#ChildRearing

[3liza]

Can confirm I had a relatively extremely competent stay at home father who made sure to limit TV time and read to me and encourage very precocious literacy that I think did me a lot of good... But in terms of basic life skills that stuff just didn't even come up I guess it was just assumed that I'd magically osmose stuff like "it's important to brush your teeth twice a day" when I was 8 lmao (I'm 26) and these are with solidly Gen X parents!

I've heard this from people your age a LOT and it's not your fault. but isn't it so weird to think about? that you'd have a kid and then be like well I'm sure they can figure out how to make spaghetti and pay rent do laundry on their own, I won't waste their time. of course if you only teach a kid one thing then how to read is a good one because you can find out almost everything else by readjng i guess

[elfony]

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[isaacsapphire]

"maybe they'll need to know in a pickle" silly billy, knowledge isn't stored in pickles!

How to pickle things is another "old fashioned skill"!

[madewithonerib]

How To Understand Yourself | Manis Friedman

Will Power vs. Pleasure which permeates, ecstasy [27:04]

[delagar]

My Kid

[blackgirlslivingwell]

These Parents Regret Having Kid

[jgregsawyer]

In this episode of "Ask Mom and Dad," we delve into a variety of parenting and lifestyle trends emerging among younger generations. We discuss how some modern practices surprisingly echo the traditions of their grandparents, highlighting a return to home-centric activities like baking and crafting. The conversation covers a range of topics, from the rise in setting boundaries for visitors around newborns, to the growing preference for sustainable and second-hand shopping. The episode also touches on the challenges and approaches to co-parenting in blended families, emphasizing the importance of communication and the well-being of children. Throughout, we blend personal anecdotes with observations on broader societal shifts, offering insights into how past and present parenting strategies are intertwining in today's families.

[misschey2u]

What I wish Medical Providers Understood when meeting a Doula

“Chey, OMG! I know we spoke about this but why are providers so rude?! It was awful” ; I was driving home from seeing a client , my car is truly my office , I can’t tell you how much business I have conducted in there as a Doula. Taking time to reflect on a birth isn’t just a thing parents should be encouraged to do but Doulas and Birthworkers as well. I always make time and space to discuss a…

[darkfrog24]

Fanfiction was some of the LEAST BAD stuff I read/consumed when I was under 18. Did it always depict healthy romantic and sexual relationships? No. What it did always do was present romantic/sexual relationships, healthy or otherwise, in the context of characters who, in addition to what else was happening in the story, had lives and interests outside their underpants. They weren't just there to have sex. By definition, fan stories, even porn-without-plot fan stories, are about characters that the reader knows and that are already by definition, developed. Even if the fanwriter only writes about sex, the character is never only there for sex. That is never the only thing that the character wants because they retain all their other motivations from canon. Fanfic is much, much better for teenagers than made-as-porn porn.

You know what else I read when I was younger than OP? A Spell for Chameleon. Piers Anthony can be funny and colorful, but it was a male fantasy. That is not where you go for an under-fifteen to develop healthy attitudes about men, women, and sex. You know what I watched on TV? Cartoons in which all the female characters had boobs out to here for no reason. Cartoons in which the female character (singular) was only there to be someone's love interest. Did I like love stories because I liked love stories or because that was disproportionately the time I got to see a girl on screen? I still don't know. You know what I got in school? So much boys-will-be-boys sexism that I still haven't unpacked it all. That stuff was a problem for me. Fanfic wasn't.

Read fanfic, kids. Read serious stuff too. Take sex ed. Read the Planned Parenthood teens website. Then read some more fanfic.

So I’m a minor (16 to be specific) and I frequently watch and read stuff with explicit sexual or 18+ content in it. I live in an extremely conservative Christian household and things like explicit fanfic are pretty much the only option I have for learning about sex that isn’t abstinence only. I do feel bad about it, especially when I see adults online say stuff like “oh i watched lots of inappropriate things as a teen that i really shouldn’t have” and it makes me feel like I’m ruining myself in a way that I won’t realize until I’m an adult? Right now I don’t see what the big deal is but i get the feeling that when i’m 24 or something I’ll wake up one day and be ashamed of this for some reason i’m not mature enough to know yet. Should I just stop and wait until I’m 18 to continue or what?

