#PURPOSE CHEF!

[gingergofastboatsmojito]

Purpose, chef!

Premise: Nothing can be sustained without it.

Not a restaurant, not a family, not a job, not even a meaningful conversation.

❤️ ←This is where purpose lives.

Some people lead with it, some others are more rational. All of them, at some point, come to realize that in order to go on they will need to find their true purpose. They will hit a wall. Life happens.

This purpose, this REASON WHY they're doing it and why they're willing to face challenges, beat all odds or give it their best shot, doesn't necessarily have to be gradiloquent, like changing the world. It can be:

Or:

Sharing your dreams with someone, has a purpose, a reason why you do it. And that's love, in one way or another. Love has many facets. One of them is the one we all wish for Sydcarmy, but it's certainly not the only one.

In Sydcarmy's case what S3 showed us was how they went through a Purpose Crisis, which I went over → here and in a nutshell → here.

Both are going throught their own personal hell, but none of them remembers right now why exactly they are putting up with all of that shit. That's the crisis and the opportunity to re-purpose their entire relationship in order to carry on. If they fail to do this, they are gonna part ways and find purpose elsewhere, only if they're lucky. It doesn't always work like that... you'll see, purpose doesn't grow on trees. And very much like love, it can't be controlled, managed, it either exists or it just doesn't. Because love and purpose are inextricably intertwined concepts.

Love gives purpose and purpose cannot exist without love.

I'm one of the ones who advocates for communication, BUT it's not just any communication. Not anything is better than this:

I'm team effective communication, which is to say that they can only break the cycle of miscommunication with:

Words

Actions

Comprehension

Compromise

Patience

GAME CHANGER: ONLY IF THERE'S A WILL → And for that they need to re-find/remember their purpose. Or even re-define it, if necessary. If their original purpose no longer serves them to be happy, they should re-signify it, which I went over HERE already and think will happen next season.

I actually have been reading the writing on the wall since before S3 happened because important and enough are not the same thing.

The other C word → Comprehension (granted not anyone can serve comprehension. I trust Sydcarmy, though).

I see them trying to communicate all the time, they are starting sentences and not finishing them. There's a lot going on under their surface at all times. They are mirroring each other, even in silence. And they have always had, and still have, unspoken communication.

Which is not enough but it's important.

They are just not on the same page right now because they are no longer understanding each other. I spotted that even before S3 premiered actually, it was painfully obvious and I mentioned it → here.

The catch: Understanding (can’t happen without communication).

They need to understand each other. At a conscious level. They still got it unconsciously, that’s why she hasn’t quit. She knows deep deep down. Carmy knows too, that he’s doing all of this for her and he doesn’t know it’s wrong because according to everything he learned, it is right.

But right now they just don’t understand why they are doing all of this (PURPOSE). It’s because they ❤️ each other, we know that but they don’t. Not consciously, anyway… They have to understand that and the rest will follow.

Communication without understanding is just noise.

So, basically what they need is effective communication to really understand each other and remember why they are doing this together. If they are no longer doing it for a star, for recognition, for success, for vindication, and only for each other because none of those even if achieved would mean shit unless they get them TOGETHER, then that needs to be their new purpose because if this crisis serves them to realize that all that matters is THE PEOPLE, then that's even better than winning a bullshit star. If they need to re-find the same purpose they originally had, which was:

Then so be it.

His purpose:

To me Carmy's purpose is quite clear and fixed. It won't change because SYD IS HIS PURPOSE and to a certain extend he knows it. Regardless of how ready or not he's to admit it at this point (he's not there yet, unfortunately).

He keeps choosing her though → over and over.

Carmy has already made his purpose clear time and time again, whether Syd understands it or not (she doesn't yet, unfortunately).

Carmy shared his dream with her and before that he put her in charge of Mickey’s legacy, his most valuable asset (emotionally).

He's putting himself through hell to get her the star she wanted (not saying this is OK but this is what he did). He never wanted a Michelin Star restaurant, he wanted that restaurant to be THEIRS, that was enough for him, till this moment:

She's soooo much his whole purpose to do any of this that he made her partner, or is trying to.

She’s the only one he apologizes to without being told to, spontaneously, because she's his purpose to be a better person. A person that deserves her.

He created houndreds of menus for her, to rotate them every day, because his purpose is to give her that star, because she's his star.

He wants her to get some rest while he continues to work on a dish inspired by her polka dots headscarf and losing sleep, which is something he does every night, he stays there sleeplessly working on the menu, after everyone leaves.

He wants her by his side when he says goodbye to Ever, which means a lot to him.

His whole purpose is to share his life with her, in whatever shape or form that may take. In this case, that shape is The Bear, but they could re-signify that purpose if needed, to stay together if this is no longer working for them. He will let Syd make that call. Because he trusts her.

