#Ageing

[akajustmerry]

please watch @theabigailthorn's latest philosophy tube for free therapy <3

[she-is-ovarit]

Elders, seniors, "old people"... they are going through:

Witnessing their classmates, best friends, significant others, loved ones die at an unsettling pace.

Being isolated.

Experiencing frightening and invasive health issues.

Being reminded repeatedly in their daily lives that they are closer to dying than most people.

Wondering if they'll be abused in nursing homes.

Wondering if some day they'll get cancer or Alzheimers.

Their children and the younger generation treating them with impatience and as if they are stupid despite them living through generations of history.

Being completely disregarded and devalued by broader society.

Psychologically trying to work towards acceptance of age and deteriorating health.

Wondering if they'll end up in a nursing home with no visits from loved ones.

Ending up in a nursing home, often uprooted from where they've lived for years.

Being unable to live independently.

Becoming severely disabled

Being abused in private.

Being completely ignored by those they depend on for care.

Having to navigate wills for the first time and choosing what to give to whom, minding family member needs and dynamics in addition to legalese.

Being taken advantage of and scammed through technology and processes that confuse them.

Experiencing memory lapses and confusion, often alone.

Struggling to communicate.

Being treated and percieved as "outdated".

Having to quit jobs they've loved.

Sometimes coming to the realization that they're not able to take care of their pet.

Experiencing losing their bladders and the embarrassment and shame that comes with it.

Having no mentors anymore.

The least we can do is listen, be patient, and not cast them aside. They have less time than most of us on this earth and they are choosing to spend some of it with us.

[sunbleached-journal]

[one-time-i-dreamt]

Buying ramen aged me by 50 years and I was convinced buying better ramen would return me to my original age.

[videoreligion]

Dark Universe (1993)

[odinsblog]

[asynca]

saw a post about someone lamenting about "getting old" when TURNING 25!!! acting like their life is over. And folks, I can see how you'd be conditioned to feel like that, but it's a total fucking lie.

got to say my 40s have been amazing so far. living my best life!! love my job, love my kids, I love my friends and (most of) my family, but most of all I love myself. That's been the difference, having perspective to know that only a small number of opinions about what I'm like as a person matter. I'm still learning new skills, having new adventures and failing to cook a single decent fucking meal (I'll get there). Parts of me are wrinkling, sagging or stretched. Could not give a single shit. Honestly, each decade of my life gets better and better.

It's not "all downhill from here" once you leave your 20s. There's amazing experiences out there waiting for you in every decade of your life. You haven't had your last adventure, and, statistically, the best time of your life is ahead of you.

[tiktok-singularity]

Words of wisdom

[blackswaneuroparedux]

Quaeris, quid doceam? Etiam seni esse discendum.*

Seneca

You ask, what may I teach? That an old man must learn too.*

Marcel Duchamp plays chess with Eve Babitz, 1963.

[quietlotus]

“We turn not older with years, but newer every day.”

— Emily Dickinson

[talkingpersonal]

5 Fruits with anti-ageing properties

[aestheteinreverie]

an under-appreciated joy of mid to late 20s is watching your friends starting to take care of themselves. we used to roll eyes at wellness together but now you tell me that you want to get some glass jars for meal-prepping breakfast. another friend sends me a picture of her chia seed pudding: “i used that recipe from the reel you sent.” the friend that has taken up journaling tells me to junk-journal: “you will document every mundane day of your life; it will be nice to look back on when we are old.” all these women that you grew up with, being angry with the world and hurting yourself in the process, are now taking care of themselves not just in spite of the anger, but because of it. we are finding the little things that make us happy and engaging in self care that we used to scoff at, because loving and taking care of yourself is the most revolutionary act there is.

[thepersonalwords]

She looked at his face. So old and wrinkled. So beautiful and just right.

R.J. Lawrence, The Xactilias Project

[supervillainny]

Don’t put too much weight on your youth, kids. Remember for most of your life, you won’t be - and what are you gonna do then?

Cultivate joy that resonates with your intrinsic self - for that matter, develop an intrinsic self that you like and want to spend time with.

Don’t put temporal limits on your own happiness, and don’t let other people’s judgement put them on you, either.

Don’t pin all your joys to a fleeting youth that will shrivel in your grip as you desperately cling to it - look up. Look around. Look outside yourself and find happiness that stays.

[redrcs]

A study in ageing.

Gladioli in my garden