#this is an important skill to learn children

[thatbitchery]

Personal finance is tied mostly to your systems as a person. You could make 6 figures a year and still be broke and in debt or you could make 20k a year and be on your way to financial freedom.I have finally achieved financial freedom, and no I do not make super much, depending on who you compare me to. Mostly it's my financial and personal habits that keep me going.

I do not consider fancy a marker of a good life, as a matter of fact I do not understand it. What do you mean a MEAL costs 1000 its never that serious please. I don't consider Givenchy to be any more elevated than what my tailor can make me for 100$. Fancy is not important to me so when I was building my one year emergency fund I did not consider fancy part of the budget. I do not try to purchase status.

And I can not stress this enough- taking risks with my money. Buying a vending machine is one of the best decisions I made this year. Buying a business, as risky as that was, turned out to be great. I have lost money, too. Like a lot. I bought stocks in a startup that crashed and lost a pretty little buck. I dipped into the VR business not too long ago and that tanked. It is not about making the right decisions- with money that is almost never possible. Its about taking risks.

My end goal is not a career its the money. Meaning? I have worked jobs odd and unclassy and not so fun. I have packaged fish at some point- hated it. I have worked as a cashier once. As the personal assistant to some pig that was always trying to get their hand up my skirt. I have done real estate. Currently doing event (wedding) Planning for my girl. I did forex, once. I have been paid to go as someone's date to some event. I am not picky with my jobs because the job is not the end goal, the money is. The goal is to retire by 30 and I will do whatever it takes to get up there. It's the getting paid part that matters the most to me.

Learning to leverage my skills and the situation plus to recognize the opportunities when they show up. My girl's last organizer canceled last minute and I offered to take it if she tops the fee up because I love her but not THAT much. In the process I have met so many people in this place and making connections in a new country will never be a bad idea. I have zero to none skills in event planning but all i hear is compliments (Pinterest the things I'd do for you) and I can add event planning to the options my future self has for careers especially given the profile of this one. A lady at church was divorced and man left her with a mortgage and a financial crisis (your daily reminder marrying rich isn't all that) and i drew up a contract to cover her mortgage and kid's education in exchange of a piece of her estate plus slowly easing my way into becoming her financial go to person and asset manager. A bargain, seriously, and I've passed it through enough lawyers to know my fancy little mortgage note will make me very very happy in a few years. Leveraging my mentorship skills to work my way into society because the way to anyone's heart is their children. Its free on paper but is it really? These are the next CEOs and I'm building my space this early. Leveraging my relationships for more relationships. Opportunities are not given they are created. 

THIS. ESPECIALLY THIS - having a value system. Knowing what is important to me and what isn't. Being a part of high society is NOT important to me so why would i buy a gala ticket the same price as my rent? Buying brands to keep up a rich girl aesthetic? Winters in Gstaad although I despise snow? Being part of high society isn't something I value at all so I don't play social games I'll just go home. Yes I'll maintain my relationships but everyone that is everyone knows it is not a race I fancy (Which, weirdly enough, has made it very easy for me to navigate it). Like I said, fancy things are not important to me so apart from an Aston Martin I don't care about the price I care about the quality. I will be at a thrift store I really don't mind. My peace is very important to me so I'll pick the fancy overpriced library fees over other libraries and I will pay a ridiculous amount in rent for an apartment in the peaceful part of town and I will splurge on a fancy cafe because I know the price range itself buys me peace. Ramit Sethi (In his book I Will Teach You To Be Rich) gives this as the core point of getting wealthy, knowing your value system. What is important to you? What isn't? If you're not for something you're for everything. 

Minimizing responsibilities. I don't have kids and I don't intend to. I don't stupidly commit to things without thinking real real hard about them. I didn't buy things that require me to keep up with paperwork, I don't take on things I need to track. My greatest responsibility in life is my three cats. 

[ganondoodle]

can you tell us more ab shargon’s kids?? :0

(sorry for the ... very rough sketch and probably unreadable text, struggeling alot with art atm ... still ..)

Thank you for asking!

Shargon has two young children, Jyothi and Tyura (forgive the weird names, made them when i was young and they are too ingrained now to change ..)

(Shargon is a single parent; demons do not have a gender/only one, all of them have the ability to bear children with an organ that sits right beneath the demonic heart, they also do not need a partner, they can just decide to have a child and trigger the process- while carrying they cannot shapeshift since an unborn demon cannot go along with that- genetics are usually not a problem since demons generally draw from a huge gene pool dating back eons; if they have a partner they will have to exchange some heartblood for the child to be a mix of both; growing a child is very energy draining and when carrying its not unusual for a demon to resort to consuming food, which they typically dont need to do; maintaining a certain energy level is very important since otherwise the risk of deformities in the child increases alot; a newborn demon (birth occurs through the mouth) has a few baby teeth with which to bite its parent/caretaker and feed on their demonic blood, it is not a requirement but many do since it accelerates their growth and can even out energy imbalances)

Jyothi, comparable to a 13 year old human, is a rather healthy young demon with alot of skill using elemental magic (wind in her case), which is why shes being taught by Lord Eadrya; Eadrya wants Shargon dead and regularly attacks him and although both of his children inherited his unnatural and hated/feared eye color, Jyothi stood up to Eadrya not knowing who they were at the time (and thus not their status and reputation) since Shargon lives extremely isolated- and even challenged them to a fight showing so much character and skill that Eadrya saw past her heritage and offered to teach her

The two get along well and she often sneaks away to find them bc she is so eager to learn and spend time with such a powerful and careless demon that everyone respects ... unlike her parent, who is weak, riddled with anxiety and hated by everyone, she still loves him of course, but the more time she spends away the more she adopts the way the other demons think and speak of Shargon

Shargon hates that she goes to them so much, mostly bc he is afraid they, and especially Eadrya, will hurt her or stop her from returning home, even with her special status bc of her talents, she still is his child after all; he does not and could not force her to not go though (a benefit is that she has been the only one besides Thor (Eadryas best friend) able to stop Eadrya from literally killing Shargon, as much as they are horrible to him, they do care alot for her)

(Jyothi has only started to grow her horns and her markings and colors will shift alot as she grows, as is typical for young demons)

Tyura, comparable to a 6 year old human, is much more like Shargon himself, very fearful and skitters away if theres anything they are unsure of, they are of the same elemental type as Shargon (lightning) but thus far has never used it beyond weak defensive shocks; they are also mute and have a deformed left hand likely bc Shargon was attacked and hunted for a long time while carrying them, thus not able to provide a stable energy level the other demons know of them but any attempt to get close to them has been prevented either by Shargon himself or .. Tyura fleeing and hiding (their body structure is also rather similar, the round shape is largely just fluffy feathers)

when Shargon is in the human world his children tend to stay with the only other demon he can trust (Ceryrion, an earth elemental and the chillest guy you can imagine), they dont like him much but love children and will happily go about their day while a little Tyura clings onto their back (though Tyura will absolutely dive back to Shargon whenever they notice his presence) both kids have been to the human world before but since it is very uncomfortable to be in as a demon he has only done so for them to meet Mori (Shargons human friend that lives .. illegally .. at the gates to the demon world) and avoided bringing them there otherwise

the time he is away has notably increased alot after accepting the deal with Zaphira (being her bodyguard .... 24 hours a day .. granted she did not know he had children, and also didnt know anything about demons but that she could use him to solve her problems)

here i go rambling again, i hope that gave you a bit of an idea of them ;O;

[imperator-kahlo]

I love the fact that Davrin and Blackwall share a hobby, but it means something so different for each of them.

Davrin carves his enemies, the monsters he hunts, as a test and clarification of his knowledge about them and as a tool to educate (the basis for his bestiary). He also carves allies—the Grey Warden slaying the ogre and his Warden friends lost at Weisshaupt. He is a Warden and a hunter; excelling in these roles is important to him, so even his hobbies are directed towards that goal. He values his skills: he builds a cabinet to hold his carvings and is eager to share what he knows via the bestiary.

Blackwall carves toys, and we learn (I think in Trespasser?) that he hands them out to children he encounters on the road—children like those of the family he murdered. He downplays the craftsmanship involved (it's a way to "keep the hands busy"). He's a skilled warrior, but my impression is that after the egotism of his youth (the Tourney), he only values his fighting skills now as a means of redemption. He can fight to make people a little safer, and he can hand out his silly little handcrafted toys to make children a little happier.

Bonus Blackwall easter egg found in in Villa Dellamorte:

[giantkillerjack]

Uh-oh! You are like, SOOO awkward!!

You're so awkward that it is occasionally mildly uncomfortable for people!

You're so awkward that sometimes people are confused by you and then there are awkward silences!

You're so awkward ...... that ultimately no one is harmed!!

Oh damn!!! What a vile crime you have committed! What an unforgivable thing it is to make a fellow human briefly confused!

Why, if *I* were ever briefly confused and kind of uncomfortable as a result, I'd be devastated.... by the absolute net zero change in my happiness and health! - From which I might never recover!! Yes indeed! No punishment can ever be enough for you!!

So you better absolutely hate yourself for it.

Better be SO MEAN to yourself about every single missed social cue so you don't forget your horrible crime! Meaner than you'd ever dream of being to someone else for the same thing! This is YOUR responsibility!

You need to show the world that you KNOW you are bad by punishing yourself constantly! After all, think of all the people who BENEFIT from you punishing yourself! - No, really! Think about it! Think about who benefits from your pain.

Think of alllllll the definitely-good people that your definitely-necessary self-torment definitely helps! I mean, you can't just cut off their definitely-life-sustaining supply of your suffering, right?? Sure, everyone else has a breaking point, but you're probably the only person in human history who doesn't, right? Best not to question it probably. Sure, it's a symptom that billions of people with trauma have had, but who knows? You could be a one-in-seven-billion exception. Anything's possible!

Instead, better just accept that idea that bullies carry like guns in holsters - the idea that people who have trouble with social cues deserve to suffer. Better carry on the burden they placed on you until you drop. Aid the cause of the callous by enforcing shame and suffering upon yourself extra hard; try your best to do their work for them. They're very busy.

