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meownotgood · 2 days ago

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can we cry now?🥹 viktor reels are always so beautiful and sad.

lord take away all of his pain oh my gossshhhhh guy who I need to HUG.........

#the line breaks me every time #he's so beautiful....#the fact that we had to see him die on screen like three separate times #stop.........#in my head. he is living a happy healthy life #I'm always crying over him love!!!!!#ask mags

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giantkillerjack · 2 years ago

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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iknowicanbutwhy · 21 days ago

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"and the universe said the darkness you fight is within you and the universe said the light you seek is within you and the universe said you are not alone and the universe said you are not separate from every other thing and the universe said you are the universe tasting itself, talking to itself, reading its own code and the universe said I love you because you are love." - End poem, Julian Gough

ho lds. g ently ,,,

#isat #in stars and time #siffrin isat #i might be taking a break from tumblr but that does not save you from me throwing my art at you. also minecraft credits go hard #i shouldve clarified me taking a break is me not checking the phone every 10 to 30 minutes every moment of busy boredom like the freak i am #this goes in line with the way i hc the universe works in isat btw. that it doesnt know any better than you. it just knows you #you make your world #and uhhhhhhhhhhhhh well let me take a look at siffrin's subconscious *flips pages* mhm yep okay. we love paradoxical wants and desires #art #fanart #kitscribbles #isat spoilers #i guess?#oh yeah this counts as my. my isatversery art. i forgor to put that

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beautyofattolia · 21 days ago

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Not enough people talk about this moment in Catching Fire.

Peeta immediately recognizes the sound of Gale getting whipped and considering how we know his mother is abusive, this can only mean that Peeta and his brothers must have been whipped often enough for him to recognize it even from a distance.

God, there are so many details hidden in the background like this. It amazes me and says so much about how good of a writer Suzanne Collins is, but this detail in particular breaks my heart.

Peeta goes through so much in his life and yet he still chooses to be kind.

#the hunger games #thg #catching fire #suzanne collins #katniss everdeen #peeta mellark #everlark #peeta x katniss #gale hawthorne #the hunger games reread #this line gutted me the first time I read the books #and it continues to gut me every time I reread them #it also breaks my heart that Katniss doesn't realize it or question it #like I know she has other things on her mind #but does anyone ever talk to Peeta about what he's lived through?#absolutely heartbreaking #my poor sweet boy #my post

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dailyloopdeloop · 6 months ago

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DAY 101 (103): do it for Them

#codacheetah #isat #loop isat #isat spoilers #artfight #oh my gyooood i hate drawing lightning. swagever #sorry loop for using your possessed face but i think of this stupid meme every time i see it #i'm actually soooo pissed off about the themes this year. because seafoam is true to my aesthetic to my Thing to my Me #but........for loop..............................#i'm on team stardust idk i might switch teams at some point. whatevar #anyways i might go light on posting this month for artfight. i didnt really plan for day 100 to line up with the start of artfight #but it works out i guess !#my plan for a while was to stop altogether at day 100 but i've had too much fun to stop now. but i really do need a break #i havent drawn characters who are not loop or sometimes siffrin in so long. lol #anyways this day marking system is stupid but i couldn't think of anything better sooooooo. swagever once more

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icarianstars · 1 year ago

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Before Regulus entered the cave, he stood outside it on the rocky cliff and watched as the sun dipped below the horizon, painting the sky in orange and gold. He whispered a final goodbye to James, and for the first time in over a year, he let himself cry.

#I’m just going to apologise now #to save time #I was listening to Fourth of July the other day and the line ‘it was night when you died my firefly’ really stuck in my head for some reaso #and then this happened #so yeah #also if you’ve never listened to Fourth of July by Sufjan Stevens go listen to it #but fair warning:#1. it’s about death and it’s super depressing #and #2. it made me cry #and there’s not a lot of songs that I can genuinely say that about #it’s just so black siblings coded #and it breaks my heart every time I listen to it #regulus black #marauders #marauders era #jegulus #the black siblings #my art

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everywaythatmatters · 5 months ago

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So breathe, breathe, just… breathe

A part two to this drawing, since it turns out I am still experiencing many emotions about RotE and The Amazing Devil

