#AND IM SUPPOSED TO BE ARO???

[b0ytr4sh]

me having my 3rd sexuality crisis of the week <33

[october-cryptixx]

aro/ace themed valentine's day teddy bears ^^ because i just recently found out i might be arospec but also just cuz like..... why not

[redysetdare]

A character looks straight into the camera and says "I'm not interested in romance" and people will still say "No, it's not confirmed they're aromantic!!!" "They could change their mind!!!" "it's a challenge for them to overcome!!!" "They'll have character development that makes them fall in love"

It's like they are given the most blatant answer to a character romantic orientation and they actively ignore it. all the while all it takes is subtext for people to speak as if it is fact for a character to be any other sexuality.

[nerves-nebula]

im so funny, i was like

"yeah i enjoy romance but not that basic 'omg i just wanna hug you and kiss you and love you and snuggle you' shit that makes me sooo uneasy. i just want a comfortable silence and someone i know i can trust and watch stuff with and feel comfortable around no matter what. someone i can really fully trust that I don't have to put on a whole weird lovey dovey show around. that other stuff feels so fake and forced and weird, even if it's true it's like, oh my god shut up what are you talking about." <- IDIOT!!!! YOU'RE AROMANTIC. GOD.

[radios-universe]

interesting observation i just made about my aromanticism….

when cuddling with someone, something in theory i am totally comfortable with, it’s the Absence of any kind of ‘excitement’ that means, for me, that i ‘have feelings’ for someone - by that, i more mean platonic, (non-sexual) sensual attraction and feelings.

for example, when i cuddle someone and my heart is beating out of its chest… something people would say is nerves because you like someone, or something alone the lines of that, for me… that’s just pure nerves and anxiety. it’s because i’m cuddling someone i’m not totally okay with being affectionate with, or built up to that at all.

meanwhile, if i am completely calm… i’m not thinking about anything else, my heart rate is calm, i’m not worried about my breathing or my positioning… i’m comfortable. this is someone i am more than happy to be in this position with because i have the feelings and attraction towards them that make me desire such an act….

does that make sense??? idk. it sounds ridiculous. it also kind of fucks me up because there is ONE person in this world who has made me feel calm and safe and comfortable in such a situation and they are…. i just don’t really know if they would commit to me the same way i would to them…! so. yeah…!

[productofaritual]

I've gotten so used to seeing aroace positivity on all the social media I'm on that getting asked "so like, do you have a boyfriend already?" genuinely fucking startled me

[parchmentknight]

realizing that i am an outlier in fandoms because i do not ship anyone with anyone

[noodle8]

btw maybe this is just me but it kinda sucks that the fallout 4 sphere is so critically centered around the companions and the theoretical romance that involves them. I don't believe that shipping is bad at all as a concept but fo4 content is so bloated by every single little factor about the conventionally attractive companions that it all just blends into mindless white noise I think. Not to mention how the most milquetoast danse/nick/hancock/deacon whatever post will get hundreds of notes even if it's the most basic trope abiding thing ever, while I've seen genuinely incredible art relating to deeper themes/imagery in the game or written content that examines concepts I've never seen anyone bring up get largely ignored.

It also sucks on a practical level because god forbid you do explore the tags looking for original content, you're gonna have to go extremely deep to find anything that isn't a companions react! or a companions in bed! post that ignores X6 or most of the female companions and adds maxson or sturges instead lol

[jadetheblade4]

What do I call these emotions? Are they wanted or unwanted?

[zymstarz]

yeah sure that's how i'll [re]come out

[actuallysafe-for-aro]

Still makes me an angry when people say "acespec" when they mean "aspec"

In a poll asking if people are aroace aroallo or alloace, don't call it a "poll for acespec people" when it's not just acespec.

And also don't get annoyed at people for pointing it out

[ilovedthestars]

I really need like. A dating sim where I can just set people up with each other and never date anyone. Or a similar style of game but based around friendship. It seems like such a fun type of game to me and I want to try it out, but even dipping my toe into romance options in a mostly-not-romance-focused game has squicked me pretty hard in the past. Where is the dating sim for the romance repulsed aros out there. I need this to exist

[redysetdare]

I'm making a separate post this the OG post took off before I could ever fix the typo but supporting aspec people ALSO means respecting and supporting Aplatonic aspecs. Those guys are not less human for not creating platonic relationships. Same with Plato repulsed people. You cannot ostracize on part of the community just because you don't understand their experience and that makes you uncomfortable.

[lesbiantrish]

hdjd /neg i feel like im about to cry

[dazzlingqwq]

i think i understand platonic attraction now

can i feel platonic attraction towards fictional characters?

[deva-26]