#they aren't the only one with this issue but still

[drdemonprince]

If it feels like you are not getting enough quality time with your partner or enough of their sexual attention, you should ask to get a little bit more of those things. If your partner's more free-wheeling approach to sex makes you feel defective in some way (less fun? less desirable? some other insecurity?) you can share those feelings with them to get some of the reassurance that you might need. And believe it or not, if you hate that your partner is fucking your friends and it consistently rubs you the wrong way no matter what you try to do to overcome it, you can ask them to stop.

Some of us are not wired for the loosey-goosey version of polyamory where people have sex with lots of folks and can fuck friends of theirs casually and sit at a kitchen table with all of their partners’ partners. It is actually quite common for nonmonogamous people to feel safer when their dynamic is guided by some rules and boundaries, because those things can uphold the specific and special place you have within a partner’s life.

I have known many polyamorous people with strict “no fucking my friends” rules or the power to issue a veto over whom their partner dates. Some people have a set calendar of dates with their primary partner that are non-negotiable, or ask that their partners only see new people once, to prevent romantic entanglements from forming. But even if it wasn’t common to set these kinds of guidelines, you would still get to, because this is your relationship and you and your partner are the ones that make it what it is.

I think it is very important for all nonmonogamous people to realize that you actually can be unfair in your relationships. If somebody truly cares about you and wishes to make a space for you in their life, that does actually require that they clear the way. The polyamorous cliche is that love is unlimited, but I still don’t understand how that can be true, unless we see love as a completely abstract, almost imaginary spirit-force that has no connection to how individuals live their actual lives. The way we show our love is with actions and choices. Our time, attention, emergency contacts, and housing space are not infinite. We all make sacrifices and compromises for the ones we love, and the demands their lives place on us right now.

You can be nonmongamous and be a demanding, jealous, needy, selfish bitch. You really can! This is your life, these are your relationships, and your actual feelings ought to exist in them.

So what would your ideal nonmonogamous arrangement look like, Anon? Here are some areas in which you might want to make demands — or to put it in a less combative way, aspects of the relationship that you and your partner might want to more openly negotiate.

Time: How often would you be comfortable with your partner seeing other partners? How frequently do you want to see other people?

Activities: What ways of spending time together do you want to be exclusive to just your partner and you? What restaurants, hobbies, clubs, or TV shows do you want to be just “yours”?

Places: Is it okay for your partner to bring a date to your house? Do you want to be able to host, or should sex and romance with other people happen outside of your home? Are there any places that should be “off limits” for bringing other partners?

Sex: How often do you want to have sex with your partner? Are there any sex or kink acts you want to keep exclusive to just your partner and you? What sex do you each want that you aren’t getting in your relationship?

Inclusion in life: How much should other partners know about your personal life? Is it okay for your partner to call them during an emergency? Can your partner talk about you to other partners? Do you want to be able to introduce other partner as partners to your loved ones or other friends?

Love & commitment: Can your partner tell other partners that they love them? Buy them Valentine’s Day gifts or make grand romantic gestures? Do you want your other relationships to be able to romantically progress toward emotional intensity or some kind of commitment? Or do you not?

I imagine that a lot of these questions feel forbidden, especially if you’re read all the standard polyamory workbooks and follow a ton of polyamorous therapists/influencers online. People like to say that you can’t control the love of your partner, but our close relationships develop and grow based upon our choices, and you very much can ask that your partner not make choices that leave you feeling sidelined.

We don’t just tumble into deep, loving relationships randomly, we decide to spend long stretches of time with a person, expose our psychological wounds to them, show up when they’re hurting, buy them gifts, answer their texts before other people’s, take them to places special to us, listen to the music from their teenaged years, and send them videos of us jerking off into their panties. And we can decide not to do any one of those things if another partner asks us to. Or we can refuse. Either way, it’s better to have the conflict.

I wrote all about the mess of real, human nonmonogamy -- and why it's so much sexier than the dispassionate, therapized polyamory of all the self-help books. You can read the full piece for free here.

[ms-demeanor]

It seemed like your job was getting better there for a minute under new management. Is it new management that's fucking up now, not "fixable", or is it holdovers from the old guy?

So my company, formerly owned by Gary, was "Strangled Bats LLC". The company that bought us is "BunnyCorp Inc." Late last year, BunnyCorp Inc hired "Bruno" as our new CEO. The middle management are Bunnies from BunnyCorp.

Gary was a shithead who abused his employees but he was a stickler for documentation, standards, and naming conventions. Even though we lost a lot of documentation when BunnyCorp let Strangled Bats' CRM subscription lapse, I was able to save a bunch of PDFs and we actually still have printed copies of a BUNCH of our documents. Strangled Bats LLC was a terrible place to work and was very old-fashioned on some things, but we save our papers.

BunnyCorp Inc has a lot of very friendly bunnies in management who are cuddly and cute and easy to get along with and wouldn't know a configuration manager if it bit them in the ass. BunnyCorp was interested in acquiring and absorbing many companies to become one big company and cared more about purchasing companies (and therefore their client bases) than it cared about integrating those companies into itself OR than it cared about making notes on its customers.

Bruno has a long history of working in MegaBigCo and making things very efficient. When Bruno was hired as CEO, BunnyCorp officers did a great job of putting a good face forward and making it look like they had their shit together. By the time Bruno started, I had been working at BunnyCorp for three months and had mostly been focused on trying to get Strangled Bats' systems to mesh with BunnyCorp.

In January, Bruno had been with the company long enough that he started making changes to make things more efficient, because he'd been there long enough to see that there were some problems. At that point, I had started to notice that it seemed like we were duplicating an awful lot of work that was no longer related to issues with un-meshed systems, because I had meshed a lot of our systems. I got promoted and started training someone to take over the simpler parts of my job and was given the responsibility of looking into a lot of our contracts and agreements.

In March, the shit hit the fan and Bruno and I simultaneously realized that BunnyCorp Inc had been papering over a vast chasm of problems, most of which had to do with:

people with institutional knowledge leaving because they were underpaid

previous owners being shit at documentation

nobody except LITERALLY FUCKING ME knowing what modern server hardware standards and pricing should be

solutions for clients that were built with an eye toward reducing cost in the moment rather than planning for growth or longevity

Bruno has good thoughts about improving stuff, thoughts that I support and think are a great idea and think we should try to implement, but he's also a MegaBigCo kind of guy and likes to let employees grind to prove that they're dedicated and worthy of a promotion/raise - this is a shitty attitude that I think is counterproductive and I think is on the verge of leading our entire senior staff into burnout, but he's not at all wrong about the changes that need to be made. Bruno found out that a bunch of our clients don't have spare server drives onsite and shit a brick because of how badly he wants us to get spare server drive to the client sites; he is willing to eat the cost if it means we can get spares to the clients. That's great, it's not wrong, and there aren't enough hours in the day for me to get that done and also do procurement.

