#FOMO

[wiserebeltiger]

A long Covid vibe

— fatima aamer bilal, from being unwanted is a language

[deprimid0]

[batty4steddie]

Joe Keery peace.

[zin3b0]

Someone’s jealous.

I FEEL LIKE BONZI AND KINITO WOULD GET ALONG ‼️‼️🗣️🗣️

Btw if you guys have any suggestions on drawings plz comment cause im running out of ideas 😭😭😭😭 (should probably add nothing weird like sexual stuff plz 😆)

[pratchettquotes]

"What's happening?" said Lobsang, as the last of the monks surged past.

"I daresay we shall soon be told," said Lu-Tze, starting to roll himself a cigarette.

"Hadn't we better hurry? Everyone's going!" The sound of flapping sandals died away in the distance.

"Nothing seems to be on fire," said Lu-Tze calmly. "Besides, if we wait a little then by the time we get there everyone will have stopped shouting and perhaps they will be making some sense."

Terry Pratchett, Thief of Time

[growingupmormon]

My sister: it’s so weird that Mormons can just spot another Mormon out in the wild even those who’ve left. Like in high school we got clocked as Mormon and we could tell who was too.

It’s essentially social isolation, you mirror the behaviors of those around you growing up, if everyone around you isolates themselves from the outside world then you’re all gonna start to be a little weird to the outside world making it harder to leave, it’s subtle mannerisms we learned for sure

It’s that and Mormon Face!

[csuitebitches]

On Getting Rid of Your Inferiority Complex

You can take advice from everyone and every book you read, but no one can protect you proactively, unless you choose to protect yourself. Only you can do that for yourself. Your parents, friends, partner can support you emotionally but you need to stop relying so much on external validation.

When you’re making a choice that you know is going to be detrimental to your health, whether its physical, mental or emotional - such as going back to your ex, not taking the next steps for your career/ education - you need to think more about your (near) future self and make sure that she’s also comfortable. You need to think long term.

As we grow up, we often encounter situations that we’ve been in before to some degree, there’s somewhat a pattern to them. It’s time to start recognising them early and leave when you see the red flags waving.

By breaking your own word that you’ve made to yourself you’re making the inferiority complex worse. Because you’re showing to your subconscious mind that you don’t matter at all. Others do.

It could be something “small” such as going out clubbing with your friends because you couldn’t say no - and having an important presentation due the next day. It could be something “big” such as breaking off a difficult relationship, and still going back to them.

When we suffer from an inferiority complex, we idolise people around us and think they’re better than us in every way. We choose to see the best in them- just the way we choose to see the worst in ourselves.

At some point, we have had enough and decide to start improving ourselves. How do we do this? By improving ourselves in areas that you feel left out in.

Such as, seeing an influencer live your dream life. Now you’ll do everything you can to live like her because you think that once you achieve that, everything will be great. You try to improve in areas that have no direct relation to your inferiority complex.

You’ll try work on these things - while that can be in a way good because it’s alright to have a dream life and motivation for it, that doesn’t fix the inferiority issue.

Because the inferiority issue solely comes from lack of confidence and trust in yourself. Even if you get your ideal life like that influencer, that confidence won’t last long and you’ll find something else to panic about - you’ll compare yourself to your peers, or the anxiety of jobs after or the next shiny thing you want.

To actually combat inferiority issues you HAVE to build a connection with yourself. True confidence will only come when you connect with yourself with things that aren’t material things.

You need to cultivate a growth mindset and genuinely believe that you WILL get better with time, you WILL get smarter with time, you will improve your talent over time. You have to detach yourself from outcomes, whether positive or negative and just take it as life.

And this doesn’t happen overnight. It takes consistent effort to not feel fomo anymore or feel shitty.

You have to stop hesitating putting yourself first, putting your emotional needs first, standing up for yourself and saying a big fuck you to things that deserve it.

Not everything that you have today will be permanent in your life and that’s something you have to come to terms with.

But if your worth is fully dependent on other people, then you really need to sit down with yourself and start actually working on the relationship that matters the most - the one with yourself.

You’re intimidated by these influencers or the people who you want to be like, not because they wear designer bags, have cool outfits, vacations, boyfriends, girlfriends - but because they often have a very strong sense of identity.

They express what they like and don’t like. They don’t change themselves depending on the person in front of them. If there’s something they want, they go and get it. They pursue what makes them happy.

When do you plan on doing that for yourself?

So how do you do it?

You need to build a strong sense of self identity.

