#am I selfish for needing support?
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I think my heart may actually crumble out of existence if I’m not fortunate enough to experience the joy of walking through life with someone (or someones. We poly) romantically and being their priority.
#yes this is a vent#I just genuinely don’t know where to get this off my chest#I have wonderful friends but at the end of the day#they can only give what they have time and energy for#and most of that is devoted to partners or kids#so I feel like I’m going through a lot of this alone#or if I do get help I have to put myself out there and ask#and risk being hurt anyway l#because now it’s not just oh I don’t have anyone#it’s#I should have someone but they don’t have time for me#even in the worst spots when I really need help#am I selfish for needing support?#maybe I should just keep working on never needing anyone#only rely on oneself and all that jazz
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I dont think most non black people actually want to face their own (personal and communal) anti blackness. Black people are not seeing enough of yall doing shit that actually matters like, cutting contact with your anti black family, giving up work promotions and giving the to black people, opening up your homes to poor/homeless black people, doing more than just casually reading vauge black leftist theory online and being "friends" with black people because you know itll boost your political capital.
I dont believe in black people giving our energy to non black people or their issues until we can give this level of support to our own communities. Most non black people do not care that we exist and the ones who do are falling short of what it means to truly be a friend and co conspirator. I dont believe in solidarity anymore, it literally cant exist if non black people do not choose to put a large organized sustained effort into combating anti blackness in their hearts, homes and communities.
#me#personal#vent#im personally gonna be moving more of own work into supporting more of my own bc im not really seeing that happening atm#I am just very done with dealing with trying to support and be supported by non black people who dont even care about black people#Niggas its time to be selfish! if you are giving to these non black people and theyre leaving your cup dry then its not cool!! be selfish#personally im gonna try to make more of my support efforts go to communal fridges in my neighborhood and giving to haiti sudan and the cong#I suggest that we start being more selective with who we are giving our energies too bc we need to help other black people first
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I just don't understand how my mom had me, her oldest and first child, raised me for 18 years (kind of?), and then chose some guy she barely knows and is objectively terrible over me and kicked me out unexpectedly after telling me I'm no longer a part of her family and all my childhood trauma (that HER at the time husband caused) was my fault. And now she's banned me from seeing my siblings that I RAISED (because she wasn't able to at the time.), she refused to answer my phone calls or texts when I was in the hospital, terrified, crying and begging her to come help or support me because I was completely alone in the hospital in the worst pain in my life and just wanted my mom, and on top of everything, made it clear I'm not invited to family thanksgiving. I don't understand. How is she even able to do that. I don't need her, I'm an adult, but I'm still her child. I don't think I'll ever understand.
#i'll delete this later#but i would really appreciate some kind words or support or blorbo/pet photos right now /nf#i'm just really sad and really angry#maybe i'm just being dramatic or selfish#after all i am an adult. i dont need my mom anymore.#but it still hurts#i can do it without her. but it sucks she doesn't even want me at the family thanksgiving for ONE day.#i miss my siblings#tw vent
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Okay, but do people not understand that some people love to spend time with the children of the people they care about?? That people can love kids who are not their own?? This whole weird fucking narrative that keeps getting spouted in this fandom about how Eddie is supposedly a bad friend because he "uses Buck as a babysitter" is so fucking obnoxious. First of all, Buck "babysitting" is not actually something we see all that often in canon at all.
But also, spending time with a kid you love while helping out a friend you love is not a fucking burden, and it is kind of infuriating that people treat it that way.
