#Emotional scars

[agentrouka-blog]

Sometimes I think GRRM is much more sensitive to Sansa than he is to Dany, regarding their dynamics with older men.

I think he's trying to say something about Dany by the way she perceives these men and their interactions, and not in an unsympathetic way.

The Stark children aren't somehow inherently better or "made different" than other characters in the series. We see them face horrible things, but often times we also see them magically spared from sharing a fate that is depicted happening to their mirrors. Take the miller's sons dying in the place of Bran and Rickon. Take the horrible tales of rape and murder that Arya only ever overhears. Take Lollys vs. Sansa during the riots. Some of it is happenstance, some of it is their noble status, some of it is prior relationships, some of it is simply plot armor.

But the key of their emotional resiliance lies in the fact that their parents loved them, modeled a reasonably stable and loving marriage, and raised them with attention and principles. They were not perfect by far, and utterly products of their time, but they were solid and they were present. The Stark children have a sense of how the world can work and they have a sense of self that is fairly secure, even through hardship.

Characters like Dany, or Tyrion, or Cersei, tend to become what they are because they are not spared in key ways. And they did not have that crucial foundation.

Dany is not raised lovingly. She is not spared marital rape. She has no home to cling to in her memories, no model of healthy family dynamics - and literally no one who ever bothers to try and genuinely help her for her own sake.

So she doesn't know what healthy dynamics are. Not true justice, not consent, not a relationship of equals, not genuine tenderness. She can't take refuge in her inner child, she killed her in chapter three. She has no healthy outlet for her grief and her rage. She has no concept of a happy future that isn't tied to power. She has no framework for a different reality. And that is what we see play out in her arc. And that is also why her relationships with men are depicted as they are. The misery she experiences in reality is unmitigated by even a sense of injustice and validation of her pain by anyone around her. So she erases that misery from her reality. She invents an uneasy pretense of equality based on her queenship and later her dragons that leaves her feeling empty and powerless without understanding why.

She may never ever understand why.

It's a tragedy. It's the tragedy, that, I think, GRRM is trying to tell through her. She should have been given help. Any scrap of love, and she may not have become what she did.

So when Sansa is spared and emotionally survives on a privilege of having been loved, we must also imbue her character with the obligation to pass it on, to show mercy, to love, to help. Same with the rest of the Starks.

And when they fail, like Robb did, they will not prosper.

[destiel-wings]

do you ever rewatch a scene or see a gifset or read a line and think, "oh god, dean and I are the same, I'm dean 😭"

[peninhand11]

He wanted to see her depth.

She showed him, her scars.

It was the last time he talked to her.

[ruminate88]

it’s getting harder:

11/07/24

I know it gets worse before it all gets better. Idk… I feel I shouldn’t be having these overwhelming withdrawals to text him. I KNOW I don’t trust him. It’s been so long, does he even remember me?? Why do I feel it so strongly though???

Seeing all these signs everywhere I go. Feeling absolutely insane and miserable. I mean, wanting to pull out my hair. What is drawing me to text him??? What is it!???? I blocked his number cuz he would not give me clear answers. The way he FaceTimed me but then hung up real quick. Almost like he just wanted his name on my screen so I wouldn’t wanna move on…. But when he was questioned, he denies calling me. Says he left his tablet at home and it was his parents trying to FaceTime his uncle on his tablet but kept hitting the wrong number 😳 (lies)

Also, my new man said that if I didn’t block Andrew’s number, that Andrew would only continue to mess with me like that and I would be sorry basically …. I felt in that moment I had to respect my new relationship and do what he’s telling me but it was freakin hard and I cried so much!!! My new man said it was ok to cry but idk…. I felt like a horrible person in that moment. I was so torn between why did I feel so much for Andrew but why did he want to hurt me so much??? 🥺🥺🥺

I felt a shift last Friday to where I was more focused on myself and had a better outlook and even felt better about myself then BOOM, this week…. Has been rough. I can’t stop seeing all these signs and feeling shaky. Feeling sick over it!! I haven’t had these kind of withdrawals since I first broke up with him when I was texting him again trying to get answers but he kept confusing me… why would he give me answers now?? I mean it’s been a long time…. Has he even changed???

WHY CAN’T I SHAKE HIM????? 😓 I mean I’m staying strong. I keep the boundaries and no contact. Look how far I’ve come!!! Ugggh Anddreeeew YOU’RE MAKING ME INSANE!

[beautifulbookishdisaster]

He might not beat the shit out of his kids, but they both wear emotional scars with his name on them.

Katee Robert, Dark Restraint

[incorrectkakashi]

kakashi: dumbest scar stories, go!

sasuke: I burned my tongue once drinking tea.

sakura: I dropped a hair dryer on my leg once and burned it.

sai: I have a piece of graphite in my leg for accidentally stabbing myself with a pencil in the ROOTS.

naruto: I was taking a cup of ramen out of the microwave and spilled it on my hand and I got a really bad burn.

yamato:

yamato: I have emotional scars.

[yasyassie]

Not even halfway through this mf and it has made me sob (twice)

[mitaharukai]

Title: A scar is born

Day 7: Scars

Ship: Yae x Sara (Genshin Impact)

Summary: Some days, the stories written behind the scars on her body are too hard to bear. But luckily Yae will be there to help Sara go through the day.

Words: 2.7k

Sneak peek:

“A certain pink haired priestess can’t help but watch this exchange from afar with a fond yet sad smile adorning her features, her heart clenching painfully at the pained expression replacing the usual solemn general’s features.

She can’t help but observe Sara, the distant look on her mesmerizing golden eyes gazing into the horizon, before closing her eyes to try and find some peace to the deep scars of her soul tormenting her.

