#Modern relationships

[alwaysbewoke]

this is why prenups are important because you have to leave her. she's not an adult. she's a child in an adult body who wants this guy to just be a walking, talking atm machine with a dick. she's clearly contributing nothing but wants him to work himself to death so that she can have a social media worthy life. this is why men need to continue asking "what does she bring to the table?" or they will find themselves in this situation.

[kristingelatin]

[blrrblog]

Breadcrumbs

Do you not feel weary, worn thin by the tides of life?

Used, like a well-read book with dog-eared pages, its spine creased from countless hands that sought solace within its chapters?

Hurt, as if your heart bears the weight of ancient stones, each one etched with memories of joy and sorrow?

Or even remorse, a haunting echo of choices made, the paths taken and those left behind?

Perhaps the most profound love you'll ever know is the love you give, freely and unreservedly.

In the tender moments when you extend your hand, offering warmth to a stranger on a cold day.

Or when you listen, truly listen, to a friend's troubles, your heart a sanctuary for their pain.

Time and time again, you give, like a river flowing ceaselessly, nourishing the soil of human connection.

Just as you falter and stumble upon the uneven ground, it's as if all this time you've been following a trail of breadcrumbs —

Tiny morsels of affection you call "love”.

Chloe Rosario, 2024

[maisycoded]

“ The Problem With Modern Queer Romance: Toxicity, Why Doesn’t Anyone Address It?”, (2024)

TW: Mentions of forms of abuse and over all problematic relationships and behaviors:

As the new year is coming to a close, us people in the lgbtq+ community and especially in queer relationships no matter if it’s wlw, t4t, platonic to poly need to seriously reevaluate how in our community it seems we have really normalized both blatant and causal toxicity amongst our selves. We always (and rightfully so) normalize queer intimacy, dynamics especially kink and being more open to being just not one set thing no matter if it’s a relationship or personal identification.

But while that is all said and good, people never seem to talk about how most people just have accepted or normalized toxicity ranging from partners being jerks, cheating, abuse ranging from physical, mental, sadly even sexual to substance abuse and various other horrible things. And I think people, in particular modern queer youth and adults (especially us now in our early to almost late twenties) fail to understand that having a partner or partners or what ever you want to label it is still a RELATIONSHIP.

And sure it’s ok to have a relationship just basted on sex or if you have a kink for that or just wanting to be someone’s puppy, kitten or what ever makes you happy in that regard and everyone is consenting and having conversations to make sure it’s healthy and safe. Besides that people need to understand it’s more than just being gay or having gay sex, it’s about getting to know each other, going out on adventures, actually having a bond and sharing interests and actually learning about one or other and especially MAKING SURE IT’S HEALTHY AND YOI GROW BOTH ON YOUR OWN OR WITH EACH OTHER!!!!

NO, them hitting, cheating on you, manipulating or developing a relationship basted on drugs and various other things that is not moderated and is just abused and justified to a point where when questioned or shown concern by others people or said persons say “ oh you just don’t understand, you don’t get us” is NOT A RELATIONSHIP AND YOU NEED TO SEEK HELP OR FIND POSITIVE PEOPLE TO COMMUNICATE TO AND GET HELP!

NO, it’s not ok to go back to your ex or a polycule or what ever the case may be when they have done actual legit harm to you! If it’s not “ oh we just met at the wrong time and we had to take space to grow up or we decided to take a brake to work on ourselves to be better and positive partners to get back in a relationship and instead it’s “ Omg, so when I was with them they would like hit me for not understanding an interest or accidentally doing something wrong or I didn’t do something for them and they also didn’t value my consent or boundaries…..but they are soooo hot and I miss them especially after my friends and close circles told me no and I said they are right I’m still going for it because that’s what queer love is!!!!” NO THE FUCK IT’S NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!

AND FUCKING NO, it is not ok to idolize toxicity from media or look at a character from said media especially if you say “ugh they are so me” and use that analysis about yourself or if it pertains to your partner or even partners. It’s one thing as a passive or just a joke in some way but if your saying shit like “ Omg my bf, gf, or any identification says they are like Scott Pilgrim or Ramona Flowers or hell any toxic person or even queer person from ( insert media with those issues here)” is not ok because in you doing that you are not making a joke about yourself because it’s not based on a truth or just a tendency that’s being acknowledged that you do that your trying to work on not doing and being a better person. YOU ARE PROJECTING TOXICITY AND NORMALIZING IT THROUGH A CONNECTION WITH MEDIA THAT’S SO FUCKING UNHEALTHY AND NO ONE FINDS IT CUTE OR QUIRKY, IF THAT’S ALL YOU GET FROM SAID THING THEN YOU LACK MEDIA ANALYSIS AND LITERACY!!!!!

