#amorous spectrum

[hillbillyoracle]

The Amorous Spectrum

Writing this post at the behest of my partner who insisted after I told her a dream I had in which I was writing this post. It's all very meta.

So in this dream, the piece was essentially about how polyamorous and ambiamorous imply other types of relational orientations. It posited that romantic orientation largely deals with what genders/presentations you feel romantically attracted to - not the type of relationship structure you wished to have with that person. Which implies a type of relational orientation we've only really begun to talk about.

Polyamorous - desiring relationships with multiple people at the same time

Ambiamorous - happy in relationships with multiple people or with one person at a time; effectively relationally ambivalent

Monoamorous - desiring a relationship with one person at a time

"What about monogamous?" - I think there can be monoamorous non-monogamous people; people who want a relationship with one person but might also want to have sex with other folks. I spent a chunk of my 20's as a very happily consenting unicorn to folks who only really wanted to be in a proper relationship with each other.

I also think it implies people who are on some spectrum of not desiring a relationship as well, regardless of who they might experience other types of attraction to.

Nonamorous - not desiring of any relationship

Demiamorous - only experiences desire for a relationship after getting to know someone

Grey Amorous - sometimes experiences desire for a relationship, sometimes does not experience desire for a relationship

Demi and Grey Amorous people might lean toward poly, ambi, or monoamory when they do experience that desire.

I've personally experienced the fact that I can experience sexual and romantic attraction and still not generally for a relationship. I also think it's possible to not experience romantic or sexual attraction and still wish to have a relationship (perhaps desiring a queer platonic partner instead).

If you're like "this is making things too complicated" then, this post isn't probably for you. You've probably already got the language you need. And this isn't prescriptive, it's just a map to think about relational orientation as related to but not necessarily synonymous with romantic orientation. I hope it is at least food for thought regardless of where you fall.

*Disclaimer #1: I am not big on identiarianism. I'm not writing this is add more labels to identify with. I'm writing about this as a way to fill a language gap about specific desires that I've experienced. Less objective truth and more thought experiment.

**Disclaimer #2: I know I'm not the very first person to write about these things. I just haven't resonated what I've seen. So these are my thoughts. I'm adding, not creating.

[askanaroace]

How to Best Support Partnering Aros

So this is a response for a request on twitter to understand how to best support aros who do want some sort of committed partnership. Obviously, I don't fall into this category, so while I'm writing this post based on my past experiences and what partnering aros are saying today, I welcome any additions from others!

Understand Aromanticism is a Spectrum

Right off the bat, let's clarify: aromanticism is low/rare or no romantic attraction. That means there are some aros out there who feel romantic attraction, whether that be only in specific circumstances (such as after a bond is formed with the other person), at low intensity, at random/rare times, or otherwise. Now each aro person is going to have their own unique relationship with romantic attraction and romantic relationships. What they have in common is that they don't relate to the common romantic experiences of their peers.

Some aros in relationships are going to experience romantic attraction, at least sometimes or somewhat. And some aren't going to experience romantic attraction at all! Romanticism is defined by individuals. You don't need to feel romantic attraction to perform romantically. You'll need to get to know each aro individually to know their experience. Just don't make an assumption over what they are or aren't feeling.

Understand Intimate and/or Committed Relationships are Varied

Partnering aromantics may be looking for a variety of relationship types! Not all partnering aros are looking for the same thing. Here's the main type of partnering relationships aros may be looking for.

Romantic relationships

Sexual relationships

Committed platonic relationships/friendships

Queerplatonic relationships (unique relationships that neither fall into platonicism or romanticism, all the specifics of which are determined by those in the relationship - no two qpps will be the same)

Coparenting relationships (these may be romantic, platonic, queerplatonic - whatever, but the main driving commitment to them is wanting to raise children together)

Some aros may want multiple types and/or want them with multiple people. But don't assume an aro will want a specific type of relationship. You'll need to get to know each aro individually to know what they're looking for or what they have!

