#accepting your flaws and mistakes and overcoming them

[irregodless]

im so glad ramona got to be her own protagonist in the anime and gain like. healthy closure with most if not all of her exes

[hayatheauthor]

How to Write Relatable Characters: A Writer’s Guide

Relatable characters are the lifeblood of any compelling story. They're the ones readers root for, cry with, and remember long after they've turned the last page. But what exactly makes a character relatable? Why do some characters feel like old friends, while others fall flat? 

In this guide, I’ll walk you through the key elements that contribute to creating characters that resonate with readers on a personal level. From building a strong backstory to crafting authentic dialogue, this blog will equip you with the tools to create vivid, compelling, and believable characters that will captivate your readers and add depth to your narrative.

1. Understanding Relatability

Definition: What Makes a Character Relatable?

A relatable character is one that readers can connect with on a personal level. This connection might stem from shared experiences, emotions, values, or even flaws. Relatability is about creating a character who feels real—someone who could exist in the reader’s world, or even in their own life.

Importance: Why Relatable Characters Matter

Relatable characters are crucial because they engage the reader emotionally. When readers see a piece of themselves in a character, they become invested in that character’s journey. This investment is what drives readers to keep turning pages, eager to see how the character will overcome their challenges or achieve their goals.

Connection to Audience: How Relatability Creates Reader Engagement

Relatability bridges the gap between fiction and reality. When readers connect with a character, they experience the story on a deeper, more personal level. This connection makes the story more memorable and impactful, as readers are more likely to empathize with the character’s struggles and triumphs.

2. Building a Strong Backstory

Personal History: Adding Depth and Relatability

A well-crafted backstory is essential for creating depth in a character. It’s the foundation that shapes who they are, how they think, and how they react to the world around them. A character’s past experiences, upbringing, and the events that shaped their life provide context for their actions and decisions in the story.

Key Elements of a Backstory

Family and Upbringing: The influence of family, culture, and environment on the character’s development.

Past Traumas and Pivotal Events: Significant experiences that have left a lasting impact on the character.

Personal Motivations and Desires: The underlying drives that push the character forward.

Examples of Effective Backstories

Consider Harry Potter’s backstory: growing up as an orphan, mistreated by his aunt and uncle, and discovering he’s a wizard. This backstory not only explains his initial naivety and longing for acceptance but also makes his journey into the wizarding world all the more compelling.

3. Developing Flaws and Imperfections

Humanizing Characters Through Flaws

Perfect characters are boring. Flaws make characters human and relatable. They allow readers to see themselves in the character, imperfections and all. Flaws create tension and conflict, driving the character’s growth and development throughout the story.

Common Character Flaws

Insecurity: A character’s self-doubt can lead to relatable internal conflicts.

Fear: Whether it’s fear of failure, rejection, or the unknown, fear is a powerful motivator.

Pride: Excessive pride can lead to mistakes, making the character’s journey more complex.

Balancing Flaws with Strengths

While flaws are essential, it’s important to balance them with strengths to avoid making the character too unlikeable. A character’s strengths should complement their flaws, creating a well-rounded and realistic individual. For example, a character might be stubborn (a flaw) but also incredibly determined (a strength).

4. Creating Emotional Depth

Internal Conflicts and Emotional Complexity

Relatable characters often face internal struggles that mirror real-life emotions and dilemmas. These internal conflicts add layers to the character, making them more complex and interesting. Readers are drawn to characters who experience a range of emotions, from joy and love to anger and despair.

Techniques for Showing Emotional Journey

Dialogue: Use conversations to reveal a character’s feelings and thoughts.

Internal Monologue: Dive into the character’s mind to explore their inner turmoil.

Actions: Show emotions through the character’s reactions to situations.

Creating Reader Empathy

To create empathy, your character needs to be vulnerable. Show their fears, hopes, and insecurities. Let readers see the character at their lowest points, struggling to overcome challenges. This emotional journey is what will resonate with readers, making them feel invested in the character’s fate.

5. Crafting Authentic Dialogue

Realistic Speech Patterns

Authentic dialogue is crucial for making characters relatable. People don’t always speak in perfect sentences or with flawless grammar. They interrupt, hesitate, and sometimes say the wrong thing. Capturing these nuances in dialogue helps make your characters feel real.

Voice and Tone

Each character should have a unique voice that reflects their personality, background, and emotional state. A character’s tone can convey their attitude, whether they’re sarcastic, serious, or playful. Paying attention to how your characters speak can add depth and authenticity to their interactions.

Dialogue as a Window into Character

Dialogue is a powerful tool for revealing character traits, flaws, and emotions. For example, a character who speaks in short, clipped sentences might be guarded or angry, while one who rambles might be nervous or insecure. Use dialogue to show, rather than tell, what your characters are feeling and thinking.

6. Relating Through Common Experiences

Shared Struggles and Universal Experiences

One of the most effective ways to create relatable characters is by giving them experiences that resonate with readers. These can be universal struggles, such as dealing with loss, searching for identity, or falling in love. When readers see characters going through similar experiences, they’re more likely to connect with them.

Cultural and Social Touchpoints

Characters can also relate to readers through cultural references or social issues. This could be anything from navigating family traditions to dealing with societal expectations. Incorporating these elements into your character’s life can make them more relatable to readers from similar backgrounds.

Examples of Characters Relating Through Shared Experiences

Consider Elizabeth Bennet from Pride and Prejudice. Her experiences of navigating societal expectations and family pressures are relatable to readers, even centuries after the book was written. Her wit and independence make her a character that many can see themselves in, despite the historical setting.

7. Avoiding Stereotypes and Clichés

Unique Characterization

While some character traits may be common, it’s important to avoid reducing your characters to stereotypes or clichés. Stereotypes can make characters feel one-dimensional and unoriginal. Instead, aim to create characters with unique, multi-faceted personalities that go beyond surface-level traits.

Subverting Expectations

One way to avoid clichés is to subvert reader expectations. For example, instead of making the “tough” character emotionally distant, show their softer side. Or, instead of the “nerdy” character being socially awkward, make them confident and charismatic. Subverting these stereotypes can create more interesting and relatable characters.

Writing Diverse Characters with Authenticity

When writing characters from diverse backgrounds, it’s crucial to do so with respect and authenticity. Avoid relying on stereotypes and instead, research and understand the nuances of the culture, experiences, and perspectives you’re portraying. Diverse characters should be as complex and fully realized as any other character in your story.

8. Giving Characters Agency and Growth

Active vs. Passive Characters

Relatable characters are often those who take control of their own destinies. Active characters make decisions, face consequences, and drive the story forward. On the other hand, passive characters who simply react to events can feel less engaging and relatable.

Character Arcs

A well-developed character arc shows how a character changes over time. This growth can be in response to internal conflicts, external challenges, or both. A character who evolves in a believable way is more likely to resonate with readers.

Growth and Change

Show your character learning from their experiences, whether it’s overcoming a fear, letting go of pride, or learning to trust others. This growth makes characters more dynamic and relatable, as readers witness their journey from start to finish.

