#-about it everyone assumes youre the same as the people who genuinely see no issues because theyre the loudest.

[ohana-system]

It's because there have been numerous instances of someone coming into the Tulpamancy community, thinking they have a tulpa, when reality, they have an alter and have a dissociative disorder. Tulpamancy and DID are more known than non-Tulpamancy, non-disordered Plurality, especially because of media (often harmfully) portraying these concepts. Therefore, it is easier for someone to come across the Tulpamancy community first. Yes, you could say that this is equally-likely for a non-disordered plural, but I have seen the former more often, and it's important to direct them to the right resources.

First of all, thank you for actually taking the time to answer. Had this been the initial response, I would have said "Oh I see, that makes some sense to me, thank you." And that would have been the extent of the conversation. I am mentioning this, not to shame, but to give an example of why it can be better to assume good intentions and be open to simply answering questions for someone who simply didn't understand you the first time. Even if you perceive that your intention is crystal clear, it probably isn't to everyone. And no one should be shamed for needing clarification because they aren't an English major, nor are they capable of reading your thought process through a minimal text post. I am saying this as someone who himself struggles with trying not to be offended when people misunderstand me. The way I am currently trying to imagine that you might not be accustom to the way I am accustom to making points when bringing up concerns because it seems like most of what I said didn't actually make the point I wanted it to.

This doesn't come off as someone who wants to have a genuine discussion, especially when they go in the same post:

First of all, I was not the one who jumped to insults and disparaging comments because I made assumptions about someone's intentions. So that feels a bit like you are trying to put this all on me, which is unfair of you. I also do not personally understand how you seem to have interpreted two entirely different concepts as hypocrisy when both can exist at the same time. "Hey, I have an issue with what you said, and from my perspective, you are coming off as offensive." Is not equal to "You're an asshole and I'm assuming you meant to be intentionally offensive." I am not calling you classist and ablest. What I said was, you are coming off as those things. It's an invitation for you to clarify your actual intent. Didn't you get upset with me for this same exact thing when I offended you for not reading the very specific intention of your wording? And now it feels as if you are changing the rules for how you think one should read things. According to what I understand, what you were essentially trying to say was that the way words are written should be read literally, correct? Then why is it that when I clearly write out my intention in plain English that I am not trying to be hostile, suddenly it's decided that I actually meant the exact opposite of that? I am genuinely confused at this point.

This is just incorrect. Language and wording matters.

Yes they do, specifically in a professional context. My point, however, is that this is Tumblr. This is a post on a public internet platform that is subject to everyone and comprised mainly of young people and people of average literacy at best. Your expectation for people to read everything you post with the insight of an English major is absurd.

And your own point defeats itself because yes, everyone does understand differently, but there is an infinite amount of ways things can be interpreted and understood. Do you reasonably expect someone to list every single way what is intended to be a short post can be interpreted every single time? Do you think that's reasonable? Especially in this circumstance where you are the only one so far who's had an issue with the post? Could you not also expect someone to try and look at a post from more than one angle? Do you think the responsibility should solely rest on the poster for that?

This is where I see I did not clarify my intention enough. I was not asking why you weren't specific about "XYZ" because I think that you should have actually included all of that context. I didn't actually expect you to answer all of those extra questions. I was trying to make a point, which was: if you want to get stuck on being specific, then why would you yourself not be much more specific than you were? I apologize for not properly conveying that.

Again, I am a busy person with things outside of the Plurality community I deal with, and I do not have the time or energy to pour that much into a single post anymore. You can notice this by looking through this blog's activity and see how dead it is compared a few years ago.

That's fine, but I don't really understand why you'd make a post that could spark conversation in that case, especially one you feel the need to be defensive over. I also don't understand why I'm expected to go through your blog history to put your post into context but you aren't expected to provide clarification when someone brings up a concern as if other people don't also have busy lives? Again, that's a genuine question.

If someone blindly takes the word of a short, random Tumblr post without conducting any further research, that indicates a deeper issue than the post itself. And in that post, I did encourage the reader to research dissociative disorders if they believe what I listed applies to them. Again, what is the worst that can happen for that? They look into it and decide they don't match the rest of the criteria?

You know what? This is a good point. You are absolutely correct. I'm sorry that I missed that initially. You did infact encourage research.

I literally already explained that no, this is not "incredibly common" in the Tulpamancy community specifically. It is not. That is simple fact. Points like this showcase that you're not familiar with the community this post is oriented towards. I've been in this community for almost eight years now and have seen all kinds of experiences from all kinds of people, and let me tell you, no, it's not common for a tulpa and host to randomly switch without warning unless in highly niche situations, that was intentionally trained or the system became disordered due to things like later trauma, or they're a mixed system, etc. It obviously is in the broader community, but the post wasn't for the random non-Tulpamancy plural.

Ah I see, I was having trouble keeping this in the context of specifically the tulpa community. That is indeed a mistake on my end. However, you are quite mistaken. While I may not be up-to-date, I too, started off in the tulpa community before discovering we were a mixed origin system and being diagnosed with DID. That would be the reason I was invested in this post at all.

Your last two comments fall under the part where I failed to convey that I didn't actually expect answers to those questions but instead tried to use them to make a point.

Now, I'm sorry that I seem to somehow fail to come off as genuine. This happens quite often to me specifically. I am personally very frustrated that everyone seems to take everything I say as a fight instead of just taking the time to answer my questions and explain things to me no matter how many times I reassure them that the intent they perceive does not match the intent inside of my head.

However, I am also getting an overall less than tasteful picture of you as well for multiple reasons: You were immediately defensive, you assumed the worst of me despite clear use of a tone tag, your first instinct was to interact with me by insulting me, you did not apologize for directly and intentionally insulting me, and you seem very closed off to criticism and polite discussion.

For this reason, if there is no change, I will simply regard you as someone who is best not to interact with and bid you adieu.

- Rue

Potential Red Flag that More than Tulpamancy Is Happening

If you and your tulpa(s) randomly switch (as in neither party consciously initiated it) or experience involuntary switches, that is not normal in Tulpamancy. Switching isn't random or involuntary in Tulpamancy; it's most often a mutual agreement between systemmates and a conscious thing that occurs. Tulpas don't randomly take front without warning or involuntarily in response to certain stimuli.

If you experience random/involuntary switching more than the random freak occurrence, you should look into dissociative disorders because this may be a symptom of something like DID.

6-5-2025

[co27]

i guess my question is why DOES nuance immediately become looked down upon when it comes to that one webcomic

[cupcakeslushie]

I’ve been debating on saying something because I have a lot of thoughts about this, but I just want to say a quick (maybe not so quick) thought…

“Comfort Character” is not a declaration of ownership. Just because you relate to a character deeply, and see yourself in them, does not mean you get to go around policing the stories that get told regarding them, or the how they’re depicted in said stories.

I wanna be clear. Im not saying you can’t pose genuine questions and have perfectly reasonable discussions about the intricacies of hard topics. In fact, fiction can even help make those discussions easier to digest by lowering the stakes, because there are not any actual stakes when none of it is real.

Unfortunately, I’ve been seeing the entire opposite. People taking stories that may make them “uncomfy”, and declaring that they’ve now decided they are taking it personally, to near obsessive levels. You are not the only one allowed to play with these characters. It is a huge sandbox, and these toys are mass produced enough for everyone to have their own doll to do with whatever they’d like.

I get you might see yourself in a character, but that doesn’t give you the right to go around sending death threats just because someone wrote, or drew your current blorbo in an unfavorable light. Prioritizing some cluster of lines and colors over the mental health and safety of actual real human beings, is worse than whatever fictional, moral “atrocity” that you think you’re championing against. You only end up sounding just like the people calling for book banning in schools.

You are not the character. You are not being hurt. The character is not even being hurt, because they do not in fact, exist to actually experience any of the pain creators are putting them through. And most importantly, you have no claim on how other people entertain themselves with said character. Because that is what these characters are. Entertainment. They can be used in good or bad stories. If you don’t like how a creator is using them. Move on. Don’t send death threats or attacks.