Get to Know Aromantic Lingo

In order to best support partnering aros, you'll want to be familiar with some basic terminology. I introduced you to one thing you might want to know above (queerplatonic). I'll quickly go over some relevant lingo that would be useful for any ally to know.

Identities

Alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction (that largely lines up with the way society expects you to experience romantic attraction); ie someone who is not aromantic

Aromantic - someone who experiences low/rare or no romantic attraction and/or someone who is uninterested in aromantic relationships

Demiromantic - someone who only experiences romantic attraction to people after they have formed a bond with them/gotten to know them; they don't develop attraction to everyone they form a bond with but the bond is a necessary component when attraction occurs

Cupioromantic - someone who experiences low/rare or no romantic attraction and desires a romantic relationship

Non-SAM aro - an aromantic who doesn't use the Split Attraction Model (see Assorted); "aromantic" alone is enough to describe their orientation

Oriented aroace - someone who experiences low/rare or no romantic attraction, low/rare or no sexual attraction, but does experience another type of attraction (ex. platonic, alterous, sensual, etc.) important enough they want to label it; this is often expressed as "bi aroace", "lesbian aroace", etc.

Attractions

Alterous - an attraction based on a desire for emotional closeness that is neither platonic/romantic (the basis for some queerplatonic relationships; people may further qualify this with who they are alterously attracted to such as bialterous)

Mesh - the alterous equivalent of a crush (e.g. "I have such a mesh on my best friend!")

Platonic - platonic attraction/a desire to become friends with a person (ex. biplatonic, homoplatonic; aplatonic is a term for someone who experiences no platonic attraction or finds friendships in general exhausting/difficult to form/maintain)

Smush - the sexual equivalent of a crush

Squish - the platonic equivalent of a crush

Tertiary - a categorical label for any other type of attraction that isn't romantic or sexual (ex. platonic, alterous, sensuous, aesthetic, etc.)

Relationship Related

Nonpartnering or nonamorous aro - an aro who does not want any sort of committed, long-term partnership

Partnering or amorous aro - an aro who wants some sort of committed partnership

Queerplatonic - relationship that is neither platonic nor romantic and isn't accurately/comfortably defined within the expected arenas of friendship or dating; term is open to interpretation on purpose - the basis of the term is that it queers our understanding of platonic relationships in general society

Romance favorable - someone who desires romantic connection in some form

Romance indifferent - someone who feels neutral on the subject of romantic connection; they might partake in romance if the opportunity comes up but they don't actively seek it out

Zucchini - name for your queerplatonic partner (e.g. "My zucchini and I are moving in together soon!")

Assorted

Amatonormativity - the societal expectation that everyone should monogamously pair up with a long-term romantic (often romantic+sexual) partner

Split Attraction Model - a model of attraction where, for some people, their romantic and sexual orientations aren't the same, most commonly used by aros and aces (ex. biromantic asexual, aromantic gay, heteroromantic lesbian, etc.)

Myths, Biases, and Assumptions to Unlearn

Finally, the best way to learn how to support partnering aros may be to understand some of the most common misunderstandings about them so you can catch and call out these inaccuracies.

"Aromanticism is the same as asexuality."

Aromanticism is about romantic attraction. Asexuality is about sexual attraction. Just like some asexuals experience romantic attraction, there are some aromantics that experience sexual attraction. Some people are both aromantic and asexual, and we're commonly called "aroace".

"Queerplatonic relationships can't include a sexual component."

Some queerplatonic partners may not have sex, but some may indeed have sex. Just like platonic friends can have sex. The qualifier to a queerplatonic relationship is simply that it is neither really romantic nor platonic. The sexual component isn't defined: it can be there or it might not be there.

"Aromantics are just players/users."

Some aros may just want casual sex. Why is this an inherently negative thing? Casual sex isn't a problem - a problem can be when people lie about wanting a romantic relationship in order to gain false consent to sex or when someone doesn't listen that you don't want anything beyond casual sex and has sex with you hoping that it will eventually romantically entrap you.

Beyond that, some aros are completely uninterested in sex and some aromantics are looking for some sort of long-term commitment, including committed sexual relationships.

