#Dissomei

[historyinclusionist]

Harmless Personal Identity coining

Since the term I crafted has been picking up steam in a couple places, I decided it's time to make a official post for it and propose a flag. I'm not good at making flags and you're welcome to redesign the above one if you like this term.

Harmless Personal Identity (HPI) is an umbrella term meant to describe personal identities that people might assign to themselves, coin for others, make pride flags for, and so on, but not any identities that inherently cause harm. If an identity checks the following boxes, it can be called a Harmless Personal Identity.

Harmless: It doesn't encourage predatory behavior, racism, ableism, transphobia etc just by existing.

The identity is being labeled because it makes the person using it comfortable. Not to harm others by deceiving them. For example: LGBT people and systems are not intending to deceive others and simply want to live as they are. This doesn't mean that the term in question is completely free of criticism or couldn't be used in bad faith—I think every term that's ever been coined could be used in bad faith. This means that it may be unusual or strange, especially to people who aren't familiar with the social groups/contexts the term was coined in, but the definition doesn't encourage people to appropriate culture, speak over people of color, commit inc-st/p-dophilia/z-ophilia, or otherwise cause harm to themselves or another living being as part of that identity.

Example: "Transhawaiian" is not an HPI, because by virtue of it existing the coiner and anyone who uses this term are saying that "Hawaiian" is a feeling someone can decide they feel and apply to themself at will, instead of the racial minority that "Hawaiian" actually is.

Personal: Identities which are wholly self-determined and locatable only within that person's interaction with and relations to the world around them.

In general—Other people cannot determine your internal view of yourself because they cannot be you, therefore your identity is personal! Someone who's unfamiliar with xenogenders may tell me that I cannot be -insert gender- because -thing- isn't a gender, but my gender is inside me and I cannot possibly give them the ability to feel it for me. It is located only within me.

This includes labels that get called "contradictory", like identifying as a lesbian and a man at the same time. If you're not familiar with multigender and multisexual lesbian spaces that might sound strange, but gender+presentation and orientation labels are purely self-defined—they are the coiner/anyone who uses that term saying "this is how I would describe my attraction to -insert gender here-," "this is how I would describe my gender that only I can feel inside my head and can't physically show to someone else," and so on. A bisexual lesbian's identity is not saying that all lesbians are bisexual or that they should identify that way; It is saying that that individual determined themself to be bisexual and lesbian.

(This does not extend to, again, racism and cultural appropriation. Queer labels are a self-defined thing, whereas racial and ethnic identity and things like congenital disorders can have self-defined aspects but are largely on a completely different quadrant of identity and can't be "decided" in the same way that queer labels can.)

Identity: A self-applied label or understanding of yourself.

This one is straightforward mostly. I would like to note that this does include things like reclaimed slurs and derogatory words, since in those cases, it's that person who's been called that word choosing "you know what? I AM a -slur- and I love myself for it!" instead of it being used to put them down.

Ok, so what identities specifically?

MOGAI (xenogenders, neogenders, neo/newly coined orientations, presentation terms, neopronouns+etc)

Alterhuman (the entire alterhuman umbrella, excluding any culturally appropriative behavior)

Most plural culture/coined terms for plural experiences

Other identity umbrellas (Dissomei, desirdae, reclaimed xenoidentities, xenonatures, neurowiry,+etc)

And so on. Is it not a radqueer, transrace, transx, etc term or would you call it a "good faith identity"? It most likely fits here.

This also includes a category of personal identity I've been seeing more and more lately, which are these uncategorized identifications with specific words that have pride flags. Some examples: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5

Ok, cool, do I identify as this?

You would say "I use harmless personal identities"/"I support harmless personal identities"/I coin harmless personal identities"+etc. This is less an identity and more of a faster way to describe these identities.

TD;LR— Identities that are probably niche, but don't harm people like radqueer/transid/transrace/transabled do.

Tagging: @gender-jargon | @neopronouns | @radiomogai | @kiruliom | @aspectsofidentity | @beyond-mogai-pride-flags | @neopronouns | @antiradqueerguy

Alt flags and more things are beneath the cut:

Two alternative flag ideas which I abandoned, but you can use if you want.

The phrasing "locatable only within your interaction with and relations to the world around you" came from a Tumblr post by txttletale (lost link). This term and the author have no affiliation with them, I just thought it was a wonderful way to phrase this concept. This would later inspire me to coin the term History Inclusionist, which then led to me sort of backwards-coining HPI to describe it.

You don't have to be a History Inclusionist to use the term HPI and I won't tell you not to interact with me if you aren't one.

I might make subset flags later. Maybe?

[11/21/2024] I forgot to add that @kiruliom helped me adjust the flag colors. Thank you.