Bruno is only just now seeing the tip of the iceberg in terms of how utterly fucked our documentation is; if Bruno is the captain of the ship telling us where to steer, I'm the lookout on deck who sees the icebergs before anybody else.

I have been shouting to the Bunny management about icebergs since December and the ship hasn't changed course; Bruno has directed us to put more coal in the boilers and speed up and to patch up some holes and scrape some barnacles off the hull, but I can't shout loud enough to get the Bunnies to pass on the message about the iceberg, so all I can do is make notes about where the iceberg is an when we hit it provide the notes that I took that the Bunnies ignored so that maybe we can start patching up the breaks before water floods in and kills us all.

Things were great for a while because I was no longer working with an actively abusive shithead. Working with Gary was like sighting icebergs on the deck of a ship that leaked a bit and avoided icebergs deftly, but I was left to freeze on the deck all the time because freezing on the deck was all I was good for. Getting acquired by BunnyCorp was like someone handing me a warm coat and telling me to go inside and have a cup of tea and sit by the fire. But then I realized that the niceness and the okayness with taking time off and the slight raise were very comforting but someone still had to go out on deck and watch for icebergs but now nobody is passing on the message that we need to steer away from the fucking icebergs because if you say there's an iceberg that might make someone feel bad and making people feel bad is counter to the BunnyCorp company culture.

I have a constant drumbeat in my head that says "I can fix this, I can fix this, I can fix this." If I work late and go get the info for all the firewalls that I can access, and share info with the team about the ones I can't access, I can update the documentation and fix this. If I get notes on all the servers, and get spares for every machine, and get the techs scheduled to go out and install, I can fix this. If I can go in to the configurations for all five thousand computers and manually check and archive all the old devices, and manually update a field for every one of the two thousand windows 10 machines, maybe our team of sixteen can replace twelve hundred and upgrade eight hundred computers at our two hundred client sites in the next five months. If only I can go through all of those two thousand configurations and update that field before I get dragged away to another phone call from a client or another meeting about how the next acquisition is going to go, so I better do it now, at eight pm at ten pm at midnight at two am when there's nobody to call and no meetings scheduled. If I could just *lock in* I can save us, I can make sure the clients are getting a good turnaround time on their requests and I can make sure the licenses are all getting renewed because I updated all the configurations and I will update all the configurations going forward and I will document this company at knifepoint and I will hold it together with duct tape and spite and I will make it work i will make it work nobody else is doing anything I have to make it work because that's an iceberg, I know some of them see the iceberg, and they're Bunnies and I'm a Bat, some of them have seen this iceberg long before I could see it but they're not turning but if I yell about it and make notes about it and lock in and document it and skip lunch and skip lunch and skip lunch and skip lunch and skip lunch and take half a break so that I can get another device off the list maybe THEN they'll act like there's an iceberg ahead and they'll turn and I won't have to fly off the deck and go find another ship and I can stay on the boat with my friends and the nice bunnies and it will be okay, it will feel like it did after Gary was gone and I could BREATHE and people said that I was smart and good at my job and I deserved more money and I had been treated badly and there were no icebergs because it was so bright and sunny and nice that the whole sea looked like dazzling snow and seemed soft and safe and like I wouldn't have to keep freezing on the deck to stay alive.

So.

You know.

There have been ups and downs. I'm having some trouble staying motivated and even with some decent management it's difficult to orient the team toward the metrics we need to meet in q3 to stay solvent and keep our forward momentum up.

I'm considering sniping our customers and starting my own business, nobody makes the office admin sign a non-compete.

[graveyardhorror]

➳❥ RESIDENT EVIL | marriage!headcanons

misc. masterlist

LEON KENNEDY

-maybe I’m biased, but being married to Leon is like marrying the love of your life, your other half; he would do anything for you, maybe even retire earlier than he originally planned?; he changes in a way he never thought possible after you get married, like being more open about his feelings compared to when you were dating; he never planned on having you like him this long, is something he tells you a lot

-honeymoon phase is actually insane, he goes above and beyond for you for months and even after the phase is "over" he continues doing these cute habits that scream romance is not dead; buying you a bouquet of flowers every week and changing their water daily; making you your morning coffee or tea, mastering their recipe early in your relationship; the best when it comes to taking care of you when you aren't feeling well

-a bit of reassurance is needed, trust issues and nightmares bring him back to a negative headspace, showing him he isn’t alone anymore is what often brings him to reality again; he used to not tell you about these things and instead stayed awake throughout the night staring at the ceiling, watching you sleep, or pacing in the hallway outside your shared bedroom

-proposes to you on your anniversary, sharing a journal and pinterest board (teaching him how to use pinterest <3) of what your dream proposal, wedding and honeymoon would look like; leon would rather die than let you experience anything that doesn't surpass your wildest dreams; gives you everything you could ever want and more, it's his love language; feels better when you use words of affirmation to let him know you care

-calls you all sorts of nicknames from the moment you meet and they only get sappier the longer you are together; once called you schnookums in front of his coworkers and has not being able to live it down since; being with you has made leon more sure of his ability to give and receive love, mostly receive; spending the majority of his life giving his all to save and protect others and not receiving the same energy back, this changes when you enter the picture; prefers being the protector but doesn't mind when you get protective over him, makes him feel some type of way

ADA WONG

-becoming close to her was insanely hard and time consuming but once she realized that you wanted to know her to love her she slowly (very slowly) put down her walls to let you in; gives off black cat energy, this means that being around her can sometimes feel a little awkward because she's always watching you with an intense look in her eyes (she means no harm, unless you do)

-seems like the type of girlfriend who would propose to their partner in a way that doesn't come off as too vulnerable (but still a bit flashy because sugar mommy) because she's still wary that this amazing partner and beautiful relationship is all a lie made up by her enemies; once she does trust you she gives you whiplash with how different she acts; goes from stoic and unreadable to cuddly and totally relaxed

-marriage means that you've learned each other's insides and outs (lol) and have full trust in one another; ada's always been able to read people so easily and after you get married it's like you two unlock telepathy; her work is something she never fully opens about though, just to keep you safe and away from it; she will convince you to leave your job and work remotely and then eventually be a stay at home wife/husband/partner

-used to call you by nicknames to assert dominance in the relationship and make you flustered but now unironically calls you stuff like sugar-booger and wifey/hubby/lovey; sleeps with her being closest to your room's entrance, not like anyone will ever get through her insane security system she made herself; one of a kind experiences for dates and anniversaries; doesn't trust anyone else to keep an eye on you, will eventually and very quietly retire from her job (her love for you means much more to her than putting you and her lives at risk)

-teaches you self defence and how to identify threats (people) and pretends it's a touchy type of date but just wants to know you know what to do in case she isn't there to protect you (would never happen though 'cause now you're married, she's attached to you by the hip); enjoying the remote life with your wife is all you should preoccupy yourself with, but ada sometimes wonders how long something so precious can last her, please love her and don't break her heart

[freedfromthegalactichivemind]

I know I've seen this before because apparently I've liked it prior.