#my best friend is not 'using' me because she needs asks me to watch my nieces#i love those kids with everything i am it is not a fucking burden to spend time with them it is an absolute joy#so i am probably biased#but i would argue that is very much how buck sees spending time with christopher#and also this attitude that parents should do everything completely on their own and never ask for help in general is so damaging#we should care about the people we love and we should be happy to help them#acting like people are selfish for needing support is such a terrible way to view existence#and i know i'm technically talking about fictional characters here but this is how so many people seem to view actual people now too#and it is so very sad to see#anyway#that's my controversial opinion for today i guess#911 discourse
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can i just say im absolutely fucking terrified for the election its not even funny
#at first it was like haha we're fucked#but now its like#holy shit we're fucked#actually concerned for some people's mental stability#i still need to watch the vp debate but oml#i just dont understand#how some people can be so absolutely stupid and selfish and racist assholes#yet SOMEHOW have people supporting them#yall know who im talking about#i fucking cant#and im under 18 so i cant even vote#we're fucked we're so absolutely completely fucked and i cant do anything about it#but seriously its worrying#how do you have less common sense than a teenage girl who barely knows anything about politics#like dudes please grow the fuck up#you should have to take a test to be able to run for president#or vp omfg dont get me fucking started on jd vance#whatever its fine#i mean its not but what am i gonna do about it#ugh sorry i was looking at politics stuff idk why i did that#ruins my day actually#ugh
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Just started crying in the gym parking lot and I'm trying to turn it into gains motivation
#i have set time to get back to messages today and am trying to do things and Feel Better and help where I can#but I'm also so exhausted and tired and weak and feeling selfish for needing support because. well because I know it's needed elsewhere more#and so again sticking myself in this vicious cycle of trying to help and over extending myself and then getting tired bc I have nothing#to give anymore#anyway like in the midst of everything else this is so small#but I can't ask for Help bc I need to just handle it bc I know most of my network is equally overextended#and anyway. one day soon I'll get over my deep fear of 'being human and needing people to help me' but until then#crying in the pf parking lot and lifting heavy 💪👍
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wow. not even a week into college and i'm already behind on work. fucking lovely.
#friday chats#friday vs post-secondary school#tw vent#(in the following tags)#i am immeasurably stressed right now#i need to talk to my doctor about getting a booster to go along w/my adhd meds#bc this has been a problem for a while but i think it's about to come to a head#and i'm very scared for when that happens#maybe also talk to my school's disability services#bc Good Fucking God i'm already overwhelmed#it's 11:56. should i just go to bed? i have so many things left to do#when do i even have the time to go to disability services. and i've heard a lot of schools' processes w/that are slow and overcomplicated#fuck. fuck fuck fuckity fuck.#i think i'm spiraling#i'm worried that if i don't get a degree i won't be able to find a nice enough job to support myself independent of my family#and i don't want to be stuck with them forever#i really really don't#maybe i can talk to disability services sometime tomorrow morning. see what they can do#i think there's mental health services too. i hope they're decent#i just feel really bad right now. and it's only week one.#it feels like time's moving too fast but too slow at the same time#classes take forever but my free time zips by and runs out way too quick#and when it's gone i've completed maybe one or two things. out of several. if any at all.#i just don't know what to do. it's only been three days.#maybe i can drop a class; i think i'm taking enough to still be considered a full-time student with one less thing on my plate#i hope so#fucking damn it#how do people do this??? for multiple years????#and i feel selfish for saying this but i hope if y'all see this post you'll interact with it somehow. even just a like.#i want to know someone hears me
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I know Im too young to be bitter about missed chances and stuff but it is my right and boy am I exercising it
#captain’s own#dumb bitch hours#personal logs#it is not entirely fair to be bitter towards my mom about staying home#it was my decision as an adult to live with her after my dad died#but the fact that the past year and a half I have been treated poorly by her#when I moved away from most of my support system (who stayed in New England post grad)#when I gave up the opportunity of a lifetime#and she still thinks I just moved home to save money and I don’t actually care about her#like she doesn’t know and I won’t tell her cause it will upset her too much but I was scouted by a talent agency#they wanted me but I told them I wasn’t planning on going back to NY for at least a year#if I was as selfish and shitty as she thinks I am#I’d be in NY with my friends#Doing extra work and seeing above average improv once a month#okay just needed to rant
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people will say "wooooooow astarion and/or lae'zel suck for approving of this TERRIBLE thing that I did!"