"Aromantics are incapable of love."

Some aros are indeed incapable of love or otherwise don't relate to love (look into loveless and heartless aromantics if you are interested in learning more), but some do feel/desire love. Love exists in all sorts of forms, and beyond that: love isn't what causes you to treat other living beings with respect and compassion, which is something more people should be more worried about. Being loveless isn't inherently negative or harmful or bad. If you equate a lack of love with something bad/negative, then that's something you personally need to look within and introspect on. Love is a neutral concept. It can feel good to feel - but plenty of people can also give you ways in which it can be bad to feel. Other people not feeling love is in no way a threat to you.

"Aromantics are incapable of romantic relationships."

A romantic relationship is a romantic relationship because it's defined as such by the people in the relationship. Even amongst alloromantics, romantic relationships can vary greatly. Some people are very touchy-feely. Others don't enjoy touch much. Some people are very open with lovey-dovey words. Some people are very verbally reserved. While a certain attraction type might be important to someone in a relationship, what it comes down to is what each person in the relationship wants and consents to. If someone - alloro or aro - is okay with a romantic relationship where romantic attraction itself isn't or isn't always present, why is that anybody else's business? There is no one thing that is inherently romantic. Kissing can be platonic, sensual, romantic, sexual, and/or a combo of those things. What makes romantic kissing romantic is the intent/desire to label it as such. An aromantic person can certainly manage a romantic relationship if that is their intent/desire.

"Queerplatonic relationships are just friendships for people who desperately want to be queer."

Putting aside the fact that I don't know anyone who just desperately wants to be marginalized and maligned - so what if they are? People are creating new words to help them describe how they feel and connect with other people who relate. That's how language - and humans - work. Please take some time to consider why you are so threatened or upset by the idea of new types of relationships? It is likely that you simply don't understand and are angry with your own ignorance - and perhaps even close-minded about learning new things. If people felt friendship was an accurate description of what they wanted/had, then they would use friendship. It's okay to not understand what queerplatonic means. It's a very open, vague concept that is incredibly personal to each person to whom "queerplatonic" is meaningful. It means different things to different people. Someones queerplatonic relationship or desire for one in no way hurts or even impacts you. Why does it matter so much that people feel different ways than you?

"Only aros can have queerplatonic relationships."

Queerplatonic is an open term for anybody who finds it useful, including any and all non-aros. An aro and alloro person may have a queerplatonic relationship together. Two or more alloro people may have a queerplatonic relationship together. (Just like not all romantic relationships are just two people, qpps may be two people - or they may be more.)

"Sexual relationships can't be meaningful or important."

The way you feel is not the way all other people feel or are obligated to feel. If sexual relationships, especially without a romantic component, aren't important or fulfilling to you, then don't seek one. But sexual relationships are allowed to be important and meaningful to people, including aromantics, and they are certainly allowed to seek these relationships. Just because you don't want a certain kind of relationship doesn't make it unhealthy or invalid. People are diverse and have a diverse assortment of needs and desires. Not everyone wants the same thing, and they shouldn't have to.

Other Useful Terms/Ideas/Concepts to Know

Aromantic Styled Polyamory

While the focus of most relationships is on two and only two people, anyone can be polyamorous and there are many different types of polyamory which in particular may appeal to aromantics, such as solo polyamory. Don't assume that a partnering aromantic is only looking for a monogamous relationship.

Relationship Anarchy

In today's society, relationships are treated hierarchically. Committed romantic+sexual relationships are expected to be the most important relationship, then immediate familial, then friends/family, then other. Work relationships may even fall fairly high up on this list. Relationship anarchy is about discarding this hierarchy and making your own personal decisions on how important a relationship is to you.

Finally, the most important thing to know about how to support partnering aromantics is to know how to listen to them! Don't speak over them. Let them speak for themselves and help boost their voice. Different aros are going to have different needs. Different aros will have different things that are important to them and different ways they need to be supported. So always be willing to listen and learn new things.

Anything anybody else would like to add or even correct me on? Please, feel free!

