#THIS IS ABOUT TRANS MEN DO NOT DERAIL

[ablueberryblogs]

I don't know what trans man need to hear this but you're allowed to be angry. It doesn't make you evil. You are allowed to experience all possible emotions without apology and still be a good man.

*this is about trans men specifically, do not derail. You are free to make your own post*

[peripaltepsy]

TRANSMASC NAMES SOUND LIKE AWESOME 70'S ROCK SINGERS

FUCK THAT VICTORIAN CHILD NAME POST

TRANSMASC NAMES SOUND LIKE AWESOME 70'S ROCK SINGER NAMES

TRANSMASC NAMES ARE SO HOT IT MAKES ME WANT TO KISS THEM IMMEDIATELY

TRANSMASC PEOPLE ALWAYS CHOOSE THE MOST SWAG NAMES EVER AND THIS IS AN OBJECTIVE FACT. THIS IS NOT MY OPINION, IT'S AN OBJECTIVE FACT LIKE GRAVITY

ME, TRANSNEUTRAL REACTING TO TRANSMASC NAMES: 🤩🤩🤩🥰🥰🥰🤩🤩🤩😍😍😍😍😋😋😋😋🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘😘😘😘😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🤩🤩🤩🤩

[aropride]

u can literally talk abt ur own experiences with transphobia and people being violent or bigoted or cruel towards you because you're a trans man and people will compare you to deranged conspiracy theorists for daring to say you might experience discrimination. it's fucking crazy like what level of internet brainrot do you have to have to think it's helpful on any level to deny someone's experiences and call them conspiracy theorists because they're a trans man and "men aren't oppressed" or whatever

[confused-canid]

For any transmascs and trans men and trans boys who need this,

Everything you do is masculine, because you're doing it. It's not up to others to call you too feminine for doing something.

Wearing that crop top or something pink and frilly, can be masculine if you want it to, because you're doing it.

[sharkgirldick]

What another beautiful day to love and respect fat women, especially fat women of color and fat trans women.

Have a wonderful day ladies 💚

[slesbian-engineer]

Neeed to jerk her off rn. I need to watch their eyelids flutter and face flush a bit as she lets out a shallow gasp with each stroke. I need one hand holding their hipbone, pressing them against the wall and leaving a bruise where my fingers gripped her flesh. I need to kiss her forehead and the tip of her nose when she finishes in my hands, and I NEED to tell her what a good job she did for me.

[trash-and-trash-accessories]

thanks for sharing that trans violence advocate article. I'm always afraid to share it because bringing it up always seems to bring a bunch of people out of the woodwork to call the sharers MRAs.

Yeah I do get that a lot, but for my own mental health I choose to believe those are fake accounts and not real trans women because what they're saying is so fucking stupid and cruel that it must be a psy-op meant to divide the community. And if there are real trans women saying that shit, they're fucking stupid assholes and I don't respect them or their opinions anyway. But to be fair, they are probably like 19 years old and I'm not about to fight a child.

[phoenshire]

trans women and trans boys huh. can we like. please refer to trans men as men.

[snazum]

i hate that i get the biggest surge of creative energy and Do Stuff motivation between the hours of 2am-5am. Like i’d like a normal sleep schedule.

ALSO! It’s I want to Do Stuff with Others. Like everyones asleep as they should be! But I’m over here like “oh I should ask this person what they think of this idea. Lets make this thing together”

Also! Wish capitalism would fucking die. Everyones busy and has jobs (and school but thats important stuff so please do it) and I’m over here being a NEET. Actually it’s embarrassing but moving on. (got a school advisor app thing this week super excited and nervous <not for reasons you’d think>) But like, I /know/ friends who’d want to create and do things but unfortunetly are burned out by work and school and shitty fucking people.

Can’t wait to get into the film program. Little scared cause I don’t want to have to deal with the whole “Oh u don’t watch movies? What was the first marvel movie budget” or smth. It was really fuckin annoying in highschool. And it felt like it was cause I was “fem presenting” (I wasn’t. I was p masc. Just higher voice, small, quiet and all around fem socialized) So idk, the way I react and read the situation is an attack on my knowledge <Which I’ll always admit I live under a rock>

[fiapple]

i just think it would be cool to see multigender people represented in discussions of gender politics more frequently, which is to say more than never.

the same goes for discussions of art, sexuality, the trans experience, the nonbinary experience more specifically, representation in media, so on & so forth. i just think it would be cool if the community didn’t treat us like a phase or non-entity.

