#violence doesn’t end violence

[repostedpoliticalarts]

Everyone is right here. Even, and maybe especially, when they disagree.

I just want to add that this duty to love men and teach men what male acceptance looks like falls primarily on the shoulders of OTHER MEN. It’s my duty to model positive masculinity for my fellow men. Something we can all do is point to real and fictional examples of positive masculinity and say, “See? This guy? Good man. Not a perfect man, but he got the spirit.”

Recent real examples:

Doug Emhoff: nurturing, supportive, centered a woman’s voice while being her equal partner, there for his family, capable, loving, open to growth, goofy mothuhfuckuh.

Tim Walz: Dedicated, protective, laughing warrior, positive, generous, sensitive, knowledgeable, kind. (Also a goofy MFer)

Fiction:

Luke Skywalker (NOT Han Solo): loyal, brave, devoted to justice, open to growth, willing to acknowledge what he doesn’t know, humble, pacifist but will take a stand, strong moral compass but able to admit when he’s wrong.

Newt Scamander: gentle, kind, caring, a fixer, a healer, sees beauty everywhere, sensitive, empathetic, tender, fearless, curios, protective.

In a world where we want to push back against patriarchal gender roles we have to give young men something to be, or SOMEONE will.

We can’t have it both ways. Gender can’t be crucial to someones identity and vital to honor pronouns, recognizing trans men as men and trans women as women. AND just be nothing but a social construct therefore unimportant.

We can’t deconstruct and tear down what being a man IS AND MEANS while destroying patriarchy without replacing it with something worth striving for. Young men WILL latch on to the examples they’re given and guess who is the most notable man at the moment?

I couldn't have said it better myself.

[thepersonperson]

Sukuna is Peak Gap Moe. I’ll never be over this. This bastard talks tough, eats people, and kills like a woodchipper and yet…he is a poetic little sap. Getting mad over an improper haikus, the misidentification of flowers…and confessing his feelings to Gojo Satoru under several layers of wordplay no one except those well-versed in ancient Japanese would catch.

I've been over this in greater detail in Sukuna's Negative Rizz, but @tangsakura added more context in the replies to that post, making Sukuna's use of 凡夫 (bonpu) for Gojo even gayer.

In summary, 凡夫 (bonpu) can be translated as painfully ordinary or unenlightened. But in the individual kanji readings, 凡 is mediocre and 夫 is husband. You could read this as Sukuna calling Gojo his mediocre husband. And that's just the modern readings! The ancient readings...

So you can read this line from Sukuna as the following:

“You were born in an era without me and hailed as 'The Strongest'

1) And yet you turned out to be…painfully ordinary.”

2) And yet you turned out to be…unenlightened.”

3) And yet you turned out to be…a mediocre husband/wife/spouse.”

4) And yet you turned out to be…the ordinary one who could stand by my side.”

Sukuna seems to be saying these things all at once. (It’s no different than the Megumi Activities wordplay he uses with Enchain. Alt. link if the Twitter dies.) Gojo apparently makes him feel very conflicted. He’s boring, he can do better, he shouldn’t even call himself the Honored One, he’s his equal, they’re married. The irony here is that no one except Sukuna can understand this.

[didyoutrywumbo]

I feel like y’all are not understanding the role of incest in gothic media like crimson peak

I keep seeing stuff like oh Lucille was just evil and abusive and Thomas is a poor little meow meow

They BOTH were horribly abused and isolated which led to the horror of the film, their incestuous relationship and murdering

Like the only reason Thomas even grew and changed was because he experienced a healthy love through Edith for the first time

She never got that and her obsession with him (which is super tied to her idea of safety and love and her FEAR) ultimately led to both of their deaths but this is a direct result the abuse she experienced

[seaglassdinosaur]

What’s so interesting to me about Odysseus’s transition in Monster is that he hasn’t changed all that much. He was always capable of violence and we know that because of everything he’s done in the war and in his journey. The only change that occurs is he’s chosen to no longer feel guilty, and to stop hesitating when it comes to violence.

