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There is a degree to which we are responsible for our emotions. And certainly, we are responsible for our reactions and behavior.
In situations that we have control, situations where a friend is hurting us, like yes, maybe they shouldn't be hurting you. But there are also actions you have to take on your part.
Think of it like an ocean wave. If you go to the beach and a wave surprises you and gets you wet, and you're upset by this, that is perfectly reasonable.
If you keep standing there, letting yourself get wet and get more upset, when you can move away, then that's on you. I mean, it's your choice to do so. If you don't like getting wet and you just stand there getting wet when you can take a few steps back, you can do so. But it's also unnecessary stress, and you give up your own agency. Saying "I can't control this" when there are very much parts you can control denies your own responsibility in this situation. You can't control the waves from crashing, but you can step away from them.
If you know that a friend is going to keep disappointing you, there are two different actions we can take here: a proactive, and a reactive action.
A reactive action looks like knowing they're going to disappoint you or upset you, they do so, and you react to this. Nothing changes, and it keeps happening, and you continue to be upset. Your anxieties remain unaddressed and continue to hurt you.
A proactive action looks like knowing they're going to disappoint you or upset you and taking the steps to mitigate stress in anticipation of this. And THAT can look like setting down a boundary, removing yourself from the situation (no longer participating in the thing that your friend disappoints you about or no longer asking them to do X when they won't), or accepting that they will disappoint you--meaning you are at peace with the idea of them disappointing you, not "I am going to continue letting them disappoint me but it's going to upset me every time."
It means addressing the source of your stress and what upsets you before it actually does. And like. That's hard! It fucking sucks!
Especially for those of us who've grown up in situations where we didn't have any choice but to be reactive, because oh I don't know, we were children and didn't have any other options. And now we've grown up into adults who feel like there's no other option but to sit there and take it. Like there's no other choice but to be stressed and upset.
Part of healing from this kind of abuse, managing our stress in proactive, responsible ways means we no longer settle anymore, for being hurt. "Just taking it" when people hurt us and won't change. And as adults, that is kind of our responsibility and no one else can really do that for you. That's kind of part of being emotionally mature, is understanding yourself, and being responsible with your own emotions.
We sometimes can't change what other people will do. But we can change what we do, in response. And we can take care of our stressors before they stress us out.
#for those who like to read fanfic:#the reactive response to seeing a fic with a tag that upsets us is to read the tag then the fic and be upset#and deal with the fallout of being upset#the proactive solution is to read the tag and not read the fic because we know it will upset us#or to read the fic and take the appropriate measures to emotionally support ourselves or lessen how upset we will be seeing the upsetting c#or say you read fic from an author who makes great stuff and sometimes you can read their work#but sometimes they throw out a fastball and they don't tag things properly and there's some things you can't read#you ask them to tag and they don't#you can continue getting upset every time they don't tag properly and you see things you don't want to see#or#you can be proactive#and either stop reading#or find a friend to read it for you and point out where the upsetting parts are#or do a browser search for specific words so you'll have an idea of where the upsetting material might be#or do some emotional buffering to prepare yourself#we can't control that they won't tag it#but we can protect ourselves from being hurt in the future
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cw: pro-hero bakugo, reader has boobs, kind of explicit/nsfw? idk i describe boobs, reader is smaller and shorter than bakugo, unedited sawry
bakugo's muscle tee looks as ill-fitting as it'll ever be draped over you.
there are reasons for this, perfectly founded and logical reasons for why that is—the main one being that, it's, well, his; two, maybe even three sizes larger than what it should be to fit you properly.
but, he can't stop staring, and there are reasons for that too—the main one being that, it's his, and yet, the only way he can ever imagine it now is when it's being worn by you.
your hips sway to the song you've been humming for the past five minutes. it's the same one, the chorus on a perpetual loop. he's sure it's the only part you know; you do this often enough that it's the only part he knows now, too.
the hem of his tee hits right at the top of your thighs, concealing just enough to tease, but he’s confident that if you reach up even the slightest bit for the cupboard overhead, there'll be nothing to hide.
he feels a little bit like a creep like this, watching as he stands in the middle of your shared living room, but it's impossible too look away—you've got to be doing this on purpose, right?