[ghosting-plural-userboxes]

Desirdae coining post

Desirdae "A term simular in meaning to dissomei. It supports non-harmful transitioning and is inclusive to everyone with atypical dysphoria , trauma , self doubt , etc-"

an example of a desirdae term would be...

"Desirautism" which is a term for those that desire/yearn/want autism in some way. some examples of why would be: an autistic being feeling as if they are not "autistic enough" , Those who are trying to "reconnect" to their autism due to being forced to mask , Those with atypical dysphoria etc.

note: to clear this term up it does not support harmful transitioning. It does support nonharmful transitioning such as someone with short hair trying to “transition” to long hair, or somone with autism trying to “transition” to autism due to them trying to start unmasking and showing their autistic traits more.

THIS TERM IS STRICTLY ANTI RADQUEER

-Momoko

tags: @radiomogai

symbol found here(link)

[kiruliom]

ID in alt text

dissomei/dissodic

a term to describe an involuntary disconnect one has have between their physical self and inner self, it is against transitioning if its unsafe or can harm other people. its symbol is 🧠🚫🫀

this can be because of (but isnt limited to):

atypical dysphoria

delusions, psychosis

systemhood, headmates/facets differing from physical body

alterhumanity, nonhumanity

BIID, facticious disorders

there is no set flag template to encourage creativity, but there is community-made ones if you prefer them.

originally coined by acetrappolaswife, now deactivated. both flag and descriptions have been simplified with as much integrity to the original as possible.

this term is NOT rad//queer friendly and was made as a safer version of trans//ids for those who want to leave the community. it is, however, not exclusive to them. if youre a proud, active rad//queer and want to use this, you literally have your equivelant of the term, go away. shoo.

original coining post and flags for archival and options:

link

ID in alt text

tagging: @dissodic-archive @radiomogai

[harmlesspersonalidentityarchive]

archive of archives/helpful blogs i found

general/all mogai:

@archive-of-ire terms about anger, rage and spite

@archive-of-music musicagender & songic/songgender

@faunagender mogai terms related to animals

@floragender terms related to flora

@toygenders terms related to toys

@horrormogai horror-based labels

@pride-color-schemes flag maker, posted compilations of all flags for many terms which include alt text for each flag

https://www.tumblr.com/beyond-mogai-pride-flags they DO have like a bajillion reblogs of useful things but also frequently let racist/ableist terms fall through the cracks so browse at your own risk

@gender-jargon coins lots of mogai things and reblogs some terms

@neopronouns coiner and reblogger of a lot of stuff coins lots of things and reblogs mogai/liom

@radiomogai archives tons of things, mostly mogai

@io-archival unarchived terms, deleted posts and deactivated blogs

@mogai-transcriber transcribes/writes plain text for tons of things

@accessmogai transcribes/writes image descriptions/writes plain text

https://coinfight.tumblr.com/ archive of terms coined during coinfight

genders:

@fem-mogai feminine and female genders

@recordshop-archive genders related to songs, artists, and albums

@bitchgenders-archive -bitchgenders

@inviane-archive

@musicamogai

@catgender-archiver

@thing-genders-archive

orientation/attraction:

@orientation-archive.

@tertiary-attraction-archive

alteraffectis:

@alteraffectis

ficto:

@fictoflags

objectum/conceptum/objectix:

@object-concept-archive

presentation:

@presentationflag-archive

pronouns:

@pronoun-arc

@everypronoun

relationships:

@x4xarchive x4x (like t4t) terms

intersex:

@interarchive intersex related terms

@intersexflags aesthetic intersex flags

reclaimed slurs:

f-ggot: @faggyflags

after dark:

after dark = not safe for minors. be logical and don't interact with blogs dedicated to this if a minor

@mogaigonewild

other:

@flageditsarchive.tumblr.com/ aesthetic and colorpicked flags

@aestheticprideflagarchive aesthetic, combo, colorpicked, misc flags (inactive)

@harmlesspersonalidentityarchive thas me :3 various ids, especially focused on things like transspecies, dissomei, desirdae etc

@mogai-icon-archive pride icons

@conformant-archive conforming, like cis and straight, and variants of that

@cisqueer-archive identities involving cisness with queerness

neurodivergence:

general neurodivergence:

@mad-pride

neurogenders:

@neurogenderarchive

identiora/"other"

kin/therian/hearted:

@alterhumanflags

age:

age regression:

https://a-agere-archive.tumblr.com/

chronosian:

@chronosian-archive (inactive)

dissomei:

@dissodic-archive

desirdae:

@desirdae-archive

emsoul:

@emsoul-archive

intusui:

@intusui

species:

@specieschive

other/misc identiora:

@archive-of-form "Archive for terms related to having and/or desiring certain body traits. Includes aldernic, dissodic, transbody, desirdae, altersex, and misceverse terms."

