#actual aspd

[ashleytism]

posting this on my official drag account cause im angry

hey people with bpd!!! youre not better than anyone else in your cluster just because your sexualised and not demonised

i was recently diagnosed with bpd and all i have seen around when trying to educate myself is "oh narcisists are abusers, oh antisocials are murders"

friendly reminder that when bpd is represented in media we are often potrayed as stalkers !!!!

social media has turned bpd into "cool, quirky, and hot" disorder when our disorder is DEFINED by dysfunction.

another friendly reminder that people with bpd when discussed in an acedemic setting are also potrayed as abusers and manipulators.

we are no better than the narcisists and sociopaths. this post is not to bring people with bpd down but to uplift narcisists and sociopaths.

you are not a monster for being cluster B, stop being a fucking pick me and saying that your "not like the other cluster Bs" and fight for liberation instead

[delicate---bones]

i feel myself turning off every single time. it’s like clockwork. the energy, the emotions, the passion, the sensitivity - if any - just drains out of me and suddenly I just couldn’t care less if you paid me. what I’m trying to say is: good luck.

[xx-world-class-fuck-up-xx]

Oh, sweetie, I never meant to hurt you... My love got attached to someone else and he's all I can think about, all I can dream about... and I know part of me just wants to stab him and eat him whole for being so loveable since I just want to be yours

[majipien]

i am never the problem !! i literally can't be when i'm the prettiest girl in the world !! stay ugly & mad !!

[autopsyfreak]

my anhedonia is eating me alive so i’m making these mental illness memes to cope

[ladygrey111]

The whole, "K*lling urself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" bullshit is spouted by the ignorant lucky ones who have only had temporary problems. Some people's problems are permanent so maybe try offering actual help and support to them rather than regurgitating an overused phrase that means nothing to people with real struggles.

[chronicallyqueercoining2]

"We need more mental health acceptance and awareness!" Y'all still call ppl with cluster b disorders evil 💀

"We need more weird people!" Y'all COMBUST when someone is xenic 💀

"Healthy coping mechanisms are important!" When someone age regresses, you call them creepy 😭

"More people need to be proud of who they are!" When you see a furry, you cry 😭

(U should totes follow me if ur a supporter of these so I can b on the good side of tumblr XD /nf!)

[youlookkindadead]

i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

[4ngelfvck]

I asked a friend who is a sociopath (diagnosed with ASPD, he refers to himself as a sociopath which is why I’m calling him that) what love feels like to him and how he knows when he loves someone.

I loved his answer. He said “Routine. If they are a part of my routine and feel familiar and comfortable and I would feel like something is missing if they weren’t there, then I think I love them.”

I have bpd with ASPD traits and I think his answer was so cute. I think that is what love is like for me too but I’ve never heard it so succinctly explained, perfect summarization.

[asherwentinsanelol]

yknow qhat i love seeing? people with the "scary" or "mean" or "evil" disorders getting silly with it. thats definitely destigmatizing it /srs

like, if audhd people get to joke around about their disorders, not always treat it with an absurd amount of weight, so does everyone else. i love you aspd people who make jokes about your disorder, you deserve to do that without being called an edgy teen. i love you npd people make memes about it. i love you scary people who get to destigmatize your disorders by laughing.

[familiarplacedisc]

[takemetodragonstone]

t shirt that says i survived hell and all i got was this stupid personality disorder

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other LESS stigmatized mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[ammonite-collective]

To people who are kind for selfish reasons, I love you.

To people who are kind because it makes you look good, I love you.

To people who are kind because you get supply out of it, I love you.

If every kind thing you do is against your nature and the way you are wired, I love you. I see you. Your effort is noted and I’m proud of you.

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]