#ChildRearing

[3liza]

Can confirm I had a relatively extremely competent stay at home father who made sure to limit TV time and read to me and encourage very precocious literacy that I think did me a lot of good... But in terms of basic life skills that stuff just didn't even come up I guess it was just assumed that I'd magically osmose stuff like "it's important to brush your teeth twice a day" when I was 8 lmao (I'm 26) and these are with solidly Gen X parents!

I've heard this from people your age a LOT and it's not your fault. but isn't it so weird to think about? that you'd have a kid and then be like well I'm sure they can figure out how to make spaghetti and pay rent do laundry on their own, I won't waste their time. of course if you only teach a kid one thing then how to read is a good one because you can find out almost everything else by readjng i guess

[elfony]

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[darkfrog24]

Role model paradox

The problem with the lack/lack of access to inspiring male role models for young boys is that we can’t solve it for them.

It’s like how the health class video about the Evils of Alcohol had everyone at the Wild Teenager Party(TM) dressed as if they were going to church and showed nothing worse than some inconvenience and (maybe) getting in trouble for having a party (offscreen). The educational institution is not going to show anything that could get them angry letters from parents, even if the students are already in high school and at least some of them are already having sex and driving under the influence.

The kind of role model that parents and teachers would choose will probably seem crummy and manipulative to their kids. “Here, look at this sports star (who plays a boring sport and is older than your parents),” “Look at this kid sports star (who’s a complete goody-two-shoes because they wouldn’t put him on TV otherwise),” “Look at this handsome guy (who’s ugly),” or “Look at this historical/fictional figure (who either did everything the grownups told him and/or showed rebellion in a way that seems boring),” “Look at this genuinely good star of a kids’ TV show (that you outgrew two years ago and would get mocked mercilessly by your peers for talking about).”

The kids have to choose whom they admire, and anyone they pick is going to have some traits that the adults in their lives won’t like. They’ll disobey their parents. They’ll speak defiantly to teachers. They’ll skip school/go drinking/etc. and it’ll be shown as clever and good that they got away with it. I remember writing a children’s story as a program project. It was about two girls going hiking in the woods. They get lost and then find their way again. Pretty tame. My mom kept telling me “Have them say ‘we should have taken an adult with us.’” But then there would have been no point. Even Ramona Quimby got to walk to school by herself, make her own sandwiches, and pulled another kid’s hair once.

There was an early-nineties PSA about always wearing a bike helmet starring Michaelangelo the Ninja Turtle.  It had clearly been written by someone who’d never seen the cartoon. PSA Mikey was humble and polite. Humble and polite.  These writers did NOT understand what it was kids liked about the character.

[isaacsapphire]

"maybe they'll need to know in a pickle" silly billy, knowledge isn't stored in pickles!

How to pickle things is another "old fashioned skill"!

[darkfrog24]

"Smack dab in the largest experiment"

I kept getting zapped with the electricity. Where is my goddamned cheese?

A Twitter Thread from David Bowles:

[Text transcript at the end of the screenshots]

I'll let you in on a secret. I have a doctorate in education, but the field’s basically just a 100 years old. We don’t really know what we’re doing. Our scholarly understanding of how learning happens is like astronomy 2000 years ago.

Most classroom practice is astrology.

Before the late 19th century, no human society had ever attempted to formally educate the entire populace. It was either aristocracy, meritocracy, or a blend. And always male.

We’re still smack-dab in the middle of the largest experiment on children ever done.

Most teachers perpetuate the “banking” model (Freire) used on them by their teachers, who likewise inherited it from theirs, etc.

Thus the elite “Lyceum” style of instruction continues even though it’s ineffectual with most kids.

What’s worse, the key strategies we’ve discovered, driven by cognitive science & child psychology, are quite regularly dismissed by pencil-pushing, test-driven administrators. Much like Trump ignores science, the majority of principals & superintendents I’ve known flout research.

Some definitions:

Banking model --> kids are like piggy banks: empty till you fill them with knowledge that you're the expert in.

Lyceum --> originally Aristotle's school, where the sons of land-owning citizens learned through lectures and research.

Things we (scholars) DO know:

-Homework doesn't really help, especially younger kids.

-Students don't learn a thing from testing. Most teachers don't either (it's supposed to help them tweak instruction, but that rarely happens).

-Spending too much time on weak subjects HURTS.

Do you want kids to learn? Here's something we've discovered: kids learn things that matter to them, either because the knowledge and skills are "cool," or because .... they give the kids tools to liberate themselves and their communities.

Maintaining the status quo? Nope.

Kids are acutely aware of injustice and by nature rebellious against the systems of authority that keep autonomy away from them.

If you're perpetuating those systems, teachers, you've already freaking lost.

They won't be learning much from you. Except what not to become. Sure, you can wear them down. That's what happened to most of you, isn't it? You saw the hideous flaw in the world and wanted to heal it. But year after numbing year, they made you learn their dogma by rote.