#rote #fool’s fate #the amazing devil #my art #this is more of a fitz song to me overall tbh but this specific line makes me think of Beloved in FF every single time #the song is called the old witch sleep and the good man grace #go listen to it if you wanna hear joey batey go absolutely feral for eight minutes straight #incredible #anyway someone please tell beloved that he’s not a coward for breaking under torture and is actually one of the bravest characters I know

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applecranberryjuice · 5 months ago

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Something something it's a metaphor. Hair as a form of communication but also as passage of time and also as a way for letting people in and also as a detail etc etc you get it

Actual explanation in the tags btw

I'm really nervous about this comic actually, is not the best. It doesn't make sense, and the art is mid, but I put love in it and I think that's enough

#sbg #sbg (webtoon)#aiden clark #aiden sbg #ashlyn sbg #ben clark #ben sbg #logan sbg #taylor sbg #tyler sbg #school bus graveyard #hey full pages #hey its a comic oh my god its a comic #hi hi hi #really nervous about this thing actually becuase its not very good but i have mkre content lined up #so i dont mind one shitty thing breaking contaiment #metaphors about hair and about allowing people in via innocuous mundane things #watch canon explain the hair color thing and watch me cry about it #the concept is actually not communicated alright #so ill put it here #Roots as in finding his place with these people #because even if theyre running for their lives all the time #they are friends yk? and he loves them #across the comic you can see so clearly that Aiden loves every single one of them and that to someone who travels a lot and probably #struggles emotionally the act of “putting down roots” must be hard #so his hair here is a representation of his roots growing deep into the people he loves and the things they do together #and the last dialogue is meant as a way to let THEM see that he trusts them #but idk i wrote it but i dont know what im talking about #make your own interpretation i think thats more fun #berry art

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dykedvonte · 28 days ago

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I think the most baffling thing about the Tulpar as a vessel to me is the fact that the ship really did only have a one way communication system.

I know it was cheap but even the most basic of vessels regarding major transport would have some way, shape or form for outside communication. Not only that but there was absolutely no form of innate emergency signal to show they may have been offline or in trouble despite clearly having a system to dock credits if they went off course. It's another factor that really shows that bad situations are made to get worse by design. One person who is required to relay all information to the crew and make all the choices without feedback. No way to update or call for help in case of a dire situation. No way to inform of inner personal conflicts and acquire procedures accordingly.

It really is like they are all in some sort of fucked up solitary confinement. They have their own world with strict roles that are meaningless in the end, as long as the cargo makes it, it doesn't matter what happens on that ship to the company. They don't want to hear anything and will come to conclusions on what happened based on how much pay they can withhold from the workers. Even what they do send is short, sterile and corporate to the extent it was likely written and sent out with a command by some random unmanned computer in an office.

There's something to be said about how unfair it is to force absolute power and control onto one person when you as an entity could do so much more to offload it but I've said it many times before so I won't again.