Block and filter your tags.

I have triggers, but that is my issue to control and maintain. It is appreciated when steps are taken by creators to help me avoid the things that trigger me, but I don’t wish death and pain on anyone who doesn’t view the world through the same lens as myself, and might not have considered my own personal feelings on the matter. My feelings of unease or anxiety from coming into contact with my own triggers, might be valid, but initiating an attack on a creator, because I took a personal offense to their story, is not. I do not outright assume that something was created with me and my tastes in mind.

Also, this is not aimed at any one person. This is a rampant issue that I have seen first hand, going back all the way to more than a year ago. I’ve seen it happen in multiple fandoms, but as I spend most of my time in the Rise fandom, that’s where I see the worst of it. I’ve received attacks, I know other creators have received attacks, and if this keeps up, creators will just stop wanting to share anything at all.

I also need to emphasize, I’m not mad. This is not a lashing out. This is just a frustrating and hurtful trend to constantly witness, when creators are putting their own heart, time, and energy into creating intriguing and complex works of all kinds in order to broaden the beauty of this fandom, and they’re getting anonymous messages to kill themselves.

Please think about the real life person behind the art and stories you are consuming, instead of prioritizing the fictional comfort of made up characters inside the story, that will in actuality, never have any opinions on what’s being done to them. Because they do not exist.

[juicebuck]

i saw a post earlier that i now can't find that talked about buck making assumptions about other people. particularly when it comes to eddie. and GOD. yeah. it's been rotating in my mind ever since. the way buck has assumed the worst about eddie on multiple occasions this season instead of talking to him. and i actually do think a lot of this is due to buck’s black and white, all or nothing thinking. and most recently, in 8x17, was exacerbated by the grief assessments. significantly this is something he does when he is Hurting. when his abandonment issues are triggered. this is clear in 8x09 and 10. where he's consistently implying that leaving LA means nothing to eddie. eddie's an "abandoner", who doesn't "know how to stay" and is leaving him "like it’s nothing" and this is, well. it's buck struggling with black and white thinking. unable to see any inbetween so coming to the worst possible conclusion about eddie and lashing out. and it's hurtful. that's an extremely hurtful thing for eddie to hear. that buck thinks eddie can so easily toss their friendship aside. that it's nothing to him. and then, same again in 8x17. buck assumes eddie (and everyone else too) is doing fine, an assumption based on Grief Assessments rather than actual conversation, and feels like he's the only one struggling, that no one needs him, that he’s been abandoned in his grief. buck literally says, "sorry i'm sad bobby's dead" and it's passive aggressive. it's implying eddie's Not sad, that he’s not grieving too. and it fucking Hurts eddie that buck would think that. that buck hasn't even—not just that he hasn't even asked. but hasn't even considered what it's been like for him. because he made another assumption instead of talking to him. and then, eddie opens up about it. about the guilt he feels about not having been there. and buck's response is "you don't think i did everything i could to save him?" and it's. God. it's painful to watch. because buck's still doing it. he's still making passive-aggressive assumptions instead of having a conversation. takes it as an accusation. when it's eddie starting to deflate and trying to actually talk about what it was like.

and i say all of this as someone who has a lot of experience being in buck's shoes in this situation. in assuming the worst in people when you're hurting. it's an extremely difficult mindset to break. and it's an extremely painful mindset to try and navigate life with. because your first instinct when you are hurt will always be that assumption. i have had so much therapy. but it's STILL my first instinct. i'm just able to challenge it better now. and i don't think that buck actually does believe what he is saying and what he is implying. he's just lashing out. because he's grieving and he's not in a space right now where he is able to challenge those assumptions and that black and white thinking. grief is a fucking horrible beast. you can have had all the therapy in the world and react like you haven't (i don't think buck has had all the therapy in the world but. a point he does make is that he's had enough therapy. he THINKS he's handling it in like, a healthy way. when he's not.)

and to be clear. this isn’t about making eddie the Right One in this situation either. they have both handled it all Badly. and they've clashed because they have both handled it badly in Different ways. ways that inevitably conflicted. and eddie gets mean directly. when he's hurt. buck gets mean by making assumptions with passive-aggressive implications (i.e. sorry i'm sad bobby's dead. implication: eddie's not) but eddie is more direct. he'll outright say it (i.e. making it all about you). but acting like those two things don't hold equal weight, acting like eddie is Wrong and buck is Right is genuinely fucking insane and a gross misunderstanding of the scene. the kitchen scene was so, so good. because it was such a raw expression of grief, and the conflicting ways people lash out at those they love when grieving. buck was lashing out just as much as eddie was. just because he didn't yell about it doesn't make it not true.

[mixingandmelting]

Winter Series: Day 3 - 2D vs 3D

Summary: He finds out you have a list of 2D characters you love and would stay committed for life

Dick: has an issue with it

Has the famous Dick Grayson’s frown on his face when he finds it

Doesn’t appreciate it and despite trying to pretend it doesn’t affect him, he throws a fuss going how they’re not even real

Went to the point of his voice cracking and  high pitched when he got to the part about their shippings with yourself and to other characters you also are in love with

Grumbles when he watches and reads the series your favorites are from with you and on his own, constantly going “I can do better than them” 

If you ever were to jab him by asking if he can do something only they can do and he obviously can’t, that will genuinely tip him off and get extremely sulky where he’ll be venting to everyone both in the chatroom, joint missions, etc., while to you he pulls the pettiest of all pettiness he’s ever done

Eventually let’s up when you confront and tell him that he was obviously the only one you love and ever be with along you choosing him over any 2D character as you couldn’t imagine life without him

Also gives in and starts adding notes of his own on to your list because he does admit some of them are cool

Tim: isn’t bothered and actually cool with it

Does any eyebrow raise when he finds it

Sort of figured it was those character pairing lists but with how thorough your notes are, also entertained the thought that it was a hit list

More open minded and tries to understand why you were to enamored by un-real, fictional characters

Ends up joining you in adding notes to your list as he also gets into the same characters you like, especially seeing why with context

Literally, he’s going through the whole character-analysis meme where he discusses socioeconomic factors and symbolism to psychological influence of the character’s past during his talk with you, which is a sign that he is fangirling just as much in his own way 

He’s so engrossed he does the forbidden and starts reading/watching ahead of you for more scenes of the characters

When asked by the others about it, he’s the one getting defensive as if the list was originally his and he liked them before you

Jason: has his own list

bold of you to assume that you were the only one to have a list 

Right on spot critics how you have your lists organized and your ranking of characters

Gives you 10 points for color coordination but what were those notes in graphite? Excuse you but you are not a true stan if you write in pencil. If anything you are a coward

Doesn’t get why you’re surprised that he has his own list considering he’s into literature so of course he’d know more and up-to-date for any series that were adaptations having read the original source first

Causes an argument to break out over him gloating he’s the OG fan since day 1 to who you have ranked higher, lower, or not on your list

First off, you’re wrong. Ichigo should’ve been with Rukia and Toji is more badass than Gojo. He does agrees Drarry had potential and Stoik is a badass viking

The two of you end up staying up all night trying to prove each other who’s right and logical regarding each other’s lists and end at 5:00 AM with deciding to treat other's list with "respect"

Duke: doesn’t get it

Can’t wrap his mind around you simping over a character, in general

There’s genuinely no jealousy, he just feels confuse how you could this passionate with people who aren’t even real 

He gets it if your characters were just your favorite, he can get that. He has favorite characters from the shows he watches too but to your extent?

