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I'm so in love with my friends. Every little mannerism or personality trait. I don't know how every one of them isn't being bombarded with love confessions when they're all so perfect and beautiful and funny and kind and
#for the record NO i do not have a crush on any of them i dont want to be in a relationship with them#my love for them all surpasses human vocabulary and remains completely platonic#THIS is the aromantic experience#platonic love#aromantic#aroace#qpr#queer platonic relationship#friendship#summer saying stuff
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do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely
like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day
#on love#aroace experiences#aroace#aromantic#asexual#aspec#aroacespec#sunbloom talks#<3#just late night revelations#i like love and i love people :)#edit: loveless aros friendly btw#i think that's what i meant when i said love but not really all those months ago#“incredible fondness” is the phrase i really like instead of love#people need to stop coming onto this post being like “nO!! this IS love!!!” shut up you dont know me. maybe it is maybe its not#this was about personal experiences and it blew up somehow unfortunately lol
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Love makes us human? No. Chins. Chins make us human.
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#id in alt text#I'm always surprised by the way many aroallo's experiences parallel my alloace experiences#like you'd expect them to be opposites#aroallo#alloaro#alloace#aceallo#asexual#aromantic#ace#aro#aphobia#acephobia#arophobia
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"aphobia doesn't exist"
bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it
#i did some research about it and found out that the problem was principally that she had previous experience in the romantic area#so people just didn't take her seriously and said she was lying#even though she stated multiple times that she wasn't comfortable in those situations#now things are more calmed but damn#mind your own bussiness#i believe she knows more about herself than you#sorry if i offended you with this comment but i hate how aro/ace/aroace people are always left behind#insulted and rejected because they “dont know what they are talking about”#or because they “just have to wait for the right person”#or because they are “psychopaths and they are missing something”#i love that animator and she helped me realise a lot about myself#and now that i know the context i think i will start making a list and killing aphobes one by one#aromantic#arospec#asexual#aroace#acespec
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The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."
The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."
Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.
#text#aro#ace#aroace#aromantic#asexual#aspec#acespec#arospec#ik i made a similar post to this recently but i feel this one better words what i wanted to say with that one#ill leave the other posted but heres a more worded version ig#basically stop theowing repulsed and non partnering ppl under the bus#dont only validate favorable and partnering experiences when fighting aphobia#we are here too
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Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.
To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.
#no one can know i don't like sex#aspec#asexual#aromantic#tw aphobia#aspec erasure#my art#nonburger#am i gonna get bazooka'd for this#i think i'm making a good point others also have made before but i'm bracing to get bazooka'd for this#because... experience#anyway here goes nothing
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The aspec community REALLY needs to add intersecting identities to these analysis' instead of making general statements. How helpful is 'ace women are seen as pure because everyone thinks all women are asexual' when we look at the sexualisation of Black women and the Jezebel, the idea Black girls are 'fast' and the general sexualisation of women of colour e.g. spicy latina trope? Are we factoring in how the desexualization of women of colour e.g. the Mammy, the 'submissive' East Asian women trope, the virginity myth isn't acceptance of female asexuality? Does 'ace men are expected to be more sexual' factor in the sexualisation of Black men and other men of colour e.g. 'savage' Arab trope and the antiblack trope that they're inherently predatory? Or the desexualisation of East Asian men? How easily can we define the ace men v ace women experience at all if trans and non-binary aces are missing from most ace representation despite facing the brunt of anti ace discrimination? If we're solely defining these experiences by cis aces? How easily can aroallos 'just have sex' when you factor in the demonisation of gay sex, HIV/AIDS crisis and seraphobia and how this affects gay, lesbian, bi and pan aros? How easily can alloaces 'just partner up' when you factor in the ban of gay marriage that is still in many countries across the globe and the historical policing of 'homosexual behaviours' and this impacts gay, lesbian, bi and pan aces? And this isn't even getting into disability, religion etc. yet. When there's SO many factors that play into how an individual participates in sex and romance, or if they're even allowed to participate at all, how much can we clearly cut the aspec experience into alloace v aroace v aroallo. Or sex favourable v sex indifferent v sex repulsed. There's A LOT we can learn from each other.
