#why is this so hard to understand

[stagefoureddiediaz]

Eddie may not have said that he is straight on screen but Ryan has said it in interviews. I don't think he would call Eddie straight if it wasn't true. He would leave it unsaid like Oliver did regarding Buck's sexuality.

Hey Nonnie

I’ve said this several times - but I will say it again. Actors don’t know what direction their characters storylines are going to take - they can only speak for where there character is at at the moment of the interview they are giving. So an actor saying a character is straight means very little - Oliver referred to Buck as straight in interviews in the past - and look where Buck is now!

Plus Ryan has started using gender neutral pronouns in interviews and has talked about his delight at people from all demographics finding things in Eddie that has helped them - and that includes queer people. Ryan also has stated on multiple occasions that he is very much up for queer Eddie and buddie - if the show wants to go in that direction. we have enough subtext and foreshadowing in canon to make the conversations around Eddies sexuality valid. i would also point out that we know that Eddie was going to be the one getting a queer arc in s7 - but that they had to change it to Buck due to the availability of various actors, so to suggest that we are all reading too much into things - when we have plenty of evidence to validate our conversations is disingenuous. you don’t have to engage in those conversations - you can filter, block or scroll past stuff - and leave those of us who do want to speculate and enjoy discussing possible storylines for characters such as Eddie to do so.

We are talking about fictional people remember and so we can discuss whatever we want to discuss about them - it’s literally the purpose of fandom!

[tenjikyu]

i hate to bitch about this but it’s gotta be discussed.

why is it so hard to write gn readers. like, i just don’t get it. it just cannot be THAT HARD. (check my blog if you want, i’ve written gn fics and none of them have fem/masc terms in them without even needing to be double checked)

and if you’ve had people complaining to you about it, why do you say you’ll fix the issue when you wont?

it’s completely fine if you wanna write for female readers if you’re gonna fail THAT BADLY at writing gender neutral 😭😭 if you’re most comfortable with using she/her pronouns in a fic then GO WITH IT BABES BC THE FIC IS SO GOOD SO LETS LET YOUR PROPER AUDIENCE ENJOY IT

it’s just annoying when you’ve got a dick between your legs but you’re reading a supposedly gn fic after being referred to as princess,my girl, sister and pretty lady for the 100th time.

there should be no reason to write for a gender neutral audience if you can’t stick to it.

i’m not here to shit on anyone, i’m just saying that if you can’t keep your fics gender neutral then don’t write it. if you can only write for your specific gender then go for it! no shame in struggling to write for the opposite gender! just don’t let other people get annoyed reading your works then get pissed when they’re the ones who you mislead and they point it out.

anyways i came here to bitch bc i was stalking a supposedly gn blog with abt 80% of its content containing STRICTLY fem reader when it wasn’t labeled as such. (i’m not even joking, it was full on anatomy, titles, pronouns and EVERYTHING like there was no holding back on the fem aligned reader LOL)

[heywriters]

tumblr istg stop trying to hide who i reblogged from. op AND my new internet friend both need to be on the reblog

[soft-bugs]

Friendly reminder that saying your f*tish blog is "SFW" doesn't make it any less correlated to it... :/ Especially when you're reblogging things from other f*tish blogs? And posting about k*nk stuff? Like???? Just leave my blog, side blogs and posts alone please. There's plenty of other blogs to interact with that have the same stuff you post about. Why do you HAVE to go to mine? :/

Anyways, tickle blogs and sick blogs, bdsm, @geplay, petpl@y, ab/dl, dd/lg, and all others like that EVEN IF YOUR BLOG IS "SFW," LEAVE ME ALONE PLEASE like I'm not asking for much here.. Just because it's not outwardly NSFW doesn't mean it's not related to it, I don't want to know about your k!nks- in a SFW context or not- when I'm literally in the mental state of a kid thanks. 😑

I really don't want to go back to making a mile-long DNI banner, explicitly stating every single little thing. But I will if it comes to it. Because y'all should know better.

[snapdrxgon-ivy]

Btw misandry doesn't make you cool or more woke than other people or even get you a gold star in feminism. It's disgusting just like misogyny is <3

[ignisgalaxia]

"[a reacast] would not make the inaccurate and stereotype laden characterization of indigeounous South Americans any less unacceptable"

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[airasora]

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[apollolovescheesecak]

a reminder that a cis person dating a trans person (even before any surgery or afferming care) DOES NOT invalidate the sexuality of the cis person!

im killing the next mf who thinks a straight cis man dating a trans woman is gay !!!!!!!