heat flares inside of him when you turn your body ever so slightly, the armhole of his muscle tee large enough to give him the clearest view of skin—
he gulps.
it's smooth, sloping just right; the side view of your under boob curves into its perfect shape and he can imagine it, feel—
(is this considered perving if he's been with you for years?)
the pan in front of you sizzles as you plop in god knows what. you pour in something from the side and wait, one hand propped on the hip you pop out. then, you pick up the pan, attempting to flip what's inside (probably a pancake, now that he thinks about it).
it’s hard to focus on what you’re cooking though, especially when all he sees is plump flesh jiggling, bouncing as you further agitate the pan.
he just got the pants of this suit readjusted, and now they're fucking tight.
bakugo normally runs hot; it’s kind of part of his dna. but this warmth is different, flushing him from head to toe. it creeps up the side of his neck, painting the tips of his ears a blooming red.
you turn around then, plopping the pancake on the plate atop the counter behind you.
"oh! you're done," you greet him with a smile. so. fucking. casually.
as if your tits aren't fucking peaking against the gray fabric of his tee.
as if you think he buys the fake innocence poorly concealing that sly, conniving look in your pretty eyes.
as if you aren't standing in front of him in his muscle tee, wearing nothing underneath it like you didn’t do this on purpose. like you don’t know what it fucking does to him.
his eyes squint suspiciously, deep vermillion staring straight into yours.
you tilt your head, the tips of your lashes kissing the top of your cheekbones as you blink. you reach for a bottle of honey.
“everything okay?” you ask, voice syrupy, sickeningly sweet.
your movements play in front of him languidly, the corner of your lips curling up slightly as you smirk. honey catches on your finger as you pop open the bottle cap.
he’s supposed to be out the door in five minutes if he wants to make it in time for a meeting at the agency. technically, he should already be there if he wants to keep up his track record of consistently being fifteen minutes too early.
but you start to approach him, rounding the kitchen island. there’s a narrow space between him and the slab of marble, but you slide into it like it was made for you.
he’s certain it was, from the way the tip of your nose brushes against his as you tiptoe. your tits are right fucking there, brushing against the skintight material of his suit.
there’s too much fucking fabric if you ask him, between cotton and spandex.
your grin widens, and he feels hot, the heat from his cheeks radiating.
then you whisper, still saccharine, “breakfast is ready,” before kissing him on the lips lightly. a short peck, soft in the way that promises more before you slip away, giggling in your retreat.
he huffs, watching you leave. his feet shift as he thinks.
five minutes, huh?
like hell he’s going to eat these damn pancakes for breakfast today.
#bakugo x reader#bakugo katsuki x reader#katsuki bakugo x reader#bnha x reader#mha x reader#ALWAYS GOING TO PUSH FOR THE BKG CLOSET PERV AGENDA 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭#he HAAAAAAAAATES that he feels this way BUT LIKE ALL HERO STORIES START WITH: his body moves on its own 🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️#he tries to restrain it sooooo hard#but i think when youve been together a while something shifts in him#he still gets flustered!! still gets so hot and embarrassed about it!!! but i think he grows comfortable#with the idea that he /can/ act on it. that it isn’t shameful if he does.#so i think the big difference between a pining bakugo and being in a relationship w him#esp a long term one#is the fact that his reactions are still very much the same#but his actions become more proactive when he feels more secure in the relationship#and i adore the idea of a reader who loves teasing him for it#who looooves pushing his buttons#who looooooves seeing how far they can take it#and it's all fun and games and he's blushing and everything when you do it#but he gets you back so good for it. SOOOOO good. oh my god.#ok bye this was my brainrot at the gym today#rated#shotorus.bubble#bnha#katsu
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why is being feminine seen as catering to patriarchy?
I enjoy putting on my make up, heels, I like looking good, I enjoy traditionally “feminine activities” like baking and cooking, I love a good gossip session with my girls, I’m empathetic and warm when I want to be, I can be very nurturing if I choose to be, I want kids someday and I want to be married. I can do all these things and still work my ass off in my business, close massive deals, be invited to speak for interviews, and conferences, be perceived as a leader without emulating alpha male behaviour.
