#this. isn’t. cancel. culture. anymore.

[chaotic-tired-fox]

I want to rant about this because it makes me mad, but I also don't want this whole thing on my blog, so I hope you don't mind me putting it here.

Iskall literally compared cancel culture to a literal witch hunt. Okay, I agree with that. Cancel culture is bad, innocent people should not get hurt from things that aren't true. (Except I also think he is a part of consequence culture. He dug his own grave at this point.)

But the amount of hypocrisy in that statement infuriates me. Because guess what he did? He sent his fans right on over to cancel the hermits.

Anyway, friendly reminder to show your support of the hermits to drown out what this bastard is doing <3

Understandable anon.

A good example of Cancel Culture was with what happened with TFC (rip) a few years back. People dragging up very old statements and trying to make a fuss out of it despite the fact that he clearly didn’t hold such views anymore and was considered a friend of both ZombieCleo and Joehills. That’s cancel culture. And even still he apologised for them and everyone moved on.

What’s happening with Iskall isn’t Cancel Culture, it’s just pure hard fact and although it’s difficult it still has to be accepted as such. Iskall didn’t apologise for any of it nor did he show even a hint of accountability or regret for his actions and he’s been treating people like this for years. Turning his fans on the hermits in some declaration of war was extremely childish.

What we can do now as a community is to continue to support and show love to the hermits. Report any nasty comments you see on their videos, draw fan art, join a livestream and just keep being the amazing community y’all are. We can drown out the hate together.

[redeclipse27]

I’m gonna say it

Cancel culture isn’t real justice and it’s just noise using people’s trauma and other people’s poor choices to boost yourself up. Harassing and threatening people who’ve done something bad doesn’t teach them anything except to run and disguise themselves and repeat the behavior under new names/handles. Those who use cancel culture to get popular are just as if not more awful, especially since they always attack innocent people who weren’t involved and/or drag as many people as they can into it to keep it going on longer for more attention. If the only way you can get people to engage with you is by attacking others, then you don’t deserve to have a platform

A glass pedestal made from the broken shards of people you’ve torn down is still a glass pedestal.

Plus not to mention there’s free tools to report people that may be dangerous (such as the internet safety tip line) but people never use them because the second the situation ends nobody gives them attention anymore. They also almost never seem to care about the victims in situations, they just care about attention. Heck often they put victims in danger, sometimes on accident sometimes on purpose, which is awful.

[is-the-owl-video-cute]

I still can't believe Shane Dawson is still active... Still positive videos and no one is talking about what he did/probably is doing.

he’s really the proof cancel culture isn’t real, his podcast editor is an actual pedophile and no one says anything because the people who have been saying things against him have realized no one cares anymore and it’s pointless.

[hihigherdi]

My lemons!! And I have a baby finger lime as well which I’m so excited about.

The ladies and I are having a pretty lazy day today and it feels great. I need to start getting serious about moving more, and lifting weights, but I’m going to start focusing on that next week.

Putting Vaseline in my nose seems to be doing something magical in preventing the nosebleeds and the cough (still not great but better). I just can’t move my mind forward to the infusion week when they get bag again, maybe it will be different. Maybe it will be better!

I’m checked in for my Seattle flight tomorrow. It’s going to be a busy weekend but my sister in law texted and I let her know I’d be there, and we’re going to have dinner on Saturday. I felt a little gun shy after not seeing my brother when he was here so I think that will be good, if only to clear those cobwebs from my head.

Given I’m gone four nights, I’m having a woman I know who lives down the street come check in the cats. She is in rescue and is amazing. We sat down for a quick chat and she told me she has “non-alcoholic liver disease” and her liver might be 11-33% calcified. She’s only 35 but she’s got significant genetic history for it. I asked her a few questions and assured her I’m here, sometimes someone who’s been through the tests and appointments has a different supportive presence. And sometimes you just want to do it yourself, I get that too. It’s causing some fatigue which is causing issues with her husband - more and more, I’m so thankful I’m not married. She hasn’t made a follow up appointment even though they keep calling her, she just doesn’t want those scary, definitive answers. I understand it so much and I hope I can give her the encouragement that will facilitate the very best outcome for her.

