#type: desirdae

[ghosting-plural-userboxes]

Desirdae coining post

Desirdae "A term simular in meaning to dissomei. It supports non-harmful transitioning and is inclusive to everyone with atypical dysphoria , trauma , self doubt , etc-"

an example of a desirdae term would be...

"Desirautism" which is a term for those that desire/yearn/want autism in some way. some examples of why would be: an autistic being feeling as if they are not "autistic enough" , Those who are trying to "reconnect" to their autism due to being forced to mask , Those with atypical dysphoria etc.

note: to clear this term up it does not support harmful transitioning. It does support nonharmful transitioning such as someone with short hair trying to “transition” to long hair, or somone with autism trying to “transition” to autism due to them trying to start unmasking and showing their autistic traits more.

THIS TERM IS STRICTLY ANTI RADQUEER

-Momoko

tags: @radiomogai

symbol found here(link)

[buntress]

⌖ What Is Non-Harmful Transitioning?

[PT :: What is non-harmful transitioning?]

As the term Desirdae has become more popular, a thing I have noticed is people not understanding what "non-harmful transitioning" means. Which is quite fair! It's a very, very vague term that can be used in a multitude of ways. So, in order to curb this slightly, I feel it necessary to elaborate on what, to me at least, non-harmful transitioning entails. If the original coiner, @ghosting-plural-userboxes or @desirdae-archive would like to add anything I would love that! Ty for making this term btw, it's been genuinely so helpful <3

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⌖ What is harmful transitioning?

[PT :: What is harmful transitioning]

I think in order to get into what non-harmful transitioning is, we should first get into what qualifies as harmful transitioning. So, to me, harmful transitioning is as follows ::

Transitioning by using methods of self harm, such as cutting, burning, bleaching ones skin, etc.

Transitioning by harming others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually // metaphysically.

Transitioning by putting yourself in traumatic situations, such as putting oneself in a situation to be groomed, assaulted, physically or emotionally harmed, etc.

Transitioning to have a disorder // disability one does not have, such as harming oneself in order to acquire a physical disability or enacting stereotypical behaviors to "act" as if they have a certain mental illness or disability.

Transitioning in a way that harms minorities of all kinds. Such as using blackface, yellowface, asianfishing, etc in order to "transition" towards different POC identities.

Transitioning to hateful and bigoted ideologiess that harm others.

Simply put, transitioning in a way that actively harms yourself or others is harmful transitioning.

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⌖ So, what is non-harmful transitioning?

[PT :: So, what is non-harmful transitioning?]

Having gotten some basics of what counts as harmful transitioning out of the way, let's get onto examples of non-harmful transitioning!

Dyeing ones hair as a form of transition.

Partaking in more foods of a specific culture in order to feel more comfortable, while acknowledging one is not part of that culture (this enters a grey area with headmates, as not everything is black and white)

Accepting ones disabled traits, that they already have, and learning that no matter how they experience it, it is enough.

Learning more about cultures in order to feel more comfortable with yourself, while still acknowledging you are not a part of that culture. (Again, gets muddy when it comes to headmates)

Getting piercings, body modifications, etc done by professionals as a form of transition.

Starting HRT or other forms of medical transitioning.

Getting cosmetic surgeries (nothing that would change the appearance of your own race, of course) done by professionals as a form of transition.

And likely many other ways to do it that aren't harmful! There are really, truly, so many ways to go about this that aren't harmful I promise you. I can think of an infinite number of ways to do this stuff non-harmfully.

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⌖ What makes Desirdae different from TransID?

[PT :: What makes Desirdae different from TransID?]

Simply the means of which one may transition. Desirdae is firmly anti-harmful transitioning for any reason while TransID is pro all forms of transition, harmful or not. You can see this in terms like transnazi, transrace, transplural, and many transharmful identities that it is often encouraged to transition into these things, despite the harm such things do. Desirdae, on the other hand, actively discourages harmful transitioning. So while things like Desirharmful, Desirskintone, etc do exist it is actively said by the creators that one should not harmfully transition into these terms. I will say, many do not make it clear that for some terms there is no way to non-harmfully transition*. But I chock this up to people being, rightfully, tired of constantly having to explain their experience with this term isn't inherently harmful. But it is still an issue I believe should be fixed when possible. * [PT :: there is no way to non-harmfully transition]

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I understand the worries many have towards Desirdae. We do not want just another TransID clone to take over and create yet another space full of radqueers who push for things like legalization of non-consensual relationships or what have you. That is a fair worry to have, and it was a worry I initially had as well. But in exploring these terms and the community that they have fostered, I have found that this is quite the opposite. It is a community based purely on consent, recovery, and a safe space for people to speak on their issues where as radqueer and transID often push anti-recovery and anti-consent rhetoric. This is the key difference between these two terms, I believe. One feeds into harmful behaviors and seemingly pushes people to the worst versions of themselves while the other is more of a "hey, I understand these feelings, I feel this way too, it's not OK but we can recover together."

