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[datamodel-of-disaster]

Just a reminder.

People you meet online trying to make friends with you IS NOT "PARASOCIAL BEHAVIOUR".

I get that people have hangups and anxieties and may in fact be playing pretend with their online identity and/or have no interest in fostering connections with strangers. That's valid.

But you are most likely NOT a celebrity, public figure, or 10k+ followers account engaged in specifically turning yourself and your online persona into content. YOU ARE JUST A REGULAR PERSON.

And another regular person reaching out to you in an online space is NOT engaging in some kind of pathological behaviour by daring to hope you might want to become friends. THAT IS NOT WHAT PARASOCIAL MEANS.

You can just decline if you're not interested. It's literally that easy.

Like, fuck man. When did we collectively become so desocialized?

[arrayoflightarchives]

Hate having to block some of anti-endo tags sucks but on certain ones (especially used by those who are more harsh in their beliefs) just end up being straight up harmful and ableist

We don't get into sys course much so please don't bring that here, we don't want to be involved, it just sucks seeing these people that are against misinformation (aka misinfo spread by endos) and yet are spreading so much misinformation by saying shit like

"endos are delusional" "they need to be checked into a mental hospital"

Like yes we know that endos spread harmful misinformation, but being so harsh about it only causes more problems because they will get defensive and more set in their belief that they are right because you are telling them that they are wrong

Just stop being so harsh on them and stop being fucking ableist about it, you're allowed to be upset and angry at endos but don't be ableist and harmful about it...

[my-deer-history]

although I believe the Young Man [John] will acquit himSelf well any where, yet I am persuaded he has made an indiscreet choice for his outset in Life_ [...] as a Soldier One Man can act only as one (very few Cases excepted) & in point of real usefulness will often be excelled by Men of moderate abilities & better nerves_

Henry Laurens to John Lewis Gervais, 5 August 1777

In this line that Henry writes shortly after John leaves to join Washington's staff, he is alluding to a comparison between a model soldier (moderate talent, high nerve) and John (high talent, moderate nerve). Knowing Henry, he almost definitely uses the same argument with John in an effort to persuade him not to join the army.

And yet... from the outset of his military career, John is infamous for his daring, courageous, and often reckless battlefield exploits.

So what would explain the discrepancy between Henry's perception and John's subsequent actions?

One possibility is that Henry just has an outdated view of his son's character. It's hard to judge exactly what John's 'nerve' was like was before this, partly because the record is sparse. Certainly, his indiscreet relationship with Martha Manning and sudden departure for America speak to rashness. Prior to that, though, he's generally noted as being a diligent if sociable student, attentive to his siblings, and obedient to his father. He's passionate about the American cause, but that doesn't translate into action until the very end of his time in London. However, Henry spends several months with John between his arrival in Charleston in April 1777 and his departure for headquarters in August - surely enough time to get an updated sense of his son's 'nerve'.

Another, perhaps more likely, explanation is that Henry is largely correct in his assessment - John is restless and eager to serve, but he has no real experience of the dangers of combat, and is still growing into his assertiveness and courage.

What would John, who has staked everything on his single-minded determination to fight for his noble principles, have felt when he heard that his father considered him to have only has middling nerve? How might this have influenced his actions?

I could well imagine that Henry's dismissal had the very opposite outcome to what was intended - that John decided he had to prove his nerve, to show that he did deserve his military position and his long-sought-after chance to fight for his ideals. In other words - there's a case to be made that some of his recklessness can be directly attibuted to a purposeful rejection of this paternal characterisation.

[justheretolurk24]

There's something really poetic in the way that the Fold was both created and destroyed with/through grief. The Darkling with Luda and Alina with Mal

[brionysea]

i should stop making byler posts lol it's making people think i care about byler

[fadewalking]

Hogwarts Legacy.

Buy it or no? why or why not?

[ibenology]

the average twitter vs tumblr community experience

[missabnormal]

imagine being a Korean person awake at like one in the morning trying to accept that the president of South Korea actually just tried to go full dictatorship by way of an emergency martial law because he was basically having a political temper tantrum and every agency and corporation in the country is all hands on deck, code red mode on everything and the military is being deployed and then the assembly revokes the martial law and then the president is like lol nevermind and now you have to get ready to work at your shitty job on a Wednesday

[foolfortune]

[never-quite-buried]

Nope now it’s at the point that i’m shocked that people off tt don’t know what’s going down. I have no reach but i’ll sum it up anyway.

SCOTUS is hearing on the constitutionality of the ban as tiktok and creators are arguing that it is a violation of our first amendment rights to free speech, freedom of the press and freedom to assemble.

SCOTUS: tiktok bad, big security concern because china bad!

Tiktok lawyers: if china is such a concern why are you singling us out? Why not SHEIN or temu which collect far more information and are less transparent with their users?

SCOTUS (out loud): well you see we don’t like how users are communicating with each other, it’s making them more anti-american and china could disseminate pro china propaganda (get it? They literally said they do not like how we Speak or how we Assemble. Independent journalists reach their audience on tt meaning they have Press they want to suppress)

Tiktok users: this is fucking bullshit i don’t want to lose this community what should we do? We don’t want to go to meta or x because they both lobbied congress to ban tiktok (free market capitalism amirite? Paying off your local congressmen to suppress the competition is totally what the free market is about) but nothing else is like TikTok

A few users: what about xiaohongshu? It’s the Chinese version of tiktok (not quite, douyin is the chinese tiktok but it’s primarily for younger users so xiaohongshu was chosen)

16 hours later:

Tiktok as a community has chosen to collectively migrate TO a chinese owned app that is purely in Chinese out of utter spite and contempt for meta/x and the gov that is backing them.

My fyp is a mix of “i would rather mail memes to my friends than ever return to instagram reels” and “i will xerox my data to xi jinping myself i do not care i share my ss# with 5 other people anyway” and “im just getting ready for my day with my chinese made coffee maker and my Chinese made blowdryer and my chinese made clothing and listening to a podcast on my chinese made phone and get in my car running on chinese manufactured microchips but logging into a chinese social media? Too much for our gov!” etc.

So the government was scared that tiktok was creating a sense of class consciousness and tried to kill it but by doing so they sent us all to xiaohongshu. And now? Oh it’s adorable seeing this gov-manufactured divide be crossed in such a way.

This is adorable and so not what they were expecting. Im sure they were expecting a reluctant return to reels and shorts to fill the void but tiktokers said fuck that, we will forge connections across the world. Who you tell me is my enemy i will make my friend. That’s pretty damn cool.

[koobiie]

shoutout to everyone who wants to infodump but cant string together coherent thoughts to form sentences and instead just look at you like this

[miiilowo]

phenomenon

[some-pers0n]

I hate how people will look at popular indie artists who had one or two songs go viral on TikTok and start making fun of anybody who listens to them. "Oh you listen to Lemon Demon, Will Wood, Jack Stauber, Glass Animals, and Mother Mother? Tsk, don't you know that is stupid TikTok neurodivergent white transmasc preteen music? It's so mid and bad you should listen to real music–" you are a pit of misery

[savrenim]

......suddenly struck by the idea for a piece of worldbuilding of "fae don't like iron bc it is the most stable element*"

*as in elements higher you can extract energy via fission and lower you can extract energy via fusion but iron itself there is no excess binding energy to extract at all

[riacte]

not romantic not platonic but a secret third thing [what would happen between earth and the moon if the earth stopped spinning as illustrated by xkcd randall munroe]