[thatqueergarbagerat]

Normalize wanting committed, non-romantic relationships that aren't QPR's or PLP's

[spectrum-inside]

La mia pelle nuda

E il mio letto vuoto

Profumano di te,

Dopo ore che te ne sei andato.

-non mi rimane che abbracciare i cuscini ora.

[bougiebutchbitch]

Wilson: nods

Me: YOU FUCKING BASTARD

YOU KNOW HE’LL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU

YOU KNOW HE’S RECKLESS AND BORDERLINE-SUICIDAL

YOU KNOW HE’S AT SERIOUS RISK ON ACCOUNT OF HAVING A) A FRACTURED SKULL AND B) JUST HAD A HEART ATTACK THAT FUCKING MORNING

YOU’RE TELLING HIM TO DO A SERIOUS NON-RECCOMMENDED RIDICULOUS PROCEDURE ON HIMSELF FOR A TEENY TINY CHANCE YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW EXISTS, THAT HE MIGHT’VE SEEN A SYMPTOM ON AMBER BEFORE THE CRASH

RATHER THAN PUT AMBER THROUGH THE RISK OF BEING WOKEN UP WITHOUT THEM BEING ‘100% SURE’ (impossible) WHAT’S WRONG WITH HER

I KNOW YOU’RE SCARED AND UPSET BUT HOLY SHIT

And House just. Looks at Wilson. With big sad eyes. And nods too. Like, okay. I’ll die if you want me to, all for an incredibly slim chance of saving your girlfriend who you’ve been dating for... what, under a month??????????????? sure

flkghskldfhjglsdlfgsdfgkjsdjfgfsdkhlghklsdflhgkhldfsklglsdfhkghkjdfsg??

This really is just a peak Wilson Is Kinda Awful moment. Tell House you don’t love him without telling him you don’t love him. Ouch.

[mj0976sworld]

Telegram: @inch_t85555..

[qandgay]

Heyo! Ive got a sizing dilemma regarding chest binders, and if possible, Id really appreciate some advice about it.

A couple of weeks ago, I ordered a couple of binders from Underworks, and measured myself kind of loosely. When those binders came in, they felt and looked too big (not much compression, the material under my chest was loose and bunchy) so I returned them and got a size down.

The new ones seem to fit ok, but the arm holes are so small that the bottom cuts into my armpit-boob area. It really frustrates me because Ive needed new binders for a while, and my old GC2B ones are falling apart, and Ive never had this issue with them before. Should I remeasure and go for another size/cut?

first off, underworks isn't the best for sizing, especially if you've got a larger chest. HOWEVER, it's also possible you measured wrong! you should be as accurate as possible when measuring for chest size.

i would recommend spectrum outfitters as a much better option! still fairly cheap, but in my experience much better quality. you can also sew some extra, stretchy, fabric onto the kind of armpit area:

[ID: two images of people wearing binders. the first has an arrow pointing to the extra armpit and breast fat that is pushed to the side when wearing a chest binder. the second person has their arms up, and red marks outline where extra fabric would go to hold better. end ID]

if you can afford to go more expensive, my number one suggestion is amor binders! in my experience (as someone kind of awkwardly shaped lol) their sizing and compression is pretty great. on top of that, they are sensory friendly!! no pokey seams or threads.

if you're looking for a more personalized/comfortable fit, go with for them! (although ive been told they can be a little looser, so keep that in mind)

the reason underworks is shaped like it is, is because they're originally made for cis men who experience breast growth! so they aren't quite shaped right for some transmasc bodies.

(also don't go back to gc2b! their quality is honestly terrible now :( )

-- mod hollow

[bootdork]

Day 2 of owning an Amor binder this shit rocks

[stal3bread]

I require advice about binders. Basically, my chest is bigger now than it used to be which means I am not getting as flat as I used to in a binder. I have Spectrum binders, and they get me sort of flat but not passably flat. So, I’m considering buying a new binder from a different brand. I’m looking at: ForThem (the MAX one, not the regular binder), CantiqLA, Amor Sensory, and Wivov. If anyone has any experience with any of these brands, please share them with me. The biggest factor for me right now is compression, though it does have to be sensory friendly which is why I’m not considering Underworks.

