#and asks like this

[borderlinereminders]

I feel like people should be able to share their experiences on your posts? Like the advice in your post didn’t work for me but here’s another suggestion for those like me! It seems rude to get upset about that?

I want to say that someone having feelings isn’t “rude”. How you express those feelings matters, but me being upset by comments on my posts isn’t rude in itself.

That said, I’m not talking about comments like that. I’m talking about people getting aggressive and upset with me because they don’t like my advice or it doesn’t work for them. It’s not so much what people are saying so much as how they are saying it.

I’ll get comments like “this advice is bullshit and can contribute to people gaslighting themselves to stay in abusive relationships” because I didn’t include on my post every circumstance the advice isn’t good for.

I’m all for people sharing different ideas and add ons. It just matters how they do it and a lot of the time, people aren’t offering suggestions or another view, they’re just getting upset with me.

I share advice but I don’t even use all of my own advice because it depends on the circumstance. I’m not going to handle a conflict with my best friend the same way I would with someone toxic in my life I need to tolerate. I’d be more gentle and communicative with my best friend. We’d have an open conversation. We’d both have space to share our views and feelings and come up with solutions together. But for someone toxic in my life I need to tolerate, I’d probably just put up some firm boundaries without much room for compromise or conversation.

The advice is there for people that want to try it, but a lot of people misinterpret that to mean that I’m saying “this advice is good for everyone and everything”.

People are welcome to share their experiences. They have the right to. But depending on how they do that, I might block people for my own mental health. 🤷‍♀️

[m4ndysk4nkovich]

How about a little Debbie positivity! She’s so smart, too smart. She passed the GED without studying after not being in school for months(?). She’s good with numbers, and she figures things out. The whole reason she wanted a baby in the first place was because she was trying to get herself a better family. I was watching the end of season 7 today where she was helping Fiona with the laundry mat and I was just like, oh damn, Debbie is smart.

yesyesyes! i love debbie appreciation/positivity!

this is what we need in the shameless community. less slander, less negativity, less obnoxiously rude fans, more positivity and appreciation of the characters!

since the first season, just like lip, it was established that she was smart. crazy smart. like the weird, off-handed comment about lesbian sex at the dinner table she made in 1x10 or just generally having a mature understanding/outlook of her situation. she’s made some dumb decisions, but she’s never been stupid.

and she wasn’t in school often, possibly for months but she was still enrolled- but when she was in school, she just got shamed and told to leave. but as you said, she passed the ged and got 1 (maybe 2) questions wrong. debbie was so young, so uneducated, yet smart.

she’s smart, nurturing, kind (eventually, lol), strong, and she’s a loving person. she wants nothing but love, family, and a proper life for her daughter.

i’m excited for you to get to seasons 8-11 if you feel this way because her intellect and strategy in those seasons are impressive.

[puppyeared]

filipina miku!! my mom helped me with her outfit ^_^

[koobiie]

shoutout to everyone who wants to infodump but cant string together coherent thoughts to form sentences and instead just look at you like this

[amartworks]

had a fun experience on the subway the other day

[vamprisms]

i feel like a lot of the 'i hate kids' crowd would be more tolerant if they understood that due to a kid's limited experience of the world that 4 hour flight might just be the longest they've ever had to sit still for or that trapped finger might literally be the most pain they've ever felt in their short life or they might not have ever seen a person with pink hair ever so of course they want to touch it or nobody's told them yet that they can't run around the museum and they only just learned cheetahs are the fastest animals so of course they want to put that to the test. how were they supposed to know etc etc.

[sanguinifex]

You gotta read and watch some old books and films that aren’t 100% modern politically correct. I’m not saying you should agree with everything in them but you need to learn where genres came from to understand what those genres are doing today and where media deconstructing old tropes is coming from.

Also, more often than you might think, they’re not actually promoting bigotry so much as “didn’t consider all the implications of something” or just used words that were polite then but considered offensive now.

Kill the censor in your head.

[bethfuller]

limited perception.

find me on instagram!

[muffinlance]

My baby daughter got her adorable puffin-print dress absolutely CAKED in mud crawling around the yard and my first thought was "oh no her beautiful dress"

And my second thought was "oh huh it really WOULD be easy to unconsciously steer her away from playing in the dirt. Unlike my son, whose outfits are usually some kind of solid dark easily washed pants plus a shirt that doesn't trail in the dirt like a dress does."

Anyway something something gender roles start getting shoved on kids from literal birth, but with a little time to think about things, YOU TOO can let your children of any gender absolutely destroy their clothes in the dirt pit they're digging in your garden

[cafffine]

my prof just explained on the syllabus that he’s included more points in the class than we needed to pass, so we could skip up like?? 20 small assignments/quizzes/participation!! and still get a very high grade!!

the idea was that we could focus on assignments that played to our strengths - only do the participation stuff if we like to talk out loud - only do the quizzes/readings if we want to do the class remotely - only do online discussions if we like to talk and share opinions but struggle with anxiety in class ect.

and that’s cool enough but then he pulled up DnD character sheets with drawings he’d done of these hypothetical student player classes and how our various accessibility needs could be gamified to ‘max out’ different aspects of the class to get high grades and like!!!!!

hell yeah!!!! let’s treat accessibility in higher education not just as a necessity but as the fun, engaging, and creative aspect of learning that it is!!! I love this!!

EDIT: For proper credit or further questions about his system please find my professor on twitter @/kurtishanlon

[thelaurenshippen]

watching bridgerton and obviously there were a lot of things wrong with the way socializing has worked in the past, but honestly the idea of a "calling hour" is so appealing. office hours for friendship. you can show up unannounced at my home between 1 and 3pm. you must leave by 3pm. I may give you a pastry. lets bring that back

[zytes]

this manatee looks like it’s in a skyrim loading screen

[lastoneout]

Ya know when people told me "when you're finally safe enough that you can leave survival mode and start to let go of and process your c-ptsd/trauma things are probably going to get really, really bad before they slowly start to get better" I thought that was reasonable. I did not understand that by "things are going to get bad" they meant "you're going to find yourself in the worst mental state of your entire life, but dw, that means it's working" and tbh I simply wish someone had been more clear.

Edit: If everyone could please take a minute and think about what it must feel like to be struggling and then have multiple strangers say to your face that they find the prospect of going through what you're going through so horrifying that they'd rather kill themselves and then stop leaving comments like that I would greatly appreciate it.

[narwhalsarefalling]

my (cis) brother is using my old license to buy wine and it has the gender marker F on there. so whenever he gets asked he just says “oh i’m trans”. its literally worked every single time.

[badolmen]

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[p0isonives]

conner kent has INCREDIBLE self control, cause if i came back from being dead to find out Tim Drake tried to clone me 99 times because he missed me so much, i’d immediately make him my bride