#You seem like a genuinely nice person

[capricioussun]

2am post jumpscare

[unproduciblesmackdown]

Lackadaisy Enrichment

[irondeficientkitten]

Hi! Dms on my main got taken away bc of reasons, I think it'll work fine if you dm this blog(but I can't). I have experience in both impact play and pain play and what I can say from my experience is that the line between those kinds of wanting isn't that firm. The realization that once I've gotten into an established relationship and built myself a support system my desire to experience pain dropped significantly was really unpleasant and hit me hard. Turns out something I thought I was seeking only for joy was also dabbling as my coping mechanism and a punishment for how I dealt with life's struggles, bc I was in a place where I couldn't get reassurance or other form of support. While also being my desire and bringing me joy at the same time. I wasn't enduring the scenes I did back then, they felt good, it just turned out that they were carrying more than just giving my body pleasurable sensations. And I'm fine with that, it was an ok-ish coping mechanism I didn't abuse, the are far worse options out there

The punishment part is hard to put into words. There are so many experiences and perspectives, so chances are this will be completely useless and unrelatable to you. For me personally pain play when done right brings me joy and a sence of ease, it's also a reassuring act between me and my partner, it builds connection, I feel comfort and trust and am generally all lovey-dovey and cuddly afterwards. Even when smth goes wrong I mostly want to cuddle and get reassured. Getting punished doesn't feel good, the whole thing is to feel bad it doesn't have a resolution and doesn't make me calm or bring ease just new worries. The person doing the punishing doesn't feel like a lover, I want to get away from them, I get a wave of worry (How could the want to do this to me??How can they enjoy this??Do they really think this is what I deserve?How can I make them do this?Am I just using them?). I do not feel grateful or more connected after the act. However I do have thoughts that I'll be "more pure" or "trully deserving of their love" if I ebdure it. The easiest thing to do is listen to your thoughts and pause if they feel off if you're talking to yourself about how you deserve this and stuff. But usually overanalising my motivations just kills the mood for me (Am I really enjoying this? Do I really want this?) or takes away from the experience. I try to get in the moment and feel my feels and pause or stop if anything feels off. Sometimes it's not that I'm sing pain to hurt myself it's just that I'm not in the right headspace to be experiencing that. Sometimes pausing midaction to hug my partner or eat a snack or smth makes everything better bc I see that they aren't mad about me pausing and are a nice and loving person interested in my wellbeing. Probably the same thing as using safewords just to get reassurance that it's ok to use them and they will be respected and no resentment will be held over you.

I feel the .2 question so much. The worst part is sometimes it is in fact the only or most important thing your partner wants from you. That sucks. What helped me was facing my fear and saying that I don't feel like doing any pain related thing anymore and maybe won't for a long time. Even though I did want it, just to see what's the worst case scenario I was maybe trying to avoid by convincing myself I want painful sensations. I also talked with my partner it was a hard conversation but it went well for us. It didn't cure my self-esteem issues that this line of thought stems through for me but it made it better. I asked for reassurance and also tried to do mere things for my partner outside of bedroom so there's less place for doubt to grow. Sex and/or bdsm when I'm not feeling good about myself, feel like Im proving smth or fulfilling a duty are not that pleasurable and leave me feeling worse, even if I did genuinely want it.

So summarized my way of doing it is to listen to myself more and practice taking breaks or stopping action, maybe taking a break from sex/bdsm for a while to make sence of what I feel.

okay real talk. for those into any form of pain play and/or impact play? how do you distinguish between like. wanting it because you Want it vs. wanting it because you feel like either 1. you genuinely deserve it (punishment or the best youll get) or 2. its the best you have to offer your partner?

[beastking-golion]

Did christian linke actually do anything wrong beyond saying he didn’t see jayvik as romantic or are you guys just losing your shit over a difference of opinion?