My friend and I are taking a little trip in April when I just have three more infusions to go. Then Bottlerock, where it will just be two left. I think these little milestones will help. The amount of stress the infusions cause and the toll they take isn’t anything I can really put into words. I should probably go see a trauma therapist but I don’t want another appointment. It will work itself out and it’s going to be over soon.

I filed my LLC today. Yay! It was pretty straightforward. Once it’s active I just have to go to my title company and change the name on the deed, and I’ll be set.

I’m pretty much out of the doom scrolling business. I’ve made my thoughts pretty clear on how much horseshit I think both parties are putting out there (not everyone agrees, we don’t see things the same and I respect it). I’m done lapping it up like a little dog which is all about my own wiring, not anyone else. I think this is about me just wanting a different information appetite - TikTok and cancel culture, all of it just isn’t doing it anymore when it was immensely satisfying in the past, and I’m glad for that. I think to change your appetite, you stop eating what you’re eating now. And what is the “healthy” food in the political space right now? I’ve no idea, maybe it doesn’t exist at all. All I know is I’m prioritizing my own peace and my own mental health, the more I do that, the more I actually act.

[catt-deactivated20240918]

Re: my tag rant I dont want to add any more to it because tag rants are already annoying enough but. Inclusionist coercion and intimidation tactics are VERY real and materially dangerous. Never forget dillscourse, the 15 year old lesbian doxxed and outed to their homophobic parents for the crime of exclusionism. Never forget when asexuals tried to cancel GLAAD for making a positive statement about allies, forcing GLAAD to acquiesce to them and never say “A is for ally” again, which I honestly think was the final nail in the coffin of that cultural moment when it was cool to be an ally to LGBT people. And look at the political climate we’re in now. How did that work out huh? Gee who could have ever foreseen this?

The only reason inclusionism got this far is because asexuals held us all at gunpoint and threatened us for it. With the institutional power that they hold over us and have spent decades desperately trying to force us to believe that they dont. And now they all go “le aphobes LITERALLY destroyed the ace community” DARVO much? They destroyed OUR community. It’s highkey their fault being an ally isn’t cool anymore, and it’s lowkey their fault it’s becoming legal to kill us. Did you guys know we actually don’t have to put up with their fucking shit?? We have become so cowed by them and I’m sick of just lying down and taking it. They should be giving us reparations. If youre ace paypal me $10 or else youre not valid and every steven universe character hates you.

[yoccult]

There’s this really frustrating sentiment I’ve noticed in diet culture that if anything you eat contains “bad” ingredients or nutrients, like fat or sugar or other carbs, then it somehow cancels out whatever “good” nutrients are in it.

You’re eating an apple but add caramel sauce to it? It’s ruined now. You might as well eat nothing. You’re drinking a milk tea but it has sugar in it? Those proteins don’t exist anymore. Eating a regular pizza topped with lots of nutritious veggies? Well unfortunately it’s also covered in cheese and carbs from the crust so it actually does nothing for you. You made a hearty strew that’s rich in protein and vitamins from vegetables? Well it also contains butter so actually it’s super bad for you and should be avoided at all costs.

My point isn’t about whether or not these foods are healthy or unhealthy, nor is it about indulgence or enjoying tasty food. It’s about this strange almost obsessive mindset around nutrition and how weird it is that the second a food has one “bad” ingredient it somehow spoils the whole dish and renders it inedible. This is the kind of shit my parents pushed on me and my siblings growing up, and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that one of us ended up developing an eating disorder.

[the-most-humble-blog]

Can I Get Cancelled Because You Didn’t Get Off?

🚨 Welcome to The Age of Professional Annihilation

In today’s world, you don’t need to actually do anything wrong to be cancelled. Your biggest crime? Breathing while male and fucking someone who later decided they regret it.