By saying that doing feminine things caters to the male gaze and patriarchy, you’re putting women down. You’re inherently stating that being masculine is “correct” and “cool” and enjoying being feminine is “weak” and “vulnerable.”
oooooh buT YoUre doInG aLL tHiS fOr a MaN-
and even if I did, sometimes, do those things because I like a boy - what’s the issue?? If I’m invited on a date and I like him, and I want to look great, what’s the ISSUE? If he’s going to show up dressed well and groomed to look good for me, why won’t I? And if you’re going to choose to go out with a man who is an absolute dusty rat that doesn’t care about his appearance and hygiene, sorry but that’s on YOU. The first date might be a human error of judgement which happens, but going on a second date with said rat is unforgivable.
“meN aRe NeVeR subJecTed to tHesE stAndarDs”
by YOU. I sure hold men by the same standards that I hold myself. My standards are high. Just the way I hold myself to a certain standard, I hold men to the same. I’m not going to muck around with a guy who clearly does not meet my expectations. I’ve told off men for bad breath, bad manners, I ensure that my brothers and my closest guy friends are always looking good when needed, and I tell them when they do and don’t. I surround myself with good male friends I know I’d be ecstatic to marry my sister off to. Don’t pretend like your shitty low standards and mine are the same.
I don’t believe in blame game and low standards and it shows.
You guys really need to understand that it is alright to be multifaceted. Just because I enjoy baking doesn’t mean that I don’t like adventure sports, just because I enjoy doing my self care and meditation doesn’t mean I don’t understand politics and history and “Big Boy Subjects.” I may not enjoy F1 and sports but there are girls out there who do, and they also enjoy wearing dresses.
stop the unnecessary labelling and categorisation of people.
#Ugly truths yall need to hear#Complaining without providing a solution is STUPID#Whining about double standards without doing anything proactive to change them is STUPID#Lamenting that “oh I’m just one person how can I change the entire male society” ADDS TO THE PROBLEM#YOUR LACK OF COURAGE IS PROBLEMATIC#YOUR LACK OF STANDARDS IS SHAMEFUL#THE FACT THAT YOU ALLOW DUSTY MEN IN YOUR LIFE IS HUMILIATING#I SAID WHAT I SAID
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biting this scene. sinking my teeth right in.
#from his tone I don't think jon even thinks he's being slimey he's not *trying* to be a motherfucker about this#he's just had his first few justifications shot down and is refusing to look himself in the eye about this and is saying what feels right#and landed on the 'you didn't want this but you did choose it ('it' being my actions)' thing#and for all that basira has talked about wanting a strong functional proactive partner who can serve as a daisy 2.0#it does actually unsettle her to see jon start to become that kind of person. waaaaaaaaaaaaaa.#tma#id in alt text#marina marvels at life
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I’m rereading Po3 and despite its flaws I really enjoyed the introduction to the three. Jaykit isn’t mentioned to be blind in the first few chapters and instead they chose to show how much MORE capable he is compared to his littermates; until at the end of chapter 3, he brings up his blindness on his own. It makes forcing him to be a medicine cat SO much more frustrating because it really feels like they’re setting him up to be a warrior and choose his own fate (note i haven’t finished the reread this is just my first impression)
I like how you seem to take that path in BB regardless! It makes his arc so much more enjoyable
His arc in canon is super frustrating because he's such an independent character who clearly wants to make his own decisions in life, but then he just gets shoved into the medcat den. I LIKE that he ultimately goes there and that he enjoys it; but it was still really fucked up that they stripped away his autonomy in the process.
Re: they are not real, they are writing choices. Taking away the choices a disabled character can make over their own life, forcing them into a celibate nun role, and then going "awwwww dont worry see? he likes it! This was the best thing for him :)" was fucked up.
And imo it didn't have to be that way! You wouldn't have to go the FULL route I did with big changes, he could just be more involved in the descision to stop being a warrior apprentice and it would be fine. Minor change that would make a world of difference.
I do also have to interject to say though... blindness should really not be an extremely severe impairment for a ThunderClan cat.
I'm dead serious.