9. Testing Relatability: Beta Readers and Feedback

Beta Readers

Beta readers are an invaluable resource for testing the relatability of your characters. They can provide feedback on whether your characters feel authentic and engaging. They can also point out any areas where the character’s actions or dialogue might seem out of place or unrelatable.

Character Surveys

Consider creating character surveys or questionnaires for your beta readers. These can include questions about the character’s likability, believability, and relatability. The feedback you receive can help you refine your characters and ensure they resonate with your audience.

Revisions

Use the feedback from beta readers to make necessary revisions to your characters. This might involve tweaking dialogue, deepening backstory, or adjusting character arcs. Revising with a focus on enhancing relatability can significantly improve the impact of your story.

Looking For More Writing Tips And Tricks? 

Are you an author looking for writing tips and tricks to better your manuscript? Or do you want to learn about how to get a literary agent, get published and properly market your book? Consider checking out the rest of Quillology with Haya Sameer; a blog dedicated to writing and publishing tips for authors! While you’re at it, don’t forget to head over to my TikTok and Instagram profiles @hayatheauthor to learn more about my WIP and writing journey! 

[maxdibert]

Ok, but what about the fact that Snape was a complete hypocrite? He openly looked down on Muggles and Muggle-borns. When his friends cursed someone, he had no problem with it. And he didn’t hold back from making nasty comments about them either. Lily didn’t like the fact that he hung out with them, but he didn’t care—he brushed it off as ‘just a joke.’ Yet he expected Lily to stay away from the Marauders. He showed some pretty nasty tendencies even as a kid.

Oh, so now we’re pretending people aren’t shaped by their environment? That kids don’t absorb the biases of the world they grow up in? That someone who’s been abused, neglected, and ostracized isn’t going to develop warped coping mechanisms, internal contradictions, or, I don’t know, cognitive dissonance?

Let’s break this down like you’re five.

Severus grew up in an abusive household, with a neglectful Muggle father who likely hated everything about magic, and a mother who was a beaten-down, powerless witch. His entire experience with the Muggle world was pain, humiliation, and isolation. Of course he gravitated toward the magical world as an escape. And when the magical world itself was split into factions, he latched onto the side that promised him power, belonging, and a way to finally matter.

Do you think that kind of upbringing magically (pun intended) turns someone into a well-adjusted, morally pristine human being? That he would just wake up one day and unlearn all the resentment and bitterness that had been drilled into him since childhood? That he, a literal outcast, would immediately reject the ideology of the only people who accepted him? Because news flash—that's not how human psychology works.

And yes, cognitive dissonance exists. People hold contradictory beliefs all the time, especially when those beliefs are shaped by pain, trauma, and survival instincts. Snape genuinely loved Lily, yet he still harbored prejudice. He despised the Marauders for tormenting him, yet he didn’t think twice when his own friends tormented others. Because people—brace yourself—are not consistent. They rationalize, they compartmentalize, they act on emotion rather than reason.

And this is where the real irony kicks in: you whine about Snape being a hypocrite, but fail to see that this very hypocrisy is what makes him a well-written, deeply human character. You act like contradictions in a person’s mindset invalidate them, when in reality, they’re what define us. People change, people regret, people make mistakes. The difference between a shallow, black-and-white character and a rich, layered one is that the latter struggles with these contradictions instead of magically overcoming them in a neat little redemption arc that makes you feel comfortable.

So yes, Snape was prejudiced. He was bitter. He was deeply, tragically flawed. But he was also capable of love, remorse, and change. He spent decades working against the ideology he once clung to, sacrificing everything—including his dignity, his safety, and ultimately his life—because he realized he had been wrong.

And that? That’s what makes him more compelling than any of the one-dimensional "good guys" who never had to fight their own demons. That’s what makes him more interesting than the people who had privilege, support, and love, yet still acted like assholes just for fun.

So go ahead and clutch your pearls over "hypocrisy," but just know that all you’re doing is proving that you have a painfully shallow understanding of human nature, storytelling, and, frankly, reality itself.

[elicathebunny]

Self-doubt or self-sabotage?

Conquering the fear of being seen so you can achieve your dreams.

Historically, humans lived in small, close-knit groups or tribes, typically consisting of about 150 individuals, known as Dunbar's number. This limited number of social connections was manageable for our brains, allowing us to form meaningful relationships and navigate social hierarchies effectively. Today, we are constantly exposed to a vast number of people through social media, where we can have hundreds or even thousands of connections. This can overwhelm our brain's capacity to manage social relationships. Early human survival depended heavily on being part of a group. Being accepted by the tribe meant safety, resources, and cooperation. Rejection could lead to isolation and danger. In modern settings, being authentic in front of many people, such as on social media or in public speaking, can feel like facing a large, judgmental audience. This can trigger anxiety as our brains interpret this as a potential threat to our social standing. Authenticity often involves expressing opinions, emotions, and personal stories. The fear of negative reactions, criticism, or misunderstanding can make us feel exposed and vulnerable.

Here are some common examples of self-doubt:

- Impostor Syndrome - Fear of Failure - Comparison to Others - Negative Self-Talk - Perfectionism - Limiting Beliefs - Seeking External Validation - Setting Unrealistic Expectations - Fear of Rejection or Criticism

How to overcome self-doubt:

1. Recognise and Acknowledge Your Feelings

Start by acknowledging and accepting your self-doubt and fear of being seen. Understand that these feelings are common and normal, but they don't define you.

2. Challenge Negative Thoughts

Challenge negative thoughts and beliefs about yourself by examining the evidence that supports them. Question the validity of these thoughts and replace them with more realistic and supportive ones.

3. Self-Compassion

Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when facing self-doubt or fear. Practice self-compassion by speaking to yourself in a gentle and encouraging manner, as you would to a friend in need.

4. Embrace Imperfection

Accept that it's okay to be imperfect and that making mistakes is a natural part of growth and learning. Embrace your flaws and vulnerabilities, as they make you human and relatable.

5. Set Realistic Goals

Set realistic and achievable goals for yourself, taking into account your abilities and limitations. Break larger goals into smaller, more manageable steps, and celebrate each accomplishment along the way.

6. Focus on Your Strengths

Identify your strengths and talents, and focus on nurturing and developing them. Remind yourself of past successes and achievements to boost your confidence and self-belief.

7. Exposure Therapy

Gradually expose yourself to situations that trigger self-doubt or fear of being seen. Start with small, manageable steps and gradually increase the level of exposure over time. Each successful exposure will build your confidence and resilience.

8. Seek Support

Reach out to supportive friends, family members, or a therapist for guidance and encouragement. Share your feelings and experiences with someone you trust, and allow them to offer perspective and support.

9. Visualise Success

Visualise yourself overcoming self-doubt and fear, and imagine yourself succeeding in situations that challenge you. Visualisation can help boost your confidence and reinforce positive beliefs about yourself.

10. Take Action Despite Fear

Take action despite feeling afraid or uncertain. Recognise that courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to act despite it. Step out of your comfort zone and embrace new opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

11. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques

Practice mindfulness meditation, deep breathing, or other relaxation techniques to calm your mind and reduce feelings of anxiety and self-doubt. These practices can help you stay grounded and present in the moment.