[introvertidocronico]

Loveless, Alice Oseman

[soysaucevictim]

Look. I just wanted to put together portraits of my Remuses together.

Because my gawd. This man has taken over like... 80% of my conscious thoughts.

The chaotic, mostly amoral, ENTP Rat Bastard is burrowed right in my brain. And I’m not complaining. I just-

ANYWAYS...

Gymrat - Full Art | Ao3 Series

iZombie - Full Art | Ao3 Series

Begotten - Full Art | Ao3 Series

Promethean - Full Art | Ao3 Series

[spectrum-inside]

È da una vita che la mia anima si sfama di drammi e dolori e malinconie.

Non le ho mai dato altro.

[breitzbachbea]

It's always romantic cannibalism if you love the whole world.

[0luv9]

sugar rose || theodore nott

Summary: Fool in love, bright like silver, shinning for everyone to see. Life has never been this good for Theo and he'll go out of his way to keep it that way. Or Theodore being utterly and unapologetically in love with you.

Beware: fluff, a bit of smut (which I can't write to save my life), nicknames used (pretty, love), written in second person, no pronouns used, it's just sweet.

I hope this will warm your hearts up a bit, it's a cold winter this year.

Words: 2.1k

Everyone sees it, Theodore being absolutely smitten by you, it's obvious, he has made sure everyone knows that you are his for the taking. Nott was known to be level headed one in the group, like Blaise, never getting into fights but not doing much to stop them either. Unlike Enzo, who was on the other end of the spectrum from Matheo and Draco, always keeping the group out of conflict because he didn't want to lose the house cup, that is. Everyone knew not to mess with the Slytherins, their pride was always at stake.

You were his girlfriend, everyone knows, no-one knows the consequences of thinking otherwise. They'd rather not, it's quite evident that people loved their peace more than to spit some game over a taken girl. That's how it should be, that's how it'll be.

...

You were sitting in Theo's lap, he was reading you the study material for history of magic, you were quite literally bored but your boyfriend was insistent on studying, he was also insistent on doing it with you, he wouldn't let go of you. The common room was empty, it was lunch time and you didn't feel like eating lunch, since you didn't your boyfriend didn't either, so this is how you were spending your time. He was your yes-man, whatever you ask of him, he'll do it in a heartbeat. Infact, he also does things you just think of, as well as the things you expect him to do, he knows you too well, always compliant to your wishes.

You turn around facing him, he puts down the book the very second you smile at him, all his attention on you. The way you look at him, sitting in his lap, with such love, he can feel his heart race, no matter how long it has been with you, the sugar rush never leaves. Theo can spend an eternity looking at you and still not run out of love, he knows it too well, he's far gone, turned too soft but he doesn't seem to mind because it's you. He doesn't care if his jaw hurts, he'll stay smiling when you are around. He starts his day with you in his mind, ends his day the same, dreams of you through the night and is with you throughout the day. He's content like this, there's nothing else he could ask for, he has everything he wants right in front of his eyes.

He doesn't have control over himself when it comes to you, it's all sweet and honey smooth when you are with him, his eyes always drift to you. He isn't hesitant to show his love for you, in fact he's quite shameless with it. You are shy infront of others though, so he enjoys moments like this, when you are alone with him, not afraid to be openly affectionate. Theo likes it when you say his name, "Theo," you breath out, smiling at him as you fiddle with his uniform's collar, unable to look into his eyes for long letting your gaze falter, he nods at you, encouraging you to continue, holding your nape with his hand making you look at him, thumb holding your chin up. You shake your head, smiling again and let your head bump against his chest, blushing, "I'm just happy, Teddy" your face is hidden in his chest, he holds you close, why is it that you are the shy one but it's his heart doing somersaults? "Me too mi amor, me too."

...