So let’s get real about how easy it is to get cancelled for someone else’s fragile ego, self-inflicted delusions, or an orgasm that never happened.

Step 1: The Flimsy Road to Cancellation

Not all cancellations are made equal, but here are some of the most absurd, yet completely irrefutable ways a man can have his entire existence obliterated:

💔 You Raw Dogged Her, Then Handed Her Uber Money – She was fine with it until she remembered she had standards two weeks later. Now you’re a soulless, misogynistic villain because she didn’t get breakfast in bed and a heartfelt "good morning" text.

🎭 You Slept with Her, She Didn’t Get the Promotion, Role, or Career Opportunity She Hoped For – Congratulations! Your dick has now been reclassified as a contract she didn’t read carefully enough. And now? You “pressured” her into it.

🕵️ She Was Embarrassed Someone Found Out & Needed an Excuse – What’s the best way to not look like an attention-starved opportunist? Call it "non-consensual." Now it’s a feminist victory.

😡 She’s Pissed That All Men Want Is Sex – Turns out, you just wanted to fuck instead of writing poetry about the universe inside her eyes. Misogyny confirmed. Time for her to go nuclear and start the mass un-aliving of your career.

🚨 A Friend Told Her She Should Feel Violated – SHE wasn’t uncomfortable, but her best friend with a minor in feminist theory convinced her that she should be. Your sex life has now been posthumously reclassified as predatory.

Step 2: Assess Your Cancellation Risk Level

Are you breathing? Do you have a penis? Then you’re already fucked. But let’s be specific:Risk LevelWhat You Did WrongLow RiskYou’re a virgin. No one cares.Moderate RiskYou had consensual sex, but the orgasm disparity was too great.High RiskYou didn’t pretend to love her after.Immediate CancellationYou exist, and someone needs a cause today.

Step 3: Preemptive Damage Control

If you think you might be on the chopping block, here’s what you should do immediately:

✅ Only sleep with notarized consent forms. (Bonus points if it’s live-streamed.) ✅ Never leave an unsatisfied woman alive. Ghosting isn’t safe anymore. ✅ Stay celibate, join a monastery, let the species die out. ✅ If she says “I’m fine” in a weird tone, IMMEDIATELY FLEE THE COUNTRY. ✅ Save money for a defamation lawsuit. You’re gonna need it.

Step 4: How To Fight Back When The Cancellation Hits

Let’s say you’re already the main character of a Twitter mob’s wet dream. Here’s your damage control strategy:

💀 Own It. – Be unbothered, double down. Nothing infuriates these people more than a man who refuses to grovel.

📢 Sue for Defamation. – Women are getting sued left and right for false accusations. Time to let the courts do the canceling.

🤡 Make a Bigger Scandal. – If you’re gonna go down, take the whole fucking building with you.

📜 Call Out The Bullshit. – Be the guy who tells it like it is—they’ll hate you more, but you’ll expose the entire grift.

Final Thoughts: The Only Way To Win? Stop Giving a Fuck.

Look, you can’t stop someone from rewriting history to fit their new victim narrative. The best thing you can do is laugh, keep living your life, and never give these people the satisfaction of watching you beg.

Because at the end of the day? They were fine with it until they weren’t.

🚀 Stay unbothered. Stay unapologetic. And never, EVER let them think you owe them shit.

🚨REBLOG if You Agree and Want More!

⚖️ LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This post is written for the purpose of artistic expression, cultural commentary, and psychological exploration of social and gender dynamics. It does not condone or encourage violence, harassment, or discrimination of any kind. Any references to power, strength, restraint, or critique are metaphorical, symbolic, and rooted in historical and cultural analysis. This is not a call to action — it’s a cultural mirror. If you feel offended, ask yourself if it’s from actual harm — or from seeing something you hoped no one would say out loud.

✨ TL;DR: If you're mad, it’s probably not because it’s wrong — it’s because you know it’s true.