If I missed anything, am incorrect about something, or if one has questions I myself am more than happy to answer. While this is not a term and community I created, it is one I am happy to be a part of and want to grow into something helpful.

Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a lovely day. Remember to be kind, anger towards fellow mentally ill queers does nothing but push the agenda of the oppressors <3

[desirdae-coiner]

DESIRFANGS

A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have fangs.

Some examples of using this might be:

- alterhumanity

- atypical dysphoria

- etc

Requested by @hibiscuspearswithopaljuice

@desirdae-archive

[desirdaejunker]

Desirlove

a desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want love; to be in love and/or feel love. not exclusive to romance :3

Reasons might include :

Being aspec and not experiencing romantic/platonic/etc attraction

Exomemories related to love

Being hyperromantic

Idk :P Just 4 Fun

this term is strictly anti-rq and supports ethical transition

@desirdae-archive

[desiring-daes]

desirvocalmimic. a desirdae term related to desiring/wanting to be able to perfectly mimic voices/sounds.

no examples because its all right there

coined for no particular reason. flag colours are via our synesthesia. microphone icon is via flaticon.

@desirdae-archive

[sage-writes-n-coins-mogai]

Desirpermacomforted

A desirdae term term for those who want / yearn / desire to be constantly comforted either by a certain person or because you’re permanently consuming comfort media.

This term supports nonharmful/ethical transitioning

[aliens-and-the-earth]

Desirsharpteeth

A desirdae term for someone who yearns/desires/wants to have sharp teeth wether this be due to atypical dysphoria, alterhumanity, being an alter in a system who has sharp teeth, etc.

This term supports non-harmful transitioning (via body mods done by a professional, wearable fake teeth, etc.) but this term does not support harmful transitioning.

(I added 4 versions of the flag since I dunno if the little sharp things I added were allowed or not)

I don’t know how to do the ID things so it would be a big help if someone else could!

I think that’s all :3

Tags: @desirdae-archive

[dreaming-of-mogai]

Trigger warning: Self Harm Ment, Weed ment.

☆ DesirHigh: a desirdae subterm(?) for those who desire/yearn/want to get High in someway due to being unable to for whatever reason, taking breaks from it, etc. ( i am not sure if this counts as harmful as i mean it for relaxation )

★ DesirSelfHarm: a desirdae subterm for those who desire/yearn/want to Self Harm in someway due to Recovering but wanting to do it again, having urges but not going through with it etc. This term doesn't encourage self harm.

☆ DesirWeirdcore: a desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to be Weirdcore in some way due to missing nostalgia, Regression ( optional ), Trauma, etc

★ DesireTraumacore: a desirdae subterm for those who desire/yearn/want to be Traumacore in some way due to trauma, a victim/survivor, shitty child/teen/adulthood, etc

★ DesirHospitalization: a desirdae subterm for those who desire/yearn/want to be Hospitalized in someway due to Cotards, Psychosis, Trauma, OCD etc

★ DesirVoid - is a term under the desirdae umbrella when someone desires/wants/yearns to the Void. whether that's due to kin, irl/das, trauma, being a headmate, etc

☆ DesirSpace - is a term under the desirdae umbrella when someone desires/wants/yearns to be Space. whether that's to Being a Headmate, IRLs/DAs, Kins, delusions, trauma, etc.

★ DesirCane - is a term under the desirdae umbrella when someone desires/wants/yearns to have a Cane. whether that's because of needing/wanting a cane, needing a mobility aid, wanting one but can't have one due to other disabilities, etc

☆ DesirWitch - is a term under the desirdae umbrella when someone desires/wants/yearns to be Witch. whether that's to become a better witch, wants to explore witchcraft but can't, wants to work on witchcraft but cannot due to psychosis/schizophrenia, etc

★ DesiInfiniteCold - is a term under the desirdae and Infinite umbrella when someone desires/wants/yearns to be cold infinitely. Due to thyroid problems, autistic body heat issues, body heat issues in general, trauma, etc

These terms do not support transition if its harmful.