Theodore is not a religious man but when he has you infront of him, he'd gladly sink to his knees, thanking the heavens above for their blessings. He's with you in his dorm room, sitting on the loveseat, you in his lap, trailing kisses down his neck. You pull away, sliding off his lap down to your knees looking up at him with such devotion, he feels like a king, you unbuckle his belt with such eager hands he feels his soul escape, as though it has found it's paradise, ready to leave the land of mere mortals.

You love to tease him, knew how to him rile up and you took advantage of it. You pucker your lips around the tip of his length, not giving in easily, your eyes are full of mischief when you look up at him, "Don't tease," he groaned, hand reaching to fist your hair, you giggle as you pull away making him hiss. "Be kind Bella," his jaw was clenched hard with tension, you decide that it's enough, you always think you can hold back from him, tease him a bit more than the last time but your heart just wants to please him. You take his dick in whole, the warmth of your mouth making his jaw fall slack, the tension lifting from his shoulders as you swirl your tongue around the base, dragging it up slowly. Kissing the tip, then pulling away- letting your hand do the work while you give him a coy look. It was fucking sinful, hellish even, the way you were looking up at him. Theo was not a good man he knew that but there has to be a special place in hell for him after this because fuck, the way he loves you on some days is pure filth, there's nothing pure in his mind, there's only his weak submission to carnal desires.

You work your mouth up and down his length, the tip hitting the back of your throat in a pleasurably painful way. "Merlin-" his eyes were blown off to pitch blacks, it was struggle to take him in fully but the fucked out look in his eyes only motivated you. Gagging and choking on his dick, on your knees for him, it was a sight only he could see, only he could take the pleasure of admiring, he relished in knowing that fact that you were only his. Your beauty was for everyone to see, therefore it was something special in seeing you, pretty like this, lips wrapped around him and tear stained cheeks. He loved you more each second, it was worrisome how much he loved you, it even scared him sometimes, he'd go to any lengths for you, it doesn't matter if the world hates him by the end of it, he'll be happy if it means you'll love him a bit more.

Few minutes later he warns you that he's going to reach his limit, you don't let go, hands, lips, tongue, all pushing him over the edge, soon he's coming undone under your touch, you swallow up his release, pulling away your mouth with a pop. You are looking up at him with cum stained lips, zipping him up then straddling him. "That was pure fucking filth, love," he smiles as he looks at your lips, smearing the spit and cum more with his thumb, then pushing his thumb against your lips making you roll your tongue around him, licking away the remains of him, "the only filth I love."

...

Nott wasn't a fan of herbology but when he learnt that you adored certain flowers, he went out of his way to have them potted in your room, asked the professor ways of keeping the plants evergreen, perfected the charm to keep them blooming 24/7, going against nature just to see you smile.

Sometimes you'd make rings out of them, one for him, one for you, he'd wear them till the stems gave out, even then he'd preserve the flowers between the pages of his diary. Some days you'd make pretty crowns for yourself and others, he loved seeing you smile, the way you'd happily run to Pansy and Daphne during your break placing the crowns on their heads. Even they couldn't resist your charm, matching with you throughout the day, smiling brightly at eachother, it was a different kind of pretty, you being happy with your friends. He liked knowing that you had others loving you yet you came back to him, that you loved him more than you loved anyone else, he took pride knowing that his feelings were reciprocated with the same intensity.

"Everyone," you said out of nowhere, standing in front of him with your hands behind your back but talking to his friends instead, the group only sniggered at Theo's reaction, he was trying to get you to look at him, "I have something to confess," you smirked at them, you were wearing one of your flower crowns today and bright clothes as well, quite opposite to the image of the house you belonged to, standing out, everyone played along humming and urging you to continue, "there's this guy I like, a year above mine," you scrunched your nose up, as your friends gasped, "How scandalous, please continue ," Draco smirked, looking at how you were ignoring Theo who just looked confused, "I thought of asking him out on a date, you know with some poppies and roses, how does that sound?" You ask them shyly, still not looking at Theo who was on his feet now, while the others were sitting on the ground, splayed in different positions, all comfortable and happy. "That sounds awfully romantic, he'll surely appreciate it," Pansy quipped, cooing at your blushing face, the others simply nodding and grinning at her words.