Her purpose:

We're yet to find out whether Syd will remember, find out, or re-signify her purpose, and once she does, she will decide and act out on it to either stay by his side or leave him. It all depends on her purpose or lack thereof. Whatever that might be. Whatever shape it takes moving forward.

My point is: What's clear right now is that they are not consciously making any choice based on purpose. That's the knot they gotta untie to break free from the vicious cycle they are now trapped in.

They are already making it unconsicously though:

Bonus track: The Jacket (I knew it!)

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[vintage-tigre]

“But maybe that’s the point…”

[willosword]

i would like to henceforth be known as the world's number 1 paul stan

[muppetfreak]

Mr. Riordan, it is truly a pleasure getting to experience your second draft.

[gingergofastboatsmojito]

Yes! And you know what’s even better than communication?

Understanding (can’t happen without communication).

They need to understand each other. At a conscious level. They still got it unconsciously, that’s why she hasn’t quit. She knows deep deep down. Carmy knows too, that he’s doing all of this for her and he doesn’t know it’s wrong bc according to everything he learned, it is right.

But they don’t understand why they are doing all of this (PURPOSE). It’s because they ❤️ each other, we know that but they don’t. Not consciously, anyway… They have to understand that and the rest will follow. Communication without understanding is just noise.

So basically what they need is effective communication to really understand each other. Yep.

CARMY LET SYDNEY KNOW IT'S THEIRS: SEASON 3 THE BEAR

He just had to say' it's ours'

It's giving ' we go together now'

[crabsnpersimmons]

thanks @random-tail and @enamoredfey for the questions! i'll let Sun himself answer:

long-story short, Sun doesn’t believe he has emotions since he is a robot 😔

of course, he sees Moon and Eclipse emote all the time. he usually attributes it to Moon being a fool (believing he is something he's not) and Eclipse being manipulative (given that he was originally built for the theater)

but there is a part of him that wonders if he is missing something—he just doesn’t understand what that is

Note: i should also mention, his voice is almost completely monotone. the closet idea of a voice claim for this Sun is Greg Chun's voice for Lukas from Fire Emblem Echoes—fairly even in tone, somewhat soft

[swoo0zy]

well rendered andy jumpscare

[mi---amor]

stupid fucking idiot tries escaping the consequences of his own stupid fucking idiot actions (he ends up looking like a stupid fucking idiot)

[n0isy-gh0st]

Watching Arcane really highlights how bad Hazbin and Helluva are. They just don’t hold a candle to this masterpiece. THAT is how you do diversity. THAT is how you give depth to characters. THAT is how you tell a compelling story that actually has something to say.

[chubbybritboi]

New pig looking for a good home and owner

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[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA because i (F, she/her, 22) kept starting fights with my younger half-sibling (NB, it/they, 19) when it came into my and our older sibling's (NB, they/them, 24) lives and started trying to take over the family business?

so for context, my dad had started a business that went very well until a national chain opened a branch near ours and almost put us out of business. the stress led to my dad passing away and the business is all but bankrupted now and currently run my older sibling.

in the years leading up to our dad's death, our older sibling was basically raised to fix the business and treated not like a person but as an object without a mind of their own. but even with that he was still our dad and cared about us in his own way.

i think that probably made things worse though as older sib was really effed up from all that and has had all sorts of physical and mental health issues because of both their upbringing and also the family business

now enter younger sibling. younger sibling showed up one day with plans to take over the family business from older sibling. now i don't want the business myself as i don't think i can handle it, but me and older sibling never knew it growing up so it just feels like younger sibling isn't good enough to fix the family business. at most it might be able to extend the death throes of the family business when the way i see things we should just let the family business die out...

so i kind of picked a fight with younger sibling over this... twice... but then around this time my older sibling's health has deteriorated to the point i'm willing to accept my younger sibling is capable enough to take on this hellish responsibility.

so all in all AITA for picking fights with my previously unknown younger half-sibling for trying to take over the family business after my older sibling was emotionally abused by dad and treated like they had no mind to think, no will to break, and no voice to cry suffering and is now unable to handle the family business themself?

What are these acronyms?

[thoughtfulchaos773]

Uncle Jimmy: Anyways, dreams, they always, like, they start from a place of passion, right?

[beargregor]

Chef greg delivery just for you. it's a wonder I hadn't bearified him yet, he's my fave greg too 🔪

gays literally only want one thing (to be chopped up and eaten by a depressed man) and it's fucking disgusting

[donkeys-waffles]

I just love the versatility of AFO fans, like on one side you'll have this incredibly Indepth analysis of his childhood trauma and on the other side you have the horniness people you've ever encountered. And it's amazing.

[sarukui]

ishida akira’s newest natsuyuu s7 interview is so funny like he mentions wanting to know sasago’s backstory when there’s an entire urihime & natori chpt to be animated and then talking about persimmon jam when there’s a whole loquat arc with natori this season

[mi---amor]

Papabaker ooooouh the goodest soup for the soul