#transgeneration

[stephgomezk]

[sissa-arrows]

There’s few things I hate more in the Algerian diaspora bellow 40 years old in France who goes “We’re not our grandparents we won’t let you talk down to us and give you the other cheek” or “We’re not our grandparents they didn’t fight but we will”

Sweetheart if it wasn’t for our grandparents resisting, the situation would be so much worst for us today.

This idea that our grandparents didn’t fight is historical revisionism. But it’s true that we aren’t our grandparents cause they had to spill their own blood for freedom meanwhile all that is asked from us is protesting, boycotting, blocking certain places… nobody is asking us to spill our own blood.

Our grandparents did the ultimate sacrifice meanwhile too many of us can’t even bring ourselves to sacrifice a bit of our comfort but have the audacity to say “We’re not our grandparents we are fighting unlike them”.

Yes we are not our grandparents because they did much more than we ever did. They paved the way for us to be able to fight in the West without spilling our blood as much as they did. They paved the way so the West wouldn’t be watered with our blood the way Algeria was watered with the blood of the shouhada. So have some fucking respect.

(it applies to many other people of color in the West not just Algerians. There’s that tendency to think we’re better than our elders and that’s disgusting in all groups but I’m not going to speak on the behalf of people who are angry at their communities like I am at mine)

[papirouge]

"The sell your cloak and buy a sword" has to be one of the most misquoted Bible verse EVER

It's now become a pet peeve of mine Witnessing all these idiots with surface level theology take this passage at face value and mUh tHe BibLe wAnTs yOu tO bUy gUnS!! and seemingly don't have enough braincells left to rub to realize that the Sword is a metaphor for the Word/Christ crossing several books in the Bible AND that Jesus rebuked Peter for using the very same weapon he was allegedly okay with him using, and went as far as to heal the very man he harmed doing so, but hey I guess expecting those Christians to have a crumb of critical thinking skills might be a little bit too much to ask

[future-crab]

[ID: tags by future-crab reading, "#happy 11 years of transgenderism #scheduled" End ID.]

I can't believe I had this post scheduled for almost a full calendar year and never noticed that typo.

[vigilskept]

pleaaaase elaborate on adaia laidir!!

i am always happy to yap about my doomed tabris family anon 🫶

adaia laidir is a devastating character to me personally because the starting concept i had for her was just "takes after her mom, named for her grandmother, eldest sibling, teenager during the 5th blight"

then i sat down and started thinking about what that actually meant. that her grandmother's ghost must have loomed over her whole childhood. that she was closer in age to her uncle than to her youngest sister. that she would've been old enough to see his self-sacrificing tendencies for what they were. that she was old enough to witness the slow erosion of her parents marriage.

the natural conclusion to all this is that adaia at the end of the blight is a character who is grieving and incredibly fucking angry.

how could you not be angry if someone who was like an older brother to you gave his life to save you all? when people took advantage of him all the time suddenly couldn't stop talking about how kind, how giving he was? when your mother ran away, while everyone talked about how "noble" she was to leave you all behind for the wardens?

more yapping about adaia (& how her story mirrors chaya's while also being shaped by her trying to be anything but her mother) below!

how adaia's feeling after the blight is actually not far off from how chaya's feeling as the alienage mourns her mother about 15 years earlier.

there's an incredible sense of alienation and resentment for the grief of the collective, and a sense that there is no space being left for her to grapple with her own loss. that others are looking to her to help them make sense of it all.

in the end, chaya puts her father and brother's needs first.

adaia though.... she's just watched isaac sacrifice himself in trying to live up to an ideal. she's just watched her mother finally reach her breaking point after over a decade of putting her family first (and witnessed plenty of the cracks before then). she doesn't want to die so others can live, she doesn't want to be miserable so others can be happy.

so, she runs away!

adaia takes to sea at 15, about a year after the blight (way too fucking young!!!) unconvincingly trying to pass herself off as a boy, giving that up about half a year in when it’s clear no one’s particularly bothered about how she’s dressing or what she’s calling herself (incidentally this episode leads to the discovery that she feels about as comfortable presenting as masc or femme. would she have the words to explain any of that? no. am i the author saying “genderfluid pirate”? yeah.)