How? By dating yourself. Ask yourself questions that you would ask someone on a first date. What are your answers? These answers will not remain the same over time and they shouldn’t either. Here are some as a guide:

1. What do you like in general?

2. What do you dislike in general?

3. List all the things you like about yourself

4. List all the things you can improve about yourself

5. Where would you ideally want to be in 2 years?

6. What sort of a life do you wish you had right now?

Next step is continue dating yourself. Aim for one new experience a week. It doesn’t have to be major. It could be something simple such as a cooking a meal you’ve never made, solving crossword puzzles, trying to grow herbs, colouring books. With new experiences, you learn something about yourself, which allows you further build a connection with yourself. Literally date yourself.

Take care of yourself the way you would care for a partner. How do you want to be cared for? What makes you feel loved and appreciated? Show yourself the same things too.

[furiousgoldfish]

I hate the idea of 'missed potential' or 'missed opportunities', because 99% of that is hollow made up garbage. My 'potential' is only what I feel like doing and what I want to be doing, there is no 'third hidden potential' that I'm failing to put to use, my only potential is my own prerogative. There's nothing else I should be doing or developing right now or I'm missing out, I know my reality, I know my abilities, I'm choosing to do this, there's zero potential for anything else but my free will to be exercised.

Also most of what is presented as an 'opportunity' today is an opportunity to be exploited. You're not missing out on jobs you could be doing right now, you're doing better using your own time for your own purposes than it being stolen for someone else's. You're not failing to rise to the opportunity if it's something you don't feel like doing, something you don't feel confident or happy doing, or something that scares you - that's not an opportunity! That's literally just something you don't want to be doing. It can miss you and you're better for it.

There's not a wild fantasy world of insane things one could be doing if only they didn't miss opportunities, in reality a person cannot be expected to modify their own free will and jump into someone else's in order to 'not miss out' or 'fulfill potential'. We can fulfill our potential by doing exactly what we feel like, when we feel like it. Also it is insulting to imply someone only has 'potential', because we all have more than that. We're someone already. We're doing something already, just by being. We're a part of society, we're surviving, we're experiencing the world and we're making choices. If you see that and go 'ah missed potential', then you're just creating an in to trick people into thinking that they could be more fulfilled following your will, rather than their own. And no they would not be. We're more than the 'potential' to do someone else's bidding.

[adastra-sf]

Why do cats hate closed doors?

Part of it is that cats are curious and have a fear of missing out (FOMO), says Dr. Karen Sueda, a board-certified veterinary behaviorist. Cats are naturally curious, and they like to keep an eye on everything happening in their territory, which includes their owner's house. This helps keep them alive in the wild.

"Cats like to control access to spaces and vital basic needs and territory," cat behaviorist Ingrid Johnson says. "It doesn't make them mean. It doesn't make them anything other than a species that is both predator and prey that has to hunt to survive but also has to feel safe and secure in their environment."

A closed door hits on all of what cat behaviorist Jane Ehrlich calls the "three terrible C's" that cats dislike:

They hate not having choice, they hate not being in control, and they hate change. While cats don't necessarily want to be involved in whatever is happening behind the door, they do want to know what's going on.

source story: X

[glitchphotography]

Mario FOMO Mix (Super Mario Bros. ROM Corruption, 2024)

[httpsgrace]

can i be sum1s dinner

☹️☹️

[creatingnikki]

What I've learned in 2023 (part I)

i. Compatibility is what you are looking for. A compatible home, a compatible partner, a compatible workplace, a compatible friend circle. Compatible with who you are as a person and the kind of life you want to live. Compatible so that you don’t constantly have to use so much of your energy in trying to fight unnecessary battles simply to exist how you are. When the spaces you are in and the people you are with are not compatible with your existence the way it is, the way you want it to be, there will be constant chaos, distress, and conflict for which you will have to use so much energy. But if you are in compatible spaces with compatible people – not ideal, not perfect, simply compatible – then you can use that energy towards creating and building things that matter to you. Because your everyday choices? They are not being questioned, judged, or blocked.

ii. Lessons will keep repeating themselves until you've learned them. So you have to start paying attention. Realizations in themselves are not lessons learned. Change in actions and thought processes is. So, yes, lessons will keep repeating themselves until you learn them. And even once you have learned them. It's like with how we learned the same subjects in school year after year. Just because you learned Geography in grade 5, does not mean you still did not have to in grades 6, 7, 8, and so on. Life lessons too have additional layers, context, and depth. It can all feel very Sisyphean. But the boulder is never the exact same twice. Similar but not identical.

iii. Just because he was a puppy before, does not mean he is not a कुत्ता (dog) right now.