12. Celebrate Your Progress

Celebrate your progress and achievements, no matter how small. Acknowledge your efforts and accomplishments, and recognize the courage it takes to face your fears and self-doubt head-on.

[aspoonofsugar]

Hello. Been a while since I last sent an ask to you. I wanted your take on why Vaggie's wing design is different from the other Exorcists. If you look closely, before and after she regained her wings, she is the ONLY exorcist with a single stripe while everyone else (including Adam, I know he's not an Exorcist but still something I've noticed) only have one.

Hi!

Thank you for the ask :) I love Vaggie's design and there is so much to say about it!

Since discussing the whole design would probably need its own meta, I will just focus on the detail you mentioned: Vaggie's wings.

I think their unique pattern comes down to our girl never truly fitting in with the exorcists:

Vaggie: When I saw your face You made me feel like a stranger in a brand new place And it felt so good to be understood

She states Charlie makes her feel understood, which implies she never felt accepted by her previous clique. This makes sense, as the exorcists are a cult, which forces its members to repress their selves. In this context, Vaggie's single black line shows she is different in two ways.

1- The exorcists' black lines mirror Adam's white lines:

Both Adam and his soldiers share two lines per wing. However, the leader's are white, whereas his followers' are black. This difference in color marks the hierarchy within the organization. Adam is white and gold, whereas the exorcists are black and white/silver. He frames himself as superior and forces the girls to be weaker imitations. Well, even in such an environment Vaggie can't completely repress who she is. So, she only gets one line on her wings, which marks her as unfitting, strange and flawed. She does not completely conform to Adam's wishes.

2- The exorcists' black and white color scheme is a metaphor of their black and white morality. Lute is a perfect embodiment of it:

Lute: Angels don't make mistakes.

Vaggie, Lute and all their sisters are taught killing sinners is holy. Angels are good and demons are bad. No questions asked. Still, Vaggie can't accept this mentality and she dares to show pity:

This kicks off her arc, which is all about overcoming the white and black vision that was forced on her. She needs to integrate her shadows:

She sees her shadow covering a terrified child and lets him go. A moment later Lute's shadow looms over her before she is attacked. Vaggie has to reconcile she is both the terrifying exorcist and the wounded child. She is both angel (white) and sinner (black).

Our Hotel Manager's new wings are a physical representation of this integration:

Vaggie gains them, as she channels her energy into love and protection instead than hate and revenge. In particular, she learns to value her own life and survival:

Carmilla: Well, look at that. You might just survive this.

She makes a step into forgiveness and acceptance. The brainwashed victim and the murderous warrior start coming together into someone new and stronger: the real Vaggie. As a result:

Her new wings are silver and gray, rather than white and black

Her new wings have a single line, which is much paler compared to her original black one

In short, Vaggie's wings symbolize her ongoing process of integration with her repressed self. They showcase her evolution and growth into someone new. From pigeon to moth :P

At the same time, something else can be said about Vaggie's stripes. Not her wings' though, but her hair's. Vaggie's hair is shaped after her angelic wings and it has two stripes on it. This is an interesting detail and might symbolize Vaggie's inner desire to belong, either with her old group (the two stripes exorcists) or her new one (the Hazbin Hotel demons). So, she has hair, which:

Hides her scars and identity, as they cover her missing eye and the spot where her wings used to be

Highlights these same things, as her hair is stylized after angelic wings and Vaggie puts an X over her missing eye. It's no surprise that Carmilla easily guesses her identity:

Vaggie: Wait… you know I'm an exorcist? How? Carmilla: You have a giant X over your eye and wield an angelic spear. It's not rocket science.

Just some food for thought! What's sure is that Vaggie's struggle with her exorcist identity is far from over and it strongly impacts her appearance.

Thank you for the ask!

[justanotherrpmeme]

Self-Esteem starters

"I'm just not good enough. I always mess things up."

"Don't be so hard on yourself. You have so many incredible qualities."

"I'm afraid to take risks. I don't believe in myself."

"You have so much potential. You're capable of achieving great things."

"I feel like everyone is judging me. I can't shake this feeling of inadequacy."

"Remember, you are unique and deserving of love and acceptance. Don't let others' opinions define you."

"I can't seem to do anything right. I'm a failure."

"Nobody is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Your worth isn't determined by your failures."

"I don't deserve happiness. I'm not worthy of love."

"You are worthy of love and happiness. You have so much to offer the world."

"I believe in myself. I know I can conquer any challenge."

"Your confidence is inspiring. Your belief in yourself is admirable."

"I'm proud of my accomplishments. I've worked hard to get where I am."

"You should be proud. Your determination and hard work have paid off."

"I know my worth. I won't settle for anything less than I deserve."

"I embrace my uniqueness. I love who I am, flaws and all."

"Your self-acceptance is beautiful. You radiate self-love."

"You're capable of so much more than you think. Believe in yourself."

"Don't underestimate yourself."

"Thank you for seeing the best in me. It's something I struggle with."

"I've seen you overcome challenges before. I know you can do it again."

"Thank you for reminding me of my potential."

"You deserve happiness and success. Don't let self-doubt hold you back."

"You'll never amount to anything. You're just a failure."

"Your hurtful words won't bring me down. I know my worth."

"Nobody cares about you. You're not important."

"I'm not good enough. I always feel like I'm letting everyone down."

"I don't deserve happiness. I'm constantly making mistakes."

"You're being too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes, but it doesn't define our worth."

"I'm so insecure. I can't help but compare myself to others."

"Thank you for believing in me when I struggle to believe in myself."

"Don't underestimate your impact."

"Sometimes it's hard to see my own worth, but your words help me see myself in a different light."

"You're so incompetent. I don't know why anyone would rely on you."

"Your words hurt, but I won't let them shake my confidence."

"I deserve to be treated with respect and kindness."

"I've noticed that ____ has been struggling with their self-esteem lately."

"They seem to doubt themselves and their abilities."

"____ seems to lack confidence in their work, even though they're talented."

"____ has been struggling with their self-image."

"They constantly compare themselves to others."

[untoldreader]

Shadows of Desire

Wanda Maximoff x Reader x Natasha Romanoff

Summary

Dark secrets from the past cast long shadows over Wanda, Natasha, and Y/N's burgeoning relationship. As desire intensifies, they must confront their inner demons and face the haunting shadows that threaten to tear them apart

Warnings

none?

Tag list

@nayarianna1302 @alexawynters @tigerlillyruiz

Chapter 4: Shadows of Desire

The weight of our shared truth hung heavy in the air as we delved deeper into the shadows of our desires. The revelations that unfolded threatened to unravel the delicate balance we had worked so hard to maintain. It was a time of introspection and difficult conversations.

One evening, we found ourselves gathered in Natasha's secluded safehouse, seeking solace and understanding. The room was bathed in dim light, creating an atmosphere of intimacy and vulnerability. The time had come to confront the shadows that haunted us.

"I've carried secrets for far too long," Natasha confessed, her voice laced with both regret and determination. "There are things in my past that I'm not proud of, actions that have shaped who I am today. I need to share them with you."