Passes the list off with the awkward “sure” and nod of head when you get passionate and pull up your slide shows as to why he should also stan and simp over them with you

Reminds you that the characters you’re head-over-heels for are fictional, not people in real-life 

Starts to understand why you like the characters you like so much when he joins in watching/reading whatever series you were into currently 

He does end up creating a “just-like” character list where he writes the characters’ name and from what series. No notes like you though, he still stays realistic

Damian: obliterates it on spot

Your list is gone the second he finds it. Ripped. Crumpled. Burned. Gone

Will not acknowledge that he was in the wrong seeing how you weren’t as excited with him as you are with those fake people that exists only in books and TV shows

Makes excuses how teens shouldn’t be that invested in things kids like and doesn’t seem like a mature hobby at all when he’s burning with jealousy

Pettily wages a silent war against you when you give him the silent treatment until a week passes, making him realize he probably crossed the line

During the time he figures out a way to get in your good grace again, he does try watching and reading whatever was on the list

He hasn’t and will never tell you this but you do have good taste. Just that your favorite characters shouldn’t be your favorite when one, he’s better than them and two, there were far more superior characters

Gets you to forgive him when he hands you your list he re-wrote and tolerates you having one. He still sneers at the characters on it and argues how the ones he likes are better than them

Just make sure to hide your shrine, `cause those are going to be permanently removed and never restored

[pseudophan]

PHANNIE COOKBOOK SIGN-UPS!!

Do you have a really good recipe you think Dan and Phil would enjoy? Consider submitting it to this collaborative phannie cookbook that will be given to DnP at a meet & greet! It will also be available to everyone to download as a PDF.

Family recipes or your favourite dish from your country/culture is a bonus, but it doesn’t have to be that personal. All I ask is that you don’t go rip something random off the Internet right now just to be in the book, I want food you genuinely enjoy!

I’ve decided the most efficient way of doing this is to let you submit up to 3 different options, that way if there are any repeats (and I’m certain there will be) I won’t have to message everyone it concerns to ask if you have any alternatives. Besides, that way I can choose which version gets in based on your other options rather than which one “sounds better” to me, cause I think that would be a little unfair. I also have no idea how many people will actually participate in this yet, which is currently the biggest hurdle in terms of planning. If only a few sign up there is a chance we’ll end up using multiple recipes by some, and if somehow we get too many I’ll have to pick and choose. I do really want to include as many people as possible, but until I actually see the recipes it’s hard to tell what will end up happening.

The main focus of this will be actual food, but we obviously need to include a few desserts, so feel free to submit those as well just be aware the chances of those getting picked might be lower. The same goes for soups, I assume a lot of people have soup recipes and we might include a couple, but for obvious reasons it's a low priority.

Some key things to keep in mind:

Phil is a bit picky and has some dietary restrictions! He shouldn’t have dairy or chocolate and he doesn’t like cheese or mushrooms, among other things. That doesn’t mean you have to avoid these things entirely, but maybe your grandma’s mac and cheese recipe isn’t the best choice

While neither of them is vegan they do eat a lot of vegan food, so we definitely need some vegan dishes. I also think it would be really great if you suggested vegetarian and/or vegan substitutions you know work well with your recipe! That isn’t a must for every dish, but it’s a nice addition where possible

Tragically, Dan and Phil are British, meaning they won’t necessarily have access to all the same ingredients as you. Luckily they are also rich and live in a major city with a lot of options so they aren’t limited to what they can find at their local Tesco, but since the aim of this book is to encourage them to cook we probably shouldn’t be sending them on a scavenger hunt either. I don’t think this will be a huge issue, but if your recipe calls for something you think might be very niche or local to you it might be worth googling it or asking around

The final book will be using UK measurements, but if your recipe doesn’t then don’t even worry about it for now. We’ll get to that later. You also don’t have to worry about typing out the whole step-by-step in detail in the sign-up form, I just need a list of the ingredients and roughly how to prepare it to gauge whether it’s a good fit.

I promise I’m almost done yapping but lastly, about some of the questions on the form - you don’t need to know exactly how long the dish takes to prepare, that will depend on the person or people making it anyway, but we do need a rough estimate. The difficulty level is obviously quite subjective, but I just want to hear how you personally would rank it, and if there is a specific part of the process you think someone who doesn’t cook a lot might struggle with. As for the last question about photos, I’m asking both if you have the time and opportunity to make the food and if you are able to take a good photo of it. Obviously it doesn’t have to be anything professional, a phone camera is fine, it just needs to be well lit and decent quality.

Okay, I think that’s everything-

Here's the sign-up form

The deadline is in a week, at midnight Thursday to Friday CET :)

(I also made a blog for this @phookbook for information and updates! A lot of it will probably still be on this blog, but I'll try to post/reblog the most important things on there for those who want to keep up with everything but who may not want to deal with all the chaos of pseudophan)

[fairestwriting]

Hi, I just found your blog and saw requests are open.

Can I request Riddle, Ruggie and Rook with a reader who avoids using their names (instead using nicknames, last names, "hey you", etc) and their reactions when they discover it's because she has trouble saying words that start with "R" and is self conscious about it?

𐙚 Riddle Rosehearts

He’s kind of conflicted about it, but not because he immediately clocks it as a strange thing, and that makes him see you as a strange person, or anything like that— No, it has nothing to do with his opinion. But it does have everything to do with Heartslabyul’s mile long list of rules, many of which mention things of etiquette and behavior. Many of which are also very similar, making it so that even Riddle, who’s memorized them, has trouble telling them apart.

Greeting someone and not using their name, isn’t there some rule somewhere that warns against that? He’s pretty sure he’s seen one, maybe, probably… Riddle goes over them in his mind while he’s talking to you, and he almost commits to spacing out, or maybe he almost remembers whatever he was trying to search for in his mind. But his attention is completely taken by the fact that, well… you’re just a really polite, nice person. Going out of your way to have a conversation with him and everything.

…So he can overlook that minor slight, then. Of course. And as time goes on, Riddle genuinely just stops noticing it. Unintentionally, he’s actually a much more accommodating person than he seems. He subconsciously assumes that’s just how you talk to people, and you were so perfectly polite and nice otherwise, he just starts to tune it out. But then, he realizes you do refer to others by their name— You do it with Ace, then with Deuce, one afternoon where the three of you are in the Heartslabyul dorm sipping tea. So Riddle, trying his best and secretly delighted at having a new person to talk to… starts to wonder if you just had some kind of issue with him. And that thought makes him anxious.

It takes him a while of mulling over it to get the courage to ask you. ”Why do you not… use my name?” Genuinely thinking you might have an issue with him or something like it, the poor guy. You’re embarrassed to admit you actually just didn’t want to mess up his name, since you had a speech impediment and all that— And before you could really launch into explaining yourself, you’re stopped by the sight of the tension so visibly dropping from his body, while at the same time, he awkwardly apologizes for the misunderstanding. ”I m-mean, I thought it was…” His face is all red from embarrassment, he shakes his head. ”Ahem… you could’ve just told me that sooner. I wouldn’t judge you for something like that. And if anyone in this dorm dares to, it’ll be off with their head.”

𐙚 Ruggie Bucchi

Doesn’t even bat an eye. ”Hey you” is probably more of a familiar greeting to him than ”Hey Ruggie”, he likes how casual it feels. It’s a little homey even. He returns it with a grin, chiming “Hey yourself!” before he hops onto the seat next to yours. The only opinion he forms from this first impression is that you seem friendly and fun to talk to. In a laid back sort of way even, kind of like himself. And well, he’s happy about that. He thinks you two will get along great.

Ruggie really just won’t think about it unless you specifically bring it up. There’s a limit to how many R sounds you can avoid in conversation before he notices you talk a little differently, sure. But even the way you hesitate for a bit before saying certain words — when you’re trying to think of a substitute — just registers as a quirk of yours. You know, everyone has those little things that make them speak differently from others.

