#you are the same as a cis man
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theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.
there are no rules.
#the whole point of transitioning is to finally feel like yourself and do what feels good and authentic#and actually same for cis people#you can do whatever you want even if its not what other people expect of you or consider normal for you#transmasc#transgender#trans man#genderfluid#nonbinary#agender#multigender#bigender#transfem#trans woman#hrt#queer#genderqueer#lgbt#lgbtqia#neos#xenogender#trans#advice#1k#2k#3k#4k#trans pride#5k+#10k
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deleted that rb cause i read it again a little closer but u people r so obsessed with dictating what does and does not happen to trans men. all these stupid little rules.
#i dont think misandry exists on a political/systemic level yknow?#but it seems Absolutely Fuckinf Insane to me that youd look at other trans people and go#you are the same as a cis man#does the very act of transness mean nothing to you? why even pretend to support us ll at all?#like what is it you want? the continued martyrization of transfem ppl from both inside and outside queer spaces??#to hurt and destabilize transmasc ppl?#what is even the point!#and then her 'proof' is. screenshots of an unnamed and uncredited poll.#its so transparent. i ccant believe anyone would genuinely fall for that shit#trans men dont have male privilege. passing isnt something that lasts forever either. its situational.#gender and its roles are constructs of power and imbalance. transness is in opposition to that#no one who supports ghe cis system would look at a trans man and go#Ah! The Man!#bc transness is in direct opposition to that#like. systemically. politically. if its different on a personal level - like the rampant misogyny in truscum circles for example - that STIL#L does not change what makes the system function#if u really believe that you have fallen for the massive farce that is gender at the expense of other trans people#good job!#also just. trans women being particularly vulnerable does not change the fact that other trans people are too#polls r complete bullshit anyways bc of their voluntary nature. you dont know whos answering it#i wish people would stop using bunk statistics as some kind of gotcha just to go#ohhh poor trans women always getting murdured whatever shall we do#its. patronizing. it hink is the word im looking for#anyways. sorry i dont have a personal tag for u to block lol#wait actually i think i di?#🕷️❣️#im thinking of this mainly bc i didnt . i try not to vet people too hard when i follow them anymore bc it gives me headaches and heartaches#lol#so i got an unpleasant surprise on my dash today#i used to do that a lot during The Acephobias
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One of the (many) things I love about Xie Lian is how artfully he combines old man and babygirl. I would give examples, but I don’t think I need to. We all know
#tgcf#tian guan ci fu#xie lian#in modern era#he would have a Nokia#use ‘the’ before social media names#and post cringy quotes on Facebook#but it would take absolutely forever for Hua Cheng to explain to him how Facebook works#and at the same time.#he’s so 🥰✨💞🌸🥺💅#you know?#also the fact that he’s soooo nice#but could snap your spine so quick and easy#truly the man ever#and damn I said I wouldn’t elaborate and did anyway
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White No-Face may be a powerful villain but he is wrong about one important aspect of his whole supremefying Xie Lian plan.
"[...] Who knows if he'll still want to be with you when he sees what you'll become."
Hua Cheng would be devastated. Of course he would be, knowing exactly what horrors his beloved had to go through in the Kiln. E-ming would literally flood Ghost City with tears! But leave him?!????!??? If Xie Lian emerged from that mountain unchained and furious, brimming with corrupted heavenly power, a Calamity of unheard of caliber, you know how Hua Cheng would cope with that? By getting on his knees and tying his hair back.