Better not recognize that you need patience and kindness to heal from your trauma. Better not find out that it was trauma rather than personal weakness filling your head with self-hating thoughts. Better not find out it wasn't your fault.

Better not find out that awkwardness is not inherently harmful or unkind, and, in fact, the people who act like it is *are the ones enacting harm and being cruel.*

Better not get righteously angry when you realize just how much unnecessary damage this has done to you. After all, if you get mad, you might realize you deserve better. You might even feel brave enough to DEMAND better! You might build boundaries that keep you safe! You might make other people think they deserve to feel safe too! And we obviously can't be having that, so...

Better not show yourself even a little kindness a little bit at a time.

Better not make a habit out of it after all that practice.

Better not get confident.

Especially if you can't first wipe out every trace of awkward. (And you probably never will. Because people who experience absolute social certainty at all times tend to be insufferable assholes that enforce the status quo. And you just don't have the stock portfolio for that.)

Better not be confident and awkward because then you might confuse and delight people

- you might accidentally end up making other people feel less shame for their social difficulties

- you might make isolated, traumatized, and shy people feel like they deserve to be included in social situations

- you might even make them feel they can be themselves around you

- you might start loving the effect you have on a room

- you might enjoy conversations more

- you might forgive yourself and bounce back from shame more easily and frequently

- you might come to enjoy some of those moments of harmless confusion you cause because NOBODY expects the Confident Awkward, and that can genuinely be an advantage in social situations

- you might stop apologizing so much.

- you might find that socializing is like a video game: it requires practice but also a safe space for it to be fun and positive.

Or if you can't become assertive and confident, better not remain awkward and shy and quiet, and then love and forgive yourself anyway!

Why, it would be carnage!!

In either scenario, you run the risk of finding out that it's not your fault that safe spaces full of kind people can be really hard to find, create, and nurture. You could end up building a skillset that helps you do those things if you're not careful!

If you start giving yourself even the tiniest amount of grace at a time, you will find that you've accessed a gateway drug with extreme long-term side effects:

- You might realize that it was never your fault that it took so long to like yourself.

- You might realize that you were always worth talking to, even when you didn't like yourself and communication felt impossibly difficult.

- You might realize that you'll still be worth talking to even if communication becomes harder as you age and/or experience disability.

- You might come to know that you deserve to be heard even on bad days when words come slow and blurry.

You might discover that you were always deserving of kindness, first and foremost from yourself.

So. As you can see, it's FAR too much of a risk to start granting your awkward self free pardons for your many heinous and harmless crimes. Better to just leave it there.

[you-have-been-frizzled]

so i was just reminded exactly why i left the actually autistic tumblr a few years back

anything they didn’t like was labeled ableist/infantilizing, to an extreme extent.

all speech tharapy was ableist and tried to push austic people into boxes, social rules where bad, nerotypicals and alistcis did everything to make our lives harder, austim moms where their sworn enemies.

it was ridiculous 

[itsthenerdwonder]

slight addendum to the first one. They have /tagged/my-croissant for tags with multiple words. That WAS the way to find things, but it is now /tagged/my%20croissant or just /tagged/my croissant. Both work, but the - no longer works.

how to find literally any post on a blog in seconds (on desktop)

there are so many posts about ~tumblr is so broken, you can’t find any post on your own blog, it’s impossible, bluhrblub~

I am here to tell you otherwise! it is in fact INCREDIBLY easy to find a post on a blog if you’re on desktop/browser and you know what you’re doing:

url.tumblr.com/tagged/croissant will bring up EVERY post on the blog tagged with the specific and exact phrase #croissant. every single post, every single time. in chronological order starting with the most recent post. note: it will not find #croissants or that time you made the typo #croidnssants. for a tag with multiple words, it’s just /tagged/my-croissant and it will show you everything with the exact phrase #my croissant

url.tumblr.com/tagged/croissant/chrono will bring up EVERY post on the blog tagged with the exact phrase #croissant, but it will show them in reverse order with the oldest first 

url.tumblr.com/search/croissant isn’t as perfect at finding everything, but it’s generally loads better than the search on mobile. it will find a good array of posts that have the word croissant in them somewhere. could be in the body of the post (op captioned it “look at my croissant”) or in the tags (#man I want a croissant). it won’t necessarily find EVERYTHING like /tagged/ does, but I find it’s still more reliable than search on mobile. you can sometimes even find posts by a specific user by searching their url. also, unlike whatever random assortment tumblr mobile pulls up, it will still show them in a more logically chronological order

url.tumblr.com/day/2020/11/05 will show you every post on the blog from november 5th, 2020, in case you’re taking a break from croissants to look for destiel election memes 

url.tumblr.com/archive/ is search paradise. easily go to a particular month and see all posts as thumbnails! search by post type! search by tags but as thumbnails now

url.tumblr.com/archive/filter-by/audio will show you every audio post on your blog (you can also filter by other post types). sometimes a little imperfect if you’re looking for a video when the op embedded the video in a text post instead of posting as a video post, etc

url.tumblr.com/archive/tagged/croissant will show you EVERY post on the blog tagged with the specific and exact phrase #croissant, but it will show you them in the archive thumbnail view divided by months. very useful if you’re looking for a specific picture of a croissant that was reblogged 6 months ago and want to be able to scan for it quickly 

url.tumblr.com/archive/filter-by/audio/tagged/croissant will show you every audio post tagged with the specific phrase #croissant (you can also filter by photo or text instead, because I don’t know why you have audio posts tagged croissant) 

the tag system on desktop tumblr is GENUINELY amazing for searching within a specific blog! 

caveat: this assumes a person HAS a desktop theme (or “custom theme”) enabled. a “custom theme” is url.tumblr.com, as opposed to tumblr.com/url. I’ve heard you have to opt-into the former now, when it used to be the default, so not everyone HAS a custom theme where you can use all those neat url tricks. 

if the person doesn’t have a “custom theme” enabled, you’re beholden to the search bar. still, I’ve found the search bar on tumblr.com/url is WAY more reliable than search on mobile. for starters, it tends to bring posts up in a sensible order, instead of dredging up random posts from 2013 before anything else

if you’re on mobile, I’m sorry. godspeed and good luck finding anything. (my one tip is that if you’re able to click ON a tag rather than go through the search bar, you’ll have better luck. if your mutual has recently reblogged a post tagged #croissant, you can click #croissant and it’ll bring up everything tagged #croissant just like /tagged/croissant. but if there’s no readily available tag to click on, you have to rely on the mobile search bar and its weird bizarre whims) 

[boyczar]

The phrase “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all” has done irreparable damage to the human race. We have not learned how to acceptably criticize others and we have not learned how to gracefully accept it from others. It reeks of codependency. We need to make maximal effort to undo the damage that may have been inflicted upon us in childhood. If we equate a criticism of our BEHAVIOR as an attack on OURSELVES, then we have some work to do. If this notion that we are separate from our actions makes you uncomfortable, you need to do some reflecting, and that’s not me “coming for you”! We also need to stop just throwing around criticism when we are heated or feeling resentful. Criticism is a tool that we all NEED. Desperately. In order to change for the better. But we need to know how to wield it. If you have a genuine criticism of someone’s choices (someone you care about) learn how to tell them calmly, so that they might be able to take your concern to heart and use it for the better. The goal should never be to cause pain. Learn this before it’s too late.

[inbabylontheywept]

by tradition, the first day of the camp was spent pranking the group next to us. our prank was ziptying the zippers on their sleeping bags together. we figured one of them would sleep with a knife, because we all slept with knives, because we were dangerous maniacs and half the danger of a dangerous maniac is that they tend to think that they are Actually Normal. so. obviously that didn't pan out, and instead they got stuck in their sleeping bags for like half an hour and because their scoutmaster slept in their car and couldn't hear them yelling, they actually only got out when one of them went full caged animal and chewed through the plastic. which meant they had time to make it to the axe throwing station, but they did miss breakfast.

the scale of our victory was impossible to understate. it was an epic prank. unrivaled. the best in years. we knew they were going to retaliate, and we both feared and craved it. maybe i'm still a maniac, but that feels like a common thing, right? do well adjusted people that are not maniacs crave Judgement?

(serious answers only please, from people who would never spoon a knife.)

anyway, the next day we got back to our camp, and the neighors had skipped dinner to just come back and fill all our tents with pinecones. which was like, a decent prank, i guess, but it probably took them an hour to fill all the tents up, and it took us like 15 minutes to tip the tents out, and as a return volley to the ziptie prank it was incredibly underwhelming. we felt a little cheated.

so our scouting group held a council, and we agreed, unanimously, that our prank was 100% better and theirs sucked and that there would be no escalating tensions because we were the clear victors. they'd had their chance to retaliate, and they failed, and so the war was over. that was it.

we agreed on this. we swore. but madness is a relative thing, and in our group of maniacs, we still had J. i have many, many J stories. too many. i biked up to school with him from 4th grade to 8th, and i saw him get hit by cars thrice. he'd just swerve into the road sometimes. one time on a rainy day in 4th grade, a car splashed me, and before i could even consider my response J yelled I GOT THIS and then he blitzed off after the car. i didn't see him the rest of the day. i was so anxious i barely slept that night. i saw him the next morning and he told me that he'd chased the car until it got to a gated community and then he'd climbed over the fence and looked in peoples garages until he found the one with the car, and then he'd ripped the hood ornament off and broke their window. then he gave me a hood ornament to a different brand of car from the one that splashed me and i didnt tell him because i didnt want him missing more school. i want you to mentally adjust your mental model of the things a 9 year old is capable of doing to include chasing a car for five miles, hopping a fence, breaking into a garage, and vandalizing a randos car.

and that's just the tip of my J stories iceberg.

the point of all this is just to say that J was so crazy that he made us knife spooners look like accountanting enthusiasts.

so we agreed the war was done, and we shook on it, and then J, in the name of friendship, in the name of honor, in the name of avenging our pinecone filled tents, snuck over to their camp that evening and fornicated with a watermelon that they'd been saving in their cooler.

