lgbtq. its the law actually

arthur never officially broke up with mary. mans just Left one day without warning. probably left a note that said "sorry. -arthur" on it. i doubt he had it in him to say goodbye to her face or his reasoning for it (he thought hed inevitably hurt her because of what he is and what he did to the people he loved in the past, because bad luck seems to follow him everywhere... oughh he makes me ill). he definitely used finding a new lead on anya somewhere else in the country as a good reason to dip. at least, as good a reason as it couldve been for him.

maybe controversial but i 100% think arthur and magnus had a one-night stand at the beginning of their relationship, before magnus met jerome, and they never talked about it again and pretend it never happened. cannot explain how real this is to me.

riptide:

ftm chip who 100% innately knew he was a dude since the moment he could think. like when the black rose pirates picked him up, he got confused when they started referring to him as a girl at first. probably never got The Talk from them, so was Very confused when he hit puberty. Reuben reluctantly helped him steal to pay for top surgery.

since tritons live at the bottom of the ocean, they would have eyes that are far more sensitive to light to allow them to see better since little light gets all the way down there. gillion was Immediately blinded by the sun when he surfaced and still gets headaches from how bright it is in the oversea, but they've gotten better the longer he's been up there. tritons are built to adapt to all kinds of conditions, so his eyes have slowly been getting a darker bluish-purple the longer he spends above the ocean; they were originally more of a light blue-grey.

in tandem with the last one, chip thinks hes either going crazy or a bad friend because he Swears gill's eyecolor is different than last week but how could that be possible, thats not just something he can do, right? why would he be able to do that???

if gillion gets knocked onto his back without warning he does that thing that sharks do where they get paralyzed for a bit when they get flipped upside down. its scary because he can see everything but cant do anything. he also definitely forgot to tell chip and jay about this fact and scared the Shit out of them the first time it happened around them.

gillion can also change his sex like some fish can. its the reason he can lay eggs. i think this makes it safe to say genderfluid/nonbinary/generally trans gillion tidestrider is highly possible and even probable in this headcanon. what im saying is t4t fish n chips.

not to headcanon all my favs as trans but i cant help it. it is the highest honor i can bestow upon them. anyways. mtf jay ferin. ava always knew and was the first person jay came out to. jay was also 100% named jayson after her father and went by jay most of her life anyway as a nickname and just decided to stick with it instead of picking anything else. may was always very openly-supportive of her. jayson was as supportive as a generally strict, overbearing, unsupportive-in-everything father can be. jay totally came out to him and the first thing he said to her was something like, "as long as it doesnt interfere with your navy training," and may promptly kicked him under the table and made him say something nice.

kiras trans too btw. she came out before jay and helped jay discover she was trans. and that she liked women.

(spoilers for 109 and beyond) chip can't entirely remember what he looks like. everytime he focuses on the illusion of hiding that hes practically just a skeleton now, it changes just a bit. freckles in the wrong places, the wrong shade of orange for his flame tattoos, too much light in his eyes, too much muscle on his arms. jay notices it but cant bring herself to say anything. she knows the illusion is meant to keep everyone from worrying, but, everytime she sees something off about it, she just remembers what he really looks like underneath, and that somehow feels worse.

blood in the bayou:

all these bitches gay as hell. kian is pan. rands got a lot of internalized homophobia. rolan probably too. its the 80s, man.

apotheosis (haven't finished it yet so idk how true these'll be lol):

agender rumi. godbless.

also rumis a theater kid. he got the lead in every musical he auditioned for because he could literally just shapeshift. theyd make up a new identity and appearance for every role and get to know everyone on the cast and then mysteriously drop off the face of the planet as that person when the production was over and nobody would know it was them.

peter has actually tried All Kinds of things. weed. yoga. multilevel marketing schemes. you name it, big chance hes done it at least once and didnt like it. he doesnt know how he ends up in the situations to try it, either.

[genderqueerdykes]

i've identified as a trans man and aroace/mlm for about 2 years. but i very recently realised i'm more non binary/agender than a trans man. and now for a few days i've been thinking i might be a lesbian. thinking of myself as an enby lesbian feels right but i feel like i'm not "allowed" to be one since i thought of myself so differently not too long ago. i could use some advice/words of encouragement?

sure!

identity isn't static, as we age, our understanding of our identities expands and becomes more complex. everyone adopts a label or identity at one point that they don't identify with forever. you do not have the same ideas about your gender as you did as a toddler, your perception of your gender and identity are changing because you are changing!

the past is exactly that: the past. at that point in time, that felt right to you, and who is to say that those weren't legitimate feelings at that time? even if you may not identify that way down the road, it doesn't mean that how you felt, in that moment, was illegitimate. you can't predict what the future holds, you can't predict how you're going to feel tomorrow, let alone months and years from now

i also wanted to say that it's totally fine to identify as gay and a lesbian at the same time, if you feel that would fit you! nonbinary and agender people fit under the gay and lesbian umbrellas just fine. however if you feel as though you are no longer attracted to men in a gay way, that's totally fine! most queer people identify as straight and/or cis for a long time before questioning and realizing they're not. straight and cis are considered the default in our modern societies, so almost everyone goes through a drastic change when they realize they're not straight and/or cis. almost everyone makes that transitional step in their journey, going from one radically different identity to another. it doesn't mean those people have illegitimate identities!

you're allowed to question, grow, and change. everyone experiences changes in their hobbies, interests, identities and sense of self. aging provides us perspective we may not have had before. sometimes that first identity that we adopt can act as a stepping stone, or a situation where we can tell whether or not those feelings are truly for us. it's okay to experiment, too- you can't know if you are or like something 100% until you've tried it. it's okay for you to be unsure!

i hope that helps somewhat, please feel free to ask any more questions you may have, i'm happy to help!

