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[nyxi-pixie]

thinking abt creatives and self criticism and wondering if the whole capitalism grindset thing is part of why people think the only things they produce that are worthy of praise are things that take Significant time and effort, and thus when you're naturally good at, or enjoy the process of, creating enough that it doesnt feel difficult, you devalue your own creation bc you feel as if it didnt take enough out of you.

anyway. its very difficult to view your own work in an objective way but i can almost guarantee you that a lot of the flaws you find are not going to be obvious to most of your audience.

Your audience is not desperately searching for fault with your work the way you are as its creator.

[vriskaserketdaily]

thoughts on tgirl vriska ? she’s real to me but ur like the #1 vriska enjoyer on my dash so I was wondering what u think

im gonna be real after going into the tag every day for the past 3+ years and seeing every possible take and headcanon my bar is so low that i'm just happy we're in agreement that vriska is a girl

tgirl vriska is a well-supported read of her character, but not the only valid one in my opinion. that being said, if you're a hardcore cis vriska truther, you do yourself a great disservice by ignoring her dysphoric characterization---whether you read that as early-transition transfem dysphoria, lesbian butch dysphoria, alternian caste dysphoria, or any combination of the above.

i do not, however, read her dysphoria as transmasculine in nature, and maintain that vriska's gender (girl/woman) is extremely important in understanding her role in the story, her relationships with other characters, and how the concepts of heroism, protagonism, justice, and strength impact her narrative. a transfem reading does not detract from this, nor does it particularly enhance anything to me, someone who already read vriska as a dysphoric lesbian & therefore already accounted for some form of Gender to be going on regardless of the hypothetical birth-assignment situation.

basically, my personal opinion is that her trans status is a nice garnish but irrelevant to what already is a fascinating, compelling, and well-rounded (dare i say, strong) female character. the fact that she's a female character is more important to me than the fact (or headcanon) that she is a trans character, because i regularly see and cope with the most asinine and blatantly incorrect headcanons and takes about her on this earth. you're asking a man dying of thirst whether a gallon of ice water or a gallon of merely cool water is better.

my bar for sexuality headcanons is likewise on the floor. y'all don't have to agree with me on the lesbian reading but as long as we concur that she's wlw then everything is a-okay by me. my final message 2 da world: never go into the tags of your favorite character.

[huellitaa]

⋅˚₊‧ ୨ getting comfy being uncomfy

──★ ˙ ̟🎀fear

an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.

──★ ˙ ̟🎀uncomfortable

causing or feeling unease or awkwardness.

🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ 1. the differences between the two

first thing; learn the difference between uncomfortable and genuine fear. of course i encourage you to do things out of your comfort zone and push yourself, but never to the point it mentally or physically hurts you. your health in all areas comes first, ALWAYS 💖

🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ 2. fear of change

please dont be afraid to change! its perfectly okay to grow out of people or places or things you used to love because change is a natural part of being human! we are constantly growing and evolving every day, please dont hold back your success and opportunity to flourish for someone or something else. life is constantly fluid and changing and in motion forever and ever, so staying stagnant is the worst thing u could possibly do bcuz it is such a disservice to you and your life as a whole.

🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ 3. you are your biggest fan!

be ur own no.1 supporter! i mentioned this in my self reliance post, and i think that applies a lot to this too! ur always gonna be by ur side so prove that to yourself. you'd want someone you love to be there by your side through thick and thin, failure or success, right? be that for yourself! be ur own cheerleader! things change! life goes on! whatever happens, it's always for the best! 🩷✨

🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ 4. detective work: the analysis chapter!

once youve done something that makes you uncomfortable, what i'd do is id then reflect; but you can do this before or after.

──★ ˙ ̟🎀before

what aspects of said uncomfortable scenario makes you uncomfortable? have you had similar experiences like this in the past that may have triggered this? what are the pros and cons of this situation? will you gain from this?

──★ ˙ ̟🎀after:

was it as uncomfortable as you imagined? why did it make you uncomfortable? how did you feel during said uncomfortable scenario? what did you learn from said uncomfortable scenario?

using this information, you can then log your experiences from this time and decide on how you can incorporate this into next time so you can begin to grow accustomed to it using what you've learnt. think of it like an experiment.

analyse your triggers, recognise what makes you uncomfortable and why that is, study yourself! you are the most important subject you could ever study 🩷✨

🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ 5. confidence and the learning experience

finally, trust in your ability to bounce back from anything. done something embarrassing? doesn't matter. this is all our first attempt and we are all failing and learning and growing every day through everything. everything that gets thrown at you in life is to teach you something. everything is a lesson to be learnt from so that you can be informed and ready and prepared in future. please remember you've been through worse, and there's nothing that you can't come back from. 💖

all my love 🩷💭✨🎀

[megamindsecretlair]

heyy pretty gal 😩💞 been a min! can I plz have ur advice??

So i recently had sex for the first time. p.s. ate that shii DOWN 🏆👀 But it’s embarrassing cuz that mf got me sick .. Iykyk. 😐

I’m so heart broke ONLY cuz it felt so good & I’ve wanted that for so long.... Just for it to negatively affect me emotionally/physically. 💔 And intimacy is so addicting* (especially with childhood traumas.)

So it’s kinda like I played myself. Or did myself a disservice. By giving in, being intimate, & giving chances to someone who didnt deserve it. Damn i feel like a statistic.

But still, why are Black men so.. hurtful.. to Black women?? Should I have kept my promise & waited longer? How do you recoup after experiencing sex? especially after a person/situation like that.

I want to move on.. but idk when I’ll feel that closeness again. And as a Black woman? Im tired of using work/responsibilites as a “healthy” distraction. I just want an emotional break 💔 these niggas piss me off .

~ ik its a lot, but this a safe space right? <3

Hey girl. I am by no means a sex expert or mental health expert, take what resonates, leave what doesn't, but this is indeed a safe space and I'm absolutely honored you trusted me with this.

Having sex is a deeply personal decision, but you should never feel like you did yourself a disservice. FUCK THAT MF 👏🏽👏🏽 HE AINT DESERVE YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Unfortunately, theres no way to know that for certain when these mfs are scheming from jump. Black men are conditioned to be coddled. Family, especially Black moms, will cater to and coddle the hell out of their sons. Fix their plates, wash their clothes, etc. So when they get out into the streets, they're looking for that in their partners. Conversely, Black daughters are conditioned to overchieve to the point of perfectionism. They have to be cooks, doctors, therapists, maids, etc and outclass their counterparts in every way possible. So if a man don't get what he thinks he deserves, he feels no qualms about dogging someone out.

I'm sorry your first time sucked. Im so, so, sorry that it wasn't full of love and safety. Do not beat yourself up about this. Sex should be enjoyed safely with consenting partners. You WILL get there. One day, you will be screaming glory to the ceiling. I know this will happen for you 👏🏽

This is only one bad experience. But it cannot color your future experiences. My best advice is to listen to your gut. When you are in tune with the right person, you may not feel butterflies or anxiousness or feel that die hard passion that TV likes to lie about. The right person? Will make you feel safe. You will feel calm around this person. Your worries will melt away because his/her/their priority is to put you at ease. They will listen to you. They will communicate with you. They will never pressure you into something you're not ready for.

