#and actually same for cis people

[castielfucks]

theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

[biracy]

I can't remember if I've posted abt this before but regardless: I'm sorry but I really and truly cannot get behind the idea that there is any wide-scale societal "pressure for trans men to be feminine" or "to be twinks" or whatever. You are either conflating a very small online community's beauty standard (usually some kind of transmasc pseudo-appropriation of "femboy" aesthetics, which yes, are often Bad and regressive and fetishized and etc.) with Mainstream Society, or confusing society not wanting trans men to transition with "wanting trans men to be feminine", which are certainly not the same thing. Ultimately if a cis person believes there is any validity to the concept of being trans (i.e. not a Posie Parker-esque "there's no such thing as a trans person" type), they are more likely to think that trans men should be like as masc and buff and hairy as possible or whatever bc that's what cis people think men look like and it's easier for a lot of people to recognize someone who Looks Masc as a man. It is difficult sometimes to see derision of trans guys who are Too Feminine and Not Hairy Enough or whatever (which is not always something someone has control over btw) as anything but "this is Skye who I think is a confused little girl because Skye does not pass" slightly restyled for 2023 "filthcore fagdykes" or whatever lol

[kirkwallguy]

okay final post. i think part of the reason why i hated taash's story so much is i DID find it relatable, they remind me a lot of myself at sixteen: coming out as a teenager and being extra sensitive to anyone who doesn't immediately understand you and lashing out at your well-meaning but uninformed parents is pretty common. shathann dying before this is resolved and taash realising they were needlessly cruel out of fear of rejection COULD have been heartbreaking and an actual good way of pushing the regret theme, but this isn't what happens lol. taash acting the way they do could be fine, i like it when a character has flaws and an exploration of how messy coming out as trans is would be an interesting subversion of how fucking boring coming out stories become when you reach a certain age, but the fact that rook can't really tell them to cut it out and the fact that they have literally no reflection or regret beyond "i wish my mum and i had had more time together but at least she didn't misgender me as she died 👍🏻" makes it feel as though the writers actually think them treating their mum the way they do is somehow satisfying or good, because the game's narratives feel like they were spat out of an ai trained solely on reddit aita posts. and that isn't even getting into the multicultural angle which needs a whole essay by itself and i've already annoyed myself too much for one morning.

[snekdood]

notice how when you hear about all these rich white men in high positions of power doing heinous shit, none of them end up being trans men or mascs 🤔 but surely we're just as privileged as any other cis guy right?

[corviddusk]

Hey by the way if you think intersex people have it easier or that you as a perisex trans person can ever lay claim to the experiences of medicalized violence starting from infancy, the consistent brutalization for your natural body, the fact it's labeled a deformity when it's NORMAL, and the entire queer community using you as a gotcha to conservatives who love mutilating us you need to get the fuck over yourself and understand that transness isn't the only form of oppression in the world.

You will NEVER be like us. We have similarities yes, but you aren't intersex, you don't have possible health complications that come with some intersex conditions, you don't have ambiguous genitalia by nature, your transition isn't made deeply dangerous because a doctor didn't check your hormone levels and you were on so much it was actively possible to kill one of your organs, you haven't been forcibly mutilated as a kid (unless you were during things like trafficking in which case holy fuck I am so sorry. You're not alone), you haven't experienced being scared and confused when your body did puberty wrong, it doesn't take years to figure out what you even are and why your body is so wrong to everyone.

I'm sorry but if you throw a tantrum over the term Perisex you're just the same as any bigot. It's like throwing a tantrum over being called abled or sane or rich when you physically are those things because you feel left out of a club that is being brutalized by society and facing struggles you never have.

I've tried to be more gentle about this for a while but I genuinely cannot stand the amount of trans perisex people who just brutalize my siblings and myself and expect me to be the nice civil "one of the good ones". I am not any of those things. You need to wake the fuck up and accept you aren't the end all be all of oppression other forms of oppression exist. I'm sorry being intersex is nothing to do with transness it's a separate thing y'all are fucking weird for trying to pretend you "become basically intersex" no the fuck you don't.