[punkeropercyjackson]

Transfem bigender Percy Jackson headcanons ft.my Pjo s/i Lex de los Santos.If you're anti selfship just DNI i literally don't care

Starter:It's founded in canon.Percy went on a quest to prove herself as unlike cis men to Zoe and it's potrayed as being true and proven to be true because Percy is transfem-coded,almost all her friends(including Lex)growing up were girls,Nico realized he's not actually in love with her after finding she's not the ideal man he thought she was and she compared her treatment of him to acting like Sally/a mother,Piper said she's unimpressive in terms of masculinity compared to Jason and what she'd heard of her at Camp Half-Blood and then it turned out she's sapphic,she's an actual punk instead of just Edgy™️ and punk history is inherently transgender(and black,which Percy is also coded as and that only adds to how punk she is!)and there's something very fitting about Percy 'The sea does not like to be reestrained' Jackson being both a man and a woman.She has femme bigender swag in every way

Now onto the actual hcs:Percy's highkey a glass closet but the lack of transfem figures in her life minus Thalia and Rachel kept her from cracking until she was 19,Lex being the one to crack her egg completely accidentally by having her participate in their femme activities since they'd been dating since the BOO finale.Lex ironically enough isn't transfem but transmasc genderfluid and bigender but femme with the same tastes as and similar mannerisms and behavior to Percy so they made her consider she could be a girl too and some consideration later,she came out to them and they showered her in gender validating words and hugs and kisses.She identified as just 'transfem' for about a month to settle into her gender until she tried out the bigender label and it felt right so she stuck to it

Sally was the second person she came out to and she was even more enthutiastic and supportive because as it turns out,Sally is also a trans woman!!But unlike Percy,her egg cracked so early she dosen't really remember thinking she was male or even her deadname and she was able to have Percy at 21 because Poseidon payed for a full transition for her.Percy was beyond shocked and asked why she never told her,a bit hurt,and Sally reassured her she just never thought to because there wasn't really a moment where it came up but admits she should've said it way earlier considering how Percy turned out and that she spotted some egg behavior but was worried about confusing her.Percy hugs her tightly and tells her she loves her even more now and they lay on eachother as they sit to talk about Sally's experiences with transfeminism as mother-daughter bonding,sipping their blue hot chocolate and munching on their blue cookies together as they did

Next up was Nico and Hazel at the same time,who're also trans and Sally's kids by adoption and Percy's found siblings she's a pseudo-parent to.They were super happy and Nico poked fun at the fact the Outcast Godlings(them and Lex)were no longer a token cis but the rest trans friend group and Hazel joined in by saying they would've had to force Percy to transition if she didn't tell them earlier.Rachel's not the last person she comes out but she is the most important last one in her circle and Percy is teary when she does out of happiness at how much support she'd gotten and Rachel freaks out over her reveal but in an excited ecstatic way,not negatively at all and The Loser Trio(Percy,Rachel and Lex's reclaimed nickname from their Goode High days)have a Girls Night at her insistence

Percy uses any pronouns and a set of neos,blue/cookie/dude/paw/scale,and has the mermaidcore hair dye style,the job done by Lex at her request.She gripped their waist tightly in nervousness of possibly looking ridicilous and Lex reassured her and walked her through it,kissing her face too and telling her how good she looked already.She had long locs at his point and the colors are yellow,sea blue,pink and purple and her base colors(black with a faded from gray to white streak)stay as per the required style of it and Lex also has an afrobubble ponytail and forest green bangs they gave themself in the BOO finale too

Lex lended Percy their clothes because they're both afrosolarpunk so they share a lot of similarities in fashion sense but the size difference between them(6'4 with a healthy mix of muscle and fat/5' and pint-sized but thick)made them too small on her and she refused to not wear them anyway.Once Percy got to making her own clothes with her diy skills,she dresses in a mix of solarpunk and old fashion afropunk-i.e Crop tops with radicalist designs/messages on them,long flowy skirts with fun designs,thrifted ripped jeans,doc martens and demonias,rings that're edgy ahh and those indie girl ones on the same hand,spiked bracelets and chokers with pendants and her battle jacket that's stacked with patches made to represent her loved ones and a dominican flag pin and tons more pins to show her beliefs and aligments(read:punk tastes like her favorite bands and an anarchy symbol)

Blue laces(she killed Luke in Tlo and Zeus in Elysium on Earth,my 1 year later Hoo sequel which is the first of four book in Tales of Dead Seas that takes place over four years and is about the Outcast Godlings revolutionizing the greco-roman mythos world)

Lex diy'd Percy's estrogen.Diversity win:Local tgirl has big boobs and her trans boyfriend wants tits but small ones and is naturally flatchested!!