Theo called out your name, finally making you look at him, "What Theo?" You ask him, your voice full of innocence, "what are you talking about?" He looks at his friends who just shrug and laugh while he's standing there all clueless. "You know, just confessing to the love of my life, he really is the best" you brightly smile up at him, "it's me, right? Theo?" He laughed lightly,"Ofcourse not silly," now he was confused, what were you on about and why were his friends hollering on the ground.

His face just scrunched up in confusion, you move closer to him, your shoes against his, smiling up at him, eyes full of love. "It's the guy named, Theodore Nott, do you happen to know him?" You were acting up, while his eyes widened, realising that he was being toyed with, not receiving a response, you pull your hands infront, placing the poppy and rose crown you made on his brown curls, "Happy Valentine's Day to guy I love the mostest" it was corny, cheesy and what not but it was sweetest thing at the same time, you were often shy when it came to public display but here you were, telling the world that he was the guy you loved the most- no, the mostest.

Theo was still awestruck, unable to move, only a smitten look on his, you reached up, placing a soft kiss on his lips. All you guys' friends were cooing and cheering when he bent down to kiss you after recovering from the initial shock, poppies and roses on both of your heads, you smiled against his lips as you pulled him closer. You both had drowned the noises everyone was making in the background, which went from cheering to fake gagging when they realised that the kiss wasn't going to end anytime soon. Theo couldn't care less what Valentine's was, for all it meant that he got another reason to celebrate his love for you, "I love you, the mostest." He repeated your words, meaning each and every word, his forehead resting against yours, there was no place better than this, to have you in his arms for everyone to see, for him to see your pretty smile directed at him, full of love and all things sweet and mushy, his face equally as bright. Kissing you again because he could never get enough of you, his heart beating as though he had just ran miles, warmth taking over his body, he doesn't ever remember asking for a life this happy but he's glad his happiness found him because there's nothing better than exchanging stones for roses or maybe it's just you, the rose petals over his gravel, he doesn't care only if it means that he can have you like this, sweet against his lips for the rest of his life. Finding himself closing his eyes, making a promise to himself, of cherishing and protecting this happiness of his, the one he never wished for, being his only wish now.

...

[yunjardi]

𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐆𝐍𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐘 𝐒𝐄𝐗 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐉𝐀𝐊𝐄

[𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬: 𝐬𝐦𝐮𝐭 (𝐦𝐝𝐧𝐢), 𝐮𝐧𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐱 (𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐥𝐬), 𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐤, 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐨𝐨𝐝, 𝐥𝐦𝐤 𝐢𝐟 𝐢 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠!]

[𝐚/𝐧: 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞'𝐬 𝐚 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐝𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐥𝐥 <𝟑 𝐢'𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐥𝐟!𝐣𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐰, 𝐬𝐨 𝐢𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐥. 𝐡𝐨𝐩𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐧𝐣𝐨𝐲!]

♡ being pregnant is hard, but jake is harder

♡ jake is always ready for the mood swings that may or may not occur, and he's especially ready for the times when your mood swings over to the horny side of the spectrum

♡ he'd be so gentle when teasing you, only taking things further if you told him you had enough energy to do anything sexual

♡ you two are either softly making love or fucking like rabbits, all depending on how much you feel you could handle (physically) on a given day

♡ he just wants to make you feel pleasure amidst the pain that comes with being pregnant :,(

and now for the little drabble...

"wait, we'll still be able to have sex, right?"

is the first thing that jake said upon separating from your long embrace induced by your sudden pregnancy announcement.

you couldn't help yourself from chuckling at how passionate and serious he was about his question.

"yes, jake," you reassured him, "we'll still be able to have sex, so you have nothing to worry about."

jake sighed with relief once hearing this new information, now knowing that your sex life wouldn't falter even though you were pregnant.

"phew, i don't think i'd be able to survive 9 whole months without it," jake wiped fake sweat off his forehead which made you giggle.

