#victimshaming

[lucyfrostblade]

I think at this point i need a lobotomy to move on

[girlivealwaysbean]

absolutely not victimshaming but i do not understand how women fall in love with men 10 years older than them esp when they're teenagers/early 20s 😭

[maipareshaan]

God its so weird, the chantalverse drama is such a cesspool of victimshaming but like there is this conflict of agency by being in some bdsm understanding or bad behaviour back. Like its truly fascinating and ladened with dillemmas of the issue.

[hernamewasluna]

#GenderBasedViolence is always finding a woman to blame. If she’s a victim, they victim shame her. If he’s a perp, they blame his mom. Female victims with kids, often stay because of them. If they leave with kids, they’re stigmatised within the dating scene. THEY do the right thing all along the way and they suffer with each step they take. Dad is absent dad, abusive husband and doesn’t support her emotionally, washes his hands off kids after divorce or break up and she’s the bitch, the witch, the never good enough weak woman. Then who is he? Why does he get off scott free every wrong step he makes? Where is the justice? Hold men accountable! #16days #whyistayed #phenomenallyasian #victimblaming #victimshaming https://www.instagram.com/p/CIAmYmtrf42/?igshid=v4bgrwlst0u5

[redakdal]

Its not “your fault"

There is this narrative in our society that if you are naive or gullible to believe in something, that it is "your fault" and "you have no one to blame but yourself". A Person who has been manipulated, and deceived in such a impactful way in their life that never blames themselves initially, yet rarely do others blame the manipulator, instead they blame the victim. Society subjectively dictates who should take the blame,and it can have a adverse effect on everyone, especially the victim.

The last decade has proved that many people in our society are tired of blaming themselves,burnt out from others telling them to "let it go" and "ignore it". They are all tired of standing by doing nothing for far too long. Despite this, there are still many out there who are still scared to speak out. They are afraid, afraid that their struggles will never be significant enough for someone to stand by them.

Trust is something that can be gained over a set period of time. It is at times hard to obtain, yet can be easily misused, over a long period of time. As a result, it can be hard to know if they are being manipulated, even more so to notice when they are being deceived. It is because they put Their trust in something or someone for so long, they will go to extraordinary lengths to protect it, even when they start to notice and understand the reality and truth of it all. They do this, because they want to believe they mattered to something or someone so much so that they are willing to sacrifice everything for it.

The narrative in our society is that if you are naive or gullible to believe in something, that it is "your fault" for being lied to, is something that no one should blame the victim for, and in turn neither should they blame themselves. When people use and deceive you, they are the only ones at fault. Because at the end of the day the narrative shouldn't be you should have known or faulting someone for being deceived and tricked, it should be that the the perpetrator should have never deceived another in the first place.

“Shame about being hurt often has its origin in childhood. And it is then that many of us first learn that it is a virtue to be silent about pain. … As more people have found the courage to break through shame and speak about woundedness in their lives, we are now subjected to a mean-spirited cultural response, where all talk of woundedness is mocked. The belittling of anyone’s attempt to make a context within which they were wounded, were made a victim, is a form of shaming.” ― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

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[confusedspaz]

Innocent

I could slice my palms,

Bloody the carpet

With dancing specks and dashes,

Like Morse code,

Begging for help.

And you,

Who broke the glass

That tears my flesh,

Would cover your eyes

And walk the other way,

“innocent”.

If I took you

By the shoulders,

With the force

That overwhelms me,

You would weep,

Like a child

After a confrontation

With the big, bad bully,

Utterly “innocent”.

I could

Dote and coddle,

Love and cherish,

Forgive and forget,

But it would not change

That you

Are never anything

But

“INNOCENT.”

[no-way-in-blog1]

What the times to be alive! Today just half of a society will blame you for your suicide rather than a whole.

[nissemjau]

To every rape/sexual assault victim.

You’re not a victim, you survived. I survived!

We’re all survivors of something horrible that happened to us, we are strong and we will keep being strong because that’s What we do, we fight. We keep telling people our stories so they can find the strenght to tell their stories.

I know that its never gonna end but we can get the numbers down.

When i was younger someone did things to me, i know exactly who he is and What he did and he knows too, i Don’t think any person who can do this feels remorse in any way possible. I know every woman in my family has been assaulted in some way and my family is kind of big, for me that shows how many ”victims” there are in the world. Not only women even men. Some days im so disgusted with men because it was a man who did things to me but it does’nt mean i hate men because i Don’t it’s just my brain that tells me that i shouldnt trust anyone because if i know who did things to me and my family the next person can do the exact thing again if im not careful.