[quietwingsinthesky]

Dean is such a paradox for me because on the one hand, I have been actively triggered by him in the show, there are moments where, intentionally or not, the writers managed to create a portrayal of manipulation and abuse and control issues that it sets off actual alarms for me. And on the other hand, I would not have him any other way. There is something — not comforting, that’s too soft a word — about knowing where Dean’s actions stem from, having seen and learned all that we do about his childhood neglect and parentification and the trauma he goes through repeatedly in the show, and that he doesn’t come out clean. He comes out a goddamn mess who ends up hurting the people around him in reaction to his own pain!

There’s a reality there that’s. Almost nice, actually. Distressing to watch, but it is a fucking mess, it’s a good mess! He’s got zero healthy coping skills and a healthy relationship with say, his brother, is terrifying because it leaves him open to abandonment!

I’m not sure I’m wording this correctly. There is a way to be a good abuse victim. Take the pain, martyr yourself on it, and then, even if you have no support or idea how to, then you have to become a Good Person who never hurts anyone the way you have been learning to your entire life. Simply toss everything that shaped you out the door and emerge a saint with a tragic backstory. And Dean is not that. And that’s so fucking good. Everything that he has gone through continues to effect the way he treats the people around him, and he can’t fight the behaviors he might recognize as harmful because he also sees them as protecting him (or protecting Sam by keeping Sam with him.)

And sometimes, idk. It feels good to see a guy who didn’t heal the “right way.” Who mostly didn’t heal at all, just keeps the wound open because it’s easier that way.

[man-down-in-hatchet-town]

Forever thinking about the part in “One Step Ahead” when Curt says “you’ve lost your mind” and Owen just… doesn’t disagree.

[spoopy-moose]

Shamans’ Daughter, Order’s Mother

[thefloatingwriter]

relating to your reblog.. no one actually gets beetee i fear. minus you mostly. but the consensus of him being a chill tech guy and not in part a mass murderer both in the arena and in the rebellion & also pretty morally grey in a sense? yknwwww. yknw!

yes yes yes. all do this yes. he’s morally gray. it is so obvious he is morally gray it is practically written on his forehead. his morals are definitely questionable. that is so obvious and yet…

at this point i think i need a therapy session simply so i can rant about other people’s interpretations of beetee. because. do you even understand him. did you even read the trilogy. like i don’t even know what to tell some of you at this point except that you just don’t get him like i do.

[volleypearlfan]

“No OfFeNsE tO aDuLt BlUeY fAnS bUt ThAt Is A cHiLdReN'S sHoW. fOr PrEsChOoLeRs” ok and? Why do you think it’s so popular? Bitch there’s a reason why shows like Sesame Street have been on for decades, it’s because the show appeals to EVERYONE

Bluey is a happy baby who loves apple juice and cupcakes. She’s not your enemy. The fact that the OP of the post is actively propagating cringe culture and hating on other autistics is so…cringe. You’re an autistic who only likes “grownup” shows? Ok do you want a fucking trophy? Can we not shame other autistics for their harmless interests? (Before you ask, yes I do have mature™️ interests such as breaking bad. and I do want autistics to try new stuff and reach out of their comfort zones)

Anyways, if you harass ANYONE for liking Bluey or ANY other children’s show, I’ll sail across the ocean and shove an umbrella up your ass and open it. (Please check the tags. Also see this post I made)

[aquaquadrant]

I like to think that Timmy (Not-Jimmy) has the capacity to become a bastard.

Jimmy, in several series shows him not being adverse to violence or playing dirty despite his bad luck and general wet paper bag loser boy swag working to counter that.

If Timmy finally after all these years has some form of power, he would be desperately clinging to it all. He would put all his energy into maintaining it and building it, becoming power hungry in the process and wanting to be respected for once.

After all, did you really think Cinderella truly wanted to return to her life in ashes?

Just some thoughts floating in my peanut I call a brain.

oh, timmy definitely has the capacity to become a bastard. if lily hadn’t given up on him when she did, he likely would’ve taken after her and helped run her ruthless empire at her side, tapping into some of those less prominent traits he got from jimmy.

as for timmy’s current state, it’d have to be some pretty specific circumstances to bring that out in him. at this point he’s spent so long being passive, he wouldn’t really have the will or determination to try and change things for himself on his own- too easily discouraged at the first setback. an opportunity would have to literally fall into his lap for him to claim it, and only then would we see him actually fight to keep it.