my guy. read over what you just said. remind yourself that this is a video game. are you not the one perpetrating the crime they just witnessed? each one of these characters is moulded by your choices...some more than others, some less, depending on how past experiences left their state of mind. not all of them begin with a good, or even neutral, alignment and that is good because the game would be pretty motherfucking boring if you were travelling with six characters who all shared fairly similar moral alignments and thus also shared equally similar outcomes to their storylines!
you have the ability to show the crueller, less kind companions that they do not have to be the person they were taught to be by their tormentors/traumatic experiences. you have the ability to do that, just as you have the ability to affirm their selfish and/or violent outlook on the world. just you pal, because remember! it's a fucking video game, and one of its objectives is to travel with these characters and complete their companion quests!
#bg3#thoughts about media#I love how there are a lot of things that tie all the companions together- but they are also each unique!#they have each have their own struggles and all responded differently to the torment they endured!#it is awesome! what isn't awesome is that the fandom treats companion morality as a binary with no room for nuance.#people reduce the companions down into a few traits that support their opinion on the given character and ignore the rest.#so you see claims that astarion or lae'zel are immutably evil bc of how they act at the beginning of the game.#or because they do not fully heal from their LIFELONG trauma by the end of the game.#because apparently trauma needs to go away QUICKLY in order for you to be redeemed! you must be palatable!!#and then if you ARE palatable...you don't get to have flaws AT ALL.#so you see karlach's moments of selfishness/impatience being erased because She's Good and therefore Can't have flaws.#you see wyll's inability to realise the harm his father caused him ignored bc it's not That Bad. he's apparently “fine & well-adjusted"#I HAAAAATE IT!!!!!!!#a right fool am I to expect better though. a complete idiot to hope for better actually. considering st.
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oohhh royal knight in training subaru and prince hokke oohhghh
#they have been in my mind can you guess#but like listen#mr akehoshi died in a war led by seiya(king) 10 years ago and now subaru is following the steps of his father#so seiya has a soft spot for him although subaru hates the monarchy for that and onlydoes that bc its the best high income job he can do to#support his mother#also hokke just despises his monarchy duties and one day he is going out of the castle by himself and subaru is like what is this idiot doin#and subaru is like 'Hey you dumbass! where are you going on your own?' and hokke is like 'dont you know who i am? learn some manners before#speaking to me!!' and subaru is like 'of course i know who you are! you are stealing my horse where the hell are you going you clown of a#prince!!!!!!#and hokke ignores him but he actually doesnt know what he is doing so subaru just runs behind him#and after a while hokke gives up and explains that he doesn't want to be a prince so he decided to escape and subaru is like ?? this guy??#and concludes it must be a rebellious phase because he was borned with a silver spoon and just wants to create problems for himself#so he tells him that the life outside the palace is horrible and hokke should appreaciate his life more. everyone would want to be the princ#hokke thinks for a moment and concludes that no. subaru is wrong. and subaru is starting to get annoyed so he sends hokke to the palace#(but in their argument he acutally stole some jewelry of hokke so he sells those to help shinonon the poor guy selling milk and newspaper#and the next day hokke goes to him like 'you stole from me give them back' and subaru is like 'i thought you wouldnt notice. you dont need#them anyway'#and they start arguing again.#chiaki (subaru's knight trainer) sees them and later says to subaru that they seem close#and subaru is like 'no we dont!! he is a selfish jerk who only thinks of himself!' and chiaki thinks he is the only person subaru has gotten#close to#bc hokke doesn't like interacting with guards or maids or anything that has to do with the castle either#so chiaki is like me thinks#so they keep doing sbhk shenanigans and they mutually warm up to each other#at one point hokke brings jewels to subaru personally so he can sell them in the city and sometimes subaru bri#subaru brings hokke to the city in some of their getaways. normal citicens dont know he is the prince just some noble bc of his clothes and#good manners. which subaru doesnt have.#at some point hokke is impressed by subaru's knowledge and he confesses that his father used to steal books from the royal library and then#thought him and his mother and it makes hokke think that they are quite similar#mr hidaka seiya is pretty glad hokke is getting along with subaru since he appreciated mr akehoshi a lot
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I absolutely 100% do not support what Israel is doing to Gaza. It is repugnant and evil and needs to be stopped immediately. But at the same time, seeing the things I’m seeing coming out of the pro-Palestine space, I don’t feel safe being in it as a Jewish person. And that’s a major fucking problem, because I know I am not the only Jewish person to feel this way. We want to help. We want to add our voices (and we have; just look at Jewish Voice For Peace, If Not Now, and B’Tselem), but we want to know we will be safe.