Whiskers are built-in sensors that tell you the exact position of everything within several inches of your head, ears swerve to pick up sound, and the jacobson's organ provides a sense of smell so keen that I have an entire Clanmew expansion draft because I needed to make WORDS describing the power of this sense that humans do not have. I cannot stress enough how delicate their other senses are, felines do not rely on their sight like primates do
ThunderClan lives in a mixed-oak woodland, where sight is already often obscured by foliage, objects are close together (for whiskers to feel), and nearly every movement makes noise against the leaf litter. RiverClan and (moor-running) WindClan cats would have a harder time with this disability than Thunder or Shadow.
Cat sight SUCKS to begin with. It sucks BADDD. They don't have color vision, they're significantly nearsighted, and they can't track up-and-down movements well. WC doesn't write realistic cats (more like small fuzzy people really) and I also work with more humanesque eyesight, but the only thing Jay should really lose is an ability to rapidly track a small animal swerving fast. Blind cats are often still excellent hunters in spite of that!
So it's an extra big waste that they railroaded him into a position he didn't choose, saying he couldn't be a warrior. This is the perfect disability to write, if you want to explore how ableism can impact the characters in this society who ARE legitimately still capable of nearly full independence, but still need to find accommodations for what they can't do.
In the same arc they're doing the dumb Cinder Reincarnation Plotline, no less!! Where SHE is also feeling like she has no choice over her "destiny," and gets a conflict over a potentially disabling injury
"Oh nooo if cinderpaw breaks her leg she wont be a warrior!"
"What the f-- Im Jaypaw and im reporting live from the scene where a Category 1 Idiot Moment is taking place. Woman breaks leg, suddenly everyone believes she is a horse, more at 11."
One of these days I should really make "herb guides" just covering how various sensory disabilities impact the lives of Clan cats and some tips for writing them as warriors, especially between Clans. Stuff you wouldn't usually consider, like how much noise deaf cats tend to make, how RiverClan would get a ton of sinus infections and lose their sense of smell, being blind in Sky vs Thunder, etc.
#I once saw someone say offhandedly 'well what if someone snuck up on jay from behind and attacked him. No whiskers there'#NEWSFLASH! YOU ALSO DONT HAVE EYES IN THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD#He doesn't have short whiskers either they're normally sized#Something like 4 - 5 inches on a cat like him. About double the size of the head foward and sideways#Once you're talking about close combat like the cats usually do there's no way that you can stay back far enough to avoid them#I want to rewrite owl and jay's fight or make a rematch where jay realizes owl is being a coward#Hanging just out of his range and jabbing at him#But once he realizes it's just a coward's strategy it clicks that the counter is to be aggressive#And not let his opponent out of his 'range'#Also give him a neat little scene where they're grappling next to Black's dam project where it's super muddy#And Jay is like 'YOU WANT TO PLAY DIRTY? LETS GET FILTHY' and dunks Owl's face down into the mud#Because Jay can fight without his sight but Owl doesn't know how to continue while there's stinging gunk in his eyes and nose#I like thinking about what I'm going to do for BB!Jay's matches because his fighting style is really fun to write#1. Be aggressive and proactive 2. Don't let them out of range 3. SCARE THEM#From the Mud Match he learns that the best way to end a fight quickly is to absolutely terrify them#Because they're usually not expecting the fight to be difficult nor are they expecting to feel like theyre in danger#So if you surprise them it breaks their willpower real fast#And as he gains a reputation for brutality he faces less opponents until he's practically known as the Cleric Without Mercy#Bone babble
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Beyond surface appeal, what makes Ganon a compelling antagonist
I think cruising my blog would provide a good number of possible answers, but I guess my tl:dr would be (otherwise I could probably make a full 24h conference about it at this point): because he does reveal (if one is willing to look) the brutality of a world in which gods uphold a natural order through a given kingdom that will not budge on its god-given right to rule, and him as both a rebellious disorder to that status quo which also ends up devoured by said status quo as just one natural part of a cycle of creation and destruction that ultimately always kind of stays the same.
Also, I find the setup of a man born to a tribe of outcast women, considered exceptional by birth while also having to figure himself out + the role he needs to play in that kind of structure and in a very difficult context, someone who both is being granted a lot of natural power while also still being sneered at and considered lesser and/or inherently evil by those blessed by the gods (while also carrying a lot of unexamined baggage of their own), is just so juicy and interesting and brimming with potential psychologically speaking (especially when applied to his motivations of: why does he want power, why does he always alter his own body, his uncanny resilience, etc). It does come with a lot of baggage, as "the evil man from the desert" is far from being a neutral concept coming from a neutral historical place --but examining what kind of world would come to such conclusions is also deeply revealing of said world.