[janeway-lover]

YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE IN YOUR PARTY WHEN YOU GO TO A RESTAURANT

[anotherpapercut]

is there some reason why nobody will respect the fact that I just don't like horror movies? I have been forced to watch like a dozen horror movies now and I just do not like them. I have told all of my friends this repeatedly and they continue to try to make me watch them no matter what I fucking say. they're always trying to justify it with "well it's not REALLY a horror movie" then I google it and the description literally says horror

[donnieisaprettyboy]

can we stop pretending like it’s so super easy for trans men to pass. “oh just put on a baggy shirt and cut your hair-“ it literally doesn’t work like that and I refuse to believe you actually think it’s that easy

[mythicalcoolkid]

You don't wish your disability was worse or more visible, you wish your disability was taken seriously. Please stop confusing the two, I guarantee you would not get the support you need JUST by being more severe or more visible. Please listen to visibly disabled people when we tell you it isn't better on our side

[jellogram]

I need the types of attraction to become common knowledge in hetero society because when I tell other queers that I'm a homosexual woman but not a lesbian they're like "...oh okay sure" but if I said that to a straight person I'm pretty sure they'd explode

[jewelleria]

idk tho i feel like there’s a point where we have to cut our losses and say, “okay, we’ve done everything for the sake of peace for the past 75 years, we’ve sacrificed way more land than anyone asked us to, we’ve made more compromises than was ever requested of us, and they are still determined to kill us.”

and no, “they” doesn’t mean all palestinians, it means the leaders who make the decisions on behalf of the palestinians. and we have never, not once, seen a palestinian leader get far enough away from the legacy of violence in order to leave it behind.

israel has seen every rejection, every single time a peace deal has fallen through because of them, and each time they have tried one more time to create a lasting solution for peace. they have seen the lasting impression left by the palestinian leaders’ insatiable desire for violence, destruction, and war after war after war. they have made sacrifice after sacrifice. they purposely withdrew all israeli soldiers and all jewish civilians from gaza, against the wishes of those 10,000 jewish civilians, dragging them from their homes—because the deal was that if israel pulled out of the gaza strip, there would be peace. so israel agreed.

maybe palestinian self-determination was beneficial before. maybe it could have been good for everyone at one point in time, before every single representative of the palestinian people, every single palestinian leader, failed to accept every offer for peace from israel.

and before you say, “it’s not about what the leadership wants, it’s about what the people want,” let me remind you that these leaders were democratically elected by the palestinian people. let me remind you that leaders are the ones refusing to hold elections, the leaders are the ones hurting their people, and the leaders are the ones with the power to make peace. the people alone can’t make peace, and saying that the peoples’ opinions are more important than the opinions of their representatives that are on the international stage is missing the point of democracy. a leader cannot have all the power (that would be a dictatorship), but neither can the people (that would be anarchy). that’s how democracy fucking works.

honestly, the fact that the entire world is advocating for palestinian self-determination when the palestinians themselves have made it incredibly clear that they don’t want that is more anti-palestinian than anything. oh, you don’t know how they’ve made it clear? hm, well, let’s see:

the palestinians were offered a state in 1948, and they refused because it wasn’t “from the river to the sea.” israel begged them to compromise, but they said no in the form of declaring war.

they could have merged the west bank with jordan in 1967, when israel offered to give back all of the land—all of it!—that it won in the six day war. for the sake of peace. again: they refused.

they were offered a state in 2000 during the oslo accords, along with billions of dollars in reparations and economic aid, and arafat walked. that refusal, on the part of the palestinian leadership, motivated the people to AGREE with arafat by launching the second intifada.

and there were all these complaints too—yeah, each state offer was smaller than the one before. that’s what happens when you don’t accept the most generous one THE FIRST TIME.

what’s the common denominator here? oh, i don’t know. maybe the fact that each time the palestinians refused peace by declaring war, the world blamed israel for responding and insisted that israel started it. well, by their logic, yeah—they did start it. THEY STARTED IT BY EXISTING.

so, no. self-determination is not an inherent right. it starts out as one, that’s for sure. but it stops being one once the people who claim to want self-determination actually just want to kill the people who want to live beside them in peace.

they don’t want a state. they just don’t want us to have one.

wake up. open your eyes. when people tell you who they are, over and over and over again, BELIEVE THEM.

we had peace on october 6th. saying that isn’t a metaphor or a sound bite. it’s a fact. we were on the path to forming alliances with the arab world.

october 7th was the palestinian way of saying, no. peace is not an option. it was never an option.

say it with me: self-determination stops being an inherent right when the people who claim to want it do everything in their power to reject it.