[rawliverandgoronspice]

given that seems to be the new popular take in the fandom at large since totk got out: let the record show that I'll gladly let myself get repeatedly manipulated by the wind waker speech and be foolishly moved by its implications over rejecting space for humanity and vulnerability in the monstrous and the dispossessed, and then feeling weirdly smug about severing that fleeting attempt at connection and deem it obviously insincere

[animationismycomfort]

burn was done DIRTY in the show

[celtrist]

Would Fat Nuggets also be affected, or is the little pig immune just like Keekee? Or is it hard to tell because Fat Nuggets does like Alastor but for purely normal reasons (Alastor makes tasty snacks and gives nice scritches behind the ear)?

Alastor doesn't strike me as an animal person, so I don't think he really cares about fat nuggets within the actual canon show and in the AU. He's probably more likely to try and eat him than make snacks or give ear scritches. I don't think Alastor exactly hates or dislikes animals (with the exception of dogs), but I don't think he'd ever get affectionate with one or want a pet. He probably sees them at worst a nuisance, at best just a background thing he doesn't interact with too much that are occasionally entertaining. Hard to tell since we haven't seen him interacting with any animals, but those are my thoughts. Alastor was described as having a sort of "dexter" ideology with his kills, and animals are like one of the most innocent things out there. So maybe other than in his youth and normal hunting, I don't think he harms animals but also don't foresee him really being an "animal lover". Maybe gators at the swamp, but that's it.

Fat Nuggets is an animal, not an object like Keekee, so he's not immune! Luckily for Alastor, Nuggets doesn't do any animal mating stuff: just likes being in the same room as Alastor, cuddling or nuzzling his legs, and trying to offer things to him on occasion. I guess Nuggets would like Alastor in the "mate" sense, but it's not really obvious in animals like it is for people. If only because most animals wouldn't be doing things that different to people they do like, they just happen to be more affectionate.

Alastor has probably thrown Nuggets out of his room upon waking up and seeing the pig snuggled up to him.

[bcneheaded]

I was just thinking and... Artemis is not kind. yes, for all his friendliness, and all the fancy and amicable language and behaviors he displays outwardly to just about everyone who enters his shop... he's not genuinely nice. Artemis is a demon. in any verse of his, he used to be something akin to a spirit/god of LOVE, but was twisted into Wrath, or Hatred - which is the opposite. After leaving the pits of hell, having his little demonic tantrum and breakdown and finally growing weary and finding some semblance of clarity, he's grown out of what he was once again, and became something new. He's still wrathful, hateful, angry, and morose, but now he's so much more without even realizing. He's evolved and will continue to do so over time even if he stagnates for decades, centuries even. The friendships and relationships with other muses that he develops will influence his personality and the way he views things in time, as we've seen it happen already countless times ofc! And for those who did earn his respect and care, he does truly care for them and would gladly go out of his way for them (to what degree depends entirely on the level of closeness). But again.... Artemis is not kind, by nature and he hasn't been for a very, very long time. He was genuinely just plain and simple EVIL He was a villain - a monster, unrecognizable to how he acts now- doing horrible, unspeakable deeds for the pleasure of it. It's how he got the bones he wears in and on his body. So while he might be polite, charming even, and friendly - if he does not know you... he doesn't care about you nor what happens to you. If say for example, he sees you wandering that ruined cityside he lives in - rampant with entities that prey on the Living - and he saves you from being taken by evil spirits or demons? Chances are good that he did it for himself, or to be spiteful - to deny the other entities their prize (you / your soul). If he doesn't know you, the likelihood that he'll go out of his way for you is very low. But if there's something in it for him, some kind of reason as to why it might be worth his time and energy to actually step in... he might! But like all demons, it's good to be wary and to assume he doesn't care about you or your well-being, at least at first!! Artemis is not nice, but that doesn't mean he's malicious or cruel (anymore. not intentionally - he's quite literally under the mindset that he's just 'too old and tired for that nonsense'.) Artemis is manipulative, charming, cunning - he's everything you expect from a demon (though without a host, so he's certainly not attractive in any semblance of a conventional manner lmao - but he dresses well! and I think it's also telling just how-- *gestures at all that* --that he actually is, considering he's NOT attractive... but still puts people at ease, mostly, and can charm them to hell and back if he wanted to. He uses that not to manipulate people per say ?? like, he does not have an evil agenda by any means. He's just existing at this point, distanced from the gods and devils and just living his... life(?) if you can call it that. He's TRYING to do better. But he's still just... a demonic entity. A greater demon, for sure, if he had to be equated to some kind of level or whatever, but a demon nonetheless. But even for demons, there can be growth! and he is growing, very very slowly.