They will wait 10 years to have sex with you if you're not ready. And will gladly wait those 10 years to make sure you're safe in their arms. I cannot stress this enough. Communication is your best friend 👏🏽 if you can't open your mouth and communicate your needs with someone you're willing to hop in bed with, why are you hopping in bed with them 🤔

Sex is a journey. A long, complicated, stressful, wonderful journey. The intimacy will come, the love will come. You gon get there, I promise 😚 even if its casual sex and youre not in love with the person, fight that instinct to retreat. Fight that instinct to close yourself off.

You dont need distractions right now, you gotta sit with this feeling. You gotta live with it. You gotta identify what it is youre searching for. And never compromise on that.

Black girls are never afforded opportunities to be soft. To be vulnerable.

Fight it!!! And keep fighting it!!!

[just-jordie-things]

Btw, just letting you and everyone else know. I DO peek into the comments. I check the reblogs as well if there are any. So thank you to ness-iness for the comment about me cooking up the good stuff. I'm kinda the opposite of a good writer without ideas. I'm that writer who is bursting with ideas but shitty at writing them. and thank you for the offer with the edits. I see everything, don't worry. If I reach out I'll tag myself as "Jordies Nanami flowershop anon" ~ Nanami flowershop anon

<3<3<3<3 MY NANAMI FLOWERSHOP ANON <3<3<3<3

practive makes perfect tho!!! ur ideas are just too damn good for you to not try your hand at itttt you're doing us a disservice keepin your brainrot to yourself !!

[nahalism]

what would you say to someone who’s trying to learn not to take everything personally

ill speak bluntly cause its how i speak to myself about this kind of stuff— what people do, is what people do. their world revolves around them, not you, so it really isnt personal, and if you take that personally you disservice yourself because you give them waay too much power. decide how you feel and why you feel it. ground in that & move from that. make it a mantra. (this doesnt mean be egotistical, you can do this from a conscientious space). now if they continue to act in a way that consistently makes you feel a way, its time for you to question your compatibility, & you are well within your rights to try to resolve that conflict or assert some boundaries, & then if that doesnt work, continue living your life far away from them.— hoping or expecting them to change will be fruitless. they cant and cannot be expected to alter how they perceive the world, even how they perceive you, and how they conduct themselves, because you dont like how it makes you feel. yfm? ultimately your the one who decides what gets under your skin & you'll have a better hold on what gets in and out by understanding why it has a hold on you in the first place.

also when ppl state their thoughts & feelings & preferences (which is rly what boundaries are), and they differ from yours, it doesnt mean incompatibility. people can be different and still like eachother. it just takes some respect & understanding on how to navigate the differences. however if theyre using their thoughts, feelings, preferences as a means to attack yours, its not only v wack of them but also its on you to see it for what it is. it says more about them than you, & it shows their inherently disempowered & need to control what is right and wrong so that their perception of reality can be reinforced and strengthened. preying on you, in the hopes you say you feel the same as them, or otherwise feel undermined/affected by what they say, allows them to process that same disempowerment they feel deep down yet are unable to sit with, by enabling you to process it for them. dont give them the benefit of emotional tourism at your expense. let them be them and be proud to be you. whats true will win, and even if ur wrong but ur hearts in the right place, being wrong wont be as hard to bounce back from. easier said than done but i know u can. sending u my love <3

[blahkugo]

𝟑 ༒ 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔲 𝔰𝔥𝔞𝔩𝔱 𝔫𝔬𝔱 𝔱𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔫𝔞𝔪𝔢 𝔬𝔣 𝔱𝔥𝔶 𝔩𝔬𝔯𝔡 𝔦𝔫 𝔳𝔞𝔦𝔫

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tōru oikawa — dirty talk

a/n: tōru “steal ur bitch” oikawa. i apologize for yet another cucking fic (no i don’t) <3 thank you to @theygottheircages for that last line ( ˘ ³˘)♡

wc: 1.4k

cw: adultery, degradation, slapping, oinks being a bastard

Your fall from heaven began with a glance. It was nothing more than an accident, a stare held one second too long to be anything other than romantic. But the moment you laid eyes on him—batted fluffy lashes up towards this divine bringer of light—you knew it was much too late to avoid being blinded.

He feeds you the apple in slices.

A smirk, the graze of his knuckles on your bare skin, an effortless tick of his jaw that keeps you pondering for days to come; Oikawa is a master manipulator. It’s so sweet, so innocent, when he swipes a thumb across your cheek to retrieve a lost eyelash, but those same fingers send shivers down your spine.

It was manageable—harmless fun, even. Your relationship suffered naught from the temptations, because, if anything, it made you more eager for Issei. The little traipses with temptation only urged you to kiss your fiancée harder, to love more passionately, to grip him with a ferocity each and every time he held you in that unwavering grasp of his.

But the snip was inevitable, wings torn off in a haze of lust and immorality.

You should have seen it coming, should have bitten the hand that fed you. Because once that wretched apple was gone, he had nothing more to give you. But you asked for more, practically begged for the precarious situation you now find yourself in—Ambrosia-soaked fingertips pressed against your eager tongue.

“You’re slobbering all over me,” he smirks, pressing deeper, “it’s disgusting.” The Devil has a way of making the crudest remarks sound regal, alluring and utterly irresistible even as he promises eternal damnation.

You mewl around his digits, pleading for the mercy of sweet release; Oikawa only laughs, nudging your legs apart with his free hand and diving straight for your pretty lace panties. He doesn’t have to check to know you’re drenched, a patch of slick soaking through the skimpy article and trailing your thighs. Any lesser reaction would be a disservice to his sanctity.

“What should I do with you?” He questions, expectant, though his fingers remain lodged inside your mouth. A knuckle curls and unfurls against your clothed slit—teasing, maddening. “Hm?”

“Fuck me,” your words are garbled around him, “please.”

The plea doesn’t sway him, finger still lazily circling your bud. He seems to be contemplating his next move, deciding how to debauch you further. Your room feels small, held captive by the dizzying scent of pink pepper and rum—his cologne.

Oikawa has never been an entity that sits by the sidelines. No, like water in any container, wherever he is he fills with himself. He is too grand not to be the center of attention, too illustrious to ignore. You can swear up and down that you were already much too enamored to take heed of his presence, but it’d be a lie all the same.

“Don’t get all dazed on me now,” he snaps, slapping at your clit. The whine that leaves you should be illegal, a high-pitched huff of air that makes you sound depraved. “Why should I bother with Mattsun’s leftovers?” He tilts his head ever-so slightly, soft brunette locks tousling with the movement. It’s an action wholly unsuitable for someone so wretched.

The mention of your poor, sweet fiancé sends a rush of guilt through you—at the weight of what you’re about to take part in. Leftovers. That’s all you are to the Devil before you, all you’ll ever be. And yet, the shame brings with it a new wave of heat to your core.

