#(i go nonverbal when overwhelmed and/or frustrated)

[sl1nkie]

I thought my go to AAC app didn't work anymore (it put out weird glitchy noises instead of. words.) but i just had to change the speech engine I'm so fucking relieved <33

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

my frustration with “going nonverbal/nonspeaking” (as a fully nonverbal person)

transcript: my frustration with “going nonverbal/nonspeaking” (as a fully nonverbal person)

this written for instagram because of this post. but thought tumblr may like it too. “you” means general you, no one specific.

the instagram post and this on wordpress

this disclaimer is for instagram but also for anyone new to this discussion:

in full honestly, don’t know how to write this. am tired, language and complex ideas too much at time of writing, and general exhaust at having to argue same thing over and over again and justify own existence. tired of being minority within minority, wish there are others to do these work for me so i don’t have to do it all by self, singlehandedly advocate for everyone (not to mention problem with that—i can’t speak for everyone).

so honestly, if you don’t have anything nice to say, especially if you speaking (yes, even if you lose speech. include you), just don't say anything at all. move on.

online actually autistic community (AAut) dominated by white, lower support needs. level 1, speaking, late diagnosed, high masking autistics. find people like you is great, what not great is you treat your very narrow community as “voice of all autistic” and your experience as ultimate autistic experience. i write plenty about that, many more elaborate than this, if you not familiar with this concept.

many people in this community experience times when cannot speak, sometimes because overwhelm, shutdown, dissociate, or anxiety (situational mutism), but do not struggle with act of speaking rest of time (some struggle with speech all the time but still can speak - more on that later). the community call “going nonverbal/nonspeaking,” or even “when i am nonverbal nonspeaking” (not talking about those nonverbal as child and verbal now older), after clinical term “nonverbal” (nonverbal autism) and term coined by apraxic nonspeaking autistics “nonspeaking.”

both of which talk about it as an “all the time” experience.

when i search nonverbal or nonspeaking because i want community too, want see people like me too, two category i see: 1) parents of nonverbal nonspeaking children, whom can’t relate to because age, who can’t write own experience because their age and developmental ability. and 2) overwhelming amount of speaking autistic talk about going nonverbal going nonspeaking.

and the very very few fully nonverbal nonspeaking voices. drowned out. cannot find anyone.

nonverbal used to be term to describe us, people who can’t speak or cannot functionally speak beyond few words. medical term, alright, so some of us don’t like. so some of us reject that and create term all of our own, called nonspeaking. created by nonspeaking autistics with severe apraxia and brain body disconnect, describe their own experience of able to think in words able to spell out words (with great dedication and work and support), just cannot do that with mouth. their term. they create.

and you take it? without knowing context? without reading anything by those same nonspeaking coiners?

when is last time you purposely seek out nonverbal nonspeaking voices? when is last time you accidentally came across us? can you name any nonverbal nonspeaking advocate that talk about their experiences? one? two? three? a BIPOC person, a (specifically) Black person? a Black woman? a trans person? a physically disabled person? a person not from western world?

same narrative over and over. “i can speak for nonverbal autistic i understand their experience because i am autistic i can’t talk sometimes” no you cannot. as someone who was able to speak when young who lose speech (”go nonverbal”) but now have no speech to lose because full time nonverbal. no the experience not the same. not comparable. you gain it back. i don’t. you can explain with mouth words what happen when you get out. i can’t, i only have AAC. countless nonverbal nonspeaking people without AAC or sign cannot, at all. you never experience daily small and big struggle of casually being nonverbal all the time.

your experience of lose speech unique from my nonverbal. but if you so insist to compare and equate, you only guest to my experience, my daily life.

“when i go nonverbal and no one understand so have to force to speak” i cannot force words out. know you don’t mean to say this, and not saying you at fault for this, but nevertheless accidental perpetuate and reinforce idea that anyone who don’t speak can just be forced to speak if try hard enough. but often not how it works. and this exact harmful rhetoric devoid and delays nonverbal nonspeaking people given access to AAC, because “need try to force words out first, AAC unnatural so last resort.”

this may be new concept for you. new concept to instagram, to tiktok. to other places. it may seem i only one with this problem, “i once saw a nonspeaking person’s account and they don’t have problem.”

yeah, because we are not monolith. some nonverbal nonspeaking people don’t care. some nonverbal nonspeaking people may even welcome “go nonverbal nonspeaking” or “when i am nonverbal nonspeaking.”

but don’t be fooled into believe i only one. have many nonverbal/nonspeaking and/or higher support needs friends on tumblr, who talk about this who have been saying this for years. *years*. years before i joined. i am not creator, i only bring message here, because many of us are too high support needs too disabled to do anything else. many of us only stay on our small corner of tumblr because it most peaceful, because at least some listen, because least hostile, because need to defend our experience against our own community the least. (but it happens less doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, we still exhausted.) many of us only stay on our small corner of tumblr because that all we can handle, or because we not allowed or shouldn’t be on other social media because age or abilities or both.

i cannot handle conflict i do not do well and i shouldn’t be here. but if not me, who else? if i don’t do it, who else is going to?

some nonverbal nonspeaking people and parents of them may question, why you start debate about useless term when so many nonverbal nonspeaking people don’t even have access to communicate, real problems. to that i say i do those work too. and to that i say this is real problem too, because am autistic so online actually autistic community should also be my space too but it not. but it hostile. because am lonely because seeing yourself so crucial because don’t know anyone in person like me don’t have any friends in person like me, so i go online to find people like me and i cannot because no own term to search and what used to be term many people without similar experience insist they understand and can speak for me because they say we have similar experience. because this aloneness and the unique difficulty from being full time nonverbal and the struggle of future and the unique mistreatment from both outside but also inside community have drove me over edge many times and it is presence and knowing their presence of my tumblr nonverbal nonspeaking / higher support needs friends that gave me hope to stay. because so many people don’t listen and instead speak over. terminology only a symptom of problem. address roots, sure, but part of address roots is address symptoms.

‘well nonverbal people are never around” maybe it because you don’t make it welcome for us to join.

“fully nonverbal rare anyway” estimated 30% of us nonverbal nonspeaking, which this statistic probably only count those nonverbal since birth. even more are minimally speaking or without full functional communication, abilities limited to requests. sure, 30% still not majority. but significant amount never the less. speaking lower support needs autistic without intellectual disability not majority anyway too but your experience still deserve heard. ours too.