[queencaramilflinda]

Everyone during neverafter 15: oh my god these social interactions are going horribly they’re all doing so bad!

Me, neurodivergent and cannot read social cues: idk mostly these seem fine

[thesmokinpossum]

It's honestly kinda insane to me that Vito trusts and respects Fredo so little that even with his strict catholic moral he literally trusts the reports of his late son's ex-mistress more than anything his actual son has to say like wow, you're not even pretending to care for this man at this point 😬

[itsalwaysdark]

i like overthink everything now it makes me feel so dumb. i used 2 be able to just talk 2 ppl but nowadays every single thing im like Is that actually going to make them hate me. Yes probably. and then i just dont respond which makes ppl hate me. this is how it is

[fivequartersoftheorange]

I just want to know what Nick did that he's got some (i know not all of them) of the most fucking psychotic, racist fans.

[thedreadvampy]

it's been a strange arc so far

when I was 19-21 and having an extremely imbalanced relationship with someone in their mid 30s I was like 'we are both adults so the fact that this is fucking me up is my fault'

when I hit my late 20s and saw how young people in their late teens and early 20s seem now I was like 'oh wait I was so fucking young I didn't know shit about my own limits or about managing relationships and I don't know why someone in their mid to late 30s would be into that except for nefarious purposes'

the weird bit is now I'm into my 30s - not even that far into my 30s - and while I still wholeheartedly believe that last thing about how young (and self destructive) 20 year olds are, I'm also kind of like 'huh, actually nobody I know that age has their shit remotely together and frankly the reason this fucked me up is because NEITHER of us knew what the fuck we were doing it how to cope, for different reasons and at different life stages, and there probably wasn't any malice or intent to control as much as there was Blind Flailing.'

[moonchild-in-blue]

Can someone please either validate me or send me to the Corner of Shame? This is very silly but I'm wondering.

So. I was talking to my sister the other day about movies and such, and she told me of one she recently watched with this one actor. And I casually mentioned how much I hated him. Not in a "he's a bad actor" or "he's a bad person" way. Nothing to do with whether I find him attractive or not. Just in a "he looks the most punchable guy on earth and I have this irrational rage against him" way, to the point that I just can't watch movies with him without being annoyed.

My sister looked at me like I was crazy because, "what do you mean you hate the guy". And I told her yeah? That's normal? Don't you have at least one person you can't stand for no reason?

Sister was like 😬😬😬 No??? Which is wild to me, because I could easily name 50 (which I did - not 50 but we were getting close to 20 before i got too annoyed lmao).

Now she thinks I'm slightly insane (/j) (I made myself angry and may have referred to a few individuals as "stupid" and "obnoxious"), and I kinda don't believe I am the only person alive who feels this way. But also she's an incredibly empathetic extrovert, while I'm a very low empath socially anxious creechur so. There's that?? I guess ?? Idk.

Can anyone relate to this? Or am I the weird one?

Also wait. Little disclaimer: I am not generally a violent person AT ALL. Do i get annoyed and angry easily? Yeah. Do I feel like bitch slapping someone right across their stupid face? Yeah, sometimes, sure. Do I do something about it? Not really.

I can be real bitchy and extra sarcastic and petty SURE, but that's the most I'll do if I am legitimately angry. Mostly I just go to my room and cry 🥺 (crying when angry yes it me). So yeah. Before yall think I have unsolved anger issues.

[midnight-arandombanana]

I keep seeing people talk about the connection between Rhine and the shade of life, but I’ve always found this idea fun:

Rhine as the shade of life

Reincarnated from a (god? Are shades gods?) to a mortal who eventually gained control of their birthright, only to be rejected for their mortality

To her, the giving of life and taking it away are inextricably intertwined

But other people don’t see it that way

(Cough cough Pierro)

[sachermorte]

Okay Rolanderich we can settle this once and for all

Would you or would you not get married for power, an alliance, or The Aesthetic