Eventually, it kind of slips, while you’re right in the middle of a conversation with him too. You wince, your entire face feeling hot, and apologize. Ruggie blinks, and asks you what for. You’re left staring at each other, you might even question if he’s actually making fun of you—

”Oh, you say your Rs different. Kinda sounds like a guy I know from my Potions class.” He realizes eventually, and cracks a smile as he points it out. Not really the most tactful way to go about it, sure… he’ll genuinely apologize if that makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s not really his intention. It’s just that it’s so not a big deal to him, it kind of slips his mind that it might be a sore spot for some people. He prompts you to continue talking anyway, and you might try to explain yourself or something like it, your own self-consciousness pressuring you— But even if you’re embarrassed by the whole thing, Ruggie just continues to smile, relaxed as ever. ”Nah, really, keep talking. Why’d I mind that? It’s just how you speak, shishi.”

𐙚 Rook Hunt

Rook notices and takes note of it, going as far as to file it away in his mind— But he also does with every single other quirk in every single interesting person he meets. It’s not something that he doesn’t see, but it’s also not something he’s going to be thinking about that much. At least while he doesn’t know much more about you, his mind couldn’t be further away from hyperfixating in such a small detail. He just wants to get to know you better, because you’re interesting, because there’s a certain type of beauty to you, unrelated but not entirely to your speech — Of course, since that’s an important part of anyone’s selfhood.

And when it comes to interesting people he knows, Rook likes to listen to them as they talk… so it won’t be too long until he notices there’s a little bit of an unusual feel to your speech. You seem to circumvent saying certain words, and his own name is included in that list. He wonders why. The look you get on your face feels like it hints at it being more than just the way you talk.

Honestly, he probably will just realize what’s going on sooner or later. Maybe sooner than later. There’s a ton of other reasons why he finds you interesting, the speech thing is just a detail in a massive picture, and Rook is all about noticing details. Even if you avoid pronouncing any word with an R sound in it at all, after some time, he’s just estimated that you pronounce them differently by listening to how you say other words. And he won’t say a thing about it, though if you did ask what he thought about it, he’d probably say it’s just part of your own unique type of beautiful, or something like that.

He won’t really react at all if you “slip up”, or even if you decide to be upfront with him about it. “Non, Mademoiselle, there is no need for all that. I’d love to hear the rest of what you have to say, regardless of how it’s said.” He smiles at you, from ear to ear, that very Rook-like knowing smile that lets you know there’s no element of surprise to him in this. It might feel embarrassing at first, suddenly being aware that he’s just… known, for this whole time. And like Ruggie, he’ll apologize if his words come across as insensitive in any way, of course, the last thing he wants is for you to feel bad about yourself in any way! He definitely won’t hold back on reassuring you that the way you speak is not and will never be something he sees as bad or embarrassing, about how it’s beautiful in its own way, you know how it goes—It’s Rook. He does, however, really want to hear you say his name now that his theory is confirmed… but that’s just his curiosity, and he won’t pressure you to do it, of course.

if you like my work you can support me by commissioning me or tipping me on ko-fi ── ᵎᵎ ✦

[ffwriting]

MHA character - Cheating

If I think these Mha characters would realistically cheat on their s/o. Except I'm completely honest, and probably a little ooc (whoops)

ALSO, this is purely for funzies, write the characters however you wish. I don't even follow these when I'm writing for them. (Please don't hate on me)

cw: GN reader, no y/n, angst-ish, short but to the point, lmk if there are others.

Characters: Izuku Midoriya, Katsuki Bakugo, Shoto Todoroki, Ejiro Kirishima, Denki Kaminari, Sero Hanta, Mina Ashido, Tenya Iida, Mezo Shoji, Fumikage Tokoyami, Hitoshi Shinsou, Mirio Togata, Tamaki Amajiki, Shota Aizawa, Hawks (Keigo Takami), Tomura Shigiraki, Dabi (Touya Todoroki)

Izuku Midoriya - No

I just can't see it. He is too nervous around people in general, and IF he had a partner, I can see him being pretty loyal

Katsuki Bakugo - No

This is 'no' for an entirely different reason. I just can't see him dating anyone to cheat on in the first place.

If he did somehow date someone, he wouldn't bother even trying to cheat. If he wanted to be with someone else, he would just dump you.

Shoto Todoroki - No

Same with the others, I can't see him getting into a relationship to cheat on. But if he did I don't think he has the emotional capacity to try to do something with another person.

If it does, I feel like he wouldn't understand the actions or try to stop it from happening.

Ejiro Kirishima - No

His whole motto is being 'manly.' He wouldn't cheat.

I feel like he would hate cheaters with a passion and beat up any of your friends' boyfriends if they cheated.

Denki Kaminari - Maybe

He seems like the type who would be casually flirty with any girl that he finds attractive. That in and of itself is no real issue, BUT I have a feeling that he would be flirting with a girl, do something, and then realize that he is technically cheating after it is too late and someone else points it out to him.

Would be under specific circumstances, though.

Sero Hanta - Yes.

He seems like too much of an 'oh well' kind of guy. He would probably be out doing something, a girl came up and asked for his number, and he gave it without a second thought.

Would probably not even be committed enough to you for it to even be considered as 'cheating' though.

Mina Ashido - No

To me, she is very loyal to the people she cares for. I also think she is the type of girl to date for the long run.

Tenya Iida - No

He would find it distasteful. Would think that it would be the utmost type of disrespect. If he even thought about cheating for a split second, he would be apologizing like no one's business.

Mezo Shoji - No

Do I even have to explain why he wouldn't?

That man is insecure, loyal, and caring. You would not even see him think about cheating.

Fumikage Tokoyami - No

That guy held a crush for too long for him to see anyone else.

Dark Shadow would like to stir up drama between you two, but no actual cheating would go on.

Hitoshi Shinsou - No

If he liked you, he would like you. He isn't going to cheat on you.

Would actually avoid other people the second he could tell that they liked him.

Mirio Togata - Kinda?

Would be wayyy too friendly with others. Would exchange numbers, call, and hang out with other people. He would just be too kind to say no. It wouldn't matter if the people were obviously flirting; he wouldn't stop them until it was too late. Only then would he realize.

Tamaki Amajiki - No

Assume that you do get into a relationship with him. There is no way that he is cheating. You would have to physically drag him out of the house to even socialize. It would be a cold day in hell before he would socialize, romanticize, and cheat on you.

Shota Aizawa - No

He barely puts up with you, if he does at all.

If he got with you, then it means that you were just his type. Everyone else would get the Miss Joke treatment.

Hawks (Keigo Takami) - Yes

That is not even because of his playboy persona. I think he is genuinely dumb about relationships. Would not understand fully why he has to 'stay loyal.'

ALSO, if he ever got into a relationship, I can fully see it being because of the hero commission. He wouldn't care about staying loyal if that was the reason you two got together.

Tomura Shigiraki - No

AFO He sees relationships as a weakness. Wouldn't even get in a relationship with you in the first place. There wouldn't even be a person for him to 'cheat' on.

Dabi (Touya Todoroki) - Yes?

Technically, he would never get along with you.

If he did, you would not be his only partner.

I did this in one sitting as well.

I am unstoppable. (for now.)

[showtoonzfan]

I am really getting tired of fans responding with “everyone responds to trauma differently” to dismiss criticism Viv gets for how she portrays abuse and SA in her shows. Yes, everyone does respond to trauma differently, that doesn’t mean there’s not a right and wrong way to portray it in media. As a writer you can always improve your stuff and make it better than what it is now, there’s nothing stopping Viv from looking to improve. Feedback from others (especially from people who have been abused and/or SA’d) is important.

If Vivziepop was a normal person who didn’t see critique as a personal attack on her, she could actually use what people over the internet are telling her as a larger scope so she gets a better perspective of how other people feel, that way she can emotionally reach to multiple audiences in her work, instead of picking sides, dismissing and demonizing anyone who disagrees with her and assuming what she’s crafted is perfect with zero flaws.

Her major problem with how she portrays abuse as a whole is that she can’t make up her mind on what’s bad and what isn’t. In Helluva Boss, Blitz verbally abusing his employees is funny, but Stella verbally abusing Stolas is bad. Sexual harassment from Blitz, Stolas and Angel Dust are funny, but from Val it’s bad. Loona abusing Blitz is funny, but Stella abusing Stolas, Valentino abusing Angel, and Crimson abusing Moxxie is bad.