“see less nonverbal people because they don't have ability to communicate and use social media” yes, many nonverbal nonspeaking people not given access to communication (like AAC), forced to live in silence (because body language communication not enough alone!). silence from birth to teenage years, to adulthood, even until they die. some cannot understand social media or AAC because intellectual disability or cognitive ability. some not allowed on there because safety, some not allowed on because presumed incompetent and abused. all true. do you advocate for them too? or is it just talking point against me, pretend you care?

but not all of us, we exist. some of us thankfully supportive parents all along, parents given resources, us given resources, so we access to AAC since beginning. some of us became nonverbal later in life (which not same experience as those early in life, i acknowledge). some of us after years of forced silence, finally given access to AAC and can now communicate and advocate! some of us on social media - do you listen?

but you see none of us in your community anyway. maybe one token person.

you can go nonverbal. i cannot go verbal. see difference? you can come close to my experience, but i never will have (future) ability to go to yours.

it frustrate that have to specify am nonverbal **all the time** when write this, because if don’t do that will be assumed otherwise. frustrate that when in neurodivergent space stranger see me AAC they assume i can speak because they only know part time users (know part time users frustrate too because people assume they cannot speak and get surprised when they do. me being assumed automatic part time is not fault of part time AAC users.)

even been told am privileged to be nonverbal nonspeaking, privilege over speaking autistic who lose speech because in their mind it mean i get all support i need i get all recognition get all the representation. which. couldn’t be farther from truth.

all that. is fraction of reason i frustrate at “going nonverbal nonspeaking” and “when i was nonverbal nonspeaking.”

so many other words. lose speech. intermittent speech.

just want have own sub community where can find people similar experience.

[scarlethexelove]

You're My Comfort

Pairing: Natasha Romanoff x Reader

Word Count: 847

Warning: Tooth Rotting Fluff, Reader Doesn't Talk, Comfort, No Use Of Y/n.

A/n: I have been having a hard time the last few days so I wanted to write something sweet and fluffy with Nat. Reader is nonverbal in this, but only due to situational issues. Hope you guys enjoy the sweet little blurb I wrote. This was mostly to comfort myself and is an expression of how I react when I feel this way.

NO ONE IS PERMITTED TO STEAL, COPY, OR REBLOG MY WORK AS THEIR OWN

You wander the halls for 20 minutes searching for the one person who gives you comfort when you feel like this, but you haven’t been able to find her anywhere. You have checked all her regular spots and you're about to give up when you enter the common room. That is where you spot her. Natasha is sitting on the couch slightly hunched as you hear the clicks of a keyboard. You make your way over to her. You start to crawl in her lap despite the laptop already being there. She can tell immediately from the look in your eyes and your demeanor why you are here and why you are doing this. 

As you wiggle your way into her lap Natasha removes her feet from the coffee table and moves her laptop there. Which gives you the room that you desire. You sit facing her, wrapping your arms around her midsection and burying your head in her neck. Her arms wrap around you tightly and she kisses the side of your head. “Dorogaya what’s wrong?” She asks you, but all you do is let out a small whine. This lets Nat know all that she needs to. 

Nat has been your girlfriend for long enough to know your little quirks and just by what you are doing and what is going on. “Okay detka you don’t need to talk. Whenever you're ready I’m here.” She kisses the side of your head and gently scratches at your back. She is doing exactly what you need at this moment. 

You feel the tears well up into your eyes. You want to stop it but the overwhelming frustration and Nat’s love for you has the tears running down your cheeks and into her shirt. Nat holds you tighter and continues her light scratches. You start to cry more as you grip at the back of her shirt, your hands fisting at her shirt holding onto her as if she was going to disappear. Your whimpers are heard by the older woman. “Shhh sweet girl. Let it out. I’m not going anywhere.” She whispers in your ear. 

Your sobs break her heart. She hates when you feel this way. The world is overwhelming, frustrating you to the point that all you want to do is cry. So she holds you close, becoming your safe place to get away. You can cry on her shoulder soaking her shirt and getting the comfort and reassurance that you need. She lets you cry for as long as you need and nothing else matters to her in these moments. All she cares about is you and to make you feel better. 

Your sobs soon die down into sniffles and you pull out of Nat’s neck. She gives you that gentle smile that is reserved for only you. Her hands caressing your face gently wiping away the tears that remain. She leans forward kissing your forehead, then your nose, before gently kissing your lips. You enjoy the closeness nuzzling into her hand but you want to feel closer. So your hands move to the edge of her shirt and lightly raise it. She watches your moves, curious on what you are going to do next. You duck down and start to try and wiggle your way under her shirt 

Natasha can’t help the giggle escaping her lips at your wiggling and attempting to get in her shirt with her. You whine a little at the difficult angle of this. She notices this. “Hold on detka.” She holds onto you tightly and starts shifting the both of you. She lays down on the couch with you still on top of her. So you shuffle down and start to crawl under her shirt. You stretch her shirt as you do so but she doesn’t care. Your head ends up on her chest as you wrap your arms tightly around her waist. 

Natasha is able to stretch and grab a blanket laying it over the both of you. She goes back to gently scratching at your back. She can feel your body starting to get heavier on top of hers. Soon after she is sure that you have fallen asleep. Your breathing evening out and your body relaxed on top of hers. She smiles to herself, grateful that you feel so safe with her that you seek her out. It’s hard sometimes but she wouldn’t change it for the world. She would always be here for you and give you the love and safety that you need. You are her world and would do anything to see you smile.

Nat can feel her eyes getting heavy as she lays there and watches you. She leans down gently and kisses the top of your head the best she can at the angle and with her shirt in the way. “I love you detka. Forever and always” She whispers, laying back down. Her arms gently wrapped around you, relishing in the closeness and love that she feels for you. She finally lets herself drift off to sleep with you.

[dissociation-station123]

Small teaser:

I moved this to part of the serious due to the next chapter. It will refer to this bonus piece. (Hope it’s not confusing!)

I have been drafting a slowish burn fan-fic for Sylus from Love and Deep Space. I could not get the whole biker Sylus imagery out of my head so I wrote this! Please enjoy!

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“Want to get out of here?” Sylus asks, seeing your frustration with the crowd of people. You simply nod now nonverbal from being a bit overwhelmed. He takes your hand and guides you effortlessly around the throngs of people.

The cool air hits your overheated cheeks and you sigh content, now that you both are outside. “Want to go for a ride? The weather is perfect.” You imagine a nice drive with the windows down as the scenery passes by and it sounds like a wonderful idea so again you nod in agreement. He grins as he begins walking towards the small parking lot.

You are looking for a sleek muscle or possible luxury car based on his outward appearance. Expensive because he loves flashing that little black card around you as if it makes a difference.

He surprises you when he stops in front of a dark gray motorcycle instead. “Ooo no.” You shout on impulse, backing away slowly. Sylus still has your hand and yanks you forward.

“Don’t tell me you're scared.” He chuckles condescendingly with a cocky expression. You glare up at him and it only makes him laugh harder.

“Not scared. Just a logical person.” You grit your teeth in aggravation. He lets go of your hand only to pull out a helmet. “There is nothing to protect you.”

He takes hold of your shoulder and you tense. He leans in inches from your face with that staple fox-like smirk. His thumb swipes across your chin, you are momentarily stunned by his closeness.

“This will protect you sweetie.” Before you realize what is happening or could protest he shoves the helmet on your head, quickly strapping the chin strap in a fluid motion.

You begin cursing him to the fullest but your voice is muffled by the helmet. He nods as if he is listening yet it was obvious he heard nothing.

“Are you done throwing a tantrum?” You punch his shoulder and he is unbothered. “I promise to keep you safe. Come on live a little will ya. Aren’t you tired of playing it safe all the time?”