Wanda and I exchanged glances, silently urging her to continue. We knew that this was a pivotal moment—one that would test the strength of our bond.

Natasha took a deep breath, her eyes reflecting a mixture of pain and resolve. "I was once a weapon, trained and conditioned to be ruthless," she revealed. "The Black Widow program molded me into an assassin, and I carry the weight of the lives I've taken."

Her words hung in the air, the weight of her confession sinking into our hearts. Wanda reached out, her hand finding Natasha's, offering support and understanding. "Natasha, your past doesn't define you," she said, her voice filled with compassion. "We see the person you've become—the one who fights for justice and redemption."

Tears welled in Natasha's eyes as she nodded, grateful for the acceptance she found in our embrace. "Thank you," she whispered. "Your love gives me hope that I can find redemption for the mistakes I've made."

The weight of Natasha's confession lingered, but it was only fair that we, too, laid our truths bare. It was my turn to share the shadows that danced within my own desires.

"I've always felt like an outsider," I began, my voice trembling with vulnerability. "There's a part of me that yearns for something more, something beyond the ordinary. And that's why the connection I share with both of you is so powerful���it fulfills that longing within me."

Wanda's eyes met mine, filled with both understanding and a touch of sadness. "Y/N, you're not alone in feeling that way," she said softly. "We've all battled with the sense of not quite fitting in. Perhaps our connection is a testament to the extraordinary path we're meant to walk."

The weight of our shared truths brought us closer, deepening the understanding between us. We were flawed, scarred by our pasts, but together we found solace and strength to face the shadows that threatened to consume us.

In the following days and weeks, we continued to navigate the complexities of our desires and the scars that shaped us. We offered each other support, love, and a safe space to heal. With each conversation, our bond grew stronger, and our determination to overcome the shadows that plagued us intensified.

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Chapter 4 marked a turning point in our journey—a time of profound vulnerability and acceptance. We confronted the shadows of our desires, sharing our deepest secrets and embracing the flaws that made us who we were. With newfound clarity, we were ready to face the challenges ahead, united in our love and determination to forge a future together.

[beauty-and-passion]

CCCC Vol.1 - Concord: the last piece (1/2)

Hello and welcome to the final act of CCCC!

We have finally reached Concord, so let’s do a quick recap of what happened until now:

This story is a time loop. The starting point of this loop is an event, a calamity indeed, that leads to a split in Chonny’s mind between Heart, Mind and Soul

The three sides know they’re stuck in a loop and, at first, they try to cooperate to come back into one

But then the contrasting nature of Heart and Mind makes them drift apart: Mind starts thinking about becoming the new leader, Heart develops a crescent fear of Mind’s influence

Overwhelmed by his fears, Heart tries to overcome Mind (the Juno Incident). He fails and the consequences of his action lead to apathy

Resigned, Heart let Mind take control

Mind tries to get a reaction out of Heart, first by insulting and scolding him, then with threats

Soul intervenes and obliges the two of them to try and harmonize or he will end them both. They find a way to harmonize again

The success leads to an “optimistic wave” that makes Chonny more confident and helps him accept his own imperfections

Since now they’re stronger enough to face them, his sides ask Chonny to revisit his memories.

And so, in this act, Chonny will do just like that: he will come back to the start.

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Welcome to Tally Hall (Intro to Concord): deconstruction of the original

What better way to start, if not from the beginning?

Chonny immediately points out two things here:

he “butchers” Tally Hall’s songs, even in ways that are far from nice

he does it out of his own egoistical needs

In other words, he reaffirms what he already made clear during the Cacophony act: he’s not making simple covers, but he’s telling us a story. And in doing that, he “butchers” the original songs.

But, think about it: isn’t “butchering” what everyone does, when they take inspiration from something? We never take all the elements of another work. There’s something a bit of this and a bit of that and we put them together into something new, it’s never a 1:1 copy of the original. Also because, if it truly was a perfect copy, then it’s not “taking inspiration” anymore: it’s just stealing.

So yes, Chonny might “butcher” these songs, but everyone butchers what they love, in order to create something new from it.

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Banana Man: the importance of criticism

Chonny is clearly a huge fan of Tally Hall. I mean, this entire album is made of songs from Tally Hall: it’s pretty clear he appreciates them.

However, he’s also mature enough to take off the rose-tinted glasses of a fan, look at this song and admit that yes, it is problematic and yes, Tally Hall can make mistakes too.

Does this take away something from his appreciation of the band? Does it make his love less real?

Think about the people you love: you know of their flaws, you are aware of them. And yet, you still love them.

That’s the same for every artist and art form. The perfect work doesn’t exist and every artist can make mistakes. You can love them and you can think of these mistakes as your guilty pleasures… but be aware of them. What’s wrong in admitting: “yes, I know this is shit and it has these mistakes, but I still like it”?

And, in general, what’s wrong with criticism? Pointing out the flaws of a work is very helpful:

for the artist, because they can realize what the mistakes are and improve their work

for other artists, so they know what they should avoid

for the artwork itself, because the work no one talks about is a dead one

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Haiku: the failed romance

Chonny started his recollection of memories, by talking about Tally Hall, his Muse, his source of inspiration. He made it clear he’s a fan, sure, but he can also admit when they make a mistake.

Then, Chonny moves over and talks about a previous love, someone who piqued his interest, to the point he wanted to write an haiku for them.

And yes, I am sure this is in the past, because he keep using the past tense: it’s never “It is all for you”, but “It was all for you”.

So he tried to write this haiku, to keep his Heart and Mind at bay and do it… but something happened. He failed, he “stabbed himself”.

But how? Why? And how can all of this connect to Cacophony?

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Hidden in the Sand: the missing piece

So:

Chonny likes this person.

He writes a song for them and he’s pretty satisfied: he thinks he got it right.

When he examines it through the rational lenses of his mind, he finds out all the flaws.

He convinces himself he will be rejected, if he even tries to show it.

He feels like he missed his shot.

Well, isn’t all of this weirdly familiar? Doesn’t that all remind you of something?

Night: Heart and Mind are cooperating, but then their differences emerge. Mind starts thinking he can be a better leader, because Heart is too flawed. Heart convinces himself Mind is dangerous and can destroy everything.

Ruler of Everything: Heart takes his shot and misses.

The events of these songs are way too similar to the events here to be a mere coincidence. And I have two possible explanations for this:

EXPLANATION 1

The events of Night and RoE are a parallel of the events in Haiku and Hidden in the Sand. It's the failed romance that led to the split and the time loop, so when Night happened once again, the memory of the previous events influenced the ones in the loop. This also explains:

Mind saying he was in charge before (he was referring to the pre-loop events)

Heart’s motives and fears: he feared Mind’s influence because he already saw what that influence could lead to

The circularity of time: Heart took his shot and missed the first time, so when he tries again he fails again

EXPLANATION 2

The events of Night and RoE are a metaphor for the events in Haiku and Hidden in the Sand. That means all these songs talk about the exact same event. The failed romance is the reason why the time loop exists and it’s within it. In other words, the events go as follows:

Chonny has a crush and writes a song for them. His sides, for now, are still trying to cooperate.