Polly Pocket,Ghibli and W.i.t.ch. are her vibe,she loves energy drinks and blue burgers so SO much,she makes her own makeup,she's a Team Parent but actually instead of tropeified toxic bullshit so she breaks the break the cycle of abuse so she's super tough and never backs down from standing up to gross men in addition to her parental instincts,she's heavily invested in sea knowledge and authentic ocean aesthetics as the daughter of the sea god and her piercings are a spider bite,an eyebrow piercing,a tongue ring and forward helix on both ears

His manhood is very much a feminine one.He's like a male girl but genuinely and only feels connection to manhood in a gender fuckery/femme and lowkey reclamation kinda way.If you call him the fb slur to 'compromise' he'll roast you so hard with so little effort you'll have to move states to recover.He has a zero transadrodorks policy and i bet all the Hp guys would be ones for those of y'all who keep associating him and his verse with them

Shark kin and catgyal!!His specific kin types are whale shark and calico cat-the latter of which are 99% female because being transfem is Percy's Canon Event.Him and Lex are therian4therian and discovered it together in the dead of night while doing research on Lex's bed together and kept it a little secret between them they gave eachother a lot of validation for and Lex is the same cat type as him and mermaidkin soulmately-i mean coincidentally enough and also dragonkin,ghostkin and plantkin!Percy has a whole Blahaj collection,basically everybody thought to buy him one as a transition gift so they're stacked as a pile in a corner of his room and Poseidon genes made him development retractable sharp teeth to his joy and his bonnets/durags flop down on his head in the shape of a shark fin and he already owned a few calico cat plushies/figures by gift of Lex and acts like a cat in canon and he can also purr,always lands on his feet and loves scritches and pats.Eventually Perlex get matching Otherkin symbol tattoos!

'I was a Teenage Anarchist' by Against Me! speaks to him on a spiritual level and she's not trans but Leanna Firestone is her favorite non-punk artist because her music is so relatable to her kind of womanhood and it helps that Leanna is fat like her and her favorite actual punk artists are Meet Me @ The Altar(Edith reminds her so much of Thalia),Alt Black Era and Teezo Touchdown.Goes without saying but y'all don't so i will:Percy grew up on My Chemical Romance and Gerard Way is his biggest idol and he kins Mike Milligram.I'm doing Mcr fan Percy hcs on their own so no more expansion rn but Soon

Him and Lex worked together to diy Nico and Hazel's hrt and wardrobes for them and are their certified trans parents.Nico and Hazel were both early crackers like Sally,Nico at the Lotus Casino and Hazel in 3rd grade and her transness is why she was isolated even from other black kids and her and her brother go to a Special ED school which greatly helped them fit in more.Nico is SUCH a disabled goth tboy,i literally have a Nico to my Percy irl not only in our relathionship but he IS Nico in every way and i have a Hazel too(Dead Sea Siblings in every universe fr fr)and while he's transmasc nonbinary,i project his gender presentation onto her because he's super femme and into edgy shit too so Hazel is pastel goth punk canonically <3 She runs a supernatural hunting bussiness website,plays indie games and draws fanart and makes sonas,beats up bullies,pulls all the wlw,has memes saved you couldn't even begin to comprehend,is a softgirl who's coated in and surrounded pink AND black and spreads kindness and chaos and has anger at her core but only unleashes it on people who deserve it.Lex moved into La Residencia Jackson when they turned 18 as did their dad Emil so they're literally a real family

Lex's godly parent is Demeter so like with Percy's Poseidon thing,them going afrosolarpunk is out of a deep care about enviormentalism and a connection to nature based aesthetics and lifestyles.Perlex are plant parents too and Percy has a sparkly pink sunflower hair charm he made to represent Lex he saves for special occasions like their wedding and Lex went solarpunk first so they gave Percy the downlow and ins and outs and literally guided them by the hand in some aspects of it(he played dumb so they'd be on him lmao)and they have a raspy rocker girl voice to his soft androgynous one and their dates consist of cat cafes,boba shops,skateboarding and rollerblading,underground shows and parties,petty crime sprees,aquarium visits,diy sessions and femme self-care(doing their nails and makeup,watching girlypop media,eating desserts,playing y2k games,etc).Cotton Candy-coded too because Lex's colors are pink and green to Percy's blue and black and matching kidcore and anarchy special interests

Their nicknames for eachother are 'Blue' and 'Bubbles' since TLT but in adulthood they also get 'Princesa Azul' and 'Strawberry Pop'('Principe Azul' is spanish for 'Prince Charming' but also 'Blue Prince' so duh and 'Strawberry Pop' is a ref to how they met,Percy going to the strawberry fields and jokingly asking Lex for blue strawberries only for it to turn out they actually CAN turn strawberries blue and bluestrawberries taste sweeter than the normal ones,and their bubbly girlish attitude).Percy's not a fan of most feminine nicknames but Lex is so he indulges them and feels the urge to call them stuff like that anyway so win-win

Wears scrunchies unironically and claims even they're punk than Hot Topic

Lex got Percy into Shopkins and indie horror

He has a special dirt cup recipe he created for Nico

Hazel calls Percy her 'Punk Dad' and sends him videos all the time

Perlex=Flutterdash.Loyal blue punk ass tgirl and shy soft nature boygirl who're childhood best friends to lovers and autistic4autistic and black monoracial 4 black biracial(Percy is afro-dominican darkskin and super strongfeatured,Rainbow Dash is black brownskin,Lex is black-greek/chinese-dominican and Fluttershy is a half white afrolatina).Percy and Lex are huge MLP fans so they have matching Flutterdash icons on all social media and associate their relathionship with Rainbow Dash and Fluttershy in general

Percy 🤝🏿 🤝🏿 Bluey 🤝🏿🤝🏿 Blue from Blues Clues:Misgendered blue childhood girls

She also kins Shego👆🏼Black haired green eyed sour outside sweet inside badass transfems

He has a vlog channel where he spreads positivity and info on punk culture and does shitposts,recipes,makeup tutorials and video game analysis too.Owns a pair of blue cat ear headphones like he does a pair of regular blue cat ears for therian reasons

Dysphoria free as he has his perfect body for his identity now-He was on estrogen but for a short amount of time compared to full transitions and got no surgeries and dosen't shave except his upper lip because mustaches are ugly(but stubble is hot)but presents and acts femme so he feels so bigender even looking at himself!!