You really were. You were tired and slowly losing your mind over time. The same monotonous schedule over and over again. When you grow quiet he assumes your defeat.

“That’s it.” He purrs, leading you closer to the chunk of metal before you. “See this strap here. Don’t use it to hold on unless you want to bounce around. Cling to me instead. Got it?”

He takes your silence for understanding. “When I turn, lean with me. Or else we may become unbalanced and die in a fiery crash. Ready sweetie?” He does not pause for your consideration. You are lifted up and placed on the back, even as you claw to stay on the ground.

You grumble as he towers over you. He lifts the visor staring down at you. “I do need your consent.” Sylus waits as you ponder your decision. There is no huff of inpatients or teasing.

Your heart is racing at the idea of riding on this bike. You are scared there is no denying that. Yet his words from before ring true once again. You always walk on the line. You made sure to stay unnoticed until he saw you. “Alright let's do this.” You say with bated breath.

A beaming smile overtakes his face. His eyes glint with excitement. “So brave. I’m proud of you.” You fight the urge to spew insults as he pushes down the visor of the helmet once again. A part of you gushes at his praise and that annoys you.

You gulp as he throws his leg over the motorcycle. He looks back and you give him a shaky thumbs up causing him to chuckle as he places the key in the ignition.

He turns the key and the bike roars to life beneath you. Immediately you place your arms around him tightly. With the deafening growl you don’t hear him laugh, you just feel his chest vibrate against your touch. You can tell he is amused by your clingy ness before he even starts moving.

You shriek like a banshee when he pulls out of the parking space. Your own startled scream echoing within the confines of the helmet. You squeeze your eyes shut in panic. He causally pats your hand but it does not help calm you, not one bit.

You take in a deep breath still unable to pry yourself from his body as he turns onto the street. Sylus does not speed off at top speeds like you expect him to. He maintains a safe momentum down the road allowing you to take some control of your anxiety.

You begin repeating his instructions: hold onto him; when he turns lean with him to avoid crashing. This helps you to relax your chaotic thoughts of immediate death.

You slowly open your eyes and take in the scenery. The block was full of people clamoring from one bar to the next. You watched as their heads turned to get a glimpse of him as he drove by. Without even trying he is the center of attention.

Sylus taps your arm and motions for you to look forward. A sharp turn is quickly approaching and you nod your head in understanding. You grasp onto his waist and ready yourself to follow his motion.

You are hyper aware of his body as you lean against him. Completely focused on mimicking his posture. You follow his lead as it moves slightly to the left.

A jolt of excitement rushes through you as you zip through the curve. You giggle as the bike easily hugs the road. A sense of euphoria replaces the fear and you realize you are enjoying yourself.

So much so that you whine a bit when he is forced to stop at a red light. Once stopped you feel his hand glide to your thigh. He gives it a sharp squeeze and you jump in surprise. He turns and mouths, “Good job.”

The loud thumping from your chest due to the adrenaline travels lower. The steady hum under you, his fingers still wrapped around you, it is intoxicating. Sylus is dangerous in many ways. Like many dangerous things you could see yourself becoming addicted.

Before you could come to any realizations the light turns green and the bike takes off once again. Sylus releases his hold on your upper thigh and points forward.

A few miles a head lay two choices. You could remain riding on the back roads through downtown at a leisurely pace. OR you could merge onto the highway, a much more risky proposition. You weren’t sure why this simple decision felt so important. Stay safe or take a risk.

Overcome by the thrill of your first ride and feeling more rebellious you lean up against him. You nervously let go of his waist to point in the direction of the highway. His eyebrow raises, but he smirks.

You nod confirming your decision and you gasp as he squeezes your thigh once again. “My brave girl.” You couldn’t hear his words, the engine was too loud, but you read his lips. Your spine tingled and you were ready to embrace the chaos. Chaos did not seem so bad if Sylus was by your side.

[kittencomicslol]

Awake at night again unable to sleep. Decided to write another snuggle/comfort fic with Gyutaro but this time w demon Gyutaro!! Hooray :3

No TW’s, it’s literally just more tooth rotting fluff. It’s a little short but it’s nice. Did my best to spell check this one too but Y’know I was sleepy so if there’s any errors just lmk >_<

With a small little huff, Gyutaro laid down next to you on the bed. It had been a rather long day… Daki handled a Hashira rather immaturely. Though everything ended up fine after Gyutaro came quickly to defend her, and their secretive location didn’t get it out, it was still upsetting for Gyutaro. He tried to explain to Daki that she needed to be more careful about dealing with high ranking slayers and per usual, Daki got upset and whined about how he needed to let her be ‘more independent’.

Gyutaro didn’t try to push much since the last thing he would ever wanna do is upset his dear little sister, but he was still rightfully annoyed after their fight.

“Hey..”

You spoke out softly, your voice ringing in his ears in a way he could only describe as comforting. Somehow, your presence was always able to help him calm down even when in a fit of blind rage, and oh how he loved you so for it.

Gyutaro was still upset, and since he didn’t know how to properly handle or express his feelings he just let out an angry huff as he kept his back turned to you. Fortunately for him you knew him well enough to understand what was going on and how to help.

You weren’t pushy, and you didn’t ask him a bunch of questions or berate him. You simply scooted closer, gently wrapping your arms around his thin body and resting your head against his back. Gyutaros heart ached.

He loved how sweet you always were with him, how you handled him so gently as if he were the most precious thing in the world. He loved you dearly and if there was one thing he didn’t want, it was for you to be uncomfortable. He hated being the little spoon when you cuddled or having you up against his back. He knew his body wasn’t perfect.. he didn’t exactly mind. He was proud of his ugliness and how much of a monster he was, but he still knew that it would be less appealing to touch. He knew you claimed it was fine but he didn’t want you to be uncomfortable due to his weird protruding bony spine or hips.

He grumbled slightly, flipping over and gently pulling you against his chest. He made sure to not bring you too close though, out of fear his ribs might make you uncomfortable. But you didn’t seem to mind all that much when you gladly snuggled yourself up against him, resting your head against his weird skinny chest.

Gyutaro didn’t think he would ever fully comprehend how or why you were so comfortable with his deformed hideous body.. but it’s not like he was upset at you for it. If anything, he was impressed and thankful that someone could actually love him. He had grown up accepting the fact he would always be alone and became content with making Daki his top priority.. but then you came along.

Gyutaro grumbled, nothing coherent or of meaning; just a habit he had when thinking about something or having overwhelming feelings. He wanted to scratch himself since even thinking about the fact you loved him overwhelmed his senses.. but he didn’t. He wanted to keep you safe and comfortable, and right now that consisted of holding you close.

“It’s nice to see you, Gyutaro.. seems like you had a long day, hm?..”

Your voice was something he would never get used to either. But that wasn’t a bad thing at all, because he would never get tired of how soothing it was. He huffed in an upset manner and nodded slightly, seeming to be in a frustrated almost nonverbal state.

