#Emotional scars

[agentrouka-blog]

Sometimes I think GRRM is much more sensitive to Sansa than he is to Dany, regarding their dynamics with older men.

I think he's trying to say something about Dany by the way she perceives these men and their interactions, and not in an unsympathetic way.

The Stark children aren't somehow inherently better or "made different" than other characters in the series. We see them face horrible things, but often times we also see them magically spared from sharing a fate that is depicted happening to their mirrors. Take the miller's sons dying in the place of Bran and Rickon. Take the horrible tales of rape and murder that Arya only ever overhears. Take Lollys vs. Sansa during the riots. Some of it is happenstance, some of it is their noble status, some of it is prior relationships, some of it is simply plot armor.

But the key of their emotional resiliance lies in the fact that their parents loved them, modeled a reasonably stable and loving marriage, and raised them with attention and principles. They were not perfect by far, and utterly products of their time, but they were solid and they were present. The Stark children have a sense of how the world can work and they have a sense of self that is fairly secure, even through hardship.

Characters like Dany, or Tyrion, or Cersei, tend to become what they are because they are not spared in key ways. And they did not have that crucial foundation.

Dany is not raised lovingly. She is not spared marital rape. She has no home to cling to in her memories, no model of healthy family dynamics - and literally no one who ever bothers to try and genuinely help her for her own sake.

So she doesn't know what healthy dynamics are. Not true justice, not consent, not a relationship of equals, not genuine tenderness. She can't take refuge in her inner child, she killed her in chapter three. She has no healthy outlet for her grief and her rage. She has no concept of a happy future that isn't tied to power. She has no framework for a different reality. And that is what we see play out in her arc. And that is also why her relationships with men are depicted as they are. The misery she experiences in reality is unmitigated by even a sense of injustice and validation of her pain by anyone around her. So she erases that misery from her reality. She invents an uneasy pretense of equality based on her queenship and later her dragons that leaves her feeling empty and powerless without understanding why.

She may never ever understand why.

It's a tragedy. It's the tragedy, that, I think, GRRM is trying to tell through her. She should have been given help. Any scrap of love, and she may not have become what she did.

So when Sansa is spared and emotionally survives on a privilege of having been loved, we must also imbue her character with the obligation to pass it on, to show mercy, to love, to help. Same with the rest of the Starks.

And when they fail, like Robb did, they will not prosper.

[destiel-wings]

do you ever rewatch a scene or see a gifset or read a line and think, "oh god, dean and I are the same, I'm dean 😭"

[ruminate88]

Emotional Baggage and Self Respect: Objectified 12/11/24

I feel bad for my current man cuz I feel he’s getting the brunt of my emotional baggage… Just, men are pigs. Men in my past just wanna use me up and don’t care if I’m happy or sad.

my first birthday as a married woman, my husband buys me sexy lingerie for my birthday 😠😠😠 like wtf?? It’s my birthday and yet it felt like his birthday instead…. My own mother told me it was “kind of romantic” 💀😝😕😕 dude no…. I cried. I felt so insulted like, my husband knows I’ve been in bad relationships and hurt yet, you use my birthday to buy yourself outfits that I’m gonna wear for you…. My husband said how excited he was at work buying me all these “outfits” and paid a lot of money for them… grr….

I tried to make sense of it all. Why was I so insulted??? My husband acted like he had good intentions. He also bought me a digital picture frame that year too but … I was upset for sure. Men ONLY think of themselves. Now, my husband is the only man in my life who has finacially supported me or ever bought me stuff. My first boyfriend let me pay for every thing. Then all my other relationships were online but all they care about is seeing my boobs. They ain’t buying me a nice steak dinner.

my husband however, would buy me a steak dinner without question. My husband would spend money on me without question and he has just…. I don’t wanna be ANY MAN’S SEX TOY 😠😠😠 I WANT RESPECT!!! Obviously my husband never bought me a sexy outfit again when he seen how upset it made me so, not sure he was ever doing it to hurt me but…. Ugh I was so so so scared, like, you gonna be toxic like my exes and treat me like an object too??? 😭😢

my husband was super gentle when we were dating and I did not feel he was abusive but then for my birthday you buying me all these outfits that is basically serving YOU!!!! One outfit was a school girl costume and it didn’t even fit right. 🤪😝💀 I wore it anyway and he loved it. Just…. At some point, I stopped wearing sexy outfits altogether like you gotta earn that boy. You want me to be slutty??? Prove to me you got my 110% best interest at heart and then I’ll show you my freaky side 😉😉😉 cuz I got one deep down…. That’s been my problem all along. Before in the past, I was freaky with these toxic men and they abuse it. NEVER AGAIN!!!!!!!! I’ll pleasure my own self instead. No man gonna abuse me again.

[peninhand11]

He wanted to see her depth.

She showed him, her scars.

It was the last time he talked to her.

[beautifulbookishdisaster]

He might not beat the shit out of his kids, but they both wear emotional scars with his name on them.

Katee Robert, Dark Restraint

[yasyassie]

Not even halfway through this mf and it has made me sob (twice)

[mitaharukai]

Title: A scar is born

Day 7: Scars

Ship: Yae x Sara (Genshin Impact)

Summary: Some days, the stories written behind the scars on her body are too hard to bear. But luckily Yae will be there to help Sara go through the day.

Words: 2.7k

Sneak peek:

“A certain pink haired priestess can’t help but watch this exchange from afar with a fond yet sad smile adorning her features, her heart clenching painfully at the pained expression replacing the usual solemn general’s features.