i want to emphasize, again, that this was not the consensus of the group. that is not a prank. like i know it seems like we dont know what pranks are because of the whole ziptie thing, but even we knew that fucking someones food is not a prank, it is a crime, and a sin, the kind of weapon that had only been ethically used once in history by Horus in his battle against Set and none of us dumb assholes had owl heads.

so.

the next day went pretty well. we threw some more axes again, which is a valuable and important skill for children to learn i guess, and we learned how to tie knots, which is a skill that turned out to be far sexier than i ever expected, and i learned how to light fires with a magnifying glass, which was great. i'm looking back at this, and i am actually just now beginning to realize that the clear and obvious point of scouting is turning child sociopaths into apex predators.

and then the day ended, and we went back to our camps, except for our leaders, who had a sort of Scout Leader Meeting they were going to have for a few hours at least. it was built into the camp, that day was supposed to be our day to chill as a group, and make peach cobbler, and just be buddies.

except, as it turned out, our neighboring group's alternative to making peach cobbler was eating their watermelon. so at some point they opened their watermelon, and woo boy. oh man. you think catholics hated seedless watermelons? you should see how much mormons hate seeded ones.

so we were chilling by the fire, and then we heard screaming from the camp over, but we didn't pay much mind to that because there are many reasonable explanations for a group of 10ish children to scream simulanteoulsy, such as wasps, which are abundant in arizona, and then the screaming got closer, which did not bother us because there were many reasons for a group 10ish children to scream and run towards us, for example, wasps, which are abundant in arizona, and then we noticed they had large sticks on them, which we figured were perhaps being used to drive away the wasps, which are abundant in arizona, and then they arrived and they started beating the shit out of us, abundantly, in arizona.

so we ran into the woods.

now, at this point, we had no idea what was up. we knew that the camp next to us was out for blood, which was crazy, because we'd actually locked them in fartproof bags for 30 minutes and they'd barely done anything back, and were trying to figure out what could possibly have happened that could drive them to Terrible Violence when we realized that J was cackling like a witch that had learned how to order children off of ebay.

so we politely asked J what the hell he had done, and he politely explained that had "done" their watermelon, and we politely beat him with large sticks because life is nothing but endless cycles of violence.

we were still being chased by the other camp btw. so it was them, chasing us, chasing J, and then they got tired and went back to their camp, and we chased J a little longer because we were mad we'd all been walloped with sticks, and J did not care because he was a supernatural entity whose only weaknesses were Needles and Fire, and then we got tired and went back and J kept running, and we just kind of figured he would come back eventually.

he did not.

we went back to our tents, and we waited, and J did not come back. we stayed up all night, peering into the forest, worrying. our leader came back, and we did our best to hide our battlewounds, and he either genuinely did not notice or simply accepted this as part of Boyhood. then he went to bed, and we waited, and waited, and waited. And Waited. and did not sleep.

eventually, we convened again, and we agreed that if J was not back by after breakfast, we would have to tell the scoutleader about what exactly had transpired. and we really did not want to do that, because it would have meant that everyone would have gotten in a very large amount of trouble.

morning came around, and J still was not back. we went to breakfast, and we ate very, very slowly. we were afraid the other camp was going to continue their war with us, but they actually looked fairly frightened. one of them actually came to us and asked for a truce, and we agreed because we truly felt bad for them. like, yes, they did beat us with sticks, but J fucked their watermelon. we werent complicit in the watermelonfuckening but they didnt know that, and it was definitely the kind of crime that left one outside the bounds of the social contract.

and then when we could eat no more bits, when breakfast was almost done, right when i was getting pushed to go and tell the scoutleader that we needed to find J, he arrived. he was sleep deprived, and noticeably scraped and bloody, and tied to his belt was a blood squirrel tail.

and i asked him, J, where did you get that? and he said, don't worry man, it was already dead, which did not answer by question and gave me several more.

the camp ended that day, and the other groups avoided us like the plague, and it was not until some weeks later that we were able to piece together what happened.

J, in his sojourn through the forest, managed to find (or, possibly, make) a dead squirrel. he then cut off the tail to keep on his belt, because he was a weird little freak like that. he also took the dead squirrel, and he skinned it, then he tied it to a little crucifix made of wood, and he left it in the other scouting group's camp. which is why they were so scared of us.

it was such an unhinged thing to do it actually sobered us up for a while. scouting became a scary thing for us. we'd found something dark and primal there, in the place where no adult could see, and our appreciation of J as a wild ride kind of changed into seeing him as something truly dangerous. we had a sense wherever he went, something terrible would follow, and the only way to escape it was to not be there when it arrived. and so piece by piece, the scout group dissolved. it wasnt until he moved out of that ward that the rest of us started daring to go back to scouts.

and for the final epilogue of the tale:

i have a little brother who was friends with a younger cousin of J's, and the two would go to parties together in highschool. and sometimes J, who was in his early 20's at that point, would show up at the parties, and it was unsettling in such a way that it just became a known risk at parties with the cousin. and at one party, they were playing truth or dare, and J wasn't even in the room, but someone asked him the Truth of how he always knew how to find the cousin, and J said the cousin's mom had mentioned she was worried about him and the parties so he'd put a tracker in his car. and when he saw that the cousin was out of the house on weekends, he'd made a visit by, just to make sure he was safe.

then he left. and every single person at that party went over that poor kid's car. they searched the wheel-wells, checked underneath it, the works, until they found the tracker. then because they were clever, they didnt break it, or throw it away, or anything that would've given away what they'd done. they just gave the tracker to the cousin, who put it in his glovebox. and on schooldays, he'd take it with him, so J could see him in the parking lot. and on weekends, he could leave it in the garage, so he could go to parties with out Hell coming with him. because everyone that met J - every single person - knew that the only way to be safe from him was to be far, far away.

[tossawary]

One piece of acting advice that has stayed with me for years in regards to both writing and drawing as well is: "Don't use the body to act what the character is saying. Act what the character is THINKING."

Like, as a very, very basic example: a character is apologizing by saying, "I'm sorry." But that line is going to look and sound different depending on what the character is thinking. Crossed arms and a sullen tone can mean that a character is actually thinking: "I don't mean it and also I hate you." A pleading tone and reaching out to take the other character's arm can mean: "Please don't leave me." A tired voice and slumped shoulders within context could mean: "I did what I had to do."

This is one way to begin to do "Show, Don't Tell" in storytelling. It is trusting your audience to see the depth and to catch on to the things you leave unsaid. It's fun to let the audience be observant and clever. It is also reflective of real life, where people are often scared of being vulnerable, or don't necessarily even understand their own emotions, or can't articulate their own thoughts, or have difficulty identifying the true feelings of the people around them, and so don't say very much.

There are exceptions to this advice, of course. In writing especially, rather than in a visual medium, some POV characters are very good at reading emotions from body language and others are not, and their observations in the narration may reflect this skill. Some characters will assume everyone around them is always angry with them or simply not pay attention to other people's moods at all, personalities which can also be subtly communicated to the audience and later used in the story in some interesting way.

Some characters have excellent control over their body language and tone of voice, because they are on-guard, highly trained in some fashion, or a very good liar. They will not easily communicate their true thoughts through their body language or their actions. Their lie can be so good that it can be slipped past the audience as nothing important to the plot until it comes back to bite. Their oddly perfect control over their body in a tense situation can instead maybe be used to indicate to the POV character and/or the audience: "Oh, there's something up with this person."

Body language will also change by culture and class and disability and so on. This clash can cause communication problems between characters, as a character's affectionate pat on the shoulder of another might be intended as casual comfort, but be received as overly intimate condescension. Different cultures / people can even have very different opinions on what level of eye contact and overlapping speech is rude.

This advice was originally given to me in the context of illustration and animation, in which it is very common for inexperienced artists to act out the words that the character is saying in mime-like gesture. In media for young children, we might choose to keep things very simple, as toddlers struggle to learn what it looks like and feels like to be angry or happy. But past that? People don't really behave this way. What we say and what we really mean are not always synchronized, and we can use the body to communicate this.

[sensualnoiree]

1st House: The Helm This is where your spiritual energy and identity take the spotlight. The 1st House governs your appearance, personality, and vitality—the essence of how you project yourself to the world. It’s your steez, your approach to life, and the first impression you make on others. The 1st House is all about beginnings, the mask you may unknowingly wear, and how you come to know yourself on a deep authentic level. The captain of this ship is the ruling planet of the zodiac sign residing there.

2nd House: Gate of Hades Your values, self-esteem, and ability to attract wealth are all tied to the 2nd House. This is where your personal resources, possessions, and financial matters come into play. The foods you eat, your saving and spending habits, and your sense of self-worth are all part of this house. It’s where your style and material wealth are rooted, reflecting how you value yourself and what you own. This house represents how you sustain for yourself, how you support all that the first house needs of you to be who you are.

3rd House: Goddess The 3rd House is the domain of communication, early education, and the mind. It governs how you gather and process information, your intellect, and your interactions within your community. This house also encompasses your relationships with siblings, short travels, and technical skills. It’s the space where your to-do list and daily mental activities take shape.

4th House: Subterranean Deeply connected to your roots, the 4th House represents your home, heritage, and ancestry. It’s where your inner life and sense of security are nurtured, influenced by your upbringing and relationship with your parents—especially the mother. This house also relates to land, generational gifts, and knowledge passed down through the family. It’s a space of femininity and the feminine energies in your life. This is the lowest point of the birth chart and can be fairly private and personal-as opposed to the 10th house. It holds up the rest of the chart and is incredibly important in terms of learning about our sense of security/stability emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

5th House: Good Fortune Joy, creativity, and self-expression flourish in the 5th House. This is where you experience the pleasures of life—love affairs, children, art, and entertainment. It’s the house of flirtation, play, and drama, where your passions come to life. The 5th House also governs leisure activities, fertility, and the pursuit of happiness through creative endeavors. A sense of nostalgia lives here too.

6th House: Bad Fortune The 6th House deals with work, health, and daily routines. It’s the space of labor, servitude, and the duties that never seem to end. This house also governs how you care for your body, deal with illness and injury, and interact with employees or pets. It’s where the unexpected challenges in life arise, requiring your attention and resilience. Look here for understanding on what great works you may find yourself committing to.