He was glad you never pushed when he was upset, because even if he knew he wouldn’t ever lash out or harm you because he loves you too much, he still got frustrated from questions when he was upset. He always found them so hard to answer when he was overwhelmed which only always caused a spiral into more anger.

A content sigh escaped the demon's lips as he felt your hand gently run along his back in a tender manner, selfishly indulging into all of the pampering you gave him despite his knowledge he did not deserve such love. It was only natural after all.

“Well, don’t worry.. we don’t have anything to do at all tonight… we can just relax.. sounds good?”

Simple yes or no questions were always better in moderation during such situations, especially if it was context to help him settle down. Gyutaro let out a grunt and nodded again, giving you a slight squeeze while keeping you held close.

You couldn’t help but smile, grateful he was trusting enough of you to confide in your comforts when he felt vulnerable. Hell, he didn’t even do this sort of thing with Daki.. he didn’t want her to think he was weak or unfit to protect her. Besides, Gyutaro knew very well she was just too young and immature to properly understand or handle his complex feelings. Gyutaro still loved Daki dearly and allowed her to confide in him when she was upset, but he never wanted to stress her. He only ever wanted the best for her, willing to overwork and stress himself to the bone just to make sure she didn’t have to raise a finger.

He was able to find solace in calmer moments, and was always able to push through even if he was ticked off and overwhelmed after extensive work. Your help was also another thing that helped keep him more stable.

Every time you helped him calm down or showed him love, Gyutaro seemed to understand why Daki enjoyed him helping her so much.

No wonder Daki confided in his assistance if being tended to and pampered felt this good.

“M’ proud of you, Gyu.. always working so hard.. you’re such a sweet man, you know that?”

Your voice cooed, causing his stomach to do flips from the simple words of praise that acknowledged his hard work. The words ‘sweet man’ were definitely not fitting for him in any other circumstances or around anyone else, and he knew that he wasn’t sweet. But he could care less, always brushing off the rationality and letting himself comfortably melt into your sweet words of affirmation and love. As long as he was with you, he was more than fine being a sweet man. Anything that made you happy, anything you wanted to call him.. he would love all of it, just seeing you smile is enough to make his heart race. He never realized how emotionally sensitive he was until he met you, but.. he doesn’t really mind it.

At first Gyutaro was worried and even intimidated by how you made him feel. fuzzy, comforted, calm.. all were signs of weakness to him, which was something that he couldn’t be based on what was instinctually ingrained into his head. At least.. that was until he actually started working with you and becoming more comfortable with the idea of feeling comfortable. He still hated the idea of being weak.. but he didn’t mind being calm for a little bit, even if it meant showing some weakness. He felt this way because you would be there, someone he knew that he could show these ‘weaknesses’ around without being viewed as lesser.

He grumbled softly, pulling you closer just ever so slightly. Gyutaro made sure to be gentle, always aware of his weird boney physique and always worried of hurting you, or even just making you uncomfortable.

“You did good today, Gyutaro.. so good. I’m so lucky to have you, and so is Daki.. you make us the luckiest souls in the world..”

These words were ones that he would never forget; Akin to whenever else you praised him. He would just never get over it, and never fully get used to how good and relaxing it truly felt. Despite what you claimed about you and Daki being the luckiest souls alive because of him, he felt the opposite. Because despite his misfortune, he honestly and truly believed he had to be one of the luckiest men alive to have gotten to meet and form a relationship with you. He was the luckiest man alive to be able to provide and care for his sister and you, and it was a task that made him feel something nothing else could.

Lying peacefully in your arms listening to sweet words of affirmation, for once Gyutaro truly felt at peace in this hectic life he upholds.

[lexithwrites]

any hcs for jartylus/jarty? (either is fine <3)

when they sleep reg is always in the middle, james is on his back and barty has his face smushed into the pillow

they're the definition of manipulate, mansplain and malewife plus gaslight, gatekeep and girlboss

james' favourite drink is a hot chocolate, reg's is matcha or an iced latte (wine if its a long day) and barty runs off of monster energy no matter what

they share a wardrobe

barty and james butt heads sometimes but its never bad, reg is always the mediator for them

when reg goes nonverbal barty and james tend to go quiet as well so he doesn't get overwhelmed

same if reg is on his period (i always hc reg as trans just so no ones confused!) they both make sure he's comfy and has snacks and plenty of cuddles

barty has night terrors so he sleeps on the edge of the bed because he's scared of thrashing but reg always cuddles him because he hates him being far away

james is first up in the morning, goes to the gym, then brings/makes them all breakfast

barty has never set foot in a gym but is somehow lean as fuck, reg's weight fluctuates so sometimes he's quite toned and other's he's a little chubbier and barty and james will never tell him that they love him like that

the sex dynamic is reg is in charge, barty and james are at his mercy, but they try and out dom each other which reg loves to watch

james and barty have this little thing together where if they both get mad they go boxing (james taught barty everything he knows and it really helps release pent up anger and frustration, this often leads to making out in the car)

regulus is usually cuddled up in the gaming chair playing bg3 in one of their hoodies because its his safe and quiet time

barty has hayfever and james always teases him for it until barty open mouth sneezes on him

james is the 'mother hen' on nights out, making sure everyone has water and gets food before going to bed

in dnd james plays a fighter or a druid, barty is either the dm or he plays a barbarian and reg is typically a rogue/wizard

they love cooking together since james' mum taught him loads of recipes and regulus tends to just let his boys cook for him as he sits on the counter and looks pretty drinking his wine, occasionally receiving kisses and thigh rubs

barty has the highest libido, then james, then regulus

but james has the most stamina

fav positions: barty - standing up/car sex/somewhere not in the bed because he's freaky james - doggy/missionary regulus - riding/prone bone

barty spams their groupchat whilst regulus basically never responds, james replies with cute emojis or a 5 minute voice note of his day so far

[vallification]

hello! i’m starting a series of jjk characters and their birth charts lol. i’m not going too deep into them, really just their big 3, but i thought this could be a fun way to show how i depict the various jjk characters! and of course weave in my own personal opinions/headcanons since we don’t have the information to find their rising signs. this is rudimentary at best, and i definitely got some parts of his character wrong, but oh well!!! i hope you like it. ps: it’s not edited or revised LMFAOOO.

satoru gojo! ☀️ sag / 🌙 pisces / 💫 leo

☀️ - sun in sagittarius makes gojo restless, energetic, extroverted, positive, and friendly. gojo shows us (and his students) time and time again that he’s ready for anything that comes his way. in his younger years, his readiness often came from a place of blind optimism, but as he got older we saw that he did his best to realistically weigh possible outcomes before making decisions. gojo likes a challenge, but his immense amount of strength often makes challenges a bit too easy for him, which could play a part in why he acts the way he does in battle— humor, flirting, etc.. gojo is extremely confident in his abilities, but i don’t personally believe it’s just because he knows he’s the strongest. while his knowledge of his strength is definitely a big part of it, in a way, gojo’s optimism and confidence lead him to believe he’s invincible and that everything will always work out for him in the end. he’s quick to tease and make light of situations, which is a common theme in his relationships with the people around him.

however, these positive attributes also have their downsides. his confidence and optimism cause him to take on a lot of responsibility before he truly knows he can handle it, and cause him to occasionally underestimate his opponents. we can see this in the shibuya arc, when he��s— not so much overpowered, but— overwhelmed. he lets his guard down after he’s taken care of the masses of transfigured humans, and then he’s caught off guard by who he believes to be geto, but is actually kenjaku. sun in sag has outright cons, too. gojo is quick to fall to his temper, especially when he’s frustrated, despite his temper not looking how most people’s look most of the time, (ex. his fight with jogo and hanami).

in lower stake situations, the positive attributes still manage to find a way to impact him negatively. the best example of this is geto’s descent into depression. gojo took geto’s placating comments at face value and his optimism let him believe that geto was fine. there were very few times that gojo asked more than one question about what was going on with his best friend, and i’ve seen some people frown upon that— i agree gojo should have pressed, but in a way, i think he believed that geto would have told him if something was really wrong. he’s direct and usually honest, so he blindly believed that geto would be, too.