She can’t help but observe Sara, the distant look on her mesmerizing golden eyes gazing into the horizon, before closing her eyes to try and find some peace to the deep scars of her soul tormenting her.

She notices how the stiff position Sara adopts whenever she’s knelt in front of the centenarian tree is nothing but loose, her shoulders slumped as her hands fall to her sides to clench a handful of dirt beneath her into a tight fist.

Sadness washes over the priestess as she observes Sara getting lost in her thoughts, giving the warrior time and space until she needs comfort.”

[artisticdivasworld]

Childhood Trauma and its Effects on Adults

Childhood trauma can have profound and lasting effects on individuals as they grow into adulthood. The experiences and events that occur during childhood shape our development and can significantly impact our emotional, psychological, and physical well-being later in life. In this article, we will explore the effects of childhood trauma on adults, the potential long-lasting consequences, and the…

[allthehumanflaws]

Scars

Torture me Maim me Mutilate me For I will take that pain happily Tear me apart limb by limb Throw me to the wolves Slit my wrist or Hang me from a noose For these scars will show won't they These will show the world I hurt Pain courses through my veins Emotional scars don't matter much do they They never signify pain It's all in your head they say Those scars don't even hurt Then why does the shatter of the heart resound louder than that of glass Why do these mental scars bleed so much more than those on my hands They don't matter much But they hurt so much more Why would you worry about something that doesn't even show So hurt me physically In all the ways I've been hurt emotionally To see if they would care then And till that day comes I'll sit here in the pool Of my imaginary blood Hoping for a day They care about a broken heart As much as they care about a broken bone

[bojackhorsemanobviously]

this deeply explains why's he terrified of commitment

[ruminate88]

I’ve been here 😳 One minute you’re numb then suddenly someone says something and inside of you , you’re just like “HOLD IT TOGETHER” cuz the flood gates opening wide…. Here comes the water works buuuut you manage to breathe up your nose and hold it all in lol

reminder: crying is good ❤️‍🩹🫶🏻 for so long I couldn’t cry cuz I was numb but when you feel it, let it happen 🙏🏻🥺 but I do it alone so I can scream and really release it

[ruminate88]

it’s getting harder:

11/07/24

I know it gets worse before it all gets better. Idk… I feel I shouldn’t be having these overwhelming withdrawals to text him. I KNOW I don’t trust him. It’s been so long, does he even remember me?? Why do I feel it so strongly though???

Seeing all these signs everywhere I go. Feeling absolutely insane and miserable. I mean, wanting to pull out my hair. What is drawing me to text him??? What is it!???? I blocked his number cuz he would not give me clear answers. The way he FaceTimed me but then hung up real quick. Almost like he just wanted his name on my screen so I wouldn’t wanna move on…. But when he was questioned, he denies calling me. Says he left his tablet at home and it was his parents trying to FaceTime his uncle on his tablet but kept hitting the wrong number 😳 (lies)

Also, my new man said that if I didn’t block Andrew’s number, that Andrew would only continue to mess with me like that and I would be sorry basically …. I felt in that moment I had to respect my new relationship and do what he’s telling me but it was freakin hard and I cried so much!!! My new man said it was ok to cry but idk…. I felt like a horrible person in that moment. I was so torn between why did I feel so much for Andrew but why did he want to hurt me so much??? 🥺🥺🥺

I felt a shift last Friday to where I was more focused on myself and had a better outlook and even felt better about myself then BOOM, this week…. Has been rough. I can’t stop seeing all these signs and feeling shaky. Feeling sick over it!! I haven’t had these kind of withdrawals since I first broke up with him when I was texting him again trying to get answers but he kept confusing me… why would he give me answers now?? I mean it’s been a long time…. Has he even changed???

WHY CAN’T I SHAKE HIM????? 😓 I mean I’m staying strong. I keep the boundaries and no contact. Look how far I’ve come!!! Ugggh Anddreeeew YOU’RE MAKING ME INSANE!

[sognareleggiesogna]

REVIEW TOUR: IGNI di Valerie Root

Cari Sognatori, Rosanna ha letto il primo volume della serie mistery romance IGNI, scritta da Valerie Root!!! SERIE: IGNI Series GENERE: Mistery romance DATA DI PUBBLICAZIONE: 19 novembre 2024 EBOOK-KU / CARTACEO Affiliati Amazon Il mio piano era semplice. Frequentare la nuova scuola in anonimato. Non socializzare. Non disfare neppure le valigie. Se c’è una cosa in cui sono brava è non farmi…

[metawriter]

You don't have to do it alone. The Lord has said, My righteousness is near. My salvation has gone forth. And my arms will judge the peoples; the coast lands will wait upon me, and on my arm they will trust. Isaiah 55:11 says the word of God will always fulfill its purpose. We never have to be alone. Call on Jesus and glorify God for His presence

[fellinlovewithinsanity]

You.

I know its done, gone, and over but its the scars you left behind that stay instead of you.

The ones that almost made me incapable of trusting anyone again. The ones that you gave me when I was ten. The ones that were only visible to you and me.

[rosielindy]

Here’s a thing I learned about today that I kinda wish I hadn’t so, of course I’m sharing with others who would probably also rather not. You’re welcome, I’m a giver. 😂

I found this article that only makes it a little less creepy. My biggest concern looking at these dolls is, where did they get those eyes?