#do not underestimate how much of a god tier simp this man is#“nooo gege.... don't take bloody revenge on everyone who has ever wronged you....”#“gege noooo... don't use my body to vent your frustrations... haha.... unless...?”#white no face#be fr girl#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#tgcf#tgcf spoilers#xie lian#hua cheng#hualian#he would still love him if he was a worm#or an eldritch monstrosity#same difference#i've only just read past this in book 6 so PLEEEAAASE don't spoil things in the rbs
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genuinely worries me that some of you think the biggest threat to feminism in 2024 is trans men having words to talk about their lived experience
#smells like a scapegoat#trans#transphobia#feminism#if you cannot see that cis men have privilege over cis women#but trans men do not access the same privilege EVEN IF THEY ARE STEALTH (which is a conditional privilege discounting medical discriminatio#that would vanish as soon as anyone KnewTM)#and that the vast majority of trans men are NOT stealth and many are non-passing#and are thus subjected to DOUBLE persecution#by cis men for not being 'man' enough AND women - cis and trans! - for not being 'woman' enough#or worse yet being 'failed' women/wlw or 'traitors'#just as much as trans women are discrimated against by cis and trans men and cis women alike#and nonbinary people are discriminated against on all sides and by binary trans people#and you think that transmasc people TALKING about these experiences is a genuine threat to feminism#rather than an important aspect of it that has been overlooked for too long#I think you need to sort out your priorities and address your internal transandrophobia.#morning thoughts#anyway any attempt to divide the community is in fact an attempt to conquer
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Transandrophobia truthers are so damn racist and white oh my fucking god y'all actually piss me the fuck off every time you tokenize Black and brown men for your stupid as fuck "mra but make it trans-inclusive" ideology created by a creepy guy with a corrective rape fetish(something I'll never let up on for as long as I live, btw). If I ever see another one of y'all say "Black and brown men face discrimination because they're seen as overly masculine and that's why masculinity in men is oppressed in this society" I will literally kill myself. Stop using Black and brown men as brownie points for your bullshit arguments about misandry being real when you don't have the slightest idea how racialized oppression works. White boys are so annoying and dumb istfg.
@punkeropercyjackson @punknicodiangelo @pinkpinkstarlet
#like none of the dumbasses i've seen say this shit have been poc and HEY IT'S ALMOST LIKE THERE'S A REASON FOR THAT#because actual black and brown men know that their oppression is not based around masculinity but around RACISM#because if it was about masculinity then feminine men of color wouldn't face the same oppression and would be privileged over them which#is not true#it's also worth mentioning that black and brown WOMEN also face these same issues of being seen as more aggressive/strong/violent and thus#more dangerous even more so than our male counterparts so it's not an 'anti-masculinity' issue it's a fucking racism issue#plus once again feminine women of color also face these stereotypes#when we are masculinized even while presenting as feminine that isn't anti-masculinity you dumb fucks that's just racialized misogyny#and misogynoir#it is incredibly telling that white transmascs who use this argument never even mention women of color and that's because if they did then#their entire headass argument would fall apart because it's not about MASCULINITY being oppressed it's about RACISM(which newsflash women#experience too) and masculinity being assumed of black and brown people(women included) is just another facet of the white supremacist#gender binary not any form of masculinity being 'oppressed' in this society lol#don't even get me started on how these men misuse butch lesbians in their arguments as well and act like they are man-lite ugh#sorry but as a black woman i am officially pissed off rbn#like y'all love to spout 'intersectionality' and shit maybe *throws book at them* ACTUALLY READ UP AND LEARN WHAT THE FUCK IT MEANS#stop misusing words created by black women to prove that men are an oppressed group on god you mfers are annoying#anyway the lesson learned here is that white trans men are just as insipid and racist as their cis counterparts#pos the lot of you#racism#transandrophobia is not real#op
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Also, I was talking about this on Twitter, but people have a really distorted vision of what "reclaiming a slur" means. Reclaiming a slur is using it as a positive way to describe yourself or a group of people that includes you. I dont care what's your ethnicity, your gender identity, or your sexuality, if you are using a slur as a weapon to denigrate another person, you are not reclaiming it.
#like you cant call people the fslur in a BAD FAITH and say its okay cause you are gay#in the same way you cant call people the rslur or any other slur#AND OVERALL YOU CANT 'GIVE PERMISSION' TO PPL TO USE THEM#its a shame seeing people 'allowing' a cis white man to use slurs because they dont like dream#like he called that the uber driver too like tf where is your 'respect minimum wage workers!' discourse now?
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anyways i love you people that are both gay and straight, in whatever way that presents. being nonbinary often can mean a complicated relationship to sexuality and how one perceives it within the societal restrictions of homo and heterosexual, and i think bridging those definitions and having "contradictory" labels like lesboy or whatever is really cool. i support and stan he/him lesbians or butch lesbians or she/her gay men or femme gays or she/he pronoun users and whatever else, be it cis or trans or both. if you feel like youre both cis and trans that also rocks. dont let people force you back into a binary within the queer community, stay strong!