He picked to be a girl in Pokemon as a kid each time.Iykyk

And Animal Crossing was gender euphoria help in addition to the autism stimulus

He loves podcasts,her favorite being Midnight Burger,and collecting seashells,even chewing on the pearls to stim

Percy Jackson is NOT Peter Parker.Percy Jackson is Hobie Brown and Gwen Stacy and wears the 616 Gwen hairstyle but in locs sometimes and could pass for Hobie's older brother

[bludino]

My headcanons of the gangs genders/sexualities

I am mentally ill I refuse to stay silent any longer

#1 Pomni- Bi

Pomni is a depressed, anxious little cat who keeps getting soggy despite her best attempts to get dry. She's so sad and keeps getting knocked down and that feels like the bisexuals I know and love. She probably smokes cigarettes with shaky hands and stares at the wall in the shower. Such a little loser who probably bites. Love her.

#2 Ragatha- trans and lesbian

Lesbians love sewing!! I thought I was a lesbian and I sewed then!! In honesty I made Ragatha a lesbian bc I can't stand ragatha x Jax I have to stop it at all costs I'm sorry. I feel like she's an elder gay she has such a maternal energy to her. Pomni loves it Ragatha gets the blow dryer when she gets soppy again. Also my impulses are to make every character transgender and same sex attracted.

#3 Jax- trans and gay

I made him gay so I can have him all to myself. Half jk he's my favorite character so I projected the shit outta him. He's gay and trans because he's got that t-boy swagger and I wish it so.

#4 Gangle- ace/aro

This one is also projecting. I just think it's funny if Zooble reads through Gangle's 200,000 word novel and they ask her "You're are/ace why are you even into this" and Gangle just shrugs. I think she has a shirt of the contemplative wolf and loves it unironically.

#5 Zooble- genderfluid, pansexual & ace

Bold to assume Zooble gives a fuck. They feel what they feel when they feel it, a real go with the flow thing. Zooble and Gangle are best friends, they smoke and listen to queen on the grammaphone Zooble has bc they're cool and vintage like that. I fucking love Zooble they're unbothered, moisturized as they can be in a circus hell scape and satisfied.

#6 Kinger- trans and bi

What a crazed man. Look at him. He's definitely sexually experimented with men before he met his wife but never realized it had a label until Pomni told him. What a wife guy you know Queenie was his whole world he loved her so much. It was breakfast in bed for her everyday. He can't cook though so it's probably fruit loops and frozen waffles. He probably has a homoerotic relationship with Caine where they're both oblivious to how they sound to other people. He's just trans he's always known that. He has chest scars. Don't think of the implications.

# 7 Caine- fuck if I know

Maybe he's gay. Idk. He really likes Kinger though in some aspect he's into men. He's not supposed to have favorites but he does. He does little things for every character but he likes Kinger wayyyy more.

[cardentist]

well ! I figured that was gonna happen, so lets not waste a good essay.

I feel like it's not controversial to say that there is a Lot of underlying transphobia in how people with "weird" gender and labels are treated. but in particular I'd like to highlight how multigender/genderfluid/genderqueer people/etc are expected to "pick a side" based on their agab (or perceived agab).

and this absolutely extends to nonbinary and intersex people as well. people viewing nonbinary people by their agab regardless of their identities, presentation, or real lived experiences (or punishing nonbinary people for not fitting what they Assume those things would be based on them Being nonbinary).

as well as the way that intersex people are erased and refused to be understood. it is, for instance, treated as ridiculous or even outright Dangerous to think an amab person could be trans masc or an afab person could be trans fem. ignoring, of course, that there are intersex people who Aren't treated like their agab. who are visibly read as trans and transition in ways that suit their agab.

and of course, intersex people have all sorts of relationships with gender and sexuality that influence their experiences.

but there's Also just this baseline kneejerk rejection of seeing multigender people as anything different from half trans. or rather, people don't like it when people relate to and share experiences with what they perceive as the "wrong" trans labels.

I've talked about this before, but I've been shuffling around labels for a very Very long time. both trying to find something to fit the way I feel, And in trying to figure out my feelings at all.

I've Always identified with both masculinity and femininity in some way, but for a very long time I've never enjoyed being Perceived As a girl. was I genderfluid, was I nonbinary, was I trans masc and gnc, what was I indeed. why was I comfortable, even Happy presenting femininely in some cases, but I feel antsy when my hair gets anywhere longer than "basically bald."

gender euphoria at the idea of going on T and wearing clothes that hide and change the shape language of my body, but Equally receiving gender euphoria at dressing and being perceived as Feminine without being perceived as a cis woman.

and in much the same way, when I Do present masculinely I enjoy not reading as a Cis man. that visible transness. that duality of masculine and feminine.

in the end I've found that my euphoria with femininity hinges on exactly that. I Want to transition, I want a deeper voice, I want my face and body to change. but I Also want to keep some of those traits that are read as feminine. some of the shape language of my body, my boobs, my presentation.

no matter how I choose to label this feeling, this desired presentation and desired interpretation, what this means for me is that I have shared experiences and desires with many other groups of trans people. trans people Can look and want to present as anything mind. but it is, for instance, not hard to imagine how someone in a dress with visible breasts and a masculine voice and facial hair would be interpreted and possibly treated.