Anyway, it's "Ah, things like this are why I'm glad I'm no longer hard-into the fandom anymore." I do still keep this blog. I re-blog things, but I'm not invested in Spop right now the way I used to be and having moved on, I kind of see why it's a fandom I'm not much inspired to returning to. My current main fandom (Trigun) - features people analyzing the characters and making essays but... wholly without the accusations of who you are as a person or your morality based on who you like / aren't much into? There's not even that much in the ways of ship-warrning. (Even those of us who, say, don't ship Vashwood kind of accept it as a fact of life - just the majority ship in the fandom and those who ship other things or who just aren't into shipping just do our own little corners - or interact with the main ship to some degree, too, because people do fun things with it). Anyway, my point is that while some conflict happens from time to time, mostly, it's super-chill. Maybe it helps that the villains in it do, like, R-rated villainy, so it's obvious that no one who likes them endorses what they do, because that would be silly. Also, in terms of trying to redeem them, the main character / hero tries to do that! No need for the audience-sympathy, there's a canon hero for that! And then I pause and go back to how everyone behaved in Spop fandom and how everything was a personal morality contest and I have no idea if it was because it was a "woke" show or if it was because it was geared toward a younger audience and people just got really concerned about it "teaching good morals to the young." - I think they just went in personally expecting better from the show / perfection from the show and not getting it in all respects, and so came under a greater scrutiny by people coming in / attracted a certain kind of sensitive audience and an audience starved for media representation who were finally getting it, but discontent that it didn't check all of their respective personal boxes of "perfect," with each person having their own definitions of what is good and what is perfect therein. So, yeah, some of Entrapta's treatment grated upon the neurodiverse community. There were people disappointed that the only visibly physically-ill / disabled person was the dark lord villain. There were people disappointed that the canon lesbian main-pairing happened with the main hero and the main villain / under-villain with clear emotional issues used to play up the drama, but was not a perfect person / wasn't given "enough time" to have a redemption-arc that hit everyone's buttons in the right way. And then there was stupid ship-warring and character-prefrencing and a bunch of people just not understanding or respecting, it would seem, peoples' right to like different things / to vibe with different characters and character dynamics. (Just because I like "Pinky and the Brain" goofy mad scientist vibes and dark aesthetics doesn't mean I support colonialism, good God!) And of course, because of the moralizing, there came the backlash, and so everyone was at each others' throats in the fandom back in the day. Glad to be in the fandom of Love and Peace. Anyway, I do hope that if and when I return to She-Ra, and (given that the original was my childhood favorite thing, and I enjoyed the reboot, so it's likely a when rather than an if), I really hope the fandom scene has learned to chill the fuck out. Maybe I have learned, after re-joining an old fandom that used to be contentious (I was an asshole during the old days, for reasons I have grown up and away from and won't get into) that is super-duper chill now is that fandom *can* be chill and just to... chill out, be unbothered. Use the block feature more, etc.

hypocritical because im a homestuck but i dont like simply extracting my favourite parts of media and leaving the rest behind.

shera fandom. i have things to say.

as a huge entrapta fan and an entrapdak fan i see a lot of other entrapdak fans try to extract the pairing from the show and label every other character as an asshole. you'll see a lot of "the princesses" or "the alliance" as this faceless whole of bullies. which drives me absolutely insane. because if you look at the show, "the alliance" is filled with a WHOLE BUNCH OF PEOPLE, each of which has a completely DIFFERENT relationship to Entrapta, and it's only Entrapta herself who ever sees them as this unified big group that she's tried to befriend. I think there's a failure here to understand how entrapta's perception of events isn't entirely accurate. Bow and Adora, for example, were always trying to get her on their side - even though she hurt them the most directly - and they let her do what she needed to do even when it resulted in untold chaos. i also think there's a failure to try to understand what ableism is present in shera and what is not, and where the writing errors lie and how they can be rectified. there's this idea of "it can NEVER be rectified and the characters CANNOT be friends", despite... yknow... the show demonstrating otherwise, and the reason this is especially egregious is I'm sure people ONLY write it that way so they can push entrapta even closer to hordak by alienating her from all her other relationships. to do otherwise would require acknowledging that hordak has done bad things to the other characters and he needs to WORK on himself if he wants to be around them.

as a huge catra fan there was a post on reddit yesterday where someone put a tier list where catra was at the bottom. there was a LOT of people saying it was terrible and the person didn't understand the show, and i feel that perception, but there was also someone saying that anyone has the RIGHT to find a character really annoying and mean, and that they see catra this way. I thought about this, and realised that SO MANY people who will diehard stan Catra and argue that the post was insane will ALSO rank GLIMMER as a bottom character, simply because they find her annoying and mean. it made me think, why is it okay for people to find glimmer annoying and hate her, but suddenly toxic and ableist (the words a certain user had) for people to find catra mean and annoying? why is one thing suddenly a problem when both characters are fundamentally the same? there is a lack of self reflection in how people regard some of the characters. you can't just take Catra out of shera, project yourself onto her, and forget about all the other characters, what she's done to them, what kind of people might connect with them. you can't decide that catra good and glimmer bad because you like catra more.

[seleneprince]

WAITERR MORE OF THE "Superdaddies issues" FRIENDSHIP AU PLEASE

Who are all the kids? And whose kids are they?? :3

I actually explained it a bit here, but I'll gladly elaborate a bit more 💕

Basically, this is an extension of my Yandere! Batfam x Neglected! Reader au, also known as the Tales of Bats and Wolves, only that it features neglected kids from the other JL members as well. Because while I love the, this dynamic is fun to explore and I believe not all of them would be fit to be good parents in certain situations. Not with their lives. The comics have proved that a few times.

The kids are: Oliver Queen's son, Hunter. Bruce Wayne's daughter, Aracne. Hal Jordan's daughter, Red Fury. Barry Allen's daughter, Velocity. Arthur Curry aka Aquaman's son, Nerion. Zatanna's younger brother, Kaos. Diana Prince's son, Punisher. And of course, Clark Kent's daughter, Power Girl. These are all codenames assigned to them to which they're referred to when they're "working", since their civilian identities are to remain secret (and also because you're free to self-insert in any of them so not giving names is easier).