Mind’s influence becomes stronger: he notices the flaws in Chonny’s song, he starts to think he can be a better leader than Heart.

Chonny starts to think if he confesses to his crush, he would be rejected. Parallel to this, Heart starts to fear Mind’s growing influence: if it grows even more, Chonny might never confess his feelings.

Heart tries to convince Chonny to confess to his crush. This is metaphorically represented in RoE with Heart taking the gun and trying to shoot Mind/subdue him and his influence.

Chonny does not confess, he misses his shot. Heart, metaphorically, misses his shot as well and suffers the consequences of the failed romance.

Everything that follows is what Chonny experienced, after the failed confession.

According to this second possible explanation, when the sides ask Chonny to remember (Variations on a Cloud), they’re not asking him to relive something outside of the time loop, but the reason why the loop exists in the first place.

That puts the entire CCCC into a new perspective because every time the loop starts again, Chonny relieves the romance, its failure and its consequences (Cacophony), until he finds enough strength to put himself back together. And once he grows confident again, he can relive these events (Concord), only to break apart again, put himself back together again and relieve them again in a neverending cycle.

That also implies the romance wasn’t the reason behind the split, but that the sides were already splitting before. And this is very interesting, because it’s implied that Chonny is a dark person even before he starts to talk about his crush. And yes, maybe this can serve as a foundation for Volume 2.

-> Next post

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[featherwingfox]

Beautiful, I am- I look at this and think, "I drew her!" And she's beautiful! It's the eyes I tell ya! I'm so happy!!!! 😊

I didn't make any mistakes this time! She has none! I didn't really mess with the design because well, it's Alex, Minecraft Alex. The one in Steve Saga specifically, she's so nice.

👍🙂👍

So her clothing design was simple. As for everything else, it was easy! But not the braids, I'll get to that last. I wanted her eyes to be the prettiest part. I don't know how, but I unconsciously drew her eyes to resemble the shape of emeralds. When I was done drawing them I look at the page and just paused, noticing how great they turned out but I somehow wasn't thinking while doing that. Well, by far my favorite part of the drawing. And despite what I said in the past post, she isn't evil. I know, I know, I said villains wear green. But she isn't wearing THAT much green. It's only evil green if it takes up most of your appearance. This amount of green is innocent green, good green! While the eyes are amazing and fun to draw, the braids look amazing and were a pain to draw. Not too much but enough to set it down, look for references, repeat the process of drawing them and erasing them, and then I finally got this! A long time ago I could draw braids a little easier, of course there are those days when the art isn't ARTING but I'm sure I've gotten back into the passing of things, I'm satisfied and proud of these braids. They needed to curve more since it was over her shoulder but the biggest problem was just looking stiff. It might still be the case here but it looks way better than what I had before! And then there was the look of a braid itself, the braiding design. I tried hearts and squiggly lines, I tried the zigzag thing, it wasn't working for me. I found that just drawing ovals was the best method. For me, if y'all want to try it out take my advice on finding what works for you. Not everyone can draw the same thing in the same way, as long as you get there it is worth figuring out. The hands weren't a problem, it was a good day to draw hands... Or a hand. The other is put of the picture but I promise, it wasn't because I needed a way to cover it up this time! Sometimes I just draw too far to the side of the page, you can't see her boots either! Oh, one other thing. As I've said in previous posts, O tend to mess up lighter skin tones. Now in her face I did, but I managed to erase most of it and fix it. Draw lightly with the brighter orange color pencil and lightly with a light pink. Adjust and blend with either color if you need more. I need to remember this myself as I keep trying to use the tan colored pencil when it has never worked well for me!

So, Alex has a lot of backstory and her travels with Sabre in the later parts of the OG series were fun. In this fan rewrite I have edited some things. I understand she went through a lot and deep down was just trying to be helpful or at least live peacefully, but there were some scenes of her losing it, mostly the one where she gets overwhelmed with pressure and stress so she lost control, and it she decided that... Destroying everything was the solution? I mean, once again considering her past experiences and the time building up to that moment, it was rough, in fact rough is an understatement. As much as I can see why that could happen, my interpretation of her character herself felt too strong and conflicted with this scene. At first she just wanted to love peacefully, she'd be lucky if she found a nice village that accepted her. Then, after meeting Sabre, I'm pretty sure she just wanted to help and it was a strong feeling. Now her losing control is still going to happen, resulting in the plot moving forward and yada yada, but she doesn't just suddenly want to destroy everything. That's the logic a villain would have, I BLAME THE GREEN!!!

ahem

Alex is a good person. She has her flaws, she has her moments, she struggles and she fails, she also does well, overcoming problems, and finds a way, but most of all she is true to herself and does what she thinks is best when she is in the right mindset, even in her times of panic and breaking down, she wouldn't want to destroy everything as that ruins her whole purpose on trying to help in the first place. And she learns to rely on her new friends. Sabre and the others are there for her, but she can't be helped if she doesn't let them help her, and she realizes this. I have fleshed out her character a little more by these little changes and one I want to show you right now is that Alex loves this world too much to think she needs to destroy it. The only reason why she'd do so is if she unintentionally does this, is being controlled, or loses control of her powers. Willingly she wouldn't. In this fan rewrite she is taught the lesson that not everything is perfect, and that is perfect. It is okay, whether win or lose, succeeded or failed, in the end it is okay.

My brain is a little fried from all this thinking and deep wisdom, I might need to wear this. 🎃 See you tomorrow with another design!

Story: Steve Saga (Fan Rewrite)

Character: Alex

Abilities: Um......... Goddess powers....??? 🤷‍♀️ The power of creation and stuff. I dunno...

Personality: friendly, smart, nice cool, curious, and powerful.

By the way y'all, my mom said she looks like Shaggy from Scooby Doo and I can't help but agree now... 😭👍

[yuikomorii]

Let's judge fairly. Yui had her development too. It's not like she didn't have any development.

// I wouldn’t necessarily call it development, I would rather say the story itself advanced and she grew accustomed to the circumstances. Over the course of the games, she got better at managing the Diaboys since you get to know someone after spending a lot of time with them and well… she also started acting more cheeky and bolder with them, for the reason that they started dating. She didn't know Karlheinz well in HDB and MB, so she didn't have any opinion about him, but in DF and CL, she called him out after Karl revealed how much of a jerk he is. It's not like she wouldn't have done that earlier if she had known the truth about him from the beginning—she called out Cordelia in the first game, after all.

However, I do think there are two particular scenes where they tried to highlight some major (?) development.

One is from Ayato's MB route, when she acknowledged acting in a selfish manner and concentrating solely on her feeling rather than on Ayato too, who was also having difficulties. She came to the realization that Ayato isn't perfect, despite being cute and giving her pleasure, and learned to accept him for all of his good and bad traits.

The other one is from Laito’s LE route, in which Reiji tries to make her understand that not believing in your lover can be very painful and that it’s not okay talking like that behind his back.