#its just like idk i dont think Curly was a bad captain because we only have this scenerio and I certainly dont think a man like Swansea #would like him or have very little issues with him specifically if he was incompentent or too lienent in the past but I do think the stress #was making him worse and worse as being a present leader as it dawned on him how much he actually had to handle like I really think he #just wanted to do yknow normal captain pilot stuff and fly the ship and yknow the little stuff like make sure things run right and over tim #the constant stress and strain of having to make every major choice started to grate on him and freak him out cause they cant even fucking #eat unless he pulls out the scanner and starts cooking like he has to choose the meal likely or have a vote and i make that part of the #reason he seems so indecisive and inactive is the fact he has to make the choice all the time and he's hoping he can at least make the crew #feel a little more in control of themselves as people by staying out of affairs like the game or disputes because god he literally has to #choose for them all the time like thats a lot of responsibility monitering their sleep their breaks food consumption thats all on him like #it really should be another persons job entirely as thats almost like absoulte contrl over the lives of everyone else that PE forces onto #that title and its also crazy how everyone accepts it even if they dont like it like they broke the food machine open rather than get the #scanner they all waited two months before Jimmy appointed himself leader its so scary how conditioned they all are to the environemnt #cause that sort of mindset is sadly real where people just wait everyone just waited until it was getting real dire and then they still #followed Jimmy without too many complaints like i saw a fic or post where Anya acknowledges they all kinda just let Jimmy do what they want #because he became the captain and it was stupid on all their parts cause they could clearly see how bad he was and yet he was captain so #they just fell in line to their roles and thats a bigger point towards how PE treated them and the complacency capitalism brings to you #just like something that irks me because idk I know Curly is slow to act but he's not as like unopinionated as people make him out to be #like he does try to find solutions but they are still restricted at the end of the day by what PE provides them and I think his biggest c #crime is being in his own head too much and not giving Anya that emotional stability cause like idk man was he supposed to go to Home Depot #himself and install like padlocks? even if the let Anya sleep in medical after she pointed it out she was already pregnant at that point #like we arent seeing the inherent issue that no one not even Anya herself was thinking of the preventative measures because a)there was a #point nothing was happening that necessitated them b) it would've been the responsibility of PE to address them pre and post incident and c #there is only one person on the entire ship given the authority to do anything. You can not make multiple important choices in one instance #in such little time and Curly should not have had that total power like i think the most interesting thing in takes that really blame Curly #is that level of control they give him over the company. Like again i think about the three days we miss between the eval/party and the #convo/crash like i think people switch them around as if those scenes happen in succession when they are broken up and its heavily implied #Curly and Jimmy just havent been talking vs the depiction that she told him and for like three days Curly was just chummy despite the fact #Jimmy and him just had a blow out fight like the next time we assume they talk is during the crash sequence cause he honestly hangs #around Anya more which i think is really important because she trust Curly to defend her himself but not his judgement to give her somethin #to defend herself as she knows he believes her but also knows she's not seeing the danger the same and its heartbreaking and more

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riickgrimes · 2 years ago

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humanmorph · 2 years ago

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"This is a message to you, who listens. You must trust me, because we are friends. You just don't know it yet. "

(The Road to PARTIZAN 05 : Ech0 & dusk to midnight)

currently halfway through PARTIZAN (making my way towards palisade extremely slowly. see u guys there in a month or two) & this is to date my favourite intro Austin has done. what an great introduction to an extremely cool character

#Partizan #road to partizan #friends at the table #fatt #gur sevraq #ive been wanting to draw something for that intro ever since i first heard it but i didnt. even know who gur sevraq was at that point.#but its been On My Mind #rosa art #im fairly happy with this i had a lot of fun coming up w the composition. it felt like a puzzle bc i knew what i wanted...#the lineless artstyle is something ive been trying out more and it doesnt come easy but it is fun. (so many layers.....)#you can zoom in for details because. ofthe person i am i always have to add little lines everywhere #well i usually write kind of a lot in the tags but ive been drawing for 5 hours nonstop. my brains kind of wiped.#i havent taken my walk yet so. i will now do that #...usually id listen to more partizan but millenium break is. literally not relaxing and i need to chill a bit #might put on the new bluff.#oh one more thing every time i relisten to that intro i do a little ME? gesture i hear that first line. its fun to me #edit: ok i moved the text slightly it was bothering me !#probably noone else will notice.

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shitpostingkats · 1 year ago

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Something that really bothers me is people being mostly sub watchers and then seeing a dub episode and complaining that the characters are "totally butchered". That's because there's a whole show of building that character in a slightly different flavor, y'all.

Actually, correction, something that really bothers me is people complaining about the yugioh dubs.

#dub watchers I am protecting all of you underneath my wide wingspan #sub watchers I am kissing you gently on the forehead #people who hate on subs or dubs I am breaking into your house and taking a bite out of every food you own #the amount of times I've seen people complaining about lines in the dub that I thought REALLY HIT #bums me out #I usually never comment on this because I consider it too negative #but y'all. y'all.#be nice #yugioh #yu gi oh #yugioh dm #yugioh gx #yugioh 5ds #yugioh zexal #yugioh arc v #yugioh vrains

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emily-mooon · 23 days ago

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Here’s a little wip I’ve been working on in between my homework!