[winntir]

I hate to weight in on this, but I'm seeing a lot of finger pointing around the cancellation of The Acolyte, so let me point the finger at the correct culprit:

Bob Chapek, former CEO of Disney during a painful three year period the infamous Iger tried to take a step back. How is he to blame for The Acolyte's cancellation when he isn’t even in a position to do that anymore? Well, investor fraud.

See, maybe the pandemic gave some really inflated numbers for streaming services' success, maybe there was some deception on Chapek's part, particularly for Disney+, but streaming services have been over-invested in since then. With everyone stuck at home, what else were they going to do but watch stuff online? These circumstances that caused that boom no longer apply now, and because of that, all the investments made during this time couldn’t possibly see a proper return.

So, what's this have to do with The Acolyte? Well, it should be obvious. To pay back investors, Disney needed to cut their losses, and that meant anything underperforming was on the chopping block. The Acolyte was a very expensive show to make, and it wasn’t a success by the metrics they used, so they killed it. Lotta money went in, didn’t get the return they needed to justify its existence, so no more money goes in.

And from that perspective, The Acolyte was always going to get cancelled. It was never going to make a return on investment, it was never going to be a smash hit. Its destiny was failure, and it’s not because of any culture war bullshit that's a smokescreen for fascist ideologies, though the grift on YouTube got theirs. No, it was all just business. Star Wars is not art to Disney executives and investors; it’s a product, and what do you do when a product doesn’t make a return on investment? You discontinue it.

Welcome to the fucking real world.

[shoot-i-messed-up]

Shoot, have you ever heard of the Star Darlings books or the cartoon? Oh my god Star Darlings is sooo good it’s up there with Ever After High for me. It’s about this planet of essentially almost star beings that have their main source of energy come from granting wishes on Earth. It is obviously very star themed as even the way the mcs get to Earth are on hitching rides to shooting stars. Anyways, for years they’ve been having weird readings in the energy, and they decide that not enough wishes are being fulfilled to meet their needs, so they decide to train a group of 12 girls from the nearest academy and essentially have them taking expedited studies while also keeping the energy problems secret as it will cause a panic or cause students to be jealous. The girls go down to earth one at a time and realize that the magic isn’t going to be as hard as they thought and that they’ll quickly have to fit in to an alien culture to make it in their missions. Of course there is an evil villain reveal and lots of obstacles on the way, but if I said anymore it’d be a huge spoiler. It’s a damn shame that Disney cancelled the books and the webisodes though so there are 11 books. I heard years back it might come back, but I’m not holding my breath.

Omg i didn’t know there was like? actual lore for the star darlings? I actually had run across a clip on youtube when they were first coming out but I didn’t know where to watch them + it did not aeem from that clip that there was EAH levels of plot or plot at all so I kinda lost interest before I even started. When DC loses its chokehold on me a little bit, I’ll have to check it out, ty!!

[paulkleestan]

Rewatching Invader ZIM and I’m kind of stunned that it got away with so little censorship like right after 9/11 and Columbine. And I’m not referring to how adult it was because there are plenty of kid shows with mature content (Regular Show, Animaniacs, Rockos Modern Life) but how dark and cynical it was plus the concept of having an outcast in a trench coat vs a literal terrorist as a protagonist - very bold in the dubya years. I’m honestly surprised it wasn’t cancelled or drastically changed earlier as it was an overwhelmingly negative satire of American society in an era of extreme patriotism and hostility towards any criticism of American culture or policy (Google “freedom fries”, zoomers).

I’ve been reading a bit about the early development and apparently Nickelodeon was desperate to recreate the magic they had with Ren and Stimpy in the 90s so they let Jhonen make it as edgy as he wanted it not realizing that IZ would be like 10x as expensive as Ren and Stimpy and not profitable at all with its mediocre ratings compared to titans like SpongeBob. So then they were left with an expensive, mediocre performing, unsettling and unpredictable show that starred two morally ambiguous protagonists with an angular and drab color scheme and a creator who is notoriously stubborn and refuses to compromise his vision. This made Invader ZIM nigh unmarketable to kids the way SpongeBob was (this is before its Hot Topic renaissance). People get understandably frustrated about ZIM being cancelled especially with episodes still unfinished but I’m honestly grateful it got made at all.

