#alcoholism mention /

[fence-time]

This man cannot stop with the potions, hashtag alcoholism 👍

[phoenixyfriend]

If you do the thing for "valid" reasons, then you can't pick it. (e.g. if you don't swear because your religion forbids it, or don't drink because of a family history of addiction, then you can't vote for that option, because you don't have the Childish reasoning that the poll is about)

Basically "is this something that someone would feel comfortable making fun of you for, without an 'excuse' on hand that would be socially unacceptable to continue mocking?"

If you can snap at them about being on meds that interact poorly, or having asthma, or not being able to afford real jewelry, it's a "valid" reason and you can't vote for that option. Also it's pretty cultural; I get a lot more shit for the cigarette avoidance in Serbia than in the US, and someone in Germany is less likely to be mocked for the spice thing than someone in Texas.

If it's more than one (very likely), then just pick the one that people feel the most entitled to be dramatic about to your face.

(I was gonna say 'over 25' but half the site is under that age. Then I was gonna say 'over 20' but then I'd have to deal with people talking about underage drinking because America. So instead here.)

[n3krotic06]

[transsongtaewon]

One thing that gets me about Yoojin is that it would have been so easy to just give up and die before the regression. The last repayment skill can help him survive in dire situations but it's also deeply traumatising to use and he still definitely had to struggle to make it out alive a lot of the time. And we hear about some of the effects of this sometimes, this all fucked him up so bad he self-medicated with alcohol to the point that he didn't even think to question people coming in his home to drag him to rehab, without which he almost definitely would have died. But he kept desperately going on and surviving. For Yoohyun.

[ineffableigh]

Fic Rec of the Day:

Holy shit I finally read it. God damn. This is a MASTERPIECE. Tread carefully and take care of yourselves if you read it - this is a very real story surrounding Crowley's trauma, therapy, and the deep social bond between him and a truly caring therapist.

[pinbones]

Filbo: ...how are things, Cromdo? honestly?

Cromdo (every inch of him snackified to Snaquiri): fucking peachy

[royaltercets]

sometimes i think abt the fact that ray turned to alcoholism because his alcoholic late mother didn’t love him, his father didn’t show love like he should have, and his whole friend group kept calling him a burden (a burden!!! who fucking calls their friend that!!!) instead of loving and supporting him which is all he needed, as proven by sand, to stop self harming by ways of alcohol and drugs and letting himself get fucked when drunk only so he doesn’t remember anything, and start rehab and a path to sobriety. if you can’t have an intervention for your friend and support him through hard times, are you really a friend? or are you keeping him around for, idk, the money he might have a bunch of, or something?

i honestly feel like boston was a better friend to him than mew, who kept him around as someone to give him attention and affection and refusing to set his foot down and properly reject him. he was harsh, but not constantly unkind. boston, of course, had his own issues—not the slut thing, but the later infidelity thing with nick, and also the earlier seduction of taken men (which, by the way, is entirely as much, if not more, the fault of said men (*cough* top *cough*) as it was boston’s. cheating takes two people).

i feel like people love overlooking this because…? i don’t know, they’re two characters who are framed to seem like assholes (and they are at times! they’re complex characters!), but this blatantly ignores the absolute red flags that is the rest of them; namchueam—who not only is one of the people to treat ray, who’s got probable ptsd and severe abandonment issues and like 79 other mental illnesses (okay, hyperbole, but you get the point) like absolute shit by continually calling him a burden—but also was like. fine with her brother nearly ruining boston’s life over a false rape allegation, because she disliked boston so much in the moment; mew, who as previously mentioned keeps ray around for his own gain despite thinking of him as a burden; top, who really isn’t a friend to ray but he’s part of the group by association, who’s honestly just an asshole who i guess realizes that he can’t always get what he wants without fighting for it. then there’s april, who is pretty damn spineless imo, but at least she’s not awful to ray (i might be misremembering here, though). idk what to think of her. she feels like she barely has any opinions of her own. she feels very… surface. honestly nick was a better friend to him and he wasn’t even really a friend? i like to think they get closer post-canon though.