Hunter was the result of an affair Oliver had with a woman he met during a mission, who turned out to be a mercenary undercover. Things got complicated between her, Oliver and Dinah, since the three of them were having a passionate but also borderline unhealthy relationship, with jealousy and other emotional conflicts. After getting pregnant, Hunter's mother cut things off with them to raise her boy alone because she didn't want to be shackled to those two, which she knows it's what would've happen if they knew of her son's existence. They were doing fine, until her past came banging at her door and she was killed. Hunter was picked up by Oliver himself, who revealed the kid he was his father, that his mum reached out to him not long before her death, and that he was taking him home. Buuut you know how that goes, both Oliver and Dinah are very busy and even when they aren't, they don't know how to approach the kid they didn't know about and who has his mother's eyes. Hunter is essentially cared for by babysitters, Roy and his mum's side of the family, who are the responsibles for teaching a lot of stuff he really shouldn't at that age. When his little brother Connor is born, he's suddenly his primary caretaker and expected to take care of him when their parents aren't around, which it's often. His skill with the bow and impeccable aim is what draws unwanted attention from certain invidivuals...

Velocity was conceived by Barry having a one-night stand with a co-worker, another forensic scientist, before going back with Iris. Her mother wasn't confident about raising her alone, so she told Barry from the beginning and asked him to at least pay child support to help her, but he ultimately decided to do the right thing and be present in his child's life, not just for the money. He was a good dad and they had a sweet bond, to the point he had arguments with the mom to keep Velocity with him more time than they originally agreed on. They co parented well enough and got along, since they still had to see each other every day at work. Barry was also mostly attentive that his daughter might've inherited his speedster powers, but she never showed signs. Velocity's mother is actually Leonard Snart's, aka Captain Cold, niece that ocassionally works as his ally, so Velocity has a certain anti-Flash sentiment in her house, which contrasts heavily with how everyone else she knows loves The Flash. Things started to go from bad to worse when Barry rekindled with Iris and focused more on her, spending less time with his daughter in the process. Then Wally came into the picture and Barry's time got even more divided, prioritising Iris and training Wally to his child, trusting the mother to handle it because, well, at least she was a normal kid. He and Iris got married, and then surprise, Iris gave birth eventually to their twins. That was the moment Velocity no longer was a priority in her father's life. It was all about his new family, his growing duties, and he stopped making time for her althoether. She still was expected to visit her dad and stay with him for a while, but she just felt like a ghost in that house, an outside spectator to his perfect little family, watching him being a loving husband and father. The only one who never failed her is Wally, but still, it wasn't enough to keep her in the good path. To fill the void, she stuck more to her maternal family, following her mother's foosteps to become a scientist and help uncle Snart's criminal bussiness. She was smart and quick on her feet, growing up used to run errands for him and sneak into places others couldn't. Unfortunately, her luck ran out while during a particularly tricky errand involving a chemical lab, she got caught and, trying to get rid of the attention, she crashed an experiment that exploded, emiting an electric force that sent them all flying and crashing to the ground. Velocity was the only survivor for some reason, but she didn't know it came with consequences. Not until she was running away again from guns, and suddenly her feet weren't touching the ground. When she stopped running, she found herself in another city entirely...Ops.

Power Girl is Clark Kent's daughter, with Jon being the second child instead. I still can't decide for the life of mine if I want her mother to be a nameless Darling, for the sake of this being both a platonic and romantic yandere au, or have her mom be Lois Lane because I adore this woman and can't imagine Clark with any other woman lmao. But it won't really change Power Girl's story much because her crux starts with the simple fact that she doesn't present kryptonian superpowers like Jon does, leading everyone to believe she doesn't have them at all. This pushes both her parents to focus more on Jon and the rest of siblings because they DO have kryptonian powers and therefore Clark has to teach them. Unfortunately, this makes them accidentally neglect the oldest daughter while at the same time expecting her to carry on responsabilities just for being "the oldest." She has to behave and be understanding. Her younger siblings are special and just need more attention, she should feel lucky for being normal and not having to deal with those problems. She has to look out for them because they're still kids, nevermind she's technically one too. Oldest daughter syndrome to the maximum. She's not "special" enough to spend as much as time with her dad as she wishes to, but she is to take care of the house when he's not around. I only gets more humiliating when she hears him tell Jon that it's his job as the stronger one to protect his sister and make sure she doesn't get hurt. She's also not allowed to do certain stuff because she's treated like a piece of glass. It's suffocating. Drives her insane, and deep down all she wants is to stop being good and break shit for once, to let out her anger. This wish eventually becomes true when she storms out of the house after a fight with her dad, punching a tree in frustration, only for it split in half by the impact...turns out she's a late bloomer kryptonian. And in a fit of rebellion, she decides not to tell anyone. Where were this powers when she needed them? When felt forgotten and insignificant because she didn't have them? Why now that she's finally used to her position?

Red Fury is Hal's daughter with a Yellow Lantern with whom he had an off-and-on tense relationship, which mostly consisted in fighting and hate fucking. Pure enemies to lovers here, except the enemies part never stopped. Finding out she's pregnant, she decides to fake her death and try start anew at Earth to give her child a normal life, away from the mess of the Lantern corps and the intergalactic wars. But deep down, the woman was never completely happy with being just a mother. She craved for the power of the ring, the freedom and thrill of flying around the cosmos, of the battle. So when Sinestro reached out again for her to join, she accepted, but he let her know she couldn't bring her daughter along. That's how Red Fury ended up at Hal's doorstep with a note claiming he was the father. Before leaving, Fury's mom made her promise she wouldn't tell anyone who her mother is, for her own good, so Hal assumes the child is the result of some drunk one-night stand he had. He tries to be a good dad, he really does, but he has no idea what to do or how to feel with a whole ass child he never planned for and now is his responsability, along with balancing his duties as green lantern and pilot. It's too much for him sometimes, so he mostly leaves her at his brother's place when he's out on lantern duties, but in reality he's also relieved to do so. So she grows up with an emotionally unavailable father that switches from trying to spend time with her to avoid her, seeing him be more affectionate with his niece than herself. The only person Fury feels that gives a damn about her is little Helen Jordan, her cousin. She learns to disguise her pain and resentment with anger, getting into trouble a lot and defying everyone to feel better, holding unto her anger like a lifesaver, because being angry is better than being scared or sad. Anger makes her strong, makes her forget. She doesn't trust people as a norm, thinking everyone is going to just dissapoint her as well. However, she couldn't have imagined her anger would literally become her source of strenght, when it ends up attracting a certain red ring to her fingers, stained in other's blood...