7th House: Setting Place Relationships take center stage in the 7th House. This is where you finally begin to truly engage with others, forming long-term commitments, whether in marriage, partnerships, or friendships. It’s the house of open enemies, where you face the other in life. The 7th House also governs relaxation, romance, and the deep bonds that define your connections with others.

8th House: The Idle Place Death, transformation, and shared resources are key themes in the 8th House. It’s where you confront karma, contracts, and generational lessons. This house also deals with loans, debts, and the deep psyche—the mysteries and fears that lie beneath the surface. The 8th House is a place of soul material, where you explore the unseen and the unknown. Here, you face all consequences-positive & negative- of the 7th house and the relationships, contracts, and potential enemies made there. This is the house of others esteem of you, opposite of the 2nd.

9th House: House of God The 9th House is your portal to higher knowledge, philosophy, and spiritual exploration. It governs your worldview, ethics, and the pursuit of truth through study, travel, and discovery. This house is where you connect with religion, spirituality, and the higher mind, expanding your understanding of the world and your place in it.

10th House: House of Praxis Your public life, reputation, and career are shaped by the 10th House. It’s where you strive for honor, recognition, and achievements that define your legacy. This house also relates to your relationships with authority figures, particularly the father, and how you navigate the public sphere. The 10th House is where your goals, fame, and business acumen are realized. Sitting at the very top of the chart, like the sun at noon high in the sky, all can see you here.

11th House: Good Spirits In the 11th House, your hopes, dreams, and social networks come to life. This house governs your friendships, group affiliations, and the communities you belong to. It’s where you connect with humanity, receive sudden blessings, and find support in your aspirations. The 11th House is also associated with gifts, riches, and the imagination needed to dream big.

12th House: Bad Spirits The 12th House is a place of retreat, isolation, and self-undoing. It’s where you confront your inner shadows, secrets, and hidden enemies. This house governs institutions, mental health, and the need for solitude or seclusion. It’s also a space of psychological development, where you deal with endings, sickness, and the unseen forces that shape your life journey. This house is in a blind spot to the first house of Self and that is why we can be blind to the very things that reside here. Its not so much that these things seek out to destroy you but any area of your life your are deeply unaware of can come back and disorientate you from who you believe yourself to be.

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[renthony]

It's darkly amusing to me that some people thought my mom didn't "discipline" me enough as a kid, were not shy about making sure both she AND I knew it, and now as an adult I'm one of the only people in my friend group who still wants anything to do with their parents. The proof is in the pudding, as they say.

When I was a kid, I broke a ceramic soap dispenser. I burst into tears and was terrified that I was going to be in trouble. My mom told me that it was okay, because accidents happen sometimes, and the important thing was that I didn't do it on purpose and apologized.

When someone else I know was a kid, they broke a dish on accident and got screamed at and guilt tripped. To this day, they have to push down a panic attack at the sound of broken glass, and have had to actively work on healing from that trauma. They will always have to carry that.

I think maybe it's not MY mom who fucked up in the "how to discipline your child" department. Quite frankly, I think the idea of "disciplining children" is fucked up and deeply harmful on a fundamental level.

When a kid does something wrong, you have to teach them how to fix it and do better. Humans are messy and complicated and we don't know everything there is to know just by being born. Children are learning how to be human beings, and that's a really hard thing to learn.

Kids question and fight back against authority that mistreats them, but someone treating them like a human being with human emotions is usually going to have a lot of success. Kids just want to be respected, and it's our job as adults to give them that basic human dignity. The world is utterly terrifying, and made scarier when all the grown-ups seem to hate you and wish you would just shut up and go away, even the ones that claim they want you around.

Kids can be mean, because they're still learning how to socialize and communicate and collaborate. Sometimes you have to give them time to cool off, and sometimes you have to redirect them. Sometimes you have to be firm. Sometimes you have to be an adult, and hone your conflict de-escalation and resolution skills. None of that requires punishment.

And if a child does something truly cruel and fucked up and shitty, and it hurts someone in a big way? My first question isn't "what should their punishment be," my first question is always, "who taught this kid that, and is this child in active danger from them?"

[esotericalchemist]

𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐫 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 - 𝐃𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐫 ✧˖°.

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In Vedic astrology, the ruler of the 10th house plays a crucial role in shaping your career, professional success, and public image. While the 10th house governs your aspirations, ambitions, and how you are perceived in your career, the planet ruling that house provides deeper insights into how you achieve your goals and the nature of your profession. The placement of the 10th house ruler in the chart adds another layer, indicating where your career energies are focused and what kind of opportunities or challenges you may face. Understanding the 10th house ruler helps reveal the path toward success, showing how your personal strengths, ambitions, and the planetary influences converge to shape your professional life.

𝐀𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐂𝐚𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐧 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Capricorn in the 10th house, your career is shaped by Saturn, the ruler of Capricorn. This placement makes you ambitious, disciplined, and focused on long-term success. You approach your career with seriousness and dedication, determined to reach the top through hard work and perseverance. While your progress may be slow, Saturn's influence ensures that the achievements you build are solid and lasting. Challenges in your career will teach you valuable lessons in patience and resilience, and over time, you’re likely to gain recognition for your reliability, responsibility, and leadership skills. You thrive in structured environments that require organization and long-term planning.

Saturn through the Houses:

Saturn in the 1st House: Your career is a core part of your identity. You feel a strong sense of responsibility and work hard to establish a solid reputation, often taking on leadership roles.

Saturn in the 2nd House: Financial security is important to you, and you take a careful, steady approach to building wealth. You might work in fields related to finance, banking, or resource management.

Saturn in the 3rd House: Communication, writing, or teaching could be key elements of your career. You have a disciplined approach to learning and sharing knowledge, making you a natural teacher or writer.

Saturn in the 4th House: Your career could be linked to real estate, land, or home-related industries. Balancing work and family life may be a central theme in your professional journey.

Saturn in the 5th House: You may face challenges in expressing your creativity or leadership, but you work hard to develop these skills. A career in education, working with children, or creative fields may suit you.

Saturn in the 6th House: You thrive in structured, service-oriented careers, such as law, administration, or health. You are diligent and take on responsibilities, often being the problem-solver in the workplace.

Saturn in the 7th House: Partnerships play an important role in your career, whether through law, consulting, or other collaborative fields. Professional relationships may take time to grow but are key to your success.

Saturn in the 8th House: You may find yourself in careers involving finance, research, or transformation, such as investigative work. Success may come after overcoming significant challenges, particularly in shared resources.

Saturn in the 9th House: Higher education, law, or philosophy may shape your career. You are dedicated to learning and could work in fields like teaching, publishing, or travel, where your discipline helps you excel.

Saturn in the 10th House: You are highly driven in your career, and leadership roles are likely in your future. While it may take time, your hard work will lead to success and authority in your professional life.

Saturn in the 11th House: You may work in large organizations, social causes, or network-focused careers. You value long-term connections and are likely to achieve success through teamwork and collaboration.

Saturn in the 12th House: Careers in spirituality, healing, or behind-the-scenes work may appeal to you. You’re disciplined in solitude and may find fulfillment in helping others, possibly in hospitals, research, or working abroad.

𝐓𝐚𝐮𝐫𝐮𝐬 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐀𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐮𝐬 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Aquarius in the 10th house, your career is driven by a desire for innovation, progress, and making a collective impact. Ruled by Saturn, Aquarius gives you the determination to challenge norms while maintaining discipline and long-term focus. You seek careers that allow you to express individuality and contribute to societal advancement, often in fields like technology, social change, or science. You thrive in roles that let you introduce fresh, forward-thinking ideas and revolutionize outdated systems. Saturn’s influence ensures that, despite your progressive mindset, you approach your career strategically, building success over time. Your blend of vision and discipline enables you to leave a lasting mark in your field.

Saturn through the Houses:

Saturn in the 1st House: Your career is closely tied to your identity, and you're seen as a responsible, visionary leader. You may work in fields that promote innovation or social reform, with a strong sense of independence in carving your own path.

Saturn in the 2nd House: Your career may involve managing finances or resources with a progressive mindset, possibly in technology or sustainability. You approach wealth-building cautiously, with an eye on long-term stability and community-focused projects.

Saturn in the 3rd House: Communication, technology, and intellectual exchange are central to your career. You may work in areas such as digital media, education, or tech startups, where your forward-thinking ideas can thrive. Your disciplined approach helps you stay ahead of trends.

Saturn in the 4th House: Your career could involve real estate, social housing, or projects aimed at improving community living standards. You may be drawn to futuristic housing concepts, urban planning, or ecological development, creating new models for sustainable living.

Saturn in the 5th House: Your creativity is structured, and you may work in innovative fields such as technology, entertainment, or education reform. You bring discipline to creative projects, working on long-term goals that push boundaries in media, teaching, or speculative industries.

Saturn in the 6th House: Your career may involve service, health tech, or innovative ways of improving work environments and systems. You thrive in positions where you can modernize old systems and improve efficiency, bringing a visionary approach to everyday problem-solving.

Saturn in the 7th House: Partnerships are crucial to your career, and you may work in law, consulting, or tech industries. Your professional relationships will likely take time to develop, but they will be built on mutual respect and a shared vision for the future.

Saturn in the 8th House: You could be involved in research, finance, technology related to transformation (like AI or biotechnology), or areas dealing with the hidden or taboo. Success may come after overcoming significant obstacles in deeply transformative fields.

Saturn in the 9th House: Higher education, technology, or international work may define your career. You may find success in spreading progressive ideas, possibly in academia, publishing, or humanitarian work, with a focus on future-oriented reforms.

Saturn in the 10th House: Your career is focused on innovative fields like technology, social reform, or large organizations that influence societal structures. You work towards leadership roles, contributing to systems that will benefit humanity over the long term.

Saturn in the 11th House: Your career involves large organizations, social causes, or the tech industry. You work well in teams and networks, building lasting professional connections. Your long-term vision aligns with solving global issues like inequality or environmental challenges.

Saturn in the 12th House: You may work in isolated or behind-the-scenes roles, such as research, technology development, or humanitarian work in foreign lands. Your career may focus on spirituality, healing, or hidden aspects of society, with a focus on advancing collective progress through quiet, yet impactful, contributions.