nonetheless: the behavior that i see in these so called friends, truthfully, is what got him to attempt suicide twice. yes, twice—you don’t think a drunk person would twist the wheel so far that the car they’re driving crashes into the side wall in the other direction to the one they’re driving in by just falling asleep or losing consciousness or not being alert enough, do you? i’m pretty sure that was intentional. and, i’m pretty sure the reason he pushed away sand and refused to listen to his (albeit very important!!!!) advice about not driving drunk wasn’t because he’s Regular Self Destructive, but rather because ray wanted sand to hate him for hurting him and being stupid to make it… easier, somehow, on sand when he killed himself, or whatever. i’ve been in that situation myself, and i recognized it immediately—he knew his friends (if you can genuinely call them that) would probably hate him after that night, and he did it so that they wouldn’t miss him.

anyways, to conclude this dumb, ill-formatted, ranty post, so many OFTS watchers just… seem to look at the surface of it all. yes, they all have issues. that’s like. the point of the show. but if you consider ray an annoying burden due to his alcoholism and addiction and all of that, you have missed the main point of his arc, which really boils down to “sometimes someone going through a really hard time just needs some love and support, and if you can be that for them, they can become better and show a better side of themselves, which is invaluable to someone who truly loves and cares for them”. love isn’t only for those who don’t take to unhealthy coping mechanisms when they struggle, like nick.

to summarize: if you have a ray in your life, be their sand. not necessarily romantically, but love and care for them, genuinely. don’t be a mew or a chueam. or an april, if you can help it.

[reanimationstation]

Can you tell me a little bit more about Sammy’s relationship with his family? What was his relationship to Riley’s parents and assuming he raised her after their deaths, how was he at it?

As soon as he was able to, he basically took off and carved his own life away from his family. They're not on bad terms per se, just distant ones. Very distant. But whether he likes it or not Sammy is notified of people passing, either through mail or someone tracking him down.

I think Riley is Sammy's cousin's kid. But most of their family either doesn't live in America or is too far away to have stepped in, so when he was contacted about his cousins deaths and their now orphaned daughter, he did not have a lot of time to process! He wasn't the closest in the world to them, but due to them living sort of nearby and probably helping him economically early on in his adult life, he held them in good regard (good for Sammy at least).

[THIS GOT LONG SO THE REST UNDER THE CUT]

I think it's sort of implied that whoever ended up taking care of Riley moved into her house? Or at least the devs just didn't want to model a new place lol. So Sammy isn't really... the happiest about moving into his dead cousins place, but it's also leagues better than the dingy little apartment he had. Though I'm not sure if I'm in love with the idea of him moving in I'll have to stew on it. EDIT: also he was pretty young when this happens?? Maybe like, early 20s. He is NOT prepared for a young kid.

He's an......alright guardian. He was and still isn't comfortably being seen as her father figure, but he's doing his best. He's marginally better at taking care of a kid than taking care of himself. Not by much. She's alive that what counts. And she likes him enough, Riley probably thinks he's weird and bit of an asshole at times but hey so is she so whatever.

They're both the eccentric artistic types, so to speak. He doesn't know how to handle her trauma and subsequent art outlet, outside of just letting her be. Which is a good and bad thing... good, because coping! Bad, because coping badly. Not to mention the implications of some sort of addiction (probably alcoholism?) later on with all the bottles strewn about the place. It seems like addiction sort of runs in the family.

When she later gets hired at JDS I think she applied behind Sammy's back. He would not want her working there. So he's not really... on her side when complaints start rolling in about her unsettling art? In his eyes it'd be better for her to work elsewhere. I don't think he ever ends up seeing the fallout of that, as I think his ink addiction and subsequent inkfection and disappearance probably happen sometime during her employment. Which isn't helping her mental state! So there's nobody to stop her from falling into GENT's clutches, because her parents are dead, and Sammy's disappeared.

ANYWAYS TLDR Sammy is a bit distant from his family and tries his best which isn't enough because they're both neurodivergent and need a lot more help than the other (or anyone) can provide.

[lotus-tower]

gintoki

[oni-tengu]

You can't keep doing this. < do not tag as shipping >

[tea-and-secrets]

My friend is such an alcoholic and I just don't know what to do about it. Like everyone else keeps saying she's fine and that she just has a higher tolerance, but it really, REALLY seems like she doesn't. She can't keep track of how much she drinks, and she'll argue with you if you ask her to wait a while before driving. She physically can't come to a hangout without going to the liquor store first, even if she's running late! She insists on getting other people drunk too, so that she's not the only one drinking. I've had to completely ban people from bringing alcohol to my house because I got tired of feeling like I was enabling her. I'd love to hang out with her more, but sometimes it feels like I just can't be sober around her, or that she can't hang out with us without getting sloshed. I know she at least on some level enjoys my presence even when she's sober, but since banning alcohol she's more or less stopped coming over. I'm just frustrated because I know what an alcoholic looks like, I grew up around them, but everyone keeps pretending like she's fine even if she point blank asks if we think she is one. I feel like I'm going nuts when I think about it