Then you watch livestreams of her talking about Stolitz and Huskerdust, and it really feels like she can’t tell the difference between genuine love and blatant sexual harassment, cause she talks as if the couples are lovey dovey when in reality they’re not. Then she has the issue of not reading the room, at times she can’t let a serious scene happen without cracking a joke or just letting the scene breathe. Moxxie’s abuse isn’t taken with the full respect it deserves, after he’s hit we cut to a dildo joke, then go from that to a sexual harassment song we’re supposed to find funny. Then the writers can’t even let him cry without a joke about Blitz and Chaz being loud during sex. This is the same woman who prides herself in how she wrote Angel Dust, an SA victim.

She comes off as an excruciatingly insensitive writer who can’t make up her mind wether she finds SA hot, or abuse funny or not. People genuinely look up to her, but she’d rather argue with people on Instagram/twitter who find her work dense/uncomfortable. She’s not even trying to make an effort in her writing cause she’s convinced it’s perfect, and it’s just wrong, especially to silence those who want to speak up about how she dealt with a serious topic, topics that deserve care and respect, not just “haha sex”.

[verysium]

bllk characters and what you think would be their type or what they find attractive in a girl?🙈💗💌

i mean... 🤔 do u want the truthful answer or do u want the ideal answer? cus i don't think any of the bllk boys (maybe with the exception of otoya and aiku) would have a type, much less let it be limited to a girl. but assuming they actually have a life outside of football, here are some traits they would find attractive in a person:

isagi would like someone he can see as a role model. throughout his life, he often finds figures that inspire him (eg. noel noa, ego, even rin if you squint hard enough). he doesn't idolize them, but he does find a way to incorporate their strengths into his playing style and actions. if you have a character trait he highly values, he will like you, and it's generally pretty easy to get him to like you. (unless of course, you're a massive dick like kaiser.)

i find that he gets along best with kurona and hiori. this is because (1) they can read his intentions well, and (2) they are quiet and level-headed. obviously, this would also apply to the romantic side of his life. isagi admires people who are similar to him but still have their own quirks and idiosyncrasies. for example, you subtly support him from behind the scenes and bring him snacks after practice and pack his bento every morning. he appreciates small gestures of kindness.

isagi is also someone very hot-headed as evidenced by his potty mouth. he likes someone who can match his energy and passion but is still calm enough to prevent him from doing anything rash. i picture him running up to you after a game, and the adrenaline causes him to pick you up from out of the stands and twirl you around in his arms.

canonically, isagi is unpopular with girls. he literally returned from valentine's day empty-handed. he tries to be nice most times, but truthfully, nothing except football really interests him. so if you can skip the small talk and start drafting football plays with him, i think he would be attracted to you. like very attracted.

unrelated but he likes someone with a pretty laugh.

bachira needs someone motherly. i feel like he never really got to be a child because everyone around him was constantly putting him down for being the "weird" kid. that's why his current personality is undeniably childish at times. it's the only way he can express the inner child he had before he grew up too fast. i think he'd like people who take care of him in a parental manner, whether that's scolding him for doing something stupid, wiping his chin cus he's a messy eater, or teaching him english every day.

i feel bachira is one of the most extroverted characters in blue lock. he genuinely thrives off his interactions with others. and for that reason, i think he'd be attracted to introverts because they differ so greatly from him. (he'd probably adopt them too.)

bachira has the most creative insults, and that's partially why he gets along so well with isagi. he's not afraid to get out of his comfort zone, nor is he afraid of pushing others to do the same. if this boy can hallucinate whole monsters, he can sure as hell rip his opponents into pieces. i feel like he'd have such a stark duality around you. he'd be beating the crap out of the other team, but the moment he sees you, he's all sunshine and rainbows and bounding over to ask you about your day and overshare about his.

ADHD. that's it. that's the quote. if you're hyperactive, then he's hyperactive, and you'll both be rocking the same boat. most people would assume he needs a grounding presence in his life, but i think post u-20 arc bachira is actually mature enough to process his own issues. now he just needs someone to let loose and have a little fun with.

rin needs a therapist. end of story. this boy is a whole case study. i don't think he's even mentally stable enough to have a romantic relationship. but if he were to date someone, i'd imagine that person is somewhat similar to isagi (and no, this is not a ship.)

isagi has something rin definitively lacks, and that is his strong, dynamic sense of self. when rin fails, he takes it heart. all solutions are linear and logical to him. if he missed a goal, it was because he didn't train hard enough. if he couldn't beat sae, it was because he just wasn't good enough.

but isagi completely changes his mindset every time he loses. (there's a reason why he's surrounded by puzzle pieces all the time.) analyzing is second nature to him. every failure is a catalyst for self-improvement, and he constantly breaks himself down in order to adapt and rebuild. rin needs someone like that in his life, someone who can teach him to be unafraid of change and embrace it instead.

rin also isn't immune to external influences. obviously, he is still learning to play football for himself. looking at the pxg version of him, he has had a significant change in mindset, but he still hasn't completely separated himself from this idea of "beating" someone in order to get to the top. according to his logic, if he surpasses both sae and isagi, he will finally be content. but the truth is, he won't be anywhere near content because his ego still isn't entirely his own. i think he would admire someone who refuses to let themselves be defined by others.

rin would also like someone who is patient because he clearly isn't. (boy was about to have a whole brain aneurysm when bachira threw that paper airplane at him.) honestly, you need to be both gentle and persistent with him. he hates it when people come on too strong, but he also finds his walls slowly crumbling when someone repeatedly goes out of their way to show that they care.

rin has a high level of emotional intelligence, as evidenced by sae's comments about his intuition. however, he can only work out a person's thought process about halfway before he starts to feel lost himself. for example, he can understand that sae dislikes losing, but he doesn't understand that it's innately tied to sae's self-worth and expectations as the eldest child/genius prodigy/role model. if he's going to romantically date anyone, then they need to be extremely skilled in the art of communication. otherwise, rin is going to easily misinterpret things.

finally, i think he'd like someone who knows how to comfort him. rin overthinks. like a lot. the cogs in his brain are constantly whirring. you need to lay him down on your lap and run your fingers through his hair and tell him that everything's going to be alright. (and it is going to be alright, because you're about to move both heaven and earth for him to make it stay that way.)

kaiser has no set type, but if he did, it would also be isagi (i'm sorry but yoichi is our harem princess for a reason.) kaiser oscillates between this superiority and inferiority complex. he even admits he was weak-hearted once.

any and all attraction is heightened for him because he gets obsessed easily. (like did you see his massive desktop displays of isagi? tell me that does not scream high-key yandere shit to you.)

however, more so than people, kaiser is fixated on ideals. he literally got a cheesy blue rose tattoo to remind himself that nothing is impossible, and he stands naked in front of his mirror every morning repeating the motto: "this is me." the self-esteem issues are glaringly obvious.

now, rather than completely shatter his entire worldview like isagi did, you need to be the one to gently (and i stress, gently) remind him that sometimes ideals aren't everything. kaiser is unpredictable, but the one thing that stays constant about him is the many masks he hides behind. everything is a role to him, and he takes center stage. but you need to convince him that none of this really matters. he doesn't need to bedazzle himself in tattoos and dye his hair and sport a mullet-rattail hybrid to be worthy of attention. sometimes his ugly bed head and dark circles are precisely the reason you love him.

second of all, you need to set firm boundaries (otherwise you'll end up like ness.) kaiser wants someone with a backbone, and he does not turn a blind eye to raw potential. victory is his end goal, and if you can bring him one step closer to that, he will stick to you. the only issue here is that you need to make sure he does not use you. and believe me, he will try. but if you draw a strong line between you two and stand your ground, he will start to see you in a new light. it can go both ways (love or hate), but either way you are someone important in his eyes.