As humiliating as it may be, you have no choice but to heed the warning. You may have been able to refuse him, had you been stronger, more sound in your principles. But too much of your soul belongs to him already, too many nights spent yearning and aching for this very moment.

That’s why—with a trembling voice, body ablaze with greed—you begin your oblation,

“Tōru.” You attempt to call as sweetly as possible, stretching his name even as your voice remains muffled around his digits. Though his face stays steady, arrogant smirk sitting proudly, you swear you feel a slight twitch in his fingers. “Need you inside me,” a pout, paired with a soft graze of his bare bicep, “m’so wet for you, p-please.”

It’s enough to set him off.

Oikawa doesn’t bother stretching you out; whether it’s because he’s well aware how most of your nights with Issei end—panting beneath the sheets���or because he simply doesn’t care to, you’re unsure. But instead of nudging his fingers into you, he simply sinks his cock in, fast and heavy, digits of his left hand still hooked onto your pliant tongue.

“Oh, fuck,” he hisses sharply, “how are you this fucking tight?” Tears cloud your vision, your lower half bursting with pain as you instinctually attempt to scramble away, but Tōru’s free hand now rests at your waist, clutching you tightly against him.

“Tōru!” The tears flow freely down your cheeks now. “Shlow– ah, slow down!” Even as you cry out, you know the words are meaningless. Every twinge of pain makes you drool, every slap of heavy balls against your slit urges you to wrap your legs around his middle and pull him closer. It seems Oikawa knows it, too.

“Cute.” It’s his favorite word for you, a compliment that used to make your eyes grow wide and your skin prickle with pride. Now, it sounds like nothing more than a sneer—praise for a favorite pet.

Despite your pleas, the pace Oikawa sets is relentless. When he finally frees your mouth, it’s only to slather slick fingers across your face. There’s a tap at your cheek—once, twice—the palm of his hand slapping softly before gripping at your jaw. He bends to meet the shell of your ear, nipping at it with sharp canines before whispering,

“Mattsun told us all about how much you love to play the good girl.” You draw a sharp breath, but Tōru only snickers. “It ‘hurts so bad,’ right?” A sharp thrust, a mewl from you. “I’d play along,” he grunts when your nails dig into his back, “but I want to see that look on your face.”

There’s a throbbing now, a wrench in your gut that has nothing to do with how hard Oikawa pounds into you. Issei—sweet and doting, the perfect man to settle down with—has shared your most intimate moments with this bastard? It’s wrong, to criticize an angel’s minor sin while (quite literally) in bed with the devil, but you can’t help the hurt.

“There’s that face,” he declares proudly, lips quirking into a sly smile. “Now, I want to hear it. Why are you panting like a bitch in heat?” His fingers press bruises into your waist. “Why are you pulling me closer?” Sweat drips off your bodies, the heat and humidity clouding your brain. “You beg and you cry, but really, you love being fucked like this.” When your eyes roll back, he slaps your cheek once more. “Don’t you?”

The fingers at your waist move all at once, grazing your thighs before circling rapidly at your bundle of nerves. You don’t think you can speak, want nothing more than to deny the goading, but the pleasure makes your head foggy and your tongue loose.

“I-I do! I do!” The irony of the those two words—of the fact that you’ll be whispering them to your beloved in only a few days, isn’t lost on you. “Fuck- Tōru, I love being f-fucked like this.”

“Atta girl!” Oikawa laughs louder now, a bellowing that rumbles his chest, sweat-soaked skin strained tightly against your own.

You once thought yourself Eve, led awry by the temptations of a fallen angel. You thought yourself holy and misplaced in your naive trust of the figure before you. But what of Lilith? What of the demoness, the woman disgraced long before the Devil could dishevel her?

“Now, why don’t we call up Mattsun and let him know just how much of a slut you are?”

Angels of a feather fall together.

[lasquadrasfuckhouse]

Hello!

Maybe some la sqadra headcanons with s/o, who is super fixed on pets? Like, they want to adopt every animal from the shelter, and cry every time they see a abandoned pet on the street. S/o just loves pets so so much that they would do everything to have more

Ofc it's just a proposition, bye bye!❤

AW I LOVE THIS

la squadra with a partner who loves animals 😻

risotto ✂️

he gets it. he has a soft spot for small cute things

he's very fond of how doting u are to every creature but he'll keep you in check, gently pull you away from a passing animal shelter and the like. pets take commitment and u both have very demanding jobs as is

he will help u set out bowls of water for all the strays and little creatures tho

if u bring home a lost pet he'll want you to bring it to the shelter and let the people there find its owner but you count as small cute things he's soft for (because everyone is small compared to risotto). give him puppy eyes for long enough and he'll give you a few days to find the owner yourself but it can't interfere with work and you're completely responsible for it

you'll probably be able to sway him on taking in ONE (1) stray cat if it has the right temperament, quiet and won't interfere and more on the independent side. there are a lot of strays in the neighbourhood as is, he figures having a cat in the house won't be much more of a stretch than you looking after the cats outside

he reasons that for himself too because he loves cats. he'll let it sleep on his chest and he WILL take it for walks on a lil kitty harness do NOT test him, do NOT fuck with this guy while he's walking his cat

he also thinks tarantulas, scorpions, and reptiles are cool (reptiles would love him he's so warm!!!) but maintaining a terrarium is a lot of work

prosciutto 🚬

no. he will answer firmly, no. you both know how busy you are

he tries to reason with you every time you cry over a stray: you can't adopt them all, you know it would be a disservice to the animal to take on that responsibility only to find you can't balance it, i know it's sad but you're only one person with a very difficult job you can't overhaul the shelter system overnight. he'd try to help you toughen up for your own sake, not that u have to love animals any less but he doesn't want u burning out emotionally and he doesn't like seeing u cry either

if u bring home a lost pet, he will also insist you take it to the shelter. if u have a staredown about it (the shelters are so busy already and what if they can't find its person!!!!), it will be a LONG staredown. but if u promise to take full responsibility and find the owners asap he will relent BUT DONT MAKE IT A HABIT. if he has spare time he May help you with finding the owners, mostly to speed things up but it does also make u happy

might also accept one (1) cat with the right temperament but it's YOUR responsibility. if you're prepared to take on the commitment urself, he can coexist with a chill cat pretty easily. he will give it pets if it curls around his legs. if it wants to curl up in his lap, as long as he's not busy, well..... he would allow it

(the cat definitely grows on him)

he supposes he wouldn't mind fishes or a reptile but again, your responsibility

pesci 🎣

he thinks ur so sweet and he has a very hard time saying no to you

as long as ur managing your time and energy right he doesn't think it's so bad!!!! will defend you if the others try to tease you or get on your case

he will help. he might not mesh well with very rambunctious and outgoing animals tho. he may get nervous about caring for them right (is this food good for them? how do i hold them? what if they get sick?) but if u show him how and reassure him and he gets reassurance and affection from the critter too he'll probably cry

he would, of course, love a fish tank. he gets really into arranging and rearranging the setup and caring for ur fishies. he could watch them for hours and also defends them against people who say they're boring (THEY HAVE PERSONALITY)

he would say no to arachnids or other bugs and no to reptiles and amphibians (cause they eat bugs)

formaggio 🧀

HES RIGHT THERE WITH U

cats are his favorite even if he is not cats' favorite. he looks after the strays with you and will comfort you when you cry about them

if you find a lost pet he'll help you hide it (probably make it smaller) while you team up to secretly care for it and find the owners

