#Via needs therapy

[qu0rky]

What i despise the most about her character and the way she’s written (which was also pointed out by Danny Motta in his most recent reaction, though with much more comedic ire) is that she does the same thing over and over again, without seemingly learning anything.

She felt so hurt by her dad not knowing what she’s into now, and instead clinging on to the past (which was his biggest crime with her tbh), but does she give a single fuck about Stolas’ life before he had her? I never saw her make an effort to bond with him unless it was something SHE was already into. If she had, she’d understand why Stolas cares so much about Blitz. I don’t think she ever even realized just how miserable Stolas was whenever she was with her mom on the weekends.

Loona’s speech to her in Seeing Stars should’ve been the end of this arc. Of her teenage rebellion. Of her unreasonable anger towards her father. Because Loona put it perfectly, dads fuck up, but they’re trying, at least it’s very clear that Blitz and Stolas are. And they’re not just fathers, they’re multidimensional people, with hobbies and aspirations and relationships. She seemed to understand that speech. And yet now it’s like that bit of development never happened between them. Could she not have confided in Loona again?

And now that she’s susceptible to her mother and uncle’s manipulation, this could only get worse. I genuinely cannot handle seeing Stolas treated like shit by other people AGAIN. He’s had enough!! Let him heal.

As much as i can understand where Via is coming from, and her feelings are valid, she doesn’t see her dad as a living person outside of just being her father. And that isn’t right. It’s especially not right seeing just how many people feel absolutely no empathy for him.

“She was just a child having to endure all that!!” Okay, and how old was Stolas when he had to marry an abusive girl and have a kid of his own, exactly? At least he gave Via a chance to have a good childhood, he didn’t have one. He didn’t have anything except for his duties to carry out.

And while it’s heartbreaking that Via sees herself as an obligation, that’s literally what she was supposed to be. Though that doesn’t mean that was how he saw her. She was what saved him, what made him endure all the abuse, what kept him going.

But sometimes that’s not enough, he had NO ONE to confide in and couldn’t put his frustrations on his own kid (because he’s a good father, despite what some of you would like to believe, clearly you didn’t grow up with a parent trying to guilt you by traumadumping when you can barely understand it), so he also NEEDED the pills.

The thing is, i also had that mentality towards my mom for dealing with depression UNTIL i started experiencing it myself. Because it’s so hard to realize that your parents are also human beings, since they’re supposed to protect you, they’re supposed to have everything figured out, to be the shoulder you cry on.

But if i see another dumbass claim that he CHOSE to leave and made the wrong decision in Mastermind, i need you out of this fandom. The whole point of that was that he had no choice, was he supposed to throw away the man he fell in love with, his first friend, his first time that wasn’t for procreation, and the one who liberated him? Stolas is allowed to care for more than one person, and he deserves to be loved romantically by someone.

You’re being too harsh on Stolas because for whatever reason you hate an abuse victim finally having a say in how to live for once in their lives, adding on top of that the weird, underlying homophobia in some of your criticisms for him.

Also i have a bad taste in my mouth from Via only seemingly hating Stolas, despite having SEEN how shitty Stella is. Sure, she doesn’t know the full extent of the abuse, but she’s heard the yelling, she’s seen the throwing, the ridiculing, the insensitivity. And most likely that woman neglected Via as much as possible, because she also didn’t choose to have her, but unlike Stolas she didn’t give a fuck to take responsibility regardless. (Reminding you of the “You get up” comment from Loo Loo Land). This was all happening before the cheating, so that’s not an excuse for her behavior (not that the cheating was, but at least Via would have been able to reason with her reaction to it).

It’s a complicated situation and it’s so shitty to put all the blame on Stolas, he tried so much for his family, but it was never going to be enough, because he’s gay. I’m glad he got out of that marriage.

Honestly, had i been given all those responsibilities at his age in a loveless marriage, i would’ve gone insane. I wouldn’t have been kind to my child, the cause of my shit life. But he never saw her as a weight on his shoulders, he has so much love for Via.

[thefallenangel2008]

Y'all thought Mastermind was a rollercoaster of emotions??? Boy, then you haven't SEEN the Sinsmas episode.

[y-rhywbeth2]

Gale: 'You see, I have this... condition. Very different from the parasite we share, but just as deadly.' Durge: 'You also feel disgusted by how life, miserable as it is, insists on persisting in this most wretched world?'