[lightthatibecome]

Men deserve to bite anyone who can't stand when a post isn't all inclusive and, upon seeing a post like this, lose all common sense and any semblance of good judgment because they think everyone should be included in everything, actually

Men on their periods deserve special biting permissions in the workplace

[genderqueerdykes]

now that my post about breaking down one's idea of what a woman looks like has circulated for a while (thank you all), i'm now going to make this post, as i do not want people to derail that specific conversation, nor this one.

we also must break down our idea of what a man looks, acts, sounds, behaves, and presents like.

men are not cis, het, allosexual or highly sexual beings, tall, muscular, strong, hairy, deep voiced, broad chested/shouldered, emotionless, mean, aggressive, unemotional, uncaring, distant, cold, stoic, heartless, standoffish, bread winners, bad/absent fathers, macho, obligated to work despite disabilities, or obligated to be "the man of the house."

men are people. first and foremost.

men are allowed to express just like anyone else. men do not have to be pillars of their communities. no obligation. men are allowed to be disabled, tired, weak, emotional, caring, compassionate, asexual, aromantic, friendly, warm, in need of support, neurodivergent, mentally ill, chronically ill,and have personality disorders. men have their own struggles and we have to stop telling them to "suck it up" and "move on" and "pull yourself up by your boot straps".

we are forcing men to do this: this is a cage of our own design.

once we dismantle this idea of how a man "should" be, once more: we will move past radfeminism, patriarchy, trans/androphobia, and fostering a culture where this is an acceptable way to treat men. it's not. we must allow men to be diverse. we must allow men to be who they are on the inside

[drdemonprince]

have you defined the meaning of “white woman brain” anywhere and if not, can you? /gen

Many Black and brown feminist writers have discussed this phenomenon and I encourage you to seek out a lot of writing about this subject, because there are a variety of perspectives, but to distill it, white woman fragility brain is a phenomenon that is not exclusive to either white people or to women, but is especially common among those who can weaponize white womanhood, and it consists of the following qualities:

A view of oneself as a helpless victim that is constantly in threat of being attacked, especially by strangers (even though statistically, this is not the case).

A refusal to consider oneself as capable of doing harm to others, especially a lack of consideration toward others' body autonomy or consent. (even while being highly concerned about one's own autonomy and consent).

A generally passive or passive-aggressive orientation toward the world: seeing oneself as a romantic or sexual object to be approached, but never wanting to initiate (or feeling that one never can), never feeling comfortable directly communicating displeasure or one's desires, believing that others instead must guess at it. (and then resenting people when they don't, but never expressing it).

A tendency to cry, excessively berate oneself, complain about being made to feel "unsafe," or give up when criticized or challenged, especially when challenged by people of color.

A tendency to associate a person's body type with how much of a threat they are. For example, feeling unsafe around people with penises and expecting a social space to accommodate that fear to cater to you, a fear of people who come from cultures where it's common to speak loudly, a fear of those who are large, assertive, and/or darker-skinned.

Instinctive fawning-type responses to stress, and a pattern of feigning happiness, agreeability, and ease when one is not genuinely feeling it, and expecting all other people (but especially other women) to feign happiness as well, paired with a deep-seated resentment of anyone who violates this illusion and expresses any negativity (being especially punitive toward women of color).

Instinctively "smoothing over" conflict between other people before it even begins, even when healthy conflict is necessary and not at all your business-- often performed by gossiping behind other people's backs, triangulating information when it is not yours to share, asking people to alter their behavior in order to avoid a reaction from somebody else, presenting your concerns as if they were somebody else's ("what will people think!"), tone-policing the airing of grievances, derailing hard conversations with more light-hearted topics, and excluding people who are known to be candid and assertive.

Here are some articles on elements of the phenomenon and why it is so dangerous:

Now, I single white cis women out a lot when I am describing this phenomenon, because they have the most to gain from exhibiting these qualities, but make no mistake: this is a pattern that many types of people can and do use. I have seen white trans women use white women's tears to silence critique. I have witnessed women of color being passive-aggressively derailed and silenced by a Black manager who was in a position of institutional power over them. Multiple of the women who sexually harassed me in the story linked above were not white. And LORD knows I see plenty of t boys falling back on this shit, as well as cis men from wealthy backgrounds. It's a mindset that has deep colonial roots and we all must be on the look out for it in ourselves and others, and we must be vigilant in uprooting it.

[lostryu]

@incorrectclassicbookquotes Hey I think you might just be talking about yourself here! I politely asked you not to derail a post about trans women and the specific oppression they face, and here you are. Derailing it.