[No spoons for ID, many apologies ]

Tagging: @desirdae-archive @ghosting-plural-userboxes @radiomogai

[atypical-dysphoria-culture-is]

Atypical Dysphoria Emoji Codes

[PT: Atypical Dysphoria Emoji Codes]

Note! I plan to update this over time but for now these are the basic ones! If you have any I don’t have listed, please inform me! For more infomation check this out!

Term Codes

Dissomei : 🧠🚫🫀

Desirdae : 💫☁️ or 🌟🫙

Intusui : 👤💠

Atypical Dysphoria Codes

Atypical Dysphoria : 🧠🌀

Coping Atypical Dysphoria : 🧠🌀💚

Xenic Dysphoria : 🧠⭐️

BIID / Disability Dysphoria : 🧠🦽

Neurodiverse Dysphoria : 🧠🎭

Species Dysphoria : 🧠🐾

Age Dysphoria : 🧠🍼 or 🧠🥤or 🧠🍾

Time/Era Dysphoria : 🧠🕰️

Race Dysphoria : 🧠🖐️

Nationality Dysphoria : 🧠🏳️

Addiction Dysphoria : 🧠💊

Moral Dysphoria : 🧠⚖️

@atypical-dysphoria , @desirdae-archive , @dissodic-archive , @intusui

[redacted-coiner]

Siblings in Arms

A Handshake for those who may be both Dissomei(link) and Desirdae(link), Someone who is Desirdae and supports Dissomei folks, someone who is Dissomei and supports Desirdae folks, etc.

@dissodic-archive & @desirdae-archive

[ghosting-plural-userboxes]

Wishqueer

Wishqueer is a blankqueer term for those who wish for acceptance and for everyone to stop fighting! its for those who wish that online spaces will be more friendly and open and less hostile! its for those who are just so so tired of constantly having to prove that they are "valid" and just wish that they could relax.

Wishqueer is pro:

-Mogai/Liom

-ALL system/plural origins

-M-Spec lesbians/gays

-"Contradictory" Labels

-Neopronouns

-Desirdae, Dissomei, Intusui, and other transID alternatives

-Acceptance of paraphiles/paraphilias

-Recovery for those who have harmful paraphilias

-Self Expression(such as body mods, "weird" ways to dress, etc)

-Kink at Pride

-Reclamation of slurs

-Alterhuman/Nonhuman

Wishqueer is neutral on:

-Shipcourse

Wishqueer is anti:

-Harrasment

-Radqueer

-transIDs

-Xenosatanist

-Sysmed

-Exclustionist

-Contact for harmful paras

-Minors in kink/nsfw spaces

-Syscourse

-Demonization of mental illnesses

-Forced recovery

Emoji Code: 💫🌨️

:D!

[desirdae-archive]

desirdae mascot.

Basically we made a desirdae mascot

the text on the image says:

Desirae ~

she/it/wish

lesboy, nebularomantic, asexual

pangender, aliengender

desirdae, desirpaws, desirimmortal, desircat, desirobot, desirstar

ASD, Dyslexia, PCOS, CFS, HPD

anyone is free to make art of her(we would love to see it!!!/gen)

[desirdae-coiner]

DESIRPAWS

A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have paws.

Some examples of using this might be:

- alterhumanity

- being a headmate with paws

- atypical dysphoria

- etc

@desirdae-archive

[luxdraconia]

Desirage — A desirdae term for when someone desires/yearns/wants a different age than their physical and/or internal age. This term supports non-harmful/ethical transitioning, however that may be possible.

This can be due to being an alter in a system, being an age regressor or permaregressor, being chronosian, delusions, etc.

[Self-indulgent; no spoons for ID // @desirdae-archive @sharksnwaves]

only had the spoons for one of the terms,,, augh

[desiring-daes]

desirnightsight, a desirdae term relating to desiring night vision/to see in the dark. examples include

being a nonhuman that can see in the dark

being afraid of the dark

for the general fun of being able to see in the dark

coined for no reason really just felt it should be 👍

@desirdae-archive