#WE HAVE THE SAME DISORDER

[paranormaljones]

I cannot keep having this conversation with my mom.

[stellaltumi]

my chronically ill best friend just said "I feel like the side effects part of a medication commercial" SO FUCKING TRUE BABE

[ovaruling]

i am so sick of this

there is an established relationship between advanced age of the father and risks to the mother, to the pregnancy, to the fetus, and later to the child.

older men’s ticking biological clocks are harmful. their ages literally compound the dangers to women and to the children they have. increased age of fathers is related to things like gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and preterm birth, just to make a few. later health and mental problems have been observed in children of older fathers.

the number of older fathers is increasing. men feel entitled to father children well into elderliness. men also tend to seek out young women with which to have these children. the maternal mortality rate in the U.S. is currently the highest it has been since the 1960s. abortion rights in the U.S. are in extreme peril. this altogether makes the risk to women who reproduce w/ older men much, much greater.

i think we as a society need to start talking about this a bit.

screenshots of additional NYT article under the cut because i couldn’t figure out how to link without the paywall.

[thatswhatsushesaid]

there are of course certain posts circulating here that do indeed display the grim state of critical reading and thinking skills on this website. (i'm thinking specifically about the "taylor swift isn't bisexual" "don't worry, op isn't actually saying that taylor swift isn't actually bisexual" post that has been making the rounds for years. op of that reblog chain is probably still fighting for their life, thoughts and prayers, etc.)

then there are posts where there are, in fact, very reasonable and plausible explanations for why a large number of people on the 'neurodivergent with diagnosed and undiagnosed disabilities' website might struggle to understand what they're looking at right away. logic puzzles, jokes that rely on solving math problems in your head to unearth the joke, unreality bits, etc.

and i think it is actually very important to be able to distinguish between these two different types of non-comprehension before deciding to have a go at people for not understanding what they're looking at.

[singletofadown]

a theory of mine as to why the children in the did community gravitate so hard towards making pk tmeplates, alter packs and etc is they want to feel useful, want praise and appreciation from people online that they lack in real life, without having to acknowledge their disorder as something negative.

Writing about symptom management or help requires acknowledgement that having alters is a symptom, that you can't just let your system "run wild" and that new alters are often not a good sign, while a lot of younger systems like to obsess over their alters, either to cope with the rest of the disorders being horrible by focusing on the thing they see as "positive", or simply because they're faking and having alters is the one overly glorified part of did. just my thoughts though

[wickjump]

i think there is something very nice about ships that are "traumatized guy that hates himself" x "himself but from the not-all-too-distant past who isnt as messed up because of some sort of stressful event"

also this is totally about classicsci because im thinking of them a lot. its self care really. and also literally. its just not-edgy scifell which i like a lot about them. its "oh boy you havent dealt with even half the stress ive gone through. im gonna take this as a chance to make sure you dont go through what i did cause i now have a second chance to prevent bad things (ie gaster falling into the core) from happening that all this time ive blamed myself for. and then we kiss about it a lot for comfort idk." ive got ideas about them

theyre kinda like classicgeno (do they even have a ship name) now that i think about it. geno x classic x sci poly when. and theyre also kinda like classicdust too. i think i might have issues regarding my love for the trope of "guy loving a less messed up version of himself in the way he was not able to be loved and in the process working through his own issues and healing from his trauma". i may have a lot of issues actually

[dykedvonte]

I beg people in the MW to think very carefully when they talk about mental illness and physical disability cause it’s not as straight forward and easy to diagnose/depict as you think…

[naivety]

okay i need feedback from the autism mentall illness website um. this is going to read like an AITA post. brother vs half-sister (who are currently my dependents do to their own individual disabilities + ptsd/depression) spat i will skim the details on but i'm worried my sister will discount my take since i'm not autistic myself so. am i crazy to call it ableist to look at an autistic person (23) who is clearly going through it dealing w long term depression, a world that doesn't give a shit abt him, unemployment, very self-isolated and burnt out barely leaving his room because the world is an ableist dumpster fire with zero opportunities for him, and then bring up childhood abuse he's suffered and his diagnosis as reasonable factors on top of this to worry he'll [checks notes] abuse my cat just to hurt me or even worse have a breakdown and kill me and his other sibling in a violent episode, a train of thought i probably wouldn't even be having were he not [checks notes] mad at me for the first time in my life?

like i don't have any other read on this kind of fear-based characterization other than ableism. like those are very real things in his life but she never points out any current violent behavior, of which there are none, only the one (1) instance of him lashing out when he was like 14 and Officially Diagnosed Low Empathy she thinks is a concern and Hateful Looks toward her since he stopped getting along with her, that's it. i tried explaining to her why i, someone who's lived w him his entire life, can vouch for how unlikely he is to do anything like that, especially when it's again not based on anything he's actually currently doing except for isolating in a way that is much more indicative of him potentially being a danger to himself than anyone else, and being cold towards her specifically, and i thought she had let it go, but when i brought it up off-hand in a conversation tangentially related, she continued to defend and justify her Concern about the potential directions his behavior could lead to because [checks notes] other people in similar situations have lashed out and killed their entire families according to. true crime books or videos she's watched on youtube as far as i'm aware. ignoring the fact that her and i have had the same or Worse childhood abuse and have acted similarly isolated in the past, or for her literally just as currently as him, and she's not expressed any worry past or present about either of us doing anything like that, in my opinion obviously because i haven't cut her off due to our differences like he decided to. like am i big sibling biased because this is pissing me off so bad.

[katetorias]

i wish it was possible for traumatized people, especially hypersexuals who developed para philic intrusive thoughts due to being abused, to have a space where they can talk about how distressing and horrible these thoughts are and make them feel without weirdos being like “you shouldn’t feel ashamed! There’s nothing wrong with those thoughts! Those things are cool actually!” like..

no actually there is something wrong with those… why are you encouraging harmful thoughts instead of reassuring the people who experience them that they’re not evil…

[kinokoshoujoart]

the sos awl development team really looked at rock and said “even if we could fix him (we can’t) he would never agree to it, carry on king”

[kuruk]

you guys really do suck at diagnosing god.. I can see why obsessive compulsive is winning I can't comment on that I just think you're mixing up ocd and ocpd ehich whatever. however why is paranoid second place im genuinely not paranoid. and histrionic narcissist being higher than dependent borderline the only 2 which apply to me really shows you people don't know a thing which inm actually quite glad about because it means I'm looking really normal and usual

[stalkerish]

i’m not saying that no one should ever talk about celebrities’ bodies, obviously they have a real tangible effect on ideals and the psyches of the general population, but holy shit can you at least do it with a bit of compassion and grace. what fucking good do you think you’re doing by saying that you think someone looks like they have an eating disorder because they look repulsive and gross? literally one of the most evil and counterproductive ways to talk about eating disorders wtf.

[swords-and-starlight]

EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL STATES ARE NOT THE SAME FUCKING THING

[thefluxsystem]

i wish that there were actually as many DID specialists as it seems like there are.

so many of these therapists are out here just trying to pad their resume, then when they actually have someone with DID in the chair, they try to fake it til they make it. which they never do.

how am i supposed to get better, when the people who claim they can help are lying about it?

[itz-pandora]

Huh. If my life was a quote, it'd be "one of those sad ones with a deceptively happy tune"

[lilworms]

so