I’m scared even now to make this post because I know a lot of people will flood my comments and call me a Zionist and claim I don’t actually care about Gaza/Palestine when that is blatantly untrue.
#antisemitism#miri’s thoughts#i want to protest and i want to help but i am scared#just look at what’s happening in russia right now#and the hateful rhetoric about jews being spewed at protests all around the world#i feel like the movement is losing a lot of valuable jewish support bc of the antisemitism on display#maybe this is selfish of me but idk. i think leftist spaces need to do a lot of work to make them welcoming for jews#i saw a post today that boiled down to ‘all jews have blood on their hands’ and it had thousands of likes#like that shit is not okay and y’all are allowing it to flourish in the community
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I just realizing I'm coming up on a year since I resurfaced as Vessel!
#this is the longest I've been able to just... be me#my last attempt lasted a few weeks before i was pulled back into headspace kicking and screaming#(i am not proud of the shit i pulled but... ive come a long way)#(i was a very selfish and cruel alter before we realized i was a prosecutor and ive been trying so hard thisblast year to be better)#(and I think it shows? i get support from my fellow system members now and im less volatile over all)#(and my main previous method of exerting control over us is just... not appealing anymore)#(i... i dont need it. or want it anymore. and thats refreshing.)#vessel talk#actually plural#did osdd#plurality
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the solidarity stage of my life's game is super boring i can't wait to get to the next level.
#my phone is so dry i have no one to talk to#as always my best friend (the only one i talk to) is busy fighting her depression/living her life and she has no space for me#i sound so selfish rn but it's been a month and i miss her#i want a constant relationship in my life#i want someone to hold me physically and mentally#i crave human presence lol#but it's not that bad it doesn't hurt much#i don't feel much pain i don't cry much anymore#i kinda miss crying at least I'd feel better after#i want friends that are the opposite of all my ex friends#i want people that last#i want a hug#i need a hug#i want him back#i also try my best to support her but she is living her best life trying to survive and she won't set aside some space for me#but I'm happy she is fighting her best fight and doing her best#it's just hard bc she lives on a different continent#i just feel like an abandoned orphan when she is not around#she is my soulmate basically#she is the only one in my life (that is not my mother) that accepted me for who i am
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aaaaaaand it's starting. mom's bestie just texted me asking to come over this weekend cause it's Bad and it's probably the last chance to talk and maybe say goodbye to my mom's husband and i need to take care of her. god. i wont get through this weekend unless im high or drunk istg.