Punisher is Diana's stepson, but she's been in his life since he was an infant, so he's always referred to her as Mum. His other mum, Diana's partner, is an Egyptian archeologist and a treasure hunter in her free time, but she put that slightly illegal hobby away when she got with Diana. They three of them travel a lot, so he doesn't have real friends and he doesn't know long-term relationships outside his family. He avoids getting attached to people due to this. He's heavily influenced by Diana's firm sense of justice and disappointed at the system, who lets too many people get away with their crimes and, in his opinion, profit of the victims' suffering. He wants to create a world ruled by pure, ruthless justice that doesn't forgive anyone. His vision is very "black and white". Things are right or they aren't. There's no middle ground. And he believes punishments are a form of justice as much as mercy can be. Its the reason he wants to study Law, to become a judge and actually make people pay for what they do. He looks down on those who have power and do nothing to create change, to make things better. Sees them as cowards and unworthy of compassion. He has numerous conflicts when he's first working with the team because he's forced to face a deeper perspective and rethink what he stands up for. He's also the first male to reside and be trained in Themyscira, where his presence is only tolerated because of Diana. He had to bleed as a child just to prove to the Amazons that he was worthy of basic respect. On the other hand, his experience in Themysicira and with Amazon culture in general has shaped him to be a low-key men hater, despising his own sex as a norm. The good thing is that he's also the perfect gentleman, because he refuses to be like those men who disgust him and are the reason Amazons do what they do. Both his mothers are proud of him and his family is easily the most functional out of the group, but he still feels lonely often because of their jobs and a deep, growing resentment for the world for being the way it is, eager to change it but also to take out on this same resentment on those who get away with their actions. He thinks society has gotten soft on bad people, including the JL, which is what makes him an easy target for a certain organization to groom him into the perfect warrior, who use his morals against him...

Nerion was born from an old romance between Arthur and a human woman he knew since childhood. They met again as adults after he dissapeared for years and came back as Aquaman, and one thing leading to another..well, it happened. They were happy for a while but he had to return to the Sea and she belonged to the land, so they eventually broke things off. She had no idea she was pregnant until he left, but couldn't tell him anyway. Arthur found out when he went back to Amnesty Bay and saw her with a little boy in her arms. Despite being already with Mera, he still cared for Nerion's mother, and offered them protection back at Atlantis, which she refused because she knew neither of them would fit in that kingdon. She being human, and Nerion being too different. Arthur still made a point to check on them every now and then, sending them gifts and making sure his son was safe. Nerion's mother is also a native Mohawk woman, so Nerion's birth name is a mix of mohawk and atlantean's dialect. He was raised with the mohawk language and their culture by his mum, as a way to keep her family's tradition alive. She encouraged him to choose his own path, but never forget his roots. Due to him being only a quarter Atlantean, he's weaker than his half-siblings, but still has the same basic abilities, like breathing under water and controlling it. He showed signs of his connection to the sea from an early age, which worried his mother a lot, afraid that he would leave her for the sea one day and never come back, like Arthur did. Nerion's relationship with him is weird. He knows his dad cares in his own way, but never sees him and he's also the cause of his mum's heartbreak, while simultanously looking after them from afar. He doesn't know how to feel about him. Sometimes he's angry, others sad. It depends of the day. The first time he travelled out of Amnesty Bay, he came across an excentric but friendly boy with magic on his veins, and they inmediately became friends after accidentally causing an accident with their combined powers. Not knowing they were closely observed by someone...

Kaos is Giovanni Zatara's son from his second marriage and Zatanna's younger brother. From an early age, his father introduced him to the mystic arts and magic, but the boy was sickly and, for some reason, magic seemed to hurt him. Due to his poor health, he was mostly in his room while his mum and sister took care of him. His inability to properly learn magic led Giovanni to neglect him and focus more on Zatanna, who was a prodigy. Kaos' situation with magic wasn't only that he couldn't use it, but that it only made him worse. There were times when Zatanna was practising that just being near of her spells hurt him. Growing up, he felt like something was constantly crawling inside his ribs, trying to rip him open and get out. Whenever the pain of magic came, this crawling felt more intense. It pulses inside him when he's near certain parts of the house. There's also the fact that when his emotions run high, sometimes windows are shattered and furniture broken around him. He gets told its because of the remnants of magic his family leaves behind that respond to emotions, that it has nothing to do with him personally. But for some reason, it's usually after those incidents when he falls sick and isn't allowed to get out of bed. He was constantly bedridden and had little to no friends because he was homeschooled a lot, practically isolated. Still, he was treasured by both his mother and Zatanna, who saw him as her precious baby brother made of glass that had to be shielded from the world. He was overprotected and neglected at the same time. Torn between wanting attention and desesperately wishing to be free of it. He grows up feeling lonely and frustrated with his own body for being wrong, because he can feel something wrong. It's only years later, with secret research on his own and reaching out to certain people, that he finds out the truth. About why he can't fit with his dad and sister, why he can't do magic the way they do and why he's in pain a lot at convenient times: He's a wizard of chaos, like Klarion. And someone put a block on his powers "to protect him". Now, he's just determined to prove not all wizards of chaos are inherently bad (and maybe prove to himself that he can be as good as his family if not better)

Aracne's backstory I already explained her here, but in this au it will be slightly adapted.

[wannabanauthor]

I think I would be less angry at Buck

If he talked about his hesitation to get back with Tommy. While Buck screwed things up after the hookup, Tommy was the one that broke up with him.

Maybe he's too scared of screwing up again and driving Tommy away for good. But he's not saying that. He's just doing nothing.

He wants to get back together with Tommy but makes no effort to do so. And he doesn't give a reason why. Or the narrative so far hasn't explicitly said it.

I understand that Buck now has bigger issues than his love life, and he does deserve time to figure himself out and create a new life without Bobby.

So logically, his thing with Tommy is the least of his worries. I can understand if the narrative takes a while to bring Tommy back. But Bobby's death didn't happen in a vacuum.

It came after the breakup and hookup. And Buck hadn't made any effort to fix things with Tommy before Bobby died. He acknowledged that he needed to call and apologize, but then he did absolutely nothing except ask Tommy for a favor.

Even when Tommy said that he was helping for Buck too, Buck still said nothing. And that's the part that irritates me. It looks incredibly one-sided even from a shipper's POV. I can imagine Tommy is thinking the same.

I think maybe Buck forgot that he hasn't told Tommy about his feelings. But that wouldn't make sense either. He knows what he said that morning after and has done nothing about it. He asked Tommy for a favor and thanked him for doing it. That's it.

At this point, I feel like he doesn't even care but claims he does. He never talks to Tommy about their issues, but he'll talk to everyone else and jump the gun. Is he waiting for someone to give him permission or something?