🌙 - moon in pisces makes gojo sharp, intuitive, imaginative, caring, warm, and humorous. despite how many people depict gojo, he cares a lot more than he lets on. for example, in hidden inventory gojo wants to stay with rika at the beach for a bit longer, and while that can mostly be attributed to other things, it’s due in part to his knowledge that rika is still a young girl going through some crazy shit. he cares deeply about protecting people, and uses his intuition and sharp insight to weigh the risks and benefits of situations where he may either need to be protective or to allow situations to unfold on their own. we can also see that gojo is imaginative; in his younger years before everything has soured, he has this ideal image of the future where he and geto are the strongest and they continue to work together in the world of jujutsu sorcery. gojo cares deeply for his students, too, which he emphasizes several times both verbally and nonverbally. take megumi, for example, and his customization of yuji’s school uniform.

unfortunately, again, there are some negative attributes to moon in pisces, especially his sense of sentimentality. the best example of this is how he allowed geto to continue on his chosen path for 10 years, despite his knowledge of geto’s newfound ideology and his crimes. not only did geto’s chosen path diverge from gojo’s ideal future, but it also diverged from gojo’s own set morals, his identity, and his version of geto. i believe that gojo, in those 10 years, was waiting for geto to snap out of whatever trance he was in and come back, or that someone else would take care (kill) geto so he didn’t have to. in my opinion, the sentimentality gojo held for his version of geto was the catalyst for his downfall, but i don’t think he regrets it.

💫 - now, this is just a headcanon of course, but i believe gojo is a leo rising. leo risings command attention, make great leaders, have open hearts, are creative, and have a strong sense of direction. gojo demands attention in many ways, one being his appearance. gojo has striking blue eyes, stark white hair, staggering height, and a handsome face. while his eyes are striking, his hair— an important characteristic of leo risings— caught my attention first. it’s uncommon, eye-catching, voluminous, and often well-groomed. his demeanor also commands attention. when gojo appears or arrives, there is this air about him that captures people’s attention; it’s not so much domineering, but rather captivating, like you’re looking at somebody important. we can also see that gojo makes a great leader, and slips into that role easily. he’s fast on his feet, quick-witted, and has the ability to make split-second decisions. he may be a lax teacher, but he’s not a bad one. gojo also has a strong sense of direction; he knows what he’s meant to do and who he’s meant to be, although that may not be what he would have chosen if it was solely up to him.

leo risings, however, may struggle when things don’t turn out the way they should. gojo struggles when things don’t pan out the way he thought they would and tends to get frustrated and reckless when things aren’t as easy as he thought they’d be. when people try to push against his plans, he tends to get annoyed or frustrated, but due to other attributes, he will still adapt. that doesn’t mean he won’t say “i told you so,” when things go wrong, though, because he absolutely will.

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howdyyy, currently writing a romance fic and I’m having some major issues here.

how would you write a romance between an autistic character and an OCD character??

i’ve done some research and turns out the autistic character would most likely show affection by gift giving (not one for physical affection).

i don’t know too much about the character with OCD (i’ve done research and I have the disorder myself). they’re really affectionate, like a total shoulder to lean on, yet afraid of actually letting someone in because they’ve been left behind by people in their life.

as of now I just have a few nerdy dates they’ve went on, with the OCD character enjoying it and falling in love but trying to distance themself.

ty for all you do <3 i need ur wisdom!!

Autistic x OCD Character Romance

Hi! Thank you for the ask 🙂

A few notes before I start

I understand that the symptoms of autism and OCD vary, and the things I suggest here won’t apply to everyone!

Since both the OCD and autistic character will have their own quirks, letting the romance work will be a matter of how they would suit, given their personalities and dating styles. 

Autistic Character in a Relationship

Their need for solitude would be real. For them, the time they spend with the other will be included in their “social quota” for the day, and they won’t be too open to meeting the other’s friends and family over the weekend. 

An all-encompassing interest may be their only true form of relaxation. An OCD character will understand the feeling of an act being a necessity – this can be a common ground they find comforting.

Their honesty can help the OCD character be more open about their thoughts. Autistic characters have difficulty lying or understanding “white lies”, unintentionally forcing the OCD character to own up to their compulsive/obsessive thoughts. The OCD character may actually find this liberating. On the other hand, it can be frustrating at times. 

They may not be able to talk about feelings in their inner world. This can be a huge barrier, and the autistic character may obsessively talk about their all-encompassing interest rather than sticking to an important conversation. This might be something the OCD character can understand better than others.

They’ll show love through practical acts, like silently holding the OCD character’s hand when they’re trying to wash it for the nth time, or tidy up for them when they know it’s stressing the OCD character out. 

They often camouflage their true selves for the sake of survival. Camouflaging who you are can lead to exhaustion, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression and not feeling in touch with the authentic self. 

OCD Character in a Relationship

Since the OCD character has repetitive, intrusive thoughts they don’t want, they’ll often feel anxious and distressed. Think of their mind as a computer monitor where you simply cannot close the tabs you hate seeing. Everyday things will be stressful, so they might be more prone to being snappy/irritable on bad days.

They may be overwhelmed with their obsessive/compulsive thoughts while dating. The autistic character might not necessarily realize this (since they are slow to pick up on nonverbal cues), and they can spend time comfortably distracted in their own thoughts. 

The Key is Communication

The biggest challenge with such a relationship is that it’s going to be more difficult for both characters to understand what the other is feeling. 

If they’re to have a stable relationship, they’ll have to learn to (1) be honest with themselves (2) learn how to communicate their thoughts/feelings in a way that the other can comprehend. 

OCD symptoms will become worse when your character is undergoing times of transition and change. Autistic characters will also fare badly under stress and won’t be open to an eye-to-eye conversation. Thus, the two of them learning each other’s “stress points” and the signs they display under stress would be crucial. 

Since change is challenging for both of them, show how they try to be least intrusive and take things slow. 

Establish Common Ground

Since an autistic character and OCD character are more caught up in their own thoughts than neurotypical people, show how their inner world is penetrated by the thoughts about the other character.