And then, Wind Waker gives him even more of a window to reflect on his own rage while also never apologizing for the horrors he commited, mourning what he wanted and what he became while also being the only one calling the gods of Hyrule out for being terrifyingly cold entities --far more than he could ever hope to become.
Yeah, I think Nintendo has been sleeping on Ganondorf ever since (even if I defend his TP appearance). But he has a fascinating cross-game story(ies), and I find him to be a deeply tragic --if horrendously flawed-- figure, which is partially why TotK was so disappointing to me, because TotK saw nothing but the surface level + the fact that putting him in a game sells and makes people horny.
(you'll notice I didn't mention Demise, because I think that, while the whole cycle thing wasn't bad or not that interesting, fans really overly simplify this concept in a way that has contributed to make Ganondorf extremely flat, which I am not here for.)
#asks#thoughts#ganondorf#there's much more than this obviously#his weird contradiction of both wanting power and self-definition while also being desperate for the gods' approval in a way#his relationship to beasts and monsters and demons and his own humanity#his relationship to his mothers and his gerudo heritage#the way he's a foil to link and zelda#and from a game design perspective there's a ton of things too#like how he's a very proactive antagonist in most games which helps guiding the storytelling from one setpiece to the next#he's kind of having his own adventures in a way and you must follow his trail and/or foil his plans and/or survive his trickeries#and thematically when done well he can be a great foil too#anyway love this weird sad angry boar-man#great hair too
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Hershel is actually the only character I've ever projected my dpdr onto. Idk, it fits him really well imo. Des' PTSD gives him uncontrollable fits of anger, Layton's makes him dissociate.
For those uninitiated:
#professor layton#hershel layton#desmond sycamore#jean descole#bronev bros#like I feel when you throw either into a traumatic situation at this point#des gets very proactive - FIGHT out of fight flight freeze - and channels all of his stress and fear into aggression#if he gets triggered you will KNOW because he will react very badly. and it's often embarassing for him but he's also pretty defensive#meanwhile you genuinely can't know with Layton because people attribute it to him being unflappable#something DEEPLY upsetting happens to him and he's weirdly on top of things and seems to be coping super well. but he's also kind of spacey#and doesn't seem to grasp the enormity of what he's experiencing or how fucked up it is or how he maybe SHOULD be reacting#and at some point probly he has to admit to someone that for a long time now his brain sometimes just shuts off and he stops feeling himself#the world kind of breaks down around him and becomes surreal and he's always tried to hide it so he doesn't upset anyone#it started with big things but sometimes happens in response to small#on bad days it can even be a child crying/screaming or certain names#emmy can give him a big hug#rambling over lol
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Yeah I know that's not a tape recorder this is a doodle and i didnt google it before i drew it. Anyway.. dndads tma au because its plauging my mind again so have a little snippet that i wrote in class:
Uh...Willy, told me to do these logs now as a way of catalouging our "adventures" and archiving the older stuff. I heard before my times there were reports but it seems kinda hard to belive since i've worked here for ages and never seen any, literally none. Guess some unfortunete soul needs to get stuck with the paperwork and today it just happpens to be me.. great. For some fucking reason writing or recording this shit digitally doesn't work, so Norm decided we could use these..tapes? Or whatever, I'm not a nerd. So yeah I'm now stuck in this stuffy basment speaking into a beat up dictaphone like some wacky sci-fi scientist that's going crazy, I guess. *Sigh* Fuck I spend too much time with Norm i'm starting to sound like him.
So where to start..? *Pause as the voice gets slightly further and muffled supposedly reaching under the desk* I guess one of these is as good as any, I think its from... Well definitly before i started working here. Let's just get this over with...
