#and asks like this

[borderlinereminders]

I feel like people should be able to share their experiences on your posts? Like the advice in your post didn’t work for me but here’s another suggestion for those like me! It seems rude to get upset about that?

I want to say that someone having feelings isn’t “rude”. How you express those feelings matters, but me being upset by comments on my posts isn’t rude in itself.

That said, I’m not talking about comments like that. I’m talking about people getting aggressive and upset with me because they don’t like my advice or it doesn’t work for them. It’s not so much what people are saying so much as how they are saying it.

I’ll get comments like “this advice is bullshit and can contribute to people gaslighting themselves to stay in abusive relationships” because I didn’t include on my post every circumstance the advice isn’t good for.

I’m all for people sharing different ideas and add ons. It just matters how they do it and a lot of the time, people aren’t offering suggestions or another view, they’re just getting upset with me.

I share advice but I don’t even use all of my own advice because it depends on the circumstance. I’m not going to handle a conflict with my best friend the same way I would with someone toxic in my life I need to tolerate. I’d be more gentle and communicative with my best friend. We’d have an open conversation. We’d both have space to share our views and feelings and come up with solutions together. But for someone toxic in my life I need to tolerate, I’d probably just put up some firm boundaries without much room for compromise or conversation.

The advice is there for people that want to try it, but a lot of people misinterpret that to mean that I’m saying “this advice is good for everyone and everything”.

People are welcome to share their experiences. They have the right to. But depending on how they do that, I might block people for my own mental health. 🤷‍♀️

[m4ndysk4nkovich]

How about a little Debbie positivity! She’s so smart, too smart. She passed the GED without studying after not being in school for months(?). She’s good with numbers, and she figures things out. The whole reason she wanted a baby in the first place was because she was trying to get herself a better family. I was watching the end of season 7 today where she was helping Fiona with the laundry mat and I was just like, oh damn, Debbie is smart.

yesyesyes! i love debbie appreciation/positivity!

this is what we need in the shameless community. less slander, less negativity, less obnoxiously rude fans, more positivity and appreciation of the characters!

since the first season, just like lip, it was established that she was smart. crazy smart. like the weird, off-handed comment about lesbian sex at the dinner table she made in 1x10 or just generally having a mature understanding/outlook of her situation. she’s made some dumb decisions, but she’s never been stupid.

and she wasn’t in school often, possibly for months but she was still enrolled- but when she was in school, she just got shamed and told to leave. but as you said, she passed the ged and got 1 (maybe 2) questions wrong. debbie was so young, so uneducated, yet smart.

she’s smart, nurturing, kind (eventually, lol), strong, and she’s a loving person. she wants nothing but love, family, and a proper life for her daughter.

i’m excited for you to get to seasons 8-11 if you feel this way because her intellect and strategy in those seasons are impressive.

[catmask]

i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping

[teaboot]

what annoys me about explaining evolution to people who don’t think it’s real is that everyone’s idea of how it works seems to be from this

Whereas the reality is far more like

[aropride]

did… did she do that?

[noodles-and-tea]

Don’t worry, bud, Bruce will get it eventually…

[beholdthemem]

My fellow bitches under 5'5. Whatever the money, do not take a job working at a middle school. A fellow adult tried to put me in detention last month and would NOT give up until I showed her my badge proving Yes, The School Hired Me To Work Here. It's not meant for people our height.

[goldensunset]

if someone is talking about how much they love their parents do not jump in and start venting about your issues with your parents. if someone is venting about their issues with their parents do not jump in and start talking about how much you love your parents. peace and love amen swag city

[koobiie]

shoutout to everyone who wants to infodump but cant string together coherent thoughts to form sentences and instead just look at you like this

[a-random-fandom-friend]

Because of Re: Carmilla, I thought you all would enjoy my edition of Carmilla :

The holes go all the way through, the sides of the book are red, and on some pages the text is colored red just under the holes !

I was so happy when I found it in a little french bookshop specialized in queer texts ❤️

[icewindandboringhorror]

(also feel free in the tags to clarify Why you made the choice you made!! :0c)

[noka-exe]

doomed family

[stealingpotatoes]

My apologies, Lady Normal. But where does you Eunuch come from?

[inkskinned]

it's extremely critical that you see the photo of the perp walk for luigi mangione as being propaganda. i've seen so many people wave it off and instead fawn over his looks. and trust me, i know it ended up being kind of pathetic and weird - but please don't brush it off as a "modelling opportunity" for him. it's a fucking terrifying message the police are sending.

i want to make a few comparisons here, in case you're not from the US or familiar with why the perp walk thing is something to pay attention to. just to set the groundwork for why this is a purposeful, unusual, and cruel act by the nyc police - for why this is not a common occurrence and for why that matters.

the prosecution alleges the show of force is due to the charge of "terrorism." for comparison, in june 2015, tsarnaev was found guilty for the boston marathon bombing, which killed 3 people and injured hundreds. his actions are considered to be an act of domestic terrorism. i have spent the last hour looking through google for pictures of similar to mangione's perp walk - and so far, i have found zero. i also just do not personally remember a moment like that, despite living in boston at the time.

they allege that luigi is a stone-cold killer who carried out a longterm plan, making him particularly dangerous. again for comparison: in nyc, recently cory martin was found guilty of the killing of brandy odom. the murder was planned and premeditated to steal insurance money. and yet no staged perp walk. why didn't her life matter enough for a "show of force"?

but mangione gets paraded by a veritable army of police officers as if he is a rabid animal. for a single citizen who allegedly killed one other single citizen, the "largest perp walk ever" occurs.

so what is the "strong message" that the mayor and the police were trying to send here? the mayor speaks as if mangione is already convicted of terrorism. there is a very thin number of people who feel threatened by the CEO's death. none of us felt like mangione needs to be under massive armed guard.

the message is that you shouldn't resist. they are trying to "make an example" of him - that if you behave badly and kill a single rich person, you'll be treated as if you killed hundreds of people. you will be treated worse than a man who was found guilty of terrorism. you will be considered guilty without trial. the message is that the rich are a protected class, and you cannot touch them without massive punishment. they are trying to prevent a revolution by showing dominance and force against you.

the message is that the police are a puppet of the wealthy and that the law is not equally applied across class disparity. it is "some are more equal than others." it is "one life is more precious than another."

the show of force wasn't for luigi. it was for us. it was a warning. they are trying to remind us who is really in control.

[holographings]

they got me. they fucking got me. jayvik nation hello