Now what really grinds my gears is how neutered Enter the Florpus was despite the censors not even being an issue anymore due to streaming. Yes, I understand that Jhonen has gotten older and isn’t the cynical young man he used to be but at least give us some creepy atmosphere and cyberpunk aesthetics. It doesn’t have to be body horror or gross out even - just give us some cool camera angles and some gritty futuristic tech.

[stewpid-soup]

VENT CW!! STAY SAFE!!

anyone else find it exhausting to just enjoy things?

I don’t want to support people or companies that are actively doing things that are bad (racism, homophobia, defending SA, etc etc). but it’s so mentally draining to look through all of this terrible shit and not be able to enjoy things bc of their creators or ppl associated with it

i mean, i don’t support dream. i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again. I don’t support dream or the dteam as a whole - but the dsmp was such a big comfort to me through quarantine, and even now i still love the storyline and the characters.

HP, well that’s self explanatory. JKR is just a shit person and i’m not gonna give her my money bc i enjoy the plot of HP. I just take fanon on its own for the most part. I own the books and the films already (my family loves HP and has for a long time, since before JKR was outed as a transphobe) so i don’t need to buy anything from her. HP was a huge part of my childhood and the thought of not interacting with any content related to it makes me so sad, because i still love it even now.

and as controversial as it may be, i’ve enjoyed hazbin and helluva boss for years now. it was another comfort during quarantine, and i watched it with friends and got to bond over it. i do not like vivziepop or support her, and it’s exhausting to see all this back and forth about her online bc it’s so confusing. I love these shows and it makes me so happy that I get to see hazbin come together after waiting so long, and the same goes for helluva boss. of course there can be improvements to the way vivziepop writes some characters, but i still love these shows so much. it hurts my heart to feel like i can’t enjoy the content because the creator is such a bad person.

and then the number of musicians i’ve had to stop listening to because they turned out to be shitty people. or actors i avoided watching content of because they’re bad people (especially when the list of ppl who support Israel came out- of course im not supporting anyone on there, but some of the ppl on there just rlly hurt my heart because ive enjoyed their content for so long)

i know there’s not really any way to avoid this, as people are complex and can be an asshole w/o you knowing. funding people like this isn’t something i want or care to do, so of course i actively avoid it. but I just don’t know what to do when it comes to this.

a friend told me that it’s sort’ve about picking and choosing things, because you never know what people are really like. they said that with the state of the world, it’s important to stay educated but don’t let shitty people get in the way of things you enjoy. i’m just at the point where i feel like i can’t enjoy anything because anytime i get stuck in a rabbit hole of content, i see people going back and forth about who should be cancelled and who actually isn’t a bad person. cancel culture is one of the worst things about the internet, and it just makes interacting with fandoms even more toxic than it already is.

ig this is just a rant talking about comforts i have that i feel like i can’t enjoy anymore because of cancel culture and just like..people being people? i’m just so tired of finding something i enjoy and then learning out that they are or possibly could be doing/supporting something bad and just— it makes me feel so guilty because i don’t want to indirectly/directly hurt anyone. i know what i believe in and what i do and don’t support, at least for the most part (still learning everyday atp), but it doesn’t make it any easier to part with things i hold so dearly in my heart.

does anyone else feel similarly? if so, what have you found that helps or at least is a comfortable middle ground?

idk bro, my life is so exhausting with everything i deal with in real life- so to feel like i can’t even find comfort in my silly little shows anymore is really depressing. my mental health is not doing well lmfaooo

[swynlake-rp]

Spring out of February with one of these characters!

Wendy Pleakley (Pleakley, Lilo & Stitch) - Fireflies in a jar, cotton-candy coloured dresses, and a mountain of vital research. One day, your contributions will be appreciated. “Too controversial” is just an opinion. Right? Your work isn’t controversial, it is groundbreaking!