And now many of you are breaking the souls of children, too.

For what?

It's all smoke and mirrors. All the carefully crafted objectives, units and exams.

WE. DON'T. KNOW. HOW. PEOPLE. LEARN.

We barely understand the physical mechanisms behind MEMORY. But we DO know kids aren't empty piggy banks. They are BRIMMING with thought.

The last and most disgusting reality? The thing I hear in classroom after freaking classroom?

Education is all about capitalism.

"You need to learn these skills to get a good job." To be a good laborer. To help the wealthy generate more wealth, while you get scraps.

THAT is why modern education is a failure.

Its basic premise is monstrous.

"Why should I learn to read, Dr. Bowles?"

Because reading is magical. It makes life worth living. And being able to read, you can decode the strategies of your oppressors & stop them w/ their own words.

[blackgirlslivingwell]

These Parents Regret Having Kid

[jgregsawyer]

In this episode of "Ask Mom and Dad," we delve into a variety of parenting and lifestyle trends emerging among younger generations. We discuss how some modern practices surprisingly echo the traditions of their grandparents, highlighting a return to home-centric activities like baking and crafting. The conversation covers a range of topics, from the rise in setting boundaries for visitors around newborns, to the growing preference for sustainable and second-hand shopping. The episode also touches on the challenges and approaches to co-parenting in blended families, emphasizing the importance of communication and the well-being of children. Throughout, we blend personal anecdotes with observations on broader societal shifts, offering insights into how past and present parenting strategies are intertwining in today's families.

[darkfrog24]

Yes to all of the above, but the rumor about kids identifying as cats in school started because some schools stock kitty litter in classrooms. It's to use as a makeshift latrine in case there's a school shooting and the students are stuck in the classroom for hours. They took a thing our schoolkids actually need to be protected from and twisted it around like a hypocrisy-flavored ice cream cone.

"ohh what if my kid starts identifying as a CAT because of the trans agenda we have to prote—" well they've always done that. do you remember the psychological effects of h2o on young girls. of warrior cats on autistic children. i believed i was a demigod because of percy jackson. twilight came out and kids were telling their friends they were secretly vampires. this is just a thing kids do. worry less

[misschey2u]

What I wish Medical Providers Understood when meeting a Doula

“Chey, OMG! I know we spoke about this but why are providers so rude?! It was awful” ; I was driving home from seeing a client , my car is truly my office , I can’t tell you how much business I have conducted in there as a Doula. Taking time to reflect on a birth isn’t just a thing parents should be encouraged to do but Doulas and Birthworkers as well. I always make time and space to discuss a…

[minhajbooks]

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بچے کسی بھی قوم کا مستقبل اور بیش قدر سرمایہ ہوتے ہیں۔ ان طفلانِ ملّت کے لیے اَعلیٰ تربیت، عمدہ تعلیم، مناسب پرورش، مہذب نگہداشت اور خصوصی دیکھ بھال والدین اور اساتذہ کی اَوّلین ذمہ داری ہوتی ہے۔ حضور نبی اکرم ﷺ نے ماں کی آغوش کو پہلی درس گاہ قرار دے کر اِس پر صداقت کی سند ثبت کر دی ہے۔ بچے کو اِس عمر میں کسی کتاب یا دیگر علمی ذخیرے کے بغیر براہِ راست آغوشِ مادر سے علم و نور کا فیضان حاصل ہوتا ہے۔ اِس حوالے سے والدین، خصوصاً والدہ کی اَوّلین ذمہ داری اِسلامی تعلیمات اور بچوں کی نفسیات کے مطاب�� اُن کی تربیت کرنا اور انہیں تعلیم دینا ہے۔ والدین کے لیے بچوں کی نفسیات سے متعلق بنیادی اصولوں سے آگاہی نہایت ضروری ہے۔ بچوں کے ذہن کی گتھیاں سلجھانے کے لیے نفسیاتی اُمور سے جان کاری بنیادی ضرورت ہے۔ والدین کے بعد بچوں کی تعلیم و تربیت کا اگلا ذریعہ اساتذہ ہوتے ہیں۔ یہ شفیق ہستیاں اسے مادرِ علمی میں میسر ہوتی ہیں۔ اسکول میں بچوں کو آنکھ اور کان کی حسیات کا بھرپور انداز سے اِستعمال کرنے کی ترغیب دی جاتی ہے۔ یہاں بہت سی علمی اور عملی مشقیں کرنے کے نئے نئے ڈھنگ اور ذرائع و مواقع فراہم کیے جاتے ہیں۔ یہاں ہر بات مشاہدہ سے بڑھ کر مطالعہ تک جا پہنچتی ہے۔ مطالعہ کا یہ عمل اور اس کے دیگر لوازمات بچے کی شخصیت کو بنانے، سنوارنے اور نکھارنے میں بھرپور معاون ثابت ہوتے ہیں۔