#also why i'll never support the idea of 'aspec separatism' from the rest of the lgbt community or within the aspec community itself#a lot of these experiences and oppressions overlap whether you wanna admit it or not#ace tings#asexuality#aspec community#alloace#aroallo#aroace#asexual#aromantic#aspec#asexual community#aromantic community
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the madness frustration loneliness of the dissonance of a mismatch of the rotten heart to the rest
allosexual aromantic swag happy pride *peaces out*
#my art#alloaro#aromantism#happy pride#my animation#if this isnt fucking obvious is a personal post about MY EXPERIENCES#i love being aro more than any other part of my identity tbh but bro#this shit is crazy wack when you dont got the asexuality to match it made me into a fucking specimen#and i love picking apart my own brain#also bi aro ppl are so crazy rare and for what. i dont get why allo aro ppl are so rare. WHY ARE WE SO RARE? WHY.#like the opposite many more alloro ace ppl exist than split attraction ppl of my flavor and thats Wack. its wack. i dont get it.#its not like its complicated (okay maybe it is but also it isnt its simple to Me) so whats the populations problem.#gif#anyways. i wanted to animate this personal piece bc im a fucking weirdo i guess
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Being AroAce and having aesthetic attraction is funny sometimes. I think a lot of people are attractive but I don’t want to do anything about that information.
aesthetic attraction can be super weird sometimes
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some people on here need a gentle reminder that arospecs ARE aromantic. thats the point of the aromantic spectrum. that being aromantic.. is a spectrum. ive had demiromantic people ask me if they can call themselves aromantic. YES OF COURSE YOU CAN YOU ARE AROMANTIC. im sure some people choose to identify more as arospec than aromantic and thats fine, but in general, arospecs ARE aromantic, by virtue of being on the aromantic spectrum. like aromanticism is defined as little to none romantic attraction. the ‘little’ part of that is there for a reason.
#aromantic experience#aromantic here#for aromantics#aromantic spectrum#arospec#aromance#aro pride#aromanticism#aromantic#aro#aromantism#demiromantic#lithromantic#akoiromantic#cupioromantic#freyromantic#aegoromantic#and more that im blanking on rn
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#i didn't have to use a rise screenshot for this but yk#milo talks sometimes#actually autistic#actually neurodivergent#autism#autistic things#autistic experiences#autistic spectrum#arospec#aroace#aromantic#mlm#wlw#lgbtq+#lgbt+#lgbtq#lgbt#lgbtq community
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i love you non sexual physical intimacy i love you touching someone because you want to feel the warmth of their body and the texture of their skin i love you tracing body lines soft and sharp i love you shoulder to shoulder hand on your knee reassuringly i love you hands under their shirt on a cold day i love you head leaning against someone’s chest i love you nude cuddling i love you tracing sharp back muscles i love you tracing fat rolls i love you touching someone’s whole body to commit the little details to memory in case you were to ever loose them i love you touch as a love language
#feeling normal tonight#queerplatonic#aroace#aromantic#asexual#lgbtq#this post was made with aces in mind but everyone can experience this cuz it’s awesome#loveposting#bothoughts#asexuality#queer
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don't get me wrong, i love all the positivity around being aro, like "be proud of being aro!! love who you are!!", but we never talk about how hard it is to reach that spot. so here's to the aros who are still trying to understand themselves, who aren't proud of who they are yet, who are still coming to terms with their new identity.
#i was in serious denial about being aro for a long time like i knew the label and knew it fit but i refused to use it for several months#even after that point it took a while for me to be comfortable with the label or saying it#and this is not a bad thing!! being aro basically requires you to undo all the societal brainwashing you grew up with#and there is so much arophobia that it's hard to find positivity#i got lucky w/ this blog and the people i follow but i know i had a hard time being as proud of myself and my queerness as i am now#this doesn't even really have to be an aro statement like i think it could fit most queer experiences#sorry for the long tags haha#aro#aromantic#arospec#aromanticism#aro pride#aro positivity#aroace#aspec#1k#5k#6k#7k
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In light of recent asks,
Cishet aro men are valid. This blog will not tolerate arophobia.
all asks containing hate of any sort will be reported and deleted.
💚🤍🩶🖤
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You can help an aroace this Valentine's day for the low low price of 1 billion dollars sent to me.
#text#aro#ace#aromantic#asexual#aroace#pls give me money as compensation for the bs i will experience this holiday#100 dollars added for every amatonormative thing that happens on valentines day
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