𝐆𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐏𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Pisces in the 10th house, your career is influenced by the expansive, philosophical energy of Jupiter, Pisces' traditional ruler. Pisces in the 10th house brings a fluid, creative, and intuitive approach to your professional life, guiding you toward fields that allow for compassion, creativity, and emotional expression. You may be drawn to careers in art, music, spirituality, healing, or social services. With Pisces, your career path is likely to be non-linear, seeking fulfillment through helping others and tapping into your emotional and spiritual sides. Jupiter's influence encourages growth through wisdom and knowledge, but you may need to guard against idealism or a lack of focus.

Jupiter through the Houses:

Jupiter in the 1st House: Your career is closely tied to your identity, with a focus on guiding or teaching others. You may work in fields like coaching, teaching, or spiritual guidance, where your expansive nature shines.

Jupiter in the 2nd House: Wealth management or creative fields such as art or media may define your career. You seek financial security through emotionally fulfilling work.

Jupiter in the 3rd House: Careers in communication, education, or media are highlighted. You may excel in writing, teaching, or creative expression that inspires others.

Jupiter in the 4th House: Your career could involve home, real estate, or nurturing roles, such as counseling, social work, or helping others find emotional security.

Jupiter in the 5th House: Creativity, teaching, or working with children may define your path. You are drawn to self-expression and growth, particularly through the arts or education.

Jupiter in the 6th House: Service-oriented careers, especially in health or healing, are key. You bring a compassionate touch to work in holistic medicine, counseling, or social services.

Jupiter in the 7th House: Partnerships are central to your career. You may thrive in law, diplomacy, or client-oriented professions, finding success through collaboration.

Jupiter in the 8th House: Careers in finance, psychology, or deep emotional work are appealing. You may excel in fields involving transformation, research, or healing.

Jupiter in the 9th House: Travel, education, or spiritual work may define your career. You are a natural teacher or guide, and your work might involve spreading wisdom across cultures.

Jupiter in the 10th House: Your career focuses on helping others and contributing to the greater good. Fields like teaching, philosophy, or creative arts align with your ideals and values.

Jupiter in the 11th House: Your career involves working with groups or organizations focused on social causes. You may find success in humanitarian work or fields that positively impact society.

Jupiter in the 12th House: You may work behind the scenes in healing, research, or spiritual professions, drawn to deep emotional or psychological exploration in fields like hospitals or institutions.

𝐂𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐫 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐀𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Aries in the 10th house, your career is fueled by the assertive and bold energy of Mars, Aries' ruling planet. This placement makes you naturally ambitious, courageous, and eager to take action in your professional life. You’re driven to lead, often preferring positions where you can make independent decisions and move quickly. You're not one to shy away from challenges and thrive in roles that allow you to assert your authority and pursue your goals with determination. Mars gives your career a pioneering spirit, helping you excel in fast-paced environments where quick thinking is essential. However, learning to manage impulsiveness is key to achieving lasting, long-term success.

Mars through the Houses:

Mars in the 1st House: Your career is a reflection of who you are, and you tackle it with confidence and drive. Leadership roles come naturally to you, and you thrive in competitive, high-energy fields where you can take charge.

Mars in the 2nd House: You may find yourself working in finance, resource management, or building material wealth, approaching these areas with assertiveness. You're focused on achieving financial security, often through bold business ventures or entrepreneurial paths.

Mars in the 3rd House: Careers in communication, tech, or marketing may appeal to you. You bring energy and confidence to your work, excelling in roles that require quick thinking, writing, or public speaking.

Mars in the 4th House: Your career could be connected to real estate, construction, or home-related fields. You approach your work with vigor, though balancing your personal and professional life may present challenges.

Mars in the 5th House: Creative pursuits, sports, or speculative ventures may shape your career. You bring passion and a bold energy to leadership, teaching, or entertainment roles.

Mars in the 6th House: You may work in service, health, or roles that require solving problems and resolving conflicts. You excel in demanding positions, thriving on hard work and resilience.

Mars in the 7th House: Partnerships are vital to your career success, though they may be competitive or dynamic. Roles in law, negotiation, or client services suit you, where boldness and directness are assets.

Mars in the 8th House: Careers in finance, research, or transformative fields like psychology or crisis management appeal to you. You bring intensity and thrive in high-stakes environments.

Mars in the 9th House: Your career could involve travel, education, or law, with an emphasis on exploring new ideas. You're passionate about expanding horizons, for both yourself and others.

Mars in the 10th House: Leadership comes easily to you, and you're highly focused on your career. Assertiveness and independence help you rise to the top through determination and a proactive mindset.

Mars in the 11th House: Your career may revolve around social causes, working with groups, or innovative fields like technology. You're driven to create change on a broad scale, bringing energy and passion to collaborative projects.

Mars in the 12th House: You may find fulfillment in behind-the-scenes or isolated roles, such as in hospitals, prisons, or research. You're drawn to careers that require strategic thinking and inner strength, often in healing or spiritual work.

𝐋𝐞𝐨 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐓𝐚𝐮𝐫𝐮𝐬 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Taurus in the 10th house, your career is guided by Venus, the ruler of Taurus, bringing a focus on stability, beauty, and financial security. You are naturally drawn to professions that offer consistency and allow you to build something long-lasting rather than chasing short-term success. With Taurus in the 10th house, you're inclined toward careers in art, design, real estate, finance, or any field that provides material comfort and aesthetic satisfaction. Venus’ influence gives you a polished and graceful professional image, making you appear charming and diplomatic in the workplace, which helps you navigate your career with ease. Your Leo rising adds leadership qualities, and combined with Venus' refinement, you’re suited for roles of authority in creative or luxury-related fields.

Venus through the Houses:

Venus in the 1st House: Your charm and elegance strongly contribute to your professional success. You come across as a natural leader with a refined presence, excelling in careers that showcase beauty, creativity, or harmony.

Venus in the 2nd House: You may work in finance, banking, or industries focused on material wealth. You have a natural talent for accumulating resources and thrive in fields that provide financial stability.

Venus in the 3rd House: Your career could revolve around communication, writing, or media. You might work in advertising, marketing, or teaching, where your creativity and diplomacy are key strengths.

Venus in the 4th House: Real estate, interior design, or careers related to home and comfort may be your path. You have a talent for creating harmonious spaces and excel in fields that enhance living environments.

Venus in the 5th House: Creative pursuits, entertainment, or education could define your career. You are passionate about self-expression and may find success in the arts, theater, or roles involving children.

Venus in the 6th House: You may work in service, wellness, or healthcare, focusing on improving others’ quality of life. You bring a peaceful approach to the workplace, excelling in roles that involve helping others.

Venus in the 7th House: Partnerships play a crucial role in your career success. You may work in law, counseling, or client-oriented professions, where negotiation and diplomacy are essential.

Venus in the 8th House: Careers involving finance, shared resources, or transformation appeal to you. You may excel in managing other people’s money or working in fields like psychology or counseling.

Venus in the 9th House: Higher education, travel, or law could play a significant role in your career. You may succeed in areas that involve cultural exchange, teaching, or spreading knowledge with diplomacy.

Venus in the 10th House: Your career revolves around creating beauty and harmony. You are likely drawn to design, art, or luxury-related fields, focusing on stability and material success.

Venus in the 11th House: You may work with groups, social causes, or in the arts. Collaborative environments that value creativity suit you, and you enjoy social recognition for your contributions.

Venus in the 12th House: You may be drawn to careers in spirituality, healing, or behind-the-scenes work. You find fulfillment in helping others, potentially through art therapy, retreat centers, or charitable organizations.

𝐕𝐢𝐫𝐠𝐨 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐆𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Gemini in the 10th house, your career is shaped by Mercury, the ruler of both Gemini and Virgo. Gemini in the 10th house brings adaptability, communication skills, and intellectual curiosity to your professional life. You are drawn to roles that require versatility, such as writing, teaching, marketing, or any field where communication is key. With Mercury as your 10th house ruler, you excel in processing and sharing information, networking, and working in dynamic environments that challenge your mind. Your career path is likely to involve change, travel, or multitasking, as you enjoy variety and mental stimulation in your work.

Mercury through the Houses:

Mercury in the 1st House: Your career is closely tied to your personal identity, and you are seen as articulate and quick-thinking. You may thrive in roles that involve public speaking, writing, or any profession that lets you express your intellect.

Mercury in the 2nd House: Your career may focus on finance, resource management, or sales. You have a talent for handling money and may work in fields that involve communication, such as negotiations or teaching.

Mercury in the 3rd House: Media, technology, or communication are central to your career. You excel in multitasking roles like journalism, marketing, or PR, where your ability to convey information clearly is essential.

Mercury in the 4th House: Your career may involve real estate, education, or working from home. You use your intellect to create a secure and stable professional environment.

Mercury in the 5th House: Creative fields like writing, teaching, or entertainment could define your career. You are skilled at expressing ideas, especially in roles involving children, content creation, or education.

Mercury in the 6th House: Your career may involve health, service, or administrative work. You bring a practical and organized approach to your job, excelling in professions that require detailed communication and problem-solving.

Mercury in the 7th House: Partnerships are crucial to your career, and you may work in law, consulting, or client-based roles where negotiation and communication are key.

Mercury in the 8th House: Your career may involve finance, research, or uncovering hidden truths. You’re drawn to roles in psychology, investigative journalism, or finance, where deep analysis is required.

Mercury in the 9th House: Higher education, travel, or teaching may define your career. You enjoy sharing knowledge, and you may work in academia, publishing, or international fields.

Mercury in the 10th House: Communication is key to your career success. You likely work in fields like media, business, or teaching, using your intellectual abilities to influence and inform others.

Mercury in the 11th House: Your career involves working with groups, social causes, or technology. You thrive in collaborative environments and may work in innovation, community outreach, or tech-driven fields.

Mercury in the 12th House: You may work behind the scenes in research, healing, or spiritual fields. You are drawn to introspective roles that require deep understanding and investigation.