I probably shouldn't laugh at that, but I did. It's both sad and another example of the bizarre nature of Durge interacting with the world and the party (who just... act like they don't see the oddity half the time.) Like the fact that Durge just said 'I want everybody to die' and then Gale basically answers that 'I have a bomb in my chest that could kill everybody.' I have no words.

It's like a strange comedy, and there's something horribly wrong with all seven of us.

[happywitchesofnewdi]

I'm sorry are you telling me Switch have matching Teddy Bears?? 😭😭😭

I was already obsessed with the fact that Sora had handmade dolls of the three of them that Tsumugi made for him. Why are they so precious!!!

[savage-rhi]

Magneta????

[brown-little-robin]

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[pinacoladamatata]

Everyone got these beautiful headcanons for Astarion and I'm sitting in the corner like a weirdo thinking about how after he was locked in a tomb for a year, "not moving for months" he would have had the Worst case of adhesive capsulitis. Ever. "Months of clawing at the door". This man's rotator cuffs are probably a Wreck.

[tardis--dreams]

On a scale from 1 to 10 how weird would it be to write a little thank you/goodbye card to a colleague you really like where you'd tell him you learned a lot from him and appreciate his support and had fun working with him? It's a 10, isn't it.

[jewishbuckley]

"was there a reason you didn't cancel this" honestly I thought I had so no there wasn't a reason but also if clients are going to have Your personal number and reach out to You about canceling (when they Should be reaching out via email per our cancelation policy) then You should be canceling the appt anyway imo. all the other trainers cancel their appointments AND add their appointments to the system 🤪

[bleue-flora]

I do what that anon does with c!Tommy except with c!Dream lol I projected everything on to him

[context]

Same. He's just so projectable... and torturable ;]

[oh-hamlet]

finally hit hell bent on my capaldi rewatch. I'm in bits.

[morganpdf]

the only person in network is an art therapist. please........................................................

(not that there's anything wrong w art therapy i just dont personally do well in art therapy)

[thestarlightforge]

My little teenaged cousin was watching his brother meticulously build a LEGO he got for his birthday, he was bored, and he said “You’re breaking my soul,”

And the first response that popped into my head was “Your soul has not been broken until you’ve been abandoned by the person you’re in love with.”

What is my DEAL 😂

[sydmarch]

I was thinking about your evrart not drinking post and while it can be related to being in control of the union, it can also be related to him being diabetic. Like yeah okay you can have a bit of alcohol when diabetic it's not like you should be in completely abstinence but it's not recommended unless it's small quantities, so maybe he considered quitting it entirely as the best choice? I'm not sure, since i don't know much about diabetes tbh, but it's been on my mind since i saw that post

HMM interesting i had always interpreted it as more of a personal choice not to drink just from the way he talks about alcohol with harry:

but i hadn't thought about that angle so now i'm looking into it & a few things i found from some brief reading:

"Despite the potential health perks of drinking alcohol, there are some cautions as well. The biggest concern is hypoglycemia (low blood sugar). When drinking alcohol is combined with the medications most often used to treat diabetes—particularly insulin and sulfonylureas, low blood sugar can result. While a glass of wine with dinner probably isn’t a big deal, a mojito on an empty stomach at happy hour is.

Because many of the symptoms of hypoglycemia—such as slurred speech, drowsiness, confusion, or difficulty walking—are also symptoms of being drunk, it can be difficult to tell the two apart. And if you often have hypoglycemia unawareness, a condition in which you don’t recognize you’re going low, drinking becomes especially dicey. Timing may also be an issue, as hypoglycemia can strike hours after your last drink, especially if you’ve been exercising." (x)

webmd says basically the same but also mentions the blood sugar drop is more common w/ type 1 & that alcohol can interfere w/ insulin & apparently alcohol can contribute to or exacerbate type 2? so yeah i could definitely see it being a combination of both a personal decision & a health related one to give up drinking.

[rabbitindisguise]

I have to keep reminding myself whenever I'm on tumblr lately that autism is not neurodivergent lite because of the sheer number of posts comparing autism to other neurodivergence on the basis of "being autistic is the easiest thing to be"

So like if you're also autistic going "what is even going on right now, why are people talking about us like we're able bodied neurotypicals who identify as nerdy after it was cool" this is absolutely nonsense and I'm sorry it's happening

[n1ghtmaremachine]

y..you have a personal conflict with hh??

my conflict with hh is a deep and complex story involving the world's most awful therapy taking place in a purgatory dimension and i can assure you that you are not prepared for it