'formaggio what the hell is that sound coming from ur room' 'oh i just fell asleep with the tv on' '..... and it's still making the same sounds 3 hours later?' 'ITS A LONG MOVIE'

HE WOULD LOVE TO RAISE A CAT WITH U. two cats would be great too but you do both have busy jobs. cool with rodents too, would be cool with a dog or parrot in theory but in practice they take a lot of work and require a lot of social time and y'all are pretty busy being assassins.

illuso ✨

he will gently tease you for being a softie (the keyword here being gently because he loves u) but he's honestly a little endeared

he's trying to befriend the flock of crows around base so they'll be his little minions so u spend time together leaving them snack offerings

for trying to actually get a pet tho? ur on ur own

if you find a lost pet he may offer to hide it in the mirror world while u search for the owner BUT he will require payment. whether that is a kiss or you do his chores for a week. and he doesn't really do well with animals cause he just doesn't know what to do with them but he will do his best to help care for them in the mirror world if u can't be there because it's for u (and contrary to popular belief he's not completely heartless)

no. no strays in the house. i know it's cute and sad but it's all dirty, you don't know where it's been. but then you start tearing up and he's like ah fuck okay FINE tidy it up and bring it to the shelter but im outtie

he does find cats and snakes very graceful tho and may be open to having one as long as it's a good fit personality and needs wise and it's mostly your responsibility

melone 🍈

he finds it adorable. he loves how sweet u are

he loves hearing about his partner's interests so he will talk about cool biological and developmental animal facts and how u can learn a lot about human behaviour by studying the nature around us

doesn't see the harm in helping out any strays or lost creatures u may find and is totally down to help

he will remind u that pets are a lot of responsibility tho!!! if u want one u have to figure out how to balance other responsibilities with it but he's cool with co-parenting

he thinks reptiles and amphibians are really fucking cool. he'd probably be interested in a bird too cause he has the patience and creativity for them but ur also both busy people. he'd LOVE having sweet rat babies b/c they are so smart!!!

ghiaccio ❄️

he LOVES everything cute and soft and fluffy so he understands but also you can't rescue every stray or adopt the whole shelter we are assassins,

you befriend the neighbourhood cats together and build squirrel feeders. sometimes you'll go to the park just to cry about how cute all the dogs are

if you find a lost pet he may try to be like ugh.... do we have time for this....... but he caves VERY fast. will whisper-yell at anyone who tries to give you grief for it because he doesn't want to startle the poor creature. will help you find its owner if it'll get the others off ur back

he would very much want to raise cute animals with u. you have work to think about but if u had a rather independent cat that would work. he'd also love rats and hamsters

starts dreaming of retiring with u one day so u can have a bunny and a yappy little pomeranian he can wear matching sweaters with

sorbet and gelato 🔪🍦

they think ur utterly adorable. ur their sweet beloved third and they dote on you and would love to be involved in/support ur passions

they will help u look after the strays and may point out like someone's cute dog that they're walking just to see ur eyes light up and hear u gush

they Will smuggle lost pets inside the base for you and they Will help you find the owner they don't care about getting in trouble with risotto they're in trouble all the time anyway it's their jobs

would very much like to be pet parents with u and it might honestly be easier to manage between the three of you

they'd do very well with rats, they could handle high energy pets like ferrets, parrots, and dogs, but y'know u do all have work and stuff. they are determined to find the right fit for all of u b/c ur so cute they can't NOT indulge u

maybe one day the three of u can retire on a heap of money and adopt an older cockatoo and harness train it so u can all go on adventures together, that's the dream!!!!

[elytrafemme]

Aww thanks so much! You've absolutely knocked all of my expectations out of the park with cough syrup (plus, I'm also a huge sucker for high school au's). You 100% deserve all the praise for the fic.

God I'm so happy that cs!tommy is going to be explored it's literally been driving me insane ever since it was mentioned and hearing that it's going to be plot relevant is making me more insane. I've started theorizing on what happened to the poor kid already that tore the household apart and have a few rough ideas I'm working on (ahhhhh I can't wait).

But of course please take ur time! No pressure at all, despite my excitement. Remember to take care of yourself if you need it <3.

this means so much to me anon thank you :) i can't believe that like. people have enjoyed cough syrup this much especially since the chapters started out kind of rocky but i'm so so grateful you like it

yes yes yes i love it when people theorize n stuff!!! cs!tommy matters SO much to me and like. i dunno when i started CS i was going to make a lot of the secondary characters less in the forefront but i found that it felt a little like i was doing a disservice to them? obviously in a cohesive narrative characters typically have roles and if you only have two POVs its not like everyone's a protagonist, but especially characters like cs!niki and cs!tommy i wanted to expand upon. and cs!tommy is especially just like so incredibly important to cs!tubbo and so when i started planning things he kind of jumped into a lot of the stuff i sorted out

i appreciate it lots thank you!!! i initially kind of wanted to go back to weekly uploads but honestly, at least until summer, i reckon i might just stick with biweekly? gives me enough time to make sure the chapters are good quality (+ time to send it over to my beta if needed) and also gives people time to catch up cos like. the chapters are amping in word count now so

sorry for the rambling but i appreciate it lots! i'm very excited about cough syrup now just from the surgence of support and i sincerely hope it meets and even exceeds people's expectations. trying my very hardest to give u all good content :D

[harry-sussex]

1 I don’t think you must have loved harry as much as you say you do if you’d rather have him keep quiet and go back to a place where he has now directly told the public he was unhappy in and where it was some of the worst years of his life. He BEEN saying it and you just don’t want to listen because you’re attached to this image of the brf you have in ur head lol. It’s not a perfect family and they used harry as a scapegoat since he was born. Due to his good nature and to the fact that he’s

2 the good guy we know him to be he tried to stay and make it work but when his family backstabbed him and his new wife he’s more than entitled to walk away. Like seriously. And realize what kind of person William is please because it’s getting weird. Harry doesnt have to do anything for William and Kate specially since they are grown adults who benefited and instigated some of the hate against meghan.

3 I’m glad harry is safe and happy now and I don’t get how you can talk about him like this now just because he’s bursting your fairytale ideas? But ur a fan? Alright sure. This is a real family and not a family out of a storybook. If you like him only when hes playing jester in that palace but cant like and respect him now for healing himself and correcting all the lies those ppl told about him then simply drop henry if he no longer fits into the delusions. I am proud of him.

I’m not entirely sure how you could possibly suggest that I didn’t love Harry as much as I thought I did (still do). I mean, I got on a plane by myself and flew 3,500 miles one way to go to his wedding. Bet you’re new around here so you didn’t know that, though. I’m proud of him for doing what’s right for him - even if I hate what it came to, which I did, do, and will forever. I can be proud and also criticize the way he went about it, the way he continues to go about it. You should be able to do the same.