And even though i shouldnt feel guilt, i do i Will always feel guilt. I always think that im going to confront him but What if he tells me that it wasnt in that way or Thats not What happened or worse, he admits it? What do i do then? And now i have those sexual urges Thats not fucking normal because What he did made my brain think some things are okay for people to do to me or with me. So i feel guilt for that too because if my brain says i like it, i cant complain about someone assaulting me, right? But i didnt want those things happening to me because now im damaged for the rest of my life but im going to live with it because you Dont give up, you keep fighting and telling your story.

We survived shit that people shame and blame us for, we survived so im gonna keep my head up high and keep fighting.

[rfarrokh]

Let us advocate for the victim and stop the blame game❣️Your voice matters and so does your experience … you are heard 😘💖 #victimblaming #victimmentality #stopblamingthevictim #shamegame #victim #victims #victimshaming #shaming #suicideprevention #suicidepreventionmonth #suicideawarness #suicideawarenessmonth #suicidequote #mentalstigma #metoomovement #metoo #youareseen #youareheard #shareyourstory #shareyourlove #shareyourheart #speakyourtruth #speakyourmind #speakyourheart #speakyourself #reducethestigma #mentalhealthadvocate #advocatelife #donotbesilent #rachaelsroadtorecovery https://www.instagram.com/p/CTeJwQnLi_A/?utm_medium=tumblr

[mholquinn]

Reposted from @farida.d.author Reason no. 214 from my book THE 2ND LIST OF SHIT THAT MADE ME A FEMINIST (get your copy from the link in my bio)🔥 ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #victimblaming #victim #victimshaming #metoo #metoomovement #speakup #speakout #boyswillbeheldaccountablefortheiractions #boyswillbeboys  #empoweredwomen #toxicmasculinity #empoweredwomenempowerwomen #ineedfeminismbecause #ineedfeminism #intersectionalfeminism #thelistofshitthatmademeafeminist #thelistofshitiexplaintomen #writingforwomen #oppression #patriarchy #misogyny #socialjusticewarrior #socialjustice #feministpoetry #genderequality #feminismisforeverybody #weneedfeminism  #womenrights #femininity #masculinity https://www.instagram.com/p/CRMxA_HFmMP/?utm_medium=tumblr

[henriete41]

#What " #rapeculture " #means : #rape is #all #too #common #reporting #report #assaults #attempt assaults #seek #justice #stop #victimshaming #respect #assist #victims #report #assault #stopvictimshaming

[asurvivornotavictm]

The clothes that a person doesn’t give consent. People are free to choose how they dress, and if a person is dressed in a particular manner, it doesn’t mean that they are asking to be assaulted or raped. It’s summer, it’s hot, and it isn’t a crime to wear clothes that are revealing. If the way that people dressed (or lack there of) then the number of people raped would go up in the summer....it doesn’t. . . . . . #asurvivornotavictim #metoomovement #rapevictim #sexualassault #rapesurvivor #rapevictimrecovery #domesticviolence #rapevictimsupport #rapesurvivorsupport #rapesurvivors #enoughisenough #timeisup #timesup #rapecultureisreal #metoo #rapeculture #consentculture #nomore #timesupnow #stoprapeculture #rapeculturemakesmesick #victimblaming #rapecultureiswhen #survivor #socialjustice #rapistsrape #stopblamingvictims #victimshaming

[hernamewasluna]

Proof that #victimshaming can happen to anyone. To an A list celebrity or to any of the 1 out of 4 invisible women I listen to and think about on a daily basis. Abusive men often push female victims to the edge and when they finally break down, all the accountability is on her shoulders. Her dad is using her money to pay himself, to hire expensive lawyers to fight HER in court. She needs HIS permission to even hire her own team of lawyers. How many male celebrities have had a long history of far worse problems? They don’t have conservators! Where is the justice? Source @blackilocks #freebritney #suspendjamie #metoo #timesup #timesupnow https://www.instagram.com/p/CHdNBTmL7CE/?igshid=13kt51jlemvfk

[racheleroyale]

WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH 💅🏼⚔️📜 Let’s continue to rewrite the narrative for females. We deserve to be taken care of and celebrated. Treat us with respect, listen to us, don’t be condescending. Believe us when we say we are fearful of predators. Barbaric animals who take advantage of us and have no clue how to control themselves. Protect us, love us, help us. #womenempowerment #timesup #victimshaming #victimsupport #womensupportingwomen #womenshistorymonth https://www.instagram.com/p/B9QL78rlU6D/?igshid=1ftc1rr2itmw8

[mermaidgirl1990]

#abusesurvivor #myjourney #ptsd #therealside #dontshame #dontblame #victimshaming #itswrong #stopthestigma #myartwork #digitalart #inkscapedesign https://www.instagram.com/p/B7zCX6FpH4YdY_ffu30nhfoANr6f2W7kBeqANA0/?igshid=aoagfbt6x9k7