#dndads#dungeons and daddies#my art#scary marlowe#dndads tma au#can you tell i dont write much yeah im rusty#its fun and this is self indulgant already i get a little treat#id love to write more of this crossover fr like statments would be so cool#i think scary gets marked by the slaughter and hunt more than the eye cause daddies is more proactive in their aproach so these are also#logs of the teens advetures#basiclly willy is the boss rn and because of code purple stuff got lost and basiclly og dads arent in the picture and the kiddads aren't#really either but they all do come up in statments and stuff#this being a mystery kinda thing would be so so cool#my writing skills are not that high yet
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mark's life philosophy
#oc#original characters#hex art#hex originals#marcus anton#ian august#when I say mark's the more proactive member of the duo this is what I mean#also you can tell I squeezed this in late at night because the art style changes every panel#tfa#total f'ing annihilation
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okay so this is like the third time?? i think he's already got me by now guys
#gravity falls#i already made a deal with this guy in 2020 and then i signed the contract and i put my hand on the book and shit#i think he's got me by now#WHICH . FUNNY STORY ABOUT ALL OF THIS. BET YOU DIDN'T SEE ME IN COFRONT!!#bill cipher#and yes i did solve a caesar cipher in a vignere cipher solver it's called being proactive#you can just put in the letter you're shifting it to as the key and then it doesn't take forever to load or anything#and if it does turn out to be in vignere then you don't have to switch to a different thing#you could probably do atbash too lemme figure that one out#solving vignere by hand is just such a fucking hassle man
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i see some people very fixated on the idea that everyone should seek out their "ancestors" and connect with their "roots" and that will unlock some secret purpose or something. and obviously I think thats fine but . my roots are here, there's nothing for me to go and find. My great grandparents were immigrants and I was very close with them while they were alive but they lived here for most of their lives, too! They were more American than they weren't! I'm kind of over being told to look back because there's nothing there!!!
#coyote.txt#the idea that like. the culture of the modern day is less real than the culture of previous generations#and also that the culture nowadays is uniquely problematic and so to rid yourself of sin you have to pretend youre not reeeally american#you go back far enough in any culture and you will find war and cruelty etc.#it doesn't mean we shouldn't be cognizant and proactive about rectifying it#but its not like you can just go back far enough and suddenly everything is ok
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two modes
#you can tell which one i did second. i’m first ver today btw#but i have shit to do gotta stop FUCKING AROUND#scribbles#i did miss another app deadline btw. opened instagram to apply to a dec market id done half the app for a couple weeks ago and apps are clos#closed. LMAO!! RIP!#so much for trying to be proactive#my proactive is just LATE
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if losing weight was simple and obvious we wouldn't have to have teams of nutritionists meticulously crafting weight-loss programs based on taking advantage of extremely specific and obscure biological processes and that still have like a 95% failure rate
#it at least makes sense to me that people who are skinny are gonna be like 'just eat better and exercise more!'#but SO many people who WANT to lose weight who ARE TRYING or HAVE TRIED to lose weight ALSO FEEL LIKE THIS#BRO IF IT WAS POSSIBLE IT'D FUCKING BE POSSIBLE!!!#if I want to get into shape I know I can start working out and building muscle and improving my cardio and that that will work!#because it actually works for people!! because it's a real fucking thing that's possible to do!!#'ohhh you should lose weight' yeah? how's YOUR weight loss journey going mom? since it's so easy and obvious?#and the thing that sucks is that like!! it's just so INTERNALIZED. we've collectively internalized that it IS possible--#so that if we fail that's a Personal Failure to be ashamed of. people don't WANT to believe you can't meaningfully lose weight#for THEMSELVES.#and like... man I dunno I wish I was less fat than this and I should probably be more proactive about NOT gaining MORE weight#but like.... genuinely the FIRST time I read (in a cracked article of all things) that weight loss is proven functionally impossible#I was like OH OKAY PHEW. ONE LESS THING TO FEEL SHAME AND GUILT OVER.#I also wish I wasn't so tall (which also has implications for your health btw) but they don't make cleanse juices for that#yeah losing weight is so easy it's just a matter of willpower which is why we have scientists trying to solve it on a chemical level
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Skill issue maybe. But kindness certainly didn't help the prosecuted for the rest of the show.