The message itself was good but this is the type of forced character development I have mixed feelings about. They didn’t have to make Yui act like that because it only portrays her as the bad one here. Yui is the first person Laito has ever opened up to and she was well aware that Laito hates Karlheinz, so getting his powers would undoubtedly damage him, yet she kept failing to understand that, despite the fact that they’ve been dating for some months and should have known better. The scene in which she says that Laito knows everything about her, yet she knows nothing about him only makes her appear so foolish in order to generate conflict. Like… come on, how can the heroine claim such a thing after dating a guy for SIX games?? Plus, the reasons of Laito’s actions were OBVIOUS that not even Reiji could entirely put the blame on him based on his situation.

As for Ayato’s MB route, I can’t entirely put the blame on her; I mean… Ayato is super good-looking and could probably pull anyone, but I can’t comprehend how she failed to realize that he has negative traits too?? It should be crystal clear that nobody is perfect and that everyone has their own issues, so you can’t beg someone to consider you special if they don’t feel like it.

It would have been 10 times better if Rejet actually tried to overcome her weaknesses, instead of adding new flaws. No, writing the heroine to suddenly have a shallow or selfish mindset only to make her “become a better person after realizing her mistakes” was not needed at all. And it’s also not fun making a character learn the same lesson in more games.

Credit to: dialovers-translations on Tumblr

The best scene, in which they could have genuinely made her evolve as a person, was in Carla’s LE route, when she admitted wanting to help him and the ghouls. It would have been nice seeing Carla putting faith in her and giving her an important yet hard task. Seeing Yui try her best to do it right, even if she was struggling at first, would have been such a cute moment. But nope, they decided to push her aside instead.

Other than that, idk if becoming a masochist and less sane as in the beginning count as development, lol, but if it does then it works like that too.

I get that it’s an otome game and most people play it for the guys but I feel like the heroine deserves to have her own storyline where she discovers herself and improves. DL feels more like the Diaboys' journey than her own, which is ironic because she’s the HEROINE, and in her most recent appearance, Rejet literally described her as “Ayato’s lover” without even using her name. I don’t really think the developers care that much about her, otherwise I doubt they’d be ok with all her character inconsistencies.

Yui is my favorite heroine because I find her really cute and likeable, plus I relate to her, but I’m aware of the fact that a likeable character does not equal a good one. She’s your average early 2010s heroine, who could have been indeed better written but serves her purpose, which is still good.

[vivsinkpot]

Characters Don’t Need to be Likeable. They Need to be Compelling.

Too often, we think a character’s likability is the key to making them memorable, but the truth is, it’s their complexity, their flaws, and their contradictions that really make them unforgettable. Likability can only get you so far — what sticks with readers is a character’s humanity, the way they are multi-dimensional and imperfect. A character who is too perfect or easily likable often feels flat and one-dimensional, but a character who is messy, flawed, and morally gray offers a more intriguing experience because they feel real. They challenge our perceptions, invite us into their inner world, and make us care, whether we agree with their choices or not.

→ So, what makes a character compelling, even when they’re messy or morally gray?

Depth over Perfection: Perfection is boring. What makes characters truly interesting is their imperfections. Whether it’s their flaws, mistakes, or their tendency to mess things up, these are the things that make them real. We connect with characters who are relatable, who feel like they could exist in the real world, warts and all. Characters who are perfect or overly “good” often end up feeling flat because there’s no room for growth or change. A messy, complex character — someone who struggles and learns from their mistakes — will stick with us long after we’ve finished the story.

Imagine Nora, a talented but stubborn artist who pushes away help, sabotaging her own success. She refuses to compromise on her art, even losing a major opportunity because of it. Over time, she learns that independence isn’t always strength and starts to accept help from others. Her messy journey of growth makes her relatable — readers connect with her struggle and transformation. Nora’s imperfections make her unforgettable, not her perfection.

Conflicting Desires: When a character is torn between competing desires or values, it creates a tension that keeps us engaged. It’s easy to write a character who wants one thing and gets it, but a character who wants two things at once—maybe they want to protect someone but also want something for themselves, or they want to do the right thing but fear the consequences — is far more compelling. These inner conflicts give us a window into their soul, showing us their vulnerabilities and making us understand them even when we don’t agree with their choices.

Meet Ethan, a young lawyer torn between his duty to win a high-profile case and his growing sense of moral responsibility. On one hand, he wants to protect his client, who he believes is innocent; on the other, he knows his client has been hiding crucial information. Ethan’s desire to do what’s right conflicts with his ambition to succeed, and he wrestles with the consequences of exposing the truth. This internal struggle pulls readers in, revealing Ethan’s vulnerabilities and making his choices more complex. We might not agree with all his decisions, but his conflicting desires make him compelling and unforgettable.

Growth, Not Instant Redemption: People don’t change overnight, and neither should your characters. A compelling character isn’t someone who does one good deed and suddenly becomes “redeemed.” Instead, it’s someone who grapples with their flaws and tries to overcome them, even if they fail sometimes. Redemption isn’t always the end goal — growth is. We love seeing characters struggle, not because we want them to fail, but because we’re invested in their journey. It’s their imperfections, their flaws, and their determination to be better that make them unforgettable.

Take Jake, a former addict trying to rebuild his life. He doesn’t suddenly become perfect after attending rehab; instead, he relapses, makes mistakes, and faces setbacks along the way. His journey isn’t about instant redemption, but about the small, incremental steps he takes to confront his demons. We watch him struggle with old habits, yet we also see his determination to change, even if he stumbles. His growth isn’t linear, but it’s real. It’s his ongoing effort to improve, despite the challenges, that makes him compelling and unforgettable.

Authenticity: A character’s actions must feel true to who they are. Even if they make morally questionable decisions, as long as those decisions make sense within their personality, we’ll understand them. A morally gray character doesn’t just make bad choices for the sake of drama — they make them because that’s who they are. Whether it’s a desire for power, love, or survival, their choices are rooted in their humanity. And that’s what makes them so compelling. We may not agree with what they do, but we can’t help but be fascinated by the raw honesty of their struggles.

Meet Lara, a woman who’s willing to manipulate those around her to secure her dream job. She’s not a villain — she’s ambitious, and her desire for success has always pushed her to play by her own rules. Her actions, though morally questionable, come from a deep-seated fear of being overlooked and forgotten. Her choices may not be right, but they’re true to her character, driven by a need for recognition and control. We may not agree with her methods, but her authenticity — her raw, unfiltered desire to carve out her place in the world — makes her compelling. It’s this honest struggle that keeps us invested in her journey.

Impact: Compelling characters don’t fade into the background. Whether they’re heroes or antiheroes, they leave an impression on the story and the reader. They evoke emotions—love, hate, admiration, or even frustration — but they never leave you indifferent. Characters who challenge our beliefs, who make us uncomfortable, or who force us to question our own values, are the ones that stay with us. Even if they’re not “likable” by conventional standards, their impact is undeniable.

Take Victor, a ruthless businessman who will stop at nothing to achieve his goals. He doesn’t fit the mold of a typical hero, and many readers might despise him for his manipulative tactics and lack of empathy. But his actions push the boundaries of the story and force the reader to question their own morals — what lengths would they go to for success? His impact doesn’t come from being liked, but from the emotional response he elicits. Whether we love him or hate him, Victor challenges us, makes us uncomfortable, and leaves an unforgettable mark on the narrative. That’s the power of a character who doesn’t just fade into the background — they demand to be remembered.