I just hope that he realizes that Tommy is not going to wait around for long. He's in his early 40s, and he wants something serious with someone who is serious about him. Buck isn't that and isn't even trying to be that.

Maybe Buck hasn't realized that he hasn't given Tommy something to wait for. I think the best thing for Season 9 is for Buck to see Tommy dating other people. But then again, Buck might still be stupid and do nothing about it. And it doesn't even match how he was with Tommy in Season 7. In season 7, he made more of an effort, apologized and everything.

This past season he just bitched and moaned about a situation he created but never fixed. Tommy has no reason to reach out to him. Buck's going to take too long and end up losing Tommy for good.

I bet you that Buck won't even mention Tommy in the first few episodes of Season 9. By the time he remembers that Tommy exists, it'll probably have been a year since the breakup.

What's worst for us is that us BuckTommy shippers have 4+ months of nothing before the show comes back. Tim and the writers are letting us stew for months with no progress made and betting on us and others coming back to watch the show. Of course, they're not thinking of that, but Tim really has the worst timing.

The breakup happened the same week as the election. Bobby died and then so did the IRL Pope. And now there's been no progress for BuckTommy, so we get to be angry and frustrated the entire summer and probably talk ourselves out of watching the show again.

Again, Tim Minear is not a good enough writer to keep up this will/won't they trope between Buck and Tommy. I don't know if they're intentionally dragging it out or they just lack common sense or writing skills.

I know 9-1-1 isn't the BuckTommy show, and that there are multiple main characters, but the writing for them has been shitty too. Everyone almost dies or goes through the same type of trauma repeatedly. And they pissed off the Bvddies.

Honestly, only a white man could fuck up a show on so many levels and continue to fuck up with no improvements made. Maybe Tim is phoning it in. I don't know.

It just seems like Tim has made so many bad writing decisions that aren't popular with audience, and he refuses to stop and re-evaluate things to make the show enjoyable again.

[starstruck-sillies]

We've struggled with self harm for years now, and I'll tell you something about how our recovery has been going and what worked for us.

When our parents found out about it, they didn't rush to take all of the sharp things away from us so we couldn't do it anymore. What they did instead was give me some first aid supplies to keep in our room to take care of our wounds when we did it. They were there to support us when we relapsed.

And you know what? That helped us a ton. We're not fully recovered yet, but we're currently 6 months clean. We still have access to it if we absolutely need to, but we're working on better ways that aren't nearly as dangerous.

What worked for us won't work for everyone, but please know that there's not just one and only one way to heal from sh. And trust me, using syscourse is a much safer form of self harm than what we did, and I know I'd much rather people cope that way than how we did.

If you were truly a psych student, you'd know that you shouldn't push for perfection, the best approach is slow and steady, and trying to insist that people try and cold turkey something that can very well be an actual addiction is a horrible way to go about it, and so is shaming people to try and make them stop.

Besides, you're some rando on the internet, not their therapist. You're not the one who's suppose to deal with their issues. Do not shame random people for coping mechanisms that could very well be keeping them alive.

-Milkyway

[kawacake]

YOURE A BRAT | Bachira SMAU

💚 WHERE Bachira and Y/n broke up in high school, now they’re back on the same campus. He wants to protect his peace she wants to protect her pride but some love stories don’t end, they just hit pause.

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status: ongoing

taglist: OPEN (comment to be added)

warning(s): toxic exes & emotionally messy rekindled romance, mentions of unhealthy coping mechanisms (partying, avoidance, impulsivity), swearing / explicit language, Alcohol consumption / college party culture, angst + jealousy + emotional breakdowns, slight manipulation / gaslighting (from side characters), passive-aggressive social media posts / subtweeting, implied sexual content, emotional whiplash + attachment issues

a/n: each chapter will be named after a Charli xcx song but that doesn’t exactly mean you have to listen to the song while reading

Playlist: coming soon…

Introduction: Y/n’s Angels (and Rin) , #notclickbait

Chapter Guide

1. So far away

coming soon…

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“You’re a Brat” is the self-sabotage to soulmate pipeline, but in a body glitter and platform heels. It’s “I don’t do relationships” x “But I’d still walk through fire for you” energy.

y/n is the type to flirt with you at a party, post about someone else the next day, and pretend she doesn’t see the look in your eyes. Bachira is the type to fall anyway, to sit front row for the chaos she brings, and smile like it’s a privilege to watch her burn.

She’s glitter in the dark, he’s late-night voice notes, half-finished poems, and the boy who still believes in her even when she doesn’t believe in herself.

“She’s gonna ruin you.” “I hope so.”

He’s “you deserve soft love” and she’s “I don’t believe in happy endings.” She leaves parties with mascara-stained cheeks and Tito’s in her veins. He waits outside in the cold, every single time. Big “you’ll never love me like I want” x “I already do” energy. A slow-burn tragedy & a love story told through subtweets, missed calls, and the one boy she never meant to love again.

“Only threw this party for you I only threw this party for you, for you, for you I'm about to party on you Watch me, watch me party on you, yeah Party on you, party on you Party on-party on you, party on you Party on-party on you, party on you” Party 4 you by Carli xcx

“You're in love with somethin' bigger than love You believe in something stronger than trust Wanderlust Wanderlust” Wanderlust by The Weeknd

“I fell in love today There aren't many words that you can say That could ever get my mind to change She's enough for me, she's in love with me You're a doll, you are flawless But I just can't wait for love to destroy us I just can't wait for love” Flawless by The Neighborhood

“And for you I keep my legs apart And forget about my tainted heart And I will never ever be the first to say it But still I, you know I-I-I I would do it, push a button Pull the trigger, pull a mountain, jump off a cliff 'Cause you know, baby, I love you, love you a little bit You would do it, you would say it You would mean it, and we could do it It was you and I” Little bit by Lykke Li

© kawacake — please do not steal, plagiarize, repost, or translate any of my works, and do not put it on any other platform without my permission.

