#abuse and love

[lightofraye]

Abuse And Love?

I saw this on Pinterest and someone said "Yeah, they loved each other" and quite a few started arguing about "That isn't love, she abused him!" and so forth.

No. You can still love the person who abused you. It isn't 24/7, the abuse. At times, the abuser genuinely appears to love you, and it messes with one's perception, one's mind, and one's heart. We get confused, wonder if we're imagining the bad things or the good things. It's very gaslighty.

This is why it's hard to break the abusive relationship... because the love is there. It may be a corrupted version of love, but it's still love. You can love your abuser... even when they're hurting you.

Sam appeared to love Ruby, and somewhere, deep down, she probably loved him too. She turned her back on Sam to face Dean, thinking Sam wouldn't help Dean kill her. She was wrong.

It was love. It was abuse.

It's can be both.

[th1rdt3chnician]

who up hating pop psychology

[zhampip]

you failed the test, stone

[wildbasil]

things haven't been great but i think they will be. eventually 🌻🌼🩷

[inkskinned]

having good & true friends will literally save and protect you in a million unfathomable ways. like okay we have written so many times about lovers. but the way a platonic friend laughs and cries with you. the way they hold your hand at 14 years old and at 34. the way they keep a little silver tie to you, touching base over and over and over. how you can go years without talking, only to re-meet and discover: oh shit! you're still cool!

there are people who have been in my life for more than half of it, and i have loved every version of them. do you know how fucking beautiful that is. yeah love will save the world. but the way friends love you is gonna save the you.

[smalllittlekittyforu]

Just a slut

[star-anise]

I really wonder if trauma theorists who say things like "Humans are the only animal that will be in a fright state when physically safe" or "the rest of the animal kingdom doesn't get PTSD" have ever, like

Do you think they've actually ever met an animal?

[sassycurvesawf]

[akanemnon]

I don't like this place. It's turning everyone edgy and sad.

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[greykolla-art]

Unstoppable villain, meet immovable agent of friendship!

I was wondering in what circumstances Charlie would just OFFER her soul to Al.

And he would short circuit as all his manipulation plans become unnecessary.

Cause Charlie cares about her friends and if they need help she won’t hesitate.

[nemosopenletters-blog]

I just want to be important, too.

[shirecorn]

Monsters

Bittersweet Dreams || Perspective || Evil || Fighter

[clementimetodie]

recently saw someone's "advice for your 30s" which included something like "never get on the floor without having an escape plan for getting back up" and um. if you are otherwise able bodied and having trouble getting up from the floor in your 30s. you are very unhealthy. yes, even, if not especially, for that age.

[venicewhore69]

true love<3

[danlous]

I feel like many people have a fundamental misconception of what unreliable narrator means. It's simply a narrative vehicle not a character flaw or a sign that the character is a bad person. There are also many different types of unreliable narrators in fiction. Being an unreliable narrator doesn't necessarily mean that the character is 'wrong', it definitely doesn't mean that they're wrong about everything even if some aspects in their story are inaccurate, and only some unreliable narrators actively and consciously lie. Stories that have unreliable narrators also tend to deal with perception and memory and they often don't even have one objective truth, just different versions. It reflects real life where we know human memory is highly unreliable and vague and people can interpret same events very differently