Polyhymnia/Polyhymnus of Hesiod (The Muses, Hercules) - As the Muse of hymns, meditation, and religion, the other Muses look to you for wisdom and guidance. That is why you’ve come here to Swynlake to find the Muse that may be here, waiting to be trained for their birthright. Will you find them, or is Swynlake a dead end?

Roland Doyle (Rolly, 101 Dalmatians) - Lucky owes you an apology…for something you did! Yeah! That’s right, that’s totally how that works. Whatever! It’s Lucky’s fault, ultimately, that the band split up and the family secret was revealed. Nevermind what you did to provoke it…so where’s your apology, eh? You’re in town to get it!

Cornelius Robinson (Cornelius Robinson, Meet The Robinsons) - A notebook full of chicken scratch and sketches, a full house, and your favorite thing to look at – your wedding ring. Your big family is more than you ever thought you’d have, including your wife and children of your own. They are your world, but unfortunately not the world and you often lose yourself in your work, trying to benefit the global community. Will you ever find your work-life balance?

Jimmy Ling (Ling, Mulan) - Can’t anybody take a JOKE anymore? Oh, brother, apparently not. Yet again, CANCEL culture rears it’s ugly head. Now you have to relocate to Swynlake so you can #learnbetterdobetter. And maybe learn you were actually wrong?

George Goof (Goofy, A Goofy Movie) - Being a younger dad with no time to finish university never bothered you, you did well for Max all of this life! But after being laid off, the job search had been difficult without a degree. You’ve got just the plan to fix this…why not go to university WITH your son?

[swords-of-a-soilder]

Bless you for compiling what’s going on with that ex-bird app. It’s been genuinely insightful for me to understand the thoughts of the kinds of people behind those accounts.

That person trying to cancel creators for associating with Forever (and probably advocating for his lore to be excised from the server) saying “but I can’t possibly give up guapoduo, it’s My Hyperfixation” is very telling. Hypocrisy specifically in the context of “separating the art from the artist” isn’t something I’ve seen before, shockingly, so I guess I get to add that to my Social Media Discourse Bingo. (I had an online friend in 2016 who I was terrified to talk about my interests with because I didn’t know what angry punk teenagers on tumblr had deemed “evil and disgusting”, and even SHE stopped listening to some of her favorite metal bands when she learned they were homophobic, and had absolute turmoil when she learned that David Bowie might have allegedly slept with an underage groupie in the 70s. Her constant, unpredictable rage at seemingly random pieces of media was awful for my mental health, but at least she wasn’t a genuine hypocrite.)

Also that tone of “I’ve had good memories here… but I just can’t handle it anymore.” It sounds like someone whose meaningful but soul-crushing work has finally broken them, almost sounding like someone I knew at the frontline worker job I had mid-pandemic who missed her own birthday three years in a row, got repetitive stress injuries, and then got passed over for a promotion that was given to someone who did a fraction of the work. But the “God willing, I’ll never come back” was followed by “I’m 13” …damn, I got whiplash so hard that I astral projected into a universe where things made sense for a second. Because of course kids don’t have a complex view of other countries’ political systems or cultural pressures. Or the nuances of personal change and redemption. Or that sometimes people are just not online for a few days. And of course a 13-year-old doesn’t understand how dumb and petty they look by trying to ruin other peoples’ careers in the name of Activism (tm) while having a fandom portmanteau username.

“I didn’t want it to come to this but… I’m going to delete twitter!” I hope so, but more for their own sake, honestly. I actually have less anger towards most of them now. Many are kids with a false sense of grandiosity that makes them believe they are the ultimate moral authority, but have very little understanding of how messy people or societies can be. I just hope they can learn one day, and look back on who they are now and cringe. (And then many years after that, have the grace to forgive themselves.)

Oof, sorry for the wall of text.