hi anon,

okay. I'm gonna hit you with something:

turning 18 does not actually change the way you feel about porn or sex or anything. the difference between being seventeen and 364 days and being 18 is nonexistent. there's not a magical switch that changes you as a person; that comes from lived experience. if you're 18 and your experience is still that porn and smut and what have you i something that you should feel bad about, it's still going to feel that way and a birthday won't change that.

look, the whole notion of "I saw [x] that I shouldn't have when I was young" is like. okay. so you saw something that was a little mature for you that you didn't quite get? awesome. did you die? no. most people's hangups about sexuality don't come from seeing a rogue titty when they were a teenager, they come from the culture that person was raised in that made seeing a rogue titty feel like something to be ashamed of instead of a completely natural part of life.

story time! when I teach my 4th-6th grade OWL classes (Our Whole Lives, great human development program) I always start by holding a meeting with the kids' parents. I've been doing this for seven years, and every time without fail some of the parents will recall seeing porn for the first time as a kid. these guys were kids when printed porn magazines were still a thing, so they were discovering them in all kinds of places - the bedrooms of their parents or their friends' parents, at bus stops, in the woods, once even stowed in some farm equipment. and they remember it feeling illicit and exciting, sure, and possibly making them confused or even horny for the first time in their young lives, but like... that's it. none of these people are irreparably damaged by seeing porn. in fact, they've grown up to be the kind of people who go out of their way to make sure their young kids are enrolled in a queer-friendly, body-positive, diversity-embracing sex ed class to counter stereotypes and misinformation they might receive elsewhere.

looking at things that arouse you is morally neutral. it can be a great way to help you learn about what turns you on, and even if it's not the best source of factual, realistic depictions of sex, it can still help you discover things - hell, I only figured out what the clitoris was by reading Young Justice fanfic (shout out Snaibsel).

you can't ruin yourself, at any age, with the media you like to consume. what makes you uncomfortable and anxious is the attitude you've been taught to have about that media, which is something that has to be actively unlearned, because it's certainly not going to just disappear on its own when you become a legal adult.

tl;dr obviously no one is making you watch porn and you shouldn't if it makes you uncomfortable, but if you drop it right now and come back when you're 18 don't expect to feel any different if you haven't done any more unpacking re: the conservative Christianity of it all.

[minhajbooks]

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بچے کسی بھی قوم کا مستقبل اور بیش قدر سرمایہ ہوتے ہیں۔ ان طفلانِ ملّت کے لیے اَعلیٰ تربیت، عمدہ تعلیم، مناسب پرورش، مہذب نگہداشت اور خصوصی دیکھ بھال والدین اور اساتذہ کی اَوّلین ذمہ داری ہوتی ہے۔ حضور نبی اکرم ﷺ نے ماں کی آغوش کو پہلی درس گاہ قرار دے کر اِس پر صداقت کی سند ثبت کر دی ہے۔ بچے کو اِس عمر میں کسی کتاب یا دیگر علمی ذخیرے کے بغیر براہِ راست آغوشِ مادر سے علم و نور کا فیضان حاصل ہوتا ہے۔ اِس حوالے سے والدین، خصوصاً والدہ کی اَوّلین ذمہ داری اِسلامی تعلیمات اور بچوں کی نفسیات کے مطابق اُن کی تربیت کرنا اور انہیں تعلیم دینا ہے۔ والدین کے لیے بچوں کی نفسیات سے متعلق بنیادی اصولوں سے آگاہی نہایت ضروری ہے۔ بچوں کے ذہن کی گتھیاں سلجھانے کے لیے نفسیاتی اُمور سے جان کاری بنیادی ضرورت ہے۔ والدین کے بعد بچوں کی تعلیم و تربیت کا اگلا ذریعہ اساتذہ ہوتے ہیں۔ یہ شفیق ہستیاں اسے مادرِ علمی میں میسر ہوتی ہیں۔ اسکول میں بچوں کو آنکھ اور کان کی حسیات کا بھرپور انداز سے اِستعمال کرنے کی ترغیب دی جاتی ہے۔ یہاں بہت سی علمی اور عملی مشقیں کرنے کے نئے نئے ڈھنگ اور ذرائع و مواقع فراہم کیے جاتے ہیں۔ یہاں ہر بات مشاہدہ سے بڑھ کر مطالعہ تک جا پہنچتی ہے۔ مطالعہ کا یہ عمل اور اس کے دیگر لوازمات بچے کی شخصیت کو بنانے، سنوارنے اور نکھارنے میں بھرپور معاون ثابت ہوتے ہیں۔

