#childless

[lostinthewronguniverse]

This isn’t aro or ace. There’s plenty of aro, ace, and aroace people who want kids. There’s plenty of allo people who don’t want kids. A decent amount of aro people don’t want a relationship at all and find the idea of a “life partner” just amatonormantivity. This sounds like more of the sentiments of the childless crowd (which I don’t disagreement with but it isn’t tagged like that)

The want to have kids or not have kids has nothing to do with aromanticism or asexuality. There is no romantic attraction or sexual attraction requirement to have children. If that was the case, then I would have never been born because my grandma was almost certainly aroace and was willing to marry my grandpa despite not feeling drawn to him because that was how you had a family in the 40s (also he agreed to move in with his mother and brothers in law so my grandma could still take care of them)

“What’s the point of a relationship if you don’t want kids?”

Idk, how about COMPANIONSHIP

A LIFE PARTNER

[classycookiexo]

Period

[hard--headed--woman]

There is no desire that I understand less than the desire to be a mother. I've tried to understand, but I can't. I don't understand how you can desire to be pregnant, to feel a human being grow up in your womb, making you throw up, making you unable to move like you want and kicking you. I don't understand how you can wish to spend your life taking care of a child, who needs you to be present all the time, who relies on you for everything. I don't understand how you can want something so stressful, exhausting, annoying, boring, who leaves you with no freedom and time for yourself. And don't tell me that if you do things well you can still have freedom and time for yourself and live a fulfilling life ; because no matter what you do, no matter how much your husband takes care of the kids too, no matter how much your friends and family help you, at the end of the day your life still revolves around the kids. Your life still aren't yours anymore. And I just can't understand how anyone can desire that.

[freckled-radfem]

Reasons not to get pregnant/have a child/raise children. From girlwiththelist1 on tiktok

[decaf-oatmilk-latte]

This is for me & all of the other childfree hotties

[myjukeboxbrain]

[dzgrizzle]

Childless Cat Daddies in Solidarity with Childless Cat Ladies 🐱

[blankbooks]

to my future child

I’m scared of a lot

But mostly I’m scared of the day I’ll hold you in my arms for the first time

And I'm scared of the day you spill milk on the carpet

And I’m scared of the way my voice will pierce the air and travel right to your heart and stay in your brain forever

I’m also afraid of the day you throw a tantrum, of the look I’ll give you in public, a promise of returning home and the punishment that awaits you

I’m afraid of the day you grow obnoxious, of the way I’ll resent the way you speak about the newest cartoons and why that is your favorite character

I’m afraid of the day you flinch

I’m afraid of the day I’ll try to soothe you, but really it's me I’m trying to make feel better 

I’m also scared of the day you finally grow resentful and angry 

And I'm scared of the day I will be right 

Afraid that one day I’ll see that I wasn't kind enough, brave enough, stable enough to raise you as I should have 

I’m afraid of the day I’ll realize I’m her

And the day I realize you are me. 

To my dearest… never-to-be born child.

May we never meet. 

The kindest thing I can do for you is make absolutely certain the day we meet, the day I hold you in my arms for the first time never comes.

[animentality]

[classycookiexo]

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[captainclickycat]

I’m very happily childless but one of the things that is kind of annoying about it is the way it doesn’t give you any conversational footing.

Like when you’re talking to someone and the topic of kids comes up, and they have kids, so they have a whole conversational opening to talk about their kids and their ages and personalities and how little Simon just won the Duke of Wimbingkingshamsham award for caber tossing and Julie is the youngest bank manager in the UK at eight.

And then they say “how about you, do you have kids?” and all you can say is “no”.

And then everything just feels a bit imbalanced and wrong-footed in that moment because you can’t build on that. You can’t talk at length about the absence of children. You wind up feeling like you haven’t had a proper turn.

[bloghrexach]

🐱 … Direct quote from JD Vance:

“J. D. Vance Says the U.S. is Run by Childless Cat Ladies Who Are Miserable With Their Lives

And this guy wants to be our next vice president?

When J.D. Vance ran for the Senate in 2021 as an Ohio Republican, he accused Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-N.Y.), Vice President Kamala Harris, and Secretary of Transportation Pete Buttigieg of being “childless cat ladies.”

He added, “Maybe if we want a healthy ruling class in this country … we should support more people who actually have kids.” … 🐱

@hrexach

[wearpersistencewell]

Facebook Moms: Oh my god, my childless friends are off having fun partying all the time while I'm stuck with kids!

Um... what partying? We're the same age as you. One glass of wine and we're in bed by nine. We'd love to meet with you for coffee instead. It's just that you can never do anything on days that end with Y. Which we get, because honestly, neither can we. That's the real problem. It's not kids or no kids, it's that the nineties lied to us about adulthood.

[howifeltabouthim]

You just have no idea how rich and wonderful parenthood can be. In fact, you haven't really lived until you've wrestled a shrieking four-year-old to the ground at Target.

Curtis Sittenfeld, from Eligible