Yes I am making a genderbent Jonathan design. I have a vision for her I must get out into the world or else I will (figuratively) explode

#I’m calling her joan btw cause 1. I like that proposed name for her 2. JOAN OF ARC and 3. that one smiths lyric #(aka ‘now I know how joan of arc felt�� from bigmouth strikes again)#this is going to be a big project for me to finish over the break #I’m drawing Joan in every look from all of the seasons (I’ll do s5 after it comes out cause there aren’t too many refs for the looks we’ve #seen so far)#it’ll be like a line up of looks #cause rn I don’t have time to do scene redraws #btw #short hair Joan supremacy in this household!#if willow gets the bob than so does Joan #it’s integral to her character imo #I’m also going to do genderbent Nancy and the rest of the teens at some point #some won’t be for awhile #I do know that Nancy will be next (so I can draw sapphic and achillean jancy >:])#genderbent st with lesbyler has me INTRIGUED over how it would work #I’m confused but curious as to how it would all play out #it’s why when I’m done genderbending all of the teens I’m going to write out how the plot changes for joan and the gang and how it would #turn out #in the mean time once I’m done exams and schoolwork I’m going to start figuring it out #stranger things #jonathan byers #lesbyler #guess I’ll tag lesbyler since she is apart of that verse #fanart wip friday i guess?#sorry for the amount of tags I have a lot to say :]

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timlucys · 2 years ago

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PENELOPE GARCIA & LUKE ALVEZ Criminal Minds | 16x10: Dead End

#criminal minds #criminalmindsedit #cmedit #garvez #garvezedit #penelope garcia #luke alvez #usercher #usercourt #usergrace #tuserjen #tuserkei #luke x penelope #*gifs #luke loves her so much man it's actually insane #this season did them so dirty (and their characters. both in two very different ways) but oh man adam sucks me back in for them every time #this man at the end of the day would do anything for her. break his own heart lay his life on the line kind of love #because the heart wants what it wants or else it doesn't care #and he knows when he says that that he's talking about her and he KNOWS she isn't talking about him and just. ugh.#the potential of these two makes me feel bonkers because it's ALL RIGHT THERE. the writers clearly KNOW and can SEE it.#and truthfully i've never doubted the eventuality of them at all this season but there's definitely been moments i've doubted if i wanted it #and then of course they let these two have this scene and this moment and just. ugh. okay you fools i'm back my clown makeup is back on!!!!

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prostocupoftea · 9 months ago

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Guys i think he noticed you...

rig in process, his head is perfectly working and i am so so sooooo happy!!!

Two options bc first one is fully drawn eye and second one is just iris, first fives bore expresiveness in long-run, so i'll probably stick with it (imma fix the shape i swear)

#kinitopet #kinitopet fanart #i literally post every day what #dophamin from likes go brrrr n makes me make him #btw which iris u like better im still choosing #also i need to name him so they all'l be tagged the same #for now it'll be....#kinito 3d model #dunno. might change it. do not care enough rn #ALSO LOOK HOW COOL HIS DOTTED LINE CAME OUT #im so proud. it took so much duck tape and gum to make it not break every time #prosto cup of art

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tittyinfinity · 2 months ago

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I overshare online because I need constant validation that every thought and action of mine is Good and Okay and Normal. Surely this is a healthy coping mechanism

#something I'm trying to work through #comes from a hard mixture of autism (not knowing if what im doing is Normal behavior)#OCD (guilt loops that last for days weeks months on end)#ADHD (rejection sensitive dysphoria)#being raised christian (always being reminded that bad thoughts and actions will send you to hell)#and trauma from being heavily monitored as a teenager (very used to having every thought & action over-analyzed)#i have a constant craving for validation because of all of those things #which leads me to being a very self-absorbed person #i feel like if people aren't consistently telling me that im a good person then i must be horrible #im putting my emotional work onto others when i do that #making it THEIR responsibility to make me love myself #it's not healthy for you or anyone around you #you can't truly improve yourself if you're always relying on other people to verify whether or not you're okay #especially since everyone has different opinions & biases #if you never learn how to validate yourself you become completely reliant on others #and if you lose that outside validation everything will fall apart #even though i know these things i still haven't broken out of the habit #but that's another thing you have to give yourself grace for #you can't expect yourself to instantly adhere to new expectations #so you're gonna be hypocritical at times #you can't hate youself for that either it takes time to break habits #you need to find the line between self criticism and self hatred #love yourself Or Else. literally.#.bdo

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