اسلام کے حقیقی اصولوں کی روشنی میں نسلِ نو کی تربیت آج کے والدین کے لیے ایک چیلنج سے کم نہیں۔ ’بچوں کی پرورش اور تعلیم و تربیت میں والدین کا کردار اور بچوں کی تعمیر شخصیت‘ کے عنوان سے شیخ الاسلام ڈاکٹر محمد طاہرالقادری کے افادات پر مشتمل 3 کتب شائع ہو چکی ہیں۔ یہ کتب والدین کی اپنے بچوں کی تعلیم وتربیت کے حوالے سے مرکزی کردار کی حامل ہیں۔ اس حوالے سے بچوں کو اوائل عمری ہی سے دینِ اسلام کی طرف راغب کرنے کے نسخہ ہائے کیمیاء تحریر کیے گئے ہیں، جن کی روشنی میں نسلِ نو کو اسلام کے آفاقی رنگ میں رنگنے کے خاطر خواہ انتظامات مرتب کیے گئے ہیں۔ یہ دراصل گائیڈ کتب ہیں جو نسلِ نو کو ایک اچھا مسلمان اور ذمہ دار شہری بناتی ہے۔

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[preacherpollard]

A Recipe For Successful Living

Neal Pollard Concerning Money: Don’t judge a book by its cover (7). The wealthy face threats and dangers that the poor do not (8). Get rich quick schemes usually fail (11). People who are “too smart” to learn earn poverty and disgrace (18). A good name is better than wealth (22; cf. 22:1). The resources of the poor are often robbed by injustice (23). Concerning Desire: You can tell a lot about…

[porcelain-dollbones]

so a lot of ideological tradwives pursue the line of argument that feminism denigrates traditionally womens work (i.e. housekeeping, childrearing) by suggesting that feminists want to push all women to do "men's work" and dismiss the value of mothers and homemakers.

setting aside the obvious untruth of this- feminists have always been the strongest fighters for recognising the worth of womens work- its interesting when juxtaposed with the tradwife line that retiring from paid employment and settling into domestic life is relaxing, natural, and suitable for womens more delicate selves. they suggest that feminism pushes women to run themselves ragged rather than living a relaxed existence at home, cared for by their husbands.

but this itself is rooted in the devaluing of domestic labour, because it understands it as easy, simple, and fundamentally Not Real Work. its an important part of the tradwife project to glorify homemaking while also denying its difficulty, to promise women they will be valued in their domestic role while stripping away recognition of that value. its not an original observation that tradwife influencers often live in massive sparkling homes clearly cared for by domestic servants while they show off their hobbies, but its important to note this is not only a way to attract viewers to an idealised vision but also a systematic tactic to devalue the real worth of domestic labour

[preacherpollard]

The Nazca Lines And Writing On Tablets Of The Heart

Monday’s Column: Neal At The Cross In southern Peru, there is a massive area of geoglyphs carved into the ground and rock. They are named for the area, called the Nazca Lines. There are humongous carvings of people and animals, National Geographic reporting that “in total, there are over 800 straight lines, 300 geometric figures and 70 animal and plant designs, also called biomorphs. Some of the…

[darkfrog24]

6. Not going into for-minors spaces and making them unsafe for minors.

“You are responsible for the minors in your fandom!!!”

No, I’m fucking not. I’m not your parent. My past-times do not automatically sign me up to act in loco parentis. If you need someone else to monitor your own content consumption online, go get mommy and/or daddy to set up a content blocker on your computer.

[autisticrosewilson]

When someone says that all the awful shit Bruce does to Jason is just new and out of character so I have to drop an itemized list of all ways he failed Jason even as Robin

[phasmotid]

eric choosing to dress as king henry VIII on the children's charity day is of course extremely funny ("it's for the kids," holding a decapitated head) but also the obvious implications of this are killing me.

DVD's quote from season 2: "He gets validated by the idea of creating people in his image. Until they become him, but younger. And he can't fucking live with it." and this episode's "I used to see what my daughters could become and achieve in every successful young woman I came across. / Now you wanna come across every successful young woman?" All of his relationships he's killed for these simple crimes. Daria, DVD, Kenny, Harper, and now Rob and Yasmin underway... something sooo sinister going on here. His siblingchildwives. But it makes sense, if this is all you're taught. Eric has been at Pierpoint his whole life. Which is rare, seeing how many of our core intern cast we've lost along the seasons. Killing opposition must be the only way he learned to survive. It makes me wonder how his relationship with his mentor, Newman, was. It makes me wonder how it ended, as well.

Also with Yasmin dressing herself as Diana -- all these costumes are related to these characters' perceptions of themselves or who they'd rather be. It's so interesting to push that Eric is aware of this pattern? He's a character with historically a strange amount of emotional awareness in this job and in comparison with Harper, though he has a shield up against this, which is beginning to falter post-divorce, and the evilness he's learned from Pierpoint is becoming all there is to him