I’m still not over the whole situation with Forever. I miss his energy, and his accent, and his silly bits with Richas that always dragged on too long, and N.I.N.H.O. (and everything it represented), and how different he and Cellbit are but how they understood each other WAY too well, and how he tried to make people who didn’t log onto the server as often still feel welcome and wanted, and how happy he got when anyone non-Brazilian even tried to speak a little bit of Portuguese. (I was learning, but I’ve barely touched it since.) I won’t lie, it’s affected me far more than I thought it would.

I miss Forever. Thank you for your blog being a little space where that’s okay.

I'm honestly a little worried for the kid (s), not in a "oh I just want the best for" fake bs way just a little concerned tbh. I still don't like them but I don't hate them either, they're a kid.

But at the same time I'm worried for their well being, they have like 5,000 follower on their main Twitter and 28 on curious cat (which is apprantly high for that app )

That's 5000 people (teens or not) waiting for you to tell them how to feel that can't be good for their mental state, not for a 13 yr old kid.

Most of their life was spent learning about the world and their still learning, these are the ages where you're worried about the sun blowing up.

You haven't seen how awful the world can be yet, You haven't seen how much worst it could get you haven't learned calculus yet!

To you the world is only these 13 years and you think if you don't act now everything will be over.

I get it, I had that fear too, most people grown into it and realize just how shitty it can get an settle in choosing their own battles and not letting It consume them, because no one had time for that anymore.

You want to experience the most out of live while you can and the older you get the easier it is to balance.

To me it looks like one of those situation where you'll look back and think "I wish I enojyed my childhood."

Because 5000 people waiting for you to tell them who to bash, 28 people prasing your while admitting they use to hate you.

It can't be good. And if they were to read this they'd probably say "oh you don't actually care you just want to shit on me."

And like, yeah I don't care, but am I saying all this because I want to shit on them? no I'm just pointing out concerns.

Apart from that I fully agree with anon.

[jjkyaoi]

i’m not a dsmp fan anymore so maybe people would think i shouldn’t be talking about this, but that’s stupid. this isn’t about anything but shelby and what wilbur did to her. this isn’t about the dsmp, it isn’t fandom drama or cancel culture, something that will be forgotten in a week, it’s abuse. plain and simple, there’s no other word for it.

clearly there’s something in him that he needs to work on that lead him to doing this to shelby (and other people too!) and i think he’s unwell, and needs to seek help and actually fucking fix himself instead of whatever that bullshit apology was even supposed to be, but regardless of whatever he might be going through—whatever “reasons” he could have, none of them are good enough to treat your partner like that. it was abuse. if your partner is telling you to stop doing something and it makes them uncomfortable, if they use the safe word you two came up and with you ignore it, it isn’t “playful and consensual” and i think that’s pretty fucking blatant?? having people around him that were afraid to speak up, to even make him angry, says so many things about the kind of volatile person he is and it’s disgusting how much he’s done and how many people it’s affected. support victims whether or not it’s your favorite cc. find different fucking music to listen to. support shelby

[thatone-churro]

i was gonna make this addition to someone else’s post but it got longer than expected and i really didn’t wanna do that to them after they said they were done talking about it in regards to their own work.

i don’t know if “bugs” or “irks” are quite the right words for how i feel, but this take certainly does something of the sort to me.

i hate that the concept of “bury your gays” and its related discourses are so quickly applied to ALL queer media. it’s completely stripped of its original context/meaning and i know THAT irks me to no end.

personally, i’m of a mind that queers deserve media about them, about queers, and also about tragedy, death, murder, action and suspense, or whatever the occasion is. it can be about the queer cast while not having a happy ending, or without the cast being perfect.