She notices how the stiff position Sara adopts whenever she’s knelt in front of the centenarian tree is nothing but loose, her shoulders slumped as her hands fall to her sides to clench a handful of dirt beneath her into a tight fist.

Sadness washes over the priestess as she observes Sara getting lost in her thoughts, giving the warrior time and space until she needs comfort.”

[artisticdivasworld]

Childhood Trauma and its Effects on Adults

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[allthehumanflaws]

Scars

Torture me Maim me Mutilate me For I will take that pain happily Tear me apart limb by limb Throw me to the wolves Slit my wrist or Hang me from a noose For these scars will show won't they These will show the world I hurt Pain courses through my veins Emotional scars don't matter much do they They never signify pain It's all in your head they say Those scars don't even hurt Then why does the shatter of the heart resound louder than that of glass Why do these mental scars bleed so much more than those on my hands They don't matter much But they hurt so much more Why would you worry about something that doesn't even show So hurt me physically In all the ways I've been hurt emotionally To see if they would care then And till that day comes I'll sit here in the pool Of my imaginary blood Hoping for a day They care about a broken heart As much as they care about a broken bone

[bojackhorsemanobviously]

this deeply explains why's he terrified of commitment

[thedaveandkimmershow]

One of the emotionally tricky parts of our holidays at this stage in our lives is that we awake on the day without certain family, without certain friends, without those who are no longer a part of our days, without those who have passed into our family history.

And yet.

We’re supposed to be Thankful.

We’re supposed to be especially Thankful because.

Because, you know, Thanksgiving.

This year in particular, our friend Susan who died barely eight months ago is an undeniable absence in our holidays. Will be an undeniable absence in every holiday. It’s an awareness that won’t go away. It’s an awareness that's simply there fixed in the background. And it’ll be there simply because Susan was part of every holiday.

Every holiday.

So yeah.

We feel her... not here.

She's not the only one absent from our lives, of course, and while it gives us pause to consider Thankfulness in the absence of Susan and all the other people with whom we were close... it’s just a pause. A slight dissonance that won’t resolve. A tension that won’t release.

That pause, however, the inability to find Thankfulness in Loss... does not, does not, rob us of our joy or laughter. Does not rob us of our gratitude or love. On the contrary, it’s in the absence of those closest to us that we comprehend the full weight both of what we lost... and what we gained once upon a time. That irrevocable gift of another human being with whom we shared our lives. That something extra that gets added to us because another human being added their lives... to ours.

And the loss that otherwise gives us pause is a revelation of how lucky we are to have shared our lives with wonderful people for as long as we were given to share our lives.

Call it our way of balancing the scales. After all, we naturally hold onto grief and loss and tragedy....so we must intentionally resurrect all the laughter and joy and love that actually did fill a greater portion of our experiences. That colored many more days in brightness than in dark.

Because if we don’t do that, if we don’t intentionally, relentlessly, consciously acknowledge the good in our lives, no matter how small, we are left to ponder the darkness as if darkness is all that is. And yes, normal experiences of joy and laughter and love are easily, too easily, overshadowed by larger, darker, tragically intense events in our memories... which makes us work all the harder every day in order to elevate the small but precious.

To elevate the small...

But precious in our lives.

For as long...

As we possibly...

Can.

☺️

[ruminate88]

I’ve been here 😳 One minute you’re numb then suddenly someone says something and inside of you , you’re just like “HOLD IT TOGETHER” cuz the flood gates opening wide…. Here comes the water works buuuut you manage to breathe up your nose and hold it all in lol

reminder: crying is good ❤️‍🩹🫶🏻 for so long I couldn’t cry cuz I was numb but when you feel it, let it happen 🙏🏻🥺 but I do it alone so I can scream and really release it

[sognareleggiesogna]

REVIEW TOUR: IGNI di Valerie Root

Cari Sognatori, Rosanna ha letto il primo volume della serie mistery romance IGNI, scritta da Valerie Root!!! SERIE: IGNI Series GENERE: Mistery romance DATA DI PUBBLICAZIONE: 19 novembre 2024 EBOOK-KU / CARTACEO Affiliati Amazon Il mio piano era semplice. Frequentare la nuova scuola in anonimato. Non socializzare. Non disfare neppure le valigie. Se c’è una cosa in cui sono brava è non farmi…

[ruminate88]

People online can lie to you so effortlessly and show you what they want you to see until you catch their lies or they see they’ve hurt you… Then they will just block you becuase now they’re guilty and can’t face you.

It’s nothing you did wrong. It’s that person who feels ashamed and doesn’t wanna deal with it….

My ex Cody knew he hurt me when he dumped me TWICE and that’s why he had to block me and ghost me. He didn’t wanna deal with his actions or didn’t know how to. Idk I’m not his judge. Yes he hurt me but he hurt me even more when he ghosted me 🥺❤️‍🩹 I know it’s nothing I did wrong, it’s him struggling within in himself and being selfish too on top of it.

Well, he’s allowed to ghost me. It sucks for me but I can’t make him talk to me if he doesn’t want to 🤷🏻‍♀️🥺❤️‍🩹 He clearly didn’t like me enough to talk to me. So ok….

One day it won’t hurt anymore ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 Till then, my brain tries to make it make sense and see Cody in a happier light but I know reality is the experience was very traumatic and left me deeply wounded… I do forgive him and I don’t hate him. I very much care about Cody but can’t make him care about me. It’s HIS loss ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 but I missed him so long he doesn’t get it. Never did.

[metawriter]

You don't have to do it alone. The Lord has said, My righteousness is near. My salvation has gone forth. And my arms will judge the peoples; the coast lands will wait upon me, and on my arm they will trust. Isaiah 55:11 says the word of God will always fulfill its purpose. We never have to be alone. Call on Jesus and glorify God for His presence