#queer#nonbinary#genderqueer#cis / trans as opposites is a false dichotomy and only harms nonbinary people.#same with straight/gay. these things can and will overlap if one for example feels like both a man and a woman#and of course beyond self identification alone#the way society treats you will also influence that#anyways op is a binary trans man. im very much a hundert precent a man and dont want people blurring the lines there. but that doesnt apply#for everyone! what makes me hapyp will be misery for someone else. so the reverse applies too.#peace and love on planet earth#fuck up with that gender everyone#gender nonconforming#bigender#im not vaguing the person i responded to btw im just gonna state my support again while its on my mind#multigender
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The trans FTM experience of not knowing how to feel about your detachment from femininity and growing up a woman
#No cause how do I deal with it#I figured out I wasn’t cis YOUNG like I was 11 when I started experimenting with different names and pronouns#but at the same time#I was someone’s daughter#I was someone’s niece#I grew up a little girl#and to those I’m not out to (or those who choose to live in ignorance) I still am all those things#and so I’m still viewed as less than.#I experience ‘feminine rage’ (whatever the name is)#I experience my medical issues being undermined by doctors#I experience the same limited access to period products#I’m not old enough to medically transition in my state as a minor#So on most levels beside my very liberal big city and social life I’m counted as female despite living in Texas#But the threat of being trans here can be a death sentence#I have few protections as a biological woman and if Trump is elected I will likely have even less#And I can’t begin to tell you how many more I’ll lose as a trans man#Trans#Venting#FTM#Texas#Election#us elections#Transgender#Trans man#Trans male#Trans FTM#Queer#LGBT#LGBTQ#LGBTQ+
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one day ppl online are gonna have to learn that there's no way to cordon off "male" sexuality as uniquely bad and gross without just ending up saying sexuality is bad and gross on the whole (conservative, reactionary, dangerous, tired)
#i feel like i see this so often and i'm sick of it#woman masturbating? Liberated! man masturbating? gross probably creepy and harassment actually!#woman wants to have sex? great! man wants to have sex? desperate!#single woman? she doesn't need a man. single man? Wenchless maidenless#obviously that doesn't even get into the het or cis assumptions-- forgive me for invoking these Categories#but like. switch it up as much as you want flip the script as much as you want but it's still the same old nonsense#as a woman: i don't want this on my behalf lmao#it helps none of us#also citing sarah schulman on the '#predatory' lesbian trope making accounts of ew gross a man was Into me feel especially uncomfortable#yay desire is shameful as always. thank god (cis) women are safe now.#safe purely as potential victims in a desireless and strictly gendered discourse landscape where no one is ever weird or wants#my posts#everyone else has already said this and smarter than i but whatever
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i love when people draw all the mxtx protagonists together but i’ll be real the generic anime boy face curse is alive and well
more often than not the art itself is fantastic it just takes me like a solid minute to figure out who’s who. bonus points if lbh is robbed of his wavy hair and the only way i can tell him apart from wwx is his forehead
#mxtx#tgcf#mdzs#svsss#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#mo dao zu shi#scum villian self saving system#hua cheng doesn’t tend to be a problem but wwx and lbh. man#also not technically a protag but honorable mention to my favorite guessing game “is it shen qingqiu or male shi qingxuan”#i must admit i am a victim of same face syndrome as well but it gets worse when they remove distinguishing features#i’m still talking abt lbh’s hair btw. i feel very strongly about his hair#every other character and their mother already has long straight black hair let him have a little fun#i love you three mxtx characters with not straight hair#also not necessarily a features thing but part of my beef with generic anime boy face is that they all look early 20s which is propaganda#listen wangxian being in their thirties is SO important to me you guys don’t understand#teenage hualian is not real to me i don’t believe in it we’ve already established that#but i’d at least like SOME indication that they’re not all the same age#i love you artists that draw san lang and hua cheng visibly different i love you artists that draw wwx and mxy visibly different#bottom line is pls give them more distinguishing features or i gotta do it myself#half joking but also this shit gets serious
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I'm probably nonbinary but I have college so idrc about that rn
#man but weird. guy but kind of off with it.#okay my real genuine thoughts are that I consider 'nonbinary' to be just as descriptive as 'trans'#so to me it probably describes my gender experience. but in the sense that if you asked me what I am I'd tell you I'm a man#but idk.... my own relationship with the term “man” feels distinct from others.... I think everyone has their own unique relationship with#gender obviously BUT. I do not think I have the same thing going on as cis men. nor would I ever want that#...kind of a gender + bisexuality situation where any attraction I feel is gay attraction. I'll be honest#in an ideal world I could transition from female to Creature actually <- HE'S SANE#lab notes
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Jun Wu headcanons because he's on my last nerve
◾His ancient ass secretly bathes in the blood of virgins for youthful and supple skin. That's why he keeps that freaky sword on him every day.