Idk how to be polite about this so I’ll be blunt. No one has said on this post that trans men don’t matter. No one has said anything to indicate transphobia towards trans men. I politely asked you not to derail this post in favor of uplifting transwomen’s voices. You are ignoring them. You are being an active participant in transmisogyny. You are not being a trans ally, you are being a “pick me cis”. I think you need to sit down and reevaluate yourself, considering that you’re 25 years old and acting like this.

once again i am crawling out of my den to tell you all that if someone says “women” on a post, and your thoughts automatically jump to “they must be excluding trans women” you do not think trans women are women.

like just saying, your default of women clearly does not include trans women. otherwise you wouldn’t get so tilted if someone says ‘women’ and not ‘women and trans women’. you are acting like trans women are a subset of actual women and it’s disgusting.

and if you wanna cry terf psy-op or whatever, let me be very frank when i say that you need to grow up. its not people’s responsibility to have a huge disclaimer on every post to pander to your lack of critical thought.

[camomileapplesyrup]

today i got into a heated argument with two TRAs over the twoXchromosomes subreddit. i made a post about the woman-centric subreddit now being overrun with men & MRAs who harass women that share their traumatic experiences with men. from SA, to spousal abuse, women found a space where they felt safe discussing their experiences in life.

posts expressing feminist thought, traumatic experiences & general fear of men were met with downvote bombings & harassment.

men pretend to be underage girls pretending not to understand masturbation and acting they don't know how to wash "down there", asking for advice for sexual gratification of course.

men CONSTANTLY adding their two cents to posts that absolutely do not need it.

the subreddit is now uncomfortable & stifling, mods do absolutely nothing about it. so i made a lengthy post and so many women responded. over 500 comments of women responding positively, and thanking me for calling out an ongoing issue.

well, apparently i am transphobic and i am acting "sussy" with saying; “every time i come here and a woman makes a post with the most MINUSCULE feminist intent, or sharing her trauma, or difficulties in her personal experiences, it doesn't just get downvoted to oblivion, but filled up with comments of dudes adding their two cents, tone policing, making sexual & or fetish comments or "not all men"ing her. this is a woman centric community. two X chromosomes. we aren't going to make our tones softer, be gentler and tip-toe around our individual experiences to make YOU, a dude, comfortable.”

all it took was this for two TRAs to gang up on me & call me transphobic. saying this is why they don't trust cis feminists, and patronising me with expressions like "you must be so brave for calling yourself a radfem". they claimed that i cannot call myself a radical feminist because it's just bigoted towards trans women, despite me living in a 3rd world country where we don't even have working woman's shelters and proper laws against spousal abuse. "im sorry your life is hard as a woman living in a misogynistic country, but that is here nor there with regard to the terminology we're discussing" i'm sorry, what?

most of us aren't privileged enough to be libfems. i wish pink fucking girlboss they/she queen xenogender discourse was what my country could be doing, but life is not fair for everyone. if a woman here gets abused, stalked, or raped, she has nowhere to go. no phone number to call. no police to call. no prosecutor to trust in. and i went through this, personally.

by the end i had to block them, because they were derailing the conversation. but fuck, even when i literally do my best and try to be inclusive to everyone, i get spat in the fucking face.

[cardentist]

I hate the man vs bear question, because the only time I've seen a man use it to talk about his experience being raped there were literally hundreds upon thousands of replies victim blaming him and insisting that being raped is a thing that can only happen to women and he should've just "manned up"

but I can't talk about that without being derailed instantly because losers and incels want to use the talking point as an opportunity to complain about gold diggers and women cucking them or whatever the fuck

we can never Actually have a productive conversation about how sexism negatively impacts men, Especially victims and marginalized people, because sexist men will always take the spotlight and radfems will use it as an excuse to pretend like these two groups are the same.

I think it's a bad thing to present all men as inherently predatory, not because of "not all men" bullshit or whatever, but because people use gender essentialism as an excuse to hurt minorities and silence victims. I think it's Bad to present a kind of suffering that anyone can experience as unique to one kind of person and then mock and belittle people who come out to talk about their experiences with it.

I think "rape is a thing that Happens to women and something that men Do" is an inherently flawed framework that has only been used to justify violence. against men of color, against trans women, against male victims, against marginalized men. because "men are inherently violent and can only hurt women, not be hurt by them" is used to justify framing a Type of man (or someone who's perceived as a man) as dangerous and in need of being Removed.