#Behavior change

[eelhound]

"Asking 'Who is the villain?' is the prologue to asking who should be punished. But asking 'What are the conditions that led to this?' leads us to consider how to change those conditions so that the situation is less likely to happen again.

Reframing things in this way is a type of analysis known as dependent origination. Though this term has far-reaching and often abstract implications in Buddhist thought, it simply means that everything arises on the basis of multiple factors, and if we want to discourage something from happening again we have to address the factors underlying it. If our goal is to judge and punish, we will need to determine guilt, which becomes more difficult as we consider more causes. But if our goal is to gain a better understanding, then the fact that there are many factors is not a problem."

- Matthew Gindin, from "The Red Hat Rorschach Test." Tricycle, 30 January 2019.

[classyblen]

Helloww!

✨ Starting My Journey with Atomic Habits ✨

🌹 𝙷𝚎𝚢 𝙱𝚎𝚊𝚞𝚝𝚒𝚏𝚞𝚕 𝚂𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚜! 🌹

Today, I'm diving into the transformative pages of Atomic Habits by James Clear. This book has been on my radar for a while, and I finally snagged a physical copy! 🔥📖

📖 Details:

Author: James Clear

Page Count: 320 pages

Current Mood: Ready to level up! 💪

🌟 Excitement Level:

Feeling pumped and ready to absorb all the wisdom this book has to offer! 🔥📖

📝 Reading Goals:

Explore strategies to build good habits and break bad ones.

Implement at least one new habit each week as I progress through the book.

💬 Join the Conversation!💋

If you’ve read Atomic Habits, share your thoughts below! Let’s inspire each other on this journey of habit-building! 🎀

✨ Stay tuned for my upcoming reviews and updates! Let’s make the most of our habits together!

if you guys wanna download the book its free click the link below

[behaviorally-balanced]

You have to change the environment to see real change.

[juliamccartney]

my future self will thank me for this

my future self will thank me for this

my future self will thank me for this

[annacswenson]

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Akram Khan discussing Giselle, in conversation with Ngofeen Mputubwele on the the New Yorker Radio Hour

[animakis]

How to Overcome Procrastination and Take Control of Your Life in 5 sec!

Do you often find yourself procrastinating on tasks you know you need to do? Do you struggle to take action on your goals? This simple yet powerful rule has helped millions of people worldwide, today we will explore the benefits of the 5 Second Rule and how you can apply it to your own life. 5. 4. 3. 2. 1. … Lets Go! The 5 Second Rule is a simple, yet powerful tool that can be used to overcome…

[ritik3630a]

Why you need sometimes to build habits instead of setting goals?

Hello there! In this blog post, we’ll explore the idea of why setting goals may not be the best approach to personal growth and development. We’ll discuss the potential drawbacks of goal-setting and offer an alternative approach that emphasizes building habits instead.Many of us are familiar with the idea of setting goals. Whether it’s losing weight, saving money, or achieving a career milestone,…

[chennaiviswa]

[borngeniusworld]

Atomic Habits -The top 10 lessons

Here are the top 10 lessons from James Clear’s book Atomic Habits: 1. The Power of Tiny Gains: Small habits compound over time. Improving by just 1% each day leads to significant changes over a year. 2. Focus on Systems, Not Goals: Goals are about the results you want to achieve, while systems are about the processes that lead to those results. Building effective systems is key to long-term…

[humming-fly]

I love how Gerald was trying to keep Shadow from spoiling anything about the future meanwhile literally everything Shadow says and does around Maria is the biggest death flag ever

[alchemusprime]

3 Relationships Chronically Busy People Are Avoiding

Lately, I have been reflecting a lot on my relationships, and how important it is to nurture them. However, the nurturing needs to be reciprocal. I am no longer present to relationships where I am the only one tending the connection. I have people around me that I love, who seem chronically busy. They are going at breakneck speed in their lives whether it’s professionally or personally. Their…

[behaviorally-balanced]

The most important relationship is the one you cultivate with yourself. Learn how to practice self-love HERE.