and I think binary people really don't Like the idea of sharing experiences with the "wrong" sorts of people. they don't Like sharing experiences with nonbinary people, with multi gender or gender fluid people, with intersex people.

and I think I think there Needs to be some awareness of this. that trans spaces are always going to be fuzzy at the edges. that there will be men who are Also women and women who are Also men, and that not being a threat to anyone who's one or the other.

and I think there Also needs to be an awareness that this intolerance to people with Weird genders and presentations and labels. Is Transphobia, regardless of who it's coming from.

not to inherently demonize anyone struggling with feelings of discomfort, but to ask people to Examine that feeling. especially before they choose to interact with people who are different from them.

everyone has prejudices, everyone has insecurity, everyone has biases and difficult emotions that they're trying to work through. and there's nothing wrong with that, but there needs to be an awareness and recognition of it. to make the active effort not to react to someone you don't understand with a negative kneejerk.

sometimes things that sound unintuitive make perfect sense to the person it's relevant to, sometimes things that sound intuitive are wrong. you don't Have to understand somebody to leave them be to do their own thing. and if you feel that someone's existence is harmful, sometimes it's a good idea to check that emotion.

[joonliebe]

This is going to be a little rant about something I have personally noticed in my own community and I think it should be talked about

If a gay man doesn’t want to date a trans man and a lesbian woman doesn’t want to date a trans woman then that doesn’t necessarily mean they are transphobic!

Now let me go into further detail about my statement.

It’s not wrong to have a preference in body types when pursuing a relationship. Just because a gay man won’t date a trans man doesn’t mean he doesn’t see you as a man (same goes for lesbians with trans women)

I’m not sure how bottom surgery works exactly so I can’t speak on that part but if a lesbian is lesbian because of the fact that she just doesn’t like having sexual relationships with those with the opposite genitalia then she shouldn’t be shamed for not wanting to be in a relationship with a trans woman.

Unless the individual specifically states that the reason why they don’t want to date transgender people is because they don’t see them as real men/women then they are not transphobic

And this goes for straight people too. Unless a straight person specifically says that they won’t date a trans person because they’re not real men/women then they shouldn’t be labeled as transphobic.

This happens a lot more than people think and it goes farther than just straight people. It goes into our community as well and it breaks the one thing that we as a lgbtq+ community stands for and that is to be accepted no matter our preference.

As a gay trans ftm individual myself I know it can be disappointing to find out that another gay man would want to date me because I don’t physically have the same genitalia as my gender however in the long run I will survive and find another. I rather a man to be open and tell me that he doesn’t like the opposite genitalia so that he doesn’t feel pressured into a relationship where he would be uncomfortable when having sexual intercourse and or not want to have sexual intercourse.

That brings me down to my last point

As a transgender individual you should make it clear to the person that you want to be in a relationship with (if gay, straight, or lesbian) ahead of time so you don’t end up in the wrong situation.

Unfortunately not all people would handle finding out their partners are the opposite biological sex of their attraction and may act aggressively (this would be obvious transphobia).

On a non violent note if that person turns out to not want to be in a relationship with you because your genitalia is not something that they seek in a relationship however they do still see you as a man/woman then don’t take it personally because you can always still be friends with them even if it’s awkward for a little bit the awkwardness is only temporary and will only last the longer you stay on the thought that the person doesn’t seek a relationship with you because your genitalia. Instead think of the fact that despite you not having your gender anatomy you are still a man/woman

If you have any questions or are unsure what I mean by something please ask me. Do not assume something if I haven’t specifically stated it because that is disrespectful to me and uncalled for.

[hiiragi7]

Intersex, Trans, Feminine

Heads up for talk of anatomy and genitals in a non-sexual context

As an intersex trans person, I can only describe my transition as uniquely hermaphroditic. My transition, my transsexual experiences, will not look like anyone else's because it is inseperable from my individual intersex experiences.

I desire femininity, even if my femininity is one I often lack words to describe. And that femininity is an intersex femininity in addition to a trans femininity.

Every part of my body that others try so hard to gender any other way besides the way I want to label it is feminine and intersex. Each step in my transition is feminine and intersex, regardless of the hormones I'm on or the surgeries I choose to have. Estrogen and Testosterone both become feminine intersex hormones when they enter my hermaphroditic transsexual body.

Would I have made the same decisions I have about my body and my gender expression if I were instead a perisex trans person? I cannot say, but what I do know is that my experience of it would not have been the same - everything about my being trans is related to my being intersex.

I was able to wear underwire bras that fit my intersex anatomy for the first time yesterday. My partner bought them for me from a shop that sells bras for men. I could not describe the euphoria I felt seeing my gynecomastic chest in a bra that actually suited it. I simply stayed still for a while, not saying much of anything. There was a period of my life where my chest was simultaneously so heavily mocked and sexualized by others that I felt a desire to be rid of it; there was a time when I wanted surgery to flatten my chest. I since have come to find great pleasure in my chest, and I no longer desire that surgery.

I do desire genitals from which I can pee standing, and I would like the surgeon to use the hole I was born with just beneath the tip of my ambiguously-sized phallus to make it happen. This surgery is unique because it is intersex and it is mine. I struggled for a long time with the conflict between taking pride in my intersex anatomy and my need for gender-affirming bottom surgery, and finally I have realized that even with surgery my genitals will be intersex genitals, and that's the way it should be. And even after this surgery, my genitals will be feminine because they are mine, regardless of what they look like or what gendered language others may try to force on it.