اسلام کے حقیقی اصولوں کی روشنی میں نسلِ نو کی تربیت آج کے والدین کے لیے ایک چیلنج سے کم نہیں۔ ’بچوں کی پرورش اور تعلیم و تربیت میں والدین کا کردار اور بچوں کی تعمیر شخصیت‘ کے عنوان سے شیخ الاسلام ڈاکٹر محمد طاہرالقادری کے افادات پر مشتمل 3 کتب شائع ہو چکی ہیں۔ یہ کتب والدین کی اپنے بچوں کی تعلیم وتربیت کے حوالے سے مرکزی کردار کی حامل ہیں۔ اس حوالے سے بچوں کو اوائل عمری ہی سے دینِ اسلام کی طرف راغب کرنے کے نسخہ ہائے کیمیاء تحریر کیے گئے ہیں، جن کی روشنی میں نسلِ نو کو اسلام کے آفاقی رنگ میں رنگنے کے خاطر خ��اہ انتظامات مرتب کیے گئے ہیں۔ یہ دراصل گائیڈ کتب ہیں جو نسلِ نو کو ایک اچھا مسلمان اور ذمہ دار شہری بناتی ہے۔

🔰 بچوں کی پرورش اور والدین کا کردار (رحمِ مادر سے ایک سال کی عمر تک) 🔹 خاندان کی تعمیر میں زوجین کا کردار 🔹 قبل اَز پیدائش بچے کے حقوق 🔹 بعد اَز پیدائش بچے کے حقوق 🔹 اولاد کی پرورش میں والدہ کا کردار 🔹 اولاد کی پرورش میں والد کا کردار 🔹 بچوں کی پرورش میں والدین کا کردار 🔹 ولادت سے ایک سال تک کے بچے کا جائزہ

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🔰 بچوں کی تعمیر شخصیت (11 سے 16 سال کی عمر تک) 🔹 بچوں کی تعلیم اور کیرئیر کا انتخاب 🔹 بچوں میں اَخلاقی و روحانی تربیت کی ناگزیریت 🔹 بچوں کی معاشرتی، نفسیاتی اور جذباتی تربیت

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[preacherpollard]

A Recipe For Successful Living

Neal Pollard Concerning Money: Don’t judge a book by its cover (7). The wealthy face threats and dangers that the poor do not (8). Get rich quick schemes usually fail (11). People who are “too smart” to learn earn poverty and disgrace (18). A good name is better than wealth (22; cf. 22:1). The resources of the poor are often robbed by injustice (23). Concerning Desire: You can tell a lot about…

[isaacsapphire]

The only genitals I've seen in public restrooms have been baby/toddlers having diaper changes and of course the inevitable streaking toddler, and obviously it's a cointoss for the gender there, and the ability to change diapers in either genders' bathroom is extremely good for women (directly for the many women caring for a pre toilet independent child, indirectly by enabling men to care for children more.)

I’ve gone to the women’s restroom a lot in my life, and not once have I ever seen genitalia besides my own while there. No penis, no vulva, nothing.

I’ve literally seen a bathroom full of baby lizards, one time a whole fucking fish on the floor, and someone come out of the stall with a plate, knife, and fork like they just ate a meal before I’ve seen genitals. Why would I ever be worried about seeing some woman with her cock out

[porcelain-dollbones]

so a lot of ideological tradwives pursue the line of argument that feminism denigrates traditionally womens work (i.e. housekeeping, childrearing) by suggesting that feminists want to push all women to do "men's work" and dismiss the value of mothers and homemakers.

setting aside the obvious untruth of this- feminists have always been the strongest fighters for recognising the worth of womens work- its interesting when juxtaposed with the tradwife line that retiring from paid employment and settling into domestic life is relaxing, natural, and suitable for womens more delicate selves. they suggest that feminism pushes women to run themselves ragged rather than living a relaxed existence at home, cared for by their husbands.