I look at Harry from a nuanced and complicated point of view. He is no saint. He is not above being wrong. Not entirely sure how you could come here, believe every tabloid ever written about William, Kate, Charles, HM, etc. and simultaneously say that he’s been used as a scapegoat, that he’s been backstabbed, that he spent his whole life playing jester in a palace - tabloid fodder in and of itself. You either believe it all or you don’t. The tabloids are the tabloids and if you’re going to assume that they’re all incorrect attacks on your fave then you have to assume that they’re all incorrect attacks on your least fave. You have to believe that Harry’s escaped the tower while believing that William desperately tried to help and protect his only brother and bring Meghan into the family. You have to believe that Harry has insulted/disrespected the Queen and abandoned Sentebale and the children he vowed to support forever and was jealous of his nephews and niece and also believe that William cheated on Kate with Rose, that he’s the kind of person you think he is. You have to believe either that Harry is the person you think he is and William is not or believe that Harry is not the person you think he is and William is. The tabloids you yourself are quoting in this message are your only source - you can’t deem them credible and false in the same breath. You can’t pick which tabloid fodder to believe based on whether or not it makes your fave look good. It’s all the same bullshit across the board, and you have to realize that. Otherwise, you kind of sound like an idiot, which is what’s going on in this message.

You say that I see him as a caricature, that I see him as a pawn in a game that I thought I controlled, that I do not believe he is a human being with thoughts and feelings and perception and nuance. And yet here you are, putting him on a pedestal that no real human being deserves, because real people are flawed and wonderful and cruel and kind and everything in between - Harry included. I see him as a person - same as you and me, even with the title and the money and the influence and the power. I see him as best as I can for what he is, flawed and wonderful and cruel and kind. You’re the one that views him as a caricature, one-dimensional and infallible and blameless, the same way that you see William and Kate as caricatures, one-dimensional and ruthless and unredeemable.

My words - especially my criticisms - prove that I see him - and the rest of them - as complicated, multi-faced and multi-dimensional, who are neither fully perfect nor fully imperfect, who have pros and cons to their person the way that you and I do. Being able to recognize that he is flawed, multi-dimensional, a real human being is the best and only way to prove that you care about him, that you want him to be happy and safe and comfortable in his life, whatever it looks like. Putting Harry on this infallible pedestal and tossing the rest of them to the side, like he’s a damsel in distress, Cinderella-type tortured hero taking his life back while the rest of the family are Cruella de Ville, the evil stepmother is turning the very real lives of Prince Harry and the British Royal Family into nothing but a sitcom, a cartoon, a Disney movie. Nothing but a story for children. Nothing but a set of characters. This point of view does him a disservice. He deserves better from his fans, his admirers, from you. He is a human being, and he deserves better.

He’s no damsel in distress and the family is no evil trap keeping him hostage until his knight in shining armor broke him free. That rhetoric pigeonholes them all into caricatures. You can’t do that and then accuse me of doing so while I’ve been doing the opposite and have since the very first day I posted on this blog more than seven years ago. You’re not making any sense - every word of the message you just sent me is a contradiction in and of itself. Like I said earlier, doing so makes you sound like an idiot.

[im-the-punk-who]

Idk if ur the right person to send this to so feel free to ignore if you aren't but I'm beginning to realize that I might be a trans guy after years of thinking I'm enby and I'm really struggling with that? I've received a lot of the messages over the years about how men are bad and violent and I've also experienced a lot of gender based violence before I was out. I know intellectually that there's nothing wrong with manhood and yet I'm still really struggling. Idk do you have any thoughts on learning to accept your own manhood

Okay! Sorry this took a few days to answer but this is...definitely still a complicated thing for me, too.

First off I wanna say that whether you end up identifying as a binary trans man or somewhere in between that and nonbinary, that is very cool and valid and all of this can apply no matter where on the spectrum of masculinity you ultimately end up falling.

I saw a post which explains the basic thesis of what I'm gonna say, which is that your gender does not equal your morality. 

Tumblr in particular really likes to go hard on the misandry and it can be really hard not to internalize that. Especially when it comes in the form of so many jokes, and especially especially when some of it does line up with experiences you’ve had. The biggest thing to realize, is that just *being a man* doesn't make you inherently violent or toxic or bad. All of the things that Tumblr and feminism in general tends to equate to “being a man = bad” are things that are learned or encouraged over time, no matter how much terfs like to insist they are traits inherent in being born with a y chromosome. 

(And yes, these misandry arguments ALL have their basis in gender essentialism and in arguing why trans people can’t exist.)

As this relates to trans men, it becomes akin to walking a tightrope our entire lives. In both society at large and LGBT spaces we're made to fit as close as possible into gender norms to avoid violence or oppression(or the insistence we’re really just lesbians or self-hating cishets). But we also have first hand experience of the ways in which men are *socialized* to behave being harmful and don’t want to perpetuate them and be labeled a ‘bad person’. So we have to constantly walk this line of, I suppose trying to act manly enough while also trying not to cause waves (And, AS A NOTE, does that sound eerily similar to the argument most feminists say is purely a feminine experience? Is it almost like the very system that seeks to free cis women through hatred of men perpetrates those exact same systems onto other marginalized communities?)

And I will say, this is something I still struggle with. A lot. It's not going to be something you can take a magic pill for and never have to worry about again. I started transitioning almost a decade ago and I'm still trying to find the balance. Cis men can spend their *whole lives* trying to find that balance. I know quite a few - in case it feels like this is a purely trans experience. Reckoning with the way that male privilege has socialized men to harm at the same time radical feminism has socialized everyone it can that all men intentionally cause harm is a universal experience among men who are aware of it. 

It's not easy, and I guess just...if you feel like you're struggling on that front as you continue your gender journey(Laynie i hate you i hate you i hate you) try to remind yourself that you're not alone. And that what you’re fighting against is a systemic socialization, not something inherent in yourself. You’re going to screw up - that doesn't make you a bad person or a bad man.

I listen a lot to Brene Brown. 

I know people are probably sick of hearing me talk about her, but she is a shame researcher who honestly helped me a LOT in realizing why I was feeling so bad about parts of my personality or my gender expression. She’s excellent. If you find you’re having a lot of trouble reckoning with being this thing you have perceived as bad for a very long time, I highly recommend listening to some of her ted talks and other speeches. Most of them are on youtube. 

For a long time I was trying to base my gender off of what I thought people would love. I went over the top, dressed in popular styles, was WAY more feminine than I actually feel, and tried to make myself as unassuming as possible - in part because of childhood trauma but also because I was genuinely ashamed to be a man(particularly a gay man) because I had internalized the idea that men - especially gay men - were woman-haters. (And, because I hated *myself* as a woman, I thought that I also hated women, and I thought that I must be one of those Bad Gays.)

But once I stopped trying to do that? Once I was like ‘no I’m actually a gay-up man’ and stopped berating myself for not liking my feminie body and hating the parts of myself that I didn’t identify with but felt forced to perform? Once I started looking at what made *me* happy and not other people? It became so much easier to not feel those things. 