Maybe a balance is needed between me being proactive and merlin being kind, bc merlin sure needed a bit of the former (this is really more of a complaint for the showrunners rather than merlin. I read so many fics of merlin being proactive and helping magic that canon is slap in the face with his passivity and class traitorness)
yeah Merlin’s approach to certain issues definitely show the writers’/showrunners’ hands than his actual character (where he is pretty outspoken in these topics) but there’s also the nuance of keeping his magic secret and yada yada
but also, one of the reasons we like Merlin is because of his goodness and open-mind. there is a reason he is a foil to Morgana, who was proactive in magic users rights, had an identity crisis of her own, and descended into villain-hood. there is a reason why his struggle between his duty as Emrys and Destiny is so compelling and how it slowly become his struggle between Destiny and Arthur
are there moments where i wish Merlin did certain actions differently? 100% yes i do (2x08 for example and his relationship with Morgana) and i know a lot of the time these narrative choices were made in order to keep Merlin in his 5 season struggle of ideologies by the showrunners themselves which just hurt his character in the long run (similar to how they revert Arthur’s character back to his s1 caricature sometimes 🙄) bc if he progressed too “quickly” then it could lead to a different outcome than they wanted at the end of the show
but i digress
#and on one hand yeah those fics were made out of audience frustration with Merlin’s situation and choices given to him by the creators#bc given that we are presented with a good of heart character who doesn’t care about bloodlines that much starting out; somehow#Merlin makes some ‘interesting’ and ‘passive’ choices#the show can give us the reason was made out of his need to save Arthur’s destiny or keep his magic safe or something#and while in some episodes i agree…..i also think given certain episode circumstances this could have been avoided as well#(Gilli you deserved better and i wish you were a reaccuring character. maybe even be someone who reminds Merlin of Will?)#(Merlin also deserved more magically inclined friends#i already made a post about that & i forever stand by it. he needs more magic friends)#bbc merlin had potential in a LOT of areas and didn’t develop a lot of them too (but high is greatly seen in s5)#and that’s prob why i still come back lol bc i want to flesh those out#anyway#tangent done lol#bbc merlin#asks#tldr: Merlin is a likable character BECAUSE of his outlook to be kind and greet the world w/open arms but in order to ensure Camlann#that caricature gets abused and treated as passivity leading to fics that make him proactive. but also a more proactive Merlin can#forget WHY he is likable in the first place and completely change him from his canon self#like you said anon there need la to be a healthy balance and bbc merlin struggled with that especially in s4-5#merlin emrys
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it's day two and one of my classes is already giving me anxiety attacks BUT there's so many people in my class that are in the same major as me so hopefully it'll be fine??
#also trying to be more proactive about emailing professors when i'm having trouble bc i really can't drop out of this class#screenwriting is lovely but i really do hate doing literally every other job in a production#like i'm not interested in it so i don't care so i'm bad at it#and then i get freaked out bc i'm bad at it#look i can make a banger script for my skill level okay#like when it comes to my screenwriting i can give an a-worthy script no problem#but that's what i'm studying. professor banging on about how if you just put enough effort in your short film final from this class could b#festival-wrothy like bro!!! no it will not!!! i fundamentally don't understand how to use a camera and trust me i've tried#they legitimately just don't make sense to me#like i get it in theory but then there's always 1 million things i somehow get wrong#and that's very stressful!!#anyways. i guess it's a good thing i only have three classes this semester#rambling
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Monaco 2010[☆]
#monaco 2010 rbr celebrations you will always be famous#seb trying to pull him into the pool will always live in my mind rent free#and i never noticed they splash at each other omg!!#honestly seb is soooooo bratty this post-race#like splashing mark. trying to pull mark into the pool and failing. not included but when he convinced mark to jump into the harbor#brat!!! absolute brat!!! hes the definition of boy w a crush pigtail pulling 🤭#this is a top sebmark moment for me#its my header and i keep wanting to change it but#every pic of seb trying and failing to pull mark into the pull lives in my brain rentfree#like in pictures the way you can see hes desperately grasping mark's sleeve AHHHHHH#and hes pulling with his entire body weight but mark's like 'nope!'#and also lmao at the way mark sticks his arm out proactively when he sees seb running over#like the way he has his hand splayed against seb's chest AAHAAHHHH#okay anyways everything about monaco 2010's post-race lives in my brain permanently#like theres just. so many moments from this single race which are just crucial sebmark moments sjdjkfkfkf#f1#formula 1#sebastian vettel#mark webber#martian#sebmark#formula one#2010 monaco gp#we do a little bit of f1
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