𝐋𝐢𝐛𝐫𝐚 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐂𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐫 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Cancer in the 10th house, your career is guided by the nurturing and emotional energy of the Moon, Cancer’s ruler. Cancer in the 10th house makes you empathetic and focused on providing emotional support and security in your professional life. You're drawn to roles where caring for others or creating a supportive environment is key. Fields like healthcare, hospitality, education, social work, or real estate may appeal to you. The Moon’s influence adds sensitivity and adaptability to your career path, meaning your professional choices may fluctuate depending on your emotional state or personal life needs. In your career, you are often known for your ability to connect with others on a deep emotional level, offering compassion and understanding in your work.

Moon through the Houses:

Moon in the 1st House: Your career plays a major role in your identity, and you’re seen as nurturing and empathetic. You gravitate toward leadership roles in fields like healthcare, counseling, or education, where caring for others is essential.

Moon in the 2nd House: Your career may involve managing resources that provide emotional security, such as finances, food, or hospitality. You’re likely drawn to roles that offer comfort and care, like banking or hotel management.

Moon in the 3rd House: Communication and community are central to your career. Writing, teaching, or media work are likely, allowing you to express emotional insight and connect with others through your words.

Moon in the 4th House: Careers related to homes, families, or real estate are likely. You might work in home design or real estate, focusing on creating emotional security and comfort for others.

Moon in the 5th House: Teaching, creative fields, or working with children could define your career. You enjoy nurturing others’ growth and could find success in art, education, or children’s services.

Moon in the 6th House: Service-oriented careers, especially in health or caregiving, appeal to you. You thrive in roles where you can help others, such as nursing, social work, or holistic health, bringing emotional insight to problem-solving.

Moon in the 7th House: Partnerships are key to your career success. You may work in counseling, consulting, or any field requiring strong one-on-one relationships, where your emotional sensitivity builds supportive connections.

Moon in the 8th House: Your career might involve finance, psychology, or transformative work. You’re drawn to deep emotional work like therapy or crisis management, helping others through transitions or managing shared resources.

Moon in the 9th House: Higher education, travel, or spiritual work could define your career. Teaching, publishing, or work involving exploration and emotional growth may provide fulfillment.

Moon in the 10th House: You're known for your caring, compassionate nature in your career, excelling in roles such as healthcare, education, or social services. Emotional intelligence and connection are key to your professional success.

Moon in the 11th House: Your career may involve working with groups, social causes, or community organizations. Collaborative environments where you can support others emotionally and contribute to social well-being suit you well.

Moon in the 12th House: You may be drawn to careers in healing, spirituality, or working in isolated environments like hospitals. Your emotional depth helps you assist others through challenging situations, often behind the scenes.

𝐒𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐩𝐢𝐨 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐋𝐞𝐨 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Leo in the 10th house, your career path is guided by the bold and radiant energy of the Sun, which rules Leo. Having Leo in the 10th house makes you ambitious, confident, and determined to gain recognition and authority in your profession. You naturally seek to stand out and gravitate towards leadership roles where you can shine and motivate those around you. With the Sun governing your 10th house, you're driven to create a reputation rooted in personal integrity, creativity, and influence. You’ll likely be drawn to careers in management, politics, entertainment, or any field that allows you to showcase your individuality and gain public attention. Your success lies in embracing your strength, leadership qualities, and desire to make a lasting impact in your field.

Sun through the Houses:

Sun in the 1st House: Your career is deeply tied to your identity, and you naturally take on leadership roles. You project confidence and authority, making you a natural in professions where your personal presence leaves a strong impression.

Sun in the 2nd House: You might pursue careers in finance, luxury goods, or fields that involve wealth and status. Building financial security is important to you, and you take pride in positions that enhance your public image and bring material success.

Sun in the 3rd House: Communication, media, or education plays a key role in your career. You excel in positions where you can share ideas, inspire others, and creatively express yourself through writing, teaching, or public speaking.

Sun in the 4th House: Your career could be related to real estate, family businesses, or work that focuses on the home and community. You take pride in building a solid foundation and may find success in areas tied to property or caregiving.

Sun in the 5th House: Creative fields, entertainment, or leadership in educational initiatives might shape your career. You thrive in roles where you can express your creativity and assume leadership, and you may be drawn to work involving children or artistic ventures.

Sun in the 6th House: Your career may revolve around service, health, or administrative duties. You’re skilled at managing teams and improving work environments, and you take pride in contributing to the well-being of others.

Sun in the 7th House: Partnerships are key to your career success. You might work in law, counseling, or client-based services, excelling in roles that require collaboration and negotiation, where your leadership skills and ability to inspire shine.

Sun in the 8th House: Your career may involve finance, psychology, or fields related to transformation and shared resources. You’re drawn to deep, transformative work, helping others through significant transitions or exploring hidden aspects of life.

Sun in the 9th House: Higher education, travel, or philosophical pursuits may define your career. You’re driven to share knowledge and inspire others through teaching, publishing, or roles that broaden perspectives and encourage personal growth.

Sun in the 10th House: Your career and reputation are central to your focus, and you’re naturally inclined toward leadership. Recognition and success come easily to you as you rise to the top of your field through your confidence, determination, and ability to motivate others.

Sun in the 11th House: Your career could involve working with large organizations, social networks, or groups working toward shared goals. You excel in collaborative environments, leading teams toward a common vision for the future.

Sun in the 12th House: You may be drawn to careers involving spirituality, healing, or behind-the-scenes work. Your success comes through helping others in quiet, meaningful ways, often through introspective or spiritual practices.

𝐒𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐮𝐬 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐕𝐢𝐫𝐠𝐨 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Virgo in the 10th house, your career is shaped by the practical and analytical nature of Mercury, Virgo's ruler. Virgo in the 10th house makes you detail-focused, precise, and committed to excellence in your professional life. You are naturally drawn to careers that emphasize organization, problem-solving, and intellectual engagement, which could include fields like healthcare, research, education, writing, or administration. With Mercury guiding your 10th house, you bring a methodical and logical mindset to your work, excelling in roles that require clear communication, sharp analysis, and the ability to juggle multiple tasks. Adaptable and always striving for improvement, you're consistently seeking to refine your skills and streamline processes in your career.

Mercury through the Houses:

Mercury in the 1st House: Your career is tied to your personal identity, and you're known for your intellectual and communicative abilities. You thrive in roles requiring quick thinking, adaptability, and effective communication.

Mercury in the 2nd House: Your career may involve finance, resource management, or business. Your talent for managing money and your analytical mindset help you excel in creating financial security and stability.

Mercury in the 3rd House: Careers in communication, teaching, or media are likely. You're drawn to roles involving sharing information, public speaking, or intellectual exchange, where you can express your ideas and knowledge.

Mercury in the 4th House: Your career could involve real estate, property management, or home-based work. You approach family business or nurturing environments with organization and analysis.

Mercury in the 5th House: You combine creativity and intellect in your career, possibly through teaching, entertainment, or creative writing. You succeed in roles that allow you to express yourself while using your mind.

Mercury in the 6th House: Your career may focus on healthcare, service, or administrative roles. You're diligent, organized, and excel in jobs that require problem-solving and communication in practical environments.

Mercury in the 7th House: Partnerships play a key role in your career, and you may work in law, consulting, or client relations. Your communication skills help you succeed in negotiation and collaboration.

Mercury in the 8th House: You may pursue careers in finance, research, or fields dealing with transformation and complex information. Your analytical nature suits roles involving shared resources, psychology, or deep investigations.

Mercury in the 9th House: Higher education, travel, or publishing could define your career. You're intellectually curious and thrive in roles that allow you to explore and share knowledge, particularly through teaching or writing.

Mercury in the 10th House: Communication and intellectual pursuits are central to your career. You may work in teaching, writing, research, or business, where managing and conveying information is crucial to your success.

Mercury in the 11th House: Your career might involve working with groups, networks, or technology. You excel in collaborative settings, creating innovative ideas and solutions that benefit a collective or community.

Mercury in the 12th House: You may be drawn to careers behind the scenes or in areas like research, spirituality, or healing. You excel in introspective roles requiring a deep understanding of the unseen or spiritual aspects of life.

𝐂𝐚𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐧 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐋𝐢𝐛𝐫𝐚 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Libra in the 10th house, your career is shaped by the harmonious and balanced energy of Venus, Libra's ruler. Libra in the 10th house draws you toward professions that emphasize diplomacy, aesthetics, partnerships, or justice. You value balance and harmony in your professional life and are likely to excel in roles requiring negotiation, creativity, or building strong relationships. With Venus ruling your 10th house, careers in law, design, the arts, diplomacy, or public relations may be especially appealing. You are known for your refined approach to your career, always striving to create beauty and fairness in your work. Success comes when you balance professional ambitions with a desire for collaboration and maintaining harmony in your work environment.

Venus through the Houses:

Venus in the 1st House: Personal charm and diplomacy are central to your career success. You are a natural leader, excelling in roles involving public speaking, leadership, or design, where you harmonize diverse perspectives.

Venus in the 2nd House: Your career may focus on finance, luxury goods, or industries connected to beauty and comfort. You are adept at building wealth and creating value, particularly in areas associated with material success.

Venus in the 3rd House: Communication, media, or writing plays a key role in your career. You bring creativity and diplomacy to your work, excelling in advertising, marketing, or teaching, where your charm and intellect are highly valued.

Venus in the 4th House: Your career could involve real estate, interior design, or family-related fields. You are skilled at creating harmonious environments and may find success in roles related to property or nurturing spaces.

Venus in the 5th House: Creative fields, entertainment, or speculative ventures may shape your career. You thrive in artistic roles and enjoy professions involving the arts, teaching, or anything that allows self-expression.

Venus in the 6th House: Your career may focus on service, wellness, or healthcare, where you bring balance and harmony to your work environment. You excel in roles that value teamwork and cooperation.

Venus in the 7th House: Partnerships are key to your career success. You are drawn to law, consulting, or client-focused roles, where your diplomacy and ability to build strong relationships are critical.

Venus in the 8th House: Your career may involve finance, psychology, or transformative fields. You are skilled at managing shared resources and thrive in careers related to finance, counseling, or crisis management with a calm, balanced approach.