@aspectsofidentity

plurality:

all purpose plurality:

@plurality-faq

https://www.tumblr.com/plural-labels (inactive)

misc/other:

ficto-religions:

@ficto-religious-archive

general purpose misc/other:

https://everythingarchive.tumblr.com/

unsure how to categorize:

https://www.tumblr.com/gamercod old archive for one system's coinings

https://www.tumblr.com/daylightrecords/ old archive for one user's coining

https://www.tumblr.com/notcishetarchive everything not cishet. idk how to warn for... whatever happened there

https://www.tumblr.com/yanderessarchive

@rentrypixelpridearchive pride flag pixels for rentry

@other-pride-archive

neoagab:

@neoagab

dances

[rwuffles]

DISSOFICTIONAL．  diss-oh-fick-chin-ull．  ➷

pt: dissofictional. diss-oh-fick-chin-ull. end pt.

⚘   ⌣   definition．

 a dissolife subterm that refers to wishing / thinking one's life is fictional , due to a multitude of factors , and makes the user feel disconnected with their life. this is not a for 'fun' label or a voluntary "i wanna be this ✨️✨️✨️" , and is to acknowledge the disconnect.

pt: definition, a dissolife subterm that refers to wishing/thinking one's like is fictional, due to a multitude of factors, and makes the user feel disconnected with their life. this is not a for 'fun' label or a voluntary "i wanna be this ✨️✨️✨️ (sparkle sparkle sparkle)," and is to acknowledge the disconnect. end pt.

COINER．  the sweetest boy．  ➷

⚘   ⌣   dissomei / dissodic + fictional．

TAGS．  @radiomogai @dissodic-archive @seapupz @jigumis @angeltism @zoeynovie @crossstains @chivalrynt @wailingclowns．  ➷

[esoteriea]

esoteriea

esoteriea or esoID is a term for when your internal self does not line up with your external self for any reason; this includes but is not limited to being an alter or part in a system, being nonhuman, having delusions, or being dysphoric towards any aspect of yourself.

[esoteri]c - internal (greek)

[ea]ftos - self (greek)

the prefix for this term is ‘eso-‘

for example someone who is internally a kitten would be considered esokitten.

exoteriea

a term to describe your external self.

[exoteri]kos - external (greek)

[ea]ftos - self (greek)

the prefix for this term is ‘exo-‘

for example someone who is externally human would be considered exohuman

-> anyone can use this term as long as they are being respectful

-> this term is against harmful transitioning

(send asks to clarify what is harmful and what is not)

-> this term is against discourse

-> this term is against most conabuse relationships

[questioning-ex-rq]

Pandissomei / Pandissodic

Pandissomei or Pandissodic (could also be called Dissoeverything) is a dissodic term that describes someone who feels involuntarily disconnected from the entirety of their physical / current self, believing that every aspect of them should be or is something else

This could refer to feeling disconnected from each individual part of yourself, being dissoage, dissobody, dissospecies, and so on, or just feeling disconnected from yourself as a whole. You don't have to identify under each dissodic umbrella individually to be pandissomei

This term is against transitioning if its unsafe or could harm others

@dissodic-archive, flag template by @kiruliom

[atypical-dysphoria-culture-is]

Atypical Dysphoria Emoji Codes

[PT: Atypical Dysphoria Emoji Codes]

Note! I plan to update this over time but for now these are the basic ones! If you have any I don’t have listed, please inform me! For more infomation check this out!

Term Codes

Dissomei : 🧠🚫🫀

Desirdae : 💫☁️ or 🌟🫙

Intusui : 👤💠

Atypical Dysphoria Codes

Atypical Dysphoria : 🧠🌀

Coping Atypical Dysphoria : 🧠🌀💚

Xenic Dysphoria : 🧠⭐️

BIID / Disability Dysphoria : 🧠🦽

Neurodiverse Dysphoria : 🧠🎭

Species Dysphoria : 🧠🐾

Age Dysphoria : 🧠🍼 or 🧠🥤or 🧠🍾

Time/Era Dysphoria : 🧠🕰️

Race Dysphoria : 🧠🖐️

Nationality Dysphoria : 🧠🏳️

Addiction Dysphoria : 🧠💊

Moral Dysphoria : 🧠⚖️

@atypical-dysphoria , @desirdae-archive , @dissodic-archive , @intusui

[report-rqs]

I'd like to make a list of terms that are somewhat similar to transIDs but specifically aren't transids and are actually in good faith. ...Does that make sense? I hope that it does. Here are the terms I can think of:

Dissomei

Xenogenders, Genderembodiment

NeoAGAB / XenoAGAB (These were coined at different times, but from what I can tell both mean the same thing)

Relationship Anarchy, Allions (Example)

Various teritary attraction terms held at @tertiary-attraction-archive

Constelic

Vesility (@vesility appears to be an archiving blog for subterms)

Hearthome

Alterhuman

Archetrope

Aldernic

Xenonatured

Vior

Eiment

Intenxper

Reclaimed/Anti-Radqueer Xenomalady

Basically, terms that are not intended to hurt anyone and may be useful to people with atypical dysphoria from any cause. May I ask @dissodic-archive to signal boost? I feel like your blog's followers would be the right audience to show me more terms like these.