lastly, i think he wants someone with a sense of humor. he's naturally cocky, and he needs someone to match his wit. ness already does that, but he doesn't give kaiser enough challenge. in my mind, i imagine kaiser trying to impress you with his german, but you give him a good run for his money when you already know how to speak it. things like that. he thinks it's hot when you can stand up to his level. but at the end of the day, your loyalty still lies with him, and you're not above/below him but rather the one standing beside him.

barou doesn't have a type. he is the type. you're lucky to have him.

otoya likes cute girls, even better when they have the standard fringe/bob cut look. he also lives for the height difference. teasing short girls by patting their heads is his signature move. he also likes it when girls wear lipgloss, like a sparkly candy pink shade, maybe even a spritz of perfume. he's also type to make fun of the little chubby pooch you get when you eat too much. he thinks it's adorable. personality-wise, it doesn't matter. he's going to cheat anyways. jk but on a more serious note, the person he's likely going to stay with forever is someone who can forgive his weaknesses and actually make the effort to understand him. instead of writing him off as an immature two-timer, he'd appreciate people who can actually hear him out. obviously, it doesn't excuse any of his actions, but it lets him know that you do indeed care.

aiku says he likes anyone who looks easy to break up with, but it's actually the opposite. he tends to go for older women who end up slapping him in the face. he's a womanizer, but he actually has a significant amount of character depth. generally, he's someone who goes with the flow, and nothing really upsets him. but to actually get to know him and his insecurities, you'd have to be someone really important to him. i think aiku is the type to be a serial dater before he finds someone he'll actually stick to. he's afraid of commitment, and it's for good reason. the authority figures in his life have failed him enough times to be considered unreliable. please be kind to him because the childhood trauma was not. i smell lots of emotional baggage here.

nagi likes the flame type because it has few weaknesses and helped him clear three levels in digimon. oh wait, you mean his ideal type? yeah, he does not know what that is, and he's too lazy to think of one. currently he's in the middle of fighting a custody battle for choki, and he's losing to a certain purple-haired freak. please come back later.

reo likes wine aunties lol. it's canon that he prefers older women, but i think it's just because they tend to know what they want. he likes people who have a set goal and are constantly working towards it. he himself diverts all his time and resources into football once he discovers that it is his calling.

i think he's the type to be extremely popular but not actually have any deep, long-lasting connections with any of his friends. he knows a lot of people, but he doesn't know them well. that's also why he gets so attached to nagi because nagi is the first person to really know him. in a way, i think that'd translate over to the people he loves as well. he likes people who don't beat around the bush. if they like him for who he is, they'll say it outright. he doesn't need to do any digging or engage in any form of the pretentious formalities he despises.

reo is rich, which is both a blessing and a curse. on one hand, he's all set for life, but on the other hand, it unfortunately makes many of his relationships conditional. he said it himself that people are often drawn to him because of his money. so i think he'd also like someone who isn't materialistic. he values honesty and genuine connection above all, so if you're ready to give him love regardless of his status, he'd sincerely love you too.

chigiri likes tomboys or any person with masculine characteristics. he's constantly getting mistaken for a girl at blue lock, so i think it'd just be funny to pair him up with someone who also shares the same androgynous plight. you two would bond over breaking gender norms.

he's a capricorn, and even if astrology is a pseudoscience, i still feel like the archetype fits him well. he refuses to let other people see him cry. he values his family a lot. he tends to be moody and intense at times. not to mention he is very goal-driven (excuse the pun.) based on that, i think he'd want someone calm and understanding. it's not that he needs someone else to work out his own problems for him. it's more so that he needs someone to remind him that he's still human sometimes. i feel like after his injury, he was sort of in this survival mode, constantly trying to prove himself and get back to the level he used to be at. but you need to remind him that he can relax once in a while. it's perfectly alright if he isn't as good as he used to be right now. progress comes at a different pace for everyone.

furthermore, chigiri tends to project a serious image most of the time, so i think it'd be nice if someone reminds him that he does have indeed an odd sense humor and his fair share of stupid moments, and that's totally okay too.

shidou likes anyone who doesn't like him, but this has to be done the right way. within blue lock, he's already sort of this outcast because no one understands his playing style (except maybe sae.) you need to show him that you value his eccentricities while also keeping him at an arm's length. he loves a challenge.

since he's someone unafraid to express himself, he likes to see that in another person. whether it's in your fashion sense, way of talking, body language, etc., he loves it when you act unapologetically yourself.

shidou is quite literally a dog kept on a leash, so you need to tug on that leash from time to time. he loves it when people attempt to tell him off and call him out for his bullshit. inhibition is a foreign concept to him, so he feels entertained when others try to teach it to him. he also thinks it's immensely sexy when you're angry at him. lord knows he is definitely going to slip that in mid-argument just so you can yell at him some more.

sae wouldn't even believe in the concept of a "type" in general because he thinks it's stupid to categorize people based on an ideal and fixed set of characteristics. (that's pretty rich coming from a guy who calls people who don't meet his standards lukewarm but we're just gonna ignore his hypocrisy.) either way, he has a non-traditional view of love and attraction.

i do think he likes people who are solid and reliable, and they can continuously yield quality results. he would also want someone who is as ambitious as him because i don't think he can realistically get along with someone who has no dreams or aspirations. it just doesn't fit well with his driven personality.

people who are empathetic and emotionally intuitive intrigue him since that's something he lacks. personally, i think he'd like someone who is mature (doesn't matter if they're older or younger.) if you can teach him something useful, he find you worthy of his time. and if you can read his feelings without him even telling you, he would consider you someone special.

sae needs someone who holds similar ideals to him but doesn't follow him blindly. (notice how he hated it when rin blindly relied on his assists when they were children.) he want someone who is independent because he is also highly independent. however, the difference is that they also actively make room in their life for other people, and that is something sae doesn't know how to do.

there's a point of growth somewhere in your relationship where you call out his mistakes and set him on the right path. sae struggles a lot with his definition of victory, and he finds it difficult to curb his greed. his ego is what sets him apart from everyone else, so failure is not an option in his books. unfortunately, this is also why he loses some of his original spark/motivation. you need to be someone who can tell him that failure is not a weakness, and sometimes the journey matters more than the ending.

also this poor boy needs someone to teach him social cues because i don’t really think he knows how to read the room. he’d probably unintentionally insult a chairman or investor, and you’ll be trailing after him with a sheepish smile as you bow and apologize for him. (i feel bad for his manager.)

[thesmophorus]

here’s my hot take of the night:

the e-temples that have been cropping up lately are cool, and im glad to see people making specific spaces to come together to worship. that’s awesome! i’m very here for that as a concept. i love nothing more than to see the theoi get the praise they deserve.

that being said, i am very wary about the amount of people i have seen calling themselves priests/priestesses lately. not even just in the e-temples! ive seen multiple people in the tags who have in their bio “priest(ess) of [deity].” i realize most people probably don’t mean harm by it, but it gets under my skin. to call yourself clergy implies a specific level of knowledge and experience with a religion (which isn’t my business to get involved in your praxis like that, that’s personal unless you wanna share it), but more importantly, official recognition by an established institution. there are not that many of these (that i am aware of) for hellenic polytheism. calling yourself clergy is simply that — calling yourself that. there’s no backing for it, and it genuinely concerns me.

we as the polytheist community talk a lot about harmful practices in spirituality, things like spiritual psychosis or cultural appropriation, which are important topics to discuss. it’s been said before and i’ll say again — people claiming to be spiritual authorities of some kind without any kind of proof can be very dangerous. i don’t assume anyone has bad intentions. i give people the benefit of the doubt and assume that everyone is just trying to help other people worship. but it doesn’t change the fact that calling yourself a priest(ess) will make impressionable or unsure people look up to you, and that is a hell of a lot of responsibility. i am concerned that there are minors running these kinds of blogs. that’s a lot of pressure on someone’s shoulders, especially to put on someone who is still growing up and developing their research and critical thinking skills. i don’t want to gatekeep or anything like that. im very glad to see minors having really good experiences with their faith, that they’re excited to share it with others. but it just concerns me.