Venus in the 9th House: Higher education, law, travel, or philosophy could define your career. You seek roles involving the spread of knowledge or the pursuit of fairness, finding fulfillment in teaching, publishing, or diplomacy.

Venus in the 10th House: Aesthetics, balance, and diplomacy shape your career. You may work in creative fields, law, or public relations, where maintaining harmony and bringing beauty to your professional life leads to success.

Venus in the 11th House: Your career may involve working with groups, social causes, or organizations aimed at improving fairness or beauty in society. You excel in collaborative settings and may find success in networking or social movements.

Venus in the 12th House: You may be drawn to careers in spirituality, healing, or behind-the-scenes roles. You find fulfillment in helping others, working in art therapy, charitable organizations, or introspective and compassionate roles.

𝐀𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐮𝐬 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐒𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐩𝐢𝐨 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Scorpio in the 10th house, your career is shaped by the intense and transformative energy of Mars, Scorpio's ruler. Scorpio in the 10th house makes you fiercely ambitious, driven, and deeply focused on achieving success. You’re drawn to professions that involve transformation, research, and control, excelling in areas like psychology, finance, investigation, or any field requiring depth and resilience. With Mars ruling your 10th house, you bring passion, determination, and a strategic mindset to your professional life. You often thrive in high-pressure environments, where your focus and resilience allow you to rise from challenges with renewed strength and a clear sense of purpose. Your career path may involve moments of profound growth and transformation, but you’re equipped to handle the intensity with grace and power.

Mars through the Houses:

Mars in the 1st House: You are highly ambitious and driven, often assuming leadership roles. Assertiveness and a strong personal presence define your career, and you are likely to forge your own path toward success.

Mars in the 2nd House: Your career may center on finance, resource management, or industries where material stability is key. You approach money with intensity, determined to build wealth through strategic action and perseverance.

Mars in the 3rd House: Communication, technology, or investigative work may be pivotal in your career. You are excellent at uncovering information and thrive in fast-paced fields requiring quick thinking and decisive action, such as journalism or research.

Mars in the 4th House: Your career could involve real estate, property management, or creating stability through transformation in home settings. You bring determination and strategy to fields related to domestic security or family businesses.

Mars in the 5th House: Creative fields, leadership in education, or speculative ventures may define your career. You are bold in pursuing self-expression and may take calculated risks to achieve success in artistic or entrepreneurial ventures.

Mars in the 6th House: Healthcare, service, or conflict resolution may define your career. You are driven to solve problems, excelling in demanding environments where your resilience and strategic thinking allow you to overcome challenges.

Mars in the 7th House: Partnerships and collaboration play a critical role in your career, though these relationships may be intense or competitive. You may work in law, consulting, or negotiation, excelling in high-stakes decision-making.

Mars in the 8th House: Finance, research, or transformative fields may be central to your career. You are drawn to managing resources, uncovering hidden truths, or helping others through crises, thriving in roles such as psychology or forensic science.

Mars in the 9th House: Higher education, law, or travel may shape your career. You’re driven to explore and push boundaries, finding success in fields like philosophy, international relations, or academic research.

Mars in the 10th House: Highly career-focused, you are likely to rise to leadership positions through determination and intensity. You thrive in competitive fields, excelling in areas like strategy, crisis management, or transformation.

Mars in the 11th House: Your career may involve working with large organizations, technology, or social reform. You’re driven to create wide-scale change and may find success in collaborative projects focused on innovation or social movements.

Mars in the 12th House: Careers in spirituality, healing, or working behind the scenes in research or psychology may attract you. Your success may come from helping others through crises in environments requiring emotional depth and discretion.

𝐏𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐒𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐮𝐬 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞

With Sagittarius in the 10th house, your career is shaped by the expansive and philosophical energy of Jupiter, the ruler of Sagittarius. Sagittarius in the 10th house makes you idealistic, purpose-driven, and eager to explore new horizons in your professional life. You are drawn to careers involving teaching, travel, spirituality, law, or higher education—anything that allows you to share knowledge and wisdom. With Jupiter as your 10th house ruler, you possess optimism and a broad vision for your career, often aiming for roles where you can make a meaningful impact. Your professional path is typically marked by growth through learning and sharing wisdom, and you are known for inspiring and leading with moral or philosophical direction.

Jupiter through the Houses:

Jupiter in the 1st House: Your career is closely connected to your identity. You are seen as a wise, expansive figure and likely to pursue leadership roles in teaching, spirituality, or counseling, guiding and inspiring others.

Jupiter in the 2nd House: Your career may involve finance, education, or managing resources tied to knowledge. You excel in fields like law or publishing, where moral values and a sense of justice are key to success.

Jupiter in the 3rd House: Communication, education, or media could be central to your career. You thrive in teaching, writing, or public speaking, using your intellectual curiosity and broad-minded approach to inspire others.

Jupiter in the 4th House: Your career may involve real estate, home-related industries, or family businesses. You aim to create emotional security through your work, perhaps in roles that nurture or support stability for others.

Jupiter in the 5th House: Creative fields, teaching, or working with children may define your career. You are passionate about self-expression and education, excelling in roles that allow you to inspire younger generations or pursue speculative ventures.

Jupiter in the 6th House: Your career may focus on service, healthcare, or wellness. You bring optimism and a broad outlook to work environments centered on helping others, finding success in professions that promote well-being.

Jupiter in the 7th House: Partnerships are crucial to your career success. You may work in law, consulting, or client-focused fields, where your sense of justice and wisdom enhances your effectiveness in negotiation or counseling.

Jupiter in the 8th House: Your career could involve finance, psychology, or transformative industries. You are drawn to work requiring deep emotional or intellectual insight, such as managing shared resources or guiding others through life transitions.

Jupiter in the 9th House: Higher education, travel, or philosophy may shape your career. You are driven to share knowledge on a global scale and may succeed in teaching, publishing, or law, spreading your ideals and vision widely.

Jupiter in the 10th House: Your career revolves around teaching, leading, or sharing wisdom. Fields such as education, law, or religion suit you well, where your ability to inspire and promote justice leads to career success.

Jupiter in the 11th House: Your career may involve working with groups, large organizations, or social causes. You are driven by the desire to improve the world, finding success in humanitarian work, community efforts, or technology-driven innovations.

Jupiter in the 12th House: You may be drawn to careers in spirituality, healing, or working in secluded environments like hospitals or retreat centers. Your path involves helping others with wisdom and compassion, often in quiet, behind-the-scenes roles.

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[itsthenerdwonder]

♪The wise man built his house upon the rock(x3) [fist on top of fist motion to beat]

And the rains came tumbling down. [rain motion]

The rains came down and the floods came up.(x3) [rain motion followed by rising hands]

And the house on the rock stood firm. [right fist on left one hit and stay on "firm"]

The foolish man built his house upon the sand(x3) [fist on top of fist to beat, smoothing motion out on "sand"]

And the rains came tumbling down. {rain motion]

The rains came down and the floods came up.(x3) [rain motion followed rising hands]

And the house on the sand went SPLAT!♪ [fists together at thumbs and quickly throw out hands, fingers spread on "splat"]

[gowns]

Why Kids Aren't Falling in Love With Reading - It's Not Just Screens

A shrinking number of kids are reading widely and voraciously for fun.

The ubiquity and allure of screens surely play a large part in this—most American children have smartphones by the age of 11—as does learning loss during the pandemic. But this isn’t the whole story. A survey just before the pandemic by the National Assessment of Educational Progress showed that the percentages of 9- and 13-year-olds who said they read daily for fun had dropped by double digits since 1984. I recently spoke with educators and librarians about this trend, and they gave many explanations, but one of the most compelling—and depressing—is rooted in how our education system teaches kids to relate to books.

What I remember most about reading in childhood was falling in love with characters and stories; I adored Judy Blume’s Margaret and Beverly Cleary’s Ralph S. Mouse. In New York, where I was in public elementary school in the early ’80s, we did have state assessments that tested reading level and comprehension, but the focus was on reading as many books as possible and engaging emotionally with them as a way to develop the requisite skills. Now the focus on reading analytically seems to be squashing that organic enjoyment. Critical reading is an important skill, especially for a generation bombarded with information, much of it unreliable or deceptive. But this hyperfocus on analysis comes at a steep price: The love of books and storytelling is being lost.

This disregard for story starts as early as elementary school. Take this requirement from the third-grade English-language-arts Common Core standard, used widely across the U.S.: “Determine the meaning of words and phrases as they are used in a text, distinguishing literal from nonliteral language.” There is a fun, easy way to introduce this concept: reading Peggy Parish’s classic, Amelia Bedelia, in which the eponymous maid follows commands such as “Draw the drapes when the sun comes in” by drawing a picture of the curtains. But here’s how one educator experienced in writing Common Core–aligned curricula proposes this be taught: First, teachers introduce the concepts of nonliteral and figurative language. Then, kids read a single paragraph from Amelia Bedelia and answer written questions.

For anyone who knows children, this is the opposite of engaging: The best way to present an abstract idea to kids is by hooking them on a story. “Nonliteral language” becomes a whole lot more interesting and comprehensible, especially to an 8-year-old, when they’ve gotten to laugh at Amelia’s antics first. The process of meeting a character and following them through a series of conflicts is the fun part of reading. Jumping into a paragraph in the middle of a book is about as appealing for most kids as cleaning their room.

But as several educators explained to me, the advent of accountability laws and policies, starting with No Child Left Behind in 2001, and accompanying high-stakes assessments based on standards, be they Common Core or similar state alternatives, has put enormous pressure on instructors to teach to these tests at the expense of best practices. Jennifer LaGarde, who has more than 20 years of experience as a public-school teacher and librarian, described how one such practice—the class read-aloud—invariably resulted in kids asking her for comparable titles. But read-alouds are now imperiled by the need to make sure that kids have mastered all the standards that await them in evaluation, an even more daunting task since the start of the pandemic. “There’s a whole generation of kids who associate reading with assessment now,” LaGarde said.