Someday I hope to leave my dysphoria up on the same bookshelf I keep my uterus and ovaries on, keeping it in an overly decorated jar covered in bows and stickers. It will become something which was a part of me from birth that no longer is, yet I will still keep it with me in my home, welcome it and care for it. It is mine, but it cannot live inside of me forever.

[spacelazarwolf]

Ngl I don’t trust a space that advertises itself as being for women and trans people or “anyone who isn’t a cis man” cause. I pass. Like I have a beard, a deep voice, and I’ve had top surgery. People look at me and assume I’m a cis man. I would probably be interrogated at the door and harassed by everyone there who decided it was no longer a safe space cause there’s an obvious man there. If your safe space requires me to flash my cunt at the door to prove I belong there I don’t want to be there. But oops, guess that means I can’t take part in feminist activism apparently. And you can say both spaces can exist all you want, but 1) what is the point of activism if you don’t want the privileged group to hear you? It sounds like what you’re looking for is a support group, also 2) if you live in too small a town, you’ll probably end up with one space in total and if they decide it’s exclusive to certain groups, and you either are an ally or in theory someone the group is trying to support but not in practice (eg, passing trans men), then I guess you’re left with no choice but to go fuck yourself? Doesn’t seem reasonable.

!!!!!!!

any group that is entirely based on the identity of who they’re letting in and not the actual function of the group is always going to go to shit.

“this group is for women and non cismen bc we deserve a space to talk abt the abuse we’ve faced from men!” ok where do cis men who are victims of abuse go? are they such a different species that you couldn’t possibly connect with them about shared trauma?

“this group is for women and non cismen bc our reproductive rights are under attack!” ok so you don’t want trans women or anyone who’s had a hysterectomy there? are you okay with a pro life woman being there and actively telling the other attendees that they’re child killers because they’ve had an abortion?

“this group is for women and non cismen bc we understand what it’s like to be afraid walking alone at night!” ok so where do black and brown cis men go who can’t even walk alone during the day without getting followed by cops or labeled as “suspicious” by white women?

you are always, ALWAYS going to be more successful if you label your group based on the PURPOSE of the group.

[mxjackparker]

Online roleplayers are very often trans. Here are some transmasculine perspectives on online roleplay and how it can be useful for gender exploration!

I played a lot of male characters when I was younger since I couldn't be seen that way in real life. Now I mostly play male characters, but I'm more comfortable playing characters of any gender since I'm very socially male now. Playing a female character no longer feels like a stab to the gut.

"I nearly always RPed as guys -- at first because the fandom I first RPed in was mostly male characters, but even afterwards when I would RP with OCs they'd usually be men. Now that I've realized I'm NB and transmasc, I think I might have been exploring gender back then (especially since this was combined with me identifying more with male characters ever since I was a kid)."

I roleplayed as Gilgamesh, the Master, and other male characters before I came to terms with being a trans man, also roleplaying helped me be more okay with being gay or exploring gay scenarios before I could picture myself as a man.

"By being able to play men I was able to explore the idea of being something other than a girl for a bit before I realized I wasn't a girl at all. After that, it was often one of the only places I could act like I was anything but a girl. It's also allowed me to explore transmasculine identities, desire surrounding them, and general queer desire in ways I often could not express in my day to day life due to being mostly-closeted."

"Before I knew for certain that I was trans, I used to roleplay as men to "test the waters" as it were. I only roleplayed one woman and it made me uncomfortable so this didn't last long."

I often use roleplay to act out my male based fantasies in order to cope with my dysphoria, specifically my genital dysphoria. I learned that I could only feel satisfied sexually by fantasizing about two men, then learned that was because I AM a man. Funny.

A lot of the transmasculine people I spoke to were very worried about being labelled a fetishizer of gay men. They often carried guilt with them about their roleplaying habits, feeling as though it was wrong to portray themselves as boys or men online without disclosing their assigned sex.

Once they lost this shame about the practice, transmasculine people were much more comfortable and found roleplay to be a fulfilling way to be viewed as a man without question.

"I used to feel so guilty that I was “tricking people” for so long as I used a male persona online, but I realised this was my transness showing at an early age!"

"Roleplaying was a freeing experience for me as a closeted trans man because I was able to express my desire to be a man without facing any social consequences."

To hear from a range of roleplayers of all genders about their experiences in roleplay, highlighting trans experiences in general, check out OOC: Exploring Online Fandom Roleplay and support the project!

[aromantic-diaries]

a ton of aromantic heterosexual cis men, at least in uni, are awful. two of them were my friends. i trusted them, we bonded over them saying they were both straight aroallos and I was a bisexual oriented aroace and we got along so well. then one of them added me on accident (or maybe "on accident") to a group chat where they were like a group of like the european equivalent of frat guys and they were making fun of my identity and talking about my 'tight pussy' (cause I'm a virgin, I guess). i scrolled up and one of them was on grinder hooking up with pre-transition trans men because they're "easy" and apparently can be easily convinced to not use a condom. he didn't see any of them as men, just as tomboy-ish looking girls. he was also sending screenshots of some of the cis or cis-passing guys and calling them slurs.

I don't want these people in the queer community, i got them to join our gsa and they were talking shit about that too. i dont know what their goal with me was, clearly they were just mocking me and the queer community. maybe eventually they wanted to try to have sex with me or something, idk. but after that experience i genuinely do not trust cishet aroallo men.... its like saying that polish people should be allowed into spaces for "ethnic minorities" as theyre called here. like they might be a little oppressed. but also theyre all so racist and theyd make the space much worse for the more oppressed people who are strongly affected (like african immigrants) and can't just change their surnames to escape xenophobia.