but this itself is rooted in the devaluing of domestic labour, because it understands it as easy, simple, and fundamentally Not Real Work. its an important part of the tradwife project to glorify homemaking while also denying its difficulty, to promise women they will be valued in their domestic role while stripping away recognition of that value. its not an original observation that tradwife influencers often live in massive sparkling homes clearly cared for by domestic servants while they show off their hobbies, but its important to note this is not only a way to attract viewers to an idealised vision but also a systematic tactic to devalue the real worth of domestic labour

[khattikeri]

xie lian takes a look at shen qingqiu's wholehearted pure mommy energy then looks at wei wuxian's wannabe ABO sub husband energy and then turns directly to the camera and says "absolutely not"

[autisticrosewilson]

When someone says that all the awful shit Bruce does to Jason is just new and out of character so I have to drop an itemized list of all ways he failed Jason even as Robin

[serpentface]

You said that the Ulelilwa people are the only group fully permissive of intersophont relationships, in this case between Qilik and Elowey. But since the Elowey are mammals and the Qilik are avian and would thus have very different "equipment", I wonder how that would work.

It could involve pretty much any of the litany of non penetrative sex acts out there (with some limitations to oral and digital due to Teeth and Claws)

Elowey have the same basic anatomy as humans and the mechanical act of reproductive sex is basically the same. Their mouths are a little more intimidating than those of humans, but not really any More dangerous to have near your genitals and have similarly flexible lips and muscular tongues, so they would be capable of performing all forms of oral sex. Their hands are the biggest difference- their fingernails are much thicker (though can be filed down to the base) and their fingers are furred, so receiving penetrative digital sex from that might be uncomfortable. But other than that, any sex act performed by humans from Real Life could be accomplished by elowey in the same or similar ways, so there's a lot of possibilities on that end.

Qilik mate via cloaca contact and have no penis, so the external parts of the cloaca is where pleasurable stimulation occurs and their reproductive tract is not predisposed to receive penetration. VERY shallow insertion of a digit or tongue might feel good for the average person but that’s the full extent of it. There’s probably people who like putting things up their cloaca, it’s just not going to be a Common desire (and a qilik cloaca doesn’t have any internal structures like the prostate that are directly pleasurable to stimulate), and the difference in size wrt elowey would likely make penetration painful and potentially dangerous in most cases (it could Probably be safely accomplished for some people with practice/carefulness/substantial lubricant because elowey penises are pretty small and thin, but this isn't going to be all that common).

There are also obvious limitations to performing oral on the part of qilik, they don’t have mobile lips and their jaws are full of small, sharp teeth. You cannot put a penis in there in any way that will benefit you, and their tongues are long and thin and can't lick with that much pressure or finesse. A lot of qilik are more likely to perform oral-adjacent sex with the bare skinned tips and sides of their snouts, which is a notably sensitive area of the body (not in the Fetish World IF YOU TOUCH IT I WILL CUM way, just tactile and good for physical affection of all kinds).

Like Humans, sexual pleasure is not solely derived from the mechanical reproductive act, but this is PARTICULARLY pronounced in qilik. Exclusively reproductive sex is very rapid- the entire act with full sperm transfer takes about 5-10 seconds. Their pre-sophont ancestors would breed over a period of a few hours, cycling through periods of male display, mutual preening, and mounting with sperm transfer. Bonded same sex drake pairs/throuples cooperatively rearing young would also intersperse their greeting allogrooming with mounting and full cloaca contact, as an affiliative sexual behavior that strengthened social bonds. This translates substantially into how behaviorally modern qilik tend to enjoy recreational sex, for most the act is 95% about intimate grooming and physical affection While Aroused and 5% direct genital stimulation.

This would actually be a fairly agreeable circumstance for a qilik/elowey pair, as both species have allogrooming as a basic behavioral drive (with layers of cultural convention tacked on top of it). Allogrooming feels nice in general and can be enjoyed in a sexual context.

So like bottom line for what would commonly be on the table:

Horny allogrooming

Other physical affection (licking, nuzzling, cuddling, etc)

Non or lightly penetrative oral/digital sex

Non-penetrative genital contact

Charged allogrooming moment between Ulelilwa men. Guysrule, beautiful romance, etc