SO I guess, what I’m saying is that the best way to deal with internalized misandry is to try to forgive yourself, and recognize that the things that men perpetrated against you and that people say are ‘toxic male traits’ are not *inherent* to being a man. They are things that are taught to men(both cis and trans) by society. And also that like, these are also things that are not just inherent to men. Any toxic trait that a man exhibits a woman can too - and yeah there’s a discussion about how the general power imbalance between men and women makes it less likely a woman would cause as much damage but honestly? If you’re on tumblr you’re most likely in female dominated spaces where arguably that isn’t true, especially with the number of fucking TERFS on this website. 

Also....you do not inherit cismale privilege just by identifying as a man. No matter how far you take your transition, you are *always* going to be at a different level of privilege from a cisman. Even if you transition as far as you are able to right now and live and pass as a cisman for the rest of your life, you are not a cisman and that is going to affect how you move through the world.

(That doesn’t mean you are not a *man* because you are not cis, btw. Just that there are things that cismen don’t have to worry about that are going to affect your life - things like ovarian cancer, breast cancer, hormonal dependence, corrective abuse, medical shortages, physical differences that out transpeople - there are a hundred things that trans men have to experience throughout their lives that cismen are never, ever going to deal with. And yes, this goes for transwomen / cis women as well.)

Something that helped me become comfortable living as a man was to look at specific traits of the men in my life. Why did I feel comfortable around this man, but not others, what red flags physically or emotionally did this behavior set off in me? And then focusing on those specific *behaviors* rather than the men themselves. If you can separate the individual traits from an overarching idea of 'manhood' that might be helpful in feeling like you can inhabit manhood without being toxic. 

Basically, my best advice is to tell yourself that what makes you a man does not make you inherently toxic. In fact what makes *all* men, men, does not make them inherently toxic. Men are not trash just because they’re men, and the fight against misandry *is* a fight for marginalized people. It hurts transmasculine people in exactly the ways you are hurting. No matter what TERFs say - no matter what male-critical or whatever they’re calling themselves to not have to call themselves TERFs say - men are not born evil, or bad, or trash. 

Toxic masculinity is a learned behavior. It is not something you are given the day you start identifying as a man, and it is not something you have to perpetuate. 

Calling it anything else does a disservice to everyone who identifies as masculine of center but especially trans men, who have to reckon with this exact knowledge that in affirming who they are, certain people are going to hate them and call them monsters and tell them they are trash and unworthy of loving without hurting. 

And that shit just isn’t true. It isn’t fucking true! Men are not toxic just because they are men, and you are not a bad person just because you are a transman. That’s, I suppose, the best advice I can offer you. I hope it helps, and I also just want to reiterate that I hope you find affirmation in whatever you end up deciding. <3 <3 <3

[mjalti]

Hello Anna :) I was wondering if you have any advice on dealing with a narcissistic mom? My case is tricky for me bc 1. My dad is abusive to her, so I need to protect 2. She lies and never keeps promises so communication and patience has not made a difference over the years (she undersyands but never changes) 3. I can't distance myself bc she takes it out on my little sister. I'm muslim but none of the islamic things I've researched sound like they even understand parental abuse.

hey sugar pie!

im going to tell you some things you may or may not want to hear but let’s start off with this. you are living in a situation created by two emotionally immature & unavailable adults who refuse to take responsibility that they are hurting their children. you cannot protect these people from who they are and how they are functioning. i know it feels like you have to always save ur family from one crisis or another, but this is not your responsibility and one you should not trick yourself into thinking is. i do not know how old you and your sibling are but you are a child and you need your own development pace.

you need to stop expecting that your mother is going to communicate/learn if she has not by now. she is not YOURS to raise; you are hers. and she is failing in that. in her feelings of failure, she probably finds it easier to mentally check out than she does to be proactive in her life. your father is his own beast. you can only encourage your mother to leave this situation or to reach out to her family and see what they are willing to do to help. in communities, we try to lie to ourselves that everyone married stays married out of happiness and choice but this is often not the case. most people stay married bc of fear. that being said, this is not your responsibility to “fix”, either.

i would suggest you try to limit your time at home but go somewhere positive instead. see if you can take ur sister to the park or a place that’s more conducive to conversations (for example, see if ur parents would be ok taking you to a coffee shop to do ur homework or something where the situation is safer but private) and there you can start conversations with your sibling about what she understands about the situation. “do you think our family is happy? do you want to talk about it with me? how do you feel about what is going on? do you do what our father does to other kids in ur class? are you angry about this?” to see where she is in her development and in her understanding of this scenario.

i would tell you that parental abuse is much more prevalent in every single community than we think it is and we like to pretend it isnt bc we may not see bruises or blood. but the reality is vastly different and we are all doing ourselves a huge disservice by excusing it.

there is this book called “adult children of emotionally immature parents” by lindsay gibson and i highly recommend you take some free time to read through it. if you have a library card, some libraries offer a Hoopla thing where you can check out audio books (one of which is this one) and you can listen to it for a whole month & get some support in the way where you realize that while you are dealing with this situation, you are not alone and you are not the first person to go through it.

i understand your situation where you feel trapped bc you know the “honor” of ur family’s “reputation” is at stake and having that deeply contrasted by what you see happening around you & that is an absolutely valid pain and struggle. there is no easy way to discuss this with many people even in the community bc everyone is so eager to present the best face possible that it feels alienating to be the only one who sees the monster coming out from under the bed.

i hope you know that you do not deserve this, that it is not BECAUSE of you, that you cannot and it is NOT your responsibility to raise your parents, and i hope you stay in school, get your education, and break the cycle to which you were born. If you can afford some aspect of therapy, and i know what ur thinking rn “yeah right like my parents would ever be cool with me going to a therapist”, but if you can afford some aspect of therapy, there’s places like 7cups.com which is online and free i think. i would encourage you to continue seeking out information about what you are going through and trying to find someone in real life who can help you combat it. but even if you can’t find that person, i hope you can become your own teammate as you find your path out of this. i wish you the best.

[jackrgaines]

How To Choose The Perfect Domain Name For Your Business

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Choose A Domain Name for Your Business

Choosing the right domain name for your business is a big decision. Your domain name is more than the words you type into the browser, it’s the foundation for your online identity.

Choose the wrong domain name and you’ll end up doing your business a disservice. But, choose the right domain name and you’ll make your online success that much easier.

But, how exactly do you choose a good domain name for your blog or business?

We’ve got you covered. Below you’ll learn how to choose a domain name for your business, and the most important factors in getting your domain name right

1. Go with “.com”

When it comes to choosing your domain extension you’re going to have a lot of different options available. It can be tempting to go with a TLD that’s innovative and creative. However, if you can it’s always a good idea to go with .com.