AND THAT GOES ALSO TO TRAUMA BONDING, GASLIGHTING AND VARIOUS OTHER THINGS YOUNG QUEER LOVE IN THIS MODERN TIME IS VALIDATING!

No matter what relationship, it is a building exercise with each other, a learning experience and especially a commitment. And in these times we live in post election, it’s going to be hard for a while and we need to love the people who we want to spend our time and lives with. But with that comes a truth we need to understand, we can normalize poly dynamics, kink, and being outside the norm, but we need to also normalize being in healthy commitments and if you or someone isn’t in one it’s not ok and especially if you want to get help for it there are many options especially outside of of the usual psa level stuff you hear on the news or some places online.

Talk to friends, meet other people who are posting and talk about your dynamic and see what can be done better and maybe if you have the resources to get therapy or professional help if you trust it yourself then please do that. And if you can’t find someone or anyone to help, but the fact that it’s now a normality is really concerning. It’s not gay af to be suffer and being mentally not ok with someone or people who make you worse or you do it to others, it should be normal to be loved, both in a healthy and positive way.

[guavagyal]

at some point as an adult, you realize dating isn't worth it because a majority of people need to be on some illicit substance to get through the day and only narcissists get love in this hyper individualistic society

[femdom-universe871]

[beatleshalloween]

A very sweet McStarr!

Taking place in 2024, the two sole surviving Beatles return to the band's old retreat for their queer affairs together.

The place is a flood of memories, a time and love, long passed!!!

[a-b-erracja]

for his bday i wish him to have everything that he’d ever wanted

and that it still won’t be enough

[teg-report]

Fight or Let Go? The Toughest Love Question Answered on The T.E.G. Report

When do you fight for love, and when do you let go? In this episode of The T.E.G. Report, Teg and guest Maya Vibe dive into the heart of modern relationships. With personal stories, raw honesty, and two unique perspectives, we explore the messy truths about love—when it’s worth fighting for and when walking away is the best choice. 💬 Join the conversation: Have you ever faced this choice? Drop…

[ujusttry]

10 Outdated Dating Rules You Can Forget & 10 Modern Dating Rules to Embrace

Dating has evolved significantly over the years, and with it, the rules of engagement have transformed. While some traditional guidelines were well-intentioned, many are no longer relevant in today’s fast-paced, technology-driven world. 10 Outdated Dating Rules You Can ForgetAlways Let the Man Make the First MoveNever Talk About Money on a DatePlay Hard to GetWait Three Days to Call/Text After a…

[kristingelatin]

[discoveringpolyamory]

"Primary"

A "main" partner to whom you are more committed than other people you see

Many people dislike this term as they believe hierarchical relationships are inherently unfair. But for others, it clarifies to potential partners how much time and energy they have for them. 

This term is often used by couples who have opened up to polyamory together. When you share things with one partner, such as home ownership or childrearing, they will often, by necessity, have to take priority over others.

(Discover more at DiscoveringPolyamory.com)

[xoxrevkitty]

Is Polyamory Truly a Form of Enlightenment?

Polyamory and non-monogamy are often touted as paths to emotional freedom and enlightenment, but is that really the case? The idea that being non-monogamous automatically makes someone more evolved or enlightened is flawed. Non-monogamy can certainly be a gateway to breaking toxic patterns or learning new ways to communicate, but it’s not a magic solution to the human condition. People in…

[pallavivyas]

(via Karwa Chauth Fasting: Cultural Continuity or Patriarchal Ritual?)  Karwa Chauth fasting continues to hold significance today, representing more than just a traditional ritual. It’s a mindful expression of love, devotion, and cultural continuity, offering couples a chance to reflect, grow, and reinterpret traditions in modern ways.

[guavagyal]

you mean to tell me there was a cute, wealthy man who hated health insurance CEOS in Atlanta and no one told me??? I really do miss out on good things 😩

[nasorreta]

Un amore moderno, un amore fatto di pieni e vuoti, picchi e burroni.

Un amore che redime il cemento ma solo effimeramente. Un amore che fatica nel tempo.

Avete mai esperito un amore neo liberale?