im certainly not as experienced as other practitioners on this site, having had about two years of experience at this point, but i am very wary of anyone who claims to be any kind of authority on anything unless you can back it up. regardless of if your blog says that you’re not an authority, calling yourself clergy of any kind implies that. people will take it that way. it inherently implies a level of authority, knowledge, and experience on a particular subject, which is usually backed up by having an official institution that recognizes you.

perhaps this is a little callous of me, but in the same way that when someone makes a claim about the theoi academically, i expect them to have sources to prove it, i expect clergy to have some kind of proof of their authority. otherwise, what are you doing that’s different than any other tumblr blog?

to be clear, i don’t have an issue with these devotional spaces. i simply take an issue with people referring to themselves as clergy when that is a particular term with a particular context and a particular implication. words have power. i earnestly think if people just called themselves something like ‘stewards’ of a particular temple, i wouldn’t be so bothered by it. or just call yourself a devotee of a particular god. ultimately, at the end of the day, the words we use have power and implications, and that has to be acknowledged and respected. send tweet

[bluedeedeedoop]

Alright! My Andor thoughts and a bit of a wild take of mine.

but to be honest, it shouldn't be considered a wild take.

(kind of spoilers under the cut?)

The people who say that Andor is boring, dull, too wordy, uninteresting, etc. are essentially outing themself for having 0 media literacy and comprehension skills.

You can not like the show, i'm not saying you can't, it can genuinely not be your thing and that's okay; but to outright say it's bad with zero genuine reasoning as to why you think that and then take the time to complain about it anyway, you're just setting yourself up at this point.

Along that note:

You can have your own opinions about whatever you want, but at the same time I feel as if we need to factor in some media literacy with this guys.. I thought it was common sense that a franchise practically about fighting fascists and fascism as a whole was going to include the good, the bad, AND the ugly. Meaning: darker themes were and are a major possibility. Andor itself was never shy about bringing up the intensity and crushing devastations that was brought along with the empire!

I recently saw a post but it was soon deleted, but I got the gist of it so i will quote what I recall.

Andor season 1 had horrific torture scenes, prison labor death camps, lynching, stalking, murder, bombings, you fucking name it. but the moment that there's a scene that depicts sexual violence, that being something that women ESPECIALLY undocumented women are at risk of, it's suddenly too dark?

I think it's important to address these types of issues in media in order to bring awareness to the severity of it! Not to mention it's quite literally happening as we speak!! Andor season 2 is ON THE DOT to bringing up real issues that are happening today, planet destruction, immigration abuse, immigrant violence, cmon guys! Do we just not like getting told what's happening right in front of us? And as for a supposed line being crossed with the Star wars franchise since sexual violence was brought up, when and where did we even draw that supposed line? was it with the child murder and child abduction? the genocide? the discriminatory violence? slavery? war crimes? murder? Honestly, that statement is so ironic on such an astronomical level that it's insane.

Yes, it is extremely distressing, and I think it's fair to assume everyone watching the scene with Bix and the officer felt absolutely sick to their stomach and that reaction is completely valid and non-negotiable.

However, that doesn't give us a reason to dismiss it. Could it have used a warning? Probably, but like I said before, Andor has never been shy about discussing intense issues in a series about political war and violence, so I feel like it's important to go into it already expecting dark topics. They have made it very clear that they aren't holding back. Do people think we enjoyed watching that extremely distressing scene? That we're happy that it was included? What, that everyone is cheering because someone said the word rape? If that's your take away from seeing everyone's reactions to it, that is quite literally, again, a media literacy issue.

And in my opinion, I think it's powerful to bring awareness to it in Andor since so many people can easily dismiss this type of thing in every day news, but not when it's in their fictional media. Now it's uncomfortable; now it's present.

Yes, Star Wars is an escapism for MANY but let me say this; Escapism does not equal ignorance.

Be as mad about the reality shown in Andor as much as you want, but don't go saying that Star wars "took it too far" because as I stated before, how far is too far?

And before people go throwing fits, AGAIN; i'm not saying you're not allowed to dislike Andor! Literally like and dislike whatever you want; I am simply stating and pointing out the irony and hypocrisy of many statements and arguments i've seen online so far.

[thetepes]

Not to play devils advocate, but I feel like lilys opinion on the usage of the n word is valid. Regardless of someone’s race, I think it’s a little backwards to dictate what someone has to say about another races cultures just because they’re white (or not of that culture), differing opinions aren’t the end of the world and hers wasn’t inherently racist I fear the same goes for the anime thing too, I’m sorry but Japan DOES have of a loli problem, even if her wording was extreme

I’m not white myself (to be fair, not black/japanese either), not that I think it matters to what I can and can’t say about this but I don’t want you to assume I am white because I somewhat defended lily, which is someone I did NOT want to run defense to but maybe I’m too conservative for this space but I mean this in the most respectful way possible, it feels like some of you are reaching on some things just to paint her in a worse light, as if she wasn’t already famously bad 😭

(Feel free to correct me, I’m not trying to be intentionally ignorant for the sake of it I’m just tired of hearing of a lot of echo chambers about the issue without getting to WHY what she says is racist when I think like pretty reasonable??)

Anon, my friend, I do not know how to break this to you, but that is racist. I know you do not mean to be. I know you're trying your best to be as inoffensive as possible. I'm going to do my very best to answer you genuinely because you seem genuine.

Saying Japan has a Loli problem is like saying America has a child pageant problem. It's there. It's a problem, but it's not something floating on the surface everyone in Japan is aware of the magnitude of. It's a niche genre of ero fiction that comes up about as much to your every day Japanese person as child pageants in America.

In the 80's there was this loli boom that took place where it split off from your more typical bishōjo into lolicon. You would find stuff like Future Boy under that genre long before you'd find any ero.

It wasn't until an otaku named Tsutomu Miyazaki was arrested in the late 80s that the darker side of loli came to the awareness of your every day Japanese person. It was a popular genre so there was a LOT of hentai of it. He killed and murdered several little girls between the ages of I think 3 to 6 and it started a panic very similar to the Satanic Panic that happened in USAmerica. He had a massive collection of anime and hentai. I mean massive. From normal things you'd see in Walmart to stuff you could only buy from very specific websites online no normal person would even know about. It wasn't just Loli that was effected though it was all anime.

It's why Otaku culture was so repressed and shameful for a long time and it even killed the Loli boom because the style was associated with the killings. It wasn't until very recently that Otaku culture made a come back, but still Loli isn't making that come back because of the online opinion on Lolicon. It's gone from an art style to something a lot darker and I think that's where the communication sort of faulters? Because if you say to a Japanese person "you have a loli problem" they're going to think you're having a Satanic Panic moment at them.

At least that's been my experience.

This whole thing is why there was the Moe boom in the 2000's, it was an over correction on the part of artists. Trying desperately to get away from that label and people taking advantage of that as well to make slop.

The rise of the Lolita in Harajuku also muddied the water on this because there's an entire beautiful subculture there that branches into a thousand different expressions. "You have a loli problem!" What's the problem with girls in frilly dresses?

You as someone online, who is adept at being online, in critical spaces and animation/anime spaces have so much more exposure to this stuff than anyone on the daily in Japan.

The entire world has a porn problem. The entire world has a sexualizing little girls problem. To point at Japan and specifically repeatedly deem the entire country as having an issue with pedophilia is racist. To go out of your way to bring it up when you're not even discussing anime or Japan is racist. When your hate and ignorance for a place and it's people bleeds into everything you do

That is racism.

[yamujiburo]

1. You are INCREDIBLY patient when replying to asks. You always politely link them to your FAQ or to your master post. For the bad faith asks, you always are kind in your responses. I wanted to give you kudos. Even though you are well within your right to ignore/skip these asks, you still put thought into your responses. I'm giving you some kind words because I just KNOW it would be draining getting the same messages all the time.