“casually queer” is how i used to describe my personal project. yes, it’s blatantly and unapologetically queer, and that queerness is important, but it’s not the focus of the story. it’s not the point of the story. there’s still action, still adventure, still death, still tragedy. the cast isn’t perfect, some die, some are awful, some are “problematic,” even the queer cast. most things happen to the queer cast, because most of the major cast is queer.

i don’t understand the idea of condemning a work for “problematic queer characters” if it’s just a primarily queer work. you can’t have a queer story with no conflict or have realistic characters that are perfect. you want a queer story, but no, no, the queer characters can’t be problematic. and the problematic trait they describe is simply just. a character flaw exploited for the sake of the narrative. i don’t get it.

a queer story written for queers shouldn’t be perfect and pure. there should be “problematic” things. there should be tragedy. they shouldn’t have to be pure. they shouldn’t have to be perfect. they shouldn’t be shunned by the community they were created for because they told an otherwise typical story, except now it’s queer. queer stories, or any story, should be allowed to be complex. there should be nuance. not everything in it should be likable. that’s how a story works.

using my story as an example, again, my all-time favorite character and one of my main protagonists for a good chunk of it is a nonbinary lesbian on ace-spectrum. okay. cool. lots of rep there. but they’re heavily flawed. they kill. they have regrets. they make stupid decisions. they’re self-righteous. they’re terrified of being the bad guy yet end up the bad guy in many people’s views. they have one very violent motive. they love their family to such an extent that they’ll destroy anyone who lays a hand on them. they’re complex. they’re nuanced. they’re not always the good guy. that’s how a story is. if they were a perfect, pure, “perfect” character, there would be no story. no enjoyable story, at least.

what baffles me the most is when queer creators make these queer stories and suddenly they’re a bad queer because they killed one of their many queer characters, for instance. i’ll use my project once more for an example. say, remember that nonbinary ace lesbian from less than a paragraph ago? yeah, i ended up killing them at one point. their story was over and while it hurt me, too, it was a necessary step for the story. their story was over and i needed them to start the next chapter of the next protagonists’ story. but as a nonbinary ace lesbian myself, does that make me a “bad queer?” am i suddenly evil if i killed off my sapphic couple that got marrie in the first part because their story was over and there was no other way to move on their daughter’s story with them there? am i the asshole for killing one of my ace characters for a narrative purpose? am i not allowed to do certain things to my queer characters anymore if i don’t want to be a “bad queer?”

i guess these feelings boil down more to how strictly puritan culture and/or cancel culture and/or “problematic” culture has invaded the literary scene and how that impacts me, a queer writer. how are we supposed to tell these stories that people beg for if they are torn down and torn apart for the exact nuances they want? how are we supposed to create anything without relentless scorn or fear of being “cancelled” for thematic complexities? i don’t understand it.

in conclusion:

i realize my opinion on the subject is probably HEAVILY swayed by my own tastes and preferences and i have no idea where i’m going with this anymore and there’s not really an argument here anymore so really this whole thing can be taken with a grain of salt.

anyway, that’s my angry rant for the day. please don’t witch hunt me for it, thanks 🤞

[noahschnappinfs]

aww, this has been in the press about ariana grande and it really made me think of noah! i hope there arent long term effects of what he's been through this past year :(

“There were all these stories coming out of nowhere that were completely false,” she said. “And that was, at 19 years old, the most impossible thing to acclimate to.”

“I hate overusing the word traumatic, but...it freaked me out,” she added.

i think this part of miss americana is very insightful about the weight that celebrities carry by being on the spotlight and how getting “cancelled” affects you since you can literally see the world change overnight from everybody adoring you to hating you. it must be really fucked mentally to see your life basically change and people just deciding they don’t like you anymore in mass scale. the good thing is that taylor, a few years later, is basically the biggest artist in the world enjoying plenty of success which imo is also a testament to how cancel culture actually isn’t a real thing long term just a excuse to police and bully people and that everybody is performative online if they are able to just switch up like that so fast.

what ariana says it’s also really important because for noah and every artist that starts their career at a very young age, i think it must be a really heavy weight to carry because you have everything about you publicly exposed in a way that normal people don’t have to worry about. you can just make mistakes and it’s seen as a normal part of growing up while they have everything plastered whenever they are true or not everywhere specially now with how extensive social media is.

it’s very human to be affected by this stuff but noah seems to have a strong support system and even sought out external support with therapy which i feel like will be very helpful in the long term. obviously i’m not him so i don’t know how he’s doing but i feel like he’s a good path there with all that.