The .com TLD is by far the most commonly used and recognized TLD. So, people already have a built-in association with .com being the primary TLD. You can use this to your advantage and build a higher-quality brand by choosing .com

You can also think of it this way. If your website does become very successful and you decided to start with something like .co, then you’d probably need to eventually purchase the .com too

2. Scoop up other domain extensions, too

When you register your .com domain name, pick up top-level domain variations like .biz and .net if you can. Redirect them to your .com site so visitors who type in the wrong domain will still find your site.

For example, sephora.biz, sephora.net and sephora.info all take you straight to Sephora.com.

As the number of domain registrations continues to increase, good names are becoming more and more competitive.  For this reason, it’s possible to have a competitor snatch up the “.net” or “.biz” version of your URL – even if you’ve secured the “.com” version.

Because this can lead to lost traffic – especially if your competitors wind up outranking you in the search engine results pages – consider buying up popular TLDs (top-level domains) for your chosen domain, if they’re available.

3. Keep it short

When in doubt, make your domain as short as possible. This will help with making your brand more memorable. The fewer characters your domain has the easier it’ll be to type, say, and share with friends.

Now it might be hard to find a single word domain that’s related to your business, especially today. However, consider combining two or three shorter words together to make something memorable.

Plus, since more internet users today use their smartphones to browse the web, you need to make it easy for them to type your domain into their browser

4. Avoid “cutesy” names and abbreviations

Don’t use cute shorteners like 4U and 2U in your domain names because:

They’re hard to remember.

They look unprofessional.

Only Prince could get away with that, and 4 real UR not Prince.

If you think people might have trouble remembering long URLs, know that they’ll have a field day trying to remember your text-speak domain name!  Steer clear and look for alternative domain names that convey your company’s brand messaging without resorting to tricks like these.

5. Don’t make it awkward

Domain names don’t include spaces, and using hyphens in domain names is a terrible idea, so whatever you choose shouldn’t look awkward written as one word. 

To see what we mean, consider the real-life URLs for the following legitimate company names:

Pen Island – “www.penisland.net”

IT Scrap – “www.itscrap.com”

Who Represents – “www.whorepresents.com”

Experts Exchange – “www.expertsexchange.com”

Speed of Art – “www.speedofart.com”

Clearly, carefully reviewing your final selection before hitting the “Register” button is always a good idea!

6. Make it brandable

Brandable means that when you see or hear your domain it sounds like a brand. By looking at your domain name your visitors should be able to intuit what your website is going to be about. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to spell out exactly what your business does with a list of keywords but instead try to capture the essence of what you do.

When a customer sees a name like billreducer.com, they have one expectation in mind: this website is going to help me save money by reducing my bills in some way.

Choose a name that is going to let customers know what they are in for from the moment they read it. Your site should deliver what it says on the label, and your domain name is the label.

For example, if you sell pet supplies in Tulsa, www.tulsapetsupplies.com makes that clear to visitors in a way that, say, www.treatsandtoys.com does not.

Don’t make it confusing for your visitors to figure out what your business does. Say it all with a great domain name.

7. Choose a domain that’s easy to remember

Customers will find your website URL on flyers, newsletters, search queries, and other websites so making the address stick is key.

Memorable domain names are often short, clever, and avoid trendy humor, hyphens or numbers. The longer or more complicated the domain name, the less likely it is to stick. A good rule of thumb is if you saw the domain name on a delivery-truck sign, could you remember it later?

Think obvious, catchy, unique, and memorable.

Do a quick analysis of your favorite domain names and see what makes them stand out, and incorporate those elements you like into your own business domain name.

8. Stay clear of copyright issues

If you’re pretty much settled on a domain name, then you need to spend some time looking into the past of your domain.

Ask yourself the following questions:

Have there been any associated domain names that have a negative public opinion?

Does your domain name contain any words that have a double meaning?

Are there any existing trademark issues with the words used in your domain?

The last thing you want is to find and register the perfect domain name, only to realize that your domain is creating brand confusion, or that you’re accidentally stepping on someone’s trademark.

Double-check social media, too. You want to make sure any relevant social media handles are still available. This will help you build brand consistency and make it that much easier for your visitors to find your business on social media.

9. Unlock the power of keywords

Internet search is based on a framework of keywords and phrases when indexing addresses and sites, so why not take advantage of this when choosing your domain name?

Brainstorm keywords related to your organization and use these in shaping your chosen name. For example, your butcher’s shop might name meat, butcher, smoked, cured, savory, friendly, and service as descriptive keywords for your business. An appropriate name might then be SavoryService.com or TheSmilingButcher.com. Either domain respects the fact that search engines work off of such keywords when indexing and fetching information for users, while providing a description of what customers can expect in the process.

What keywords do people use to search for businesses like yours? Use them in your domain name if you can.

10. Protect your privacy

When you register your domain, the rules of the internet require that you give your

real name

home or business address

email address

phone number

Anyone online can find that information through the global WHOIS database. When you can register a domain, your information becomes public knowledge and anyone can do a domain lookup to see who owns the domain. Don’t want randos looking up your contact info? Sign up for HostGator’s WHOIS privacy service when you register. We’ll replace your private information with ours.

Ready to register?

It only takes one click to check if your dream domain name is available. Once you’ve found the right name and made sure it’s available, it takes just a few minutes to buy and register it. 

Check now to see if your domain name is available today.

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[childlikemperor]