[the-radfem-of-noise]

because there's a lot of weirdo behavior on radblr recently, here's a warning i learned the hard way:

if you're using a vpn, your blogs might get caught up in a spam filter

some consequences of this include, but aren't limited to:

losing access to some or all side blogs

unable to send or recieve messages + asks

activity not being visible on posts (if you like/reblog a post, your blog does not show up in notes and notifications)

being unable to reply on any post + all previous replies are unavailable

posts not being visible in tags, but followers will still see your posts on their dash iirc

possible termination of your entire account

besides using a vpn, some other possible triggers for this include:

sending messages too fast

following people too fast

editing your blog... somehow. custom themes and links are the usual culprits from what i've heard

** the information under the cut may be different depending on your situation **

although it's rare(ish) for this to happen, a lot of people outside of radblr are currently experiencing these issues. the only solution to reversing your shadowban/termination is to send a support ticket or reach out to tumblr directly.

when making a ticket, make sure you:

mention the blogs that are shadowbanned + the ones you no longer have access to

mention what happened to your blog (no longer seeing messages, not being visible in tags...) and why you believe you were incorrectly shadowbanned or terminated (vpn usage, editing blog theme...)

make sure the email you use in your ticket is the same as the email of the account w/ shadowbanned blogs. if you need to use an alternative email, make sure to mention the account's email in your ticket.

label your problem correctly. tickets labeled as terminated accounts usually do not get confirmation emails until the ticket has been reviewed, and there's several ways to label your ticket if you have been shadowbanned. it really just depends on what the biggest isssue for you is.

after you make your ticket, you usually get a confirmation email. if your account has been terminated, you most likely won't get a confirmation email.

^^^ Here's an example of what the email looked like for me

after sending a ticket and/or letting tumblr know, the best thing you can do is wait for a response. tumblr may take a while to get back to you (a week or so at best, a few months on average, a year or more at worst). in the meantime, make a new blog (preferably on a different account w/ a different email address) if necessary. if it makes you less nervous: after your shadowban is lifted, all messages, asks, replies, and whatnot will be visible :D

plsplspls let me know if there's anything i should add/remove to this post!

~ michael, who unfortunately got sniped because (most likely) she was using a vpn :(

[famouslydreamysky]

you never remembered much about your early youth. most of your "memories" were jumbled fragments of random places and events that never even happened; yet you always seemed to dream about them. it was as if your whole existence from ages 1-4 was a never-ending, senseless dream that you continued to have flashbacks of even as you got older.

it all started with this one specific place. a place you felt like you remembered so well, but knew deep down it never could've existed; a place so close, yet so far. it was a giant waterpark that you swore you frequented as a young kid. it gave you such a euphoric feeling that you'd never felt before. such a nostalgia for a place that never even existed. it had 5 main watersides that now looked disheveled and abandoned, unnaturally large fake play houses used as swimming pools and bars, multiple pools, and an underground youth swim area with seemingly endless winding halls of tiles that enveloped every area from top to bottom.

you remember the time of day; twilight. the sky gleaming a beautiful neon pink and deep blue as the rest of the world was engulfed in darkness. you were there all alone after closing with only a flashlight to help guide the way. you came prepared to swim in your swimsuit, yet all the pools lacked any water. this didn't make sense though, the last time you checked, it was the middle of the summer, and you had just been there just a week prior. nonetheless, you still slowly inch your way around the park despite your gut telling you to just go home as you really had nothing to do.

as you're wondering what to do or where to go next, you suddenly notice the signs. so. many. signs. all claiming the same thing: "Waterpark now closed for good due to multiple reports of children going missing." you're taken aback; since when was this an issue? after pondering these signs for a bit, you realize that you aren't supposed to be there. you don't know what made you think going to a waterpark at this time was reasonable in the first place, but now, due to the endless array of alarming signs, you know that you are not welcome in the slightest.

however, as soon as you make up your mind in the midst of this chaos, the continuous sounds of cars completely disappear; the little amount of streetlight that was helping illuminate your journey was gone, and the noise of the forest surrounding you was nonexistent. you freeze in fear, knowing that what you got yourself into was not safe and likely otherworldly.

while you are consumed in anxiety, you can not help the feeling of curiosity. you suddenly feel the urge to explore the place while you're alone and free; so you begin to do just that. you wander around, so familiar yet so unknown. after a bit you decide to search for the exit, knowing you need to find a way to leave, but everywhere you turn leads to another road guiding you through the never-ending maze that is this "waterpark." hours pass as you lead yourself deeper, but the sky seems as though no time had passed at all. you recognize that you are exactly where you had began. the fear sets in as you realize you may never get out.

in the midst of it all, though, you still feel a sense of safety. a sense of nostalgic and almost comforting familiarity that is slowly but surely pulling you in. you feel like you were put in this exact situation for a reason; that it was supposed to make you feel like this. so, you act upon it. even whilst feeling an impending sense of dread, you are able to find joy in the too-small water slides and rickety old equipment. the euphoric feeling of it all was just too intense to ignore.

you rejoice in the freedom of this situation until you, once again, realize the direness of it: you are trapped in this endless maze of a place that is so performatively nostalgic and comforting and you cannot find an exit.

you get out of the unnaturally large house you were lingering in and realize that it's once joyful and childish details were slowly morphing into something undescribable; something so disturbing that you couldn't help but run in the opposite direction.

you sprint until you end up in front of the underground and overly-tiled kids pools. you bend down to catch your breath as you had just completed the most nerve-wracking sprint of your life. you don't know how far you had gone, but far enough that those "houses" were far from view. you feel relieved until you realize that this amount of distance was not possible in the "normal park"; it was simply not that big. wherever you were was not the same as before, and, therefore, it must've been changing and growing almost infinitely.

with nowhere else to go, you view the bright-white fluorescent lights of this undergroung kiddie-pool as a savior in the endless darkness of this incessant night. so, you enter. you don't care about leaving anymore, you just want to go somewhere light, familiar, and refreshing. however, as soon as you step in, you are finally able to understand the true size of this place. there are spiraling halls on either side of you, and you do not know which way to turn. the blinding bright white disorients you as you enter in deeper until you realize that something is off; you're feeling the unnatural presence of someone or something else.

you freeze, unknowing of what to do. after spending so many hours alone in this place, you know that the presence of other life is extremely unusual and alarming. you slowly and unsurely turn your head towards the entrance, terrified of what may be lurking, when you recognize the face of your beloved friend.

"what are you doing here???" you softly mutter; you're so petrified you can barely speak. you ambly wait for a response when you realize that something is wrong, very wrong. while her head looks normal, the rest of her body is unnaturally tall and thin. that is not your friend. that is something using your friends identity to lure you in.

you turn in the only direction possible: deeper into the pool. your measly attempts at running through the 3 foot water are uselss, so you resort to the next best thing: swimming. while it was difficult due to the shallowness of the water, you were still able to get somewhat far. you don't know how long you had swam for, but enough that you had no idea where you or that creature was. you're sure you heard something chasing you, but at that point, you didn't even know. you slowly exit the pool only to realize that the room you were in now was much bigger than the starting hallway. in fact, you had no idea how this size of room was even feasible under these limited conditions. however, nothing made sense in this place anyway, so you don't pay much mind to it.

you don't hear anything behind you, so you keep wandering. the crystal clear, turquoise water glistened in the artificial sunlight that those weird and random "windows" provided. the endless array of bright white tiles surrounding you distort your vision as you explore; the rooms only getting wierder and weirder as you continue. suddenly, you are presented with a dark spiral staircase. with nowhere else to turn, you hesitantly walk up it.

