#Burnout Culture

[threewaysdivided]

Andrew Garfield, in interview with Alex Pappademas for GQ Magazine, November 2022:

I think it says something that even someone in your position grapples with this stuff: the pressure to constantly be producing, the fear of being left behind. There’s not a level of success that frees you from those questions.

No. It makes me think about – and it’s funny, I’m sorry, but my reference point for everything now, I just go back to my mum not being here. I just go to that and what that means. It means I’m not gonna be here long, and we’re not gonna be here long. That doesn’t provide any answers, but it does feel like it sharpens an arrow of direction, in some mysterious way.

But then, I don’t know – my dad, right now, I think, is just meant to tend his back garden. He’s lost his wife, and I think all he’s meant to do right now, for the most part – it’s going to make me cry – is play with his grandkids, and create this back garden. He’s turned it into, like, a subtropical jungle. He’s got a water feature and a moat. He’s gone crazy, as grief will make you do, but he’s gone toward beauty and nature and self-soothing. And I’m really kind of impressed with him for that. The fact that he’s created something so beaut–

[A pause. Garfield tears up]

Fuck. Fucking hell, man. It’s awful. It hurts – the beauty of it hurts, so much. Knowing he’s created something so beautiful out of the worst loss you could ever, like – [voice breaking] They were together, in love. They were an imperfect couple that stayed together. And for him to be left, now, to deal with what that means – I’m not going to speak for his experience, because that’s not appropriate. But I feel like I can say: I feel like making a garden is plenty. You know what I mean? I don’t think we’re all meant to save the world all the time.

...

Life seems to be a perpetual practice of letting shit go. Letting go of an idea of how a thing should look, or be, or feel. And that one’s a big one...

But, yeah. Life, life, life. Life is in charge. We’ll see. We’ll see what happens. I’m curious.

“I’m in a real period of not-doing,” he says, cheerfully. “The usual aggressive, ambitious, driven heartbeat, rapping at the door has subsided for a while.”

[aliceinorange]

Y’all, it makes me so sad burnout culture is so normalized that to be 100% done and fed up with life to the point of tears doesn’t cause any concern. That most students are learning for a grade and not because all humans have a instinctual pull towards gaining knowledge. I hope we find out that it is not normal to feel apathetic to how your time is being stolen into joyless activities.

Anyway, I hope you get a really long break soon. I’m thinking in the next few generations we’ll figure it out🧡

**I also just learned I can change my font to any color so… bad luck to all the people who hate orange

[happilyeveraftereveryday]

A few excerpts:

"That realization recast my recent struggles: Why can’t I get this mundane stuff done? Because I’m burned out. Why am I burned out? Because I’ve internalized the idea that I should be working all the time. Why have I internalized that idea? Because everything and everyone in my life has reinforced it — explicitly and implicitly — since I was young. Life has always been hard, but many millennials are unequipped to deal with the particular ways in which it’s become hard for us."

"Grad school, then, is where I learned to work like a millennial, which is to say, all the time. My new watchword was “Everything that’s good is bad, everything that’s bad is good”: Things that should’ve felt good (leisure, not working) felt bad because I felt guilty for not working; things that should’ve felt “bad” (working all the time) felt good because I was doing what I thought I should and needed to be doing in order to succeed."

Sorry for this relatable shit. My anxiety has been a bitch lately.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[desomorpheus]

Town: Y3ReeX0 Hood: Machinerion House: W-Club

Once a haven of smiling friends and carefree fun, now it feels more like a place where to survive a yet another evening out of sheer inertia and pretend that everything is as fun as it always was, at least on the outside.

Some however do not have energy even for that and have rather given up on pretending entirely, fully becoming a mere shells and husks of their previous selves.

[artist-of-the-abyss]

Corporate Employers' faces when their employees that want to quit can't file for unemployment if they do, so they can make the workload as unreasonable and out of control as possible

"You can't afford to leave us! You need those UI payments don't you?! You better do what we say if you want to be eligible!"

[surrah698]

My poor, sensitive nervous system... 😭

Gotta make sure to get plenty of rest!

[finnslay]

You're not autistic, you're just a little silly!

And you cry when people change things but that's unrelated-- :D

[grlfreak]

in another life, i find out i am autistic at 12 instead of at 29. i am still bullied, but my parents put me in another school. i get the support i need. i find friends who love me for who i am. my mom and dad don’t yell. instead, they comfort me during my meltdowns. they support me. i grow up knowing who i am, what i am, and i learn how my body works instead of wondering why i can’t speak the language of everyone else around me despite having english as my native language.

[giftedkidburnout-culture-is]

gifted kid culture is having never learned how to study

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[katsy-kitty]

Me to myself at work:

Be like Hannibal. No shame.

You didn't know something? Not your problem. You know it now -- okay, whatever.

You missed someone's e-mail? Apologize and move on. No big deal.

You didn't do something you were supposed to because no-one had trained you? No shame. The company's fault.

NO SHAME AT WORK

You don't have to give your 100% because it's gonna kill you.

Take breaks, take care of yourself and remember: fuck grind culture.

[deesi-academia]

Sorry for breaking under the pressure of studies and crying. That wasn't very overachieving-model-student of me.

[maxiglow]

resting is productive. doing nothing or engaging in activities outside the work field actually has a name, “creative leisure,” and it’s what fuels us to keep us alive and well.

resting our body & mind and doing nothing “productive” (from a capitalistic viewpoint) is precisely the best thing we, as humans (remember, we’re not machines!!), can do to be more productive and live better.

so yes, don’t answer that message outside your work hours, shut down your work computer, and go grab some snacks to watch that movie you’ve been trying to find time for and then go take a nap ♡

[skeletaltumbleweed]

ted lasso refusing to show jamie’s goal and instead staying focussed on his reaction is just so fucking personal as a burnt out gifted kid perfectionist. cause it’s not about the goal, or the win, or his skill, or his talent, or what it means for the team or the game or anything. fuck all of that cause it’s about his joy. what he can do matters jack shit cause it’s about him. fuck how good he is at something what’s important is that he likes doing it, he’s proud of himself.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[autismcultureis]

autism culture is getting dragged places you dont want to go but you're too burnt out to say no

!!