A PSA: protip from an artist to fanfic writers

you can always tell when a fanfic writer has never met or even seen an artist irl ever bc they ALWAYS. WITHOUT A FAIL. will have their artist character drawing with charcoal like casually and it feels kinda like a copout like yes i know there are charcoal artists out there but listen,,,, 95% of artists who like just draw on sketchbooks bc they love drawing actually hate charcoal charcoal is one of the most impractical mediums for sketching and it gets everywhere and it smudges all over ur sketchbook pages and everything else in your life forever so like really take into account what the profile of the character as an artist is and more often than not you'll find yourself realizing that no, no matter how lyrically you think the image of charcoal sketching would work, your character would not find it practical/worth the mess to carry around one or more charcoal sticks then have it MARK UP ALL THEIR EARTHY POSSESSIONS (sorry im really passionate abt this) just for sketching also PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF BUMBLEBEES dont use it as a synonym for graphite ok just dont just say graphite, say they were using a pencil i promise you itll feel better. ⚫️here's some nice alternatives to charcoal if u like a Messy Artist™feel to things + how to match them to your character based on my experiences w artists that use these mediums/myself: → ink has a similar edge of "fingertips smudged in black probably forever" but it's simpler to carry even though it also has that risk of staining everything you love, depending on how its used (as in, will they carry around a glass bottle of jett black ink and a brush in their bag/pocket or just have it in different kinds of pens?) + artist who use ink usually like a very finished crisp look to their work and are therefor usually quite methodical and have (or strive to have) steady hands even with fluid lines there's intent to whats going on. these artists usually sketch first (and rarely in graphite, usually blue or red colored pencil) so keep that in mind too. rarely will you see someone just straight up taking a brush pen to paper with no layout and if they do they have a very clear image in mind and outstanding control and understanding of where everything should go and how and where. →watercolor is less messy but it takes a bit more of a setup bc you need water and usually a palette. i use it quite a bit myself on my sketchbook and what i do is i just ask for/get glasses of water anywhere i go, get my paints and whatever scrap of paper to mix them on and im ready bc all i care about is my finished product and i usually draw in places where water is easily accessible (like parks w water fountains/stores w water fountains nearby, coffee shops, school, etc) but a lot of artists who have it as their *main* medium and have developed more practical setups over the years tend to have lil travel palettes that are tiny and easy to pack as well as waterbrushes and water bottles to fill them with all in all not too hard to carry around with minimal incident. people with watercolor as a main medium are usually more laid back and like things to look soft and dreamy (can be REALLY picky about paper tho) and generally just strive for happiness and like pretty things (if yr person is painting a landscape, its probably in watercolor since it dries fairly quickly and like i said isnt too hard to carry) →acrylic artists uhh... idk any other artists who paint w acrylic on their sketchbook so ill just speak for them ok WE JUST WANT THINGS TO LOOK GOOD OK WE WILL SUFFER FOR IT WE DONT CARE its a bit of a lot to carry depending on how many colors ur tryna have to mix but u gotta have at least ur 3 primaries and a black and a white (some artists work w yellow cyan and magenta but ppl swear by yellow ultramarine and red so idk ycm shows better online or if ur printing it out so it works for me bc i like my colors really really bright) and ur brushes so ye. + like i said folks who work with acrylic have a very specific look and feel they're going for and they dive headfirst into it, if something goes wrong, acrylic is usually quite opaque so it can be easily layered over once its dry, blending usually comes from mixing dif midtones so if thats part of their style they're probably quite patient/willing to sacrifice their patience for a good end product. some artists will mix their colors themselves bc they like the process or because they want very specific shades and those are the methodical fuckers who'll die for things to look the way they gotta look and also just really like the process (be it because it relaxes them or makes them think or whatever BUILD ON THAT W UR CHARACTER) and some just get premixed bottles of the colors they want and those are really focused on efficiency and laying paint down wherever they're painting and getting it done (so not so much the process but the act of painting or even just having art made) but i cant really speak for those too much then again thats between you and ur character →IF YOUR CHARACTER WORKS WITH COLORED PENCILS AS THEIR MAIN MEDIUM THEY'RE A WELL OF PATIENCE AND DESERVE TO BE CANONIZED. fairly easy to carry i mean i own like 100 of them and i just carry one big pencil case w them in so ye whats really tiresome is the process since u gotta go color for color and cant really cover too wide a surface w the pencil tip ever + usually daydreamers and, honestly, dayDREAMS, lovely patient folk who just really like color and enjoy the introspectiveness and calm of coloring. explore those dudes, they deserve it SUMMARY: TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE MEDIUM YOUR ARTIST USES. THINK ABOUT STYLE. DONT JUST HAVE YOUR PAINTED MAKE ABSTRACT ART BC YOU CANT BE BOTHERED TO THINK OF ANYTHING BETTER TO DO WITH PAINT. IF UR NOT GONNA MAKE IT PART OF UR CHARACTER STUDY WHAT THEY MAKE ART WITH AND HOW AND WHAT ABOUT UR MISSING OUT MAN!!!!!! I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!! please give your artist characters the depth they deserve and remember us artists build half of ourselves because, through and around our art so to make that just a title of ours is kind of a disservice, your artist character wouldnt want that. visual artists feel free to add on to this!!

[brooklynislandgirl]

-leaves url outside ur door and *bamfs* away-

This Meme|Accepting

My Opinion on;

Character in general: Go ahead. Ask Baz what it’s like being Clint’s son. And while you’re picking your teeth up off the ground, I will gladly tell you about the child of Wanda and Barney. From his earliest childhood spent in pain and noise and confusion risen from his innate abilities, Baz never really had a chance to be an individual. There was the shadow of his famous parent, his uncle, his extended family. Registered because of the Accords since birth, the deck seemed stacked against him before he could have a chance to discover who he was. He tries his best and more often than not, his best just isn’t enough. And sometimes, it’s too much and the world that knows about him holds its breath.What they don’t see is the young man beneath who would be content not ever really been Sir-Participating-In-This-Life. They don’t see the warm and shy young man who likes to fix things, who spends hours driving to insulate himself from a life that seems to want to reject him at every turn. A young man searching for his place, searching to understand where he fits in, and for people, anyone…someone…who will accept him not as the Ability, but the person.How they play them: I’ve spent months talking to Chicken about things I’ve noticed. Psychological traits that often depend on which verse, have admired the subtle differences between the multiple lives he’s leading, and how often the character breaks my heart. He’s very hard to get to know. He’s got so many layers that I think even he’s forgotten parts of himself, or intentionally cut them out/cut them off. Like Beth, the greatest and most profound like that Baz Barton has ever told is the simplest. “I’m fine.”Also one of my most favourite things is the fact that Baz doesn’t ~hear~ the world like everyone else, and sometimes things get lost somewhere in the no-man’s-land between what is perceived and what is real. The Mun: I love me some Chicken. Chicken and I became fast friends since the moment we were introduced, and if we’re awake, we’re talking to each other. Whether at work or at home, there’s constant communication. Between us we’ve told a million stories that don’t exist in tumblr, created a million different scenarios and played them out in a kind of war of words. If both of us stopped playing right this very second (not likely, because let’s be honesty, this is our sanity and our refuge), we’d still be calling/writing to each other throughout the course of the day. It’s not often you make friends like this but when you do… treasure them.

Do I:

RP with them: I do. Chicken and Baz are some of my most favourite people.Want to RP with them:  At the risk of sounding like a dick, yes and no. Yes because they are eloquent and their writing is beautiful. No because I can’t stand the emotional turmoil. LMAO. 

What is my;

Overall Opinion: Chicken knows what I am about, son. There is angst and hilarity, a roller coaster of emotions and yes, sometimes, feelings get hurt on both sides because sometimes it’s hard to tell tone-of-type. We need to work on this. But we are family, and that’s what family does. Chicken has been the victim of many of my rants and has never complained once. We have quite a few jokes that exist only between us. I am grateful for her.As for Baz… oh goddamn son. You’re going to drive me to drinking, I hope you know. And I’m gonna enjoy every minute of the ride. If you don’t follow…you’re doing yourself a disservice. Go. Love the little lion and his pet Chicken.

{Also…one special mention important to me: Chicken/Baz is one of maybe 3 people on here that I know that has NEVER made an issue of Beth’s accent, the way she communicates and BLESS you because…sometimes even I have no idea wtf she’s saying/doing}

**Note: Mun’s answer are all to be completely honest. Don’t send url if you don’t want brutal honesty

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hearing people talk positively about themselves is really uplifting, and always cheers me up. ur an S+ zed, and ur writing is hella. <3

I wish more people would be confident in themselves, even if it’s forced, unnatural, not necessarily real

being confident enough to actually write out good things about yourself (general you) is a damn good way to put yourself onto the path to actual confidence, and it’s doing yourself a huge disservice to stifle your growth as a writer by claiming, ‘nah, I suck!’