[hello-thefatlosshabit-blr]

HOW TO OVERCOME OUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE

It is helpful to simplify the brain into two distinct entities: the conscious (prefrontal cortex) and the subconscious (basal ganglia). The former is our Rider, and the latter is our Elephant. The Rider wants us to develop good habits. The rest of the brain is satisfied with things the way they are and doesn’t see a need to change. It likes its routines and the rewards associated with them. The…

[pebblegalaxy]

Mastering the Art of Small Changes: How Atomic Habits Can Transform Your Life #TBRChallenge #bookchatter @Blogchatter

Building Success One Habit at a Time: Insights from James Clear’s Atomic Habits In a world obsessed with radical change and overnight success, James Clear’s Atomic Habits offers a refreshingly practical perspective that focuses on the power of small, incremental habits. The book suggests that the key to achieving long-term goals and making significant life changes isn’t in making massive leaps,…

[dibator]

Passion Struck, by Author, Speaker, and Podcaster John R. Miles  

Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life Written by the leading authority on intentional behavior change, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster John R. Miles   The book is available worldwide in print and digital format by Post Hill Press Inside of you resides an intentional life without limits.The time has come to awaken it. Are you living…

[babyspacebatclone]

One of the big paradigm shifts when starting to be a daycare teacher was “Tell them what to do, and not what to avoid.”

It’s hard, to start; now, five years later, it’s second nature.

It’s not “Don’t climb” - it’s “Feet on the floor!”

When a child knocks down (their) tower of blocks, you say “Use your hands!” and model how to safely have the fun of destruction without the risk of high speed blocks kicked into another child’s face. (well, reduced risk, but since you’re modeling a push and not a hit and the kids’ arms aren’t as strong as their legs…)

“That’s not a chair!” is a good one; you’re not chastising a child for sitting, but emphasizing that they need to find a safe way to do it. You start having dialogues about how to let them do the behavior they want in a safe way, “Should we go get a chair?” or “You can sit over here, away from the kids playing.”

Also, and always, acknowledge when you make mistakes! Especially stuff related to the very things you tell the child not to do!

“Oh, no, I wasn’t watching where I was going and stepped on a toy! Is it broken? I have to be more careful!”

Is a child biting? You, as the adult, need to figure out why, and provide alternatives.

Are they angry? How can they express their anger in a better way? Give older children the words to express themselves, give younger children safe body motions to signal they need your help in moderating their emotions. We work on teaching toddlers to stomp when angry, burn off the energy in a more controlled way that lets us see how they are feeling.

Is it stimulation? Get teethers, get chewlry, let them have something to occupy their mouth.

This worked with me all the way back in the first grade. Undiagnosed AuDHD in the 1980s, I’d finish my school work and be bored. So, I put on little “plays,” bouncing my pencil and eraser around inside my metal desk to distract myself.

But the bouncing + metal was a problem.

My teacher didn’t just tell me to stop, she taught me to twiddle my thumbs.

Hands clasped together, I was quiet, and spinning my thumbs as fast as I could gave me motion stimming while seated nicely in my chair.

And if I forgot, and did my “plays,” I knew what my alternative was.

Teach children the behavior you want

over focusing on the behavior you don’t want.

It’s like driving: you go where you’re looking. If you’re too focused on the arch and not the open space your car’s supposed to go, you’re going to crash.

(Yes, Canada’s Worst Driver fan, 😊)

Actually, because I'm still riled up about this:

If you tell your kid to change their behavior, without having a conversation as to how, here's a few problems you might encounter:

- their change in behavior changes their daily routine, and you take issue with this/comment on it/etc, leaving them feeling like trying to fix the issue only made it worse and/or you're just a tyrant who's never happy with anything.

- they start avoiding all conflict with you by hiding what they're doing or avoiding you--the problem, in their mind, has shifted from 'how to be better at X' to 'how to not have my parent be unhappy with me, because that makes me feel awful' (this trend may well continue into adulthood, btw. Not great for any future relationships!)

- they genuinely try to change, it works for a while, and then, human-manner, there's a failure point and you end up having this conversation again. You still act like you don't trust them, like they never put the work in at all, and they learn that they can't afford to fail or be human around you. They don't trust you with their struggles, and they know you don't trust them. Fun little family environment you've made here.

When I make a mistake at work, I apologize and my boss asks me what could help me do better, and what problems I've been having, and how they can help. When I hurt a friend or loved one by accident, I apologize and we hug and we talk about how to fix it.

At no point do they claim I'm not really sorry or that they won't trust me again until I've proven I can do better, because that's not how adult conversations are supposed to go. That's not how communication is supposed to go. And I'm an adult. Why is this person giving their own child less grace, less consideration, less care than I get from my boss in one of the lowest-paid departments of my workplace? It's just. I can't fathom it.