[biracy]

The way people on this website like confidently assert their superiority over "TikTok teens" (concept I have complained about at length) bc "they wouldn't survive in the NINETIES when everyone said FAG and DYKE". Like yes obviously people shouldn't police other people's language usage but also treating people like cringey loser idiots for not feeling super comfortable personally using terms that could potentially carry a lot of baggage for them that you don't know about is extremely bizarre and I cannot believe this is where we're at. This is "if you are uncomfortable with me calling you A Queer it's because you're a terf" all over again except with this shitty faux-edgelord coat of paint over it

[mantisgodsdomain]

Now that we are being followed by people, we need to make some thoughts and opinions clear so that people are not later Shocked And Disgusted or whatever by thoughts we have held for many years. We think it's weird and also bad to treat queer people like they're a different species from cishet people, and we think that treating things like Having A Sexuality makes a character better than if they have a different sexuality is bad no matter what way you put it.

We also think that, if in your setting queer folks are widely accepted and straight isn't a "default", it may be worth noting that, say, a straight woman might need just as much self-discovery to work out she's straight that a lesbian does nowadays. In the same manner that, in Ace Attorney, Larry Butz needs to tell Phoenix that no matter how many photos of handsome men he shows him, he's tried, he's just not attracted to men,

[buggbuzz]

my gender is like meat leaf i think. boy materials in the structure of girl. like im a girl made out of boy things but not in a transman way like i like being female im just. a girl-leaning boygirl. maybe??

[pricegouge]

at some point I need to ramble about price calling his transmasc!partner mama/mommy/etc cuz I’m projecting and my breeding kink is off the charts rn😮‍💨

-🫀

look as a card carrying nb/borderline trans masc that almost exclusively writes for femme readers and does definitely need that man to call me mama.......

i hear you babe. very valid.

[orcelito]

Like OK so I've been reading a fic with trans wolfwood in it that is so. HONEST. About how it affected him and still affects him. In a way that's very much not an average cis writer portrayal of a trans character.

Like. Either this writer is trans or did plenty of research, but it just feels REAL to me. And it has me thinking about my own way of writing trans Wolfwood.

I'm not there yet. But I've been thinking about it. The ways that what the EOM did fucked him up... but it also acted as HRT that affirmed his gender. So what do you do when you're in a body you don't recognize, but looks much more like a man than ever before? There's some gender euphoria in a way, but dysphoria at the same time bc you didn't grow into this. You didn't watch yourself transition. Suddenly you just Were this, and it's not you, but also it's nice to finally be seen as a man, but it also feels wrong to feel grateful for any part of what they did to you...

On and on and on

You see? This is what I want to think about with him. This is why trans Wolfwood is so compelling to me. It's just so Complicated, he'd have such Complicated feelings about his body and the way he lives with it. He learns this new body, it starts to feel more like his, but he also mourns the fact that he didn't get to watch it grow into this like he should've.

That kind of thing.

[kraviolis]

im god's strongest soldier bcus i've been headcanoning luz as a trans girl since before we even knew she was canonically bi

[thepoisonroom]

What's the most recent thing you've been obsessed with? x

my girlfriend being, like, a cis woman of they/them experience

[lapsed-lys]

Getting teary-eyed over here. A transphobe was going on about some ''gotcha'' argument they had and it lead me to research for 3h on the subject between reading studies, reading articles, watching Youtube videos from professionals and trans experiences. And, again, nothing like research shows that trans people matter and are cared about.

We have our place in the world, we have our place in the healthcare system, we have our place in justice, we have our place in debates. We do not have a place in your bigotry arena where you punch down on us without thinking.

Do people who hold negative opinions of trans people ever research as much? Do they read articles from various sources, both right-wing and left-wing, both professional and anecdotal experiences? Do they meet trans people in real life and go ''disgusting being'' when they so gloriously smile and greet you?

Tumblr keeps sending me transphobes on my dash and in my inbox. I won't shut up. I will uplift my siblings, because I actually care enough to research before spouting my opinions heavy enough to matter in human rights.

Happy pride month y'all, to my queer, trans, intersex, detransitionners and outcasted folks.