*edit* Removed xen0malady, I was under the impression it wasn't originally a radqueer term, but it was. I did see a mention of "parabled" or something similar for system members, if anyone has any info on that please show me!

[redacted-coiner]

Siblings in Arms

A Handshake for those who may be both Dissomei(link) and Desirdae(link), Someone who is Desirdae and supports Dissomei folks, someone who is Dissomei and supports Desirdae folks, etc.

@dissodic-archive & @desirdae-archive

[desiring-daes]

desirnightsight, a desirdae term relating to desiring night vision/to see in the dark. examples include

being a nonhuman that can see in the dark

being afraid of the dark

for the general fun of being able to see in the dark

coined for no reason really just felt it should be 👍

@desirdae-archive

[gengernoway]

                       dissofictional

dissofictional ;; a dissodic term for those who think they are fictional in any way. this can be because of atypical dysphoria, delusion, IRL attachments, psychosis, coping reasons or an alter, causing a disconnect from their actual status. This is involuntary and not a transid/transx esque label and it does not support harmful transitioning.

        tagging : @radiomogai @dissodic-archive

no id :((

[ghosting-plural-userboxes]

DESIRHARMED

Desirharmed: a desirdae subcategory for those who desire/yearn/want to be harmed in someway due to ones trauma, exotrauma and/or mental illness.

This subcategory is strictly anti transitioning and very much in support of trying to learn healthy coping mechanisms and finding good and strong support systems.

THIS TERM IS STRICTLY ANTI RADQUEER

note: to all of our fellow traumatized and mentally ill folks who desire to be hurt we see you and hear you. wanting to be hurt does not make you a bad person. You all deserve the best ^.^!

tags: @desirdae-archive, @antitransidspace

[kiruliom]

my biggest issue right now with trans//id alternative coiners is how little care they seem to put into their terms?

like for all of them its just the usual "anti transitioning if unsafe" or "ok to transition if safe" but they never really put in the thought of or explain HOW it can be done safely or unsafely

I get its because theres this idea of quantity over quality in the mogai community, and with a lot of members disabled it can be draining to edit every single term to be personalized or even think about that stuff, but the way they dont elaborate on this stuff still feels like its more of just a saying than something theyre serious or genuine about, even if I know thats not necessarily the case. you cant truly safely 'transition' to idk dissodeath or desirpermasleep or whatever, saying 'ok to transition to if safe' is so redundant.

dysphoria relief and transitioning are different things in this case. you cant safely transition to being dead but you can safely relieve dysphoria by getting tattoos, drawing on your skin, using dead/undead terminology etc. theyre not the same thing. so people putting "ok to transition if safe" on things like that feels really ignorant if anything.

there is also the other side of the spectrum like desirblacknails saying "ok to transition to if safe". how would you transition to black nails in an unsafe way??? besides like idk using non-body safe permanent markers, and how much harm can that really do especially if short term yk?

(note, the only thing here I know exists is dissodeath, I dont mean to shame, call out or guilt trip anyone, Im just voicing a general complaint Ive been observing go around since terms like these started to pop up around last year)

[term-repost]

Dissomei / Dissodic

[pt: dissomei / dissodic]

A term that is specific for people with BIID, psychosis, being an alter that differs from the body, atypical dysphoria, a general disconnect, etc . that causes them to have a disconnect in how they view their identity. This can also be for if your delusions or IRL attachments even that cause you to feel as if you are them exactly and have their same race/mental health issues/disabilities/etc.

This term is supportive of transitioning when it doesn't hurt others, yourself, appropriate, glorify, fetishize, or romanticize anything and is against it if it does (such as with race, ethnicity, culture, age, etc.)

Possible emoji combo: 🧠🚫🫀 The brain with the cross out and heart is to show how there is a disconnect between the two! A disconnect between internal and external.

tags: @dissodic-archive @radiomogai @obscurian

original coining post | simplified flag by kiruliom

originally coined by acetrappolaswife as arrisomei/arrisodic, new name was decided by the community via a poll (link).