By middle school, not only is there even less time for activities such as class read-alouds, but instruction also continues to center heavily on passage analysis, said LaGarde, who taught that age group. A friend recently told me that her child’s middle-school teacher had introduced To Kill a Mockingbird to the class, explaining that they would read it over a number of months—and might not have time to finish it. “How can they not get to the end of To Kill a Mockingbird?” she wondered. I’m right there with her. You can’t teach kids to love reading if you don’t even prioritize making it to a book’s end. The reward comes from the emotional payoff of the story’s climax; kids miss out on this essential feeling if they don’t reach Atticus Finch’s powerful defense of Tom Robinson in the courtroom or never get to solve the mystery of Boo Radley.

... Young people should experience the intrinsic pleasure of taking a narrative journey, making an emotional connection with a character (including ones different from themselves), and wondering what will happen next—then finding out. This is the spell that reading casts. And, like with any magician’s trick, picking a story apart and learning how it’s done before you have experienced its wonder risks destroying the magic.

-- article by katherine marsh, the atlantic (12 foot link, no paywall)

[wilcze-kudly]

People will go on about how "Katara's story is a tragedy" because she... ended up marrying the guy she loves, having children and grandchildren which she was always excited about and literally becoming a master waterbender and rising to the top of her field as a healer.

Yes, Katara's story has tragic aspects to it. And there are certainly flaws in how she is written in tlok (Though I will argue that there are actually more issues with how Toph and Zuko are just plopped in there for no reason in later seasons). And her storylines aren't perfect, for example her resolving her trauma around the murder of her mother being more used to prop up Zuko than her own internal turmoil. (Most of TSR is from Zuko's perspective and I hate that actually)

"Katara's story is a tragedy" Why do you have such a hard on for this woman's misery? Let her be happy, man.

You know what gaang girlie's life is an actual onscreen tragedy?

Toph's!

People will fucking downplay Toph's childhood abuse because she wasn't physically hurt, but her childhood was a never ending carousel of abelism, misogyny, neglect and isolation. The way Toph describes her parent's treatment of her as "pressure and pain" is heartbreaking.

Toph's only escape was Earth Rumble and earthbending, but despite her skills, she remained the perfect little lady her parents always wanted her to be. She's never known a different life, and she was only able to be her real self in secret.

And when Toph finally opens up to her parents, when she finally lays her real self bare in front of the people who are supposed to love and care for her?

She is met with what may be, in my opinion, the cruellest rejection in the show.

Despite this, even when Toph runs away, she still cares for her parents' approval. Hell, she's even lured into a trap due to her getting a forged letter from her mom and getting excited because it looked like her mom was finally accepting her.

It's also important to note how determined to be self sufficient and to prove herself Toph is. We can especially see this right after she joins the Gaang, where she refuses to participate in splitting with the rest of the group, insisting on "pulling her own weight". This isn't Toph being a brat, or spoilt, this is her wanting to prove that she can handle herself because people have handled and understimated her her entire life.

Eventually, Toph starts to learn to trust the members of the Gaang and this is a step in the right direction. She's literally making friends for the first time in her life I'm so proud of her.

However, I was genuinely upset when Toph's life changing field trip with Zuko didn't work out. When Toph was trying to connect with Zuko and he blew her off (I'm not blaming him tho they had shit to do), I couldn't help but remember the rejection Toph suffered from Lao.

Post canon, Toph continues to try and prove herself, starting a metalbending school and training new metalbenders.

She also reconciles with her father. Not before Lao disowns he rmultiple times and calls her a rude, ungrateful thing. And while he eventually comes to understand Toph and cherish her, that type of trauma sticks with you.

So it's no wonder really that Toph, someone who went her entire childhood seemingly without even speaking to someone her age, would have trouble forming connections. She has children with two different men, neither of which seem to stick around.

Toph tries to do right by her daughters and gives them the freedom she never got. Sadly, the pendulum swung too far to the other side, since it seems that she started to neglect her daughters, which led to them developing a sleugh of issues of their own.

Toph becomes the cheif of police, which kind of makes sense. Republic City was only slowly emerging as an actual metropolis. Toph took on a role as a protector, and probably as a way to prove herself. But as Republic City grew, Toph probably realised that she became something she hated. A cog in the machine, and started to despise her job.

Searching for a semblance of the freedom and happiness her travels afforded her in her childhood, Toph leaves the city and takes up the life of a hermit in a swamp. She managed to fix her relationship with Suyin to some extent, but still seems reluctant or simply unable to connect with her daughter or grandchildren. Since she apparently hasn't seen Opal, a grown 20 year old woman since she was a little girl.

On the surface old Toph doesn't seem terribly dissimilar to young Toph, still tough and spunky. But she is more jaded, depressed and pessimistic. She comes out to save Suyin from immediate harm and manages to somewhat reconcile with Lin, but then she fucks right back off to the swamp where she seems to literally hide until Wu and Korra straight up force her to come with them.

Toph's story began with her alone and it seems to end with her alone as well. It's a story of a girl who grew up isolated and handled by others, and was woefully unprepared for the real world, which only jaded her further. She lives with the guilt of fucking up her daughters' lives and a belief in the pointlessness of life.

Toph started off longing to experience the world and ended up willingly isolating herself from it.

If that isn't a tragedy, I'm not sure what is.

Mind you, this is not the trauma olympics. I'm not saying that Toph has suffered more than Katara or that Katara's trauma is not as valid as Toph's. Katara and Toph's experiences are completely different, Katara being a victim of genocide and war, Toph being a victim of child abuse. I'm just saying that, objectively, Katara had a happier 'ending' than Toph.

[ezukll]

⠀⠀⠀ ♡ 𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄𝐒

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝐒𝐓 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the first house represents a beautiful and pleasant exterior. This placement suggests a pleasant, attractive facial appearance, graceful physical movements, and a charming way of speaking. It can also be interpreted as having a peaceful and calming presence. With this placement, one may have a pleasant voice that is enjoyable to hear. Additionally, a Venus in the first house indicates that the individual's appearance plays an important role in their sense of identity, self-worth, and ego.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟐𝐍𝐃 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the second house suggests a harmonious connection between physical possessions and values. It also implies a focus on material possessions and personal comfort. While this placement can suggest an individual with a more refined taste, it may also create a reliance on material luxuries. Additionally, with Venus in the second house, one may have an affinity for collecting items and seeking physical pleasure in life. Their values and priorities may be more aligned with material goods and possessions.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟑𝐑𝐃 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the third house represents a focus on communication and mental stimulation. This individual may have a charming and well-spoken manner and a tendency to express themselves concisely and effectively. They may also have a passion for learning, exploring new ideas, and engaging in intellectual pursuits. With this placement, one may excel at writing and expressing themselves verbally. Additionally, they may have a gentle and diplomatic approach to interactions, using their communication skills to mediate conflicts.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the fourth house indicates a focus on home and family. The individual with this placement may have a strong attachment to their roots, childhood home, and family history. They may have an appreciation for the stability, security, and comforts that come with a nurturing environment. They may also be deeply attached to their family's customs and traditions. With this placement, one may be drawn to creating a family or extending their ancestral line. Additionally, this placement suggests being driven to protect and nurture others, especially their loved ones.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟓𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the fifth house represents a strong emphasis on creativity, passion, romance, and sensuality. This placement suggests someone with a playful nature and a focus on expressing their creativity and enjoyment of the arts. With this placement, one may have a lively imagination, a passion for creative pursuits, and an interest in exploring their sense of fun and creativity. They may also enjoy a lively social life, as they seek out a passionate and energetic romantic partner. Lastly, with this placement, one's children may be a prominent focus and concern..

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟔𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the sixth house indicates a focus on service, duty, and dedication to others. The individual with this placement may have a strong desire to be useful and helpful to those around them. They may have high standards of discipline and work ethic, and take pride in being a hard worker. They may also focus much of their energy on their daily routine and developing a healthy daily routine. Additionally, they may be conscious of their physical health, and pay close attention to maintaining it.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟕𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the seventh house suggests an emphasis on intimate relationships and one-on-one connections. The individual with this placement may be driven by their desire to find a romantic partner and may be driven to seek out relationships. They may be passionate about their relationships and take great care in cultivating them. Additionally, they may have a keen intuition when it comes to relationships and be able to assess the compatibility of different pairings. This placement also suggests having an appreciation for one-on-one conversations and interactions.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟖𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the eighth house suggests a focus on the taboo, the mysterious, and the arcane. The individual with this placement may be drawn to exploring the dark and hidden sides of life. They may be interested in topics such as occultism and mysticism, and have a knack for uncovering hidden truths. Additionally, with this placement, the individual may have an intense desire for deep and intimate connections that go beyond physical attraction. They may form intense romantic relationships and may even gravitate towards having romantic connections with those who hold power.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟗𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the ninth house suggests a focus on expanding knowledge and broadening the mind. The individual with this placement may have an innate curiosity about the world and a desire to explore different cultures, traditions, and ideas. They may have a fascination with the mystical and the spiritual, and with exploring new concepts, experiences, and perspectives. Additionally, this placement suggests a desire to seek the truths of the universe and an appreciation for higher education.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝟎𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the tenth house suggests an emphasis on ambition, social status, and career goals. The individual with this placement may have a strong desire to achieve success and recognition in their career field. They may also have an eye for aesthetics and take particular pride in projecting a polished and elegant professional image. Additionally, this placement suggests a strong drive to achieve high social status and prestige, and a focus on maintaining a positive public image.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝟏𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the eleventh house suggests a focus on community, humanitarianism, and friendship. The individual with this placement may have a desire to help others and contribute to the well being of society. They may have an innate understanding of how to create harmony and positive vibrations within a group. They may also have an innate sense for finding common ground and bringing people together. Additionally, they may have a desire to expand their social circles and forge meaningful relationships with a wide range of people.

𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝟏𝟐𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄 ♡

Venus in the twelfth house suggests a focus on the subconscious, spirituality, and inner growth. The individual with this placement may have a deep, innate connection with the unseen energies of the world, and can be sensitive to energies that cannot be seen with the naked eye. They may be driven by a desire to understand and transform their own subconscious patterns and energy. They may also have a deep attraction to the mysterious and unknown, and feel drawn to explore the unexplored dimensions of life. Furthermore, the individual may experience strong dreams and have a strong intuition.

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