"you are shameless, jake sim," you laughed before jake pulled you, the love of his life, into a kiss.

"only when it comes to you, y/n y/l/n."

in the past few months, your relationship with jake surprisingly changed a lot (in a good way, of course).

but the thing that changed the most was your sex life.

not that you and jake weren't fucking like rabbits before, but it was now on another level.

being pregnant made your libido skyrocket to a point where you and jake couldn't keep your hands to yourselves.

if you guys weren't being all lovey-dovey, jake going out of his way to run out and get you whatever you (and the baby) were craving, you guys were definitely doing the nasty.

jake loved exploring new ways to fuck you since you couldn't do some positions that you'd normally do, your steadily growing tummy making things (sexually or otherwise) a bit difficult at times.

either way, you guys always found a way around it in order to satisfy your sexual needs.

it usually starts in the evening when you and jake are relaxing together when suddenly his hands start making their way all over your body. from then on, things just take off.

panties tossed to the side, you find yourself grinding your hips down onto two of his long fingers as he teased your clit with his thumb.

"jake," you breathed out as your walls desperately gripped onto jake's fingers, "m-more."

you didn't really have to beg much (or at all really) for jake to give in.

he was always ready to fuck you whenever you wanted whether you were aware or not; he just gets off to seeing you beg for his cock.

"so warm and wet," jake praised as he continued to toy with your entrance, "makes me wanna put another baby in you after you have this one." jake rubbed his free hand on your tummy as he described his dirty little fantasy about fucking you so much that you're pregnant every moment that you're able to be.

"show me, babe," you breathed out amorously whilst putting your arms around his nape before kissing his lips ever so gently.

it wasn't long until you found yourself at the edge of the bed, wet and waiting impatiently for jake to stick his veiny cock inside your needy hole.

once he finally did, you couldn't help the sensual moan that escaped your lips as your pussy immediately gripped onto every inch of his dick.

you felt your inner thighs heat up once jake began to push and pull his hips into yours, your moans becoming more prevalent with each thrust.

your moans were uncontrollable, your body so engulfed in pleasure that you couldn't even think straight.

gently helping you shift your body onto the bed because he didn't want you to stand for too long, jake continued his strong and steady thrusts, trying not to get too rough with you whilst you took his girthy cock from behind.

soon, you had a desire to change positions, longing to feel his length at a different angle. plus, you wanted to see jake's pretty face while he was stuffing you full. that meant riding was the way to go. not to mention that it drove jake absolutely insane to watch you shamelessly fuck yourself on his cock as you chased your orgasm.

"good girl," jake praised you breathlessly, "just like that; keep going."

jake would be lying if he said that he wasn't close to the edge.

seeing your tits (that have gotten fuller throughout the last few months due to pregnancy) bounce up and down while you gripped onto one of them drove him absolutely nuts (no pun intended). not to mention how turned on he got whenever you'd put your hands on your tummy for support while you rode his dick.

jake dug his nails into your hips and ass, still adoring your appearance as you practically used him as a sex toy. helpless whines, whimpers, and moans of lust escaped both of your lips, neither of you being able to muster up the power to dirty talk at this point.

soon, jake let himself loose, holding your hips down firmly onto his as he let out strings of groans and curses. he held your body close to his, leaving kisses from your neck to your chest all while his seed leaked from your tight pussy back down onto his softening length.

"if you weren't already pregnant right now, i'd say that you need to take a test asap," jake joked as you left kisses along his jaw and on his soft face, "because after that, there's no way you wouldn't be." jake laughed breathlessly as he flashed his pretty smile.

"at this rate, i'll be pregnant again in the next few months," you joked. "if you keep this energy up, we'll be a family of four by next year," you couldn't help but add onto your last statement with a slightly concerned chuckle.

"well, if the shoe fits-" jake shrugged with an obvious grin on his face.

"sim jaeyun, get your act together."

a/n: i hope you guys enjoyed this little drabble i wrote for you all + the double upload hehe <3 definitely let me know if you'd like more drabble content like this! ily <3

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