It’ll help to have a common interest they can talk hours and hours about.

Have them bond over the fact that they both have difficulty trying to explain themselves to neurotypical people. 

You can:

Include scenes where the character decides that the stress of confronting their authentic self/their fears is worth being with the other.

Have the OCD character meet the people around the autistic character, trying to understand the person. The autistic character may 

Have scenes where one/two of them are just too tired for the patient understanding the other needs. Show how they take a break, then come back for a calmer conversation.

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Little!Momo Hcs

hi!! I haven’t posted much of anything in quite a minute so I thought i’d share some thoughts about little momo from this au I have (still working it out) :)

Momo is one of the members who regresses fairly often, she’s only usually big when she’s able to suppress it for times when she’s working but even then she happens to slip sometimes during schedules and has to be brought back to the dorm

She slips between ages but its only ever between 1-5 and she’s more frequently 2-4

Momo is autistic and also nonverbal when regressed

The girls have learned that when she regresses she doesn’t really understand korean very well, so if mina or sana aren’t around it gets difficult to communicate with momo albeit they try their hardest with the little bits of japanese they do know

This causes a lot of miscommunication tho because momo will get frustrated and upset that no one can understand her and vice versa :(

Mina takes care of her the most and is her primary caregiver among the girls, but everyone helps out a lot

Since momo doesn’t communicate verbally, mina got her a bear themed notepad (she loves bears) to write words or draw pictures to help them understand what she wants

They always make sure its nearby with one of those crayola orange markers bc its the only color she’ll write in (they bulk bought 100)

They also have communication cards that chaeyoung drew and had sana write with momo in both japanese and korean so it helps the other members as well

She’s a clingy baby :( she likes to play but other times she will cry a lot until someone picks her up and holds her, and will get really fussy when she’s put down again so she’s always kept very close to someone else

Jeongyeon got her a special weighted blanket that is only about 2 lbs and when she’s feeling very overwhelmed they wrap it around her and it calms her down a lot

Momo doesn’t like sitting on the couch or chairs bc she gets scared of being high off the ground without someone holding her, so they have a special area decked out on the living room floor with soft cushions and pillows, and the girls will sit with her there instead

Bedtime for momo is rough as she deals with a lot of nightmares, and after going through a handful of really terrible long sleepless nights they decided she’s not allowed to sleep on her own anymore

Mina sleeps with her most nights and momo is a lot more fussy when mina is busy or overseas for work but she doesn’t mind sleeping with any of the other girls as long as they make sure to stick to her routine as closely as possible

If she is going to bed with one of the other girls they have to facetime mina until she falls asleep otherwise she wont sleep

When she still has a really hard time during the night, they’ll wrap her up in her blanket and bring her out to her area in the living room and sleep with her there

She’s not extremely picky with food but she’s very specific about what she eats for breakfast in the morning because she wont eat anything else besides dry cereal and a bottle of slightly watered down orange juice

Her favorite member to have take care of her besides mina is jihyo :]

Jihyo even started taking extra japanese language classes to help her communicate with momo better

One of her favorite things is when jihyo holds her while singing songs from a playlist they made for her

Also when sana and nayeon play or stim with her, it makes her feel less nervous about doing it alone

She really likes animals. Even if sometimes the girl’s pets become overstimulating she loves seeing them and playing with them its really cute

Since momo is constantly on the floor they need to clean the dorm twice a day bc she’ll get sick if they don’t… the cleaning stuff scares her tho so they have to give her headphones and take her into an empty (already cleaned) room :(

this is kinda long, but if you want me to make a part 2 (I have lots I could talk about) or have any questions about any of it/want me to talk abt anything specific feel free to send me asks :] i’d love to talk about her

[littleesistler]

the amazing digital circus - age regression headcanons

so I got this request from the amazing and fellow age regressor @alechans-cutetickles

I’m not super deep into the tadc franchise but I’ve got a few headcanons here. I’ll also use myself as an example since I only know how I act when regressed to aovid dumb stereotypes. This is just my opinion and I only watched the tadc when it came out so let’s see if I can make a few good ones.

Pomni

would probably be the biggest brat and curse a lot. Like when age regressed, at least for me, I don’t really regulate my words as much. So I’ll tell all my options in big words that aren’t always so nice. So yeah a cursing little kiddo that will see what she can get away with.

Age 5-6

Kinger

would totally dress up and play princess and king. A mini or just big makeover. Full out makeup, nails, dress, hair. I do that do and it’s so fun during play dates. Just a full out slaying king even more then usual since the age regression brings out the extra drama queen.

Age 9-10

Zooble

I think would either go nonverbal or have a hard time talking. Many slured words and baby language. And get irritated and frustrated when she can’t explain her feelings. I do this a lot too and it’s very annoying and I get mini tantrums like she totally would. Age 2-3

Gangle

Since emotions are more extreme in little space she would totally be very crafty to express her emotions. Kandi jewelry, Hama beads, crochet and knitting. Making little gifts for herself and others. I do this a lot as well since my older age regression gives me lots of motivation and inspiration. Age 7-8

Jax

The king of pranks and bad jokes. Just running around and causing trouble behind the caregivers backs. Pretending to be a good leader and then just letting loose. I do this too when I’m with a trusted care giver and when caught give the most biggest puppy dog eyes.

Age 10-11

Ragatha

Just cry and cuddle. Very much overwhelmed the first hour or the whole time of age regression. So cuddles, gentle tickles and lots of stuffed animals and toys to comfort and clam down. Emotions become very big for me and just crying and being a bit sad is a good way to calm down after a long day.

Age 1-2

Caine

Lots of games and jokes. He loves a good competition so anything competitive and he’s on. Playing pretend, spots, video games. Anything and all. But be carful he kidna tends to put things in his mouth if he losses or get frustrated. Like me hahaha

Age 4-5

Yup so there you have it and sorry I’ve kinda been in and out of little space all day today and yesterday so a few things might be a bit messy. But oh well. This was really fun so just send in more ideas to me. ❤️🤲

Next post will be the lucid dreams I promise🥹

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Aside from his cries, What kind of sounds does Ingo make now?

Lovely question! 🥺 :D

Steady Tracks Ingo, unfortunately, does not have a proper set of vocal chords to speak most of the sounds needed for English language. While this is still about his cry, his regular sounds that he can achieve just by speaking involve any combination of sounds from his existing cry. A-W-L-A B-O-A-H. This is obviously limiting, but gives him a decent vocal variety to work with. When speaking aloud, most sounds he makes are heavily guided by his instincts, and by extension rarely map to human word forms and sentence structure.

Outside of his cry! He can do other things!!

I am not going to reveal exactly how he can do this because I wanna write about it some time later down the line, but he can make a low, loud wind-instrument sound like a proper train whistle. He does this naturally, but can also do it purposefully as well. It is usually used (when intentional) to express joy or as a warning call. Due to the nature of how loud/harsh it can be on the ears, he tries to be careful when using it in casual settings or when people are particularly close by.