it seemed endless. you had been hiking up those stairs for at least ten minutes, and you still couldn't see the top. the darkness engulfs you as you resume your climb. all until you feel something. you can not see anything due to the immense lack of light, but you feel something cold and lanky grab you by your shoulder. you aren't able to see it until it's inches away from your face; it is your friend. or whatever creature that was robbing your friends identity. it is all you can see until the stairs are no longer under your feet. whatever it was had suddenly pushed you off.

you free fall for what feels like hours. feelings of confusion and fear pulse through your body like your blood. you don't know how that thing got up there, but you know now that you are dead.

your thoughts consume you until you hit the ground; you wake up in a daze. you don't know what just happened or what world you had just traveled to, but you know that it felt so real. you were able to feel every hit and movement, see everything, know everything about your surroundings, and feel every emotion that came with it all. it all felt too realistic to be just a dream, but that was what it had to be. you spent the day pondering what that dream was, and if this place even existed. it felt so real, you were fully convinced it did. you don't know where you had transported that night, but you know it was more than just a dream.

[torchickentacos]

Hey, so this is a little out of my wheelhouse and not an area of expertise, so feel free to correct me on things in reblogs of this post. That said, everyone should start paying closer attention to weather and learning how to read radars, how to read SPC (Storm Prediction Center) outlooks and checking them daily, and how to look outside and make educated guesses on local weather with all the information available to you.

It's important to learn more about local (especially severe) weather patterns now more than ever. Last night (5/16/2025), extreme weather tore through a lot of places in the US, and according to a NY Times article linked here, a Kentucky weather station had no overnight forecaster due to government cuts. This was during a tornado outbreak with multiple fatalities in a state/region that does not get violent tornadoes often; therefore, during a situation in which quick, accurate, widespread information was incredibly important to provide and receive, and that didn't happen for a lot of people. It's good to find other sources of information right now, since govt cuts have a death toll.

As far as other sources go (feel free to add onto this), local weather channels may be hit-or-miss depending on your area, I can't personally vouch for every weather station in America, but it's worth knowing which channel it's on and trying to find time in your day to tune in every day, and tuning in during outbreaks. Getting a weather radio is also a great option, though not one that's immune from govt cuts (the broadcast is provided through the NOAA, I believe). Now, I'm not the type to shill for youtubers, but Ryan Hall and Max Velocity on Youtube both go on ad-free livestreams during severe weather events and they provide country-wide coverage, hopping from warning to warning across states as they pop up and develop. They both have stormchasers on the ground to watch and track these storms. They often provide warnings for people before the NWS (National Weather Service) officially issues them, and anecdotally, I've noticed more and more NWS-unwarned tornadoes. Given staffing and budget cuts as seen in Kentucky, it's not fully unexpected. I'd find other avenues of weather coverage that aren't government-official warnings right now. I wouldn't ditch government warnings entirely (Please don't, actually! They're still life-saving! Sign up for phone alerts and keep them on!), but I would use them alongside other avenues of information.

TL:DR, if you're the kind of person who gets their weather information from phone alerts only, I'd diversify that and add other ways to get information ahead of time (as well as during).

It's worth noting that a lot of the things I've mentioned (if not all of them), including SPC outlooks and the information that local meteorologists rely on, operate because of or in part due to government funding and employees. Which, as noted, may not be as quick or reliable as it has been in the past. This is why it's important to use a wide variety of sources in conjunction with each other. If one avenue of information is falling short, hopefully another can help make up for that. And if you are in an area prone to severe weather (even if not, it's good to know regardless), be sure to have an action plan in place for weather emergencies. Know how and where to shelter in the event of different types of severe weather. Learn which part of your house is the safest from tornadoes and wind damage (lowest level, no windows, put the most walls between you and outside, wear shoes). Just try to be more aware of local weather, because you may end up not getting an official broadcasted warning when you need one, and it'll be up to you to decide how to proceed in order to stay safe. Check outlooks, know when you're in the risk zones. Stay safe.

[jewish-jonathansims]

I strongly believe that the fan culture surrounding artists nowadays is wild, I have seen so many people acting like not liking every single song by an artist is a crime or something when it's completely normal. I am not going to make myself listen to songs I don't like because I want to support the artist.

That dose not mean that I am going to say that I miss the old them, because that's rude and as an artist (not a musician but still) I 100% understand that your art grows with you but that doesn't mean I need to love this new direction.

An album can be not my taste and that doesn't make it bad but it also doesn't take away from my enjoyment or love for their old stuff.

Something I can hate the direction an artist is taking, and sometimes I just think their new stuff are just weaker and that's okay.

I don't like anything zac brown band made after 2016, but I still really love their old albums and they are very nostalgic for me (I do not agree with a lot of the opinions stated by some people in the bend)

I still believe that 16/04/16 is cavetown best album and I think his last few albums are just okay

I don't like Melanie Martinez re-brend

I still like a lot of their old stuff and me not liking their newer stuff doesn't take away from that

[uncanny-tranny]

Social transition being seen (by some) as this super easy thing that isn't as hard as real transitioning (medical) is bullshit. Be critical of the idea that there are some trans people who just "have it easy" because they are trans or because they are trans in ways you may not be.

Social transition is just as difficult, hard, and rewarding as medical transition. Maybe it is not as hard for some, sure, but that is not the same as thinking that social transition is inherently easier or lesser. If you're socially transitioning, your voice still matters.

[pyrosomatic-metamorphosis]

tbh i think that even unwinnable fights should be winnable. some of the BEST fights i've ever run as a dm were ones i built kill the players (in a fun way. I had some cutscenes prepped so even the loss would be a different flavour of win)- but then they were clever bastards and managed to either win the fights or pull themselves out of trouble. I think it's perfectly fine to plan for a fight that players aren't supposed to win, but you need to let them. if they can't win, they can't lose, and the meaning of that encounter is diminished. do that too many times, and they stop trusting you to give them roleplay prompts and start expecting to sit there waiting while you drive the story for them.

but if they can win... if there is always the chance to win, no matter how impossible the odds, then they ALWAYS have hope. they always get invested. they feel the big emotions of success or the big emotions of failure, and you fucking Win as a dm/roleplay prompter/lead bastard.

[wardensantoineandevka]

I see there's posts floating around directly and blatantly arguing against mine (same wording) by completely misunderstanding what I said. I'm fucking BACK, babey. Should've bought some hay-scented fragrance while I was at Sephora today, because I am once again your strawman!

[pubbee]

I really don't think "y'all couldn't even handle Vivienne and Sera" is really a good excuse to have exclusively agreeable characters