Alright, before I even say anything I need to specify that I am not trying to invalidate your experience or go "not all men" on you, and I'm not defending these men.

What I do need to say is that any category of people will have shitty people without exception. These guys you talked about are shitty people without a doubt. But using polish people being racist as an example kind of falls flat because while that is true a lot of the time, it doesn't mean that their problems don't deserve to be fixed just cause a lot of these individuals are bad. I don't know the people you've talked about so I can't jump to any conclusions about them but listen. They weren't like that because they were cishet men who were aromantic, they were like that because they were shitty people, labels aside. And I'm sorry but queerness, or any minority status is not an indicator of morality. A lot of queer people fucking suck. A lot of them are terrible people. Someone can be a minority and still have their own -isms and -phobias against other minorities and that does not fucking mean they no longer deserve to live in a more progressive world or have any type of sympathy for their struggles. And yeah the polish people thing is uh... Yikes, I would have kept that to myself if I were you

[disgruntledexplainer]

another thing that comes to my mind a lot is Van Kleiss. I've already mentioned before that he represents trans-humanism, or perhaps more accurately post-humanism. but the way that the writers and animators get the idea across is so interesting.

his very existence seems to cause the world to go mad.

I made this AMV a couple years ago about good ol' VK, and a lot of it's scenes demonstrate what I'm talking about:

but especially the scene where he's fighting White Knight and turns a nearby tree into an EVO.

Van Kleiss represents a new age, one in which the human race as we know it has no place or role. the changes he brings about reflect this alien new world.

my comparison is not without basis. the comic series Generator Rex was based off of was called Machinima Rex (or M Rex for short), which was about the world evolving around mankind to the point where it no longer dominant.

honestly the best comparison I can give for his coming is the arrival of an Outer God, specifically Nyarlethotep. I know this sounds like a stretch, but hear me out:

There was a daemoniac alteration in the sequence of the seasons—the autumn heat lingered fearsomely, and everyone felt that the world and perhaps the universe had passed from the control of known gods or forces to that of gods or forces which were unknown. [...] Into the lands of civilisation came Nyarlathotep, swarthy, slender, and sinister, always buying strange instruments of glass and metal and combining them into instruments yet stranger. He spoke much of the sciences—of electricity and psychology—and gave exhibitions of power which sent his spectators away speechless, yet which swelled his fame to exceeding magnitude. Men advised one another to see Nyarlathotep, and shuddered. And where Nyarlathotep went, rest vanished; for the small hours were rent with the screams of nightmare.

-HP Lovecraft's poem, Nyarlethotep

Yet Van Kleiss is a man. A man who, through technology, cruelty, and force of will, made himself immortal, unkillable, master of nature, space, and time, even if only for a brief moment were all those aspects united.

this is post-humanism. this is the promise of a world without man; a world populating by things that used to be human but are more, or perhaps less, than human.

"Are you a man, or a god?"

"I find both labels rather... limiting. [...] You may call me Van Kleiss."

[demonir]

dude now I'm just sitting here staring at a wall thinking abt how fucked up being lgbt is...

Don't get me wrong I'm happier knowing who I am and I shudder to think what would be of me if I had never found out, there's so many queer people out there that will welcome you with open arms and guide you through or just simply offer you a shoulder to cry on and that's wonderful I love that and we need more of that

But then there's the rest of the people, the assholes that want you dead just for existing, the ones that are less vocally hateful and might tolerate being in a room with you but should you need anything they'd rather let you starve than approach, the "I support you but" people that say are open minded and supportive but the moment you cross some invisible line of theirs you are no longer "one of the good ones" and must be dealt with.

We've all seen these people, they might be strangers, coworkers, acquaintances, friends, family and even our partners and their words and actions hurt like knives. But a lot of us have learned that we shouldn't waste our time with them if we can avoid it, turn around, block them, leave the room, move out of the house if you can, we can do these things

But what happens when the hatred is coming from inside the community itself? I cannot begin to tell you how soul breaking it is for me when I see discourse like "LGBT without the T!" or "Asexuality doesn't belong in the LGBT" or "If you're bi but in a straight relationship then you're a liar/traitor" or "If you don't pass as your gender then you're not truly trans" and these are just some off the top of my head, there are so many more and even if they don't personally affect me it still hurts me to see it so much.

You're not making the community nicer or safer by dictating how someone should exist, there are no "traitors" there are no "liars" there are no "pretenders" everyone is just trying to live their life while staying true to themselves but everyone around them is constantly telling them they are wrong for it, not gonna lie to you I'm sometimes afraid that I'll get someone telling me I'm not truly nonbinary because I'm not androgynous or use they/them and I'm easily perceived as a woman, I get afraid I'll be told that what I'm doing is just a phase by other queer people despite the fact that I've been trans since I was 14 and it took me all those years to be able to come to terms with the fact that yes I love dresses, yes I like makeup, yes I'm fine with she/her pronouns, yes I sometimes find it endearing to be called a girl, but no I am not a woman and I'll never be.

But guess what? being afab carries this weird notion that I am somehow harmless or at least less of an issue than lets see uhh oh yeah amab trans people! trans women get labeled predators, groomers and a danger to everyone around them so often and the punishment for not passing as their desired gender is far greater than anything I've ever personally received. People have let these notions about birth genders and sexualities carry on to their trans views in macabre and harmful ways. You want to be wary of men? sure, there's an extensive history of issues that make your fears rational and justified... but why are you pointing your finger at a trans woman? Because she has stubble or a beard? no long hair? doesn't like dresses? doesn't want hrt or surgeries of any kind? has a deep voice? because she has "male interests"? do you not realize how harmful that is?