Additionally! Through means I again plan to elaborate on in further chapters, Ingo has abilities that allow him to produce seismic vibrations. Through the same sort of way he can use Earthquake, he can make various buzzing, rattling, and rumbling sounds. This does mean that he can purr and if anyone calls it that he will die On The Spot from sheer, overwhelming embarrassment. I think I meant to post this on its own at some point but I have a drawing I'm gonna put below as an example :> as a treat. Made this last year.

While yes, he does do this to express pleasure, comfort, or ease, it's one of his most versatile forms of verbal/nonverbal/(does it count as verbal if it's not ?? speaking)/auditory communication. He often uses low rumbles to signify nervousness, displeasure, assent, dissent, wariness, frustration, and many other emotions. It's extremely context-based, and is often one of the easiest default replies in response to anything. Higher or faster buzzing is rarer, and I don't have a specific example of intention to offer, but you can imagine it's used in very different contexts. However, I do think he uses higher-pitched buzzes in short bursts as a way to get others' attention or express imploring/goading/approval. Like a phone vibrating. Genuinely I think he's mimicking phone notification sounds, but I don't think he realizes why.

This is not necessarily intentional on his behalf, but when straining his voice he tends to make loud metallic screeching and scraping sounds. This is probably what Boom Burst sounds like, although that move can likely take on the properties of most of his vocal abilities. This is what it would sound like if, for any reason, he tried/needed to scream at the top of his register. Bad for all involved! Including himself!

And just so you all know, he sounds most human when he's laughing. :>

I think that's the majority of his auditory toolkit! Thank you for the super engaging question!

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Pearl has many vocal stims. She loves to sing or hum a tune. And the others love to hear it. Making different noises, like clicking and taping, is essential to Pearl. Her keychain has a few stim toys with higher or lower sound for various situations.

Gem wears cute cat-eared noise-canceling headphones. She can sometimes go nonverbal, which made her frustrated, when she couldn't properly communicate something. After all of them helping Gem create her own unique communication cards, it helped her get her needs met better and feel less anxious.

Cleo had a problem in the past with picking their own skin, damaging it, and biting their nails and cuticles. The girls gifted them some stim toys with good texture, and also often can give Cleo their hand for them to gently touch and massage the hand (it also gives warmth and feeling of endearment)

When overwhelmed, Lizzie doesn't like the feeling of touch, so everyone created ways to cheer her up and make her feel comfortable, like drawing beside each other or siting in the garden.

They love to all bake together, when one or more of them feel overwhelmed. The smell of fresh bakery afterwards is pleasant and eating pastry with just the right texture and taste for everybody is nice.

Anon I cannot express how much I love you rn, I’m autistic with sensory issues and I just love this so so soooo much and I literally kin all of them. These are all just amazing I can’t put it into words !!

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Back with some summer camp ideas from the classes you suggested.

I think that the legal part could be divided in like two subsections: Heroes' rights/duties (Dick) and Civilian/Villain Rights (Jason). I feel like Dick would want them to understand that they too have rights and that they shouldn't let the duty part consume them (like it did for him). Knowing how boring it can be, he uses practical examples for every situation. His motto is "...and that's why now there's a law for that. Say thank you to [insert hero getting clowned on]"

Jason would make Harvey Dent proud, basically teaching the kids all the ways in which they can exploit the heroes legal limitations. You know, so they can avoid getting tricked by rogues :D. After passing this class any time the counselors try to reprimand the kids they just yell "You're not assermented!"

I really like the idea of older campers giving the little ones a heads up on the hardest classes or which counselors are the best in their opinion.

Every year they bring someone of the Arrow Family for an archery event because it's summer camp! You need to have archery. When it's Arsenal's turn he sneaks guns (with rubber bullets) with Jason's help. Dick is disappointed but not surprised.

If there's enough campers (you know, with the kids that aren't heroes but have powers) they would have different cabins and each would have an assigned batkid as their personal counselor. They would immediately turn it into a competition. The Batkids have to put a lot of effort into keeping it friendly for the campers (if it was them, it would be war).

Damian would be in Dicks Cabin, obviously and they would be so annoying about it. Maybe the split the older kids in different cabins so they can guide the new ones and that's how Damian and John end in opposing sides of the competition (this is the betrayal of the century).

Right now I'm thinking on how the Batkids would rule their own cabins. Dick and Tim have experience with their own super hero teams (and Barbara corralling the entire batfamily). If the outlaws are anything to go by Jason would be very chaotic. Steph would put a lot of effort in having the coolest looking cabin I think. I do wonder how Cass would deal with having that responsibility with her communication struggles. Maybe Lian Harper (Roy's daughter) is her old camper and helps her with the kids (she looks chill from what I know).

These are great ideas! For Cass, I think it depends on what part of canon it's at. Later on, she's able to communicate decently. She gets stuck on some words, but is overall fluent. She can communicate what she needs to.

However, it's understandable if she gets frustrated or overwhelmed. Perhaps there's hours or days where she just doesn't speak. She's grows tired of trying to communicate the ways that others do and thus stops for a bit (as a break. Am I maybe projecting from when I go nonverbal? Maybe).

They would also need to have a computer lab to teach kids hacking, internet safety, etc. Barbara obviously leads that class.

Would they have a library at the camp? Maybe they have textbooks available for kids to learn from.

I'm also fond of the idea that Red Tornado spends some time at the camp too. I don't know much about him, but I do know he looked after Young Justice a little bit. If it fits, he can spend time just running some of the background stuff, and being an additional person campers can turn to

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💞I'm here for you💞

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*summary* Just thinking about how Chan would take care of you when you first regress around him. He doesn't really know what's happening but that doesn't change the fact that there isn't a thing he wouldn't do for you.

*wc*893

Chan would take such good care of you when you feel down. Is a little confused and startled at first but quickly adapts to your needs. He knew that it could be a bit difficult to communicate your needs when you go nonverbal but he would quickly learn to recognize other signs. He would never get upset or frustrated with you. He makes sure that you eat plenty and stay hydrated. Loves the fact that you're extra clingy and loves to use all kinds of adorable nicknames for you. Tries to be with you as much as he can when you feel like that. Makes sure to wear his cologne cause he knows how comforting it is to you. Gets a cute koala stuffie specifically for the occasion. Loves how he gets to take care of you.

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Chan just walked into the apartment and saw you sitting on the living room floor spaced out. He chuckled and walked up to you. When he got no response he leaned down to get your attention and smiled as you finally looked at him.

"What are you doing on the floor Jagi?" You just stared at him, making his smile slowly turn into a frown as your eyes started to tear up. He sat down on the floor and tried to comfort you.

"Hey, what's wrong? Did something happen?" Tears rolled down your cheeks and you brought your hands to your eyes, furiously rubbing at them to try to stop the tears. Chan scoot closer to you and tried to pry your hands away from your face.

"Baby, it's just me. It's Channie. I'm not going to hurt you." You continued to sob as he took your hands in his and started rubbing his thumb across the back of your hands. His frown deepened as you didn't seem to be responding to anything that he was doing.