◾Generally he's considered to be a pretty good boss. Unless you're young and pretty or you ask Ling Wen about all the HR violations.
◾He thinks of Xie Lian as a weird mix of a son, an object he can self project onto, and a boytoy.
◾He is bisexual but closest thing to a significant other he's ever had was a homoerotic friendship with a childhood peer who broke it off when Jun Wu turned WEIRD around like 18.
◾Only drinks alone because he's a whiny drunk.
◾He gives really ominous vague advice. You could be sitting and peeling an orange, he'd hover over you and go "I wouldn't do that if I were you..." and just leave.
#im halfway into book 6 if my reading is accurate please be vague about it#something is so fundamentally wrong about him i just can't put my finger on it#old ass bitch#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#tgcf#tgcf headcanon#jun wu#xie lian#apologies to the bisexuals im sorry for bringing you up in the same sentence as this man
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I can’t define what Pyrrha Dve has going on gender-wise but it feels like it’s equal and opposite to what Link Legendofzelda has going on send tweet
#like i know the joke it that link is transmasc and transfemme and a cis man and a cis woman all at the same time#and i feel like pyrrha is the exact opposite?#like if you asked if pyrrha was a trans woman i’d be like ‘no that’s not quite right’#and same if you asked if she was a trans man#or if she was nonbinary#but if you asked if she was cis I would say ‘absolutely tf not’#pyrrha dve#ntn#nona the ninth#the locked tomb#tlt#legend of zelda#link loz#loz link#botw#idk how to tag zelda stuff i’m not in that fandom
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I feel like even in trans positive spaces trans men are seen as less authentic than trans women, because we supposedly have something to gain by transitioning or wanting to be men. (social power.) It's reflective of how we look at historical people that by today's standards we would see as trans men (Joan of Arc) or fictional characters that live as men while secretly being women. (Naoto from Persona, Sheik from Zelda.) And this is going to be an uphill battle until we get rid of gender essentialism in our spaces completely.
#transandrophobia#thinking of a post that was talking about how all fictional femboys in anime are actually trans women and if you dont acknowledge that#then youre a transmisogynist and or chaser#but if the same was said about tomboys and masc crossdressers then there would be so much whinging about representation for women#and something something delusional cringe headcanons#if i say sheik is trans thats my headcanon#but if i don't see pre-strive bridget as intended to be trans then im a transmisogynist#bridget tbh is a bizarre case#because pre-strive their experiences (being forced to live female when they saw themselves as a man)#was more akin to a transgender man#theres an elden ring character with a similar backstory#where he was forced to present as female because the cult he was apart of and raised in was female only#because the people who create these characters are cis they dont really understand what makes a person transgender#so you get weird shit like this that doesnt make any sense#er not elden ring but its one of those games
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asking people their pronouns is the bare minimum of trans acceptance and it's something we've had to drag cis people kicking and screaming into doing. where the fuck do you get off throwing all that progress out the window because you like it when people are mean to you actually
#atlas entry#I can't be the only one who remembers when contrapoints got in hot water for this exact same thing#blaming nonbinary people for the concept of cis people asking you your pronouns because now people can't just “tell”#as if trans liberation ever involved people being able to “tell” your gender by looking at you#how are you going to say you support nonbinary people and then advocate for people to misgender them because you think people should assume#your pronouns based on your appearance. sorry my preferred pronouns are they/them and if you call me she because you think I look like a#woman you are misgendering me. again I just don't get this whole “no one can know I'm trans” thing#you know there's a difference between someone seeing a tall woman and thinking “that's a trans woman” and someone seeing a tall woman and#thinking “that's a man”. I feel like so many people treat those like they're the exact same thing and it's like hm why do you view someone#identifying you as a trans woman as identifying you as a man? sounds like you have some internalized shit to deal with babes#in the meantime don't make it everyone else's problem by bullying cis people into reinforcing gendered norms surrounding appearance
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