That's not to say trans men don't get a similar treatment, but I don't see them being labeled as dangerous and violent even half as much as trans women do, it's this notion that being born with a penis somehow makes you vile or something???? unless you prove to us how innocent and righteous you are by looking exactly how I want you to, staying 5 meters away from me and never displaying any sort of sexual attraction towards anyone ever otherwise I am calling the police on you

That's bogus nonsense and I'm absolutely tired of it, stop carrying societies old and nasty views of gender and sexuality into this community that is about supporting and uplifting people no matter how they want to be, and while we're at it someone's presentation and physical appearance isn't indicative of their morality

I wish every trans woman on tumblr right now that feels afraid to speak up about the current situation or even just their life experiences as a trans person a very very happy rest of their lives, and I wish every trans woman who IS speaking up about stuff a very happy rest of their lives as well

Again just so we're clear, I'm nonbinary and afab she/he he/she whatever order so I should in theory not be the target to any uhh "mysterious" blog bans and stuff, however if my blog dies after this post know that I did not do it myself.

Stand up for trans women always and forever, we are all fighting together and there is no glory in hurting each other

[hellokittyballsack]

WAIT. DO U ALSO HC DRIX AS TRANSFEM. OR AM I. LOSING MY MIND.

I DO IN A WAY ? ITS COMPLEX SORRY

i dont like labels but i do refer to drix as she/her because i see her motherly love and gentle soul that she carries around on her sleeve. i love her sm... ARGHH also i love ur pfp

(im gonna use this opportunity to rant about labels since i was looking for an opportunity to share this somewhere NOT MAD AT U OR ANYTHING LOL TLDR: hairy balding cis men are beautiful women the way they are ♥️ masculinity can be feminine vice versa if you let it be🖖)

you can skip blue text and just read the green part, blue's more of a personal experience laadeedaa!!

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with a lot of my fav cis male characters i tend to slowly start calling them she/her the more i love them, dont really know why but i think thats just me projecting since im a trans man so i cant really enjoy femininity authentically, yknow? (or the way i want to) ide get misgendered since the body i was born with is "female" or "feminine". 🍅 🍅 🍅

plus im almost certain if i was somehow flipped and born a cis man ide still end up transitioning(not medically but thats a personal thing) and then yearning for masculinity, simply because i hate how these bodies limit the perception people have of me. i want to be my own person, identify as me first, not to have my label define me or my identity for that matter bc identity is SO much more complex than just one word.

its like Ying Yang but sadly i cant ever be a true neutral because that would mean dressing androgynous which i cant do because me, dressing androgynous, would just be a boyish girl. and me dressing masculine would get the results of "being seen as androgynous" because of how my body is naturally. but is that fair at all? so the only thing i can do to be seen as masculine is to medically change my body? ☹️

and i dont want to be seen as androgynous either at all, i love my male identity, dont love what comes with it but love it. and want to be perceived as masculine, ..but being androgynous is the only way you can build up your identity on your own without someone viewing you with a gender filter on their glasses.(sorry for the shit metaphor) and after people find out whats in your pants they will immediately talk to you differently and that SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if i want to put on a dress that doesnt make me a woman or a feminine man, let me enjoy this dress, masculine-ly ‼️‼️🤲 PLEASE

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(⚠️this isnt relative to the asked question as explained prior, use labels all you want guys but know its okay if someone doesnt use labels ect ect. just explaining the jist here quickly⚠️) sometimes people use labels to put others into boxes and focus on "whats womanly" / "whats manly" --- so its difficult to have people respect your identity while "breaking the rules" (their rules) of said identity. aswell as people focusing on the physical. (body and such) rather than finding beauty in feminine and masculine features you have without that lowering your validity of said identity. this being said that usually happens in heteronormative spaces BUT it occasionally slips in into the lgbtq community.

masculinity can be femininity vice versa, its not just black and white 🫂 body hair can be both for example, even in "masculine" areas, it still can be feminine. and that should go for any body part, clothes, action, interest or anything for that matter ♥️♥️

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like with peter strahm from Saw (aswell as mark hoffman) thru months of writing scenarios between them and my brainrot i now see them as the most beautifully gorgeous women and that includes all their hairy appendages. that doesnt necessarily mean i headcanon them as transfem, i see their "male" bodies to be the peak of feminine beauty, as well as their masculinity. i mean that i dont "genderbend" them and turn them into cis women, and i dont add or take away from the original character, longer hair or a sudden change of clothes, or trans scars even though im trans myself and will probably end up with such scars (in a perfect world i would be seen as male with or without boobs) theyre perfect the way they are and i love them dearly oh so much 🫂🫂🫂🫂....(not saying its bad to do any of that, live your truth) i may draw them wearing dresses or lipstick time to time but thats not what defines their identity as women, who says theyre 100% only women either fuck it lets go full genderqueer!! theyll never be cis women yes, but thats not what my goal is at all. trans love everybody ♥️ transexual pride!! ♥️♥️(and even if you dont identify as trans but still arent cis ♥️♥️youre valid however you feel, whenever ⭐) But that doesnt mean i headcanon them as trans also, theyre them, and i want to see them shine, not being shadowed by a label or limited by one, that goes for Drix too. that doesnt mean im against such label, though theres really no way of explaining without it SOUNDING like i am, go fuckall with your headcanons imagination is free!!!! just labels arent for me AND THATS OKAY

theyre all my girls who are boys who are girls MUAH 💋