#stopblamingvictims

[amoderatelycreative]

THIS CANNOT BE STRESSED ENOUGH!

[asurvivornotavictm]

The clothes that a person doesn’t give consent. People are free to choose how they dress, and if a person is dressed in a particular manner, it doesn’t mean that they are asking to be assaulted or raped. It’s summer, it’s hot, and it isn’t a crime to wear clothes that are revealing. If the way that people dressed (or lack there of) then the number of people raped would go up in the summer....it doesn’t. . . . . . #asurvivornotavictim #metoomovement #rapevictim #sexualassault #rapesurvivor #rapevictimrecovery #domesticviolence #rapevictimsupport #rapesurvivorsupport #rapesurvivors #enoughisenough #timeisup #timesup #rapecultureisreal #metoo #rapeculture #consentculture #nomore #timesupnow #stoprapeculture #rapeculturemakesmesick #victimblaming #rapecultureiswhen #survivor #socialjustice #rapistsrape #stopblamingvictims #victimshaming

[therealchandon]

Not up for debate. #JustFacts #NoMeansNo #HerBodyHerChoice #StopBlamingVictims #SheCanWearWhatSheWants (at Dallas, Texas)

[loloaveee1]

The Abuja Uprising: End Rape Now!

On Friday 5th June, protests erupt in Abuja, and on our various social media on sexual and gender based crimes. With the recent rape and gender related crime cases coming as testimonies from different people from all over, some people taking to various social media handles with recent tags: #stopblamingvictims #justiceforuwa #justicefortina #justiceforjennifer. The protests go as far as to the Police Headquarters in Abuja although there are also protests in Lagos.

The protests here can be compared to the ones all over in USA. After all, there is a similarity: fighting for equality in a certain aspect. In retrospect, meaning that we aren't so different. Here is a Twitter post from an activist:

P.S: This is a screenshot

So, do you think these victims are totally to blame? To my readers everywhere, do you think they deserved this gruesome pain? Before we start pointing fingers, let's take time to have a good reality check: Even if they did deserve this, why this? Rape doesn't just traumatize, it kills! These innocent girls and women, either lured via the social media or on the road, have dreams and aspirations those rapists don't know about: They don't understand that they are human too not sex toys to be used and disposed of. They get unwanted pregnancies: children are brought into the world where their mothers sometimes wish they never happened, they get all sorts of infections that can lead to death or even infertility and others just kill themselves because they feel there is no use living.

We need a people friendly world for our sake and the sake of the generation to come. For any rape activists reading this, I say kudos and keep up your excellent job no matter how hard because they are taking great steps in changing our world. To rape victims out there, COME OUT!! 

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[lishquig]

We are taught

from the moment we leave our pink nurseries

we are collapsible paper dolls:

light to hold, easier to crumple.

That as women, our worth lives secretly

wrapped in lace and cotton panties,

our fragility armored in pepper spray and mace.

They say one in three women will be raped

or sexually abused in their lifetime.

I am one of 5 daughters.

Imagine each victim is an acrobat.

Her sanity, a balancing act.

Our response is the unfailing safety net.

We never expect to see her across the wire so.

You weren’t just violated, we tell her,

you are an empty museum, a gutted monument

to what used to hold so much worth.

With best intentions we tell her to reclaim it,

put a price tag on her rape and own it.

Don’t stand too tall, don’t act too strong.

We will name you denial.

Come back when you are ready to crumble

like your bones are made of chalk.

You can only laugh cutely or cry beautifully,

so cry beautifully.

We will catch you.

We are calling it theft,

as if he could pluck open your ribs like cello strings,

pocket your breasts, steal what makes your heart flutter

and tack its wings to his wall.

Some days you will feel dirty.

Some weeks you’ll remember how hard it is to breathe in public,

but know this:

the person who did this to you is broken. Not you.

The person who did this to you is out there,

choking on the glass of his chest.

It is a windshield

and his heartbeat is a baseball bat:

regret this, regret this.

Nothing was stolen from you.

Your body is not a hand-me-down.

There is nothing that sits inside you holding your worth,

no locket that can be seen or touched,

fucked from your stomach to be left on concrete.

I know it’s hard to feel perfect

when you can’t tell an Adam’s apple from a fist.

Some ashtray of a man picked you to play his Eden

but I will not watch you collapse.

Adapted verse from Sierra DeMulder, “Paper Dolls

#stopblamingvictims #believewhentheyarebraveenoughtocomeforward

#metoo

[nosseili3-blog]

Reflection 5, “Men and Feminism.”

Masculine privilege has been around throughout generations to the point men normalize everything they do and they don’t realize the privilege they have. For example, men don’t have to hold on their car key so tight at night just in case somebody pops out on them and they gotta run, men don’t get called a “slut” or a “whore” based on how they appear and what they wear. Men have so much privilege. One of the problems in masculine privilege would be the rape or sexual assault that occurs. Although men get raped too, 90% of the time it is women and mostly 16 year olds. However, it’s saddening how in today’s society, individuals tend to focus more on what the woman was wearing than what the man was doing. They try to victimize men and that is one of their privileges as well. It also states, “More people falsely report their own death than file a false report alleging sexual assault.” The problem in sexual assault is that women are always seen as the “liars” or trying to hurt men but what about the men who actually raped them and who are out there still living their life while somebody’s in pain? Power and privilege play a big role in this. Not only that, sexism is one of the many problems in masculine privilege. For example, they used two different methods on how men treat women when they are around them and when they are around their boys which helps you observe their behavior and why they might do it. Men tend to say erotic things to women in order to attract them but when they are with their boys, “give a woman another drink to change her mind!” In this case, this shows how some men take advantage of women just to look “masculine” and because they can. I learned a lot in this reading but what surprised me a lot was how some men wanted to take their wife’s last name but they had to do all of these documents and ended up taking it to court. When they ended up taking their wife’s last name, they are called “sissy” because the norm only shows how women take their husband’s last time, therefore, it wouldn’t be “masculine” enough for a man to take his wife’s. Not all men are sexist or a rapist but the point is privilege plays a big role in masculinity and we just need to transform that power, to something that actually impacts people’s lives and hears out everybody instead of being greedy and taking advantage of every little thing that comes their way. 

[asurvivornotavictm]

I am so tired of rapists and abusers getting away with their crimes and being basically protected by the very same laws that are “supposed” to protect the victims. The system is so broken! . . . #asurvivornotavictim #metoomovement #metoo #rapevictim #sexualassault #rapesurvivor #rapevictimrecovery #domesticviolence #rapevictimsupport #rapesurvivorsupport #rapesurvivors #enoughisenough #timeisup #timesup #rapecultureisreal #consentculture #nomore #happenstoeveryone #socialjustice #genderequality #rapeculturemakesmesick #timesupmovement #timesupnow #endrapeculture #stoprapeculture #ibelievehim #ibelieveher #ibelieveyou #victimblaming #stopblamingvictims https://www.instagram.com/p/Bnp6as6H3pp/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=q1b7su9q43ys

[ocadvsa]

Stop Victim Blaming - clothing doesn't cause rape, rapist cause rape.

[freestina-blog]

While poor people struggle, NYCHA claims they need luxury housing, meanwhile screwing us all! #stopblamingvictims #freestina #christinagonzalezcitycouncil