(no one has outright complained about or ignored the alcohol ban, I just noticed that some people come over less)

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[kimkhimhant]

i appreciate when fanfics address kevin's alcoholism but just a psa that quitting alcohol cold turkey can be really really dangerous and deadly depending on the extent of the addiction and physical dependence and if kevin's alcoholism worsened it would be super dangerous for him to go through withdrawal like aaron did (at home & unsupervised). he would almost certainly need legitimate medical attention/monitored rehab. andrew was reckless with getting aaron clean the way he did but i don't think even he would risk it in kevin's circumstance

[sailorsenshishitposter]

Dio Brando x Reader

Dio Brando

You forgive the most evil characters no matter how bad their deeds are and think you can fix them. You have a vampire kink and you prefer cats instead of dogs. There's also a 10% chance that you were that kid who would unironically yell "KONO DIO DA!" and think it was funny.

First Date

If he's human than you meet during school and bond over you're hatred of alcoholic father's whilst getting drunk on cronenburg Irish whiskey. You have a secret relationship because Dio is now fancy and can't be associated with a "loose" woman. His pullout game is strong (it has to be so he doesn't have an army of miniature Dario's running around) and you leave him once you find out that he's been sleeping with all the local prostitutes (men included).

If he's a vampire then he's kidnapped you for food. Don't expect to live as this isn't part 3 Dio. He got a mother to eat her baby and plays with mancats. At best he'll leave you to starve after asking you how many breads you've eaten in your entire life.

[mwagneto]

i keep getting the urge to drink a beer or smtg at home then stopping coz i realise that's just alcoholism

[aita-blorbos]

tw: alcoholism, bullying, child neglect

AITA for pushing someone I dont like into a lake?

So basically after a very close friend (we’ll call her M)’s death (which I wont go into) , one of my friends (M16 who we’ll call B) scribbled in his own photo album which contained pictures of M and the rest of the group, this happened about 2 years ago. Ever since I (F16) have been furious at B and me and my gang have been punishing him by humiliating him. Yesterday one member of my old friend group (M16 who we’ll call K) confronted me and my gang about bullying B. Along with K was S (M16) who hasnt left his house in 4 years. Eventually we fought and S stabbed me with a steak knife. Today I went with my gang to our hangout spot and B was there. We told B to leave and he screamt. Obviously then K and S showed up and after a long gang fight, S pepper sprayed us and my gang left. I was upset because K and S were ruining my life just when I learnt how to live without them (not to mention my mom’s alcoholism was getting worse), and after B tried to approach me I pushed him into the lake in a fit of rage. K confronted me while S jumped in to save B. Eventually H (M21) came and saved S and B and tried to talk to me but I ran away in tears. Im writing this at 2am and I cant sleep because my mom is still drinking and watching TV.

[cabeswaterdrowned]

for the ask game: blue or ronan and drink of choice

Ronan — well based on canon his drinking problem is referenced quite a bit but not usually a specific drink, I did some quick searching in a couple of pdfs and he’s mentioned drinking beer a couple times when it is specified but who knows if that’s his favorite or just what’s available.. then again it would be kind of on brand for Ronan who could afford more expensive alcohol to still have beer as his favorite. Or he could be choosing beer deliberately to further the self harm could see that also.

— for non alcoholic drink it’s obviously orange juice. obviously. 

Blue — I don’t think she drinks much but I could see her sampling some kombucha that her Aunts definitely brew sometime so like, jasmine kombucha or something we’ll say as her favorite alcoholic drink that sounds right.

— for regular drinks we know she’s partial to that mint tea teehee (I love the scene where Calla teases her about that.), but she strikes me as a smoothies and iced teas girl generally. In fact could see her really enjoying mixing different fruits and vegetables in home created smoothies (I also hc her as having some sensory issues so like the clothing that she makes/calibrates textures of herself could see her wanting to make these herself so she knows she’ll like the texture/taste). For flavor hmm, I feel like even though she’d make some involved combinations her actual favorite might be something pretty simple. It might even be blueberry lol.

Ty!