Moral Ambiguity: Characters who exist in the gray areas are often the most memorable. They make choices that challenge our understanding of right and wrong, often forcing us to think critically about the world and the people in it. A character who questions the rules or bends them for their own purposes can be polarising, but they’re rarely forgettable. When we see a character make morally ambiguous decisions, it forces us to ask, “What would I do in that situation?” It’s these moments that create the deepest emotional engagement.

Meet Simon, a vigilante who takes justice into his own hands, punishing criminals the law can’t touch. He’s not a traditional hero — he’s broken the law, lied to those around him, and hurt people along the way. But his motives are rooted in a deep sense of justice, even if his methods are flawed. Simon’s decisions challenge our understanding of right and wrong, forcing us to question whether the ends justify the means. Do we agree with his actions? Maybe not. But his moral ambiguity makes us reflect on the choices we’d make in his shoes. It’s this tension, this discomfort, that makes him unforgettable.

Vulnerability: Behind every tough exterior or flawed decision, there’s vulnerability. Characters who aren’t afraid to show their wounds, their fears, and their weaknesses are the ones we remember. It’s that rawness — whether it’s emotional, mental, or physical — that makes them human. We may not always agree with them, but we feel for them. Their vulnerabilities make them feel more real, and more relatable, even when they’re at their messiest.

Take Maya, a seemingly tough and unapproachable detective who hides her pain behind a sharp wit and a no-nonsense attitude. She’s seen too much, lost too much, and learned to build walls around herself. But beneath the surface, Maya is terrified of getting close to anyone again, afraid that if she does, she’ll lose them just like she lost her family. Her vulnerability isn’t immediately obvious, but when it slips through — whether in a quiet moment of weakness or a rare confession — it’s what makes her truly human. We might not always agree with her actions, but her rawness, her fears, and her emotional scars are what make us empathize with her. Maya’s vulnerability is what keeps us invested, reminding us that even the toughest characters have something fragile inside.

Ultimately, what makes a character unforgettable isn’t how likable they are — it’s how fully they are realised. Their messiness, contradictions, and complexities make them feel real, and it’s these traits that stay with us long after the story ends. Characters who make us question, think, and feel are the ones that leave a lasting impression. Because in the end, it’s not about having the “perfect” character — it’s about having one that’s human, with all their flaws, depth, and complexity.

[third-arch]

Things Kanna would say to Law

“I think I’ll die loving you.”

“My heart’s always open for you.”

“I’ve always felt strange everytime you say my name, is that weird? And I feel the need to want to make you happy more, and pour my heart out in our conversations, and all sorts of things.”

“I’m not good at this sort of things. I’m not the…most physically attractive or the most outgoing, or have the best personality or skills, but, I really, have a place in my heart here for you.”

“I’ve always been drawn to people like you. I feel this strange pull to give them sunshine. I have this instinct to make them happy, to love them.”

“I wish you’d open up to me more, I’d like to learn more about you. I’ll be excited. I may not be the best listener, but being here with you and hearing your voice is already more than enough.”

“Captain or doctor or whatever, we’re both human. We cry, we make mistakes, we laugh. I’ve always seen you that way.”

“Your smile is beautiful, Law.”

“How do you suppose a doctor would fall in love with a poet?”

“What makes us human is our mistakes. You’re bound to make them, and I’ll be happy to accept them.”

“One day, I’ll protect you, just like you’ve protected me all this time.”

“I never thought your tattoos were scary. They’re beautiful.”

“I feel safe when I’m with you. I’m home.”

“Of course it’s hard at times being with you, Law, but when is any relationship ever flawless? It’s about how we can overcome them and work together.”

“We’re a team.”

“Hehe, you’re like a snow leopard, Law!”

“Your skin is beautiful to me.”

“It sounds wrong, but I don’t think you need to smile more. Your emotions are your own. I’d rather have you more than anything else.”

“I’ve always loved you, I think. I don’t think I love you as much as you love me, I just think you love too much, and my love is evergrowing.”

“I’m always here for you. You can talk to me too.”

“I’m glad it was you.”

“I’ve never stopped believing in you.”

“Take a break, Captain. It’s okay.”

“I’ve looked past your scars and flaws, and accepted each and every one of them. I just want you to accept mine.”

Something Kanna might say to Law

“You’re my home. How could I run away from you?”

Something Kanna would always say to Law

“I love you”

[dc-and-arfrona]

Whispers

Jason Todd x GN!Reader

Based off this prompt: I can still hear your voice inside my head. The sound of your laughter and the sound of your cries. The one that begs me to stay, and pleads me to leave.

Word Count: 700+

Type: Angst

Masterlist

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"I can still hear your voice inside my head," Jason whispered, his voice barely above a breath. He stood at the edge of the rooftop, his gaze fixed on the distant horizon. The weight of his past mistakes seemed to bear down on his shoulders, threatening to consume him. "The sound of your laughter and the sound of your cries. The one that begs me to stay and pleads me to leave."

You stepped forward, your presence a gentle anchor in the chaos of his thoughts. "Jason, I understand that the past still haunts you," you began, your voice filled with empathy. "But you can't keep punishing yourself for things that are out of your control."

He turned to face you, his eyes reflecting a storm of emotions. "You don't get it, (Y/N). Every time I let someone in, it ends in pain. I can't bear that again."

You closed the distance between you, placing a hand on his chest, over his heart. "Jason, I'm not here to replace anyone or fix your past. I'm here because I believe in you, in the person you are now and the person you can become."

He looked down at your hand, his heart pounding beneath your touch. "But what if I hurt you?" he whispered, his voice laden with fear.

A soft smile graced your lips as you locked eyes with him. "Love comes with risks, Jason. We can't control everything that happens, but we can choose to face it together. I believe in our strength to overcome whatever challenges come our way."

He searched your eyes, seeing a glimmer of hope amidst his turmoil. Slowly, he brought his hand up to intertwine his fingers with yours. "I've been through so much darkness," he admitted, his voice raw with vulnerability. "But when I'm with you, I feel a flicker of light."

You leaned in, your voice a gentle whisper against his lips. "Together, we can illuminate even the darkest corners."

In that moment, the weight of his past seemed to lift slightly. The vulnerability in his eyes was met with a resolute determination, a newfound belief in the possibility of healing and finding solace.

"I don't deserve you," he murmured, his voice tinged with awe.

You shook your head, a playful glint in your eyes. "Love isn't about deserving, Jason. It's about accepting and embracing each other, flaws and all. And believe me, you're more deserving than you give yourself credit for."

A mix of emotions danced across his face—relief, hope, and a hint of disbelief. "I'm scared," he confessed, his voice barely audible.

You caressed his cheek, your touch soothing. "It's okay to be scared, Jason. We're in this together, and I'll be by your side every step of the way."

A fragile smile broke through his defenses, his heart swelling with a newfound sense of warmth and belonging. As you held each other in that quiet rooftop embrace, the city sprawled beneath you, its chaotic symphony fading into the background. In that moment, it was just the two of you, united against the world, ready to face the challenges that lay ahead.