[aemiron-main]

“mike wheeler isn’t autistic’

what the fuck was this then LMAO

[parasitoidism]

Ur making me want to get into devilman...the art is so intoxicating to me

it is very good but I feel like I gotta state for the record it’s not something you should read if you want to like. Have fun. It’s just very grim and violent especially toward the end

[chilapis]

Just came back from the exam, I hope everyone is doing well.

[gracemarkss]

trying to gather my thoughts on unruhe. something about this exchange is so vital to me…about how scully maybe isn’t as natural a seeker as mulder. about how her work as a pathologist is focused on “how” rather than “why”…whereas mulder’s profiling is the inverse. a woman is dead and a man killed her and no amount of probing the inner workings of his psyche, his dreams, his nightmares will remedy that situation. discovering the why doesn’t bring about any deeper sense of justice or peace. because really, no why could ever really explain the mundane horror of a woman’s abduction and murder. if anything, it just more starkly reveals the ugly simplicity of the human capacity for cruelty.

but i also love how later, she leans on the why. she channels mulder and his profiler brain. schnauz even picks up on it (“great. now they got you talking like sigmund freud,” in reference to him calling mulder freud during his interrogation). she asks him why he does it. why her. why this. why did his sister kill herself. why did his father do what he did. part of it’s to keep schnauz talking but it’s also another example of how she reaches for him, even metaphorically, in moments of fear and difficulty.

i also love how this episode, with its themes of unrest and strife and trouble, focuses on scully. mulder is usually the more restless character, always searching and seeking and chasing and moving. but scully is just as, if not maybe even more so. her mother’s remaining daughter. her father’s disappointment. a catholic to her bones, even as she lapses. a woman in a man’s job. who imagines a life to be a husband and kids and big sunday dinners, but who can’t stop following the mad man in the basement. who always insists she’s fine, who locks it all away, who chafes and squirms and explodes in impulsive incendiary bursts. who is always always trying.

there are just some things we don’t or can’t look too deeply into. if god is real, or why the woman in front of us is dead. scully will dig and scrape for proof and explanations for many things, but some interrogations aren’t worth the effort, or the fear of what might be found. some things just are, and they’re too big to move or change or overcome. women die because men kill them. what the hell does it matter?

[starfallkaz]

RF Kuang is my new comparison for scaling emotional damage. I’m making peace that nothing will compare to the visceral pain of reading her books, investing myself in the characters, and then reading the ending.

Like I gneiunely don’t think I’ve met an author who has genuinely wished me harm before, until her? At this point, you have to be aware of what you’re doing when you write these Rebecca. You have to.

[sammygender]

at the end of the day it’s just not true that sam ‘explicitly says john never hit them in 1x14’ it’s actually the opposite of true. do you want me to pull up the quotes i love that episode i can pull up the quotes. even aside from the fact that sam’s still identifying with max once he knows he was abused and only stops once it becomes obvious that it continued in adulthood/wasnt a childhood thing that just happened sometimes….. even aside from the fact that dean’s comment at the end of the ep is obviously meant to imply that sam either doesn’t know about something or isn’t considering something….. even if you just take it at the most textual value possible. sam doesn’t say Dad never hit us! he says “a little more tequila, a little less demon-hunting, we would’ve had Max’s childhood”…. very different…… max’s childhood is explicitly Defined by physical violence & sam and dean’s isn’t it’s defined by the hunting and the neglect and for dean the parentification physical violence isn’t the defining part or even the Worst part i would argue of johns abuse……. all sam’s saying is That….. but there is a world of a sliding scale between “max’s childhood” and any other kind of not necessarily frequent but still occurring physical abuse & to act like there isn’t is weird and insane……. and especially to sam those can seem like very different things…… no one wants to believe their parents are awful. sam doesn’t even if he seems like he’s ready to accept it. he’s not really.

he’s Also essentially saying In another world where our dad didn’t have hunting and he drank even more than he already did, he would’ve ended up beating us! . which is also really not a ringing endorsement of john winchester’s parenting wrt physical abuse.

i have like 798477 more thoughts on this but whatever i’m just here to say shut UP about 1x14 in regards to john physical abuse unless you’re using it to mention how it brings that concept, which it returns to multiple times throughout the show, into the narrative…..