#in the present

[thepeacefulgarden]

[allthedesiredusernamesaretaken]

" It’s all a matter of paying attention, being awake in the present moment, and not expecting a huge payoff. The magic in this world seems to work in whispers and small kindnesses. "

- Charles de Lint

[nururu]

I hated sanjis shit with his siblings bc I went through the same shit (on a smaller scale) and responded the same way, with empathy and self sacrificial tendencies. not just bc I wanted to be loved&accepted by them but bc family meant so much to me. the way my older siblings were very cold and acted how they were supposed to act, while I was very sensitive and had specific interests that they'd shit on and wouldn't support. how I had siblings but was alone most of the time. I hated watching all of that so much bc even at the end neither him or I can bring ourselves to truly hate these ppl. we are too soft too empathetic too understanding. it's not fair that we were the targets but things aren't fair for them either.

[teamstandonit]

The Lie We Live - Alan Watts on the Illusion of Time

lets try this again😆

[cogentranting]

Reading through A Christmas Carol for the first time, its weird how disproportionately sized the sections are. There is SO much more detail given to the Cratchit’s dinner than to anything from the ghost of Christmas Past. You get half a line from Scrooge’s sister about “father’s much kinder now, he’ll let you come home” with no explanation, a quick glimpse of an unnamed fiancée, and then Dickens swoops in like No Time for That! We Have to Know Every Single Thing that Cratchit’s are Wearing and Eating. 

[fzrticv]

I wasn really hype for s2 but now seeing the sneak peeps shared on twt? I so am

[habken]

Deku's first day on the job is going great

[aropride]

are they really “fem presenting” or do they just have boobs. are they really “masc presenting” or do they just have facial hair

[thepeacefulgarden]

[bananonbinary]

also worth noting that "abusive" doesn't actually mean "irredeemable" either.

there's a lot of people that have done things in the past that were bad, because they weren't taught any better, or they were in an overall toxic situation where EVERYONE was shitty (like a cult), or they were just at an especially low point and hurt others for it.

you don't have to forgive them. you don't have to ever speak to them again. you can be angry with them until you die if you want.

but society cannot function if we don't allow them to move on. to change their behavior and fuck off somewhere else and build meaningful relationships without bothering you again. we need a path for people to change, or nothing ever will.

[skipppppy]

Congrats?

[bereft-of-frogs]

There’s that post that’s like ‘everyone should get into a tiny niche fandom at least once’ fully agree, that was really fun -- but I would like to add that everyone should get into a fandom where their opinions run counter to major fanon because it really teaches you about sticking to your guns and trusting your interpretation of the text without having to rely on peer validation

because WHAT are people talking about sometimes

[butchdykekondraki]

can everyone be normal about masculine presenting trans women. for the love of god can everyone please be fucking normal about masculine presenting trans women.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

is this nonbinary person actually "male presenting", or did you just decide that based on your arbitrary idea of maleness?

is this nonbinary person actually "female presenting", or did you just decide that based on your arbitrary idea of femaleness?

perhaps they're just "presenting" as themselves and your binary biases are clouding your judgement?

[bm-pancake]

Sorry do you think that condemning all people who ever held fascist or right-wing beliefs IN THE PAST as a PHASE perhaps while they were impressionable teenagers, while valuing only those who have always stayed on the virtuous path of "normalcy" is NOT purity culture?????

You're an adult, it's about time you learn how to read.

white lgbt westerners will make endless excuses for their ignorance, for their racist and sexist and homophobic behaviour because they were never taught anything in school, they’ve never seen a world map until they were 23 years old despite having access to the internet their entire lives, because they grew up in a conservative family and everyone has a nazi phase as a teenager so really what’s the big deal? but if someone living in the largest concentration camp ever built has a homophobic thought in their head that’s grounds for them and their entire people to be genocided. you people treat yourselves like adult infants who should be given endless amounts of second chances while baying for the blood of Palestinians. genuinely you make me sick. I want no part of your homonationalism, you are a fascist and your quirky little queer identity does not in any way take away from that