With each passing day, the echoes of the past grew softer, drowned out by the laughter you shared and the support you provided. Love became their beacon, guiding them through the trials of life and offering solace in moments of darkness.

Together, Jason and you found solace in each other's arms, forging a future filled with compassion, understanding, and the unwavering belief that love had the power to heal even the deepest wounds.

[autisticsuperpower]

Autistic and Embracing The Imperfections and Flaws

As an Autistic person, I have battled and overcome many obstacles and many barriers to get to where I am. 

But at some point, there’s also an unexpected barrier to overcome to feel really good about your Autism.

Embracing your flaws.

A flaw is defined as an imperfection that mars a substance or object or as a fault or weakness in a person’s character.

People think that Autistic people don’t think about their own flaws, but in actuality, we do.

A lot.

I know that I think about my own flaws. I know I’m not perfect, and the mistakes that I make sometimes can really haunt me and have long-lasting effects.

For instance, I’m not the greatest communicator.

It may come as a surprise, especially considering that many people don’t see me as Autistic at first glance.

But trust me, I can be confusing sometimes because I’m battling many thoughts at one time, just to communicate.

What do I say in this conversation?

How do I respond?

Do I slip up sometimes? 100% absolutely.

But I always try to let people know that I am interested in hearing what they have to say and what the conversation is about.

Another instance, I am one of the biggest perfectionists you will meet. Period.

I always want to get things right on the first try, and when I don’t, I panic.

I go into overdrive until I get it right. And it does eat me alive at times.

But as I get wiser and learn more, I am realizing that it is totally okay and acceptable to not always be perfect.

We make mistakes for a reason, and that’s to grow.

It is hard for me to accept that things don’t always go right on the first try.

However, when I let go of the control to be perfect all the time, that’s when I see myself shine at my very best.

Another imperfection that I have is sometimes I may not show empathy or sympathy.

I may not show that I care for others, when deep down inside, I know I do.

It's been something I've working on for the last few months after really reflecting on previous social situations.

It can be a lot to reflect on, but I know that it will only make me better to show that I do care for others.

Whether it be my own girlfriend, my family, or friends.

And being Autistic, it can make it 10 times more difficult.

But I know I am empathetic and sympathetic. And I will continue to do my best to show it on the outside.

So what's the point by these examples? It's this:

In general, imperfections are a part of every single one of us that are Autistic.

But we have the power to embrace our flaws and our imperfections, and turn them into a super power of our own.

Make no mistake, imperfections and flaws are much more fun to embrace than having none at all. 💚

[sk3let0rz]

I wish Hollywood didn’t show women making an effort to be romantic to men who reject them and then they end up with that shitty man. It reinforces this idea that men are unaware of the emotional consequences of their actions and allows them to avoid responsibility for treating people as disposable.

Men are allowed to be flawed, struggle morally, cause harm, and then overcome that without ever doing the internal work to become a better person. Because men have inherent value and if a man has to consider that he acted in an unethical way, that means his value is less (this is specifically about America’s prison slavery system and it’s ’othering’ of groups like women, poc, lgbtq, disabled). Men have inherent value and they can struggle without that value coming into question.

Women can NOT make mistakes. Because they do NOT have inherent value. Women are valuable on a conditional basis. Can you (as a women) provide sex, companionship, validation, housework, children? If you stop providing these things or are unable to provide certain things a women’s value goes down.

This is why women have to answer for their actions while men only have to answer for their intentions.

Back to the Hollywood trope- women are shown as having romantic daydreams and wanting those dreams to materialize. They try to encourage or support the man in carrying out those dreams (do you remember what day it is, honey?). This doesn’t go well and we as the viewer are encouraged to side with the man.

Be clear in your message = the woman’s actions are judged as most important.

The man was tired or there were other external factors = the man’s intentions are judged as most important.

This is bad because it encourages men to act as if there are no consequences to their actions as long as they mean well. It’s bad because it teaches women that men should not be judged for their actions. It’s bad because it encourages certain people to treat others poorly and another people to accept poor treatment.

Women who do not receive reciprocity in their romantic efforts should cease all romantic efforts with that person. GIRL there are millions of people out there one of them will treat you right. Stop trying to teach a man how to treat you.

[harmonyhealinghub]

Embracing Positivity: The Power of Being Aware of Your Thoughts Shaina Tranquilino July 13, 2024

Our minds are constantly buzzing with thoughts. Some days, these thoughts uplift us, inspire us, and fill us with joy. Other days, however, they can drag us down into a spiral of negativity and self-doubt. What if we told you that by simply becoming more aware of these thoughts, you could drastically change your outlook on life?

The Inner Dialogue: Friend or Foe?

Think about the last time you received a compliment. Maybe a colleague praised your work or a friend admired your latest accomplishment. How did it make you feel? Chances are, that positive feedback brought a smile to your face and a spring to your step. Now, contrast that with the last time you criticized yourself. Perhaps you made a mistake at work, or things didn’t go as planned in a personal project. How did you react? Did you berate yourself, dwell on your shortcomings, or worse, believe that you’re not good enough?

It’s natural to be our own worst critic, but often, we are far harsher on ourselves than anyone else would ever be. The comments we would never tolerate from others, we too readily accept from our own inner voice.

The Impact of Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk can be insidious. It chips away at our self-esteem, diminishes our confidence, and ultimately hampers our ability to grow and thrive. Imagine a friend constantly pointing out your flaws or belittling your achievements. You wouldn’t tolerate it, right? So why do we accept it from ourselves?

These thoughts not only affect our mental well-being but also have a profound impact on our physical health. Studies have shown that chronic stress from negative thinking can weaken the immune system, increase the risk of cardiovascular disease, and contribute to other serious health problems.

Cultivating Awareness: A Path to Positivity

The first step to breaking free from this cycle is simple yet profound: awareness. Pay attention to your thoughts. Notice when your inner dialogue turns critical or pessimistic. Instead of automatically accepting these thoughts as truth, challenge them. Ask yourself: Is this thought based on facts, or is it an exaggerated interpretation? Would I say this to a friend in the same situation?

By becoming aware of your thoughts, you gain the power to reframe them. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, and learn from your mistakes without self-condemnation. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, and remember to be kind to yourself, especially in moments of difficulty.

The Journey to Self-Compassion

Being aware of your thoughts is not about suppressing negative emotions or pretending everything is perfect. It’s about fostering self-compassion and resilience. It’s about acknowledging that setbacks and challenges are a natural part of life’s journey and that you have the strength to overcome them.

Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine. Whether it’s meditation, journaling, or simply taking a few moments to breathe deeply, these practices can help you tune in to your thoughts and cultivate a more positive mindset.

In a world where external influences often shape our perceptions, reclaiming control over our inner dialogue is a powerful act of self-care. Remember, you have the power to choose how you respond to your thoughts. Embrace positivity, practice self-kindness, and watch as your outlook on life transforms.

As you embark on this journey of self-awareness, may you find strength in your vulnerability, courage in your imperfections, and joy in the beauty of your own unique journey. You deserve it.