iv. 인연 (in-yeon) is the fate specific to the meeting of two people, the ties two people share over the course of their lives. Someone you have perhaps comes across in your past life/lives in various capacities. And so, yes, when you come across someone you feel comfortable with, can have meaningful conversations with effortlessly, feel a ‘connection’ with, feel the 인연 with it feels special. But 인연 is also the fate of this life. Maybe in this life you’re only meant to share this very limited, very brief, 인연 with someone. Even if you feel this deep connection. Maybe in this life they are not meant to be your soulmate or your best friend. Maybe they are only meant to be your professor or your neighbour. Let it be so. Accept that fate, accept this life’s 인연 with them. No matter the intensity of the connection. Again, let things run their natural course. There is no other way.

v. I am an open book that even a blind man can read. An open book so heavily and aesthetically self-annotated that people can play me like a fool just for shits and giggles. And while I have started to appreciate humour a lot more in life, I am not okay with my candidness, earnestness, and vulnerability being mocked, manipulated, or misused. I am still not clear on how to protect myself in this aspect but I do know two things clearing — first, forcing myself to change who I am at my most authentic core is not the answer. Second, there, however, does need to be some protection. Think of yourself like a special edition, rare precious book in a fancy, restricted-access library. Only members, who loves books, who value books, who take great care of them, and have a track record of doing so can borrow the book/check it out of the library. Essentially, you must be more mindful of who gets access to you. And like you can continue being your real, authentic self, but you do not have to be that all the time and with everybody.

vi. Speaking about vulnerability, let's talk about the semantics of it for a bit. It's The word 'vulnerability' is derived from the Latin word 'vulnus' which literally means — the ability to wound. Why? Why would you do that with people you don't yet know well + trust to be safe? That's why one of the lessons of this year is the realization to get rid of this blanket vulnerability. It's not some sort of strength, it's simply dangerous.

vii. On that note, conversations, even emotional conversations cannot be an indicator of the actual real (lasting) comfort and intimacy and trust between you and the other person. That only happens naturally over time.

viii. So, yeah, timing and time? It is your friend; not a bitch. Allow people and things time to run their course and reveal themselves to you. There’s no need to feel anxious or responsible to make things with somebody flow a certain way because at the end of the day, no matter what you say or do, things will pan out the way they are meant to. So, trying to rush things, trying to lowkey orchestrate them, or putting so much thought into things like how you’re punctuating your texts is futile. What is meant to be is meant to be and feeling FOMO when it comes to people and relationships only really happens when you create elaborate scenarios in your head before even getting to know somebody.

ix. Capturing everything more in videos instead of pictures is precious. That motion of your friend kissing your cheek and that motion of the street cat moving her tale in and out of the sunshine falling on the ground is what you really want to capture and look back on.

[wolfdnp]

hi guyss :pp i'm trying my luck here!! but is anyone selling a gold tit ticket for manchester? i have such bad fomo :(

[akindplace]

Maybe age should not mean much more than how long ago you were born. Instead of being a measure of accomplishments, of beauty, of desirability. You can be sick at any age. You can be exhausted at any age. You can be young and feel old and worn out. You can be old and feel more alive than you ever felt in your 20s.

Age should not measure a human being in anything but when they were born but I guess capitalism and the beauty industry depends on us believing that being young equals desirability, health and happiness and maybe that's why so many teens already feel like they are missing out before they get a chance to live and become wiser and people in theirs 40s are desperately trying to feel less obsolete and trying to maintain a face with no marks of life when wrinkles are just signs of how much your skin stood the tests of time and emotion and people in their 80s feel so left out of society because they don't have the same energy levels and can't maintain the same productivity.

Maybe your body should have signs of being lived on through the years. Maybe being a teen is just a confusing time in our lives instead of the best years one can ever live. Maybe life is what you make of it, but your age should never be an indication of much more than how long you have lived. Maybe this is a hot take but maybe, just maybe, the fear of missing out eats away at every generation.

[aroaceconfessions]

As a woman I sometimes feel like I missed out on a large part of female bonding rituals by not caring about looking attractive (like definitionally attractive, looking to attract) and not having crushes or partners to talk about.

I wish I had "drunk girls doing their make-up in the bathroom all screaming at you not to text your ex" experiences but none of that is part of who I am.

I have great female friends who I love and fit my vibe. But those intense connections with female strangers I've never been able to forge, and it really feels like I'm missing out.

Submitted May 4, 2023

[navybrat817]

My hubby told me yesterday he experienced FOMO at work because everyone in his meeting was talking about The Acolyte and he couldn't do or say anything.

"Is that how you feel on Tumble or whatever it's called when your friends watch things that you don't?"