SELF-DETERMINATION STOPS BEING AN INHERENT RIGHT WHEN THE PEOPLE WHO CLAIM TO WANT IT DO EVERYTHING IN THEIR POWER TO REJECT IT.

I want Palestinian self-determination because I think that it's beneficial and an inherent right

You want Palestinian self-determination because you think it will get rid of all the jews and that jewish self-determination is lesser than Palestinian self-determination.

We are not the same.

[idontmindifuforgetme]

friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me

[teaboot]

Sometimes at work it's not my place to tell people the things I want to say, and I find I often go home at the end of the rougher days to stand blankly in my shower and tell myself over and over what I wish I could pass on.

This accomplishes very little, and mostly just gives me a tension headache, but through it all I think I've narrowed myself down to a few solid things I'd like to tell people the most.

You can't change people. Not permanently, not for anythig. You can support them, encourage them, love them, give them tools and opportunities and resources, but you can't make them change. They can change themselves if they want to, but they have to want to, and they have to want it for themselves, because they're the only one that's certain to be with them forever.

For better or worse, you make your own choices, and blaming bad choices on others doesn't only work to absolve you of responsibility- it also robs you of control. Because if you say you only did something because I did something, then you arent only shifting blame- you're admitting that you cannot control yourself, that you cannot truly make choices for yourself, that other people can control you- and as long as you truly beleive that, you'll keep facing the same problems over and over. You'll keep letting others dictate your choices, because you'll beleive that they can, and you'll never be free.

White knights on horseback are from fairytales. Nobody can help you if ou're not willing to help yourself. To try, to put the dirty work in, to belive you're worth that effort- Act as though nobody is coming to save you. From a struggle, from pain, from bad relationships, from yourself. And when you do save yourself, because you will, because failure here isn't an option if you want to survive, you'll never find another dragon that can keep you prisoner.

Don't say anything to anyone that you wouldn't want them remembering forever.

Doing the right thing in bad circumstances is hard. It's the hardest thing. But if you make the choice to do that hard thing anyways, despite your fear, you'll go on the rest of your like knowing that you're the sort of person who did something.

The present only seems the hardest because the past I over and the future hasn't happened.

There's so much joy ahead of you, the kind you can't possibly understand until you see it yourself.

The responsibility of consequences is often disguised as the power of permission. "I won't do this if you help me", "I'll work on my anger if you do this for me", "I promised you I'd quit, but can I have just one?". The unspoken question is, "Can it be your fault if this goes badly?"

You cant make someone love you the way you need to be loved. Someone can love you very much and still be bad for you, even if you love them very much in return. Two people can love each other very, very much, and try their very best, and still be wrong for each other.

Sometimes being near to someone changes you, even in good ways, and the people you become don't fit together as well as the people you were.

Caring takes work. Even if it's real. Especially if it's real. And the most important gestures aren't the grand, poetic, songs-and-flowers-and-tears moments; they're getting out of bed even though you don't want to. Paying attention to things you don't enjoy. Scrubbing pans, or opening a window, saying "thank-you", or helping carry groceries into the house. The small things fill the big things- without the small, boring, mediocre things, big things feel hollow.

Thrre is honour and dignity in humble work.

If you are a cruel and spiteful person, then you will find every place you visit to be full of the same cruel, spiteful people. This is not because the world is as cruel as you, but because everywhere you are, you will be disliked. This is the curse that comes with being persistently cruel and spiteful.

If you are a kind and ppsitive person, you will repeatedly encounter kind and positive people, because as they grow familiar with you, they will be happier to have you near. This is the reward of being a kind and positive person.

When splitting paths with loved ones, briefly or forever, aim for your last words to always be "I love you".