"Can I hold you? Do you want a hug princess?" You hiccuped and crawled into his lap as he wrapped his arms around you, gently rocking you as you cried. He simply held you as you emptied your tears and tried to figure out what could've happened to cause this. When your crying quieted down he pulled back so that he could look at you and try to figure out what was wrong. He scanned your tear filled eyes and saw that you were staring right back at him. You didn't look as sad as before so he guessed that was a good thing.

"Do you wanna tell me what's wrong princess?" You frowned and gently shook your head, fingers still curled up in his hoodie. "Okay, you don't have to talk about it right now. Is there something else I can do for you right now?" He patiently waited for your response, trying not to overwhelm you and give you a chance to think. You sniffled and looked down at your lap, rubbing your stomach before peeking up to look at Chan. He frowned and gently placed his hand over yours.

"Does your tummy hurt?" You frown and shake your head, sticking your bottom lip out as he didn't understand you. He chuckles and tries again. "Are you hungry sweetheart? Is that it? Do you want me to make you something?" You look off to the side and hesitantly nod your head. He gently grabs your face and guides your eyes to his, giving you a reassuring smile before leaving a soft peck to your cheek. "Its okay, I'll make you something." Chan gets up and tries to place you down on the couch but you cling onto him and let out a whine of protest, panicking and clutching onto his hoodie. He looks down at you in surprise, softening when he sees your eyes filled with tears again.

"Okay, you can stay with me don't worry." He adjusts his arms so that he can hold you better as he walks towards the kitchen, pulling out the ingredients to make fried rice. You tuck your face against his chest and relax into his arms as you inhale his scent. You slowly nod off as Chan cooks, only snapping out of it when he gently places a kiss to your temple. He giggles when you pull your face back to look at him, slowly blinking your eyes and looking up at him.

"I'm sorry princess. I didn't want to wake you, but you should eat something if you're hungry." You absentmindedly nod your head as Chan shifts in his chair so that he can feed you. He feeds you most of the rice that he made until you turn around and bury your face in his hoodie again, shaking your head as he tries to feed you.

He places the spoon down and gets up from the table, carrying you and moving to the bed. He places your sleepy form down and shuts off the lights before climbing in the bed, quick to hug you as you start to whine from the lack of his warmth. You press your face against his chest as he wraps his arms around you, holding you close to him as he slips his hands under your shirt and caresses your back.

"I'm here for you, sweet girl."

[peach-and-bugs]

Would love if you give us more of autistic van

I gladly will, because I'm dying to talk about it

Van is autistic

✰ So, to start out, she's late diagnosed, if diagnosed at all. She's also more on the low assist side of the spectrum, so she was pretty "undetectable" in her adolescence

✰ We see more of her autistic traits in adulthood, especially with her store

✰ I think she always had a fixation on movies and television, but after the trauma of the wilderness and losing a lot of her adolescence, she starts to regress and turns to her special interest to try and relive what she lost

✰ She keeps herself surrounded by her special interest as a way to kind of keep herself in a time capsule that she feels safe in

✰ We also see her start talking in quotes when she's struggling to express what she's feeling, which can be viewed as another indicator. She's struggling to express her frustration, so she uses quotes from media she likes to voice those feelings instead of coming up with new words if that makes sense

✰ Her sweet tooth can also be linked if you wanna think about it that way. Sweet flavors are a form of sensory input that she enjoyed, so she seeks it out often. She also eats sour candy when anxious, because that's known to help too

✰ This is a headcanon I mentioned before in my Van in an argument with her partner post, but she uses her comfort media to self regulate and she'll sometimes go nonverbal when upset or overwhelmed

✰ She often plays with her fingers while she's talking. I also think she unintentionally makes clicking sounds with her mouth while she's thinking and doesn't notice

[spacexfucker]

I'm in a couple of autistic parenting autistics groups (and had to leave some too) and honestly it makes me want to pull my hair out how many times I see someone ask for advice because their autistic kid is doing something "frustrating" or their mood has gotten significantly worse and they ask how to "fix" that behavior and its like...being autistic yourself doesn't mean that you don't need to be reading up on child development stuff or looking into autistic testimonials. Especially if you're a low support needs autistic person with a high support child.

Like more times than I can count someone will say that their kid has been melting down more than usual but will deny changes in routine or a burnout and then eventually admit outright to going out unpredictably or a big life change like a new baby or moving.

And so so many will say "oh well my kid has the tablet to regulate" and that just pisses me off so much because your kid being autistic isn't like a pass to just give your kid a tablet and call it a day. People need more than one way to regulate. People need support. Being autistic doesn't mean we don't need a parent! My daughter doesn't like full body hugs or traditional cuddling but she still likes parallel play and for me to be present and validate her feelings! Someone being nonverbal doesn't mean that they don't have anything going on in their own head.

Kids don't have to be autistic to get overwhelmed or tired. Kids don't have to be autistic to get thrown by change in routine. Being autistic impacts how intense it can feel for those things to happen. And how much harder it is to calm down and reset. Just because you didn't have to take long or do much to center after the holidays doesn't mean you can just sit your kid down with a tablet and call it good. Just staying in but doing regular stuff at home isn't enough to regulate everyone.

Being autistic yourself does not mean that you are going to know what to do for your autistic child! Because not all autistic people are the same! Especially when our support needs are different. Especially when there's trouble with communication. Listening to your favorite music on blast may help some and may make others worse! Isolation may help you and may disregulate someone else! I'm begging you to treat your autistic kids like whole and complete people.

And im not saying tablets shouldn't be used. They're a great tool. But they can't be the only thing you use for any kid, autistic or not. Kids struggle with self regulating whether they're autistic or not. And if your kid is high support they likely are developmentally in a place where they need co regulation longer.

Just because your kid had a fun time at grandma's for Christmas doesn't mean they won't have a meltdown later. Just because the suprise fun day out was fun doesn't mean that they don't need to be regulated later. Stopping at a fast food place for their favorite fries is still a change in expected routine! Positive things can be overwhelming too!

I'm low support but if I get upset enough, the show I watch every day (for years now) will make me worse. Because I'm too worked up for it to comfort me.

You cant just employ a single regulatory technique like a tablet after the stressor has happened. You have to be doing your best to make the whole experience from start to finish less of a nightmare and then put actual focus into figuring out what regulation techniques would work best for your kid. My daughter's special interest is Bluey. it's on near constantly. All bluey all day every day. But sometimes I know what she needs is me to lay with her in a dark room in silence. Or a nice warm shower. Or a ride in the car. Etc etc. But I give her options. And then she'll want bluey after.

Behavior is communication! Not something to "fix" as in make go away because it's bothering you but "help" as in figure out the cause through trial and error and do your best to help through the process. And you're not always going to get it right or get ahead of the meltdown. Mistakes happen. Some things are unavoidable. But you can't just act like it's ridiculous or whatever. You have to accept that it was an eventuality and do your best to keep them safe and be there for them through the meltdown. Work on developing a way to communicate even if it's not with verbal or tablet aac. It's going to be work but your kid deserves it. They deserve to feel heard and cared for. Their feelings are not an obstacle for you to just bulldoze over. They're still kids!