life at sea is nothing like she expects. the early bouts of seasickness are a rude awakening, but even after that's behind her, it's really fucking hard! it’s a whole lot of manual labour for a 15 year old, and seemingly endless days that are either spent cooking under the sun or shivering from the wind chill when the sun isn’t out. mostly, it's exhausting.

but at least it's not the alienage where she knows everyone that looks at her is seeing the ghost of her uncle hovering somewhere over her shoulder, where she’ll have a few more years before she’s expected to settle down and marry and work a respectable job that will make her feel trapped and resentful and maybe she’ll have some kids and she’ll love them and maybe resent them a little too and—

[anderwater]

[toxictidepod241]

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[thegayjoker]

i think if gore vidal was around nowadays he’d have pronouns

[yourlocalmissingtexture]

Settling

Splintered wood scatters

Old bones across packed earth

The structure shutters

Groans of the battle-torn

Rattling the foundation

North and southern gales

Slam siding like artillery

Icy bullets shatter glass

Dust of gunpowder and mist

“It’s just the house settling,”

Soothes an old voice

Though doubt soaks through

Spoken bloodied bandages

Wind screams through gaps

A desperate cry transgenerational

Echoes through the hearts here

“It will pass in time,

These things happen.”

As it has, so it does

Eye to shard-snowed carpet

Lightning glints like glares

But dimmer by the day

It will come back

But we are safe for now

[reg-cann0t-swim]

"When scientists dig up your bones they will know what you really are." 😡

did it ever occur to you that i do not care what my ribcage identifys as?

[unwelcome-ozian]

do you have any resources on transgenerational organized abuse/violence?

BRISSC

Let me know if you need or are looking for something more specific.

Oz

[lewis-winters]

The Haunting of Hill House AU please

ok so The Haunting of Hill House AU is based of Flannagan's show of the same name and not the original Shirley Jackson novel. Though I love both, the family dynamic in the show is what drew me in. Anyway, it was first spawned in this quick little post back in 2021 and has since become a real monster that I've been struggling to wrangle. It has explicitly trans!Lewis Nixon now! and it grapples with a lot of dysphoria that being trans and pregnant and also haunted by ghosts of dead little sisters and fathers brings!

Excerpt:

It starts with a house.

No. That's not right. For the kids, it starts with the house. Of course it does. They're kids, after all, and what little they understand of the world, they take it in stride. Nevermind that their mother is not really their mother, nevermind that she prefers to be a he. Nevermind that the name by which they know him by is not the name that is on the official papers. They don't mind, of course they don't, not when Papa gives them cuddles and tells them jokes and reads them stories until they sleep. Little by little, as they grow, Lewis finds it in himself to not mind, too. At least, not in front of them. So much of all of it doesn't seem to matter in the eyes of a child, and when all your life is preoccupied with a growing family and a loving husband, the intricacies of your own individual existence to the world you thought you wanted to be a part of washes away, quick, until all that matters is just five little boys with your real name on their lips and stars in their eyes. Until all the understanding you crave rests, safely, in the fragile chest of your husband, who has never seen you as anything but who you are. As his Lewis.

Lewis loves them. God, does he love them.

And for them, it starts with a house.

(It doesn't for Lewis.

For Lewis, it starts with Blanche.)

[wisterianwoman]

On Generational Trauma: Forging a New Legacy

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Learn how generational trauma is passed down and discover the path to breaking the cycle, forging a legacy of resilience. I share a piece of my family’s story with you to demonstrate a tale of resilience and healing that transcends time and generations. An Eternal Pain We had another death in the family recently. It wasn’t the first tragic death, and it won’t be the last in my bloodline. My…

[cheddarfeetcrow]

So just so you guys know I’m /technically/ halakhically Jewish (my maternal grandmother is a Jewish woman who married a goyish man,  let my grandfather and his relatives raise my mom xtian) and I’m considering conversion bc I never really had a relationship with Judaism growing up 

[plantsucc]

note to self to translate "intergenerational trauma" as "üle põlvkondade ulatuv trauma" mitte "põlvkondadevaheline trauma" sest "vaheline" loeb nagu see viitaks rohkem peresisestele konfliktidele

[574r5]

I feel like Jupiter with all its moons

“How many OC’s do you have?”

Me: