#Shaming

[creature-wizard]

Friendly reminder that shaming is not only ineffective, it tends to backfire in a big way.

[dvorrak]

One man’s shame is the same man’s kink.

[thegoldenavenger]

for femslash feb, sha hualing/liu mingyan (or liu mingyan/ning yinying if you prefer)?

i cannot decide how i want to draw sha hauling at ALL

[bitchesgetriches]

Hey bitches!

I have a bit of an odd question. So much financial advice out there is all about saving and investing, which is great, except... you're left feeling like spending any money at all except on what you absolutely need is frivolous and something to be ashamed of. I guess my question is how do you maintain a good relationship with money and good financial habits without falling into the trap of feeling guilty for buying things that make you happy, like a croissant on your walk or a dress you've had your eye on for months or on this hobby you adore? Isn't that part of a good relationship with money, knowing when it's OK to spend it aside from on the necessities? Because so many financial advice pages shame that kind of spending and advise cutting it out to save money, which yeah, if you're being irresponsible about it. But if it's within your means and it makes you happy, what's the harm such "silly" purchases now and then?

Child... we LOVE this question.

What you're describing is financial guilt, or a scarcity mentality. And it's something we write about a lot. Because OF COURSE you should use your money to brighten the dark hellscape that is daily life in our modern world. That's what it's FOR! But some folks don't know where to draw the line between "frivolous spending" and "an occasional treat to make life bearable."

So we've written some guidance here:

Buying the $7 Chocolate Bar

The Latte Factor, Poor Shaming, and Economic Compassion 

Ask the Bitches: How Can I Absolve Myself of Financial Guilt Over My Pricey PS4? 

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[selectivechaos]

when was younger, people would say "you know in the real world, they're not just gonna let you not speak."

and the truth is: they really don't let me. no-one 've met is fully fine with it. everyone becomes frustrated or unnerved.

and yet, still can't speak. it's almost like my disability don't disappear as soon as you don't like it. it's almost like disabled people just get shunned and shunned and shunned, and are still fucking disabled. there is so so much shaming, which is why we need pride.

am almost bored of the shaming process now. darling, that's not how anyone ever grew, how anyone ever saved themselves, how anyone ever found a life of hope and peace.

🌹🌹

[dsauwishfulfillment]

If you've purposefully fucked up your fancy ass car to make the engine really loud and rattley I just want you to be aware we ALL know that you have never successfully pleasured another human being. Also no one wants to fucking hear your fucking loud ass car.

[moosekateer13]

Electric Touch Masterlist

Jared Padalecki x reader, Former Jensen Ackles x reader, Former! Jeffery Dean Morgan x Reader

Warnings: Angst, Smut, Mention of Breakup, Unrequited Love, Fluff, Shaming, Cyberbullying, Harassment

Summary: The Winchester men. Technically, she's been with two out of three. Jensen in his Smallville Days. Jeffrey Dean Morgan during Watchmen. They even have a daughter Emery. Y/N now working alongside Jared. He's developed a huge crush on her. Will he be able to handle the history and reputation that comes with her? More importantly, will Y/N give him a chance?

Inspired by Taylor Swift's Electric Touch

All I know is this could either break my heart or bring it back to life

Got a feelin' your electric touch could fill this ghost town up with life

And I want you now, wanna need you forever

In the heat of your electric touch

Chapter 1: Chapter 2: Chapter 3: Chapter 4: Chapter 5:

Chapter 6: Chapter 7: Chapter 8: Chapter 9: Chapter 10:

Chapter 11:

[sometimes-men-need-help-too]

The Dadvocate shared another partner shaming video (well, a compilation) and one in particular was one of the worsts, in my opinion

Usually these people partner shame for bad habits or something. This one was because of ornaments

The caption read:

When you want your tree to feel aesthetic but your husband also brought his childhood ornaments into the relationship

And she proceeded to show the ornaments he'd made himself. And the comments were just as sad. One saying that those belonged on his mom's tree, another saying that those belonged on the back of the tree, and another saying that he'd get his own little tree in the back of the house.

Oh, and one more of one woman saying that her ex mother in law had been 'way more angry about me not knowing where all those HEINOUS ornaments were after the divorce hahaha.'

[hezigler]

”self-hating jews” a sign of cult mentality is shaming people who disagree

Could you complete your statement and make it into a comprehensible question?

(Seriously, I'm a medical cannabis patient and very stoner friendly. I don't care much about capitalization, but I really need punctuation. Good spelling helps, but truth be told, I'm barely ambulatory in written English without a good spelling checker.)

[creature-wizard]

Hey folks, reminder that if someone asks you a question like "Hey can you tell me how to not do [bad thing]" and you respond with something like, "Imagine needing to ask how to not do [bad thing]!", that is shaming behavior. It's cruel and unnecessary, and all you're doing is giving this person psychological damage while discouraging them from asking questions in the future - some of which might be really important!

"But it's a really obvious question though!" you might be thinking. Yeah uh, speaking as an autistic person who was raised by fundie Christians who kept me ignorant on purpose, there is no such thing as a universally obvious question.

So literally don't do that shit. Consider the possibility that you are very likely dealing with someone who was either kept in the dark, or does not easily pick up on things and needs them clearly explained to them. If you don't allow for this possibility and behave accordingly, you functionally hate abuse survivors and mentally disabled people, and you are the asshole.

[nando161mando]

We need to start shaming this shit.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[fulltum]

How would you punish and/or tease your pet tiny for being a fat piggy? Or a tiny you found with their tummy packed full of stolen food, helplessly stuck and unable to escape you? Tell me here for a free drabble~

[moosekateer13]

Chapter 1: Enchanted

Walker Set

Jared's P.O.V.

Y/N damn is she gorgeous. I wish I could ask her out but I know she's got her hands full. She doesn't have time to do things between her role here on Walker as D.A. Allison Finney. Her main priority is her daughter Emery.

A hand waved in front of my face interrupts my thoughts.

"Jared, you are staring at my mom again. Just go ask her out." Emery said.

"She doesn't have time to date Em. She's got bigger priorities." I retorted.

"For fuck’s sake Jared stop using that lame-ass excuse. Now just go.” Emery said.

" Fine, I will. You've got quite a mouth for a 14-year-old." I replied.

"What do you expect, you know who my dad is?” Emery retorted.

She leaves me sitting there while she walks off toward the wardrobe department. With her iced tea in hand of course. Em looks mostly like Y/N. They even share the same hair colour Y/H/C but she’s got Jeff’s attitude that’s for sure.

I reluctantly knocked on Y/N’s trailer door. She swiftly opens it and greets me with a smile. She looks gorgeous dressed in that white dress shirt and black dress pants. All ready for filming today.

Y/N gestures to me to come in.

“So Jared, what can I do for you?” Y/N asked in between her sips of iced tea.

She places a soothing hand on top of mine. As if she sensed my nerves.

"I'd like to ask you out," I said. Before I lost the nerve to ask Y/N.

"Sure, I'd love to come to my place at 8:05 pm tonight. Oh, look at the time we've got scenes to film." Y/N said.

She places a kiss on my cheek before heading out.

I rub my cheek before following her out. Did that really just happen or was it a dream?

A ping from my phone confirms it wasn't a dream. There right in front of me is her address. 

Chapter 2:

[sometimes-men-need-help-too]

Don’t stay with someone that shames you online or in real life instead of communicating with you when there’s a problem 

You deserve better