#time to slightly overdose my depression meds again ig lol#anyway. it is a little better with me these last two weeks. turns out the meds do work when you actually take em regularly#but first my best friend's break up that she's blowing up to unimaginable size#acting as if she just got divorced with the love of her life after 20 years#and not ended a few months long relationship with a guy who's been the source of most of her troubles since the moment they started dating#(ofc she's valid and id never tell her that because like. i get it. some people feel stuff more deeply. but its hard to be supportive#when you genuinely feel like this is the best possible outcome for her and that the relationship was only dragging her down all this time)#and now this. and this is gonna be infinitely worse. and then it's gonna get a million times worse when he actually does die.#and i feel like the worst most selfish person ever which like. probably am. but i did tell my cousin who actually knows my mom really well#and she said she understands and that my fears ARE valid because SHE'S terrified of how she's gonna handle my mom#and she wouldn't wanna be me in that situation cause it's gonna be so much worse for me lmao#like i feel like people who know my mother casually really dont understand just how unhinged emotionally she is#anyway. i feel so overwhelmed. i cant handle this jesus.#but im also emotionally unavailable and refuse to actually confide in another person because i dont want to be a bother <3333#god i love tumblr. i can literally type anything in those tags lol it's the perfect form of venting since you can just scroll by#but i will still have let it out of myself anyway uwu i literally dont need that therapy fr#anyway. i feel so unbelievably fucking lonely and on one hand it's my own fault for withdrawing and refusing to ask for help.#but on the other hand. i AM alone. like there's no one who can help me in this particular situation.#i have no siblings. obviously my dad isnt gonna help. it all falls down to me. good god. i wanna throw up.
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venting a bit.
my least favorite notification ever has gotta be people cancelling their patreon subs. i posted something i worked extremely hard on and someone cancelled their membership 2 minutes later
#blimp's blogs#like I'm this close to blocking people that cancel after a month lol#like thank you for your support I GUESS but if you can't even spare $5 or less for more than a month...#am I selfish for thinking this?#I still don't have a job yet and I'm kinda desperate#but this kinda thing is what made me quit patreon last time#fuck#I'll just have to keep working I guess#I'm still a relatively new creator#and there are people with less experience than me that also have patreon pages#and I need any form of income i can get#even if its less than $50 a month now :/
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listening to my parents talk about me is so fucking funny. "she's dealt with us for so long that at this point she's done. she's mentally checked out from having to give a shit about anyone. can you believe how corruptible she is just because she's almost an adult and she thinks that we're not her problem anymore?"
like man you are literally so close. so fucking close.
#no it's not that ive dealt with everyone for my whole life and now im selfish and dont want to give a shit about anyone anymore#its that ive dealt with everyone my entire life ive been an emotional support pillar ive been rotting in this toxic dysfunctional household#ive been a third parent ive stepped in for my dad when he spontaneously decides to be a deadbeat ive supported my mom without fail#whenever shes needed it for years. ive dealt with everyones fits of mania & psychosis & breakdowns & chronic pain & depressive episodes#ive had my mental illness trivialized and belitted and downplayed. im exhausted and traumatized and so fucking burned out#of course it looks like ive given up on everyone from the outside because im struggling !! im struggling mentally and emotionally#and its spilling out in all the wrong ways and they just see it as me letting my anger ruin my character and everyone else around me#they dont care if theres something wrong with me even though im throwing out signs and cries for help literally wherever i can#they just care that theyre affected by it and inconvenienced by my deteriorating mental condition#they think this mentally ill freak is just what i am at this point and they cant stop emotionally blackmailing me#by reminiscing about how i used to be so kind and optimistic. i wish they would just fucking see me for once#ive played the role of the good emotional support eldest daughter my entire life. why didnt they think it would blow up at some point#and when i have tried opening up in moments of severe emotional vulnerability they just throw it back in my face later on#while simultaneously telling me i just need to change my outlook on life because im still young and cant define myself by childish problems#mom you are depressed and anxious you should recognize it better than anyone. you should be able to see it for what it is#instead of telling me to go spend a week volunteering at a cancer hospital so i can go see what real problems exist for people in the world#and what other people are going through and maybe ill come out with a new appreciation for life#mom just bc people are dying of cancer doesnt mean i can't be depressed just bc other people have it worse doesnt mean i cant have it bad#im so fucking tired!#3 am vent post yippee i am going to regret oversharing on the internet so badly when i wake up tmrw
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