2. I'm a fat person, and I've got a whole host of body issues, but your Jessie really helps with my self confidence. She still sees herself as sexy, and Delia still sees her as sexy (probably sexier lol). I also loved your logic behind the character design: sometimes healing and stability bring weight gain. That in itself has made me feel a bit better about myself. Not trying to treat you as a therapist. I just want you to know the impact your Jessie can have. It's so rare that we see fat characters in a positive light! I do hate how many people have a problem with your design though. :(

3. Aroace James also makes me feel seen. I am coming to terms with the fact I may be aroace myself, and it's been hard. I've always loved James, and I'm grateful you've spun him into a character I can relate to. I'm always all over your blog looking for more James crumbs lol.

I appreciate it! I like to assume the best in people and always answer in good faith. While I wasn’t super vocal at the time, I’ve had my fair share of bad takes on the internet and I feel like those who responded to me with patience and understanding had a longer lasting impression on me and led me to change my mind later. Gave me much to think about. Not everyone’s entitled to that patience but I think there is merit to handling things with kindness sometimes. You never know who’s on the other side of the screen and what they’re saying could just be out of genuine ignorance. Sometimes someone putting it in a gentle way is just the push you need. A lot of the time, I think people just want to be heard and are also willing to listen if they don’t feel immediately shut down.

I’m glad you think so! I love seeing fat characters and I love seeing fat characters who love themselves. Fat is beautiful, fat is cute, fat is hot

Hahaha I should do more with him! Aroace James makes a lot of sense to me given his background. I try not to write ABOUT the experiences of identities outside of my own but I think it’s important to at least show it!

[valorantmenheadcanons]

Innocent and shy masc reader has an incredibly dirty search history and an even worse taste in porn, has a large collection of order receipts from bad dragon. Cypher goes snooping and finds this all out? They have a little "chat" about network security -🐩

this is like my biggest fear except with my parents accidentally opening one of my packages. its either shampoo or a toy gnmsfgns

cw: suggestive, mentions of Corn, technically kind of cyberstalking? it's cypher what do u expect

wc: 718

It's late when you hear a soft knock at your door. You put your phone down on the bed, wondering who's on the other side of the door, especially at this hour. You hope it isn't a call for a last minute mission- the last thing you want right now is to be in a plane in a matter of minutes, geared up to fight.

When you open the door, you're greeted to the sight of a familiar beige figure, standing just a little too close. Cypher never seemed to mind getting in other people's space as long as he was the one doing it; invade his and he'd scamper off in seconds. His blue mechanical eyes scan over you quickly, though in a way that reminds you of someone checking for weapons rather than looking appreciatively.

"I need to talk to you about something," the man chirps, inviting himself inside your room before you can say anything. He slides by you with a careful hand on your shoulder, the leathery material of his gloves cool against your skin. You flush a little at the contact, fleeting but strangely electrifying. You shut your door behind him, folding your arms over your chest as you turn around to face him. You assume he's going to ask for a favour of some kind, or he wants to steal a piece of machinery from you, again, but you're really not in the mood to humour his requests, tired, and a little cranky because of it. Cypher pauses for a moment, hand half-raised in the air like he's trying to figure out exactly what he wants to say. "You know that I am very technology proficient, yes?"

You nod, frowning at the opening. He's usually pretty straightforward when he's asking for something.

"Come on, everyone knows to delete it afterwards. Are you trying to tease me?" Cypher's voice is smooth, peppy and cheerful but calculated, any hint of hesitancy gone. He's talking to you the same way he chides his opponents in a fight he's already won. The realisation sends a shiver up your spine- he knows something that either you don't know or don't want him to know. But you have an inkling, a gut feeling, that it's something you didn't want him to know. Not yet, anyways.

"What are you talking about?" You try, a little too quick to appear genuinely confused. Cypher's head only tilts minutely.

"You're too smart to be playing dumb. I mean, really?" Cypher scoffs, taking a few steps forwards, forcing you to take one back to maintain a semblance of distance between you two. "Looking up Moroccan models?" Another step forward, and your back brushes against the wall next to the door. "Picturing me as any one of them, hm?" Another step, and there's barely any space between you, and you want to die.

You hadn't intended for him to see any of that- although that meant he was snooping around your private search history, a whole other issue to tackle- but you also hadn't not intended for him to see any of that. It was a blurred line, your attraction to Cypher.

"'dirty talk in arabic'?" He has the decency to stifle a laugh, which only makes your face flush deeper, embarrassment, shame, and something else washing over you. "Mm, not to mention your purchasing history. Dirty, dirty, dirty boy," he clicks his tongue. "I thought you were all sweet, not so perverted."

You finally find your voice, the tips of your ears burning at this point. "I'm not the one snooping around in other people's stuff!" You tout back, a weak deflection.

"I'm not the one imagining their coworker is fucking them."

"Shut up!" You groan, really wishing with all your heart that you could be anywhere but here.

Cypher's beady blue eyes lift with a mirth you can sense through his mask. "Ohhh... but you like it. You're so red," and this time he does chuckle, mean and condescending, and damn if it doesn't send a little jolt of warmth through you, the idea that that little laugh is just for you to hear. "How about this: You show me which videos you like, and I'll give you a... personal lesson in how to delete your search history. How does that sound?"

[velvetvexations]

For years now we've been saying that TERFs were active participants in ace discourse and even admitted to using ace exclusionism to push TERF ideas. A lot of people didn't take it seriously and didn't think it was important, since most people consider ace issues to be some inconsequential footnote with no real impact. Now in 2025 we've got the TERF Queen JKR tweeting acephobic stuff and publicly mocking ace people.

Obviously, as a trans person, I know that the threats on trans rights are much more worrying right now, so I've kinda kept silent about that because I don't feel like it's appropriate to be like "ummm guys it's not just trans people that are attacked ! Ace people are targeted too akchually !". It's really not the time and place because the impact on trans people is much more pressing. But as an ace person it still really pains me to see. Everything that was rebranded "LGB" didn't just drop the "T", it dropped the "TQIA+" and it was very deliberate. You'll hear the "LGB" types loudly talk about how they don't want to be associated with the cringy terminally online fake labels of straight people facing no oppression and co-opting the gay movement because they want to feel special, pointing at NB people and aspecs. Even from "allies", it's completely normalized to mock these identities, use them as exemples of "terminally online SJW labels" or as a shorthand for "queer person I find annoying", to portray them as clueless privileged people facing no oppression (even when statistics say otherwise).

We're reluctantly given a seat at the queer table but everyone still finds it laughable if we ask for help or recognition. "what would you need that for ? No one cares that you're asexual" "worst thing you'll face is people not believing your identity... Other queer people actually get hatecrimed, you know". TERFs are literally agreeing and mocking us saying pretty much the same things. Even some trans people discussing JKR saying stuff like that were saying that she basically wasn't wrong.

It just feels so hopeless. Even people who are supportive don't bother spending time to advocate for us, it's just assumed that there's no need since we face no real issues, so saying "ace people are valid !" is the most our allies will do. Out of all my identities as a gay trans man, it's being ace that I struggle the most to accept. It's made me feel incredibly lonely and isolated, feeling like I don't even qualify as a human being, like my life genuinely isn't worth living, like I've failed at life because it made me defective, abnormal, unloveable, a failure unwanted even by my own community. A community supposed to welcome people who are different and struggling with their orientation. I feel like I can't even trust other queer people, despite having "valid" labels that would qualify as "really oppressed" in their eyes. I've seen how they talk about people like me, they don't even hide their contempt. Seeing other trans people so eager to agree with TERFs as long as they get to mock the dumb cringy aces. It's just so tiring.

I really regret not being more active in the ace discourse when that conflict was running hot. I love you, anon, and I'm sorry. <3